Getting your child a car seat isn’t enough to protect them during a ride. You have to know how to correctly fasten them, too. Recently, Rebecca Tafaro Boyer, a nurse from Memphis, Tennessee has shared a nightmarish car crash story, proving parents can never let their guard down.
“[My husband], David, was traveling eastbound across an overpass at nearly fifty miles an hour when a woman traveling westbound crossed over three lanes of traffic in an effort to make a left turn onto an exit ramp located to my husbands right,” Rebecca told Bored Panda. “She clearly didn’t have enough time as he hit the front passenger side of her vehicle. We later found out that she had no license or insurance, and that this was her third offense driving without a license.”
David hit the brakes so hard, he fractured the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th metatarsals of his right foot. Luckily, he won’t need surgery. He isn’t allowed to walk on his right foot for the next 6-8 weeks, though. But their son, William, probably had his guardian angel on duty.
“William was completely uninjured during the crash,” Rebecca added. In fact, he didn’t even wake up from his nap. The parents, however, did everything in their power to make him the safest kid on the road. “I am a former NICU nurse so I knew lots of car seat basics, but in preparation for William’s arrival, we attended a child safety class prior to his birth that covered everything from CPR to car seats. Additionally, we spent some time reading our manual when the car seat arrived.”
“I wouldn’t say that we have become scared of car rides,” the mom said. “I don’t think it’s worth living in fear over something that can happen at any time and any place. But it certainly has reinforced that it is so important to strap William in correctly every single time, even when driving half a mile down the road.”
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This is Rebecca Tafaro Boyer, and some people might call her “naggy,” but Rebecca recently shared an emotional story to prove them wrong
“Friends, let’s have a quick chat about something that some of my family members think makes me a super annoying overprotective mom – car seat safety”
“My first day back from maternity leave, I demanded that my husband send me hourly updates and recaps on how baby William was handling his first day away from mommy”
“This afternoon around 2:15, I got a text from my hubby during their trip to Walgreens. My nagging wife reply was to correct William’s position in the car seat”
“At 2:30 my phone rang, my husband’s panicked voice came through the line, ‘Honey, we had a car wreck'”
“The boys were less than three miles from our house when a woman pulled into oncoming traffic to try and make a quick left turn”
“My precious little bundle of joy was so well restrained in his car seat, THAT HE DIDN’T EVEN WAKE UP”
Her husband, David, fractured the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th metatarsals of his right foot
“The car is a loss, but cars can be replaced – my boys can’t”
A lot of people reacted by sharing their own similar experiences
It bothers me that asking a husband to do something is considered nagging. Why does asking something reasonable have to have a negative connotation?
When does anything a man says get called "nagging"? That in itself is sexist.
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The, “My first day back from maternity leave, I demanded that my husband send me hourly updates and recaps" is a bit over the top but correcting the way the child was strapped into the car seat is understandable. Good for her on having her hubbie correct the car seat. Bad for her on demanding hourly updates. I'm certain the husband would be on the phone with her if something went wrong.
I kind of took the "demanded" part of it as an inside joke with them.
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Sorry to burst some bubbles, but maybe (just maybe) the baby would have slept through without changing/rearranging the belt and clips? There are so many myths out there, try not to go overboard: https://csftl.org/chest-clip-myths-busted/ We all want our children to be safe, but let's put things in the right perspective.
I will agree on that. My son used to sleep in his car seat with his head resting on the safety bar that was across the front of him (like the car seat in the picture). When my sister hit a horse on a freeway..he never woke up until we stopped the car and shut off the engine. And, side note, the horse walked away with a bruised cheek. carseat-5b...1a5fd.jpeg 
Yes because husbands are just so inept that they shouldn't be trusted with anything...the whole "hourly updates and photos" is very demeaning. I would be straight to the divorce lawyer on that comment alone....poor fellow
Only when we face the problem we ( atleast I am) are glad they kept nagging all along.
I don’t even know why she’s called a “nagging wife” for this or why she calls herself one for that matter. Such an annoying stereotype.
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Asked my sister in law to pick up my boys. Told her the car seat was outside my house on the steps. She said she didnt know how to work it. Drove my 3 year old home from daycare with no car seat. She is no longer on the emergency contact list nor do j ever ask her for help. She could have asked the daycare if she couldn't figure it out
Maybe the problem is car seat design... has there ever been a modern safety device so difficult to use? This is a problem that needs a serious rethink, particularly since we are hurtling towards an era of carsharing and on-demand driving services. You need something that snaps in and out of any model of vehicle instantly, that is much easier to carry, and that doesn't require a degree in nursing to correctly adjust. It's not user-friendly technology whatsoever.
A few standardised attachment points in armchairs is a good idea.
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And if she hadn't asked for frequent updates that kid might have very well been thrown from the car seat into, or even through, the windshield. Call it nagging if you want, but that kid is alive as a result.
It is a good thing the mom intuited that the father would not know how to take care if their child properly and demanded updates. It is too bad that she had to do that. Women can stop being nags when we live in a world in which we don't have to be nags because men actually do their fair share of domestic, emotional, and mental labor. Learning how to properly use a car seat is labor. Why did it not even occur to the dad to do this labor? (The answer is the reason women in straight couples 'nag').
Which is just fine. This article is not very good. It makes assumptions and counts them as facts. Here's some perspective from a TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=um5gMZcZWm0
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So, if they "knew" about car seat safety, why is the chest plate down so low on the baby? It should be at armpit level...
Haha!! Rokas. It really sounded so sweet to hear this in the morning hours only. It was really funny, inspiring, heart touching and sad of course that the husband had fracture. This seemed to be the highlight of complete post........... My precious little bundle of joy was so well restrained in his car seat, THAT HE DIDN’T EVEN WAKE UP”
I've seen my kid's friends riding in the front passenger seat since school age. My 11 year old still rides in the back seat. Air bags can kill and until she's tall enough to be safe if hit by one, she stays in the back. She never complains as she's never done any different.
Nag on and keep nagging. Never stop. I used to race cars for a living, I know what damage a crash can do. I have to say the worst things I’ve ever seen were on city streets, though. I’ve seen what a body looks like when it’s gone through a windshield....or someone who’s been impaled on a steering column....or flown through a window of a camper on the freeway at 70mph. //// My mother told me when I got my license: “This is not just a car. This is a 2000 pound weapon. You don’t have the RIGHT to drive, you have earned the priviledge of driving. Treat it with respect.”
Wish a lot more people were aware of it. The same with people who put children and babies on their lap because "there's not enough seats". Kids pop like a grape when in an accident and they sit on a lap with a seatbelt on.... or paint the pavement if they didn't have the seatbelt on.
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Women in general are simply judged more harshly than men in regards to parenting. That is how society is.
Women are judged more OFTEN simply because they're more often seen parenting. Frequency does not equal harshness.
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Poor child will have a hard time when he grows up. "Mom, is the condom now correctly applied?" "Acceptable, though it's still a bit big for you. Text me in 15 minutes and tell me how it's goin'. I want my baby to have safe sex". Now seriously, it looks like the whole article is screaming: don't let your children alone with their fathers, because men are all stupid and useless and put the babies at risk all the time.
I am the Mamaw I made sure my kids understood with all the babies. I bought new car seats every 3 years plus boosters when they got older. Yes in 24 years there were accidents and never an injury. I will be showing my son and daughter in law. Their first due in November. Can't wait
Nope, mansplaining is telling women what they already know. If a woman has installed the car seat wrong, then she obviously doesn't know. And this is not woman-splaining cuz you apparently didn't know this :-)
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It bothers me that asking a husband to do something is considered nagging. Why does asking something reasonable have to have a negative connotation?
When does anything a man says get called "nagging"? That in itself is sexist.
Load More Replies... The, “My first day back from maternity leave, I demanded that my husband send me hourly updates and recaps" is a bit over the top but correcting the way the child was strapped into the car seat is understandable. Good for her on having her hubbie correct the car seat. Bad for her on demanding hourly updates. I'm certain the husband would be on the phone with her if something went wrong.
I kind of took the "demanded" part of it as an inside joke with them.
Load More Replies... Sorry to burst some bubbles, but maybe (just maybe) the baby would have slept through without changing/rearranging the belt and clips? There are so many myths out there, try not to go overboard: https://csftl.org/chest-clip-myths-busted/ We all want our children to be safe, but let's put things in the right perspective.
I will agree on that. My son used to sleep in his car seat with his head resting on the safety bar that was across the front of him (like the car seat in the picture). When my sister hit a horse on a freeway..he never woke up until we stopped the car and shut off the engine. And, side note, the horse walked away with a bruised cheek. carseat-5b...1a5fd.jpeg
Yes because husbands are just so inept that they shouldn't be trusted with anything...the whole "hourly updates and photos" is very demeaning. I would be straight to the divorce lawyer on that comment alone....poor fellow
Only when we face the problem we ( atleast I am) are glad they kept nagging all along.
I don’t even know why she’s called a “nagging wife” for this or why she calls herself one for that matter. Such an annoying stereotype.
Load More Replies... Asked my sister in law to pick up my boys. Told her the car seat was outside my house on the steps. She said she didnt know how to work it. Drove my 3 year old home from daycare with no car seat. She is no longer on the emergency contact list nor do j ever ask her for help. She could have asked the daycare if she couldn't figure it out
Maybe the problem is car seat design... has there ever been a modern safety device so difficult to use? This is a problem that needs a serious rethink, particularly since we are hurtling towards an era of carsharing and on-demand driving services. You need something that snaps in and out of any model of vehicle instantly, that is much easier to carry, and that doesn't require a degree in nursing to correctly adjust. It's not user-friendly technology whatsoever.
A few standardised attachment points in armchairs is a good idea.
Load More Replies... And if she hadn't asked for frequent updates that kid might have very well been thrown from the car seat into, or even through, the windshield. Call it nagging if you want, but that kid is alive as a result.
It is a good thing the mom intuited that the father would not know how to take care if their child properly and demanded updates. It is too bad that she had to do that. Women can stop being nags when we live in a world in which we don't have to be nags because men actually do their fair share of domestic, emotional, and mental labor. Learning how to properly use a car seat is labor. Why did it not even occur to the dad to do this labor? (The answer is the reason women in straight couples 'nag').
Which is just fine. This article is not very good. It makes assumptions and counts them as facts. Here's some perspective from a TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=um5gMZcZWm0
Load More Replies... So, if they "knew" about car seat safety, why is the chest plate down so low on the baby? It should be at armpit level...
Haha!! Rokas. It really sounded so sweet to hear this in the morning hours only. It was really funny, inspiring, heart touching and sad of course that the husband had fracture. This seemed to be the highlight of complete post........... My precious little bundle of joy was so well restrained in his car seat, THAT HE DIDN’T EVEN WAKE UP”
I've seen my kid's friends riding in the front passenger seat since school age. My 11 year old still rides in the back seat. Air bags can kill and until she's tall enough to be safe if hit by one, she stays in the back. She never complains as she's never done any different.
Nag on and keep nagging. Never stop. I used to race cars for a living, I know what damage a crash can do. I have to say the worst things I’ve ever seen were on city streets, though. I’ve seen what a body looks like when it’s gone through a windshield....or someone who’s been impaled on a steering column....or flown through a window of a camper on the freeway at 70mph. //// My mother told me when I got my license: “This is not just a car. This is a 2000 pound weapon. You don’t have the RIGHT to drive, you have earned the priviledge of driving. Treat it with respect.”
Wish a lot more people were aware of it. The same with people who put children and babies on their lap because "there's not enough seats". Kids pop like a grape when in an accident and they sit on a lap with a seatbelt on.... or paint the pavement if they didn't have the seatbelt on.
Load More Replies... Women in general are simply judged more harshly than men in regards to parenting. That is how society is.
Women are judged more OFTEN simply because they're more often seen parenting. Frequency does not equal harshness.
Load More Replies... Poor child will have a hard time when he grows up. "Mom, is the condom now correctly applied?" "Acceptable, though it's still a bit big for you. Text me in 15 minutes and tell me how it's goin'. I want my baby to have safe sex". Now seriously, it looks like the whole article is screaming: don't let your children alone with their fathers, because men are all stupid and useless and put the babies at risk all the time.
I am the Mamaw I made sure my kids understood with all the babies. I bought new car seats every 3 years plus boosters when they got older. Yes in 24 years there were accidents and never an injury. I will be showing my son and daughter in law. Their first due in November. Can't wait
Nope, mansplaining is telling women what they already know. If a woman has installed the car seat wrong, then she obviously doesn't know. And this is not woman-splaining cuz you apparently didn't know this :-)
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