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Mom Throws Out Her Gay Son After He Comes Out, Grandpa Disowns Her With Powerful Letter
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Mom Throws Out Her Gay Son After He Comes Out, Grandpa Disowns Her With Powerful Letter

Even though it’s 2019 and the LBGTQ community is a fully visible and integrated part of many Western societies, there is, sadly, still plenty of irrational intolerance to overcome. And while we might think that things are getting better, they are actually getting worse.

According to GLAAD‘s annual Accelerating Acceptance report, the number of Americans 18 to 34 who are comfortable interacting with homosexual people declined from 63% in 2016 to 45% in 2018, an alarming shift considering that the younger generation are traditionally thought to be more open-minded on sexual orientations than their parents.

“We count on the narrative that young people are more progressive and tolerant,” John Gerzema, CEO of The Harris Poll, who undertook the survey, told USA Today. “These numbers are very alarming and signal a looming social crisis in gay rights discrimination.”

This statistic, together with the finding that 36% of young people said they were uncomfortable learning a family member was LGBTQ means that ‘coming out of the closet’ is still a hugely difficult experience for many gay people. If you can’t count on your family for love and support, then who can you count on?

Image credits: shutterstock / Halfpoint (not the actual photo)

Sometimes it’s the older, wiser generation who are more capable of showing tolerance and acceptance towards homosexuality than their own children. This handwritten letter, which originally went viral in 2013, is from a grandpa who eloquently showed his heartless daughter the meaning of unconditional love.

Having made the brave decision to tell his mum, Christine, that he was gay, Chad was cruelly rejected by her and called an ‘abomination’ and ‘against nature.’

Could you imagine anything worse than being disowned by your own mum? Absolutely heartbreaking. However, Chad found the most amazing ally in his awesome grandpa, who stood up for him like a champion and cleverly held up a mirror to Christine’s appalling behavior.

“Dear Christine: I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have shame in the family, but mistaken about what it is,” he wrote. “Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature.’”

“The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that ‘you didn’t raise your son to be gay.’ Of course, you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than he being left-handed. You, however, have made the choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded, and backward.”

“So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.”

“If you find your heart, give us a call.”

A perfect response! People have been raving about the letter ever since, and in a time where the tide of acceptance seems to be receding, it is as relevant and important as it ever was.

Here’s what people had to say about the inspiring letter

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Cat
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3 years ago

I honestly couldn't understand how being gay could affect our love for our family and friends. I mean, we love them because of millions of different reasons. Genuine, generous, kind, caring, artistic, fun, and all that. Being straight is an highly unlikely sole reason. Unless you're romantically interested in them. In which case they're doing you a huge favour by coming out to you. Embrace it. Live and let other live

Carol Emory
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3 years ago (edited)

I worked for a call center outsource company and my immediate boss was gay man that was one of the most caring and understanding individuals I ever met. He tried to hide his orientation from his parents and friends for fear of being ostracized. He was constantly depressed and self medicated with alcohol. His boiling point came when his drinking had interfered with his career so much that he was at risk for getting fired. He quit his job, went into rehab and told his parents he was gay. He was surprised that his mother not only accepted him, but supported him too. i had the pleasure of meeting his husband before leaving the company to go to college. The two of them were so adorable, I hated leaving. He was, without a doubt, one of the best bosses I ever had.

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ADHORTATOR
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3 years ago

Grandpa is a role model

danielw
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3 years ago

he definitely deserves that mug.

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ADHORTATOR
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3 years ago

Wow, there are some serial downvoters on the loose... tell me why you don't like what grandpa did :-) I think he is great

CP
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3 years ago

Must be a lot of Christines on here. It is just so sad that people care that much about what consensual adults do.

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Cat
Community Member
3 years ago

I honestly couldn't understand how being gay could affect our love for our family and friends. I mean, we love them because of millions of different reasons. Genuine, generous, kind, caring, artistic, fun, and all that. Being straight is an highly unlikely sole reason. Unless you're romantically interested in them. In which case they're doing you a huge favour by coming out to you. Embrace it. Live and let other live

Carol Emory
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

I worked for a call center outsource company and my immediate boss was gay man that was one of the most caring and understanding individuals I ever met. He tried to hide his orientation from his parents and friends for fear of being ostracized. He was constantly depressed and self medicated with alcohol. His boiling point came when his drinking had interfered with his career so much that he was at risk for getting fired. He quit his job, went into rehab and told his parents he was gay. He was surprised that his mother not only accepted him, but supported him too. i had the pleasure of meeting his husband before leaving the company to go to college. The two of them were so adorable, I hated leaving. He was, without a doubt, one of the best bosses I ever had.

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
3 years ago

Grandpa is a role model

danielw
Community Member
3 years ago

he definitely deserves that mug.

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ADHORTATOR
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3 years ago

Wow, there are some serial downvoters on the loose... tell me why you don't like what grandpa did :-) I think he is great

CP
Community Member
3 years ago

Must be a lot of Christines on here. It is just so sad that people care that much about what consensual adults do.

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