Stay-At-Home Mom Goes Viral With 2.1M Likes For Showing What She Does All Day After BF Blames Her For Doing Nothing
It is said that parenting is one of the most rewarding experiences in a person’s life. But it also comes with a lot of responsibilities, fears, and new challenges. And to overcome it all, parents need time and patience. To take care of kids means that you need to give them all your time and focus, and this might be equal to a job without working hours as they will need you 24/7.
Even though we might think that everyone understands how hard it is to raise a kid, some people in society hold the thought that stay-at-home parents do nothing. Bored Panda already covered a story about a stay-at-home mom who shared her struggles of raising her kid and how unappreciated she feels.
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A TikTok user who is a mom to two little kids shared what she does all day
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It was emphasized that people don’t see this as a job because it doesn’t bring you monetary value. Even though parents are responsible for raising a good, helpful and honest member of society, some say that what these parents (usually mothers) do is just sit at home and do nothing important. We can all agree that other opinions don’t matter, but what to do if someone from your personal surroundings feels this way?
She decided to make this video after her boyfriend told her that she doesn’t do anything all day while he works
In the video, she constantly runs around the house taking care of her kids and making sure that the house is clean
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TikTok user @sierra_not_ciara shared her day of being a stay-at-home-mom. At the beginning of her video, she stated that her boyfriend claims that she does nothing all day while he works. So, she decided to make a video that would show what a mother of two does all day. The video became viral with 10.7M views. In her video, she showed how she does her chores, takes care of the kids and the house. She filmed herself constantly giving her attention to two little ones, cleaning, washing, and mopping when she has a spare minute.
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At the end of her video, she tells that once she is done with everything, she texts her boyfriend to ask what he wants for dinner, as it is evening already, but this time she decided to have some time for herself and fix herself a drink. Finally, she ended her video by expressing her frustration towards men who don’t appreciate their women for everything that they do.
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The comments of the video were turned off, but later on, the TikToker commented on this situation by releasing two more videos with her boyfriend. Apparently, the man received some hateful messages about the situation. So Sierra asked people to stop it as she made the video after a fight that they had, so this was the way she decided to express her feelings of being hurt. In the video, they cleared up the situation and showed that they both are on good terms.
It seems that most of the time she has to multitask
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What is known so far about stay-at-home moms and dads shows that people need to talk more about these things, discuss the problems, and find out each other’s needs. Only through discussion are people able to understand that they are not alone, get the help and support they need, and break certain stereotypes.
What is your opinion on this issue? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments down below!
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She needs a better boyfriend. A mother is a full time job that never ends. If he can't appreciate or respect that, she needs to find someone who does.
Sounds like a great idea on the surface but it's hard enough to find a decent partner, let alone one willing to deal with someone else's biological kids and the additional drama if that old person still has contact.
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Firstly, that's a horrible thing to say by her boyfriend. Child care is a 24/7 job and she also has all the house chores to do also. He should be more supportive rather than just demean what she is doing. Gosh, it isn't rocket science.
And the mess is way more than when you have just adults or adults and older kids in the home. The cleaning is constant. I did some all day stints babysitting my 3 year old nephew. One kid. I spent all day cleaning up after him, feeding him, and trying to keep him from injuring himself or the house. I would get to have a little fun time playing with him, but mostly it was work. And I wasn't trying to do any major house cleaning chores or grocery shop or anything like that. Just maintenance level stuff. It was way more tiring than a typical day at my job and, while I enjoyed spending time with him, the work was mostly tedious and there were no other grownups to talk to.
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My ex husband was the same, especially when our daughter was at the crawling stage. I had to watch her constantly, because that's my job, to keep her safe and still allow her to explore and develop. I never realised just how abusive he was until we split up. He was always saying things to hurt me, controlled all the finances etc. I would have loved to have him stay home for a day to look after our daughter but to be honest I didn't trust him to do a good enough job!
Am so glad you’re out of that situation. You deserve so much better 🧡
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So much of housework consists of things that no one notices if you do them, but they certainly will if they don't.
I think sometimes people do chores that aren't necessary, though. There are more chores when there are two kids, but I know that when I was younger and lived alone in an apartment, there were very few chores to be done.
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I wouldn't even bother to do all this as a proof!! What does HE do? I would say f**k you we are done! Bye!
My ex-husband did this, even after taking a month of paternity leave to help
He may have had a skewed idea of the amount of work that needed to be done if you were also there at home with the baby. Something that is totally manageable for two can be overwhelming for one.
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If you are living together with a significant other (married or otherwise), it doesn't matter who is bringing in the money. It matters that both parties are contributing. If this guy thinks she does nothing because she doesn't bring in the cash, she needs a better partner.
Girl, ditch that manchild who clearly doesn't know how the world works, and he sure as hell does not appreciate your labors. He is only adding to your workload. Single motherhood is preferable to this hellscape. Get child support, and plenty of it. Get back to school. Upgrade your skills. Find a job, and start there. In 3 years you'll be further ahead and much happier than living as a drudge to some loser who does not respect you. Don't waste the rest of your life on this guy. He isn't worth it. And ladies, don't have children with low-value men who only want you around for free labor, regular sex, and raising their kids. A man who values a woman would never treat her like this, or make such stupid statements.
How can she go back to school if she has to take care of two children at the same time? Even with child support, she would have far less money than she does now with her boyfriend's full income. She already said that she made up with her boyfriend and he understands now.
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My bf once told me he got mad at me for not hanging up the laundry until he realized he could do it himself. We were both working full-time....
Heads up boi!! Here are some numbers you can crunch. By the way let’s give your girlfriend a day off from all the work that she is doing around the house and leave you to do it and see how well you do. Here are the numbers - According to the Labor Department, the median weekly wage for a woman working in childcare is $474. Considering that the average workweek is 35 hours, the hourly wage for a childcare worker comes out to be $13.54. If a stay-at-home mom were to earn an equivalent wage for childcare, she would make $35.07 a day for an average of 2.59 hours spent providing care for her children. Annual income for childcare: $12,800.04 read em and then thank her for saving you so much money!!
And thats only counting childcare and not being a personal chef, a cleaning lady, doing groceries, laundry, taking care of the oets if they have them, running errands... Even if you take minimum salary (and personal chefs or dog trainers are super expensive not ms) most people would not be able to afford payibg a professional to do everything that a homemaker does. I did the calculation once to feel better about my unpaid labour and it gets crazy. My partner makes about 5k euros a month bruto and he barely would be able to pay for my services if I charged them realistic wages. That without counting that honemakers work 24/7 without sick leave or paid holidays
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Take a weekend off. Leave everything to him.... Take the power off your mobile and see how he feels.... and tell friends and family not to help him unless its an emergency...
Basically what I have learned from this is be very choosy about who you let cum inside you.
DarkAngelicNic What a dumb fukk thing to say. Moron.
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Anyone this young thinking of having kids needs to acknowledge that 1) this is a choice, and 2) it's a choice that drastically changes the life of the mother and is basically just an inconvenience/money pit for the father UNLESS they choose to be full participants in the enterprise. Just effing get married first ladies.... you need the backup of a legally binding contract when he takes off/kicks you to the curb. (And it sounds like he's halfway there.) Have as much sex as you want with your boyfriend but use birth control or else you'll end up with two in diapers and a whining, entitled manchild and you'll be looking like twelve miles of bad road at the ripe old age of 22. Why do these girls do this to themselves?
Definitely! I know women like her with kids who also work full time. She could have it even worse. Also, letting toddlers decide what they want to eat or wear is BS. She’s playing the role of a servant to her family and is burnt out.
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I hate to break this to you as Venus, goddess of love, is currently conjunct Mars, god of war, but you BF may very well just be looking for an excuse to treat you as a second-class citizen, and nothing you can say or do will convince him otherwise. When I was 22, I worked full-time as an art teacher at a local high school while obtaining my teaching accreditation. Classes started at 8 and ended at 2 p.m. and I usually spent the next 3 or 4 hours shopping for supplies and preparing next day's classes, as well as shopping for food for BF and self. He freelanced in IT, usually began his day at 10 a.m. and went to bed around 2 a.m.. One day, he unexpectedly came home at 7 p.m. while I was already in pyjamas, ate his supper and said, ''Gee, I wish I could get away with that kind of ****'". I had no idea what he was talking about. He said, ''Spending all day doing nothing, hanging around in my pj's.'' I was shocked, told him about my job etc. Reply, ''You call THAT a job???''.
Let's show this in high school (not the end obvs) and start discussions on division of labour (childcare, housework & the 'emotional labour' of mental risk-taking & shopping, remembering family birthdays, planning etc) and what a healthy relationship looks like. We need to set expectations early!
My daughter is almost 17 months old. We had her during full lockdown where we live. Anyone that stays at home to take care of their kids all day deserves a freaking medal!!
Lol what does he do fishing? 90% of it is just sitting. And those are like 3 or 4 kids how dare you say she do nothing all day? I dogsat one puppy about a week ago and it was physically draining.
my dad: do the dishes me: you never do them, can you do it? i have a zoom class soon. my dad: why should i have to do it when i have a 2 daughters and a wife to do it for me?
TBH, even at a minimum $8.50/hour for the 168 hours in a week, plus overtime past the first 40 would make her worth a huge salary per week! Time and a half for $8.50 is $12.75. That $12.75 for 128 hours is $1632. The $8.50 for the first 40 hours is $340. So, $1632 + $340= $1972/week.Then again, she could just leave and get a full time job, and he can give up 28% of his salary for child support, to cover daycare, food, clothes, etc, plus keep his 2 small children on his health insurance, which would be another, oh say, 10-20% on top of the 28% he would already be shelling out. We’re getting close to half his salary here, and that’s just for necessities she would have to shell out cash for, and not her evening and weekend time taking care of the kids. And that $8.50/hour (or more, depending on where they live) for the 128 hours she isn’t working? $8.50 for the first 40 hours is $340. $12.75 for the remaining 88 hours is $1122, comes to $1462, on top of the salary from her full time job.
Sorry to throw so many figures at you, but it really illustrates my point that what a housewife and mother does, especially with more than one small child, is worth a whole lot of money—-and she doesn’t even get weekends off and vacations away from everyone and everything! Yet her sorry ass boyfriend, who I bet doesn’t lift a finger to help her when he gets home, has the f*****g nerve to say s**t like that to her. Yeah, I’d be out of there and sticking him with child support and keeping both kids in his health insurance for the next nearly 18 years. If they’re in an alimony state, I would not remarry for 18 years either!
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And there will always be resentment in the relationship now. What makes people think it's a good idea to do this? That there won't be consequences in the interpersonal relationship? Keep this stuff to yourself, rather than trying for your 15 minutes of social media fame and for likes. Not everything needs to be put online. Yeah, he was a jerk, but, no one but those 2 know the context.
No. Why do folks L O V E for assholes to have their s**t cloaked in secrecy? News flash, there’s ALREADY resentment in their relationship due to bf being a d**k. Unless you think resentment is only experienced by butthurt f**k boys.
Load More Replies... Raising kids and all the housekeeping essentials of being a “housewife” is a full time position for sure. There are too many women to count who have been demeaned for holding this vital position in society, making this a hot button issue for all women. However, before we all jump on the bandwagon here with the BF bashing, we have to assume this person is telling the whole and honest truth and not just padding her resume to get vindication from the online community. This article “shows” mom being a busy little bee all day, however; the state of cleanliness of the background in these pictures tell a different story. That pile of dishes is quite large for someone who is cleaning all the time and the counters are used as a catch all for even a random bottle of glue?. There are piles of randomness on the dinning room table and on the floor lining the entire wall. These piles did not just show up right before mom decided to post this video to put BF in his place.
I am surprised that people (guys) like that still exist. Being a husband and a working father I know that having a family and being married is a team effort. And it is not just about the kids, the house etc. It is about everything.
Taking care of a home is a fair amount of work even if you're single. Add in a second person that doesn't help and a kid or two and an out-of-the-home job sounds delightful in comparison. If she is a stay-at-home mom keeping up with everything he needs to clam up. I wonder how he like a role reversal? He should consider what it would be like if due to finances, they both had to work full time! A large chunk of change would go towards daycare/childcare costs and he would now have to contribute to household chores.
My ex wife was absolutely filthy and never even bothered to clean herself let alone the house. We didn't have children thank God but I can totally relate to this woman. If I didn't do the cleaning the whole house was covered in her disgusting filth, and then she would complain to me I'm glad she died
That's not a whole day of work though, that is about 20 minutes of work and babysitting The fact that she started drinking in the afternoon might be a clue why her boyfriend called her a slob as well
I must be one of the lucky stay at home mum's who has a caring husband... yes the house can look a mess sometimes, but he understands that it is a full time job watching and caring for the three children we have... (aged 11, 6 and 3) making sure they have everything they need, that food is on the table at tea time for the whole family, clean clothes on their backs.. etc... yes i may only get one room clean a day, but he understands that our children are like little whirlwinds and my work is easily undone.... I keep telling myself that it gets easier as they get older, then they will move out! LOL! women who stay home to keep a house and raise the kids whilst the other half is at work, have a harder life than the bloke who probably prats around between jobs at work (playing jack the lad and possibly flirting with the bosses secretary - believe me i have seen it happen!) then comes home to an exhausted partner.... men do need to step back and look at/ do what their partners do!
Hell yeah f*** him. I recently moved across the country to live with my S/O. I took two months off working to get us situated. The apartment was spotless and good meals made every day. After my BF, who had been the "you don't have to work" type, started bitching about being the "only one doing work" I said "no problem, I'll start working." Since then the apartment has become quite cluttered. I still take care of the laundry and dishes regularly but general tidying is not done daily as it once was. Wanna guess what he complains about now? Fellas.....you are not your grandpa. Start helping out and don't expect women to serve you, especially when there are kids involved (we have one as well).
easy solution, dump that ungrateful slob of a boyfriend, who probably does nothing to help with the chores around the house
I was a stay at home dad for our first daughter. Tough job with one, she has 2 little ones! But I do miss those days.
I was a stay at home dad for our first child. It is a tough job. But, I miss those days.
My husband came from money. I had to teach him toilets aren’t self cleaning etc. After our son was born I had had it, so I left for 2 weeks (visiting family) & left him with dirty laundry, no groceries, & a filthy house.. oh, & HIS child to take care of. - He stopped complaining about all I didn’t do (couldn’t possibly do in 24 hours) & was a bit more understanding. Which was nice, considering I also worked full time, as I had since my son was 4 days old. (Welcome to maternity leave in America. Two of those days were Saturday & Sunday.). I then took a two week “time out” every 6 months so he could remember just what it takes to be a mother. - I absolutely do not feel bad about that.
DUMP! THAT! "MAN"! Ugh, if you have to make a video to *prove* to him that childcare and homecare are full-time jobs, toss him out the window and back into the 1950s.
It's a bit selective as it shows none of the fun, bonding time she has with the kids. Sounds like they need to talk... If those are his children, maybe he's feeling resentful and guilty about missing time with them. There is an emotional cost to not being with your children.
Exactly nicholas, good point. A lot of dads miss and love their kids too, working massive hours to supporrt the family.
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It means shared custody and all that. Bui if he keeps being a price, why not find a real MAN
My husband ways complains about the dishes and laundry. Our dryer just broke so we all went to the laundromat, washed ALL of the dirty clothes. Within 24 hours, our 2 toddlers and dirtied another load of laundry. He finally understands why there is always a load of laundry for me to fold! Still complains about it, folds some himself, doesn't sort any of it so I get to unfold, check sizes on the tags, turn things right side out, then refold. The towels look like they were just thrown on the shelf lmao. I've tried to show him how to fold, refuses to learn. Unhelpful help isn't help. Don't want to be helpful? Stfu
Try to leave it rather than correcting him, that makes him feel even more negative. Let him dress kids, and realize the incomveniemce of mixed clothes himself.
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I am a single mother and a medical student with no job and I have a spoiled ass 10 year old. I got emergency custody of her this May. Tell me again how I do nothing all day. I clean the house & watch her all day & cook and do homework.
Yeah he needs to spend a day in her shoes because I have and I tell ya what I'd rather be at work than be in my wife's position it's honestly hard work especially with babies it's just such a mish I couldn't even clean the house and do my babies at the same time like this lady has done fully appreciate everything my wife does lol hats off to all the mamas out there holding it down at home
Guys like him are insecure. My wife stays home and cares for the house, our son and me. Just about everyday she gets a package from Amazon, either for our son, the house and in rare occasions her. I tell her to "buy more". I asked her to buy her self nice things, I've bought her a few nice purses, she drives an escalade, it just sits in our driveway but I don't care. She had earned it, I wish I could give her more.
WTF...I work and my wife takes care of the house. I'm very very grateful for it. She's expressed interest in working but I've asked and begged her not to. Why??? Because me and my son benefit, a lot, from her being home. With that said I have no idea where our money goes. She saves money, pays the bills and maintains the house. I usually bring her chocolate or flowers twice a week. Why?? Because I really really appreciate what she is doing and what she is giving up.
What about to disappear one Saturday morning and let him to take care of children all day. Maybe, just maybe, he would change his tune. P.S.: Be prepare to clean the whole house afterwards; it will be unbelievably messy.
A clear example of what happens, when a man has been brought up with a stay home mum himself, never took part in bousechores himself. To him, it just all fixes itself magically, never saw how. His job is probl hard and maybe boring, so there he is, thinking she is just lazy having “fun” , while he is having a though time. I hope this helps him to see, how much to him invisible constant work and attention there is in being home woth small kids, how many invisible chores get done. Maybe let this man be alone with kids and house for three days, with lists of chores and expectations, so he does not accidentally harm the kids by neglect . Hopefully they do better as a couple now. Both dad and mum needs appreciation from partner for hard work.
I am completely ok with BoredPanda posting TikTok videos (or other, I don't care). But just post the video, then the screenshots if people cannot play it for some reason. Every time I just scroll thinking "Just give me the gorram video"
Anyone who accepts being shitted on as a fact of life deserves a medal.
She needs a better boyfriend. A mother is a full time job that never ends. If he can't appreciate or respect that, she needs to find someone who does.
Sounds like a great idea on the surface but it's hard enough to find a decent partner, let alone one willing to deal with someone else's biological kids and the additional drama if that old person still has contact.
Load More Replies... Firstly, that's a horrible thing to say by her boyfriend. Child care is a 24/7 job and she also has all the house chores to do also. He should be more supportive rather than just demean what she is doing. Gosh, it isn't rocket science.
And the mess is way more than when you have just adults or adults and older kids in the home. The cleaning is constant. I did some all day stints babysitting my 3 year old nephew. One kid. I spent all day cleaning up after him, feeding him, and trying to keep him from injuring himself or the house. I would get to have a little fun time playing with him, but mostly it was work. And I wasn't trying to do any major house cleaning chores or grocery shop or anything like that. Just maintenance level stuff. It was way more tiring than a typical day at my job and, while I enjoyed spending time with him, the work was mostly tedious and there were no other grownups to talk to.
Load More Replies... My ex husband was the same, especially when our daughter was at the crawling stage. I had to watch her constantly, because that's my job, to keep her safe and still allow her to explore and develop. I never realised just how abusive he was until we split up. He was always saying things to hurt me, controlled all the finances etc. I would have loved to have him stay home for a day to look after our daughter but to be honest I didn't trust him to do a good enough job!
Am so glad you’re out of that situation. You deserve so much better 🧡
Load More Replies... So much of housework consists of things that no one notices if you do them, but they certainly will if they don't.
I think sometimes people do chores that aren't necessary, though. There are more chores when there are two kids, but I know that when I was younger and lived alone in an apartment, there were very few chores to be done.
Load More Replies... I wouldn't even bother to do all this as a proof!! What does HE do? I would say f**k you we are done! Bye!
My ex-husband did this, even after taking a month of paternity leave to help
He may have had a skewed idea of the amount of work that needed to be done if you were also there at home with the baby. Something that is totally manageable for two can be overwhelming for one.
Load More Replies... If you are living together with a significant other (married or otherwise), it doesn't matter who is bringing in the money. It matters that both parties are contributing. If this guy thinks she does nothing because she doesn't bring in the cash, she needs a better partner.
Girl, ditch that manchild who clearly doesn't know how the world works, and he sure as hell does not appreciate your labors. He is only adding to your workload. Single motherhood is preferable to this hellscape. Get child support, and plenty of it. Get back to school. Upgrade your skills. Find a job, and start there. In 3 years you'll be further ahead and much happier than living as a drudge to some loser who does not respect you. Don't waste the rest of your life on this guy. He isn't worth it. And ladies, don't have children with low-value men who only want you around for free labor, regular sex, and raising their kids. A man who values a woman would never treat her like this, or make such stupid statements.
How can she go back to school if she has to take care of two children at the same time? Even with child support, she would have far less money than she does now with her boyfriend's full income. She already said that she made up with her boyfriend and he understands now.
Load More Replies... My bf once told me he got mad at me for not hanging up the laundry until he realized he could do it himself. We were both working full-time....
Heads up boi!! Here are some numbers you can crunch. By the way let’s give your girlfriend a day off from all the work that she is doing around the house and leave you to do it and see how well you do. Here are the numbers - According to the Labor Department, the median weekly wage for a woman working in childcare is $474. Considering that the average workweek is 35 hours, the hourly wage for a childcare worker comes out to be $13.54. If a stay-at-home mom were to earn an equivalent wage for childcare, she would make $35.07 a day for an average of 2.59 hours spent providing care for her children. Annual income for childcare: $12,800.04 read em and then thank her for saving you so much money!!
And thats only counting childcare and not being a personal chef, a cleaning lady, doing groceries, laundry, taking care of the oets if they have them, running errands... Even if you take minimum salary (and personal chefs or dog trainers are super expensive not ms) most people would not be able to afford payibg a professional to do everything that a homemaker does. I did the calculation once to feel better about my unpaid labour and it gets crazy. My partner makes about 5k euros a month bruto and he barely would be able to pay for my services if I charged them realistic wages. That without counting that honemakers work 24/7 without sick leave or paid holidays
Load More Replies... Take a weekend off. Leave everything to him.... Take the power off your mobile and see how he feels.... and tell friends and family not to help him unless its an emergency...
Basically what I have learned from this is be very choosy about who you let cum inside you.
DarkAngelicNic What a dumb fukk thing to say. Moron.
Load More Replies... Anyone this young thinking of having kids needs to acknowledge that 1) this is a choice, and 2) it's a choice that drastically changes the life of the mother and is basically just an inconvenience/money pit for the father UNLESS they choose to be full participants in the enterprise. Just effing get married first ladies.... you need the backup of a legally binding contract when he takes off/kicks you to the curb. (And it sounds like he's halfway there.) Have as much sex as you want with your boyfriend but use birth control or else you'll end up with two in diapers and a whining, entitled manchild and you'll be looking like twelve miles of bad road at the ripe old age of 22. Why do these girls do this to themselves?
Definitely! I know women like her with kids who also work full time. She could have it even worse. Also, letting toddlers decide what they want to eat or wear is BS. She’s playing the role of a servant to her family and is burnt out.
Load More Replies... I hate to break this to you as Venus, goddess of love, is currently conjunct Mars, god of war, but you BF may very well just be looking for an excuse to treat you as a second-class citizen, and nothing you can say or do will convince him otherwise. When I was 22, I worked full-time as an art teacher at a local high school while obtaining my teaching accreditation. Classes started at 8 and ended at 2 p.m. and I usually spent the next 3 or 4 hours shopping for supplies and preparing next day's classes, as well as shopping for food for BF and self. He freelanced in IT, usually began his day at 10 a.m. and went to bed around 2 a.m.. One day, he unexpectedly came home at 7 p.m. while I was already in pyjamas, ate his supper and said, ''Gee, I wish I could get away with that kind of ****'". I had no idea what he was talking about. He said, ''Spending all day doing nothing, hanging around in my pj's.'' I was shocked, told him about my job etc. Reply, ''You call THAT a job???''.
Let's show this in high school (not the end obvs) and start discussions on division of labour (childcare, housework & the 'emotional labour' of mental risk-taking & shopping, remembering family birthdays, planning etc) and what a healthy relationship looks like. We need to set expectations early!
My daughter is almost 17 months old. We had her during full lockdown where we live. Anyone that stays at home to take care of their kids all day deserves a freaking medal!!
Lol what does he do fishing? 90% of it is just sitting. And those are like 3 or 4 kids how dare you say she do nothing all day? I dogsat one puppy about a week ago and it was physically draining.
my dad: do the dishes me: you never do them, can you do it? i have a zoom class soon. my dad: why should i have to do it when i have a 2 daughters and a wife to do it for me?
TBH, even at a minimum $8.50/hour for the 168 hours in a week, plus overtime past the first 40 would make her worth a huge salary per week! Time and a half for $8.50 is $12.75. That $12.75 for 128 hours is $1632. The $8.50 for the first 40 hours is $340. So, $1632 + $340= $1972/week.Then again, she could just leave and get a full time job, and he can give up 28% of his salary for child support, to cover daycare, food, clothes, etc, plus keep his 2 small children on his health insurance, which would be another, oh say, 10-20% on top of the 28% he would already be shelling out. We’re getting close to half his salary here, and that’s just for necessities she would have to shell out cash for, and not her evening and weekend time taking care of the kids. And that $8.50/hour (or more, depending on where they live) for the 128 hours she isn’t working? $8.50 for the first 40 hours is $340. $12.75 for the remaining 88 hours is $1122, comes to $1462, on top of the salary from her full time job.
Sorry to throw so many figures at you, but it really illustrates my point that what a housewife and mother does, especially with more than one small child, is worth a whole lot of money—-and she doesn’t even get weekends off and vacations away from everyone and everything! Yet her sorry ass boyfriend, who I bet doesn’t lift a finger to help her when he gets home, has the f*****g nerve to say s**t like that to her. Yeah, I’d be out of there and sticking him with child support and keeping both kids in his health insurance for the next nearly 18 years. If they’re in an alimony state, I would not remarry for 18 years either!
Load More Replies... And there will always be resentment in the relationship now. What makes people think it's a good idea to do this? That there won't be consequences in the interpersonal relationship? Keep this stuff to yourself, rather than trying for your 15 minutes of social media fame and for likes. Not everything needs to be put online. Yeah, he was a jerk, but, no one but those 2 know the context.
No. Why do folks L O V E for assholes to have their s**t cloaked in secrecy? News flash, there’s ALREADY resentment in their relationship due to bf being a d**k. Unless you think resentment is only experienced by butthurt f**k boys.
Load More Replies... Raising kids and all the housekeeping essentials of being a “housewife” is a full time position for sure. There are too many women to count who have been demeaned for holding this vital position in society, making this a hot button issue for all women. However, before we all jump on the bandwagon here with the BF bashing, we have to assume this person is telling the whole and honest truth and not just padding her resume to get vindication from the online community. This article “shows” mom being a busy little bee all day, however; the state of cleanliness of the background in these pictures tell a different story. That pile of dishes is quite large for someone who is cleaning all the time and the counters are used as a catch all for even a random bottle of glue?. There are piles of randomness on the dinning room table and on the floor lining the entire wall. These piles did not just show up right before mom decided to post this video to put BF in his place.
I am surprised that people (guys) like that still exist. Being a husband and a working father I know that having a family and being married is a team effort. And it is not just about the kids, the house etc. It is about everything.
Taking care of a home is a fair amount of work even if you're single. Add in a second person that doesn't help and a kid or two and an out-of-the-home job sounds delightful in comparison. If she is a stay-at-home mom keeping up with everything he needs to clam up. I wonder how he like a role reversal? He should consider what it would be like if due to finances, they both had to work full time! A large chunk of change would go towards daycare/childcare costs and he would now have to contribute to household chores.
My ex wife was absolutely filthy and never even bothered to clean herself let alone the house. We didn't have children thank God but I can totally relate to this woman. If I didn't do the cleaning the whole house was covered in her disgusting filth, and then she would complain to me I'm glad she died
That's not a whole day of work though, that is about 20 minutes of work and babysitting The fact that she started drinking in the afternoon might be a clue why her boyfriend called her a slob as well
I must be one of the lucky stay at home mum's who has a caring husband... yes the house can look a mess sometimes, but he understands that it is a full time job watching and caring for the three children we have... (aged 11, 6 and 3) making sure they have everything they need, that food is on the table at tea time for the whole family, clean clothes on their backs.. etc... yes i may only get one room clean a day, but he understands that our children are like little whirlwinds and my work is easily undone.... I keep telling myself that it gets easier as they get older, then they will move out! LOL! women who stay home to keep a house and raise the kids whilst the other half is at work, have a harder life than the bloke who probably prats around between jobs at work (playing jack the lad and possibly flirting with the bosses secretary - believe me i have seen it happen!) then comes home to an exhausted partner.... men do need to step back and look at/ do what their partners do!
Hell yeah f*** him. I recently moved across the country to live with my S/O. I took two months off working to get us situated. The apartment was spotless and good meals made every day. After my BF, who had been the "you don't have to work" type, started bitching about being the "only one doing work" I said "no problem, I'll start working." Since then the apartment has become quite cluttered. I still take care of the laundry and dishes regularly but general tidying is not done daily as it once was. Wanna guess what he complains about now? Fellas.....you are not your grandpa. Start helping out and don't expect women to serve you, especially when there are kids involved (we have one as well).
easy solution, dump that ungrateful slob of a boyfriend, who probably does nothing to help with the chores around the house
I was a stay at home dad for our first daughter. Tough job with one, she has 2 little ones! But I do miss those days.
I was a stay at home dad for our first child. It is a tough job. But, I miss those days.
My husband came from money. I had to teach him toilets aren’t self cleaning etc. After our son was born I had had it, so I left for 2 weeks (visiting family) & left him with dirty laundry, no groceries, & a filthy house.. oh, & HIS child to take care of. - He stopped complaining about all I didn’t do (couldn’t possibly do in 24 hours) & was a bit more understanding. Which was nice, considering I also worked full time, as I had since my son was 4 days old. (Welcome to maternity leave in America. Two of those days were Saturday & Sunday.). I then took a two week “time out” every 6 months so he could remember just what it takes to be a mother. - I absolutely do not feel bad about that.
DUMP! THAT! "MAN"! Ugh, if you have to make a video to *prove* to him that childcare and homecare are full-time jobs, toss him out the window and back into the 1950s.
It's a bit selective as it shows none of the fun, bonding time she has with the kids. Sounds like they need to talk... If those are his children, maybe he's feeling resentful and guilty about missing time with them. There is an emotional cost to not being with your children.
Exactly nicholas, good point. A lot of dads miss and love their kids too, working massive hours to supporrt the family.
Load More Replies... It means shared custody and all that. Bui if he keeps being a price, why not find a real MAN
My husband ways complains about the dishes and laundry. Our dryer just broke so we all went to the laundromat, washed ALL of the dirty clothes. Within 24 hours, our 2 toddlers and dirtied another load of laundry. He finally understands why there is always a load of laundry for me to fold! Still complains about it, folds some himself, doesn't sort any of it so I get to unfold, check sizes on the tags, turn things right side out, then refold. The towels look like they were just thrown on the shelf lmao. I've tried to show him how to fold, refuses to learn. Unhelpful help isn't help. Don't want to be helpful? Stfu
Try to leave it rather than correcting him, that makes him feel even more negative. Let him dress kids, and realize the incomveniemce of mixed clothes himself.
Load More Replies... I am a single mother and a medical student with no job and I have a spoiled ass 10 year old. I got emergency custody of her this May. Tell me again how I do nothing all day. I clean the house & watch her all day & cook and do homework.
Yeah he needs to spend a day in her shoes because I have and I tell ya what I'd rather be at work than be in my wife's position it's honestly hard work especially with babies it's just such a mish I couldn't even clean the house and do my babies at the same time like this lady has done fully appreciate everything my wife does lol hats off to all the mamas out there holding it down at home
Guys like him are insecure. My wife stays home and cares for the house, our son and me. Just about everyday she gets a package from Amazon, either for our son, the house and in rare occasions her. I tell her to "buy more". I asked her to buy her self nice things, I've bought her a few nice purses, she drives an escalade, it just sits in our driveway but I don't care. She had earned it, I wish I could give her more.
WTF...I work and my wife takes care of the house. I'm very very grateful for it. She's expressed interest in working but I've asked and begged her not to. Why??? Because me and my son benefit, a lot, from her being home. With that said I have no idea where our money goes. She saves money, pays the bills and maintains the house. I usually bring her chocolate or flowers twice a week. Why?? Because I really really appreciate what she is doing and what she is giving up.
What about to disappear one Saturday morning and let him to take care of children all day. Maybe, just maybe, he would change his tune. P.S.: Be prepare to clean the whole house afterwards; it will be unbelievably messy.
A clear example of what happens, when a man has been brought up with a stay home mum himself, never took part in bousechores himself. To him, it just all fixes itself magically, never saw how. His job is probl hard and maybe boring, so there he is, thinking she is just lazy having “fun” , while he is having a though time. I hope this helps him to see, how much to him invisible constant work and attention there is in being home woth small kids, how many invisible chores get done. Maybe let this man be alone with kids and house for three days, with lists of chores and expectations, so he does not accidentally harm the kids by neglect . Hopefully they do better as a couple now. Both dad and mum needs appreciation from partner for hard work.
I am completely ok with BoredPanda posting TikTok videos (or other, I don't care). But just post the video, then the screenshots if people cannot play it for some reason. Every time I just scroll thinking "Just give me the gorram video"
Anyone who accepts being shitted on as a fact of life deserves a medal.
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