This one guy showed up in my school and he seemed like a nice person when I first met him. But soon he started saying inappropriate things that escalated to touching my chest or poking my thigh. He was sexually harassing me, and I felt gross.
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Recently I told my “ best friend” that I might be non-binary and she goes oh u want to be bi. Like how did u get that idea. So she goes and tells everyone and I’m pissed u know. So news travels fast and some boy starts faking being sick around me and saying that he’s ilergic ( I cant spell) to bis. So fast forward to a week later 2 more boys are doing it worse of all my so called best friend treats me like dirt and sides with the kid. My mom went full mama bear when I told her. Fast forward 1 week the kid expelled and the other suspended. Now me and my so called best friend aren’t together or talking anymore I’m glad to be away from someone toxic like her
Ignorant people like that are pathetic and not worth knowing - it's sad to lose what you thought was a friend but ultimately you will be better off without her. I hope you soon meet others who are far more understanding.
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This story really got me in the feels. I'm so sorry for that young lady. It is not her fault at all.
This sort of thing happened to me and I didn't realize I had legal remedies I could have followed. I hope this young lady and the other girls who experienced this know they have the right to file a police report, to request a restraining order, and to even charge him criminally in court. It's a shame the school failed to act. I dare say these girls could even sue the school for not protecting them while in their care. These girls were not only assaulted, but failed by those who were supposed to be caring for them. This happens a lot and it pisses me off.
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Very simple. For women - be loud, be vocal and be adamant. Stand your ground and exclaim loudly, in class or wherever, for all to hear. Scream it loud and proud. Don’t touch me. Get away from me. I’m not sitting next to this guy keep him away from me. There is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. How does being victimized cause guilt? I can’t understand that. Ruin his life. Shame him into obscurity. How dare he think it’s ok or that he should be able to get away with it. I have daughters. I’ll be damned if I let them think they should be silent about anything. F**k that and f**k anyone who thinks otherwise.
Hell yes ! Don't get scared and silent, get ANGRY AND LOUD !! "HOW DARE YOU ? WHO DO YOU THINK I AM ??? "
Load More Replies... Record everything he does and file a police report. If it keeps happening, get a restraining order. This is sexual assault and if authorities won't do anything about it, you have the right to press charges and take him to court. The school authorities had an opportunity to fix this and have a discussion with this boy and his parents, which maybe could have helped everybody, but they failed and now your recourse it to take a legal route.
This is just wrong. Report him to someone other than the school, they would defenitley care more.
Take a course in krav magar, and next time he touches you break his hand!
I grew up in the '90s in a small town in Romania. Back then, things like these happened on a daily basis. Boys were lifting girls' skirts, touching their intimate parts, etc. I was one of the first to develop curves in my class and the first victim. I reported them to the teachers and my parents got involved. The answer was "kids will be kids". It didn't stop until I started fighting back, hard. I will never forget the humiliation. I hope things changed since then. Education starts at home.
*claps* Well done for standing up for yourself when no one else did! That takes courage! <3 <3
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A similar thing happened to me, but it was my best (male) friend at the time. For me the betrayal was way worse than the act.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope things get better, since I know it takes time to recover. <3
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Sexual harassment in school should be illegal! Like bullying should be illegal,too. School officials should step in, and if they had, that young girl who was killed, would be alive! Let parents know, that if their child is sexually harassing another student, or bullying mentally or verbally or physically, they will be kicked out of school! No law suit, as the rules were made clear to parents and students. If they fight, the teachers will break it up, and the instigator will be expelled. And the family of the victim will be able and should, file charges. In the case of sexual harassment, the same rules should apply! Verbally harass, write notes or physically harrasss a student, hey get expelled. The victims family can and should file charges, and no victim will face further harassment for doing so, from any other students! This makes it easier for kids to report it, and teachers to do something about it, without fear of reprisal! Teacher student sexual or bullying harassment cont.
The problem is separating the actual cases of bullying and harassment from the fake ones. Teenagers are brutal when it comes to treating each other decently (some adults too for that matter.) Hormones run high, jealousies ensue. Some teens may use it to exact revenge on a rival. Just like men falsely accused of rape have a hard time recovering from the accusations even if they are innocent, people who are wrongly accused of bullying and harassment could find themselves struggling to make others believe they didn't do such horrible things. Ask the New York school system how many teachers they suspended because of false accusations by a student that was upset that a teacher was threatening to fail them.
Load More Replies... I had this happen when I was in high school. A guy that acted all nice and would volunteer to drive me off school grounds at lunch (only juniors and seniors were allowed to leave school grounds at lunch.) He took his "volunteering" as a debt that had to be repaid. We had one class together and he would sit in the back of the class next to me and rub my back or touch my thigh..every day..even when I told him "no". Finally..one day..I had enough. While the teacher was talking , he reached out and started rubbing my back again. I said loudly "Please Stop!" He quickly retracted his hand and moved away from me. The teacher said "Is there a problem?" I replied "not anymore." The guy never sat next to me again and never bothered me again. It's too bad he had to ruin a perfectly good friendship by pushing things too far. My suggestion to these girls...start calling him out publicly for his bad behavior. He will learn his bad habit is not acceptable real fast.
I think its important to have conversations with our children when they are old enough to understand sexual concepts about the appropriate reactions for these kinds of situations. We need to empower young people/children/even adults to not be afraid to "make a scene" when made to feel uncomfortable and especially when there is physical contact made. I feel like many people react how this young women did, laughing nervously, trying to dissipate the uncomfortable feelings of the situation, but what really what needs to happen is a the victim needs to boldly and loudly voice their protest for everyone around to hear. This is the appropriate reaction to sexual harassment of any kind and it makes the perpetrator feel embarrassed, called out and gets other people involved in the immediate situation. Teach young people that they do not have to be polite in these kinds of situations.
I'm sorry but there comes a point when you are assaulted you need to be able to defend yourself - physically and screw the consequences
In the old days if a young man got 'too fresh,' i.e. put his hands somewhere he shouldn't, the girl would slap his face and loudly proclaim, "How dare you!" Ladies, maybe it's time to pull this old custom out of the past and start applying it today. It exposes the cad immediately and who knows, maybe we can bring back good-old-fashioned shame to curb these pushy fools.
I think that was only ever done in old movies, actually.
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I think it would be good if girls and women, and indeed men aswell, were to learn about their legal rights, if this happens to them. It should be a specific topic, from a young age, so that no one can say that "they didn't know". Maybe even in Kindergarten, that girls, and boys, learn this, and it would be so good if they learned it from their parents aswell. No one can claim that it's all right! This sort of behaviour is so very outdated, and shame on the school for not doing anything to help the girls!!
It is about time that girls are saved from acquiring the "we-have-to-keep-quiet-about-what-the-creep-is-doing" complex. It is mainly up to their FATHERS to teach them not to allow such behaviour, because hearing it from a man protects them from taking feminazi accusations to heart.
what about girls who don't have fathers around?
Load More Replies... A man at work touches everyone in a “fun old guy slap on the back” way, but with young women... myself included... he grabs our arms. Shakes them. Grabs our shoulders, dangerously close to breast. He is a creep, and saying “hey please don’t” didn’t stop the behavior. Neither did HR. He’s being friendly they say, he’s done nothing wrong, they say.
Remind HR that if they don't do something about the guy, they will have a lawsuit on their hands in under a week. Document everything you can, from the "assaults" to the visit to HR.
Load More Replies... I know this site is frequented by people all over the world, but if you live in the US, your school is LEGALLY REQUIRED under Title IX to: (1) investigate your complaint, (2) stop any unlawful harassment, (3) prevent its recurrence, (4) remedy any harm that resulted from the harassment, and (5) protect you from retaliation. For more info go to https://www.knowyourix.org/
6th grade, breasts in full development, the class's troublemaker (who was 2 weeks away from forcefully transferring schools or else he'll get expelled, thus permanently ruining his chances of ever getting accepted into a good one again) ran towards me and full on grabbed my boobs. After a moment of shock, I looked at his hands STILL attached to my chest, then made eye contact with him and I snapped. The next thing I remember was him crying curled up in a ball on the floor and threatening to go to the principal's office. Needless to say that didn't happen and for the remainder of the 2 weeks, each time he walked in the classroom and saw me, he'd run out until he could enter again accompanied by friends.
I live in a small city in California with a population ranging from middle-middle class to very wealthy. I read this story in our local paper about a year ago: An 8th-grade girl in one of our four K-8 schools was repeatedly sexually harassed by one boy, who touched her breasts, rubbed against her, etc. The girl and her parents reported the incidents to the principal several times, but nothing was done – the boy was not questioned or punished in any way. The girl and this boy were about to graduate to the city’s high school. The girl and her parents knew that the pattern of harassment / school administration doing nothing would continue for the next four years, which would have been intolerable. They moved out of the city so she could attend another high school. So the girl was punished for the boy’s crimes by having to leave all the friends she had made during her elementary school years.
That's horrible! I hope she finds good friends and is able to visit! <3
Load More Replies... This c**p seems to happen all the time. I had friend who was sexually harassed. She told her dad, and he was furious. He went all the way to the school superintendent. Nothing was done at all. My sister was also sexually harassed in elementary school. But, she was the one who got into trouble for "lying". I hate public school.
private school isn't any better
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If the pr*cks who run that school don't listen, talk to the police, talk to women's rights groups - talk to anybody who will listen! The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
I remember at a party (where people were drinking etc) when I was a teenager, I was outside talking to the hosts Mum and while I was talking to her, out of nowhere, this guy that had been standing near me, suddenly just reached inside my bra and cupped my boob, WHILE I WAS STILL TALKING TO THE MUM!? I remember yelling at him about it and then it was like it never happened, and no one said anything about it, not even the Mum. Only now, ten or so years later do I think back to that and realise what happened. I remember feeling embarrassed by it so I never spoke about it, and it still makes me feel gross to think about it.
Well, in Eastern Europe this case would be solved quickly: if the guy does not understand clear "NO" he will be beaten till he cannot raise his hands anymore.
Once, a friend put his hand on my thigh. He's a foot taller than me, and much stronger, so I didn't start a fight. I said "Get your hand off me." He laughed a little. I told him, "If you don't move, I will hurt you." He didn't. I slapped him, hard. My whole table heard. They told him to back off, and he did. Then, a while later, he did it again. I waited one moment to see if he would move, then slapped him twice. He did it a third time, and I bruised his arm and slapped again. He later apologized and didn't know that not everyone is okay with that. I told him that he should ask before EVER doing that again. He said sorry again. We're still friends, and he hasn't done it since. <3
"He later apologized and didn't know that not everyone is okay with that." So, he was a very slow learner was he? Told twice, slapped three times, and he still didn't get it?
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That dude would've gotten a knee to the groin faster than he could reach out for a feel. Just TRY to put your hands on me! Maybe then...the school would do something about it...
Lol. You wouldn’t have done s**t. Quit with the keyboard bravery
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A boy in my daughter's class kept touching her, smacking or flicking her bottom. It made her really furious (understandably). We tried a couple of ways for her to address it herself, but nothing worked. She refused to talk to the teacher about it. So when I was in the school a couple of days later, I just went over to the boy and very quietly and gently said, "Whatever body part of yours next touches my daughter, I'm going to break it." I gave him several seconds of death stare and walked away. Funnily enough, he never touched her again. Brutal for a kid that age, but it made him reconsider his choices big time. I did a lot of "dad" type things, raising my daughter alone as a single mom. (Side story: in high school, the boys took a vote on whose dad they were most afraid of. One of them let me know I won the vote. LOL.)
oh my GAWD..are you some 17th century maiden? Are we STILL raising girls to be people pleasers that can't say no, stop, or God forbid just ignore rude people? The guy shows you an inappropriate picture, you say (now this is complicated and hard) "That's gross, why would you show me that?" then you don't continue to talk to him, you don't have intimate one on one conversations with guys that you feel weird around. YOU HAVE POWER, you are not helpless, depending on others for your feelings. No one can MAKE you feel anything OWN your own feelings. You laughed at the obscenity, continued to be friendly and are feeling all oppressed because HE didn't understand what you were feeling and hiding from him.
the FIRST time someone pokes/touches/shows you something inappropriate you slap his hand away and you cut him cold anytime he wanted to try to talk to you.
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Homeschool! public schools SUCK these days because they do absolutely NOTHING to stop things like this! at homeschool u can just ignore peoples like that, if there are anything. so go homeschool and smash the schools stupid face down into the dirt
The issue with that is that a lot of parents don't have the chance. They need to work in order to bring home money, or need to do other things. :b
Load More Replies... I'm not at all surprised that the school didn't do anything. It's like the "zero tolerance for bullying" stance - it really just means that the teachers just pretend it isn't happening and refuse to hear any evidence to the contrary. My step-granddaughter go in trouble for punching a bully who was constantly pulling her hair and pinching her. He got off scot-free despite doing it constantly to numerous other kids.
But that bully didn’t do it again afterwards, did they? Who cares if they get in trouble, having respect and stopping the negative behaviors is far more important.
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tell your parents report to authorities what he does and what your school does not
I don't think this is really sexual harassment, but it is a violation of personal space: A few months ago, I was walking to my locker and a boy thought it'd be funny to grab the part of my backpack that you put on the hook and then pull me back with it. I told a teacher about it later that day, she said "I'm not trying to excuse his behavior, but maybe he's just trying to be playful."
she IS trying to excuse his behavior.
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GAH! Don't touch strangers. Not school mates. Not coworkers. Not people on public transport. Ask if they want you to fix their shirt tag or let them know food is on their face. Its ok if you have to tap them on the shoulder to ask to scoot by in a crowd but that is IT. Don't touch strangers.
I had similar at school but in my day it was "oh it's just boys being boys". Very sad and angry for me! I learned as adult, any time it serious, write letter! And send to person and cc news station. Or this day and age, put on social media with friends who have same issue and name guilty party. (School in this case.) Then hashtag the issue and @ the news. Will get school attention then!
I am so sorry, you probably won't read these comments, this is awful. It has been happening to me when I was in school and that was 18 years ago. I am so hoping at some point this will stop. How is it still ok for things like this to happen? I know how it feels to react slowly, it takes a few times to really get the courage and stand up for yourself. good that you and your friends found that courage. you did the right thing by reporting him. I did too and in my case, the school as well as company (I was an apprentice) did nothing and just laughed it off. I so hope things will change. All the best and hugs!
You are right Carol. But I just can’t stand it that sexual harassment against girls and boys is even tolerated! Especially if there is a witness. I wish it were easier to tell whose lying and whose not. In a better world....
Another girl met with her and others, then they reported him.
Load More Replies... Is illegal, and the teacher should be put on paid leave until the incident is investigated, there should be a monetary bond placed on their suspension that if they skip, they lose that money, and if they are caught in the act, or pictures or letters are presented at time of report, then the teacher should be arrested,ASAP. Like they are. We need to make our schools and children safe! What happened to doing this?
The perpetrator is another student, not a teacher
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While I appreciate what BP is trying with these videos, I hope they'll be careful to not become too preachy. They'll undo themselves if they don't watch their tone, or if they don't include issues faced by a wider range of demographics.
Women are 50% of the population. What larger demographics are you talking about?
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"Not victim blaming," you say? I beg to differ. (Also, "entirely partly"?)
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Did you watch it, she says he was doing this to several other girls and they reported it together
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Recently I told my “ best friend” that I might be non-binary and she goes oh u want to be bi. Like how did u get that idea. So she goes and tells everyone and I’m pissed u know. So news travels fast and some boy starts faking being sick around me and saying that he’s ilergic ( I cant spell) to bis. So fast forward to a week later 2 more boys are doing it worse of all my so called best friend treats me like dirt and sides with the kid. My mom went full mama bear when I told her. Fast forward 1 week the kid expelled and the other suspended. Now me and my so called best friend aren’t together or talking anymore I’m glad to be away from someone toxic like her
Ignorant people like that are pathetic and not worth knowing - it's sad to lose what you thought was a friend but ultimately you will be better off without her. I hope you soon meet others who are far more understanding.
Load More Replies... This story really got me in the feels. I'm so sorry for that young lady. It is not her fault at all.
This sort of thing happened to me and I didn't realize I had legal remedies I could have followed. I hope this young lady and the other girls who experienced this know they have the right to file a police report, to request a restraining order, and to even charge him criminally in court. It's a shame the school failed to act. I dare say these girls could even sue the school for not protecting them while in their care. These girls were not only assaulted, but failed by those who were supposed to be caring for them. This happens a lot and it pisses me off.
Load More Replies... Very simple. For women - be loud, be vocal and be adamant. Stand your ground and exclaim loudly, in class or wherever, for all to hear. Scream it loud and proud. Don’t touch me. Get away from me. I’m not sitting next to this guy keep him away from me. There is nothing to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. How does being victimized cause guilt? I can’t understand that. Ruin his life. Shame him into obscurity. How dare he think it’s ok or that he should be able to get away with it. I have daughters. I’ll be damned if I let them think they should be silent about anything. F**k that and f**k anyone who thinks otherwise.
Hell yes ! Don't get scared and silent, get ANGRY AND LOUD !! "HOW DARE YOU ? WHO DO YOU THINK I AM ??? "
Load More Replies... Record everything he does and file a police report. If it keeps happening, get a restraining order. This is sexual assault and if authorities won't do anything about it, you have the right to press charges and take him to court. The school authorities had an opportunity to fix this and have a discussion with this boy and his parents, which maybe could have helped everybody, but they failed and now your recourse it to take a legal route.
This is just wrong. Report him to someone other than the school, they would defenitley care more.
Take a course in krav magar, and next time he touches you break his hand!
I grew up in the '90s in a small town in Romania. Back then, things like these happened on a daily basis. Boys were lifting girls' skirts, touching their intimate parts, etc. I was one of the first to develop curves in my class and the first victim. I reported them to the teachers and my parents got involved. The answer was "kids will be kids". It didn't stop until I started fighting back, hard. I will never forget the humiliation. I hope things changed since then. Education starts at home.
*claps* Well done for standing up for yourself when no one else did! That takes courage! <3 <3
Load More Replies... A similar thing happened to me, but it was my best (male) friend at the time. For me the betrayal was way worse than the act.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope things get better, since I know it takes time to recover. <3
Load More Replies... Sexual harassment in school should be illegal! Like bullying should be illegal,too. School officials should step in, and if they had, that young girl who was killed, would be alive! Let parents know, that if their child is sexually harassing another student, or bullying mentally or verbally or physically, they will be kicked out of school! No law suit, as the rules were made clear to parents and students. If they fight, the teachers will break it up, and the instigator will be expelled. And the family of the victim will be able and should, file charges. In the case of sexual harassment, the same rules should apply! Verbally harass, write notes or physically harrasss a student, hey get expelled. The victims family can and should file charges, and no victim will face further harassment for doing so, from any other students! This makes it easier for kids to report it, and teachers to do something about it, without fear of reprisal! Teacher student sexual or bullying harassment cont.
The problem is separating the actual cases of bullying and harassment from the fake ones. Teenagers are brutal when it comes to treating each other decently (some adults too for that matter.) Hormones run high, jealousies ensue. Some teens may use it to exact revenge on a rival. Just like men falsely accused of rape have a hard time recovering from the accusations even if they are innocent, people who are wrongly accused of bullying and harassment could find themselves struggling to make others believe they didn't do such horrible things. Ask the New York school system how many teachers they suspended because of false accusations by a student that was upset that a teacher was threatening to fail them.
Load More Replies... I had this happen when I was in high school. A guy that acted all nice and would volunteer to drive me off school grounds at lunch (only juniors and seniors were allowed to leave school grounds at lunch.) He took his "volunteering" as a debt that had to be repaid. We had one class together and he would sit in the back of the class next to me and rub my back or touch my thigh..every day..even when I told him "no". Finally..one day..I had enough. While the teacher was talking , he reached out and started rubbing my back again. I said loudly "Please Stop!" He quickly retracted his hand and moved away from me. The teacher said "Is there a problem?" I replied "not anymore." The guy never sat next to me again and never bothered me again. It's too bad he had to ruin a perfectly good friendship by pushing things too far. My suggestion to these girls...start calling him out publicly for his bad behavior. He will learn his bad habit is not acceptable real fast.
I think its important to have conversations with our children when they are old enough to understand sexual concepts about the appropriate reactions for these kinds of situations. We need to empower young people/children/even adults to not be afraid to "make a scene" when made to feel uncomfortable and especially when there is physical contact made. I feel like many people react how this young women did, laughing nervously, trying to dissipate the uncomfortable feelings of the situation, but what really what needs to happen is a the victim needs to boldly and loudly voice their protest for everyone around to hear. This is the appropriate reaction to sexual harassment of any kind and it makes the perpetrator feel embarrassed, called out and gets other people involved in the immediate situation. Teach young people that they do not have to be polite in these kinds of situations.
I'm sorry but there comes a point when you are assaulted you need to be able to defend yourself - physically and screw the consequences
In the old days if a young man got 'too fresh,' i.e. put his hands somewhere he shouldn't, the girl would slap his face and loudly proclaim, "How dare you!" Ladies, maybe it's time to pull this old custom out of the past and start applying it today. It exposes the cad immediately and who knows, maybe we can bring back good-old-fashioned shame to curb these pushy fools.
I think that was only ever done in old movies, actually.
Load More Replies... I think it would be good if girls and women, and indeed men aswell, were to learn about their legal rights, if this happens to them. It should be a specific topic, from a young age, so that no one can say that "they didn't know". Maybe even in Kindergarten, that girls, and boys, learn this, and it would be so good if they learned it from their parents aswell. No one can claim that it's all right! This sort of behaviour is so very outdated, and shame on the school for not doing anything to help the girls!!
It is about time that girls are saved from acquiring the "we-have-to-keep-quiet-about-what-the-creep-is-doing" complex. It is mainly up to their FATHERS to teach them not to allow such behaviour, because hearing it from a man protects them from taking feminazi accusations to heart.
what about girls who don't have fathers around?
Load More Replies... A man at work touches everyone in a “fun old guy slap on the back” way, but with young women... myself included... he grabs our arms. Shakes them. Grabs our shoulders, dangerously close to breast. He is a creep, and saying “hey please don’t” didn’t stop the behavior. Neither did HR. He’s being friendly they say, he’s done nothing wrong, they say.
Remind HR that if they don't do something about the guy, they will have a lawsuit on their hands in under a week. Document everything you can, from the "assaults" to the visit to HR.
Load More Replies... I know this site is frequented by people all over the world, but if you live in the US, your school is LEGALLY REQUIRED under Title IX to: (1) investigate your complaint, (2) stop any unlawful harassment, (3) prevent its recurrence, (4) remedy any harm that resulted from the harassment, and (5) protect you from retaliation. For more info go to https://www.knowyourix.org/
6th grade, breasts in full development, the class's troublemaker (who was 2 weeks away from forcefully transferring schools or else he'll get expelled, thus permanently ruining his chances of ever getting accepted into a good one again) ran towards me and full on grabbed my boobs. After a moment of shock, I looked at his hands STILL attached to my chest, then made eye contact with him and I snapped. The next thing I remember was him crying curled up in a ball on the floor and threatening to go to the principal's office. Needless to say that didn't happen and for the remainder of the 2 weeks, each time he walked in the classroom and saw me, he'd run out until he could enter again accompanied by friends.
I live in a small city in California with a population ranging from middle-middle class to very wealthy. I read this story in our local paper about a year ago: An 8th-grade girl in one of our four K-8 schools was repeatedly sexually harassed by one boy, who touched her breasts, rubbed against her, etc. The girl and her parents reported the incidents to the principal several times, but nothing was done – the boy was not questioned or punished in any way. The girl and this boy were about to graduate to the city’s high school. The girl and her parents knew that the pattern of harassment / school administration doing nothing would continue for the next four years, which would have been intolerable. They moved out of the city so she could attend another high school. So the girl was punished for the boy’s crimes by having to leave all the friends she had made during her elementary school years.
That's horrible! I hope she finds good friends and is able to visit! <3
Load More Replies... This c**p seems to happen all the time. I had friend who was sexually harassed. She told her dad, and he was furious. He went all the way to the school superintendent. Nothing was done at all. My sister was also sexually harassed in elementary school. But, she was the one who got into trouble for "lying". I hate public school.
private school isn't any better
Load More Replies... If the pr*cks who run that school don't listen, talk to the police, talk to women's rights groups - talk to anybody who will listen! The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
I remember at a party (where people were drinking etc) when I was a teenager, I was outside talking to the hosts Mum and while I was talking to her, out of nowhere, this guy that had been standing near me, suddenly just reached inside my bra and cupped my boob, WHILE I WAS STILL TALKING TO THE MUM!? I remember yelling at him about it and then it was like it never happened, and no one said anything about it, not even the Mum. Only now, ten or so years later do I think back to that and realise what happened. I remember feeling embarrassed by it so I never spoke about it, and it still makes me feel gross to think about it.
Well, in Eastern Europe this case would be solved quickly: if the guy does not understand clear "NO" he will be beaten till he cannot raise his hands anymore.
Once, a friend put his hand on my thigh. He's a foot taller than me, and much stronger, so I didn't start a fight. I said "Get your hand off me." He laughed a little. I told him, "If you don't move, I will hurt you." He didn't. I slapped him, hard. My whole table heard. They told him to back off, and he did. Then, a while later, he did it again. I waited one moment to see if he would move, then slapped him twice. He did it a third time, and I bruised his arm and slapped again. He later apologized and didn't know that not everyone is okay with that. I told him that he should ask before EVER doing that again. He said sorry again. We're still friends, and he hasn't done it since. <3
"He later apologized and didn't know that not everyone is okay with that." So, he was a very slow learner was he? Told twice, slapped three times, and he still didn't get it?
Load More Replies... That dude would've gotten a knee to the groin faster than he could reach out for a feel. Just TRY to put your hands on me! Maybe then...the school would do something about it...
Lol. You wouldn’t have done s**t. Quit with the keyboard bravery
Load More Replies... A boy in my daughter's class kept touching her, smacking or flicking her bottom. It made her really furious (understandably). We tried a couple of ways for her to address it herself, but nothing worked. She refused to talk to the teacher about it. So when I was in the school a couple of days later, I just went over to the boy and very quietly and gently said, "Whatever body part of yours next touches my daughter, I'm going to break it." I gave him several seconds of death stare and walked away. Funnily enough, he never touched her again. Brutal for a kid that age, but it made him reconsider his choices big time. I did a lot of "dad" type things, raising my daughter alone as a single mom. (Side story: in high school, the boys took a vote on whose dad they were most afraid of. One of them let me know I won the vote. LOL.)
oh my GAWD..are you some 17th century maiden? Are we STILL raising girls to be people pleasers that can't say no, stop, or God forbid just ignore rude people? The guy shows you an inappropriate picture, you say (now this is complicated and hard) "That's gross, why would you show me that?" then you don't continue to talk to him, you don't have intimate one on one conversations with guys that you feel weird around. YOU HAVE POWER, you are not helpless, depending on others for your feelings. No one can MAKE you feel anything OWN your own feelings. You laughed at the obscenity, continued to be friendly and are feeling all oppressed because HE didn't understand what you were feeling and hiding from him.
the FIRST time someone pokes/touches/shows you something inappropriate you slap his hand away and you cut him cold anytime he wanted to try to talk to you.
Load More Replies... Homeschool! public schools SUCK these days because they do absolutely NOTHING to stop things like this! at homeschool u can just ignore peoples like that, if there are anything. so go homeschool and smash the schools stupid face down into the dirt
The issue with that is that a lot of parents don't have the chance. They need to work in order to bring home money, or need to do other things. :b
Load More Replies... I'm not at all surprised that the school didn't do anything. It's like the "zero tolerance for bullying" stance - it really just means that the teachers just pretend it isn't happening and refuse to hear any evidence to the contrary. My step-granddaughter go in trouble for punching a bully who was constantly pulling her hair and pinching her. He got off scot-free despite doing it constantly to numerous other kids.
But that bully didn’t do it again afterwards, did they? Who cares if they get in trouble, having respect and stopping the negative behaviors is far more important.
Load More Replies... tell your parents report to authorities what he does and what your school does not
I don't think this is really sexual harassment, but it is a violation of personal space: A few months ago, I was walking to my locker and a boy thought it'd be funny to grab the part of my backpack that you put on the hook and then pull me back with it. I told a teacher about it later that day, she said "I'm not trying to excuse his behavior, but maybe he's just trying to be playful."
she IS trying to excuse his behavior.
Load More Replies... GAH! Don't touch strangers. Not school mates. Not coworkers. Not people on public transport. Ask if they want you to fix their shirt tag or let them know food is on their face. Its ok if you have to tap them on the shoulder to ask to scoot by in a crowd but that is IT. Don't touch strangers.
I had similar at school but in my day it was "oh it's just boys being boys". Very sad and angry for me! I learned as adult, any time it serious, write letter! And send to person and cc news station. Or this day and age, put on social media with friends who have same issue and name guilty party. (School in this case.) Then hashtag the issue and @ the news. Will get school attention then!
I am so sorry, you probably won't read these comments, this is awful. It has been happening to me when I was in school and that was 18 years ago. I am so hoping at some point this will stop. How is it still ok for things like this to happen? I know how it feels to react slowly, it takes a few times to really get the courage and stand up for yourself. good that you and your friends found that courage. you did the right thing by reporting him. I did too and in my case, the school as well as company (I was an apprentice) did nothing and just laughed it off. I so hope things will change. All the best and hugs!
You are right Carol. But I just can’t stand it that sexual harassment against girls and boys is even tolerated! Especially if there is a witness. I wish it were easier to tell whose lying and whose not. In a better world....
Another girl met with her and others, then they reported him.
Load More Replies... Is illegal, and the teacher should be put on paid leave until the incident is investigated, there should be a monetary bond placed on their suspension that if they skip, they lose that money, and if they are caught in the act, or pictures or letters are presented at time of report, then the teacher should be arrested,ASAP. Like they are. We need to make our schools and children safe! What happened to doing this?
The perpetrator is another student, not a teacher
Load More Replies... While I appreciate what BP is trying with these videos, I hope they'll be careful to not become too preachy. They'll undo themselves if they don't watch their tone, or if they don't include issues faced by a wider range of demographics.
Women are 50% of the population. What larger demographics are you talking about?
Load More Replies... "Not victim blaming," you say? I beg to differ. (Also, "entirely partly"?)
Load More Replies... Did you watch it, she says he was doing this to several other girls and they reported it together
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