Young Mom Shares Marriage And Parenting Advice On TikTok, Here Are 24 Of The Best
When Caitlin Fladager posted her first photo online, she had no idea how many people would end up following her.
"I was 18 and I was about 15 weeks pregnant with my daughter," Fladager, now 27, told CBC. "I liked posting pictures of my belly. I just liked sharing it for myself to remember and for my family who lives far away, and people kept following me from there."
Eventually, Caitlin started getting recognized while she was shopping. Today, the mom-of-two has over 3 million followers across her social media platforms.
"I got well-known for my life looking perfect," said Fladager. But behind the scenes, the young woman was struggling with her mental health, and maintaining the illusion of perfection was taking a huge toll on her.
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This is so true! I always have done this, and still do, and my son is now 19 and still loves to cuddle! And I NEVER go in his room unannounced! I still shudder with the idea that when I was young and my parents threw a party I had to go around the room and kiss everybody! Even those I didn't really know!
My mother knocks before entering my room, and it's truly made a world of difference in how much I respect her. My dad, on the other hand...
I do however question how much kids of this age know what they are consenting to. Can they fathom the consequences of a certain foto now, when they are in their puberty and classmates find this foto, or later in life?
Agreed. You ask a 4 year old if you can post this "adorable" photo> they don't know what people might do with it, but you do.
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This is how a good parent teaches manners and values; by example! Great Job!
I did this as soon as she got old enough to not be a danger to herself. A toddler or very young child sitting quietly in a room, may not answer me fast enough if she is up to something she should not be. In my case my daughter got her sensibilities quite early, I'd say 3-4, some will take less, some longer.
If the children are minors, their photos and videos should NEVER be posted on social media. Pedophiles are experts at taking a child's photo, Photoshopping it, and then posting it on either the dark or the deep web (or both.) They are also experts at editing and otherwise manipulating videos. This has been a warning since I first began to use the Internet in the 1990s. I'm shocked at how many parents don't heed this important warning.
NO!! How did the parents allow this? I'm disgusted with this generation. For the love of everything that's holy, HE NEEDS MATCHING SHOES!!
Scrolling through her feeds, it's easy to see why so many people want to see her life unfold.
Caitlin and her then-boyfriend, Noah Slomski, started dating when they were 16 and 15 respectively. She documented and shared their goofy teenage relationship mature into a lovely family when their daughter Ariana was born 2 years after they met.
The high school sweethearts soon married, and when their son Jack was born in 2015, Caitlin's following was so big that companies were offering her up to $3,000 to post about their products on Instagram.
Fladager admitted she enjoyed the attention, but the more supporters she had, the more trolls came to her social media accounts, leaving one nasty message after another. Furthermore, haters were constantly criticizing her on forums like 'YouTube Momma Drama.'
"I like to please everybody and that made it very difficult for me," Fladager explained. "It was hard to accept the fact that not everybody is going to like me and that was something I really struggled with."
All Mum's need to print this one out an read it everyday. Too many time they are far to hard on themselves and feel guilty for being human.
Fladager doesn't blame social media for her depression but thinks that spending so much time online didn't help either. Scrolling through other people's feeds only made her feel inadequate, and maintaining her own public image left her feeling like a fraud.
At her lowest point, Fladager recalls dragging herself out of bed, putting on fake eyelashes and hair extensions, and dressing up so she could take a photo to post, then immediately taking everything off and returning to bed.
"I wasn't going anywhere, I didn't feel like doing my makeup. I just did it for the 'Gram.' That's what you see when you go onto Instagram. Especially when you have a lot of followers, you feel a lot of pressure to post content people want to see, and what they wanted to see at that time, I thought, was perfection."
I like "A Happy Spouse... A Happy House!" When both people want to make their spouse happy, they'll share lots of happiness together! They'll also be good role models for their children ~
Fladager said she thought about terminating her social media accounts all the time, but she had to make a living.
"I needed a way to support my kids," the mom said. "You can't just quit your job when it gets hard."
However, she could no longer hide her depression. As her family began noticing what was happening, her marriage broke down. Five-year-old Ariana asked her mom why she was so tired all the time.
It was when Fladager decided to start therapy. "I was like, my five-year-old is noticing this. I need to get help."
And yet there are a lot of people who really think they have no obligation to "account their live to their SO." It's about sharing information, sharing plans, sharing your life and has got nothing to do with control or asking permission.
It's quite significant that the very normal word "sex" has to be disguised as s3x to escape censorship.
"Noah was there the whole time," Caitlin recalled this difficult period on Love What Matters. "He held my hand while the doctor assessed me. He stood by me while I waited for my anti-depressants to be filled. He came over at night when it was all just too much for me. He was the better parent when I mentally couldn’t be one."
After about a year and a half, she was mentally better. "I was cleaning more, cooking more, smiling more. So, Noah and I decided we were too good to be apart any longer."
Keep repeating to a child long enough that they are acting stupid and need to grow up and be surprised that one day they are gone out of your life forever. Because that's why kids commit suicide or run away from home and end up in the gutter.
In addition to seeking professional help, she also decided to share her struggles with her followers and tear down the facade on what was really going on.
"It's been a struggle for Noah and me," the mom said. "We've been dealt our fair share of crappy cards. But we've made it. It's not always easy. It's not always beautiful. It can be quite ugly sometimes. Because that's life. That's relationships. Sometimes it takes time apart, work, or whatever it may be, to get back on track."
Caitlin's posts have transformed from genuine snippets that she no longer feels guilty for sharing, and her followers appreciate her openness and authenticity as the woman strives to find the right balance between being an influencer, a mom, and a healthy human being.
Not seeing my parents (mom & wonderful stepfather from age 10) argue led me to believe that a happy marriage was between two people who automatically sensed each other's needs and supported everything the other did or thought without batting an eye. REALLY SCREWED ME UP!! Because I went on to feel like a failure as a GF or wife if I wasn't able to do the same. It took me many adult years fraught with emotional torture and self disgust to realize I'd missed a lot beneath the surface of their relationship and it was okay to disagree on things with a partner. It leads to compromise, understanding and mutual growth.
I've only ever been "seeing someone" and not actually dating, but this part scares me, to be honest. This is reassuring though.
You can say sorry without meaning it. These other statements show a willingness to work it out, to take responsibility and move forward.
Amen! Marriage is built on friendship. The best friend part of marriage is often underestimated. My grandparents were together for 52 years until death separated them. They stayed friends their entire lives throughout very tough times. My parents were married for 63 years, they were happy for about 12 and fought and hurt each other for the last 50 until death separated them. Guess who I used as my role models? Both! This is what you do, this is what you don't do. I think the most important thing is for each partner to be on the same page. If one fights dirty, they will never make it work.
The bf and I go to bed at separate times and that works for us, the important thing is figuring out what works for you as individuals; what works for one couple wouldn't for another. The trick is talking it out and saying what you think works and what doesn't, and adapting. There is rarely a one size fits all rule.
This also works the other way round. After a day that went not so well, sit together for dinner and everyone may name a thing that he or she enjoyed that day. It turns out that you can find joint positivity even in bad days and realize that the clouds often are not as dark as they may seem at first sight.
Saying "Thank You" is also very polite and shows you respect your partner. Just because you are married, does not mean you have to lose your manners.
I really hate these posts, that are all about showing pictures of yourself. It is possible to give advises without 100 pictures of yourself.
I don't like those either, but that's a video from TikTok and apparently TikTok has some secret rule, where you can't upload a video unless you are in it and speaking directly to the camera in close up.
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This all sounds great, until you see the pictures of the kids with the captions, and realise she is using their lives, their issues, and posting them on a public forum, with some commonly found "advice" to get approval for herself. I've seen these mothers in real life, one went to an ice skating rink I was at with two kids both dressed up, got her partner to take hundreds of photos while they posed on the ice, then they all left, the kids quietly went off without playing once. This feels similar.
She says she asked her kids before posting. She just wants to help others.
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Ah yes, a 27 year old social media model/influencer who got kids way too young is going to teach the rest of us how it all works…
What do you base your "too young" claim on? The fact that she's a competent and insightful young mother, who understands how relationships work? She could be my daughter, and if she was I'd be very proud of her approach to her loved ones.
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The moment I saw the title I went: "Who would take advice from a Tiktok mum who's doing it for clout?" Apparently a lot of people. Smh
Well good for her if it works for them. BUT it kind of comes across like they fight a lot.
Could someone please take her children away from her because I'm worried about them, if you're going to have kids you've got to be ready to take care of them
Another TikTok junk. Geee, and I thought YT "Influencers" are entitled!
Pretty girl giving advice to people in bad relationships = Triggered Pandas getting defensive and critical.
All kids go through these stages when they're young. Mom and Dad are the original and first heroes. And they (the kids) will live that dream themselves and immortalize it. And mom might need some mental health counseling. Living through your kids is about ask F'd up as life can get. Problem is this is the new Socially Engineered NORM. No one in their right mind would have their kids pictures splashed all over the internet. Seeing Billions do. I've proved my point! You're insanely stupid and dangerously ignorant of your child's safety. For you're own Ego and self gratification and LIKES. Never in the history of this Zoo called earth has the entire population been so skillfully dumbed down to self loathing lemmings. Influencer and Influenza ( which originate from the same Etymological roots in the Indo_European Language) spelled almost the same for a reason. Thery're both a DISEASE or better put "dis ease - to create friction" .
I really hate these posts, that are all about showing pictures of yourself. It is possible to give advises without 100 pictures of yourself.
I don't like those either, but that's a video from TikTok and apparently TikTok has some secret rule, where you can't upload a video unless you are in it and speaking directly to the camera in close up.
Load More Replies... This all sounds great, until you see the pictures of the kids with the captions, and realise she is using their lives, their issues, and posting them on a public forum, with some commonly found "advice" to get approval for herself. I've seen these mothers in real life, one went to an ice skating rink I was at with two kids both dressed up, got her partner to take hundreds of photos while they posed on the ice, then they all left, the kids quietly went off without playing once. This feels similar.
She says she asked her kids before posting. She just wants to help others.
Load More Replies... Ah yes, a 27 year old social media model/influencer who got kids way too young is going to teach the rest of us how it all works…
What do you base your "too young" claim on? The fact that she's a competent and insightful young mother, who understands how relationships work? She could be my daughter, and if she was I'd be very proud of her approach to her loved ones.
Load More Replies... The moment I saw the title I went: "Who would take advice from a Tiktok mum who's doing it for clout?" Apparently a lot of people. Smh
Well good for her if it works for them. BUT it kind of comes across like they fight a lot.
Could someone please take her children away from her because I'm worried about them, if you're going to have kids you've got to be ready to take care of them
Another TikTok junk. Geee, and I thought YT "Influencers" are entitled!
Pretty girl giving advice to people in bad relationships = Triggered Pandas getting defensive and critical.
All kids go through these stages when they're young. Mom and Dad are the original and first heroes. And they (the kids) will live that dream themselves and immortalize it. And mom might need some mental health counseling. Living through your kids is about ask F'd up as life can get. Problem is this is the new Socially Engineered NORM. No one in their right mind would have their kids pictures splashed all over the internet. Seeing Billions do. I've proved my point! You're insanely stupid and dangerously ignorant of your child's safety. For you're own Ego and self gratification and LIKES. Never in the history of this Zoo called earth has the entire population been so skillfully dumbed down to self loathing lemmings. Influencer and Influenza ( which originate from the same Etymological roots in the Indo_European Language) spelled almost the same for a reason. Thery're both a DISEASE or better put "dis ease - to create friction" .
