When my second child was born, I started to turn snippets of our family life into short comics. They were very simple, but I liked them and my friends seemed to like them too, so they encouraged me to start posting my comics on social media. That's when I realized most parents could relate to those situations. It was a lot of fun to connect with other parents in this way. In fact, it was so much fun that I posted more and more comics and today, it has become my job! It's been years since my first post, and I have had four more children since.
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When Are You Having A Baby?
It's an invasive question. Don't ask when people are getting married or having kids.
(To all those ppl who downvoted and replied to me *explaining* how inappropriate it is) - as a single old woman, I was asked this A LOT in my youth. People ask these with the intention of goodwill, because that's what they see as normal - study, job, marriage, kids....etc. Maybe they feel they can use their wisdom and help....because that's the life they know. I know how annoying it can be because I have lived thru it...but today I understand that people want to understand your point of view or ask out of mere curiosity. If we keep on making a list of what's appropriate to ask and what's not, we cannot have a conversation. It's only questions, no one is forcing you to do anything. So stop taking things so personally!
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Why on earth did someone downvote me for wanting children?
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honestly same i'm not gonna go through that pain when there are literally kids already on this planet whose lives i can improve.
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This month, in particular, has been absolutely awful, because my sister in law (who is younger than me) is pregnant, and then everybody assumes I MUST HAVE MY OWN. I'm seconds away to tell them to go f**k themselves.
Tell them straight up that it is hurtfull/annoying to you. Be blatant about it.
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I am pregnant but in not quite ready to announce it welp to late lol
I had cancer due to right wing laws preventing me from getting proper health care when in the military. Stage 4 cervical cancer meant no babies. Thanks Jesse Helms. Burn in the bad place.
me and my friends were just talking about this- people were asking us if we want kids but were teenagers so we dont have to make that desision- plus were not girls so even better
I just have had another miscarriage and all those questions makes me sick every f***ING time. Especially that I'm over 30 and people seems to be very interested in that topic. I know is quite common question, lots of ppl even don't think what they really ask, but they should. Wondering how it would be if I would give them real answers, probably no one would like to know.
I think we should tell the truth more often (if we feel like it). It helos to vent, prevent miscomunication and may help others. I had a trainee whos whom died last year. He had no idea who of us all lost their parents young. He needed to know that everyone deals differently and that life goes on. It was not on his radar, that this happens and it got him talking.
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Also, "I'm pregnant, but don't know how healthy it is yet so we're not disclosing in case I miscarry."
Don't ask unless you're pretty darn familiar with them! And if the relationship is right to even ask, maybe something like, Do you see children in your future? I've had it posed to me in that manner a couple of times. I didn't take offense at all.
How about because idiots don’t like the answer of “because kids are annoying and make you look old.” The honest truth isn’t good enough. They want to be placated.
Pregnancy and raising a child can be very hard with some disabilities.
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I have a friend to desperately wants children but health complications have made that pretty much impossible for her. You wouldn't be annoying her it would be a reminder of how heartbreaking the struggle has been. Same with my sister-in-law who just lost a baby. Don't be a d**k
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Listening To My Child Tell Me A Story
Pregnant Women Around Me vs. Me
To be fair, the people around you don't show their vulnerable side around every single person. They're not flawless, you're just not seeing their private life.
Congrats
Smile!
Dont do that, your kid will think they're weird. It's just a phase and they will learn to have natural smile. Maybe tell them to practise faces in front of a mirror as in a fun way, don't make them think it's something wrong with them!
Precious Times
Frankly, it are just a few months, but you will remember them for a lifetime. It is hard, and it can be incredibly hard, but the love given to the small ones during these few months will be a tailwind blowing for their lifetimes. (Being told this while being oveslept and awaiting another night of a baby with belly problems is not the most productive thing, though.)
I Love You, Mum
Suspicious
When me and my brothers did this we were usually planning a surprise. A good one
Oh Yeah, Why Didn't I Think Of That
I have insomnia. If I had a magic genie I would ask for the secret to falling asleep
A Choice
You guys got to chose?? I used to have to wear whatever I was given
Maybe
I thought kids take maybe as a "no"? My siblings do half the time and have a go at me for it.
Most people who have kids don't really think about why they're doing it. It's just something that people do, right? But WHY? To propogate the planet, as the Bible orders? Well, the planet's already plenty full, thank you kindly (read the brilliant thriller 10:59 by N Baker to see exactly how full!), and as a parent of two kids, I often find myself wondering why I had them in the first place. I love them, sure, but did I need them? No. And by the way, I gave up my successful career and stayed at home to look after my kids for 8 years so my wife could complete her Master's degree, so I know all about stay-home-parenting.
You sound a little regretful? I never doubted that I wanted kids AND a career. I would never have a life without any. I never asked myself, why. It just felt like the right thing to do. Although it sucked at times, as everything does once in a while, I love being with my "gang". We love each other, we share our pain and happiness, my house is full of kids, pets and life! Btw, my partner also has a fulltime career, in our country this is fortunately possible and perfectly normal.
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*insert shallow hate comment about parenthood here* *insert equally shallow rebuttal here* Man, the world we live in: we hate each other for our life choices. I can see, looking at the comments sections of these posts, why people choose not to have kids. They’ll just grow up hating one another in this environment. Great post though!
I know a couple men who chose to stay at home with the kiddos while the other half earned (better salary, degree, etc.), and one told me that he got so much mockery among the "stay-home mommies" *AND* from "the guys" that he ended up saying he was "working on a novel" just to avoid the flak. Moral being: Parenting is WORK. And it's unrelenting. And be kind. you never know what a parent is going through. (Not a parent. Taking a wild guess based on observations.)
There’s not much interesting about motherhood. These comics are all kinda always the same complaints. “I’m tired! My kid is messy! What happened to my personal life / space? I’m frazzled! My legs are hairy!” Okay girl we know. Every mom says that same stuff. Tell us something we don’t know. How’s your vagina and nips? Did your husband change? Is there anything enjoyable about kids other than that you claim they’re cute? What’s tax season like? Do you feel like you’re in school again? How are other millennial moms? Everyone already knows you are tired and hairy, we have eyes.
I wish the comics about mother hood would change their tune, too. And there are different types of mothers with different recourses. I wish we could see that type of motherhood instead of the same old complaints. I realise this is the reality for many, but money, people who help, the country you live in/ culture change the experience, making motherhood unique to every parent.
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I refuse to feel sympathy for people who willingly put themselves in a bad situation. Suck it up.
bruh someone downvoted me for commenting O C T O P U S
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My son didn’t sleep through the night until he was nearly 5. It was awful. That whole time was awful. Very few moments of joy. I love him more than I can describe. But I never encourage my friends to have children. If I could go back I probably wouldn’t do it. For many reasons, one being the planet. Let’s be real here. I did it for selfish reasons and I was wrong. And I’ll never lie to people about what it’s really like.
Those comics always add more and more reasons up why I don't want children
Is it wrong that I want to show these to my 7yo? I think she will see the similarities and will definitely find them funny!!
She made comics about her own experiences. If you want ones about you, make them yourself.
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Well those comics are made by a mother based on her experiences on MOTHERHOOD. There are comics about fathers too, usually made by fathers on their own experiences. Maybe try searching fatherhood on bp?
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Most people who have kids don't really think about why they're doing it. It's just something that people do, right? But WHY? To propogate the planet, as the Bible orders? Well, the planet's already plenty full, thank you kindly (read the brilliant thriller 10:59 by N Baker to see exactly how full!), and as a parent of two kids, I often find myself wondering why I had them in the first place. I love them, sure, but did I need them? No. And by the way, I gave up my successful career and stayed at home to look after my kids for 8 years so my wife could complete her Master's degree, so I know all about stay-home-parenting.
You sound a little regretful? I never doubted that I wanted kids AND a career. I would never have a life without any. I never asked myself, why. It just felt like the right thing to do. Although it sucked at times, as everything does once in a while, I love being with my "gang". We love each other, we share our pain and happiness, my house is full of kids, pets and life! Btw, my partner also has a fulltime career, in our country this is fortunately possible and perfectly normal.
Load More Replies... *insert shallow hate comment about parenthood here* *insert equally shallow rebuttal here* Man, the world we live in: we hate each other for our life choices. I can see, looking at the comments sections of these posts, why people choose not to have kids. They’ll just grow up hating one another in this environment. Great post though!
I know a couple men who chose to stay at home with the kiddos while the other half earned (better salary, degree, etc.), and one told me that he got so much mockery among the "stay-home mommies" *AND* from "the guys" that he ended up saying he was "working on a novel" just to avoid the flak. Moral being: Parenting is WORK. And it's unrelenting. And be kind. you never know what a parent is going through. (Not a parent. Taking a wild guess based on observations.)
There’s not much interesting about motherhood. These comics are all kinda always the same complaints. “I’m tired! My kid is messy! What happened to my personal life / space? I’m frazzled! My legs are hairy!” Okay girl we know. Every mom says that same stuff. Tell us something we don’t know. How’s your vagina and nips? Did your husband change? Is there anything enjoyable about kids other than that you claim they’re cute? What’s tax season like? Do you feel like you’re in school again? How are other millennial moms? Everyone already knows you are tired and hairy, we have eyes.
I wish the comics about mother hood would change their tune, too. And there are different types of mothers with different recourses. I wish we could see that type of motherhood instead of the same old complaints. I realise this is the reality for many, but money, people who help, the country you live in/ culture change the experience, making motherhood unique to every parent.
Load More Replies... I refuse to feel sympathy for people who willingly put themselves in a bad situation. Suck it up.
bruh someone downvoted me for commenting O C T O P U S
Load More Replies... My son didn’t sleep through the night until he was nearly 5. It was awful. That whole time was awful. Very few moments of joy. I love him more than I can describe. But I never encourage my friends to have children. If I could go back I probably wouldn’t do it. For many reasons, one being the planet. Let’s be real here. I did it for selfish reasons and I was wrong. And I’ll never lie to people about what it’s really like.
Those comics always add more and more reasons up why I don't want children
Is it wrong that I want to show these to my 7yo? I think she will see the similarities and will definitely find them funny!!
She made comics about her own experiences. If you want ones about you, make them yourself.
Load More Replies... Well those comics are made by a mother based on her experiences on MOTHERHOOD. There are comics about fathers too, usually made by fathers on their own experiences. Maybe try searching fatherhood on bp?
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