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Mom Throws Out Her Gay Son After He Comes Out, Grandpa Disowns Her With Powerful Letter
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Mom Throws Out Her Gay Son After He Comes Out, Grandpa Disowns Her With Powerful Letter

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Even though it’s 2019 and the LBGTQ community is a fully visible and integrated part of many Western societies, there is, sadly, still plenty of irrational intolerance to overcome. And while we might think that things are getting better, they are actually getting worse.

According to GLAAD‘s annual Accelerating Acceptance report, the number of Americans 18 to 34 who are comfortable interacting with homosexual people declined from 63% in 2016 to 45% in 2018, an alarming shift considering that the younger generation are traditionally thought to be more open-minded on sexual orientations than their parents.

“We count on the narrative that young people are more progressive and tolerant,” John Gerzema, CEO of The Harris Poll, who undertook the survey, told USA Today. “These numbers are very alarming and signal a looming social crisis in gay rights discrimination.”

This statistic, together with the finding that 36% of young people said they were uncomfortable learning a family member was LGBTQ means that ‘coming out of the closet’ is still a hugely difficult experience for many gay people. If you can’t count on your family for love and support, then who can you count on?

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Sometimes it’s the older, wiser generation who are more capable of showing tolerance and acceptance towards homosexuality than their own children. This handwritten letter, which originally went viral in 2013, is from a grandpa who eloquently showed his heartless daughter the meaning of unconditional love.

Having made the brave decision to tell his mum, Christine, that he was gay, Chad was cruelly rejected by her and called an ‘abomination’ and ‘against nature.’

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Could you imagine anything worse than being disowned by your own mum? Absolutely heartbreaking. However, Chad found the most amazing ally in his awesome grandpa, who stood up for him like a champion and cleverly held up a mirror to Christine’s appalling behavior.

“Dear Christine: I’m disappointed in you as a daughter. You’re correct that we have shame in the family, but mistaken about what it is,” he wrote. “Kicking Chad out of your home simply because he told you he was gay is the real ‘abomination’ here. A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature.’”

“The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that ‘you didn’t raise your son to be gay.’ Of course, you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than he being left-handed. You, however, have made the choice of being hurtful, narrow-minded, and backward.”

“So, while we are in the business of disowning our children, I think I’ll take this moment to say goodbye to you. I now have a fabulous (as the gay put it) grandson to raise, and I don’t have time for heartless B-word of a daughter.”

“If you find your heart, give us a call.”

A perfect response! People have been raving about the letter ever since, and in a time where the tide of acceptance seems to be receding, it is as relevant and important as it ever was.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly couldn't understand how being gay could affect our love for our family and friends. I mean, we love them because of millions of different reasons. Genuine, generous, kind, caring, artistic, fun, and all that. Being straight is an highly unlikely sole reason. Unless you're romantically interested in them. In which case they're doing you a huge favour by coming out to you. Embrace it. Live and let other live

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked for a call center outsource company and my immediate boss was gay man that was one of the most caring and understanding individuals I ever met. He tried to hide his orientation from his parents and friends for fear of being ostracized. He was constantly depressed and self medicated with alcohol. His boiling point came when his drinking had interfered with his career so much that he was at risk for getting fired. He quit his job, went into rehab and told his parents he was gay. He was surprised that his mother not only accepted him, but supported him too. i had the pleasure of meeting his husband before leaving the company to go to college. The two of them were so adorable, I hated leaving. He was, without a doubt, one of the best bosses I ever had.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, there are some serial downvoters on the loose... tell me why you don't like what grandpa did :-) I think he is great

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Must be a lot of Christines on here. It is just so sad that people care that much about what consensual adults do.

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Kusotare
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel for Chad that his mom, Christine, is a douchebag, but Grandpa f*****g ROCKS!

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Tina Hugh
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4 years ago

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Yeah, it’s awesome the way he didn’t try to educate her instead just wrote her off. The way he did this will make reconciliation even harder now because now she has to swallow her pride first. What a very sad family. I hope the grandson breaks the cycle.

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Cristina Steele
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not sure how a thing like sexual orientation can change the love you have for your child. I have three children and wish only for their happiness and success when they grow up. My only requirement is that whatever partner they choose one day treats them with respect and loves them with all their hearts.

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best response to a child coming out is "We know, we were waiting for you to feel comfortable telling us". That shows that not only does your child not feel that he/she has to hide it from you, but also that you were observant enough to notice it before he told you.

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Aunt Messy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's exactly how it was for my BIL. He'd been so stressed about it that he later said it was kind of a letdown when everyone said, "Finally! It's about time."

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QueenOlive
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, despite your religious beliefs its never right to bully or discriminate against someone just because they don't share those beliefs, especially your own child. You generally don't see Christians protesting Judaism or Buddhism, so I don't see the big problem with LGBT peeps. Being a Christian myself in couldn't imagine not having unconditional love for my child if I were to have one. Kudos to Grandpa

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Kusotare
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being gay is not a 'belief'. Otherwise, I'm in full agreement with you.

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Maria Rohlen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a horrible woman, not worthy to have a child or family.

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Noez 🇸🇪
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never understood homophobia and homophobes. I just don't get it. What's the point? Being gay, bi, lesbian, trans, and everything else (sorry I can't remember it right now) why would that be a reason to be hated? I know it happens but I don't understand what's the point. What's the reason? If I hang out with only homosexual people and never any heterosexuals, it doesn't affect me or my sexuality! Why would it? I just don't get it.

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Zelda Blue
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people should not be allowed to be parents. Kudos to grandpa for his unconditional love.

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Tina Hugh
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I don’t get it. His love is literally conditioned on her agreeing with him/“finding a heart”. He’s no better than the mother. They both lost a child now, but being even doesn’t make it good

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KT Trondsen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly cannot fathom ever disowning one of my children because they were gay. Don't you love them!? They are your child, you practically give birth to your own heart when they are born! I hope she changes herself.

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SirWriteALot
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is nice to see here is that it's obviously not a question of age. A lot of us think that old people are homophobe nazis ... and this guy just proved us wrong. Kudos! Hope the family can grow together again.

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Pug Pug
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We need some upvotes here, some trolls are down voting positive messages. Please check the comments that are marked hidden for no reason other then they are pro gay.

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Astrid Nineor
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It happens on all kinds of posts :\ I've seen comnents like "beautiful picture" with -3 points. They are trolls.. I doubt they target groups , they are just being idiots on a general basis

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Kari Panda
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can a mother call her child an abomination... Religious or personal beliefs entirely aside, how can you hate your own child that much? The child on whose bed you sat when they were sick or had nightmares, the child whose school recitals you proudly attended, the child whom you saw growing up into a young adult. My heart breaks for the son. Being rejected by society for your gender is awful enough, but to be rejected by your own mother is probably the most hurtful thing that can happen to someone coming out.

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Amanda Ammermann
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My hope with my daughter is that if she is gay she doesnt even feel a need to come out, she just brings home a girl and says "Mom this is my girlfriend" . I want her to love herself just as she is, because I sure as hell do.

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Melisa K.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS IS BRILLIANT! He really puts the 'Grand' in grandparent. He is probably better off without her.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm very impressed by the Grandpa, it must have been very difficult to disown his daughter but he did it anyway because he knew he needed to stand up for his grandson. It's incredible! The world needs more people like him!

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Jacob Frantz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whats this? Your karen is evolving! Karen evolved into Christine!

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Leo Domitrix
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm most worried that people have found it less acceptable to be accepting.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandpa just raised the bar for all other Grandparents out there! You go G-man!!

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Pickleball Resa
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I came out as a lesbian to my parents, my mom told me I was going to burn in hell. My dad gave me his collection of Playboys.

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Valereee
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am from the "older" generation (72), my grandson is gay & we all love him...ever notice that a lot of them ( I meant gay people ) are the best contributors to our messed up today's society? The only thing that worries me about him being gay is that the part of Tenn. that we live in seems to be very judgemental.

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Foxyloxylou
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

im not gay but this is a very beautiful letter. maybe its a little much to disown her but the grandpa's right. ive never understood homophobic people. i dont get how i wont get to be with God when i die all because im in love with a girl. like, if i murder someone but then i go to church and pray and stuff, i might go to Heaven. but the second i crush on someone of my gender, i have a one way ticket to Lucifer. like what am i supposed to do, date someone else and ignore my feelings and be unhappy for the rest of my life? yes, God didn't intend boys to date boys or whatever, but he didnt intend for Adam and Eve to eat the fruit, but here we are! it doesnt make any bloody sense.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is nothing like unconditional love and this is a shining example of the best kind. That Grandpa is a wonderful kind caring man and just the type of person that young lad needs right now. He's of luck to both of them.

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Bill Taylor
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom was probably too worried about what her friends and neighbors thought. Sad that she and others do this to their children.

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Dany Pierce-Knies
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mr. Grandpa you are awesome! Daughter not so much! It really should all be about the individual... not sexual orientation, the clothes one wears or even their religion. Open your mind and you might be surprised what wonders you may encounter!

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So what happened with Chad and his mom in the 6 years since this was first published? Did she have a change of heart and reconcile?

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Cynthia Handly
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love is love. It is NONE of my business who someone wants to LOVE. Kids are always doing something that we wouldn't do. Two of our kids have been married 5 times...going on six. Our world is not their world. Ask yourself if they are happy? Are they healthy. Love is a very hard thing to find. I understand the grandfather's reaction. But he is doing the same thing as the daughter. Disowning her for not being like him. Just love everyone where they are at. That doesn't mean you have to hang around them. No one has a right to hurt you either. Dealing with Christian indoctrination is really hard. Life is hard. Don't make life harder for anyone.

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Melisa K.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its no where near as harsh as your own mother disowning you for being yourself. Your parents are supposed to be the ones you can count on no matter what. This would have scarred me for life!

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Nicole Holt
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my daughter was in high school she had a friend who was afraid to come out to his parents. She asked me what I would say, if she told me she was a lesbian. My answer: "I love you. I mean..what else would you expect me to say?" I would never disown any of my children for which gender they love. All I want for them is to find a loving partner they are happy with. Period.

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OnlyMyOpinion
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Almost welled up reading that letter. Lucky boy having a man like that as a grandfather. Xx

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Oerff On Tour
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She, as a "Christian", didn't follow two critical proclamations of Jesus Christ himself. The first is "to love, honor and respect" (with the most important one being LOVE) and the other "He who believes in Jesus doesn't have to follow the Judaic Laws (in other words; The Old Testament)

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Aidan BomBom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rlly hate homophobes. Srsly, WHAT IF UR CHILD IS GAY? so you want to say that you didnt made a living child with ur husband to the world, but a living phase? Wow, ive never heard of humans pushing a living phase out of their vagina. Maybe theyre aliens

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i-be-viben
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom and dad would never do that to me when i told them i was lesbian they supported me(im scared to tell my grandparents tho cause when my sis told them and i denied they told me i was good cause being gay is wrong but even if they say that i still love them and hope they would still support me)

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Izgor Tenej
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with granpa regarding his grandson. But I must point out that he did the same thing his daughter did, abandoning a child because something. Never abandon your children. For any reason. Never show them a lack of love even if you're trying to teach them something. Rather show them what love is with your own personal example. Point out their mistakes but never show any lack of love.

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ADDYSON DAVIES
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OOOh dad roast train coming in hot!!! chad you got a hell of a grandad

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Trash Panda
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to know the outcome of the letter. I wonder what her reaction was.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin came out to his parents (my Uncle and Auntie) when he was 17 and they just said "uhhh yeah we have known that since you were about 4, no s**t sherlock", haha i loved it.

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Kim Lorton
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In this world! One day, you may need him and forget your hurtful and angry words, and lament out loud, why doesn’t my son love me? Why won’t he help me? And if he takes after your dad, he will help you. So, men’s that rift caused by hatred for the different, and apologize to your son and dad. Your life without them will surely be colder and more barren than walking in to the desert, and have no one that cares....

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Diane Phillips-Herman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I figured out my son was gay around 15. I kind of forced him to come out to me so he knew I was OK with it and he didn't have to worry about how he would tell me. I think I love him even more now (if possible) because it made us even closer. He knows he can trust me and that I will always be there for him.

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Robyn Gardam
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Go Grandpa! Hope the mother realises the stupid mistake she made and changes her attitude. I’m a parent and if my daughter had come out to me I wouldn’t have turned her away. I’m happy to be a friend or adoptive aunt to people who don’t have family because of their orientation xx

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William Rogers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Granpa" You're More of a Real Man than so many I've ever known. God Bless You and keep you and your fabulous grandson safe. You are truly blessed!

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William Rogers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Granpa", you're MORE of a Real Man than any I've ever known. God Bless You and Keep you and your fabulous grandson safe and blessed.

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Steve Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is deply touching, but the statistic from GLAAD: "…18–34 who are comfortable interacting with LGBTQ people declined from 63% in 2016 to 45% in 2018." What possibly could have happened in that time frame, specifically? Oh yeah, we got a BIGOT for president.

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Ana M
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this Grandfather, I mean he is a real man who can gets his daughter to read this letter and told her she is not welcome in his home if she is as bad as she is. His grandson must be proud if him and to be his grandson.

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Paul Dixon
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But if disowning a child is going against nature...why has his disowned his daughter. Surely the better thing would be to say "unlike you, I won't disown you as a daughter. I am still deeply ashamed of you but I won't disown you. It is clear that somewhere a long the lines I have failed you as a parent because you have forgot about compassion, unconditional love, and so much more. When you are ready we can sit down and talk and help you relearn what you have forgotten so that you can become the daughter I thought I raised. For now, I will take care of chad and make sure he grows to a wonderful parent."

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Momo Skarsgård
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well goodness gracious, gramps letter gave me chills ( the good kind ) go grampa!!!

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Izgor Tenej
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with granpa. But I must say he acted wrong. He did the same thing his daughter did, saying goodbye to his daugter because of something she did. Never give up from your children even if you think you're teaching them a lesson. Show them with personal example what love is. Don't act in a way they would feel lack of your love for them.

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Kjorn
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's a really old story. read it here 1 or 2 years ago

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Roz Klaiman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

awesome. Unfortunately, perhaps he didn't raise his daughter to understand love and tolerance.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Qeythos Nightshade AND Aragorn Stellar ARE GAY LOVERS LIKE TYLER DUFFY

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That's not unconditional love at all as far as i can see. The man has set his love for his own daughter on hold - best case scenario where she makes the call, otherwise it's lost, basically for being a giant b****. What he has to offer to the kid is just plain love

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4 years ago

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Do you think the non-acceptance stems from the fear that they won't have grandchildren from them? Otherwise, why. Bigotry, right?

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My daughter at the age of 11 came out and told me she thought she was gay. Even went out with a girl. She would scream out to the neighbors saying she’s gay and thought it would embarrass me. I told your gay and I’m straight so. She thought I would get angry. Now she is 14 and has a boyfriend and he’s a sweetheart. I told her there was nothing she could do to make disown her or throw her out of my life. Now she does get on my nerves like most teenagers but whatever she decides she is well it’s who she is. I also told her I would never disown her if she got pregnant at a young age and we’d figure out things. Am I perfect no but I love my daughter that much just wish she would realize it. I do tell her I love her and show her etc

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How do you guys feel about a father disowning a daughter who commits a murder? Okay, or family should stick together? I’m just not understanding the praise for this guy. He should have talked sense to his daughter and use his influence as a father to stop her foolishness and cruelty. Instead, he decides she’d just not his daughter anymore? Seems weak.

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I wonder where she learned to be like that. Quite the display of unconditional love from a father. It’s not like he could have talked some sense into her. Nope, straight to disowning. Heartwarming, BP.

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Please stop confusing the word you use - intolerance - with disapproval. Not everyone is going to agree with your choices, and you can't force them to. Quit it.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love that you think that people like me chose to be rejected by their families

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This letter is over 6 years old. This has nothing to do with 2019s LGBT community.

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It's no wonder that with a father like that she came out like she did. He was as quick to disown her as she was to throw him out. It's sad that people applaud bad behaviour whenever it suits them....

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Well hopefully this has a happy ending where she doesn't have to deal with her s****y father and her accident any more.

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CP
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should probably read things before commenting. The blurb before the letter acknowledges that.

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Putting the main issue aside for a moment for something that bothered me - is it the right solution for him to do the same thing he is mad at her for doing?

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He isn’t doing the same thing though, is he. He cut someone toxic out of his life. She cut her son out for being gay. Two totally different things.

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I mostly agree with him, but the whole disowning his daughter and calling her a b***h part just seems like countering a wrong with more wrongs - which doesn't make it right. Yes, she was absolutely wrong, and yes, quite frankly, a b***h, but man, it kinda seems like hurtfulness might kinda run in the family. Nonetheless, at least the son's got part of his family, which IS good.

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Why was all this made public to begin with? And I’ll bet it wasn’t the mom who shared it around social media.

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Grandpa states "A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature’.”, yet proceeds to use the very same punishment that he had just rebuked his own daughter for using? People should look up the word hypocrite in the dictionary. If blame's to be put anywhere here it should be on grandpa for raising his daughter using such conflicting standards. His own grandson getting disowned is likely a result of grandpa's failure at proper parenting.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The grandpa was trying to make a point to his daughter, that was the whole reason for the letter hoping to get it into her head how ridiculous she is being disowning her son over something he cannot choose, yet she has chosen to be a bigot. You don’t just learn from your parents, you learn from friends, communities, other relatives etc so you can’t just blame the grandparent for the way the daughter has chosen to react.

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So, a six year old meme of dubious origin once again makes it's round; yet another in the "goofy grandpa awakes!" ta-da that passes for cosmic validation.

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As awesome as this is, he did not "[show her] the meaning of unconditional love" as the article claims. Maybe this wasn't the first sign of her toxicity, maybe he didn't have the mental energy to try to help her learn to be better, that's fine and his choice. But you shouldn't talk as though he didn't just disown her right back.

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Versions of this BS story have been going around a few dacades now

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SirPatTheCat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and he probably didn't think that he would have to teach his daughter to not be homophobic. Raising kids is hard, and you can't make them a perfect adult, no matter how much you try. They can be influenced by others once they leave your immediate care, and many things can happen that change people. He is obviously a good person, and even if he couldn't make things perfect then, he's trying his best to make things right now, and in my opinion that's all that matters.

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Okay, a little more on this story. Exactly how old is Chad? Is he properly ‘a child?’ If not, perhaps ‘kicking him out’ is something she’s been meaning to do for a while. And I see nowhere in the account where she ‘kicked Chad out,’ only used biblical assessments of Chad’s chosen behaviors. What did Chad mean exactly when he said he told her he is ‘gay?’ That he merely experiences same sex attraction? That he intends to act on it? What? Perhaps Chad left the home of his own accord because of her view of homosexuality.

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Im sorry, but I wouldve done the same thing as this mother, and I really dont give a damn what anyone thinks or has to say about it.

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where do you think chad-boy got the gay gene in the first place?

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I don't think this is real. People from the 20th century typically write in cursive when they write a letter. It's politically correct though.

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Kathy Baylis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Figure of speech, sweetie. And possibly a legal one, too (legal experts, please correct me if I’m wrong). He is in no way, shape, or form implying he “owns” her or anyone else in his family. Not at all. But he is throwing her own word for what she did to her son right back at her, proving to her that her rotten actions can, and do, come right back to bite her on her a*s. Therefore, she’s symbolically no longer a part of his family—-until she “finds [her] heart”. Karma. His grandson, on the other hand, very much IS a much loved part of his family. Grandpa of the year!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly couldn't understand how being gay could affect our love for our family and friends. I mean, we love them because of millions of different reasons. Genuine, generous, kind, caring, artistic, fun, and all that. Being straight is an highly unlikely sole reason. Unless you're romantically interested in them. In which case they're doing you a huge favour by coming out to you. Embrace it. Live and let other live

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked for a call center outsource company and my immediate boss was gay man that was one of the most caring and understanding individuals I ever met. He tried to hide his orientation from his parents and friends for fear of being ostracized. He was constantly depressed and self medicated with alcohol. His boiling point came when his drinking had interfered with his career so much that he was at risk for getting fired. He quit his job, went into rehab and told his parents he was gay. He was surprised that his mother not only accepted him, but supported him too. i had the pleasure of meeting his husband before leaving the company to go to college. The two of them were so adorable, I hated leaving. He was, without a doubt, one of the best bosses I ever had.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, there are some serial downvoters on the loose... tell me why you don't like what grandpa did :-) I think he is great

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Must be a lot of Christines on here. It is just so sad that people care that much about what consensual adults do.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel for Chad that his mom, Christine, is a douchebag, but Grandpa f*****g ROCKS!

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Yeah, it’s awesome the way he didn’t try to educate her instead just wrote her off. The way he did this will make reconciliation even harder now because now she has to swallow her pride first. What a very sad family. I hope the grandson breaks the cycle.

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Cristina Steele
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m not sure how a thing like sexual orientation can change the love you have for your child. I have three children and wish only for their happiness and success when they grow up. My only requirement is that whatever partner they choose one day treats them with respect and loves them with all their hearts.

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The best response to a child coming out is "We know, we were waiting for you to feel comfortable telling us". That shows that not only does your child not feel that he/she has to hide it from you, but also that you were observant enough to notice it before he told you.

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Aunt Messy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's exactly how it was for my BIL. He'd been so stressed about it that he later said it was kind of a letdown when everyone said, "Finally! It's about time."

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, despite your religious beliefs its never right to bully or discriminate against someone just because they don't share those beliefs, especially your own child. You generally don't see Christians protesting Judaism or Buddhism, so I don't see the big problem with LGBT peeps. Being a Christian myself in couldn't imagine not having unconditional love for my child if I were to have one. Kudos to Grandpa

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being gay is not a 'belief'. Otherwise, I'm in full agreement with you.

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Maria Rohlen
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a horrible woman, not worthy to have a child or family.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have never understood homophobia and homophobes. I just don't get it. What's the point? Being gay, bi, lesbian, trans, and everything else (sorry I can't remember it right now) why would that be a reason to be hated? I know it happens but I don't understand what's the point. What's the reason? If I hang out with only homosexual people and never any heterosexuals, it doesn't affect me or my sexuality! Why would it? I just don't get it.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people should not be allowed to be parents. Kudos to grandpa for his unconditional love.

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I don’t get it. His love is literally conditioned on her agreeing with him/“finding a heart”. He’s no better than the mother. They both lost a child now, but being even doesn’t make it good

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly cannot fathom ever disowning one of my children because they were gay. Don't you love them!? They are your child, you practically give birth to your own heart when they are born! I hope she changes herself.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is nice to see here is that it's obviously not a question of age. A lot of us think that old people are homophobe nazis ... and this guy just proved us wrong. Kudos! Hope the family can grow together again.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We need some upvotes here, some trolls are down voting positive messages. Please check the comments that are marked hidden for no reason other then they are pro gay.

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Astrid Nineor
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It happens on all kinds of posts :\ I've seen comnents like "beautiful picture" with -3 points. They are trolls.. I doubt they target groups , they are just being idiots on a general basis

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Kari Panda
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How can a mother call her child an abomination... Religious or personal beliefs entirely aside, how can you hate your own child that much? The child on whose bed you sat when they were sick or had nightmares, the child whose school recitals you proudly attended, the child whom you saw growing up into a young adult. My heart breaks for the son. Being rejected by society for your gender is awful enough, but to be rejected by your own mother is probably the most hurtful thing that can happen to someone coming out.

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Amanda Ammermann
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My hope with my daughter is that if she is gay she doesnt even feel a need to come out, she just brings home a girl and says "Mom this is my girlfriend" . I want her to love herself just as she is, because I sure as hell do.

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Melisa K.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

THIS IS BRILLIANT! He really puts the 'Grand' in grandparent. He is probably better off without her.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm very impressed by the Grandpa, it must have been very difficult to disown his daughter but he did it anyway because he knew he needed to stand up for his grandson. It's incredible! The world needs more people like him!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whats this? Your karen is evolving! Karen evolved into Christine!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm most worried that people have found it less acceptable to be accepting.

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Carol Emory
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Grandpa just raised the bar for all other Grandparents out there! You go G-man!!

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I came out as a lesbian to my parents, my mom told me I was going to burn in hell. My dad gave me his collection of Playboys.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am from the "older" generation (72), my grandson is gay & we all love him...ever notice that a lot of them ( I meant gay people ) are the best contributors to our messed up today's society? The only thing that worries me about him being gay is that the part of Tenn. that we live in seems to be very judgemental.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

im not gay but this is a very beautiful letter. maybe its a little much to disown her but the grandpa's right. ive never understood homophobic people. i dont get how i wont get to be with God when i die all because im in love with a girl. like, if i murder someone but then i go to church and pray and stuff, i might go to Heaven. but the second i crush on someone of my gender, i have a one way ticket to Lucifer. like what am i supposed to do, date someone else and ignore my feelings and be unhappy for the rest of my life? yes, God didn't intend boys to date boys or whatever, but he didnt intend for Adam and Eve to eat the fruit, but here we are! it doesnt make any bloody sense.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is nothing like unconditional love and this is a shining example of the best kind. That Grandpa is a wonderful kind caring man and just the type of person that young lad needs right now. He's of luck to both of them.

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Bill Taylor
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mom was probably too worried about what her friends and neighbors thought. Sad that she and others do this to their children.

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Dany Pierce-Knies
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mr. Grandpa you are awesome! Daughter not so much! It really should all be about the individual... not sexual orientation, the clothes one wears or even their religion. Open your mind and you might be surprised what wonders you may encounter!

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Johnny
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So what happened with Chad and his mom in the 6 years since this was first published? Did she have a change of heart and reconcile?

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Cynthia Handly
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love is love. It is NONE of my business who someone wants to LOVE. Kids are always doing something that we wouldn't do. Two of our kids have been married 5 times...going on six. Our world is not their world. Ask yourself if they are happy? Are they healthy. Love is a very hard thing to find. I understand the grandfather's reaction. But he is doing the same thing as the daughter. Disowning her for not being like him. Just love everyone where they are at. That doesn't mean you have to hang around them. No one has a right to hurt you either. Dealing with Christian indoctrination is really hard. Life is hard. Don't make life harder for anyone.

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Melisa K.
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its no where near as harsh as your own mother disowning you for being yourself. Your parents are supposed to be the ones you can count on no matter what. This would have scarred me for life!

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Nicole Holt
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my daughter was in high school she had a friend who was afraid to come out to his parents. She asked me what I would say, if she told me she was a lesbian. My answer: "I love you. I mean..what else would you expect me to say?" I would never disown any of my children for which gender they love. All I want for them is to find a loving partner they are happy with. Period.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Almost welled up reading that letter. Lucky boy having a man like that as a grandfather. Xx

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She, as a "Christian", didn't follow two critical proclamations of Jesus Christ himself. The first is "to love, honor and respect" (with the most important one being LOVE) and the other "He who believes in Jesus doesn't have to follow the Judaic Laws (in other words; The Old Testament)

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Aidan BomBom
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rlly hate homophobes. Srsly, WHAT IF UR CHILD IS GAY? so you want to say that you didnt made a living child with ur husband to the world, but a living phase? Wow, ive never heard of humans pushing a living phase out of their vagina. Maybe theyre aliens

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my mom and dad would never do that to me when i told them i was lesbian they supported me(im scared to tell my grandparents tho cause when my sis told them and i denied they told me i was good cause being gay is wrong but even if they say that i still love them and hope they would still support me)

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with granpa regarding his grandson. But I must point out that he did the same thing his daughter did, abandoning a child because something. Never abandon your children. For any reason. Never show them a lack of love even if you're trying to teach them something. Rather show them what love is with your own personal example. Point out their mistakes but never show any lack of love.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OOOh dad roast train coming in hot!!! chad you got a hell of a grandad

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love to know the outcome of the letter. I wonder what her reaction was.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin came out to his parents (my Uncle and Auntie) when he was 17 and they just said "uhhh yeah we have known that since you were about 4, no s**t sherlock", haha i loved it.

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Kim Lorton
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In this world! One day, you may need him and forget your hurtful and angry words, and lament out loud, why doesn’t my son love me? Why won’t he help me? And if he takes after your dad, he will help you. So, men’s that rift caused by hatred for the different, and apologize to your son and dad. Your life without them will surely be colder and more barren than walking in to the desert, and have no one that cares....

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I figured out my son was gay around 15. I kind of forced him to come out to me so he knew I was OK with it and he didn't have to worry about how he would tell me. I think I love him even more now (if possible) because it made us even closer. He knows he can trust me and that I will always be there for him.

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Robyn Gardam
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Go Grandpa! Hope the mother realises the stupid mistake she made and changes her attitude. I’m a parent and if my daughter had come out to me I wouldn’t have turned her away. I’m happy to be a friend or adoptive aunt to people who don’t have family because of their orientation xx

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William Rogers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Granpa" You're More of a Real Man than so many I've ever known. God Bless You and keep you and your fabulous grandson safe. You are truly blessed!

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William Rogers
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Granpa", you're MORE of a Real Man than any I've ever known. God Bless You and Keep you and your fabulous grandson safe and blessed.

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Steve Cruz
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is deply touching, but the statistic from GLAAD: "…18–34 who are comfortable interacting with LGBTQ people declined from 63% in 2016 to 45% in 2018." What possibly could have happened in that time frame, specifically? Oh yeah, we got a BIGOT for president.

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Ana M
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this Grandfather, I mean he is a real man who can gets his daughter to read this letter and told her she is not welcome in his home if she is as bad as she is. His grandson must be proud if him and to be his grandson.

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Paul Dixon
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But if disowning a child is going against nature...why has his disowned his daughter. Surely the better thing would be to say "unlike you, I won't disown you as a daughter. I am still deeply ashamed of you but I won't disown you. It is clear that somewhere a long the lines I have failed you as a parent because you have forgot about compassion, unconditional love, and so much more. When you are ready we can sit down and talk and help you relearn what you have forgotten so that you can become the daughter I thought I raised. For now, I will take care of chad and make sure he grows to a wonderful parent."

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well goodness gracious, gramps letter gave me chills ( the good kind ) go grampa!!!

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Izgor Tenej
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with granpa. But I must say he acted wrong. He did the same thing his daughter did, saying goodbye to his daugter because of something she did. Never give up from your children even if you think you're teaching them a lesson. Show them with personal example what love is. Don't act in a way they would feel lack of your love for them.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's a really old story. read it here 1 or 2 years ago

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Roz Klaiman
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

awesome. Unfortunately, perhaps he didn't raise his daughter to understand love and tolerance.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Qeythos Nightshade AND Aragorn Stellar ARE GAY LOVERS LIKE TYLER DUFFY

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That's not unconditional love at all as far as i can see. The man has set his love for his own daughter on hold - best case scenario where she makes the call, otherwise it's lost, basically for being a giant b****. What he has to offer to the kid is just plain love

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Do you think the non-acceptance stems from the fear that they won't have grandchildren from them? Otherwise, why. Bigotry, right?

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My daughter at the age of 11 came out and told me she thought she was gay. Even went out with a girl. She would scream out to the neighbors saying she’s gay and thought it would embarrass me. I told your gay and I’m straight so. She thought I would get angry. Now she is 14 and has a boyfriend and he’s a sweetheart. I told her there was nothing she could do to make disown her or throw her out of my life. Now she does get on my nerves like most teenagers but whatever she decides she is well it’s who she is. I also told her I would never disown her if she got pregnant at a young age and we’d figure out things. Am I perfect no but I love my daughter that much just wish she would realize it. I do tell her I love her and show her etc

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How do you guys feel about a father disowning a daughter who commits a murder? Okay, or family should stick together? I’m just not understanding the praise for this guy. He should have talked sense to his daughter and use his influence as a father to stop her foolishness and cruelty. Instead, he decides she’d just not his daughter anymore? Seems weak.

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I wonder where she learned to be like that. Quite the display of unconditional love from a father. It’s not like he could have talked some sense into her. Nope, straight to disowning. Heartwarming, BP.

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Please stop confusing the word you use - intolerance - with disapproval. Not everyone is going to agree with your choices, and you can't force them to. Quit it.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love that you think that people like me chose to be rejected by their families

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This letter is over 6 years old. This has nothing to do with 2019s LGBT community.

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It's no wonder that with a father like that she came out like she did. He was as quick to disown her as she was to throw him out. It's sad that people applaud bad behaviour whenever it suits them....

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Well hopefully this has a happy ending where she doesn't have to deal with her s****y father and her accident any more.

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You should probably read things before commenting. The blurb before the letter acknowledges that.

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Putting the main issue aside for a moment for something that bothered me - is it the right solution for him to do the same thing he is mad at her for doing?

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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He isn’t doing the same thing though, is he. He cut someone toxic out of his life. She cut her son out for being gay. Two totally different things.

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I mostly agree with him, but the whole disowning his daughter and calling her a b***h part just seems like countering a wrong with more wrongs - which doesn't make it right. Yes, she was absolutely wrong, and yes, quite frankly, a b***h, but man, it kinda seems like hurtfulness might kinda run in the family. Nonetheless, at least the son's got part of his family, which IS good.

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Why was all this made public to begin with? And I’ll bet it wasn’t the mom who shared it around social media.

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Grandpa states "A parent disowning her child is what goes ‘against nature’.”, yet proceeds to use the very same punishment that he had just rebuked his own daughter for using? People should look up the word hypocrite in the dictionary. If blame's to be put anywhere here it should be on grandpa for raising his daughter using such conflicting standards. His own grandson getting disowned is likely a result of grandpa's failure at proper parenting.

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Foxxy
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The grandpa was trying to make a point to his daughter, that was the whole reason for the letter hoping to get it into her head how ridiculous she is being disowning her son over something he cannot choose, yet she has chosen to be a bigot. You don’t just learn from your parents, you learn from friends, communities, other relatives etc so you can’t just blame the grandparent for the way the daughter has chosen to react.

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pooterpants
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4 years ago

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So, a six year old meme of dubious origin once again makes it's round; yet another in the "goofy grandpa awakes!" ta-da that passes for cosmic validation.

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Parmeisan
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4 years ago

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As awesome as this is, he did not "[show her] the meaning of unconditional love" as the article claims. Maybe this wasn't the first sign of her toxicity, maybe he didn't have the mental energy to try to help her learn to be better, that's fine and his choice. But you shouldn't talk as though he didn't just disown her right back.

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Shamus K
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4 years ago

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Versions of this BS story have been going around a few dacades now

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SirPatTheCat
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes and he probably didn't think that he would have to teach his daughter to not be homophobic. Raising kids is hard, and you can't make them a perfect adult, no matter how much you try. They can be influenced by others once they leave your immediate care, and many things can happen that change people. He is obviously a good person, and even if he couldn't make things perfect then, he's trying his best to make things right now, and in my opinion that's all that matters.

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Aragorn Stellar
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4 years ago (edited)

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Okay, a little more on this story. Exactly how old is Chad? Is he properly ‘a child?’ If not, perhaps ‘kicking him out’ is something she’s been meaning to do for a while. And I see nowhere in the account where she ‘kicked Chad out,’ only used biblical assessments of Chad’s chosen behaviors. What did Chad mean exactly when he said he told her he is ‘gay?’ That he merely experiences same sex attraction? That he intends to act on it? What? Perhaps Chad left the home of his own accord because of her view of homosexuality.

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Antonio L. Garcia
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Im sorry, but I wouldve done the same thing as this mother, and I really dont give a damn what anyone thinks or has to say about it.

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where do you think chad-boy got the gay gene in the first place?

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Thomas Es Thomas
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I don't think this is real. People from the 20th century typically write in cursive when they write a letter. It's politically correct though.

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Kathy Baylis
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4 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Figure of speech, sweetie. And possibly a legal one, too (legal experts, please correct me if I’m wrong). He is in no way, shape, or form implying he “owns” her or anyone else in his family. Not at all. But he is throwing her own word for what she did to her son right back at her, proving to her that her rotten actions can, and do, come right back to bite her on her a*s. Therefore, she’s symbolically no longer a part of his family—-until she “finds [her] heart”. Karma. His grandson, on the other hand, very much IS a much loved part of his family. Grandpa of the year!

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