Someone Asked Straight Guys “What’s The Most Intimate Moment They Had With Another Guy” And This Answer Is The Best
Bromance is usually something you have to experience in order to understand it. But the bond between these two guys was so strong, reading about it alone sends shivers down your spine. Recently, someone posted a question on reddit, saying “Straight guys of Reddit, what’s the most intimate moment you had with another guy?” The thread has been upvoted by nearly 35,000 people and received a lot of heartwarming responses, but this reply in particular stood out from the rest.
“First day of sophomore year (this is 1995), I was in biology 2 and a kid in a motorized wheelchair came in with the principal,” Russell Baltes told Bored Panda. “I sat alphabetically first in class and that was the place that the wheelchair fit. We were introduced and I was charged with helping him with his books and papers and whatever he needed. I was happy to oblige, especially when I saw he had a Thrasher Magazine in with his folders, had a Guided By Voices sticker on his chair, and wore tiger striped Vans…but this dude was mis-er-ab-le.”
“Within the first couple of months, we bonded over our shared fears and our exclusive love of Wu Tang,” Russell added. “I’d see him have to go out back to where the buses waited and his mom loaded him up and strapped him into their hilariously giant old handicap van in front of everyone. One day I thought that it might go quicker with two sets of hands and I ran out to offer assistance. His mom basically tackled me and made me come over for dinner.”
The crazy thing was that they never talked about Ben’s condition. Ever. “His mom told me it was Duschenes Muscular Dystrophy and that Ben had been in a chair since he was about 8 [or] 9. So I had to do research on my own. It was terrible. I found out that it’s basically a slow-burning ALS that shuts down the functions of muscles throughout the body with a life expectancy of about 18 <…>. So at 16-17, I had a vision of him turning into a puddle of flesh in a year or so and I was always scared.”
Thankfully, the guys got 10 more years. “After graduating high school, I went off to Bowling Green and he went to Wright State in Dayton where his family moved back to,” Russell said. “Big shouts to Wright State for being a fully accessible campus, by the way. We’d talk all the time and his dad would drive Ben up to hang out with me and my friends where we did all the dumb, illegal stuff that undergrads do.”
“After college, I moved back to Dayton and moved in with family for a year or so when Ben started to slide downhill a bit. I cherish that time so much, and actually, continue to feel remorse for moving to Columbus about a year and a half before he passed.”
“I met someone and I wanted to try to start a life. Natural wants for a mid-twenties dude. I was still over at their house as much as I could be, but I could tell ‘it’ was coming.”
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Bromance is usually something you have to experience in order to understand it, but some are so strong, just reading about them sends shivers down your spine
Moved by the story, people started relating by sharing their own experiences
What a beautiful post, kind of rare now days on BP. I wish it was an open thread and everyone can contribute there own experience. I am sure this amazing little BP family has loads of heart-warming stories.
Sounds like an idea! Hey, admins! Would you do an article as suggested by Ladies and Gentlemen, please? ♥
Load More Replies...Any day now, I'll be giving birth to a baby boy. I hope that, as his mother, I'll be able to teach him not to fear intimacy in his relationships.
poor boys and men! it shouldn't be special to have such moments with your closest people-it should be normal! As a female I have held my friends hands in the sunset, cried for hours while they fed me chocolate and showered me with hugs and kisses, fallen asleep while holding hands, told them that I love them and that they are my extended family and my second home. I don't think that having tits is giving me a special ability to enjoy these moments - somehow a part of society still seems to think so. And I hope to soon live in a world where that sad guy in the metro knows that he will be getting a hug from his buddies that will make him feel so loved that he realizes that his current problems are not so bad after all.
The gentleman who took care of his friend with muscular dystrophy: You are my hero. Both of my nephews died of Duchene"s muscular dystrophy. I sat with them for days, watched them take their last breaths. For you to have done this for your friend, you are incredible. What love you must carry in your heart for your friend!! May you be blessed in your life, and when the time comes, your friend will be waiting for you with open arms. Much love to you, sir!!
Remember once on way back from a night out we found this lad (about 18/19) who’d been mugged and had a bit of a kicking. We asked him if he was OK and he burst into tears, ended up hugging him telling him he’s safe and all that until his mates arrived. Then he had to stop crying…. Tsk.
Poor kid. Right at that age where he really needed someone paternal/maternal, and couldn't be seen needing someone.
Load More Replies...You cannot ever forget the day you cried and clutched your best friend for support. Your friend wil never forget it either. When you just need someone, anyone, to hug you
Men will cry in front of women - but not in front of other men - kind of sad to be unable to ask for support during bad times
Load More Replies...These kind of posts are so important to share! We live in a society where any "romantic behavior between men" is considered "gay". In fact I'm willing to bet some guy who is not comfortable with his sexuality read this and called them gay as proof how many "men" are uncomfortable with their sexuality. My husband adores me, but he isn't afraid to hug his friends or even kiss them on the cheek. He's not gay, but he's just not afraid of the stigmas a patriarchal society has created. TBH I question the men who automatically are quick to call another man gay for doing something even slightly feminine.
Hugs and comfort shouldnt even be called "femenine" Men need them just as much as women in times of crisis - but they are afraid to ask or accept
Load More Replies...Affectionate relationships between two dudes is so sweet and really should be more normalized
I don't think any relationship can top a bromance. Those things last forever!
My husband complains about this sort of thing all the time, about how isolating it can be to be male and not have physical interactions with your best friends due to a mix of toxic masculinity and homophobia. It really sucks when you are a young male who can't get that sort of emotional support from your best friends. Sometimes you just need physical contact.
I spooned with my best friend nightly for a month. Surprising how cold Iraq gets
Meanwhile in Finland many men go totally naked to sauna with their best friends. :)
My dad told us the boys always skinny dipped together when they were teens. Bathing suits were for rich folks!
Load More Replies...Simply beautiful! If everyone could freely love like this, without silly ignorance and pettiness....imagine how amazing this world could be.
I think these stories are just too wonderful to express in words! I never knew men were even capable of such deep and loving friendships. Maybe know I can understand some of what they call The Bro Code. Thanks for sharing guys!
See what toxic masculinity gets in the way of? Actual caring relationships. <3
THIS. Men being kind to each other, being true friends, this is a wonderful, incredibly valuable thing and we need WAY more of this.
What a beautiful post, kind of rare now days on BP. I wish it was an open thread and everyone can contribute there own experience. I am sure this amazing little BP family has loads of heart-warming stories.
Sounds like an idea! Hey, admins! Would you do an article as suggested by Ladies and Gentlemen, please? ♥
Load More Replies...Any day now, I'll be giving birth to a baby boy. I hope that, as his mother, I'll be able to teach him not to fear intimacy in his relationships.
poor boys and men! it shouldn't be special to have such moments with your closest people-it should be normal! As a female I have held my friends hands in the sunset, cried for hours while they fed me chocolate and showered me with hugs and kisses, fallen asleep while holding hands, told them that I love them and that they are my extended family and my second home. I don't think that having tits is giving me a special ability to enjoy these moments - somehow a part of society still seems to think so. And I hope to soon live in a world where that sad guy in the metro knows that he will be getting a hug from his buddies that will make him feel so loved that he realizes that his current problems are not so bad after all.
The gentleman who took care of his friend with muscular dystrophy: You are my hero. Both of my nephews died of Duchene"s muscular dystrophy. I sat with them for days, watched them take their last breaths. For you to have done this for your friend, you are incredible. What love you must carry in your heart for your friend!! May you be blessed in your life, and when the time comes, your friend will be waiting for you with open arms. Much love to you, sir!!
Remember once on way back from a night out we found this lad (about 18/19) who’d been mugged and had a bit of a kicking. We asked him if he was OK and he burst into tears, ended up hugging him telling him he’s safe and all that until his mates arrived. Then he had to stop crying…. Tsk.
Poor kid. Right at that age where he really needed someone paternal/maternal, and couldn't be seen needing someone.
Load More Replies...You cannot ever forget the day you cried and clutched your best friend for support. Your friend wil never forget it either. When you just need someone, anyone, to hug you
Men will cry in front of women - but not in front of other men - kind of sad to be unable to ask for support during bad times
Load More Replies...These kind of posts are so important to share! We live in a society where any "romantic behavior between men" is considered "gay". In fact I'm willing to bet some guy who is not comfortable with his sexuality read this and called them gay as proof how many "men" are uncomfortable with their sexuality. My husband adores me, but he isn't afraid to hug his friends or even kiss them on the cheek. He's not gay, but he's just not afraid of the stigmas a patriarchal society has created. TBH I question the men who automatically are quick to call another man gay for doing something even slightly feminine.
Hugs and comfort shouldnt even be called "femenine" Men need them just as much as women in times of crisis - but they are afraid to ask or accept
Load More Replies...Affectionate relationships between two dudes is so sweet and really should be more normalized
I don't think any relationship can top a bromance. Those things last forever!
My husband complains about this sort of thing all the time, about how isolating it can be to be male and not have physical interactions with your best friends due to a mix of toxic masculinity and homophobia. It really sucks when you are a young male who can't get that sort of emotional support from your best friends. Sometimes you just need physical contact.
I spooned with my best friend nightly for a month. Surprising how cold Iraq gets
Meanwhile in Finland many men go totally naked to sauna with their best friends. :)
My dad told us the boys always skinny dipped together when they were teens. Bathing suits were for rich folks!
Load More Replies...Simply beautiful! If everyone could freely love like this, without silly ignorance and pettiness....imagine how amazing this world could be.
I think these stories are just too wonderful to express in words! I never knew men were even capable of such deep and loving friendships. Maybe know I can understand some of what they call The Bro Code. Thanks for sharing guys!
See what toxic masculinity gets in the way of? Actual caring relationships. <3
THIS. Men being kind to each other, being true friends, this is a wonderful, incredibly valuable thing and we need WAY more of this.
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