Family Hires Nanny Full-Time And Explains To Her That She Can’t Eat Anything From Their Home
It goes without saying that taking care of a kid is a very tough job. And it’s equally hard to find a nanny who’d help parents out because, face it, sooner or later you will have to leave your kid in someone else’s hands because you’ve got stuff to do.
But parents come in all shapes and sizes, and nannies get to experience this diversity as well, with this one particular babysitter going to TikTok and explaining that she got hired by a family that specifically asked her not to eat their food, despite having to work there a full work day.
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Meet Brenna, a professional nanny who’s recently been going viral for a video of hers regarding her work conditions
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Meet Brenna (@braonain1 on TikTok) who is a professional nanny as well as a lifestyle, fashion and fitness influencer. She has been recently in the news because of a video of hers that showed a peculiar situation.
In the video, she was unpacking her lunch and snacks for the day she was babysitting. The caption read: “POV: when the family you nanny for doesn’t let you eat their food so you bring the most random [things]”.
Specifically, she showed herself unpacking her food for the day because the family she works for doesn’t let her eat their food
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Among the things that she unpacked were a doughnut, some fruit, a water bottle, chips, pretzels, and a can of chicken noodles. But hey, the coffee and water was available to her, so she was able to make an iced coffee, and she was trying to make the best of it.
But what stuck with people was the fact that the family that hired the nanny to work full-time included in the contract that she was not to touch and eat any of their food, meaning that she was supposed to provide it for herself throughout the day.
Despite her having to work a full day, she was asked to bring her own meals, which consisted of mostly snacks in this particular scenario
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There was the silver lining of being able to get some coffee and water
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Despite trying to grin and bear it, she ended up leaving after 2 days, but not without going viral first
@braonain1 Yeah don’t ask about my food choices.. first time having a family tell me I can’t eat there food but it’s all good 🤣 #nanny #funny #nannyfamily ♬ Material Girl (Bass Boosted) – Saucy Santana
In particular, the people on TikTok were, for the most part, all for nannies having “pantry privileges”. And this was coming from regular people as well as other nannies and people who hired them, so the overall nanny hiring culture is certainly contrary to what this family decided on.
While Brenna did mention that she was trying to make the best of it, in a video update (which is no longer available, assuming for privacy issues) she said she had quit two days later and was already at a new job. She also encouraged those who employ nannies to allow them to eat their food and to treat them well.
She gave several updates, namely where she quit and explaining more about the situation
But, overall, people were supportive of Brenna
And while you could play the devil’s advocate and argue that nannies are there to do a job, i.e. take care of a kid, and not eat, and that it’s a benefit that is solely the decision of the parents, you can’t really blame nannies for not wanting to live with it because everyone’s free to look for jobs with conditions they want and need.
Whatever the case, her video blew up on TikTok, receiving not only loads of support from like-minded nannies, parents and followers, but also garnering 1.7 million views on the video with a bit over 170,000 likes.
We also got in touch with Brenna and are awaiting a response for her, so stay tuned! In the meantime, why not check out the video in context here, and also tell us your thoughts on this in the comment section below!
People who’ve never nannied commenting that employers don’t provide food. 🙄 Most employers don’t. But it is the norm that people provide food for the nanny to eat, as they are likely eating multiple meals a day with the children. Aside from that, it’s not like she gets a break when she can send the children away and eat. So now she has to possibly deal with the children wanting to eat the food she has brought for herself, rather than the food the parents want the children to eat. Putting the nanny in a bad position and possibly causing unnecessary friction between the nanny and children.
Absolutely this ! People don’t realise the fact we don’t even have the time to prepare our own food and sometimes it’s tricky to eat our portion as we get distracted by children, crying babies etc. Moreover it’s better when nanny eats the same food as children, because it’s not good if she had some more attractive food and they had for example some healthy food that parents wanted them to eat. Also, good families treat nannies as part of the family and have no issues to share their food.
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Having worked as an Au Pair both in Europe and the USA, it's in all contracts that your employer provides you with food if you are feeding their children. To have someone specifically say you cannot eat their food shows all sorts of red flags.
I mean, just from a logic standpoint, if I had a nanny who was feeding my kids during the day, I would encourage the nanny to eat the same foods with the kids to set a good example and normalize healthy eating. I wouldn't want the nanny trying to get the kids to eat a healthy lunch and she's sitting there eating the packaged snack foods that she had to bring for herself. That just doesn't make any sense to me.
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For those that say employees normally bring their own lunch: these employers are refusing to feed ONE employee. They're not going to go broke providing lunch. Plus, that means the nanny eats very different food from the kids: "No, you can't have my donut. Now finish your liver and spinach sandwich."
And the nanny can't run out and take an hour lunch and leave kids - other occupations are very different.
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I think many are thinking when this nanny says she works a full day, she works 8 hours, but a majority of nannies work between 10-14 hours in the day and is hard to make store runs if they run out of snacks. She can obviously make her own meals yes but often its hard to reject sharing with a child when they see you eating and want some themselves. It cuts her supply..just speaking from experienc e
Exactly most probably don't realize the nanny usually even makes dinner and the parents usually eat the dinner that their nanny cooked when they get home.
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I was a nanny. That's how I paid my way through nursing school. HOWEVER it was nothing like her experience. I was able to eat or drink what was available. Nothing was off limits. I was expected to treat it as my home. I worked 12 hour days but was treated like family. When theybplanned a trip I was paid hourly 24 hours for the duration once for 2 weeks since I had the kids over night. They gave me a bonus before the trips so I was able to get clothes or supplies I would need. They paid for my food when I was out with them. I was never to pay for anything. While i know I was incredibly blessed with the family i worked for being expected to bring food from home is a bit much. Your literally in a house with a pantry and refrigerator and most nannys work very very long hours. When someone is helping raise your children treat them like family not employees please. We become very attached to these kids. We love them. Don't treat us like outsiders.
For those who are saying that most jobs don't provide food for their workers, you are correct. However, in any job, at least here in the US, when you are cooking for others, it is extremely common that you get to eat that food as well. As some others have said, it's not like she is getting a full meal break. She can't just park the kids somewhere while she takes any sort of break, much less a meal break. I've been a nanny. I've worked in restaurants. Both types of places provided food. Other jobs did not, but I was able to walk away from the work for a set period of time to actually eat and have a small rest, then get back to work.
ChipBoundary is obviously confused because here IN THE UNITED STATES'OF AMERICA ITS THE LAW ANYONE WORKING IN AN EMPLOYMENT SETTING GET A BREAK. A nanny/in home babysitter is the only job here in the US that's not so regulated. It's OSHA LAWS AND LABOR BOARD LAWS YOU MUST GET A HALF HOUR EVERY 8HOURS AND 15 MINUTES EVERY 2 HOURS PAST THAT. ITS A FEDERAL LAW BY THE WAY. YOUR OBVIOUSLY EXTREMELY CONFUSED. THE US DOES HAVE LAWS ABOUT THIS. CALL THE LABOR BOARD IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IT.
Load More Replies... I've worked as a nanny for several years. I always do a contract at the beginning and discuss requirements in detail. I'm quick to leave if a job doesn't turn out to be ideal for me (generally because the family hid things from me or tried to change things we had discussed). So I've worked with a lot of families. In my experience, the families who wanted me to bring my own food and never touch theirs were unaccomodating, rigid, and had expectations they weren't willing to pay for. Families who asked me to bring my own food but were open to me grabbing something from the pantry occasionally were generally pleasant to work for, and families who asked me to write a grocery list were a genuine delight to work for. It's a small thing that can give you an idea of what they'll be like to work for, it shows their generosity and flexibility. I now screen out families whose pantries are off limits and won't work for them.
I was never a nanny but would run into alot of them in the daily trip to the playground with my kids. I'll never forget the 4 nanny's all who eventually quit for one particular couple. She was so horrible that they couldn't take it. My 4 year old and the little boy loved playing together but nanny #1 was so embarrassed to finally tell me that her boss didn't want her child playing with mine because "we were of a different class"! And the ridiculous part is that we are business owners who are doing quite well but i guess not elite enough for the snob. Anyway that nanny quit and begged me to allow her to work for me and I told her I did everything on my own si I didn't need a nanny. Her boss had one child and needed a nanny! Alas at the playground I ran into 3 others who also quit within months. I feel sorry for some of these poor nannies.
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Nannies probably eat at least 2 if not 3 meals with the children. They don't get an official lunch break where they can go to the canteen or shops to get lunch.
There's likely no canteen to patronize in most homes.
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That is absolutely ridiculous. I was a nanny for an amazing family with two beautiful little girls for two years and I was more than welcome to eat their food, watch their TV, etc. Sometimes my shifts were 7:30-5 with very active growing girls. I couldn't imagine not being able to eat with the little ladies while we sat together. Also, the kids were smart and would have asked why I wasn't eating with them. Also, usually nannies have extra tasks like driving kids to extracurricular activities (and they don't pay for gas or wear and tear on your car), doing the kids laundry, and since mine were young I educated them. With no breaks and constant awareness, lunch is a fair bet. Run away from that family
I worked at a Pre Trial Detention Facility as a nurse. Like custody, we could not leave for our meal break and could be interrupted for any emergency so the cooks that prepared inmates food set buffets out for all staff as well. If an employee cannot take an uninterrupted break away from work then they get paid and are provided food as well. It isn't complicated to understand that a nanny requires the same consideration.
I’m a custom home builder and I basically build big houses for wealthy people. I don’t usually argue with my clients but I had one that wanted to make her live in nanny’s basement bedroom a tiny and windowless room with a very small closet. I pointed out that the nanny would be raising their children and deserves a room as nice as theirs. I guilted them into increasing the size, adding a window, a small but private bathroom and a walk in closet. I never met the nanny but I wish I could have.
Bless you. Also, at least where I live, a room is not a legal bedroom unless it has an egress-sized window in it. The owners could get in big trouble if there was a fire or someone was trapped in a windowless "bedroom". Bedrooms need an egress window for safety.
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“Why should an employer give food to an employee? “ BECAUSE IF THEY CAN, THEY SHOULD!!!!!!! No question. We should be doing ANYTHING we CAN to simply be kind to others around us. That includes sharing food. WTF????
Also cause they're taking care of kids all day. Which normally includes preparing meals. Have these parents ever been around a child who is being expected to eat one thing while someone brings in something new that they don't usually get or have never tried? Beyond being extremely cruel on the face of not feeding someone who's trapped in your house for 8-12 hours, but it also causes very unnecessary conflict with the child. It's a completely incompetent demand
Load More Replies... This isn't a typical job where you get a designated lunch break. Those job's don't feed employees, sure, but this isn't like that. She's preparing meals and feeding the kids. Also any food service job you get fed so that argument is invalid haha. This isn't normal. Run!
First, lots of people showing off their ignorance today. Second, glad OP found a better gig. Third, take care of your own damn kids if your too stingy to provide a meal to someone who's taking care of them all day!
That is so weird - if I had a nanny I would expect them to help themselves and let me know about any likes/dislikes allergies to make sure I had stuff in for them to have!
Absolutely. The last family I interviewed for had never had a nanny before, so they asked me if it was standard to bring my own food or eat theirs. I said typically I eat whatever I am feeding the kids. They them immediately followed up and asked if I had any dietary restrictions, allergies, etc. This is how it's done.
Load More Replies... It's funny how ignorant, bougie, and out of touch some of the comments are. "any other job didn't give you free food" except for the vast majority of jobs where you're expected to cook. Even most fast food jobs, including the couple of small local places I've worked at, let you have either a free meal on your lunch break/per day, or to at least just keep what can't be sold or is leftover at the end of the shift. Except for one local chain burger place that only gave me 10% discount for meals. I quit that junk job within 3 weeks though. Are y'all telling me, that you don't expect your child to eat (or at least no proper meals, only prepackaged snacks) when at home for 8-12 hours, every single day! Y'all are terrible potential parents and "employers". Get some love experience before you get in a position of authority over ANYONE. Or you'll end up wondering why everyone hates you and leaves you as soon as they realize how you are and safely can escape. Including your own children.
I will say, I've baby sat occasionally since I was 11. And near daily by the time I was 14 which lasted into my early 20s. Both within the family and for others who actually paid me for it. I now do my best to avoid children. Huge sensory nightmare and childhood trauma trigger. But in that decade of experience of caring for young children, as a child... I have never once babysat for more than 4 consecutive hours where I wasn't expected to make at least simple meals for myself and the children. Even when babysitting over night for strangers while the parents go to a hotel room, they pretty explicitly said i could eat the ice cream or anything else cause it's just a perk that comes from taking care of a child overnight . It IS the norm for this type of job, even if you aren't feeding the kids. Even my mom gets free snacks to take home and give her own kids (mostly fruit), as a teacher because the school provides them for the kids and extras need eaten fast. Quit acting so ignorant
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As a parent who's hired nannies, there's two points of why not letting your nanny eat available food is an issue. Point 1. Nannies are private hires, even if I pay with a standard paycheck, instead of under the table, I have 1 employee... therefore I am not required to do anything beyond standard paycheck taxes. No perks, no healthcare, nothing. Things like allowing your Nanny to have access to the pantry is a common perk to the job. It's like working at a restaurant and the restaurant providing a free meal for your shift, or at least a discounted meal. It's one of the understood perks of the job, you don't have to worry about what you're going to bring to eat all day long. Point 2 kids are sensitive to what the adults are eating around them. If the Nanny makes them a "mom approved lunch" and then sits down to eat with them and has things like snack foods...i.e. a donut. The kids would likely revolt. It's better to allow the Nanny to have access to foods the children eat normally.
A few other perks is allowing a certain amount of personal downtime. Kids are napping, enjoy utilizing my WiFi, there's the TV here's how to use it, like to play video games?...we have Playstation, Xbox, Wii, enjoy. Being a Nanny is being a second mom. If you have the privilege to hire one, you treat them like gold, because without them you're screwed... Or a stay at home mom.
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I have to laugh at this because I know exactly what this girl is going through I worked as a nanny for 17 years and a few of the families I worked for were very similar. One thing that made it kind of tough was when the kids I took care of saw what I was eating and wanted what I had. I would prepare full healthy meals and healthy snacks with a little extra to share with the kids but the parents would become upset because of me doing so. I even had a family that wouldn't let me use their dishes. I had to either bring my own or I would have to buy disposable plates, bowls, cups and utensils. What made that situation worse was I was still required to do their dishes. Needless to say I didn't stay with that family longer than a couple weeks.
As the mother of two generations of kids:. I deeply screen my nannies, and once found and hired, i bend over backwards to make sure they are happy hoping that their happiness will reflect in their work with my kids. Which means anything in my house is theirs and i ask them what they want to put on my grocery list.
I was raised by nannies and we did the same. They could eat what we had. my mom never asked them what they wanted at the store but they did get pantry privileges. I was a challenging kid too 😂😂😂😂our poor nannies 😂😂😂😂
Load More Replies... So many comments that don't appreciate that nannies working 12+ hour days are just raising the children of rich people who can't be bothered to so so themselves. They advocate treating nannies as like office workers who can only ever get snacks as a "nice perk". And not as people they rely upon and rarely pay enough. And certainly not as people who have a very important job that is made unnecessary stressful by improper nutrition and the inevitable begging, fit throwing, etc that comes out when a child sees someone eating something they can't have. I hope y'all never have responsibility over...anyone or anything.
My take on this is that they had a previous nanny who abused the free food privilege and didn't want to have the same experience with the next one. Had to switch babysitters once because she would literally eat all of our snacks and have several canned drinks over 3 hours. Every time. I'm not justifying this, as i think food is an expectation of that job, but there's something behind this.
Maybe yeah …. Sucks that some nannies do this. And ruin it for the rest of us. F y’all hahahaha to the nannies reading this
Load More Replies... What short-sighted foolishness from the family. A nanny doesn't get coffee breaks, lunch breaks or dinner breaks. They're attending children 24/7 when on duty. If you don't feed them you run the risk of them falling out with hunger. She feeds the children but, sometimes even cooking their meals. The least you can do is feed the nanny.
One family who didn’t let me eat the food did allow me to leave during lunch when baby napped and go out to grab food. With current family I order doordash. Cause I can’t leave
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I couldn't imagine doing this. I might restrict some things but I at least have something for them to eat refrigerated and pantry. Heck I might even cook them a meal or two. At the very least I hope they gave her some fridge space for her refrigerated food
I wonder of people realize that nannies RARELY(if ever) receive an opportunity to receive Healthcare, so these 'extra perks' in the job actually balance out. Especially if the nanny is the on footing the bill for a Dr./dentist/optometrist bill that is usually covered by health insurance. There's that & basic human decency. You're asking THIS person to RAISE your child. GTFO.
Every employer is different. When you become aware of the rules next step is take it or leave it. There is not right or wrong it's just the rules. People are different from one to another don't expect repetitive pattern from employers.
Employers don't provide food? Ok I guess they provide lunch breaks then right? When is her support going to show up so she can go get lunch. Or is she supposed to leave the kid alone?
This is my biggest question to the universe since many families do not provide food. we don’t get to leave…. So …. Kinda chained really.
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People saying employers don't provide food....I'm not a nanny but my employer often buys me lunch and/or dinner when I'm putting in lots of hours. Pretty typical in a lot of professional services jobs
News flash, not all jobs are structured the same way. Also I've never been at a job that didn't feed me in some way. Free fruit, heavily discounted catered lunches, leftovers from meetings, pizza Fridays if you worked evenings. You feed your nanny.
SB While I have never been a nanny, I babysat for neighborhood families while in highschool. There were always snacks and refreshments. And anytime I was to make lunch or dinner, I was welcome to have the food. It seems, also, that by not allowing a nanny to eat would present awkward situations for the kids. If the parents don't want the kids to eat certain foods and they see the nanny eating sweets or chips, they will always want that too. To me, it seems rude and selfish to the nanny to not offer something to eat. And, yes there are jobs where food is provided even if it isn't everyday. Who hasn't had a "working" lunch or dinner? Food is expensive, yet if the parents can afford a nanny, they can certainly provide a meal or two for the person watching their children.
Ah I have experienced this when I cared for 3 kiddos. Kids wanted my snacky snacks hehe. I had to put them back into my backypack 🤓🤓 or hide them behind my back or hide in a room to eat them
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I worked at a home for the mentally disabled and even we where allowed and encouraged to eat with our clients ,also when I worked for Target they'd celebrate diff stuff and feed us quite often
This seems like such an easy thing to answer right........ IF you make enough money. Hiring a sitter or nanny experienced or not isn't cheap if you don't make a decent amount of money. When I was with my wife shortly after she gave birth to our son we looked into these things and it cost more than what either of us alone made an hour per hour especially since we had multiple children between us. (We made our bed laid in it and survived btw so not complaining here) Sure if I had a better paying job I would gladly pay for the food. People seem to forget not everyone can. This was twenty years ago. I could only image the cost these days. She had every right to quit the job if those conditions were not acceptable to her. But to call the people out In which we don't know their situation etc is sad. All we do anymore is complain when we don't get what we want. Does anyone actually think about the other person anymore? What am I saying of course not. I see it every day and it saddens me.
If you can't afford to pay for your Nanny (and food is part of the compensation) then you better call a relative and expect to pay more.
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I nannied for years. I have one lady fire me because her I let her three year old play in the leaves outside with the neighbor kids. She was terrified he'd get sick. And didn't want him around other cildren. This was a decade before COVID, and he had zero allergies or health issues. Perfectly healthy little kid. She didn't even fire me in person, sent a text and told me to get my last check from the mailbox. Same mom wanted me to feed her kid on a weight loss diet even though the kid was clearly not overweight, not to lose weight, but because of cholesterol. She wanted me to quiz him daily using a world map of all the countries, convinced her kid was gifted (he was on target, but not advanced), and insisted he'd always be homeschooled because germs... I was seriously worried about the kid after I left. Years later the dad added me on Facebook to let me know they'd divorced and he got the kid, and that they were okay.
I almost quit that day. Not a safe work environment ..
Load More Replies... I was a nanny and wasn't allowed to eat their food, couldn't watch the TV, had to clean their whole house, cook dinner for them, pre make all the bottles, wash, dry, fold, and put up their clothes and iron all the clothes that needed ironing, had to grocery shop for them, had to take the kids to the Dr for all appts, had to wear scrubs, drive them to and from school (in the nanny car and this was a 40 min drive each way), they would have dinner parties over the weekends and leave all the dishes in the sink for me to do on Monday morning, I was not allowed to ever bathe the kids (this was told to me before I ever started), the kids were only allowed to watch TV for 2 hours a day. I got to work at 7am and got off at 6pm. I wasn't supposed to listen to the radio in the car on the school trips, but I did anyway. I had to change their sheets...like I had to do everything that a mom, maid, housewife would normally do. I only got pd $225.00 per week and it was taxed. I did this for 2 years.
Why?! Why would you ever agree to that? You should have been making more than that per DAY!
Load More Replies... The comments on here are borderline absurd. Of course they're wrong for forbidding her to eat any of their food. That's weird and wrong and just unkind. I worked as a nanny for years and never ever had a family say that to me. My home is your home... and can we provide any foods you like. I would almost always pack my lunch but not always. And then the kids would want my lunch anyway. I wouldn't have taken that job because that's a huge red flag. I was an excellent nanny that made a considerable income and still keep in touch with my kids and families. And I never ate anyone out of house or home.
It's a possibility they've dealt with a former nanny who actually stole food to take to their own home. Groceries are expensive and it's hard to keep your own home stocked. If you're dealing with a packrat who's stealing, that's even worse. I understand some employers are generous and would probably even offer to help out, but, "Fool me once,..."
Except that justification ends when the bad actor is canned. These are people you're trusting with your kids, not some entry-level part-timer you can holler down the street to replace. Upvoting because you have a point, even though I don't personally agree with it.
Load More Replies... Employment is nothing more than a mutual agreement between two parties for compensation of services rendered. Neither parties are bound by that agreement and are free to terminate the employment at anytime.
This is simultaneously an accurate description and a scathing indictment of at-will employment.
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I baby-sat for my uncle one summer and he always gave me an option of what to feed the kids and myself. I think if there were specific snacks off limit it would be understandable. Good for her for leaving.
For those who say that she's there to do a job that doesn't include eating, keep in mind that this job also doesn't include breaks
On one hand I get her stance I guess but on the other hand can you imagine if your employers said you can eat the food they have in their house and that you feed to the kids and it turned out to be junk food,and ready meals... please guys try to understand people have different standards. I would rather bring my own food(I have 2 children) so that I am sure I will have my day how I want it. Unless the food at the house is more than the standard...like in germany it seems like everything is some kind of potato meat and sauce,or nudels with sauce etc. Not that many veggies and everything is full of starch,nut really nutritious,and I have autoimmune disease I cant gamble with ly health...
A good family will ask us what we would like to have in the house.
Load More Replies... I don't know what is common in europe and never met a nanny (are there nannys in europe? Am I grown up to poor to realise that this Job exists in europe? Sorry if i Sound dumb. I have only Heard from it in american movies and the Internet ) So besides my Lack of knolledge i would never assume that I will get food for free... I am a handiworker and always bring my own food. Especially when we work in other peoples homes. Are there Jobs, where it is common to get free food with your salary (i don't want to be rude, just curious!)
I'm not understanding the fuss, either. It could be how I was raised. I've grown up in a low and medium income home. I've taken on babysitting jobs in my teens. Sometimes I was given extra money to order pizza. Sometimes I was told to help myself to whatever was in the fridge. Other times, it was nothing and I'd have to use my own cash for food. I was taught to never assume people will give me anything more than what has been agreed upon. I was also told that employed workers are not the same as invited guests. They're there to do a job. Not mingle. But it's always made me uncomfortable to not at least offer a worker a coffee or make food and eat without offering them something. I don't know what is normal for nanny jobs, but from what I'm reading, the normal thing to do is offer the same food as the kids would eat.
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I used to work in film shoots. Now and then, I heard a young production person whinge about how in no other jobs, people expect to be fed and fed well. I said, that I happily pay for my own lunch, but the production will just have to do without me (the cameraperson) while I go out for lunch in whatever remote location we work. It's 10-12 hour days on a filmshoot, a warm meal a day is a must. This usually ended the discussion. If you want people to work incredibly long days for you or at impossible hours, you have to provide some way for them to feed themselves. And if you can't build a cafeteria, you better provide some catering.
I work in memory care facilities with chefs and they provide at least one meal a day as long as there are leftovers from meal times. I normally do day shift 6am to 2pm so they try and feed us breakfast and lunch.. mainly because it's physically demanding and it reduces food waste. I have a friend who also nannies full-time and if you can't leave to get something, you should have at least some leftovers from what you are preparing if there are some.
I have been babysitting for about 50 years, and did in-home child care for two families. Never in that entire time have I ever been prohibited from eating the food there. This is exploitation, pure and simple. OP was absolutely correct in leaving that job. I hope that she puts the word out what those employers are like; it may save some other unsuspecting nanny a lot of grief. Today, it's the food. Tomorrow, it could be the bathroom.
As a nanny of 35 years my families have all provided my meals. My duties have always included grocery shopping so I did all the meal planning, meal prep all the cooking and was able to make whatever I wanted for me and the kids breakfast lunch and dinner… and the parents ate dinner when they came home. I love to cook so they were always happy. It was a win win.
It's strange that people would expect her to cook for the kids and just sit and watch them eat breakfast lunch and dinner..... That's wrong all the way around. She should get to eat with them it's hard work chasing children all day and making sure they don't unalive each other it's not like working in an office or any other type of job. Plus the kids are more likely to eat if she's sitting down eating the same thing with them. These parents deserve to be without a nanny. They sound like absolute trash.
I'm absolutely puzzled that anyone would think it's ok to not feed your nanny + compare it another job. Providing care for children is all- encompassing. Not trying to put down other jobs, but it is rly not the same as other jobs. It's far more demanding. I'm glad most ppl seem to realize that.
As a professional nanny of 35 years meals has always been part of the benefits . You can’t compare us to an office job it’s like comparing apples to oranges no pun intended. We work long 12 hour days many a time and don’t really get a break like you get in an office job, so one of the perks is to sit and have lunch and breakfast with your kiddos. That is after you clean up their spilled milk bring them there second helping wipe their face and pick the food up off the floor so the dog doesn’t eat it. You may get to eat some after getting up 10 times
Nannies don’t get to leave at all so if we bring our food we have to plan for 8+ hours that we will be there. It’s kind of rough in the long term.
We had a family friend who was from England. She was a nanny for a family in Italy, the people had kids as status symbols. Every morning at the breakfast table they would kiss the top of theirs dogs head and Pat the top of the kids head. I don't know how Nanny's do their job with some of the people they work for. If I had kids I would love to have a banny, I'd be baking every night so her and the kids would have stuff to eat. I love in cook and bake for people anyway.
Omg I have no idea why I'm working full time 12 hour shifts at night as a cna in a facility where I have to bring my own lunch and snacks when I could work better hours making more money per hour and also get free meals as a professional nanny!
Well, find a rich family who treats you decent then :) though your current job may have better benefits and such.
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Question? WHAT qualifies a person to be a Professional Nanny? Are they educated formally in child care, bondable, carry insurance, FULLY background checked, have psych clearances, etc, OR are they just glorified baby sitters coining more professional term for earning more money? Are they licensed from an agency or just Freelancers self-upgrading their title to something unique and noteworthy for IMAGE and Pay grade? NATURALLY, A PARENT incl. any PET parent would have video surveillance of their home and charges being cared for. Only sheer stupidity would bet EVERYTHING on appearances and conversations intended to secure a position of trust and absolute acceptance in a family's home. Granted these employers seem a little tight, but on the other hand perhaps this nanny is looking for handouts that aren't included. In the morning of each workday nothing should disable this Prof. Nanny from packing a sandwich or two, some fruit, water, and anything else she might want to eat during wor
Personally, I have a minor in child psychology/adolescent development, am fully CPR and first aid certified at all levels (infant to adult) with AED training, I update my vulnerable sectors police screening every 2 years, more often if requested, with decades of experience teaching, working in daycares, and as a nanny. I don't know anyone who calls themselves a nanny who doesn't have at least that level of education and experience. We are ALWAYS fed because we eat multiple meals every day with the children.
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I'm not a nanny but I do baby sit 12 plus hr a day 3days a week so I understand the family I care for doesn't have a lot of money and even they let me eat there and for the people who don't babysit or nanny don't coment bc you have no idea what your talking about bc when you nanny you don't get brakes like a regular job unless the child is asleep and if you have other food you won't have time to cook it and the child will want some and you have to set a good example so you will mostly give them some it's just a hassle
some employers do feed their employees. working as a captioning agent, they provided food—soup, noodles, water, tea, chips, coffee, etc. free & on holidays, any leftovers chips, sandwiches. bagged food, bread, pies, cakes, cookies, etc. they let us take home. while I agree that food is expensive, if you're in a financial position as to where you can afford a nanny, you can feed her. you need help with, can't, or don't want to watch your own kids, but the woman who's willing to can't eat? like someone else mentioned, too, working as a nanny, it's not even like she's getting a break; she still has to be with & watch the kids while she eats. it makes me sad there are people who expect another woman to feed their kids, but she can't eat herself.
Completely asinine & insane request. I wonder did she also have to bring her own toilet paper, IF she's allowed to use "their" bathroom. Or did they make you go find another bathroom at McD's? Stupidest request ever!!! I'm surprised she even agreed to it in the first place!!!! NO JOB IN THE WORLD IS THAT VALUABLE!!! Glad to see she woke up & left. 👍
If you can afford a full time nanny, you can afford a few free meals... On the other hand, I would think this is a perk of the profession and if meals/room are not included, then wages increase 🤷🏻♂️
I just think it's the whole "hey come spend all day at my house" and them not offering food. If you don't want to feed your childcare take your kids to a daycare. At home childcare is usually done bey someone you trust otherwise you wouldn't invite them into your home and leave them with your children. Otherwise you need to make the food for your own kids if you are having the 'nanny' bring theirs you are pretty much wanting someone to cook clean and watch your kids which is 3 diffrent jobs that way. At this point it's just you not having enough money for all day childcare and the associated costs just like with running a business in you can't afford it AND the costs that come along with it don't start it in the first place.
"Most employers don't offer food" well most employers give lunch breaks. Granted you do have time to eat but you'd have to prepare your own meal and that isn't a expectation in normal jobs. I mean you could do that rule and that is fine, no shame on you, but you should not judge a nanny for choosing to quit or pass your job because of that rule. Although granted the tik toker is judging first but nobody seems mad about that part of it.
I’m on my first live in nannying job for six months now, and although my boss has never specifically said I can’t eat their food, I know she doesn’t want me to. She tells me what to make for dinner for her two kids and the portions are two child-sized meals. She tells me to put leftovers in the fridge. I can have tap water which I don’t like but I don’t get coffee. To be fair, I live in her basement for free and I only begin work at 1pm. But after walking the dog, doing light housekeeping, looking after her kids and cooking dinner for them, I don’t have the energy to cook for myself after work. So I eat rather badly, a lot of toast and cereal. I’m not young anymore.
Ppl who hire a babysitter for just an hour say help yourself to what's in the fridge. This is stingy. If it had been a while and you were overindulging on the groceries k but not this
My date night jobs they always say that yep. at one PT nanny position if I took care of the baby so parents could have a date night they’d buy pizzas or hot pockets for me so I ate those after baby went to bed or when I knew baby was having a blast in the exersaucer 😆
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Most of the jobs I have had provided some form of free food, 2 of the 3 jobs I have had that didn't provide free food did provide food available to purchase.
I've never been a nanny, or had a nanny so I don't know the details. I've hired a babysitter for a few hours. And i give them money to buy food for the kids, and of course it's enough for them as well. I would think a full time nanny would be responsible for feeding the children. Wouldn't they also eat that food? What should they do? Do they get a lunch break? Sounds like a s**t job.
The employers are control freaks. They want the convenience of a childcare professional, but want to make sure she remembers her place as the help. Shared meals are a way human beings develop and sustain intimacy. Apparently this threatens these soulless bourgeoisie wretches. Is their name Thenardier?
People out here in this comment section would literally die if they got treated like healthcare workers with their food expectations on a 14+ hour shift (not including drive time) 😂 a "lunch break" is a suggestion to look good on paper but people don't "take a break" from coding. Putting this family on blast cause you don't get snackies when watching the kids. SMH.
Anyone who resents that nannies typically get to make themselves a sandwich along with the kids has some weird anger issues they need to work out. If the lifestyle sounds so deluxe to you, go be a nanny then and enjoy the free bologna and carrot sticks. But stop trying to keep other workers down just bc you've licked boots and loved the taste.
I was a nanny for 10 plus yeara and ate their food. I could also respect if a family said no. Pack a lunch and take it with you. No different then any job. But also my office job provides a amazing coffee bar and snacks and once a week they bring in food for the whole office. You want the kids to feel comfortable sitting down for lunch and eating together is normal kinda weird if they were eating something seperate my luck the kid would only want my food ha.
My employer provides Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner in the form of a stipend when I have to work away from home. This nanny might have to work during all three meals. Sure, I don't get that when I work locally, but then it's only Lunch and I can take a half hour break for lunch which a nanny cannot.
My friend hires a home health worker (not a nurse) just to watch her Alzheimer's mother (friend stays home 24/7 also) in 12 hour shifts. She used to feed the workers but they took advantage and would bring containers to bring home food and pack their bags with food from fridge. It was costing her another $400 per month! Friend said I'm not a restaurant, no way. Workers would get upset. They're paid $25/hr to literally sit there and watch a woman sleep - allowed to play on phone or watch TV as long as Mama doesn't wander off. Yet they got upset when she stopped feeding them home cooked meals. Now my friend is an AWESOME cook so I'd be willing to work for less money if I could get her food. I'd also gain 50 pounds in 6 months so it's for the better. But there are multiple sides to a story and maybe the parents were sick of being taken advantage of - that food money adds up! People commenting there are break laws - yeah they're allowed to take a break and friend will watch Mama during those times so worker can eat or run errands.
I was raised practically by nannies growing up. We always told them to help themselves. Couldn’t imagine not doing that. And our pet sitters. same thing. I tell them to eat what you see before it goes bad! Hahahaha.
It seems rude to say don't touch or eat our food and even worse to put it in a contract. I would bring my own food anyway but I would like to enjoy a snack or drink if I wanted to.
If the truth me know they probably don't care much for their children, anyone who puts the trust of caring for children on a nanny you want to be close and trust this person completely. The comment hidden cameras are probably set up just might be the deal, if not then these parents shouldn't have had kids if they care that little about them.
How much was she paid? Sometimes pantry privileges are given to those in lieu of better pay. If she's making a lot of money, damn right bring her own food. When I go to work, I can't walk in the owners kitchen and help myself.
On one hand I agree, but it would also be weird if you had to prepare several meals/snacks for kids and also figure out your own without the ability to take a break or get anything since you're watching children the whole time.
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I understand both perspectives. Perhaps the family couldn't afford to feed an adult. If the nanny disagreed on the matter she should have been mature enough to talk to the parents about it. If I hired a nanny I would expect her to be able to feed herself. Food cost alot to a single mother with multiple children. I'm paying you to look after my kids and keep them safe. I'm not paying you to raid my fridge. Just by seeing what nanny packed for her lunch tells me that she isn't very mature.
😂 just lazy. It's called Preparing. If you're going to be a nanny, you need to learn how to prepare for the day. So on your day off you prepare your lunch and your dinner for days And if you can't prepare it for days, it only take 10 to 15 minutes before you lay your head down at night to think of what you can do for lunch and for dinner for yourself. If you want snacks then prepare that stuff ahead of time. It's just common sense. It's just basically people being lazy and want somebody to always hand them stuff. You're not living with the people. And comments about about children wanting you're food, again, if you are a nanny you should know how to deal with that and teach that child that was yours is yours and what's theirs is theirs. You teach how to share and you also teach how to respect others .They can't get their way. You are giving and teaching structural behavior for the lack of better words. Providing your own meals for your work day is not brand new people.
Once operated a child care center for a friend after working 4 or 5 years. We were encouraged to eat with the children esp the vegetables that many of our parents didn't provide for their children at home. Also teach table manners & much more. Friends & family share food as part of bonding.
I haven't worked as a nanny, but have as an HHA. I took care of a couple for almost five years. Twelve hour days that required me to be in their home for all three meals a day. I was not allowed to eat their food or have any of their drinks, water included. I was allowed to bring food with me or get delivery but was not allowed to cook there for myself. That is beyond using the microwave. When the pandemic hit, it got worse. At times I was told to bring my own toilet paper to use because they didn't want me using theirs. Some people get a power rush out of treating you as the "help". I guess they are mentally living in the 19th century. Needless to say, I no longer do such work. I wanted to help people have a better quality of life, instead I got treated as a servant with no respect. It's sad how people treat each other anymore.
Ummm. How many kids are at home all day. I'd say that YES if Nanny is looking after 4 preschoolers every day, then she will be doing a lot of time with the kids. But then preschoolers DO go down for an afternoon rest, when I expect Nanny can rest too -- Just as the mother would if she were home. Does she walk the other children to school and collect them?? Then WHY bring unhealthy food with her???? Is she NOT permitted in the kitchen? Does she supervise he kids meals? Or are they premade?? All sorts of questions. But the biggest question is ”Is this a total fiction?” Or “Why would a responsible mother employ such an untidy looking nanny who doesn’t even seem able to care for her own hair!!”
My mom was also nannying for a family. She is a person everyone in the extended family& friends can trust with their kids, she does that for relatives all the time and is an amazing caretaker. She quit her job because apparently her employer was talking behind her back, telling everyone that she ate their food. But they had told her that she could eat anything. What she ate was a couple of potatoes, and she only did that once as she's normally very shy about stuff like that. Some parents are unbelievable.
While I don't judge the nanny for what she did, is it really necessary for people to put everything they do on TikTok?
I would bring so much good snack food & just eat in front of the kids & not share. When the kids complain to parents about the nanny not sharing I can just see these people getting mad for not giving treats to their kids
They don’t get lunch breaks to go get food. Plus if you are feeding kids you are probably eating at the same time. It’s not a normal job. I worked at a facility where we watched teens girls 24/7 & we didn’t get lunch breaks due to being in a position of direct care but the always fed us. It was the same things the kids were eating & not great but we really didn’t have time to eat if we weren’t eating with them
Anyone telling her to buy her own food is just being a jerk. They know damn well she can't take breaks during the day to go get food for herself or make food for herself. She eats WITH THE CHILDREN. Any idiot can figure that out. It's like saying restaurant employees shouldn't be fed. SMH.
Seriously? You're on a JOB. Since when does an employer provide you with food? Much less multiple meals and snacks?!
Serious questions here: Since it has been argued back & forth nanny culture vs. other jobs (e.g. restaurant jobs, retail, 9-5's vs. 12+ hours vs. live-in jobs...) and the nuances. Is it safe to say that within the world of nanny work NOT all nannies are tasked to the same level of job difficulties? For example, a nanny hired to take care of a baby , who's under 11 months AND their toddler sibling who is 1-3 years of age, or 4-5 year old sibling, will, of course, have different challenges, than a nanny who is watching preteens like age 8-10 years of age and their 13-14 year old adolescent sibling. And also taking into account children with specific disabilities, at any age. So wouldn't the nanny have a right to set their prices based on these factors, to the person who said nannies are underpaid? And I wouldn't assume all nannies are underpaid. The same way like all other professions I wouldn't assume all are good at what they do...
Like teachers are considered ridiculously underpaid. But not all teachers are good or great teachers. Just like not all doctors/nurses, custodial workers, retail workers, temps, etc. are good at what they do. So someone who's lousy at their job it might be considered OVERpaid...
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Guys the said this wasn't even an issue to her and she was just showing off the snacks she had. Nice way to amplify a story that didn't exist.
Wife is a seasoned nanny and she has pantry privileges. She however packs lunch for herself and myself... I'm supposed to feel sorry for this influencer because she doesn't know how to pack a lunch? Why is she taking snacks like a grade schooler?? I agree because of the demanding job she should have the option to help herself to the families food, but come on, pack a proper lunch. Let's not forget she agreed to the contract. If she had an issue, discuss it with your employer. It's called negotiating.
As a nanny myself, if a family doesn't offer at least something food-wise that I can eat, I won't work for them. But I usually ask for things like fresh fruit and veggies that I know I can use to make my diet healthier as a role model for the children. In turn, I often bring from home other healthy options that I don't mind sharing with the child/children. I definitely would not go posting about a position that I agreed to take and then quit within 2 days though. It is very important to discuss expectations before you agree to a job.
Got fired from work today. I assumed since I work full time, that I had access to the fridge and pantry. Guess others didn't agree. I'm going to need a raise, to cover my lunch at the next job.
I've been a nanny before and while I was never told or had to sign a contract saying I would not eat their food, I would not do it and didn't do it often... Like EVERY Jon I've ever had before and AFTER being a nanny, I packed my own lunch... This is what responsible adults do....
I think this article has been blown out of proportion. One of the actual red flags here is the "professional" nanny is also an "influencer". "Influencer" is Not a profession in any sense. When you lead off with that description of yourself, things become sus just a little bit. Lifestyle and fitness "influencer" taking nothing but pure JUNK food to eat? Red flag #2. Come on, folks. Regardless of what her claims are, it's time to stop giving full confidence and belief to people who make zero income as an "influencer" when they've already been exposed as people who try to get free product from small businesses under the guise of "exposing them to their followers" regardless if they have a few hundred or a few hundred thousand. It doesn't make sense she's an actual professional nanny if she's spending a lot of time as an "influencer". Real influencers are such as pro sports players, first responders such as police and fire, school teachers and college professors, and doctors and nurses.
People who are truly lifestyle coaches or fitness instructors are the real well-paid professionals who aren't doing nanny work as a full-time side gig. They would be the first to truly speak out against what this girl is doing for her personal food choices, irrelevant of the situation, which is the primary reason she bítched on TikTok, and the primary reason for this particular article. This nanny is 21 years old and clearly not done purging her immaturity.
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I nanny for older kids If I bring something for me I always share with the kids because I am trying to model the kind of behavior I want them to use. Let me tell you 3 kids between 11-16 can down a loaf off good bread like a swarm of locusts. Occasionally I will make myself something with their food and I know it is fine because I check. The Saturdays when I work since I go in about lunch time I tend to pick up my lunch and grab enough for the kids. I have been working on expanding their foods they are willing to eat. If I ask mom or dad's permission to spend money then I ask for reimbursement. If I don't ask and I spend money I feel it is my choice. The last Nanny job I had she padlocked the food away from the 4 boys from 7-14. I didn't eat anything at their house but I worked hard using what they had to make meals the boys enjoyed. I don't think I would be interested in working for a family that had no flexibility. I work hard to feed them great tasting food. I want it too
There are companies that provide breakfast and afternoon snacks for their employees. Maybe not American ones but in other countriws they do. My first job was at McDs in the 80s. We were allowed certain meals according to our shift length for free. Our store was bought by a foreign corporate office and they wanted us to pay 50% for our meals. I quit. Why because every 15 minutes we were throwing trash can after trash can of uneaten food away. You can afford to throw dozens of burgers away every minute but you cant provide a single meal to your employees? I have au paired and I never wasnt fed on the job. Stingy people.
Well the kids could have allergies that the parents didn't mention so what if the nanny accidentally brought something the kids were allergies to but when nanny ain't watching manage to swipe one of their snacks and eat it not realizing there's something there are allergic to is in it this is an example as to why the nanny should be allowed to eat same foods as the kids or if the parents see it and gotten wrong idea some ppl xan be entitled and stupid most don't think on the consequences plus not all foods lists everything in it for instance those hidden Valley protein bars has ground up almonds in it baked in with oats yet no warning on label
I brought my own food when I was taking care of children. I preferred it that way. But my employers gave me money for gas and car maintenance, and eventually a new car of my own. And if I told them I wanted to take the children to the park and to McDonald's,they gave me a fistful of cash,no questions.
What’s the big deal? Most work places require you to bring your own food! An office, construction, bank etc. Get over yourself.
And for those saying when is she going to get a break to eat? Oh gee, I don’t know. How does a stay at home Mom do it? Do the children take naps? Don’t they ever play quietly alone or together in their room. Do they need constant nanny supervision? Ridiculous discussion!
Load More Replies... When I did baby sitting in high school, I was surprised by mothers who told me I could do NOTHING in their kitchen. But they explained to me that they were Jews who kept kosher and they needed me not to violate their system. I wonder if there are special dietary rules here that were not explained. Also food allergies could be an issue.
You worked for a Jewish family but still don't know the preferred term is JEWISH.
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I'd let my nanny eat my food, especially if she's there all day and cooking for the kids (with an off limits label for specific food items I had special plans for-- like "don't eat this lasagna, I'm bringing it to a pot luck.".) That said, I think it's totally reasonable to not include food in the compensation package. Most jobs pay you in money and leave the responsibility of providing your meals up to you. It also creates liability for parents who provide food to a nanny that makes her sick. If the nanny culture typically includes access to the pantry, I'm not going to hold hard and fast to my opinion. But I think it's unusual in most industries to expect your employer to include their own food in your compensation and benefits.
Most "employers" don't expect you to raise their kids almost as if you were part of the family. And most "employers" don't expect to keep you locked up in their house for ~12 hours a day everyday with no ability to clock out for an uninterrupted lunch break where they are off duty, while also expecting you to cook for their kid and clean said house etc. Stop trying to make standardized (toxic) hierarchical employer/employee relationships make sense where they just do not.
Load More Replies... While I can see someone thinking this is not nice or is completely acceptable, that doesn't really matter. What I've noticed is that in most situations nannies are not treated as real employees, neither by the people hiring them nor by the nanny themself. You need to have a working contract in place and have everything defined by that contract and both parties need to sign it. None of this "pay you under the table" stuff. Work out what you will get paid, food, time of service, any additional overtime that may be needed. All that stuff. Then no one has any right to complain about anything. When will people learn?
I was hired as a mother's helper for by a family with two children. This was not a live-in job, except on weekends when the family would head to their cottage. So - First weekend working for the family - I'm picked up at 5 PM Friday. We get to the cottage - I put the kids to bed - fine. Next day after breakfast, I head out to the park with the two kids, and they meet up with all their friends - families from the neighbourhood all vacation together, it seems. I am the only helper hired. 8+ kids from 5 different families and I'm working alone. When I was dropped at home Sunday evening, after 7 PM, they paid me. $20. Holy *ing crap.
First, shouldn't you have gotten a contract in writing about payment? $20 for an entire weekend even with just 2 kids is a full stop NO WAY. Second, it's pretty creepy for a nanny to go on vacation with a family, especially if you haven't worked for them very long. If I were your parents, I would have been extremely worried.
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I’ve had part time nannies in the past when my kids were young. 3 full days a week. I ended up having to work an extra shift per week to pay the extra in the food I was having to buy-it more than doubled! So I was working an additional 12 hrs a week (that brought me to 48 hours a week) to pay for someone else to eat-and eat they did! I finally pulled the plug and put my poor kiddos in daycare-it was by far cheaper believe me!
The parents are morons. If you leave your precious kids with someone, you should make sure she doesn't have any resentment towards you she could be letting off on your kids or making her quit out of the blue. On the other hand, how is a grown women not able to cook some food she only needs to warm up. I mean, everyone brings their food to work. Who is she only capable of bringing snacks?? I am sure they end up being more expensive that just making some normal food you can keep portions in the fridge... Yeah, sure. It would be nicer if she could cook for her and the kids the same, that's why I don't understand the parents, but her just binging random stuff for herself is worrisome. Is she even able to take care of herself?Americans are weird.
The parents are morons. If you leave your precious kids with someone, you should make sure she doesn't have any resentment towards you she could be letting off on your kids or making her quit out of the blue. On the other hand, how is a grown a**e women not able to cook some food she only needs to warm up. I mean, everyone brings their food to work. Who is she only capable of bringing snacks?? I am sure they end up being more expensive that just making some normal food you can keep portions in the fridge... Yeah, sure. It would be nicer if she could cook for her and the kids the same, that's why I don't understand the parents, but her just binging random stuff for herself is worrisome. Is she even able to take care of herself?Americans are weird.
Does your job have a legally required lunch break? Yes. It’s required at your job. Mine doesn’t have that. Nannies don’t receive that. learn about nannies and what we do :)
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"Despite her having to work a full day, she was asked to bring her own meals," Is that not the standard in the Workforce? Not just Nanny but like every where. I've never worked a single job that provided for me for free. I've worked full time for the last 13 years and have brought my own lunch every single day
It's not "for free" it's for cooking for and raising a child for them. It's part of the expected job package. Especially as not eating the same thing the kid does can cause extremely unnecessary conflict, and nannies can't just clock out to go somewhere else, or even just have a lunch break where they aren't still on duty. Stop treating the people you depend on for your lifestyñe as some kind of burden for the basics that go into keeping them around. And then maybe you won't have to raise your own kids
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Anyone who can afford a "nanny," can afford to eat them. Also, what a great lesson for the children: "WE pay them, they can BUY their OWN food
I would not even feel right about regularly eating someone else's food. Maybe a snack here or there would be appropriate, but the family not feeding you doesn't mean you need to bring a crappy lunch. Pack yourself something decent like an adult would. Can you imagine the mother who has worked all day and has been craving something she bought at the grocery store, only to come home and find out the nanny ate it..?
You're hired to take care of a child and you don't know how to pack yourself a lunch? Ok....not great credentials
I have been a full-time nanny for years, and I have never eaten any of their meals. I usually brought my own coffee and juices and sandwiches or leftovers in Tupperware. When their children would be at my house to do crafts, I would have them bring their lunches and snacks with them.
I call BS. My vote is the girl wanted to up her influencer viewers thru drama. Otherwise, If it is normal for the family to provide food then the girl showed bad judgement by either not reading THIS contract or by hiring on despite the rule. Lolololol adulting is difficult!!!! Most other places I know are half hour lunches and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FORMER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. They may have had an unfortunate situation occur with another nanny. We don't ACTUALLY know the family's financial situation. Again, If this was going to be such a big issue and a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job
Would it be nice for the family to let you eat their food? Yes. But if they don't want you to, that isn't really weird. Employers rarely provide food to their employees, and if they do it's a set amount of money per meal or day. Also, if a COMPANY provides you with meals, that's different than ONE HOUSEHOLD INCOME providing you access to as much food as you want.
Idk why y'all are ignoring that this isn't some office job? It's someone that's taking care of a child for 8-12 hours a day on a regular basis. Either that family doesn't care at all about their child, or they're expecting the child to actually eat during those times. And proper meals rather than just quick snacks that might be appropriate for a one off or even weekly date night kind of situation. Have you ever actually tried to handle a child who thinks it's unfair that someone else is eating something they can't have? Let alone doing so after cooking just for that kid while you're stuck with whatever can keep well in your bag? That's the kind of stress and built up anger that can snowball into abusive situations. Especially as hunger and improper nutrition badly affect emotional regulation and decision making. In such working conditions quitting early is the safest option, for all involved.
Load More Replies... Wow such an entitle nanny. She accepted this job with this condition and is now complaining and lamb blasting her employer on social media is not cool. She said yes to that condition when she could of said no. I always brought my own food when I use to sit and have never ever had issues with the children fighting or arguing for mine. You all sound very entitled and stuck up that demand free food especially when times are hard on all. Some parents have no choice but to rely on nannies even if they can barely afford them and live paycheck to paycheck. I would never hire this OP and would blacklist her in a heart beat as I would never want such a greedy hateful person around them....
I am sorry , but expecting to be fed is ridiculous! It is up to them to decide is they want you to dig in their firdge or not. You complain that you now have to eat unhealthy snacks? Well, you not being able to prepare a nice lunch for yourself is nobody elses problem but yours. I swear, only in the USA people can be that spoiled and entitled. And I see people commenting on au pair contracts. And I've had a friend with horrible au pair experience who were left without food and heating for a long weekend in the winter, when the posh family went abroad, but apparantly this is not an au pair situation.
It's enough they trust you in their house with their kids but to have you digging through their personal food to find yourself something to eat is just rude to assume it's ok, it's their choice employers don't provide you with free meals you have to pack your lunch and bring it yourself you shouldn't expect anybody to feed you that's your job that's why you're working to feed yourself and to pay your own rent. And for you to go on tik tok crying and whining about it is just shameful you're a grown woman grow up, so what the people didn't want you eating their food so what get over it you don't like it, do like you did you quit go find another job cry baby looking for free handouts and s**t it's people like you that make people like that.
This is the problem with employees assuming they can do what they want and the employers just going to foot the bill. WHY are you making such a big deal out of the eating their food for? Are you starving? YOU are focused on the food, why? You were going to quit either way for other reasons. It can not be that you didn't get to eat their food. If so you need to grow up and realize it's not their responsibility to make sure you have food. They are not your parents. They are your employer. Not one of my emoyers has ever provided my meals and beverages on the house. Grow Up and stop appearing to be an 8nfuencer only to show what an immature adult quitter is. Plus don't forget those you apply to have access to all social media just like you do. If I look you up and saw this I would skip right over you because entitlement isn't a good skill set.
You quit because they didn't allow you to eat their food? Did the compensation agreement include snacks, meals, and beverages? NO then you just expected that food and beverages woukd be on the house. Mature adults know you do NOT go into another's home and eat and drink what you want. It does not matter what your job was at the home. You could have been the Butler. But even a Butler knows they do not eat and drink the employers groceries. PERIOD. They should NOT have to pay you the full amount and pay for your groceries too. You could have ask if they would deduct $10 a day from your pay for your groceries. That's fair. But no you quit because you want full pay and Food and beverages included. NOT NEVER!
because you get lunch breaks, a nanny doesn't. They can't just stop looking after the kids to get lunch and come back. Plus the parents probably have a meal ready for the kids or told the nanny what to cook. Also the nanny here had like a bagel, fruit and snacks. So there could be a problem of the kids not wanting to eat their own food.
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They can afford a nanny. They can afford to feed her and not worry about their food for the week being “thrown off.”
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People who’ve never nannied commenting that employers don’t provide food. 🙄 Most employers don’t. But it is the norm that people provide food for the nanny to eat, as they are likely eating multiple meals a day with the children. Aside from that, it’s not like she gets a break when she can send the children away and eat. So now she has to possibly deal with the children wanting to eat the food she has brought for herself, rather than the food the parents want the children to eat. Putting the nanny in a bad position and possibly causing unnecessary friction between the nanny and children.
Absolutely this ! People don’t realise the fact we don’t even have the time to prepare our own food and sometimes it’s tricky to eat our portion as we get distracted by children, crying babies etc. Moreover it’s better when nanny eats the same food as children, because it’s not good if she had some more attractive food and they had for example some healthy food that parents wanted them to eat. Also, good families treat nannies as part of the family and have no issues to share their food.
Load More Replies... Having worked as an Au Pair both in Europe and the USA, it's in all contracts that your employer provides you with food if you are feeding their children. To have someone specifically say you cannot eat their food shows all sorts of red flags.
I mean, just from a logic standpoint, if I had a nanny who was feeding my kids during the day, I would encourage the nanny to eat the same foods with the kids to set a good example and normalize healthy eating. I wouldn't want the nanny trying to get the kids to eat a healthy lunch and she's sitting there eating the packaged snack foods that she had to bring for herself. That just doesn't make any sense to me.
Load More Replies... For those that say employees normally bring their own lunch: these employers are refusing to feed ONE employee. They're not going to go broke providing lunch. Plus, that means the nanny eats very different food from the kids: "No, you can't have my donut. Now finish your liver and spinach sandwich."
And the nanny can't run out and take an hour lunch and leave kids - other occupations are very different.
Load More Replies... I think many are thinking when this nanny says she works a full day, she works 8 hours, but a majority of nannies work between 10-14 hours in the day and is hard to make store runs if they run out of snacks. She can obviously make her own meals yes but often its hard to reject sharing with a child when they see you eating and want some themselves. It cuts her supply..just speaking from experienc e
Exactly most probably don't realize the nanny usually even makes dinner and the parents usually eat the dinner that their nanny cooked when they get home.
Load More Replies... I was a nanny. That's how I paid my way through nursing school. HOWEVER it was nothing like her experience. I was able to eat or drink what was available. Nothing was off limits. I was expected to treat it as my home. I worked 12 hour days but was treated like family. When theybplanned a trip I was paid hourly 24 hours for the duration once for 2 weeks since I had the kids over night. They gave me a bonus before the trips so I was able to get clothes or supplies I would need. They paid for my food when I was out with them. I was never to pay for anything. While i know I was incredibly blessed with the family i worked for being expected to bring food from home is a bit much. Your literally in a house with a pantry and refrigerator and most nannys work very very long hours. When someone is helping raise your children treat them like family not employees please. We become very attached to these kids. We love them. Don't treat us like outsiders.
For those who are saying that most jobs don't provide food for their workers, you are correct. However, in any job, at least here in the US, when you are cooking for others, it is extremely common that you get to eat that food as well. As some others have said, it's not like she is getting a full meal break. She can't just park the kids somewhere while she takes any sort of break, much less a meal break. I've been a nanny. I've worked in restaurants. Both types of places provided food. Other jobs did not, but I was able to walk away from the work for a set period of time to actually eat and have a small rest, then get back to work.
ChipBoundary is obviously confused because here IN THE UNITED STATES'OF AMERICA ITS THE LAW ANYONE WORKING IN AN EMPLOYMENT SETTING GET A BREAK. A nanny/in home babysitter is the only job here in the US that's not so regulated. It's OSHA LAWS AND LABOR BOARD LAWS YOU MUST GET A HALF HOUR EVERY 8HOURS AND 15 MINUTES EVERY 2 HOURS PAST THAT. ITS A FEDERAL LAW BY THE WAY. YOUR OBVIOUSLY EXTREMELY CONFUSED. THE US DOES HAVE LAWS ABOUT THIS. CALL THE LABOR BOARD IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IT.
Load More Replies... I've worked as a nanny for several years. I always do a contract at the beginning and discuss requirements in detail. I'm quick to leave if a job doesn't turn out to be ideal for me (generally because the family hid things from me or tried to change things we had discussed). So I've worked with a lot of families. In my experience, the families who wanted me to bring my own food and never touch theirs were unaccomodating, rigid, and had expectations they weren't willing to pay for. Families who asked me to bring my own food but were open to me grabbing something from the pantry occasionally were generally pleasant to work for, and families who asked me to write a grocery list were a genuine delight to work for. It's a small thing that can give you an idea of what they'll be like to work for, it shows their generosity and flexibility. I now screen out families whose pantries are off limits and won't work for them.
I was never a nanny but would run into alot of them in the daily trip to the playground with my kids. I'll never forget the 4 nanny's all who eventually quit for one particular couple. She was so horrible that they couldn't take it. My 4 year old and the little boy loved playing together but nanny #1 was so embarrassed to finally tell me that her boss didn't want her child playing with mine because "we were of a different class"! And the ridiculous part is that we are business owners who are doing quite well but i guess not elite enough for the snob. Anyway that nanny quit and begged me to allow her to work for me and I told her I did everything on my own si I didn't need a nanny. Her boss had one child and needed a nanny! Alas at the playground I ran into 3 others who also quit within months. I feel sorry for some of these poor nannies.
Load More Replies... Nannies probably eat at least 2 if not 3 meals with the children. They don't get an official lunch break where they can go to the canteen or shops to get lunch.
There's likely no canteen to patronize in most homes.
Load More Replies... That is absolutely ridiculous. I was a nanny for an amazing family with two beautiful little girls for two years and I was more than welcome to eat their food, watch their TV, etc. Sometimes my shifts were 7:30-5 with very active growing girls. I couldn't imagine not being able to eat with the little ladies while we sat together. Also, the kids were smart and would have asked why I wasn't eating with them. Also, usually nannies have extra tasks like driving kids to extracurricular activities (and they don't pay for gas or wear and tear on your car), doing the kids laundry, and since mine were young I educated them. With no breaks and constant awareness, lunch is a fair bet. Run away from that family
I worked at a Pre Trial Detention Facility as a nurse. Like custody, we could not leave for our meal break and could be interrupted for any emergency so the cooks that prepared inmates food set buffets out for all staff as well. If an employee cannot take an uninterrupted break away from work then they get paid and are provided food as well. It isn't complicated to understand that a nanny requires the same consideration.
I’m a custom home builder and I basically build big houses for wealthy people. I don’t usually argue with my clients but I had one that wanted to make her live in nanny’s basement bedroom a tiny and windowless room with a very small closet. I pointed out that the nanny would be raising their children and deserves a room as nice as theirs. I guilted them into increasing the size, adding a window, a small but private bathroom and a walk in closet. I never met the nanny but I wish I could have.
Bless you. Also, at least where I live, a room is not a legal bedroom unless it has an egress-sized window in it. The owners could get in big trouble if there was a fire or someone was trapped in a windowless "bedroom". Bedrooms need an egress window for safety.
Load More Replies... “Why should an employer give food to an employee? “ BECAUSE IF THEY CAN, THEY SHOULD!!!!!!! No question. We should be doing ANYTHING we CAN to simply be kind to others around us. That includes sharing food. WTF????
Also cause they're taking care of kids all day. Which normally includes preparing meals. Have these parents ever been around a child who is being expected to eat one thing while someone brings in something new that they don't usually get or have never tried? Beyond being extremely cruel on the face of not feeding someone who's trapped in your house for 8-12 hours, but it also causes very unnecessary conflict with the child. It's a completely incompetent demand
Load More Replies... This isn't a typical job where you get a designated lunch break. Those job's don't feed employees, sure, but this isn't like that. She's preparing meals and feeding the kids. Also any food service job you get fed so that argument is invalid haha. This isn't normal. Run!
First, lots of people showing off their ignorance today. Second, glad OP found a better gig. Third, take care of your own damn kids if your too stingy to provide a meal to someone who's taking care of them all day!
That is so weird - if I had a nanny I would expect them to help themselves and let me know about any likes/dislikes allergies to make sure I had stuff in for them to have!
Absolutely. The last family I interviewed for had never had a nanny before, so they asked me if it was standard to bring my own food or eat theirs. I said typically I eat whatever I am feeding the kids. They them immediately followed up and asked if I had any dietary restrictions, allergies, etc. This is how it's done.
Load More Replies... It's funny how ignorant, bougie, and out of touch some of the comments are. "any other job didn't give you free food" except for the vast majority of jobs where you're expected to cook. Even most fast food jobs, including the couple of small local places I've worked at, let you have either a free meal on your lunch break/per day, or to at least just keep what can't be sold or is leftover at the end of the shift. Except for one local chain burger place that only gave me 10% discount for meals. I quit that junk job within 3 weeks though. Are y'all telling me, that you don't expect your child to eat (or at least no proper meals, only prepackaged snacks) when at home for 8-12 hours, every single day! Y'all are terrible potential parents and "employers". Get some love experience before you get in a position of authority over ANYONE. Or you'll end up wondering why everyone hates you and leaves you as soon as they realize how you are and safely can escape. Including your own children.
I will say, I've baby sat occasionally since I was 11. And near daily by the time I was 14 which lasted into my early 20s. Both within the family and for others who actually paid me for it. I now do my best to avoid children. Huge sensory nightmare and childhood trauma trigger. But in that decade of experience of caring for young children, as a child... I have never once babysat for more than 4 consecutive hours where I wasn't expected to make at least simple meals for myself and the children. Even when babysitting over night for strangers while the parents go to a hotel room, they pretty explicitly said i could eat the ice cream or anything else cause it's just a perk that comes from taking care of a child overnight . It IS the norm for this type of job, even if you aren't feeding the kids. Even my mom gets free snacks to take home and give her own kids (mostly fruit), as a teacher because the school provides them for the kids and extras need eaten fast. Quit acting so ignorant
Load More Replies... As a parent who's hired nannies, there's two points of why not letting your nanny eat available food is an issue. Point 1. Nannies are private hires, even if I pay with a standard paycheck, instead of under the table, I have 1 employee... therefore I am not required to do anything beyond standard paycheck taxes. No perks, no healthcare, nothing. Things like allowing your Nanny to have access to the pantry is a common perk to the job. It's like working at a restaurant and the restaurant providing a free meal for your shift, or at least a discounted meal. It's one of the understood perks of the job, you don't have to worry about what you're going to bring to eat all day long. Point 2 kids are sensitive to what the adults are eating around them. If the Nanny makes them a "mom approved lunch" and then sits down to eat with them and has things like snack foods...i.e. a donut. The kids would likely revolt. It's better to allow the Nanny to have access to foods the children eat normally.
A few other perks is allowing a certain amount of personal downtime. Kids are napping, enjoy utilizing my WiFi, there's the TV here's how to use it, like to play video games?...we have Playstation, Xbox, Wii, enjoy. Being a Nanny is being a second mom. If you have the privilege to hire one, you treat them like gold, because without them you're screwed... Or a stay at home mom.
Load More Replies... I have to laugh at this because I know exactly what this girl is going through I worked as a nanny for 17 years and a few of the families I worked for were very similar. One thing that made it kind of tough was when the kids I took care of saw what I was eating and wanted what I had. I would prepare full healthy meals and healthy snacks with a little extra to share with the kids but the parents would become upset because of me doing so. I even had a family that wouldn't let me use their dishes. I had to either bring my own or I would have to buy disposable plates, bowls, cups and utensils. What made that situation worse was I was still required to do their dishes. Needless to say I didn't stay with that family longer than a couple weeks.
As the mother of two generations of kids:. I deeply screen my nannies, and once found and hired, i bend over backwards to make sure they are happy hoping that their happiness will reflect in their work with my kids. Which means anything in my house is theirs and i ask them what they want to put on my grocery list.
I was raised by nannies and we did the same. They could eat what we had. my mom never asked them what they wanted at the store but they did get pantry privileges. I was a challenging kid too 😂😂😂😂our poor nannies 😂😂😂😂
Load More Replies... So many comments that don't appreciate that nannies working 12+ hour days are just raising the children of rich people who can't be bothered to so so themselves. They advocate treating nannies as like office workers who can only ever get snacks as a "nice perk". And not as people they rely upon and rarely pay enough. And certainly not as people who have a very important job that is made unnecessary stressful by improper nutrition and the inevitable begging, fit throwing, etc that comes out when a child sees someone eating something they can't have. I hope y'all never have responsibility over...anyone or anything.
My take on this is that they had a previous nanny who abused the free food privilege and didn't want to have the same experience with the next one. Had to switch babysitters once because she would literally eat all of our snacks and have several canned drinks over 3 hours. Every time. I'm not justifying this, as i think food is an expectation of that job, but there's something behind this.
Maybe yeah …. Sucks that some nannies do this. And ruin it for the rest of us. F y’all hahahaha to the nannies reading this
Load More Replies... What short-sighted foolishness from the family. A nanny doesn't get coffee breaks, lunch breaks or dinner breaks. They're attending children 24/7 when on duty. If you don't feed them you run the risk of them falling out with hunger. She feeds the children but, sometimes even cooking their meals. The least you can do is feed the nanny.
One family who didn’t let me eat the food did allow me to leave during lunch when baby napped and go out to grab food. With current family I order doordash. Cause I can’t leave
Load More Replies... I couldn't imagine doing this. I might restrict some things but I at least have something for them to eat refrigerated and pantry. Heck I might even cook them a meal or two. At the very least I hope they gave her some fridge space for her refrigerated food
I wonder of people realize that nannies RARELY(if ever) receive an opportunity to receive Healthcare, so these 'extra perks' in the job actually balance out. Especially if the nanny is the on footing the bill for a Dr./dentist/optometrist bill that is usually covered by health insurance. There's that & basic human decency. You're asking THIS person to RAISE your child. GTFO.
Every employer is different. When you become aware of the rules next step is take it or leave it. There is not right or wrong it's just the rules. People are different from one to another don't expect repetitive pattern from employers.
Employers don't provide food? Ok I guess they provide lunch breaks then right? When is her support going to show up so she can go get lunch. Or is she supposed to leave the kid alone?
This is my biggest question to the universe since many families do not provide food. we don’t get to leave…. So …. Kinda chained really.
Load More Replies... People saying employers don't provide food....I'm not a nanny but my employer often buys me lunch and/or dinner when I'm putting in lots of hours. Pretty typical in a lot of professional services jobs
News flash, not all jobs are structured the same way. Also I've never been at a job that didn't feed me in some way. Free fruit, heavily discounted catered lunches, leftovers from meetings, pizza Fridays if you worked evenings. You feed your nanny.
SB While I have never been a nanny, I babysat for neighborhood families while in highschool. There were always snacks and refreshments. And anytime I was to make lunch or dinner, I was welcome to have the food. It seems, also, that by not allowing a nanny to eat would present awkward situations for the kids. If the parents don't want the kids to eat certain foods and they see the nanny eating sweets or chips, they will always want that too. To me, it seems rude and selfish to the nanny to not offer something to eat. And, yes there are jobs where food is provided even if it isn't everyday. Who hasn't had a "working" lunch or dinner? Food is expensive, yet if the parents can afford a nanny, they can certainly provide a meal or two for the person watching their children.
Ah I have experienced this when I cared for 3 kiddos. Kids wanted my snacky snacks hehe. I had to put them back into my backypack 🤓🤓 or hide them behind my back or hide in a room to eat them
Load More Replies... I worked at a home for the mentally disabled and even we where allowed and encouraged to eat with our clients ,also when I worked for Target they'd celebrate diff stuff and feed us quite often
This seems like such an easy thing to answer right........ IF you make enough money. Hiring a sitter or nanny experienced or not isn't cheap if you don't make a decent amount of money. When I was with my wife shortly after she gave birth to our son we looked into these things and it cost more than what either of us alone made an hour per hour especially since we had multiple children between us. (We made our bed laid in it and survived btw so not complaining here) Sure if I had a better paying job I would gladly pay for the food. People seem to forget not everyone can. This was twenty years ago. I could only image the cost these days. She had every right to quit the job if those conditions were not acceptable to her. But to call the people out In which we don't know their situation etc is sad. All we do anymore is complain when we don't get what we want. Does anyone actually think about the other person anymore? What am I saying of course not. I see it every day and it saddens me.
If you can't afford to pay for your Nanny (and food is part of the compensation) then you better call a relative and expect to pay more.
Load More Replies... I nannied for years. I have one lady fire me because her I let her three year old play in the leaves outside with the neighbor kids. She was terrified he'd get sick. And didn't want him around other cildren. This was a decade before COVID, and he had zero allergies or health issues. Perfectly healthy little kid. She didn't even fire me in person, sent a text and told me to get my last check from the mailbox. Same mom wanted me to feed her kid on a weight loss diet even though the kid was clearly not overweight, not to lose weight, but because of cholesterol. She wanted me to quiz him daily using a world map of all the countries, convinced her kid was gifted (he was on target, but not advanced), and insisted he'd always be homeschooled because germs... I was seriously worried about the kid after I left. Years later the dad added me on Facebook to let me know they'd divorced and he got the kid, and that they were okay.
I almost quit that day. Not a safe work environment ..
Load More Replies... I was a nanny and wasn't allowed to eat their food, couldn't watch the TV, had to clean their whole house, cook dinner for them, pre make all the bottles, wash, dry, fold, and put up their clothes and iron all the clothes that needed ironing, had to grocery shop for them, had to take the kids to the Dr for all appts, had to wear scrubs, drive them to and from school (in the nanny car and this was a 40 min drive each way), they would have dinner parties over the weekends and leave all the dishes in the sink for me to do on Monday morning, I was not allowed to ever bathe the kids (this was told to me before I ever started), the kids were only allowed to watch TV for 2 hours a day. I got to work at 7am and got off at 6pm. I wasn't supposed to listen to the radio in the car on the school trips, but I did anyway. I had to change their sheets...like I had to do everything that a mom, maid, housewife would normally do. I only got pd $225.00 per week and it was taxed. I did this for 2 years.
Why?! Why would you ever agree to that? You should have been making more than that per DAY!
Load More Replies... The comments on here are borderline absurd. Of course they're wrong for forbidding her to eat any of their food. That's weird and wrong and just unkind. I worked as a nanny for years and never ever had a family say that to me. My home is your home... and can we provide any foods you like. I would almost always pack my lunch but not always. And then the kids would want my lunch anyway. I wouldn't have taken that job because that's a huge red flag. I was an excellent nanny that made a considerable income and still keep in touch with my kids and families. And I never ate anyone out of house or home.
It's a possibility they've dealt with a former nanny who actually stole food to take to their own home. Groceries are expensive and it's hard to keep your own home stocked. If you're dealing with a packrat who's stealing, that's even worse. I understand some employers are generous and would probably even offer to help out, but, "Fool me once,..."
Except that justification ends when the bad actor is canned. These are people you're trusting with your kids, not some entry-level part-timer you can holler down the street to replace. Upvoting because you have a point, even though I don't personally agree with it.
Load More Replies... Employment is nothing more than a mutual agreement between two parties for compensation of services rendered. Neither parties are bound by that agreement and are free to terminate the employment at anytime.
This is simultaneously an accurate description and a scathing indictment of at-will employment.
Load More Replies... I baby-sat for my uncle one summer and he always gave me an option of what to feed the kids and myself. I think if there were specific snacks off limit it would be understandable. Good for her for leaving.
For those who say that she's there to do a job that doesn't include eating, keep in mind that this job also doesn't include breaks
On one hand I get her stance I guess but on the other hand can you imagine if your employers said you can eat the food they have in their house and that you feed to the kids and it turned out to be junk food,and ready meals... please guys try to understand people have different standards. I would rather bring my own food(I have 2 children) so that I am sure I will have my day how I want it. Unless the food at the house is more than the standard...like in germany it seems like everything is some kind of potato meat and sauce,or nudels with sauce etc. Not that many veggies and everything is full of starch,nut really nutritious,and I have autoimmune disease I cant gamble with ly health...
A good family will ask us what we would like to have in the house.
Load More Replies... I don't know what is common in europe and never met a nanny (are there nannys in europe? Am I grown up to poor to realise that this Job exists in europe? Sorry if i Sound dumb. I have only Heard from it in american movies and the Internet ) So besides my Lack of knolledge i would never assume that I will get food for free... I am a handiworker and always bring my own food. Especially when we work in other peoples homes. Are there Jobs, where it is common to get free food with your salary (i don't want to be rude, just curious!)
I'm not understanding the fuss, either. It could be how I was raised. I've grown up in a low and medium income home. I've taken on babysitting jobs in my teens. Sometimes I was given extra money to order pizza. Sometimes I was told to help myself to whatever was in the fridge. Other times, it was nothing and I'd have to use my own cash for food. I was taught to never assume people will give me anything more than what has been agreed upon. I was also told that employed workers are not the same as invited guests. They're there to do a job. Not mingle. But it's always made me uncomfortable to not at least offer a worker a coffee or make food and eat without offering them something. I don't know what is normal for nanny jobs, but from what I'm reading, the normal thing to do is offer the same food as the kids would eat.
Load More Replies... I used to work in film shoots. Now and then, I heard a young production person whinge about how in no other jobs, people expect to be fed and fed well. I said, that I happily pay for my own lunch, but the production will just have to do without me (the cameraperson) while I go out for lunch in whatever remote location we work. It's 10-12 hour days on a filmshoot, a warm meal a day is a must. This usually ended the discussion. If you want people to work incredibly long days for you or at impossible hours, you have to provide some way for them to feed themselves. And if you can't build a cafeteria, you better provide some catering.
I work in memory care facilities with chefs and they provide at least one meal a day as long as there are leftovers from meal times. I normally do day shift 6am to 2pm so they try and feed us breakfast and lunch.. mainly because it's physically demanding and it reduces food waste. I have a friend who also nannies full-time and if you can't leave to get something, you should have at least some leftovers from what you are preparing if there are some.
I have been babysitting for about 50 years, and did in-home child care for two families. Never in that entire time have I ever been prohibited from eating the food there. This is exploitation, pure and simple. OP was absolutely correct in leaving that job. I hope that she puts the word out what those employers are like; it may save some other unsuspecting nanny a lot of grief. Today, it's the food. Tomorrow, it could be the bathroom.
As a nanny of 35 years my families have all provided my meals. My duties have always included grocery shopping so I did all the meal planning, meal prep all the cooking and was able to make whatever I wanted for me and the kids breakfast lunch and dinner… and the parents ate dinner when they came home. I love to cook so they were always happy. It was a win win.
It's strange that people would expect her to cook for the kids and just sit and watch them eat breakfast lunch and dinner..... That's wrong all the way around. She should get to eat with them it's hard work chasing children all day and making sure they don't unalive each other it's not like working in an office or any other type of job. Plus the kids are more likely to eat if she's sitting down eating the same thing with them. These parents deserve to be without a nanny. They sound like absolute trash.
I'm absolutely puzzled that anyone would think it's ok to not feed your nanny + compare it another job. Providing care for children is all- encompassing. Not trying to put down other jobs, but it is rly not the same as other jobs. It's far more demanding. I'm glad most ppl seem to realize that.
As a professional nanny of 35 years meals has always been part of the benefits . You can’t compare us to an office job it’s like comparing apples to oranges no pun intended. We work long 12 hour days many a time and don’t really get a break like you get in an office job, so one of the perks is to sit and have lunch and breakfast with your kiddos. That is after you clean up their spilled milk bring them there second helping wipe their face and pick the food up off the floor so the dog doesn’t eat it. You may get to eat some after getting up 10 times
Nannies don’t get to leave at all so if we bring our food we have to plan for 8+ hours that we will be there. It’s kind of rough in the long term.
We had a family friend who was from England. She was a nanny for a family in Italy, the people had kids as status symbols. Every morning at the breakfast table they would kiss the top of theirs dogs head and Pat the top of the kids head. I don't know how Nanny's do their job with some of the people they work for. If I had kids I would love to have a banny, I'd be baking every night so her and the kids would have stuff to eat. I love in cook and bake for people anyway.
Omg I have no idea why I'm working full time 12 hour shifts at night as a cna in a facility where I have to bring my own lunch and snacks when I could work better hours making more money per hour and also get free meals as a professional nanny!
Well, find a rich family who treats you decent then :) though your current job may have better benefits and such.
Load More Replies... Question? WHAT qualifies a person to be a Professional Nanny? Are they educated formally in child care, bondable, carry insurance, FULLY background checked, have psych clearances, etc, OR are they just glorified baby sitters coining more professional term for earning more money? Are they licensed from an agency or just Freelancers self-upgrading their title to something unique and noteworthy for IMAGE and Pay grade? NATURALLY, A PARENT incl. any PET parent would have video surveillance of their home and charges being cared for. Only sheer stupidity would bet EVERYTHING on appearances and conversations intended to secure a position of trust and absolute acceptance in a family's home. Granted these employers seem a little tight, but on the other hand perhaps this nanny is looking for handouts that aren't included. In the morning of each workday nothing should disable this Prof. Nanny from packing a sandwich or two, some fruit, water, and anything else she might want to eat during wor
Personally, I have a minor in child psychology/adolescent development, am fully CPR and first aid certified at all levels (infant to adult) with AED training, I update my vulnerable sectors police screening every 2 years, more often if requested, with decades of experience teaching, working in daycares, and as a nanny. I don't know anyone who calls themselves a nanny who doesn't have at least that level of education and experience. We are ALWAYS fed because we eat multiple meals every day with the children.
Load More Replies... I'm not a nanny but I do baby sit 12 plus hr a day 3days a week so I understand the family I care for doesn't have a lot of money and even they let me eat there and for the people who don't babysit or nanny don't coment bc you have no idea what your talking about bc when you nanny you don't get brakes like a regular job unless the child is asleep and if you have other food you won't have time to cook it and the child will want some and you have to set a good example so you will mostly give them some it's just a hassle
some employers do feed their employees. working as a captioning agent, they provided food—soup, noodles, water, tea, chips, coffee, etc. free & on holidays, any leftovers chips, sandwiches. bagged food, bread, pies, cakes, cookies, etc. they let us take home. while I agree that food is expensive, if you're in a financial position as to where you can afford a nanny, you can feed her. you need help with, can't, or don't want to watch your own kids, but the woman who's willing to can't eat? like someone else mentioned, too, working as a nanny, it's not even like she's getting a break; she still has to be with & watch the kids while she eats. it makes me sad there are people who expect another woman to feed their kids, but she can't eat herself.
Completely asinine & insane request. I wonder did she also have to bring her own toilet paper, IF she's allowed to use "their" bathroom. Or did they make you go find another bathroom at McD's? Stupidest request ever!!! I'm surprised she even agreed to it in the first place!!!! NO JOB IN THE WORLD IS THAT VALUABLE!!! Glad to see she woke up & left. 👍
If you can afford a full time nanny, you can afford a few free meals... On the other hand, I would think this is a perk of the profession and if meals/room are not included, then wages increase 🤷🏻♂️
I just think it's the whole "hey come spend all day at my house" and them not offering food. If you don't want to feed your childcare take your kids to a daycare. At home childcare is usually done bey someone you trust otherwise you wouldn't invite them into your home and leave them with your children. Otherwise you need to make the food for your own kids if you are having the 'nanny' bring theirs you are pretty much wanting someone to cook clean and watch your kids which is 3 diffrent jobs that way. At this point it's just you not having enough money for all day childcare and the associated costs just like with running a business in you can't afford it AND the costs that come along with it don't start it in the first place.
"Most employers don't offer food" well most employers give lunch breaks. Granted you do have time to eat but you'd have to prepare your own meal and that isn't a expectation in normal jobs. I mean you could do that rule and that is fine, no shame on you, but you should not judge a nanny for choosing to quit or pass your job because of that rule. Although granted the tik toker is judging first but nobody seems mad about that part of it.
I’m on my first live in nannying job for six months now, and although my boss has never specifically said I can’t eat their food, I know she doesn’t want me to. She tells me what to make for dinner for her two kids and the portions are two child-sized meals. She tells me to put leftovers in the fridge. I can have tap water which I don’t like but I don’t get coffee. To be fair, I live in her basement for free and I only begin work at 1pm. But after walking the dog, doing light housekeeping, looking after her kids and cooking dinner for them, I don’t have the energy to cook for myself after work. So I eat rather badly, a lot of toast and cereal. I’m not young anymore.
Ppl who hire a babysitter for just an hour say help yourself to what's in the fridge. This is stingy. If it had been a while and you were overindulging on the groceries k but not this
My date night jobs they always say that yep. at one PT nanny position if I took care of the baby so parents could have a date night they’d buy pizzas or hot pockets for me so I ate those after baby went to bed or when I knew baby was having a blast in the exersaucer 😆
Load More Replies... Most of the jobs I have had provided some form of free food, 2 of the 3 jobs I have had that didn't provide free food did provide food available to purchase.
I've never been a nanny, or had a nanny so I don't know the details. I've hired a babysitter for a few hours. And i give them money to buy food for the kids, and of course it's enough for them as well. I would think a full time nanny would be responsible for feeding the children. Wouldn't they also eat that food? What should they do? Do they get a lunch break? Sounds like a s**t job.
The employers are control freaks. They want the convenience of a childcare professional, but want to make sure she remembers her place as the help. Shared meals are a way human beings develop and sustain intimacy. Apparently this threatens these soulless bourgeoisie wretches. Is their name Thenardier?
People out here in this comment section would literally die if they got treated like healthcare workers with their food expectations on a 14+ hour shift (not including drive time) 😂 a "lunch break" is a suggestion to look good on paper but people don't "take a break" from coding. Putting this family on blast cause you don't get snackies when watching the kids. SMH.
Anyone who resents that nannies typically get to make themselves a sandwich along with the kids has some weird anger issues they need to work out. If the lifestyle sounds so deluxe to you, go be a nanny then and enjoy the free bologna and carrot sticks. But stop trying to keep other workers down just bc you've licked boots and loved the taste.
I was a nanny for 10 plus yeara and ate their food. I could also respect if a family said no. Pack a lunch and take it with you. No different then any job. But also my office job provides a amazing coffee bar and snacks and once a week they bring in food for the whole office. You want the kids to feel comfortable sitting down for lunch and eating together is normal kinda weird if they were eating something seperate my luck the kid would only want my food ha.
My employer provides Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner in the form of a stipend when I have to work away from home. This nanny might have to work during all three meals. Sure, I don't get that when I work locally, but then it's only Lunch and I can take a half hour break for lunch which a nanny cannot.
My friend hires a home health worker (not a nurse) just to watch her Alzheimer's mother (friend stays home 24/7 also) in 12 hour shifts. She used to feed the workers but they took advantage and would bring containers to bring home food and pack their bags with food from fridge. It was costing her another $400 per month! Friend said I'm not a restaurant, no way. Workers would get upset. They're paid $25/hr to literally sit there and watch a woman sleep - allowed to play on phone or watch TV as long as Mama doesn't wander off. Yet they got upset when she stopped feeding them home cooked meals. Now my friend is an AWESOME cook so I'd be willing to work for less money if I could get her food. I'd also gain 50 pounds in 6 months so it's for the better. But there are multiple sides to a story and maybe the parents were sick of being taken advantage of - that food money adds up! People commenting there are break laws - yeah they're allowed to take a break and friend will watch Mama during those times so worker can eat or run errands.
I was raised practically by nannies growing up. We always told them to help themselves. Couldn’t imagine not doing that. And our pet sitters. same thing. I tell them to eat what you see before it goes bad! Hahahaha.
It seems rude to say don't touch or eat our food and even worse to put it in a contract. I would bring my own food anyway but I would like to enjoy a snack or drink if I wanted to.
If the truth me know they probably don't care much for their children, anyone who puts the trust of caring for children on a nanny you want to be close and trust this person completely. The comment hidden cameras are probably set up just might be the deal, if not then these parents shouldn't have had kids if they care that little about them.
How much was she paid? Sometimes pantry privileges are given to those in lieu of better pay. If she's making a lot of money, damn right bring her own food. When I go to work, I can't walk in the owners kitchen and help myself.
On one hand I agree, but it would also be weird if you had to prepare several meals/snacks for kids and also figure out your own without the ability to take a break or get anything since you're watching children the whole time.
Load More Replies... I understand both perspectives. Perhaps the family couldn't afford to feed an adult. If the nanny disagreed on the matter she should have been mature enough to talk to the parents about it. If I hired a nanny I would expect her to be able to feed herself. Food cost alot to a single mother with multiple children. I'm paying you to look after my kids and keep them safe. I'm not paying you to raid my fridge. Just by seeing what nanny packed for her lunch tells me that she isn't very mature.
😂 just lazy. It's called Preparing. If you're going to be a nanny, you need to learn how to prepare for the day. So on your day off you prepare your lunch and your dinner for days And if you can't prepare it for days, it only take 10 to 15 minutes before you lay your head down at night to think of what you can do for lunch and for dinner for yourself. If you want snacks then prepare that stuff ahead of time. It's just common sense. It's just basically people being lazy and want somebody to always hand them stuff. You're not living with the people. And comments about about children wanting you're food, again, if you are a nanny you should know how to deal with that and teach that child that was yours is yours and what's theirs is theirs. You teach how to share and you also teach how to respect others .They can't get their way. You are giving and teaching structural behavior for the lack of better words. Providing your own meals for your work day is not brand new people.
Once operated a child care center for a friend after working 4 or 5 years. We were encouraged to eat with the children esp the vegetables that many of our parents didn't provide for their children at home. Also teach table manners & much more. Friends & family share food as part of bonding.
I haven't worked as a nanny, but have as an HHA. I took care of a couple for almost five years. Twelve hour days that required me to be in their home for all three meals a day. I was not allowed to eat their food or have any of their drinks, water included. I was allowed to bring food with me or get delivery but was not allowed to cook there for myself. That is beyond using the microwave. When the pandemic hit, it got worse. At times I was told to bring my own toilet paper to use because they didn't want me using theirs. Some people get a power rush out of treating you as the "help". I guess they are mentally living in the 19th century. Needless to say, I no longer do such work. I wanted to help people have a better quality of life, instead I got treated as a servant with no respect. It's sad how people treat each other anymore.
Ummm. How many kids are at home all day. I'd say that YES if Nanny is looking after 4 preschoolers every day, then she will be doing a lot of time with the kids. But then preschoolers DO go down for an afternoon rest, when I expect Nanny can rest too -- Just as the mother would if she were home. Does she walk the other children to school and collect them?? Then WHY bring unhealthy food with her???? Is she NOT permitted in the kitchen? Does she supervise he kids meals? Or are they premade?? All sorts of questions. But the biggest question is ”Is this a total fiction?” Or “Why would a responsible mother employ such an untidy looking nanny who doesn’t even seem able to care for her own hair!!”
My mom was also nannying for a family. She is a person everyone in the extended family& friends can trust with their kids, she does that for relatives all the time and is an amazing caretaker. She quit her job because apparently her employer was talking behind her back, telling everyone that she ate their food. But they had told her that she could eat anything. What she ate was a couple of potatoes, and she only did that once as she's normally very shy about stuff like that. Some parents are unbelievable.
While I don't judge the nanny for what she did, is it really necessary for people to put everything they do on TikTok?
I would bring so much good snack food & just eat in front of the kids & not share. When the kids complain to parents about the nanny not sharing I can just see these people getting mad for not giving treats to their kids
They don’t get lunch breaks to go get food. Plus if you are feeding kids you are probably eating at the same time. It’s not a normal job. I worked at a facility where we watched teens girls 24/7 & we didn’t get lunch breaks due to being in a position of direct care but the always fed us. It was the same things the kids were eating & not great but we really didn’t have time to eat if we weren’t eating with them
Anyone telling her to buy her own food is just being a jerk. They know damn well she can't take breaks during the day to go get food for herself or make food for herself. She eats WITH THE CHILDREN. Any idiot can figure that out. It's like saying restaurant employees shouldn't be fed. SMH.
Seriously? You're on a JOB. Since when does an employer provide you with food? Much less multiple meals and snacks?!
Serious questions here: Since it has been argued back & forth nanny culture vs. other jobs (e.g. restaurant jobs, retail, 9-5's vs. 12+ hours vs. live-in jobs...) and the nuances. Is it safe to say that within the world of nanny work NOT all nannies are tasked to the same level of job difficulties? For example, a nanny hired to take care of a baby , who's under 11 months AND their toddler sibling who is 1-3 years of age, or 4-5 year old sibling, will, of course, have different challenges, than a nanny who is watching preteens like age 8-10 years of age and their 13-14 year old adolescent sibling. And also taking into account children with specific disabilities, at any age. So wouldn't the nanny have a right to set their prices based on these factors, to the person who said nannies are underpaid? And I wouldn't assume all nannies are underpaid. The same way like all other professions I wouldn't assume all are good at what they do...
Like teachers are considered ridiculously underpaid. But not all teachers are good or great teachers. Just like not all doctors/nurses, custodial workers, retail workers, temps, etc. are good at what they do. So someone who's lousy at their job it might be considered OVERpaid...
Load More Replies... Guys the said this wasn't even an issue to her and she was just showing off the snacks she had. Nice way to amplify a story that didn't exist.
Wife is a seasoned nanny and she has pantry privileges. She however packs lunch for herself and myself... I'm supposed to feel sorry for this influencer because she doesn't know how to pack a lunch? Why is she taking snacks like a grade schooler?? I agree because of the demanding job she should have the option to help herself to the families food, but come on, pack a proper lunch. Let's not forget she agreed to the contract. If she had an issue, discuss it with your employer. It's called negotiating.
As a nanny myself, if a family doesn't offer at least something food-wise that I can eat, I won't work for them. But I usually ask for things like fresh fruit and veggies that I know I can use to make my diet healthier as a role model for the children. In turn, I often bring from home other healthy options that I don't mind sharing with the child/children. I definitely would not go posting about a position that I agreed to take and then quit within 2 days though. It is very important to discuss expectations before you agree to a job.
Got fired from work today. I assumed since I work full time, that I had access to the fridge and pantry. Guess others didn't agree. I'm going to need a raise, to cover my lunch at the next job.
I've been a nanny before and while I was never told or had to sign a contract saying I would not eat their food, I would not do it and didn't do it often... Like EVERY Jon I've ever had before and AFTER being a nanny, I packed my own lunch... This is what responsible adults do....
I think this article has been blown out of proportion. One of the actual red flags here is the "professional" nanny is also an "influencer". "Influencer" is Not a profession in any sense. When you lead off with that description of yourself, things become sus just a little bit. Lifestyle and fitness "influencer" taking nothing but pure JUNK food to eat? Red flag #2. Come on, folks. Regardless of what her claims are, it's time to stop giving full confidence and belief to people who make zero income as an "influencer" when they've already been exposed as people who try to get free product from small businesses under the guise of "exposing them to their followers" regardless if they have a few hundred or a few hundred thousand. It doesn't make sense she's an actual professional nanny if she's spending a lot of time as an "influencer". Real influencers are such as pro sports players, first responders such as police and fire, school teachers and college professors, and doctors and nurses.
People who are truly lifestyle coaches or fitness instructors are the real well-paid professionals who aren't doing nanny work as a full-time side gig. They would be the first to truly speak out against what this girl is doing for her personal food choices, irrelevant of the situation, which is the primary reason she bítched on TikTok, and the primary reason for this particular article. This nanny is 21 years old and clearly not done purging her immaturity.
Load More Replies... I nanny for older kids If I bring something for me I always share with the kids because I am trying to model the kind of behavior I want them to use. Let me tell you 3 kids between 11-16 can down a loaf off good bread like a swarm of locusts. Occasionally I will make myself something with their food and I know it is fine because I check. The Saturdays when I work since I go in about lunch time I tend to pick up my lunch and grab enough for the kids. I have been working on expanding their foods they are willing to eat. If I ask mom or dad's permission to spend money then I ask for reimbursement. If I don't ask and I spend money I feel it is my choice. The last Nanny job I had she padlocked the food away from the 4 boys from 7-14. I didn't eat anything at their house but I worked hard using what they had to make meals the boys enjoyed. I don't think I would be interested in working for a family that had no flexibility. I work hard to feed them great tasting food. I want it too
There are companies that provide breakfast and afternoon snacks for their employees. Maybe not American ones but in other countriws they do. My first job was at McDs in the 80s. We were allowed certain meals according to our shift length for free. Our store was bought by a foreign corporate office and they wanted us to pay 50% for our meals. I quit. Why because every 15 minutes we were throwing trash can after trash can of uneaten food away. You can afford to throw dozens of burgers away every minute but you cant provide a single meal to your employees? I have au paired and I never wasnt fed on the job. Stingy people.
Well the kids could have allergies that the parents didn't mention so what if the nanny accidentally brought something the kids were allergies to but when nanny ain't watching manage to swipe one of their snacks and eat it not realizing there's something there are allergic to is in it this is an example as to why the nanny should be allowed to eat same foods as the kids or if the parents see it and gotten wrong idea some ppl xan be entitled and stupid most don't think on the consequences plus not all foods lists everything in it for instance those hidden Valley protein bars has ground up almonds in it baked in with oats yet no warning on label
I brought my own food when I was taking care of children. I preferred it that way. But my employers gave me money for gas and car maintenance, and eventually a new car of my own. And if I told them I wanted to take the children to the park and to McDonald's,they gave me a fistful of cash,no questions.
What’s the big deal? Most work places require you to bring your own food! An office, construction, bank etc. Get over yourself.
And for those saying when is she going to get a break to eat? Oh gee, I don’t know. How does a stay at home Mom do it? Do the children take naps? Don’t they ever play quietly alone or together in their room. Do they need constant nanny supervision? Ridiculous discussion!
Load More Replies... When I did baby sitting in high school, I was surprised by mothers who told me I could do NOTHING in their kitchen. But they explained to me that they were Jews who kept kosher and they needed me not to violate their system. I wonder if there are special dietary rules here that were not explained. Also food allergies could be an issue.
You worked for a Jewish family but still don't know the preferred term is JEWISH.
Load More Replies... I'd let my nanny eat my food, especially if she's there all day and cooking for the kids (with an off limits label for specific food items I had special plans for-- like "don't eat this lasagna, I'm bringing it to a pot luck.".) That said, I think it's totally reasonable to not include food in the compensation package. Most jobs pay you in money and leave the responsibility of providing your meals up to you. It also creates liability for parents who provide food to a nanny that makes her sick. If the nanny culture typically includes access to the pantry, I'm not going to hold hard and fast to my opinion. But I think it's unusual in most industries to expect your employer to include their own food in your compensation and benefits.
Most "employers" don't expect you to raise their kids almost as if you were part of the family. And most "employers" don't expect to keep you locked up in their house for ~12 hours a day everyday with no ability to clock out for an uninterrupted lunch break where they are off duty, while also expecting you to cook for their kid and clean said house etc. Stop trying to make standardized (toxic) hierarchical employer/employee relationships make sense where they just do not.
Load More Replies... While I can see someone thinking this is not nice or is completely acceptable, that doesn't really matter. What I've noticed is that in most situations nannies are not treated as real employees, neither by the people hiring them nor by the nanny themself. You need to have a working contract in place and have everything defined by that contract and both parties need to sign it. None of this "pay you under the table" stuff. Work out what you will get paid, food, time of service, any additional overtime that may be needed. All that stuff. Then no one has any right to complain about anything. When will people learn?
I was hired as a mother's helper for by a family with two children. This was not a live-in job, except on weekends when the family would head to their cottage. So - First weekend working for the family - I'm picked up at 5 PM Friday. We get to the cottage - I put the kids to bed - fine. Next day after breakfast, I head out to the park with the two kids, and they meet up with all their friends - families from the neighbourhood all vacation together, it seems. I am the only helper hired. 8+ kids from 5 different families and I'm working alone. When I was dropped at home Sunday evening, after 7 PM, they paid me. $20. Holy *ing crap.
First, shouldn't you have gotten a contract in writing about payment? $20 for an entire weekend even with just 2 kids is a full stop NO WAY. Second, it's pretty creepy for a nanny to go on vacation with a family, especially if you haven't worked for them very long. If I were your parents, I would have been extremely worried.
Load More Replies... I’ve had part time nannies in the past when my kids were young. 3 full days a week. I ended up having to work an extra shift per week to pay the extra in the food I was having to buy-it more than doubled! So I was working an additional 12 hrs a week (that brought me to 48 hours a week) to pay for someone else to eat-and eat they did! I finally pulled the plug and put my poor kiddos in daycare-it was by far cheaper believe me!
The parents are morons. If you leave your precious kids with someone, you should make sure she doesn't have any resentment towards you she could be letting off on your kids or making her quit out of the blue. On the other hand, how is a grown women not able to cook some food she only needs to warm up. I mean, everyone brings their food to work. Who is she only capable of bringing snacks?? I am sure they end up being more expensive that just making some normal food you can keep portions in the fridge... Yeah, sure. It would be nicer if she could cook for her and the kids the same, that's why I don't understand the parents, but her just binging random stuff for herself is worrisome. Is she even able to take care of herself?Americans are weird.
The parents are morons. If you leave your precious kids with someone, you should make sure she doesn't have any resentment towards you she could be letting off on your kids or making her quit out of the blue. On the other hand, how is a grown a**e women not able to cook some food she only needs to warm up. I mean, everyone brings their food to work. Who is she only capable of bringing snacks?? I am sure they end up being more expensive that just making some normal food you can keep portions in the fridge... Yeah, sure. It would be nicer if she could cook for her and the kids the same, that's why I don't understand the parents, but her just binging random stuff for herself is worrisome. Is she even able to take care of herself?Americans are weird.
Does your job have a legally required lunch break? Yes. It’s required at your job. Mine doesn’t have that. Nannies don’t receive that. learn about nannies and what we do :)
Load More Replies... "Despite her having to work a full day, she was asked to bring her own meals," Is that not the standard in the Workforce? Not just Nanny but like every where. I've never worked a single job that provided for me for free. I've worked full time for the last 13 years and have brought my own lunch every single day
It's not "for free" it's for cooking for and raising a child for them. It's part of the expected job package. Especially as not eating the same thing the kid does can cause extremely unnecessary conflict, and nannies can't just clock out to go somewhere else, or even just have a lunch break where they aren't still on duty. Stop treating the people you depend on for your lifestyñe as some kind of burden for the basics that go into keeping them around. And then maybe you won't have to raise your own kids
Load More Replies... Anyone who can afford a "nanny," can afford to eat them. Also, what a great lesson for the children: "WE pay them, they can BUY their OWN food
I would not even feel right about regularly eating someone else's food. Maybe a snack here or there would be appropriate, but the family not feeding you doesn't mean you need to bring a crappy lunch. Pack yourself something decent like an adult would. Can you imagine the mother who has worked all day and has been craving something she bought at the grocery store, only to come home and find out the nanny ate it..?
You're hired to take care of a child and you don't know how to pack yourself a lunch? Ok....not great credentials
I have been a full-time nanny for years, and I have never eaten any of their meals. I usually brought my own coffee and juices and sandwiches or leftovers in Tupperware. When their children would be at my house to do crafts, I would have them bring their lunches and snacks with them.
I call BS. My vote is the girl wanted to up her influencer viewers thru drama. Otherwise, If it is normal for the family to provide food then the girl showed bad judgement by either not reading THIS contract or by hiring on despite the rule. Lolololol adulting is difficult!!!! Most other places I know are half hour lunches and most people bring their lunch. Yes. I'm saying that. We only have the "luxury" of knowing the FORMER employee's side of this situation. We don't know why the family had this rule in place. They may have had an unfortunate situation occur with another nanny. We don't ACTUALLY know the family's financial situation. Again, If this was going to be such a big issue and a hardship for the girl, she should have not taken the job
Would it be nice for the family to let you eat their food? Yes. But if they don't want you to, that isn't really weird. Employers rarely provide food to their employees, and if they do it's a set amount of money per meal or day. Also, if a COMPANY provides you with meals, that's different than ONE HOUSEHOLD INCOME providing you access to as much food as you want.
Idk why y'all are ignoring that this isn't some office job? It's someone that's taking care of a child for 8-12 hours a day on a regular basis. Either that family doesn't care at all about their child, or they're expecting the child to actually eat during those times. And proper meals rather than just quick snacks that might be appropriate for a one off or even weekly date night kind of situation. Have you ever actually tried to handle a child who thinks it's unfair that someone else is eating something they can't have? Let alone doing so after cooking just for that kid while you're stuck with whatever can keep well in your bag? That's the kind of stress and built up anger that can snowball into abusive situations. Especially as hunger and improper nutrition badly affect emotional regulation and decision making. In such working conditions quitting early is the safest option, for all involved.
Load More Replies... Wow such an entitle nanny. She accepted this job with this condition and is now complaining and lamb blasting her employer on social media is not cool. She said yes to that condition when she could of said no. I always brought my own food when I use to sit and have never ever had issues with the children fighting or arguing for mine. You all sound very entitled and stuck up that demand free food especially when times are hard on all. Some parents have no choice but to rely on nannies even if they can barely afford them and live paycheck to paycheck. I would never hire this OP and would blacklist her in a heart beat as I would never want such a greedy hateful person around them....
I am sorry , but expecting to be fed is ridiculous! It is up to them to decide is they want you to dig in their firdge or not. You complain that you now have to eat unhealthy snacks? Well, you not being able to prepare a nice lunch for yourself is nobody elses problem but yours. I swear, only in the USA people can be that spoiled and entitled. And I see people commenting on au pair contracts. And I've had a friend with horrible au pair experience who were left without food and heating for a long weekend in the winter, when the posh family went abroad, but apparantly this is not an au pair situation.
It's enough they trust you in their house with their kids but to have you digging through their personal food to find yourself something to eat is just rude to assume it's ok, it's their choice employers don't provide you with free meals you have to pack your lunch and bring it yourself you shouldn't expect anybody to feed you that's your job that's why you're working to feed yourself and to pay your own rent. And for you to go on tik tok crying and whining about it is just shameful you're a grown woman grow up, so what the people didn't want you eating their food so what get over it you don't like it, do like you did you quit go find another job cry baby looking for free handouts and s**t it's people like you that make people like that.
This is the problem with employees assuming they can do what they want and the employers just going to foot the bill. WHY are you making such a big deal out of the eating their food for? Are you starving? YOU are focused on the food, why? You were going to quit either way for other reasons. It can not be that you didn't get to eat their food. If so you need to grow up and realize it's not their responsibility to make sure you have food. They are not your parents. They are your employer. Not one of my emoyers has ever provided my meals and beverages on the house. Grow Up and stop appearing to be an 8nfuencer only to show what an immature adult quitter is. Plus don't forget those you apply to have access to all social media just like you do. If I look you up and saw this I would skip right over you because entitlement isn't a good skill set.
You quit because they didn't allow you to eat their food? Did the compensation agreement include snacks, meals, and beverages? NO then you just expected that food and beverages woukd be on the house. Mature adults know you do NOT go into another's home and eat and drink what you want. It does not matter what your job was at the home. You could have been the Butler. But even a Butler knows they do not eat and drink the employers groceries. PERIOD. They should NOT have to pay you the full amount and pay for your groceries too. You could have ask if they would deduct $10 a day from your pay for your groceries. That's fair. But no you quit because you want full pay and Food and beverages included. NOT NEVER!
because you get lunch breaks, a nanny doesn't. They can't just stop looking after the kids to get lunch and come back. Plus the parents probably have a meal ready for the kids or told the nanny what to cook. Also the nanny here had like a bagel, fruit and snacks. So there could be a problem of the kids not wanting to eat their own food.
Load More Replies... They can afford a nanny. They can afford to feed her and not worry about their food for the week being “thrown off.”
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