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Nowhere on this earth do you expect to feel as safe as in the doctor’s office. It’s where we come at our most vulnerable, looking for genuine help and understanding.

But according to some women on TikTok, this is not always what you find there and they’re now sharing the most inappropriate things they were told by a doctor. The trend started when one TikToker, @kristamackenziee, shared an incident during her skin checkup.

“He was an older man and I was intimidated by him,” the woman recounted and proceeded to talk about taking her shirt off to show him the affected area. At this point, the doctor dropped a comment that left her speechless and made her feel super uncomfortable.

Turns out, she was not the only one having experienced a disturbing comment from a medical professional. So let’s see what other women have shared in response to @kristamackenziee’s question “What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has ever said to you?”

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was 15 when I was raped. I didn't tell nobody but I still went to go get checked with a doctor for std's/sti's but they didn't know that. While they were swabbing me down there I started to cry cause it hurt and I was scared. And the doctor said "don't cry now you're the one who decided to open your legs at 15"

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus Christ this is what misogyny does to people. They knew better and didn't care

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Bored Panda reached out to Krista Wiseman, a social media content creator and mom of three girls sharing her journey through motherhood with her Instagram, TikTok and YouTube followers. Krista was also the TikToker who got women sharing the most inappropriate things they were told at the doctor's office after she posted this viral video.

“It is very unfortunate, but I think some doctors feel they are 'above' their patients because of their title and their education,” Krista told Bored Panda. “Maybe they feel they can get away with more because of that, or they feel they are entitled to speak their mind because they have worked hard to get to where they are.”

The author also said that “obviously this isn’t true for all doctors, but I’ve had many bad experiences myself and so have the women who came forward on TikTok!”

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My husband and I had a miscarriage within the first year we were together. I was bleeding so we went to the ER. They were like 'there's nothing wrong with you'. I went to the bathroom and ended up birthing our baby in the toilet. I ring the emergency bell. They come in. And they look... they flush the baby down the toilet. I, in shock, walk out to my husband. He says 'what just happened?'. And I', like 'the doctor just flushed out baby down the toilet'. He [the doctor] came in and said 'Well what else were we supposed to do, it was already dead'.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them So I had to start seeing a brand new doctor because I was having a bunch of issues with my skin. Turns out it was psoriasis, but we had no idea what was going on. So I got referred to this new doctor. He was an older man and I was a little bit intimidated by him at first. So the appointment starts and he's asking me all kinds of questions and then he asks to see the rash. And one of the issues I was having was in my armpit. So I was trying to show him like through my shirt. And it was kind of hard to show the whole thing. So I was like, oh, should I just take off my shirt? And this man sits back in his chair and says, yes, excite me. What? I honestly didn't even know what to say at this point. I took off my shirt and I felt extremely uncomfortable. I had a lacy bralette on and this man is just like staring at me. Anyways, after the appointment, my mom ended up going back in and giving him sh*t.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeeeeaaaah MOM!!! Creepy a-hole doctor, Inappropriate as all get out. no excuses

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them The doctor that I was going to for my birth control was checking it. And I had mirena (spiral), and I could tell that it had moved, it was uncomfortable, that she needed to check it better. She said, well, let's check it, come in. And checked it. She was like, nope, it didn't move. And I was like, well, how about taking it out? Because I'm having a lot of issues. And she says, no, you don't need any more kids. You're young, you have enough. Then proceeds to tell me after ab ultrasound, oh, no, you really do need it removed, because it moved. So we're gonna get you into surgery. Then, doesn't tell me or the doctor that is performing the surgery that I'm pregnant. And then, after I have already found out that the pregnancy was terminated after the surgery, calls and says, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't realize that you were pregnant.

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When asked if she’d handle the situation differently now, Krista said that she definitely would if it happened again. “I’ve been making an effort to speak up for myself more, especially if I feel I’m not being treated properly.”

“When the doctor made the comment telling me to 'excite him' I think I was in shock, which is one of the reasons why I chose not to say anything. Being a survivor of sexual assault, I froze and didn’t know what I should say or do.”

Krista said that being in therapy, she learned that this response is normal. “I would hope that if I was faced with the situation again I could gather the courage to speak up and tell him that what he is saying is inappropriate, and that he shouldn’t be speaking to women that way in this professional setting.”

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them what he said wasn't really unprofessional. It was more how he handled it. Big back story. I was having pain in my pelvis for about a year and a half. Had every test you can imagine. I was referred to the doctor because he was a specialist and knew my family history. I waited a year and a half to see him. He did not review my file. Asked me a few basic questions. In total spent less than 15 minutes with me. Examined me, didn't order more tests. Looked me dead in the face and said: Oh, you're constipated. You just need to take a laxative. And left. Waited a year and a half for that. He did not take me seriously in any way, shape or form. Fast forward to another specialist. She happens to be female. She ordered some tests. I get diagnosed with endometriosis. I'm now on a wait list for surgery. So was the problem that he was a male doctor and it was a female problem, or that I was female and he didn't take me seriously, or that he just didn't care?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most doctors dont recieve the sufficient training about womens health. So even female doctors often dont take women seriously. I have endometriosis too and most of the doctors that dismissed me were women :(

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them "You aren't married, right? This miscarriage is probably a blessing in disguise, huh?"

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them It was a nurse. I'm well, I'm sexually active. And I was like, OK, maybe I should get tested for STDs because that's what people who are sexually active do. So I went to a clinic that specializes in STDs and pregnancy, and the nurse looked at me completely disgusted and and said, you should practice abstinence. I'll be praying for you. Then she grabbed my hand and started praying. I never went there ever again.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's concerning that such a centre would employ someone with those views or not have realises what they were saying to patients.

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The woman also said that she was surprised to see that so many women have experienced unprofessionalism from doctors. “I wasn’t expecting the TikTok to blow up, or to have so many responses. Something needs to change!”For anyone who’s wondering if a medical professional has crossed the line during an appointment, Krista says: “I think if a patient is uncomfortable in any way during an appointment, a line has been crossed.”

Moreover, “If someone comes forward saying they felt uncomfortable, the doctor should take accountability for the situation and apologize and try to learn from it,” she concluded.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them OK, so when I was 18, I went to the doctors to follow up on like a bunch of symptoms that I was having. And when I was there, much to my surprise and shock, I found out that I was pregnant. I hadn't considered as an option. And I was 18. So I was understandably shock. So I because I was in shock, I started crying in an attempt to console me. My doctor said to me, don't worry, you are still really early on in the pregnancy. And sometimes this early on, people have miscarriages. And for people like you, that may be a good thing. The fact that I'm a medical professional, I thought it was her place to wish a miscarriage upon me. Anyway, this year, my daughter is going to be 10 and her dad and I are still together.

shannoona , DebMomOf3 Report

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m glad that you have a wonderful family and a pox on that medical “professional” and I use that term professional very lightly… OK no scratch out professional and just put worker

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I stopped getting my periods at the age of 17. I went to my doctor who said it was because I was fat. I was told this multiple times by multiple doctors at the same hospital. Finally went somewhere else and was told its because I have PCOS. I'm 23 and finally got them back and now working on having my own family

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So unprofessional. You can't blame something like that on being overweight. I'm glad she got the correct diagnosis eventually.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them One time I went to go get my blood drawn. [The doctor] was looking at my arm and she ended up saying that she couldn't find a vein prominent enough in the normal spot to draw blood. So she started looking higher up on my arm and she's pressing around and I'm like, you know, that's really weird. I've never really had anyone go up on my arm this far to get blood. And she was like, well, it looks like you've had needles there before. She was like, yeah, you have little needle marks on your arm. I've never used a needle a day in my life. This woman was accusing me of using hard drugs

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... a bit aside - accusing someone of this already is part of the problem, as this contributes to the stigma drug users have to face. They're not criminal, they're sick. And if they're not addicted, not even that.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I was having really bad stomach pains after I had had my daughter and I went to the doctor to find out what the pains were. They did ultrasounds and all of that stuff. I go back to get the results. The doctor comes in, she she tells me that she didn't see what was wrong. And then she goes, but you do have gallstones. So I proceed to ask what are gallstones, you know, all of that stuff. She tells me the best thing I can tell you is Google it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gallstones are a problem, and cause really bad stomach pain (I've had it, it's excruciating), and if left untreated can eventually cause major complications and even liver failure. She should have been referring you to a surgeon.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sure dr, I will then google how to report you straight after

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BetweenTheCracks
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am SO FVCKING TIRED of hearing some variation of "Doctors only get {.5 milliseconds} of training in _____________". Isn't medical school 12 years long-- or at the very least, a bit longer than it takes to get an Associate's? WTF are they doing that entire time, shucking off empathy and un-learning how to write longhand?!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem , I will google that right after I google the medical association that holds your license.

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TmKhr
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Another doctor who should have their license taken if they tell a patient to Google something. What the hell.

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Mazer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank God she doesn’t work for the fire department or your entire neighborhood would be in ashes. Where the hell do they get these people from and why do they still work in a profession which should have really super high standards of care

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope they were removed quickly. I ended up with a vitamin deficiency and using a wheelchair

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Robyn Marsden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

um, yeah, gallstones can f*cking kill you if they get lodged in your bile duct.

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Anonymous
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a bigger problem with doctors that tell me not to Google stuff. I have a list of medical conditions that were undiagnosed for 1.5 yrs until I figured them out myself using Google. Then, whenever I would mention Google to a doctor they would get all exasperated and tell me not to do that. Google helped me figure out my problems, not your medical degree

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah yes. The second greatest source of Medical Information...GOOGLE. It's vast knowledge is only surpassed by the all knowing, ever wise, and diagnostically flawless WebMD.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're pretty common. Every MD should know, and the prefered cure, most times, is taking out the gallbladder entirely. Had that, too, 10 years ago. Similar symptoms, I made one stone pass through the gall vessels, before I knew what it was. I was constipated and ate a Pizza I, basically, drowned in oil in order to get my bowels to move - great mistake, unbearable pain. And, afterwards, after the surgery - the pain didn't get any better, quite the opposite. Yay.......

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had my gallbladder removed in 2001, it was infected and damn near killed me. Unfortunately you still get gall stones. And after having my appendix removed in '16 made my IBS worse. Without those two organs as soon as you eat solid food you will be in the bathroom. The pandemic has been easy for me because I don't eat in restaurants often.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, wait, gallstones aren't "something wrong?" Dude, I put that pain right there with kidney stones!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely f*cking NOT! Seek PROFESSIONAL help, not stupid suggestions from a goddamn QUACK!! 😨🤷‍♀️😡

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess Google are handing out medical Degrees now. It used to be Kellogg's

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think most of my doctors are much more competent than that. I haven't had any crazy diagnosis yet.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depending on the Dr's own field, she might not have known the exact details. My daughter is in med. school and they learn a bunch of things for the exams, and forget most of it before the next exam. I'm a BSN, and have been in neurology before gynecology, but there's a ton of things about the brain I don't remember.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you had lower abdominal pain, I would've asked for an urine routine to rule out UTI which is usually seen in the peripartum period. Reassurance with lots of fluids along with short course antibiotics would suffice. Gallstones if painful is cholelothiasis/cholecystitis needs cholecystectomy

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude! Gallstones are HORRIBLE! I started having on and off abdominal pain a few weeks before Thanksgiving. I was trying to hold off on going to a doctor since there was another surge of covid and hospitals were full. I kept thinking I maybe just had really bad gas, but eventually it got really bad and I couldn't keep food down (because I wasn't actually digesting it apparently). I've had kidney stones before and thought those were bad. This was worse! It was bad enough they ended up taking out my gallbladder. I'm so glad I had doctors and nurses involved who explained things to me because I was afraid of having surgery and was arguing against it. They were patient though and helped me understand what was going on. I can only imagine where I'd be right now if they told me to just google it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A doctor at our surgery googled all your symptoms !!! I could do that so pay £75k thank you

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not all doctors can know everything, that's why there are specialists, so there's no shame in a doctor admitting that they have to look something up or ask someone else, BUT it's still their job to that, at least refer you to a specialist.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Four years of medical school for that??? That’s absolutely terrifying.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can kind of see where she's coming from here, Google will come up with a really good, simplified description along with photos that she probably won't have to hand. It used to be that you'd get a pamphlet, but they're probably banned or something, and if you don't understand that gall stones are stones in a gall bladder, she probably figured her medical description of the problem wouldn't much help you

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Part of me wants to defend the doc and say if you were going to your OB that's not what they specialize in....but come on? They ought to know at least a little or refer you to a doc that does?

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them My doctor took off his mask and said "I already had Covid I can't give it to you"

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went in for a horrible rash in an area. My doctor tried fighting me saying either I was cheating or my bf was since she said it was an STD.. Ends up I have shingles. I also had a doctor refusing to check out my son's who I brought in with hfm until I answered questions about my income and sex life. Safe to say I just walked out and that clinic closed

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Unfortunately that doctor is victimizing other people someplace else. These people need to be reported they are horrible

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them When I was younger, I went to a checkup with my doctor and just had mentioned that I wish I was a little taller. And a literal pediatrician responded: Men don't date tall women.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the doctor at 17/18 so I could get updated on my vaccines. I need 4. I also got an std test because my narcissist boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. she came into the room with FIVE needles. I asked what the 5th one was. she said it was the DEPO shot! Mind you I was openly against birth control for myself and told her before. she said "I thought you'd be okay with it since you're active" I feel like if I didn't ask she would have given it to me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the doctor was wanting to give you a shot you did not consent to and wouldn't have said what it was if you didn't ask......

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I have chronic back pain because of a broken disk. This old doctor told me it's because I'm too fat. I needed to lose weight

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are overweight & female, you can go to a doctor with a broken arm and they have a 50/50 chance of just telling you to lose weight.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I had a miscarriage and was told my only option was a DNC (which now with a new OB I know that I had more options). The OB [messed] up and didn't remove all that needed to be. I got very sick. The excuse was "well you did have a lot of tissue". The a week after she asked me when I was gonna try for another. 3 WEEKS AFTER I MISCARRIAGED

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG!! It’s so sad that our culture expects us to just blow these horribly abusive people off and continue to go see them and continue to be their patients and continue to be abused over and over and over and over and over again.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them Well it hasn't just been one dr, it's been multiple, plus other health care professionals. "It would be easier on everyone if you killed yourself". "If you don't take oral antibiotics we will not admit you for IV antibiotics and are happy for you to die at home", "you are pretty bad at sewer slide, cause if you were good it at you would of succeeded already". "we have given up, you are unhelpable" those are probably the worst that has been said. I have chronic mental health issues and have been in the hospital system since I was 12. These things they have currently been saying have literally broken me

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them 1. the doctor was about done, it was just a normal check up and he looks at me and he's like "your eyes are kinda droopy" and I was like "yeah I've been up since 6am" cuz of school. So then him and my step mother start talking about eye lifts!

2.another check up. So after they do the heart thing ig my heart rate was weird and he asked me (this is a different doctor btw) if I felt anxious and I said "yes" and he was like "no you dont" like you asked if that's how I felt and I said yes, and now you're telling me that's not right like what?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Give doctor number one a sock in the eye, maybe he’ll forget about eye lifts.

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20 Women Share The Most Unprofessional And Disgusting Things A Doctor Has Told Them I went to the hospital because I fainted when I was like in my eighth month of pregnancy. And the doctors told me that I needed to put more ranch or my salads because I had only gained 13 pounds during my pregnancy and they were making a big deal that I wasn't gaining more. So they're like, don't be afraid to put in your salads. My ob-gyn said my weight was perfect

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah pretty sure ranch dressing contains all the valuable nutriments that a baby needs. Brilliant.

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