Bride Shares Screenshots Of Cruel Texts She Received From Her MIL Who Said She’ll Be Wearing An Actual Wedding Dress To The Ceremony
You don’t have to be best friends with your in-laws, but you have to find ways to tolerate them at min, and get along at max, as these otherwise strangers are part of the package that gets thrown in with your other half.
But this mother in law was dubbed ‘the worst people have ever seen,’ and it’s hard to imagine how anyone could find common ground with her. “I am at an absolute loss of words right now,” stated the bride-to-be and shared some screenshots of the vile chat she had with her fiance’s mother.
Turns out, the MIL decided to wear her actual wedding dress on her son’s big day, arguing ‘it’s her son’s wedding and she’s paying over half of it.’ The text was so upsetting that the bride has reached out to people online to ask for advice on handling the situation: “What do I even say here? Please help me.”
Let’s see the whole incident in detail and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below.
This woman has recently shared an upsetting chat she had with her MIL who said she’ll be wearing an actual wedding dress to her son’s wedding
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The MIL sent her daughter in law this vile message
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So the woman told her fiance about the incident and this is how it all unfolded
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But the MIL has called out her daughter in law for complaining to her son
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And this is what people had to comment on this toxic situation
So happy the hubby to be stood up for his wife to be. That sk@nk comment riled me a bit too, that's so toxic. She acts like she owns OPs fiancé, he's "her baby" 🙄. My son will always be "my baby": but not in this sick way, more that no matter how old he gets I remember the wee scrap of a thing he was way back when ^-^ I don't own him, like my parents don't own me 🤷♀️
The sk@nk comment followed by getting angry at OP for making her look bad "to the Facebook" is priceless. So clearly she can see that people would look at her outburst and not think well of her, but the problem isn't that she said what she said, but that other people are going to know about it. Of course, this is also someone who is too clueless to get that wearing that wedding dress is going to make her a pathetic laughing stock. No one will be thinking how great she looks, even if the dress still looks good on her. They're going to think she's unhinged and a monster-in-law. No Facebook reposts necessary. She'll do it to her own d@mn self.
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Fiance is a keeper, though. I was expecting him to gaslight bride-to-be, but he was right there, ready to take mom to task.
He sounds like a good guy, he said something about an early honeymoon. "you have no power here moment" would go along the lines of 'you HAVE to get married to have a wedding, BUT you don't HAVE to have a wedding to get married. Get married in a small intimate ceremony, go on honeymoon with the extra cash. Return home and have a blowout party if you desire. Potluck or bar-b-que. If the pics are important to you, there's a way to achieve that as a compromise. When 'you have no power here' exists, the way it's handled is the true outcome. Laugh at the obscurity of it rather than anger --she'd have no power if you don't react to it. Laugh and see who keeps ya company. Those will be the pictures to treasure.
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Here's what you do, ask both sets of parents to wear white. It will balance out the pictures and steal her thunder. If you really wanted to go radical, ask all married women and/ or men to wear white. Say it is to celebrate the institution of marriage and commitment. ORRRRR: have a tye-dye wedding where you all wear cheap white clothes and throw dye at each other. IDK, I'm just spitballing.
It may be a little harsh, but she is not a requirement for the wedding. Not her funds nor her presence. Toxic family is a pain in the @$$, but deal with her now and get some ground rules laid down.
I wish people stopped thinking their children's lives are about *themselves*. Children are not there to fulfill *your* fantasies.
Here's a link to a great maid of honor. MIL showed up in a wedding dress. At the reception, the maid of honor "accidentally" tripped and spilled a her first glass of red wine all over the front of it. MIL screamed, cried, etc and the rest of the guests response was to take pictures. https://www.distractify.com/trending/2018/10/09/V6udd/mil-white-dress
I love how the fiancée solved the problem in a tweet. "If she doesn't respect you and your wishes she's not going to be there." End of discussion.
Im surprised the groom actually just straight up supported his fiancee. This things usually got the other way when posted here so good on him.
Elope! Spend your money on an amazing destination wedding/honeymoon with just the two of you!
No! Simply let her wear the dress. She'll be making an enormous ASS of herself & no one will ever forget it. It's exactly what she deserves!
Yep. If this does come to pass, take the high road. Be sweet as pie about it. Let her make a complete fool of herself and be her own little drama sideshow with no participation from you while you look like kindness itself. I still vote for the disinvite, but if somehow that doesn't happen, let her bury herself. She doesn't need any help. The more gracious you are, the crazier she'll look.
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This is why I never want a wedding. A marriage, but not a wedding. Jet out to some far-flung country, find a random priest and some old deaf couple to be witnesses. Get married without the hype and the fuss, wear whatever the hell we want and finish the day off by getting stuffed on good food.
I'd do what Kelly suggested: bridesmaid in white. Bonus point if bride's mother wears her wedding dress, too. Ask as many guest as you can to wear white or very light colours close to white (if they can't wear white for some reason). Choose another colour for the bride; something that will pop up - let other guests know not to wear that colour and style. Bride still pops up, mother of the groom gets drowned in white among others.
There's a reason people are no longer getting married and this is one of them. My own mother talks to me like that and I cut her off no way anyone else's mother will speak to me like that.
Look, if your bitch mother-in-law insists on wearing her own wedding gown to YOUR wedding, the only thing to do is encourage her to make a complete fool of herself! Encourage your friends to giggle at her during the ceremony, and to stare and her and exchange snarky comments at the reception, and laugh loudly as everyone gets drunker. Ah, but the real fun begins when you put the pictures on social media... and you are in a position to make sure she gets to see the comments!!
I'd ask everyone to wear white, off-white, or cream, without telling MIL. Get all the bridesmaids to wear wedding dresses, invite anyone else who wished to to wear their wedding dress. Men in light slacks or suits (grey or tan) and white shirts. All the decorations, white, and all the flowers, white.h th Yards of white tulle drapery. Have a coloured dress myself, probrably deep blue, and a coloured wedding cake, maybe fondant flowers all in rich colours. MIL could blend in with the background. It would be epic.
Pretend you agree that you're at fault on a weekly bases, along with a huge box of chocolate begging for forgiveness. By the time the wedding date arrives, she will not fit into that dress. Problem solved.
Is she high? Wtf planet does she live on where she thinks this is acceptable? I thank the old and new gods that my mil is kind to me I don’t think I could stomach that in my life
I'd throw a pyjamas wedding party out of pure spite She would look hilarious in her cookie-cutter white dress among other guests in pyjamas. Seriously, though, she should be disinvited.
My advice: Elope. Make it a private event, just between the two of you. Or, since your fiancé talked about just having the honeymoon, make it a private ceremony at the honeymoon destination. Basically, long distance eloping. Anything to leave the bitch-in-law out of it and don’t use her money. If you merely uninvite her, your fiancé’s father might feel obligated not to attend, and that might have a domino effect in his family. Plus, she’d probably show up and make a scene anyway. You can always throw a reception when you get back, or have a formal ceremony another time (preferably after she passes on, and is buried in her f*****g wedding dress).
Do NOT have a big wedding. Run off and get married. Come back and have a HUGE wedding reception at the beach or somewhere very "casual." OR tell her, fine, wear the dress, ONLY if you dye it black. Or, have your mom wear her wedding dress, too. In fact tell EVERYONE who is invited to wear their wedding dresses.
Tell her she can go to the wedding OR she can wear the dress. Not both.
MIL must mean motherfkers in law, 75% of them are. If u got a good MIL then congrats ur lucky
I lucked out and got the best, most amazing mother-in-law on the planet 🥰.... My husband though.... He got the worst... Poor guy. ☹️
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2 choices: 1) do as boyfriend suggests, bag the whole wedding and elope and go on honeymoon. 2) Have a ceremony and let m-i-l make a damn fool of herself and wear that dress. She’ll be the laughing stock of the wedding and the whole thing will backfire in her face. First she calls OP a skank and then she calls her a bitch. She needs to be put in her place once and for all.
I have never been to a wedding where either of the mothers wore white, much less a wedding dress. Question to all Pandas out there: How is something like this viewed by the other guests—-the ones who either aren’t family members, or are distant enough relatives to have perspective—-when they’re able to talk together at the reception?
I would have to let the crazy old bat wear the dress! The whole scene will speak for itself! 😂 she’ll be the one looking a straight fool! And the wife would look like a saint for not fighting her demented future mother in law! Also will be good proof of when her mental health started to decline! I love the movie I care a lot :)
Let her wear it, and warn everyone ahead of time... so they all look at her and roll their eyes... make her feel uncomfortable. -- OR tell everyone who owns a wedding dress to wear theirs as well. That way she won't stick out and be special like she wants. -- Basically let her do it, but undermine her attempt to ruin the wedding
Arm everyone with dye-filled super-soakers and give out a prize to whomever destroys Mamaw's dress.
Can't they decide on a theme wedding? Like beach party / farm party, etc. MLAW from hell would look ridiculous not following the dress code
Would love to see a follow up to this...did the MIL have the cojones to actually wear that dress, and if she did, what happened? Or did the bride and groom elope or something? And props to the groom for standing up to Mommie Dearest...he sounds like a keeper and I hope that the bride and groom have a long, loving life ahead of them, because with that witch in the family, they need all the happiness they can get!!!
I am very glad for the bride's sake that her husband aka: mumma's boy, did not continue to be a mummas boy and actually stood up to his mum. What a horrible human being she is. I would plan the wedding for the day before and make her think it is the day after and let her show up to the wedding venue alone in a ugly wedding dress.
I’m petty. I would tell everyone what she had the audacity to do. My family would chew her up, spit her out and send her home crying. By the way, I’m glad he stood up for his fiancée. It’s what he is supposed to do. I’m so glad my mother In law is so sweet. I honestly love her.
I was confused at first and thought that the MIL was trying to force the girl to wear an ugly wedding dress she didn't want
Yall Idk why I'm saying this but the mom is Sue, the son is Mark, and the fiance is Melissa.
I love the idea of everyone wearing wedding dresses. Like really awful ones from the 80s though.
And that is why hubby and I paid for our own wedding and kept it very small (32 people) so no one had a say in our wedding but us. Also I am super lucky and my MIL is one of the best humans in the whole world. Note to self, if my son gets married don't be a twat to his partner. yikes.
Let her wear it. The only embarrassment will be her and finally everyone on the day will see what a b***h she is. Seriously, it'd be quite amusing to see a middle aged woman in a full wedding dress at her son's wedding. If that doesn't scream 'weirdo' then I don't know what does. I hope the OP and her fiance can make it together. Having a mother that toxic is no fun and I dread to think how she'll be if they have children. But as long as her fiance sticks up for her, they should be able to ride the storm. I would definitely call her bluff though. You hold your head up high on your wedding day and watch as everyone else awkwardly avoids the MIL from hell. You'll come out the bigger person.
i have issues with future MIL calling her future DIL skank. Kinda give you the idea what sort of treatment in store for the DIL. what a narcissist.
I hate to say this, but even if the fiance supports her right now, I suspect this MIL, if they marry, will still be part of her life, and will make her life absolutely miserable. I'd encourage her to just run away as far as she can, as fast as she can, and don't look back.
I'm getting married in December and omg if my MIL did that to me.... hell hath no fury lol. I'm torn between being angry with her or just laugh. this is craziness. You could always enlist your brides maids to hold glasses of red wine all night and if that crazy bish comes close to wearing any kind of white or that dress just dump the wine on her.
Let her wear the dress and then have a little accident with the wine :)
"The Facebook". Lol!! Thanks for sharing Melissa, next time do better with the redaction though :)
This MIL is pathologically disturbed. She does not know boundaries, is controlling, unable to interact in a civil manner and needs to be the center of attention. As a psychiatrist let me tell you something: SHE IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE, NEVER!! You are just seeing the tip of the iceberg. You say your fiance is a mama's boy that makes the situation worse. You need to make a decision very quickly--do you want to spend your adult life in a living hell or do you want peace of mind and happiness. I'm sorry but the only way you are going to get the latter is to cut yourself off from your fiance and his mother. I am truly so sorry--however, I have seen this more times than you can imagine.
elope and let her show up to an empty wedding venue so that way she can wear her dress and have the reception she wants alone
Honestly that’s a good husband there 😊. Good of him to put his love and fiancée before his mother ^^
I thow there are many crazy MIL stories on reddit, but this one looks suuuper fake. Something in the writing is weird.
@ben I really, really hope you are joking!!!
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First off, I'm going to assume they were both working and she was possibly in a state of distress. Second, she was able to provide him the solid proof this was happening. Many couples communicate via text so there is a hard print of decision. Third, if she wants to blast her MIL for being a B***h I could care less. Her MIL should have planned on not being such a B***h. We are in an age that when you act like this, you will get blasted on the internet. So don't act like this.
Load More Replies... So happy the hubby to be stood up for his wife to be. That sk@nk comment riled me a bit too, that's so toxic. She acts like she owns OPs fiancé, he's "her baby" 🙄. My son will always be "my baby": but not in this sick way, more that no matter how old he gets I remember the wee scrap of a thing he was way back when ^-^ I don't own him, like my parents don't own me 🤷♀️
The sk@nk comment followed by getting angry at OP for making her look bad "to the Facebook" is priceless. So clearly she can see that people would look at her outburst and not think well of her, but the problem isn't that she said what she said, but that other people are going to know about it. Of course, this is also someone who is too clueless to get that wearing that wedding dress is going to make her a pathetic laughing stock. No one will be thinking how great she looks, even if the dress still looks good on her. They're going to think she's unhinged and a monster-in-law. No Facebook reposts necessary. She'll do it to her own d@mn self.
Load More Replies... Fiance is a keeper, though. I was expecting him to gaslight bride-to-be, but he was right there, ready to take mom to task.
He sounds like a good guy, he said something about an early honeymoon. "you have no power here moment" would go along the lines of 'you HAVE to get married to have a wedding, BUT you don't HAVE to have a wedding to get married. Get married in a small intimate ceremony, go on honeymoon with the extra cash. Return home and have a blowout party if you desire. Potluck or bar-b-que. If the pics are important to you, there's a way to achieve that as a compromise. When 'you have no power here' exists, the way it's handled is the true outcome. Laugh at the obscurity of it rather than anger --she'd have no power if you don't react to it. Laugh and see who keeps ya company. Those will be the pictures to treasure.
Load More Replies... Here's what you do, ask both sets of parents to wear white. It will balance out the pictures and steal her thunder. If you really wanted to go radical, ask all married women and/ or men to wear white. Say it is to celebrate the institution of marriage and commitment. ORRRRR: have a tye-dye wedding where you all wear cheap white clothes and throw dye at each other. IDK, I'm just spitballing.
It may be a little harsh, but she is not a requirement for the wedding. Not her funds nor her presence. Toxic family is a pain in the @$$, but deal with her now and get some ground rules laid down.
I wish people stopped thinking their children's lives are about *themselves*. Children are not there to fulfill *your* fantasies.
Here's a link to a great maid of honor. MIL showed up in a wedding dress. At the reception, the maid of honor "accidentally" tripped and spilled a her first glass of red wine all over the front of it. MIL screamed, cried, etc and the rest of the guests response was to take pictures. https://www.distractify.com/trending/2018/10/09/V6udd/mil-white-dress
I love how the fiancée solved the problem in a tweet. "If she doesn't respect you and your wishes she's not going to be there." End of discussion.
Im surprised the groom actually just straight up supported his fiancee. This things usually got the other way when posted here so good on him.
Elope! Spend your money on an amazing destination wedding/honeymoon with just the two of you!
No! Simply let her wear the dress. She'll be making an enormous ASS of herself & no one will ever forget it. It's exactly what she deserves!
Yep. If this does come to pass, take the high road. Be sweet as pie about it. Let her make a complete fool of herself and be her own little drama sideshow with no participation from you while you look like kindness itself. I still vote for the disinvite, but if somehow that doesn't happen, let her bury herself. She doesn't need any help. The more gracious you are, the crazier she'll look.
Load More Replies... This is why I never want a wedding. A marriage, but not a wedding. Jet out to some far-flung country, find a random priest and some old deaf couple to be witnesses. Get married without the hype and the fuss, wear whatever the hell we want and finish the day off by getting stuffed on good food.
I'd do what Kelly suggested: bridesmaid in white. Bonus point if bride's mother wears her wedding dress, too. Ask as many guest as you can to wear white or very light colours close to white (if they can't wear white for some reason). Choose another colour for the bride; something that will pop up - let other guests know not to wear that colour and style. Bride still pops up, mother of the groom gets drowned in white among others.
There's a reason people are no longer getting married and this is one of them. My own mother talks to me like that and I cut her off no way anyone else's mother will speak to me like that.
Look, if your bitch mother-in-law insists on wearing her own wedding gown to YOUR wedding, the only thing to do is encourage her to make a complete fool of herself! Encourage your friends to giggle at her during the ceremony, and to stare and her and exchange snarky comments at the reception, and laugh loudly as everyone gets drunker. Ah, but the real fun begins when you put the pictures on social media... and you are in a position to make sure she gets to see the comments!!
I'd ask everyone to wear white, off-white, or cream, without telling MIL. Get all the bridesmaids to wear wedding dresses, invite anyone else who wished to to wear their wedding dress. Men in light slacks or suits (grey or tan) and white shirts. All the decorations, white, and all the flowers, white.h th Yards of white tulle drapery. Have a coloured dress myself, probrably deep blue, and a coloured wedding cake, maybe fondant flowers all in rich colours. MIL could blend in with the background. It would be epic.
Pretend you agree that you're at fault on a weekly bases, along with a huge box of chocolate begging for forgiveness. By the time the wedding date arrives, she will not fit into that dress. Problem solved.
Is she high? Wtf planet does she live on where she thinks this is acceptable? I thank the old and new gods that my mil is kind to me I don’t think I could stomach that in my life
I'd throw a pyjamas wedding party out of pure spite She would look hilarious in her cookie-cutter white dress among other guests in pyjamas. Seriously, though, she should be disinvited.
My advice: Elope. Make it a private event, just between the two of you. Or, since your fiancé talked about just having the honeymoon, make it a private ceremony at the honeymoon destination. Basically, long distance eloping. Anything to leave the bitch-in-law out of it and don’t use her money. If you merely uninvite her, your fiancé’s father might feel obligated not to attend, and that might have a domino effect in his family. Plus, she’d probably show up and make a scene anyway. You can always throw a reception when you get back, or have a formal ceremony another time (preferably after she passes on, and is buried in her f*****g wedding dress).
Do NOT have a big wedding. Run off and get married. Come back and have a HUGE wedding reception at the beach or somewhere very "casual." OR tell her, fine, wear the dress, ONLY if you dye it black. Or, have your mom wear her wedding dress, too. In fact tell EVERYONE who is invited to wear their wedding dresses.
Tell her she can go to the wedding OR she can wear the dress. Not both.
MIL must mean motherfkers in law, 75% of them are. If u got a good MIL then congrats ur lucky
I lucked out and got the best, most amazing mother-in-law on the planet 🥰.... My husband though.... He got the worst... Poor guy. ☹️
Load More Replies... 2 choices: 1) do as boyfriend suggests, bag the whole wedding and elope and go on honeymoon. 2) Have a ceremony and let m-i-l make a damn fool of herself and wear that dress. She’ll be the laughing stock of the wedding and the whole thing will backfire in her face. First she calls OP a skank and then she calls her a bitch. She needs to be put in her place once and for all.
I have never been to a wedding where either of the mothers wore white, much less a wedding dress. Question to all Pandas out there: How is something like this viewed by the other guests—-the ones who either aren’t family members, or are distant enough relatives to have perspective—-when they’re able to talk together at the reception?
I would have to let the crazy old bat wear the dress! The whole scene will speak for itself! 😂 she’ll be the one looking a straight fool! And the wife would look like a saint for not fighting her demented future mother in law! Also will be good proof of when her mental health started to decline! I love the movie I care a lot :)
Let her wear it, and warn everyone ahead of time... so they all look at her and roll their eyes... make her feel uncomfortable. -- OR tell everyone who owns a wedding dress to wear theirs as well. That way she won't stick out and be special like she wants. -- Basically let her do it, but undermine her attempt to ruin the wedding
Arm everyone with dye-filled super-soakers and give out a prize to whomever destroys Mamaw's dress.
Can't they decide on a theme wedding? Like beach party / farm party, etc. MLAW from hell would look ridiculous not following the dress code
Would love to see a follow up to this...did the MIL have the cojones to actually wear that dress, and if she did, what happened? Or did the bride and groom elope or something? And props to the groom for standing up to Mommie Dearest...he sounds like a keeper and I hope that the bride and groom have a long, loving life ahead of them, because with that witch in the family, they need all the happiness they can get!!!
I am very glad for the bride's sake that her husband aka: mumma's boy, did not continue to be a mummas boy and actually stood up to his mum. What a horrible human being she is. I would plan the wedding for the day before and make her think it is the day after and let her show up to the wedding venue alone in a ugly wedding dress.
I’m petty. I would tell everyone what she had the audacity to do. My family would chew her up, spit her out and send her home crying. By the way, I’m glad he stood up for his fiancée. It’s what he is supposed to do. I’m so glad my mother In law is so sweet. I honestly love her.
I was confused at first and thought that the MIL was trying to force the girl to wear an ugly wedding dress she didn't want
Yall Idk why I'm saying this but the mom is Sue, the son is Mark, and the fiance is Melissa.
I love the idea of everyone wearing wedding dresses. Like really awful ones from the 80s though.
And that is why hubby and I paid for our own wedding and kept it very small (32 people) so no one had a say in our wedding but us. Also I am super lucky and my MIL is one of the best humans in the whole world. Note to self, if my son gets married don't be a twat to his partner. yikes.
Let her wear it. The only embarrassment will be her and finally everyone on the day will see what a b***h she is. Seriously, it'd be quite amusing to see a middle aged woman in a full wedding dress at her son's wedding. If that doesn't scream 'weirdo' then I don't know what does. I hope the OP and her fiance can make it together. Having a mother that toxic is no fun and I dread to think how she'll be if they have children. But as long as her fiance sticks up for her, they should be able to ride the storm. I would definitely call her bluff though. You hold your head up high on your wedding day and watch as everyone else awkwardly avoids the MIL from hell. You'll come out the bigger person.
i have issues with future MIL calling her future DIL skank. Kinda give you the idea what sort of treatment in store for the DIL. what a narcissist.
I hate to say this, but even if the fiance supports her right now, I suspect this MIL, if they marry, will still be part of her life, and will make her life absolutely miserable. I'd encourage her to just run away as far as she can, as fast as she can, and don't look back.
I'm getting married in December and omg if my MIL did that to me.... hell hath no fury lol. I'm torn between being angry with her or just laugh. this is craziness. You could always enlist your brides maids to hold glasses of red wine all night and if that crazy bish comes close to wearing any kind of white or that dress just dump the wine on her.
Let her wear the dress and then have a little accident with the wine :)
"The Facebook". Lol!! Thanks for sharing Melissa, next time do better with the redaction though :)
This MIL is pathologically disturbed. She does not know boundaries, is controlling, unable to interact in a civil manner and needs to be the center of attention. As a psychiatrist let me tell you something: SHE IS NEVER GOING TO CHANGE, NEVER!! You are just seeing the tip of the iceberg. You say your fiance is a mama's boy that makes the situation worse. You need to make a decision very quickly--do you want to spend your adult life in a living hell or do you want peace of mind and happiness. I'm sorry but the only way you are going to get the latter is to cut yourself off from your fiance and his mother. I am truly so sorry--however, I have seen this more times than you can imagine.
elope and let her show up to an empty wedding venue so that way she can wear her dress and have the reception she wants alone
Honestly that’s a good husband there 😊. Good of him to put his love and fiancée before his mother ^^
I thow there are many crazy MIL stories on reddit, but this one looks suuuper fake. Something in the writing is weird.
@ben I really, really hope you are joking!!!
Load More Replies... First off, I'm going to assume they were both working and she was possibly in a state of distress. Second, she was able to provide him the solid proof this was happening. Many couples communicate via text so there is a hard print of decision. Third, if she wants to blast her MIL for being a B***h I could care less. Her MIL should have planned on not being such a B***h. We are in an age that when you act like this, you will get blasted on the internet. So don't act like this.
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