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Mom Calls Out ‘Daddy Privilege’ In A TikTok Video, Gets Over 4 Million Views For Dropping Truth Bombs
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Mom Calls Out ‘Daddy Privilege’ In A TikTok Video, Gets Over 4 Million Views For Dropping Truth Bombs Interview

Daddy privilege is real—and the proof is in the pudding. Some dads get praised immensely and get a metaphorical medal just for showing up and for doing the very basics of parenting. Meanwhile, moms who take care of the kids all day long get very little praise (if any). And this double standard is something that needs to be discussed. That’s exactly what Chloe Sexton—a baker, business owner, and mom from Memphis in Tennessee—did in a viral TikTok video.

She shared exactly how she and her husband, Tyler, were treated differently for running chores for their bakery, BluffCakes. It was actually Tyler himself who drew Chloe’s attention to the fact that he was absolutely adored and seen as a hero for showing to buy ingredients for the bakery with the baby. It’s usually Chloe who does this but doesn’t get a single word of encouragement. Meanwhile, her husband showed up a single time and everyone was gushing over how amazing he was. Daddy privilege? You betcha!

Scroll down to watch Chloe’s full video about the phenomenon and let us know what you think about it in the comments, dear Pandas. Have you ever seen what daddy privilege looks like in real life? Why do you think it exists? Share your thoughts in the comment section. (PS—you should definitely check out what the bakery has on offer. I’m sitting here with my stomach rumbling just looking at the photos of the cookies.)

Just to be clear, nobody’s saying that we shouldn’t compliment dads for their efforts. Good parents are good parents, no matter their gender, and they should be recognized for going the extra mile. However, there really does need to be a more equitable approach to praise for parenting. Showing up to take care of your kid from time to time shouldn’t be praised more than someone who puts in the effort consistently, without grumbling, without expecting any sort of reward.

I reached out to Chloe and she kindly answered my questions about her video. She told Bored Panda that she “definitely wasn’t expecting” her video to reach such a large audience outside of TikTok. “My followers are largely women, mothers, and parents, and the topics I discussed in my video always ring true for them as well. I think parents, especially women raising children with men, know that this experience is universal. When a mother parents she’s only doing exactly as expected. When a father does those same tasks he’s hailed a hero!”

More info: TikTok | Instagram | BluffCakes.com

Meet Chloe, a baker, business owner, and mom from Memphis. One of her videos went viral after she tackled an important issue

Image credits: bluffcakes

The mom spoke about ‘daddy privilege,’ the phenomenon where people praise dads and call them heroes for doing basic, everyday parenting stuff

Image credits: chloebluffcakes

You can watch the full video, which got over 4.1 million views, right over here

@chloebluffcakesIt’s the daddy hero treatment for me 🙃♬ original sound – Chloe

Here’s what Chloe said about daddy privilege in the video

Chloe shared some more of her thoughts about daddy privilege with Bored Panda. “Daddy privilege really boils down to the acts as a parent the general public sees as ‘exemplary.’ I completely believe that fathers should be praised for being standard parents—I simply think that mothers should AS WELL! By no means take away praise from father carrying his weight. Just pay close attention to the women who take their place 9 out of 10 times,” she said.

When not spending time with her loving family and taking care of her two kids, Theo and Mason, Chloe’s life centers around baking. Her passion for baking started with her love for “everything Martha Stewart and a desire to conquer complicated treats.” For her, baking is a “soothing exercise in creativity and self-care” and she believes she’s lucky enough to be able to dedicate herself to this every single day. “My work largely focuses on our Giant Cookie Shop thanks to the incredible support of our TikTok followers.”

Chloe’s TikTok video got nearly a million likes on the platform and was viewed over 4.1 million times. That just shows that people really related to what she had to say and that daddy privilege is a far wider problem than we might think at first glance.

In the video, the baker explained just how differently she and her husband got treated when picking supplies for her business when they brought the baby. The people in the store thought it was extraordinary that the man was taking care of the baby and they weren’t subtle with their praise. In fact, they heaped it high, calling him a hero. A hero! Meanwhile, whenever Chloe would come in with the baby (or back when she was pregnant), it was all seen as ‘business as usual’ by the cashiers. Unfortunately, hard work gets a very different response depending on what gender the parent is.

“He’s literally not a hero. He’s just a father, just a parent, doing the same [stuff]I do every week,” Chloe said in her video. She also inspired other moms to share their own experiences, having seen what daddy privilege looks like with their own eyes.

Chloe explained that nobody praises moms like they compliment dads for taking care of the kids and working at the same time

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Radek Suski
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can we please have a TikTok category and a filter that would allow to exclude it?

Brandon Marlowe
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too bad there's not some other way to know. Oh, wait, the headline of this post was, "Mom Calls Out ‘Daddy Privilege’ In A TikTok Video, Gets Over 4 Million Views For Dropping Truth Bombs" Maybe if you don't want to see TikTok content you could just, like, ....not.

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Green Cappy
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe you'd say it's a "privilege" but I woudn't. Although it could be an advantage, in most places the fact that good dads are seen as a rarity can be a negative for them. Would you really say that for example say women in IT being infantilized and that everyone would always say that "Wow you're really inspiring that you do that as a woman" as female privilege? This is an advantage but not a privilege, and just like in this case it's not always good, since this is literally the bigotry of low expectations.

Sarah
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When people ask my sister "oh, is your husband babysitting today", she usually responds with "no, he's fathering". He tells people the same thing. :)

lenka
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do the same thing. Usually reply that he is parenting. When men ask me, and I know they have children, I usually respond with, Is your wife babysitting your children?

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Radek Suski
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can we please have a TikTok category and a filter that would allow to exclude it?

Brandon Marlowe
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too bad there's not some other way to know. Oh, wait, the headline of this post was, "Mom Calls Out ‘Daddy Privilege’ In A TikTok Video, Gets Over 4 Million Views For Dropping Truth Bombs" Maybe if you don't want to see TikTok content you could just, like, ....not.

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Green Cappy
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1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe you'd say it's a "privilege" but I woudn't. Although it could be an advantage, in most places the fact that good dads are seen as a rarity can be a negative for them. Would you really say that for example say women in IT being infantilized and that everyone would always say that "Wow you're really inspiring that you do that as a woman" as female privilege? This is an advantage but not a privilege, and just like in this case it's not always good, since this is literally the bigotry of low expectations.

Sarah
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When people ask my sister "oh, is your husband babysitting today", she usually responds with "no, he's fathering". He tells people the same thing. :)

lenka
Community Member
1 year ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do the same thing. Usually reply that he is parenting. When men ask me, and I know they have children, I usually respond with, Is your wife babysitting your children?

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