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Woman’s Reaction To Crying Baby On Plane Goes Viral, Shows Why People Who Complain About It Are The Worst
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Woman’s Reaction To Crying Baby On Plane Goes Viral, Shows Why People Who Complain About It Are The Worst

Flying next to a crying child is terrible, but it’s even worse if the kid is yours. A mom named Kesha Bernard was flying from Seattle to Denver on July 29th when she noticed a single mom traveling alone with three little kids, and struggling to keep them all happy – most notably her fussy three-year-old daughter.

To make matters worse, take-off was delayed, making the plane full of grumpy passengers even less patient with the overwhelmed family. Bernard just couldn’t bear to stand by and watch the poor woman having such a hard time parenting, especially after witnessing a shockingly abusive act by another passenger. She stepped in to offer what the rest of the plane seemed to have forgotten the meaning of compassion.

After sharing her story on Facebook, Bernard went viral and has now earned over 193 thousand likes and almost 100 thousand shares. In addition to being an absolute sweetheart, she’s also a photographer and has two kids of her own. Read the entire touching story on random acts of kindness below, and share it with someone who might need their faith in humanity restored.

More info: Kesha Shonet Photography

This mom recently shared a different kind of ‘screaming kid on the plane’ story, and she’s going viral for it

“How we can ignore a human in distress beyond me”

“Please be kind. Please be considerate. Help one another… It makes everything easier”

As you’d expect, most readers gave this super-mom a standing ovation

Some people, however, felt her help was little misplaced

What do you think? Tell us in the comments below!

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Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

It's not that she's not right about helping people, but I'm kinda sick of these self serving look at how heroic I was to be different than the rest of the dumb crowd stories on the internet. Great man, you helped someone, have a freakin' medal.

Jo Murphy
Community Member
4 years ago

I think the point is not that she's heroic, that what she did is normal, and everyone else is a self-serving shit who needs to learn to human better.

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Zori the degu
Community Member
4 years ago

It's great she helped the helpless single mom, which was doing her best to calm down her children. Unfortunately, I can't take a side. I have had lots of bad experiences with toddlers on the same flights with me. The problem is that as long as there are shitty parents who don't give a damn that their kids are misbehaving and let them do whatever they want(Invading my personal space and pulling my hair? Hello, I'm not their toy, make something about your kids' actions, don't let them ruin my flight for no reason), few people would be on the young parents' side.

Sheralyn
Community Member
4 years ago

I think both sides have a point. Passengers have the right not to be bothered by screaming kids, and yet sometimes parents really can't control their kids despite their best efforts (as in this case). The parents who should be condemned are the ones whose kids are flaking out and yet they do NOTHING.

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Maciek Ravs
Community Member
4 years ago

You have to discipline your kids. You or your 1,2,3 year old kids don't have right kick anybody seats - end of the story. No silly boredpanda article will change these basic rules. You might not be able to control of crying, but doing nothing about kicking is not acceptable!

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

Whats not acceptable is grabbing a kid's leg... i would be the first to tell my kid off for kicking and there'd be consequences if she didnt stop. But if a stranger grabbed her leg she can expect a kick somewhere else - from me.

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Melisa Avdić
Community Member
4 years ago

Your child is not my responsibility.

Zenozenobee
Community Member
4 years ago

Actually you're not paying for tranquility, you're paying to travel WITH people and EVERYONE have to be patient and make it work. You can't put your hair on the other one screen, taking of your shoes with smelly feet or put your feet on the armrest, taking pills to support the flight AND drink alcool so you become a pain in the ass, you can't either invade your neighbour, you can't throw a tantrum because the person that paid for the window seat don't want to let you the window seat,(I assit 4 of these comportementsby adult... plus the lady shitting on her seat in first class) and you don't freak about your neighbour not speeking english, you can't either grunt because a delay flight make a baby nervous(they calm down when the plane take off usually), you don't point out 10 time that thay didn't have YOUR usual drink... It's a collective responsabilitythat the flight is OK. And as my father used to say "Don't bitch about the problem: either you solve it, either you ignore it"

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Emma Edwards
Community Member
4 years ago

The only bit that makes me uncomfortable about this is her description of the woman with her hands over her ears making faces. People with SPD (often as part of autism or other neurodiversity) quite often do this to cope with noise. Plane travel is really friken hard if you have SPD, and noises like babies crying can feel like knives in the skull. It is not usual for a 'grown ass woman' to do this but quite normal for a 'grown ass autistic woman' to do this. So if she's on a non judgemental rant, it would be good to take that into consideration.

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

Her whole rant drips with judgment tbh.

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Juju Banana
Community Member
4 years ago

I guess I am not a decent human being, as I believe no one has to put up with a child kicking their seat.

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

It's not about putting up with that, it's about how the person handled not putting up with it.

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Adriana E. Henricy
Community Member
4 years ago

The woman was trying to calm her kid, there are people who dont, they just ignore the screaming child and make evrerything worse for everyone, cero consideration for others. If thats the case, I'm going to complain. If the person is trying, well, ok, i'll endure. But if the person is not evern trying, please.

ispeak catanese
Community Member
4 years ago

I would normally be afraid to help because I wouldn't want to scare a baby and make her cry harder but this has inspired me to try to help.

Daria B
Community Member
4 years ago

Same here. I always wanna help, but I'm so afraid I'd mess up even more, or just stand there like a fool for not knowing what to actually do. I guess I'm a bit of a panic type, and it takes rational gestures to solve a problem and help somebody for real.

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Alia
Community Member
4 years ago

"and everyone must read it" fuck off.

Luna Kittenwarrior
Community Member
4 years ago

Everyone must read it so that they (very well hopefully) learn kindness and learn not to be a crapsack in public.

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Икаталинда Рубинова
Community Member
4 years ago

I didn't have kids because I don't like them. If yours is kicking my seat I will hold you accountable to control your crotchlings. My anxiety on a plane is on overload and I expect my rights to be respected as much as you and your brats. If you can't control them you should be escorted off the plane just like any other disruptive person would be. Agitating a plane full of people is in no ones interest.

Stephen Anderson
Community Member
4 years ago

You're an adult get over it or don't fly. Kids have more to learn, you should know better.

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Beth Moontree
Community Member
4 years ago

The mother should have stopped her toddler kicking the seat. It is annoying but it is hard to stop kids crying. You have to put up with it and be glad they're not yours.

Toni Scott
Community Member
4 years ago

yes, but sometimes you don't know it's happening ... and it can be dealt with kindly.

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Lucky Gaudiau
Community Member
4 years ago

No sorry. I'm on the other side. Control your kids. Kids today are just spoiled and babied from birth. No surprise that at 3 and 4 yo they think they own the world.

Master Markus
Community Member
4 years ago

I agreed with you up to the second sentence. Some kids are spoiled, but you are making a VAST generalization.

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Andrea Koelling
Community Member
4 years ago

I have flown a couple of times with my children when they were toddlers. They are toddlers and misbehave, I expect that. Therefore, my husband or a friend come with me to help out. My children obviously know them and when they act up I have the help I need. I don't expect the other passengers to have to deal with my crying children. If my husband or friend can't accompany me, I won't take a flight.

Sheralyn
Community Member
4 years ago

Thank you for your consideration.

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Dorian Moisa
Community Member
4 years ago

I'd be angry as well if a kid would keep kicking my seat and the mother doesn't do anything. You made a kid, it's your fucking responsability to take care of it, not mine. It's that fucking simple. You made it, you take care of it. You made 3, you get someone to help you if you can't handle them. Why do I have to "suffer" for your poor decisions in life? You're free to have 10 kids if you can take care of them. It's just like being gay, or straight, or religious, or whatever.... As long as your life choices don't affect others, you're free to do whatever you want. Can't believe that people think it's so bad if you don't want to take some bullshit from someone's kid.

Jenny Sears
Community Member
4 years ago

Kelly, it isn't that I don't take responsibility for my actions or that I don't expect my children to. But I also firmly believe that in this life you must learn that not everyone will cater to you. It is unrealistic to expect that everything is going to go your way all of the time. People make mistakes, life happens in a wild, crazy, beautifully unpredictable manner and you must learn to accept that if you want to enjoy life. You don't have to WANT it, but you always don't get a choice in that. For example, I don't think anyone should assume that this woman made poor decisions in life because she is traveling alone with her children and the children were not perfect stone angels, but it isn't my place to tell them how they should feel.

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Sheralyn
Community Member
4 years ago

Oh god the paragraphing. Anw, nice that she helped but just a word of caution: THIS DOES NOT WORK IN ALL CULTURES. Some parents, particularly in Asian cultures, will think that you're trying to 'meddle' in their business. That said, ask politely if she wants help and you should be fine, don't just jump in and start trying to handle everything, you'll get an earful!

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

I thought that was what she did

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Dawna Conley
Community Member
4 years ago

I have kids, I love kids, and I would gladly offer to help a mom in need because Ive been there. But after spending $400 to ride on a crowded airplane and getting seated in front of a family with a young child who kicked my seat all the way from Portland to LAX, I was ready to go out of my mind. I turned several times and asked the parents to please stop him from kicking me and they stared at me with a blank look on their face. They didn't give a shit what he was doing as long as he was quiet. So some people flying are exhausted, some are trying to get work done, Some are grieving and heading to funerals for loved ones,and some have kids that are being a pain in the ass. We share the planet. Be respectful of each other. Its simple as that.

Bob 2.0
Community Member
4 years ago

Unless there's a really good reason, I just don't believe that babies should be on planes. Just raises too many problems.

Jenny Feneley
Community Member
4 years ago

Bob I'm sure planes are still an exciting luxury to you, but to most of us, it's like getting on a bus. If you don't like public transport, find another way.

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Stacey Carmody
Community Member
4 years ago

Call me a cynic, but sense a photographer looking to gain publicity. Bet we'll find out that this story was exaggerated or never happened. My BS meter is going off big time!

Master Markus
Community Member
4 years ago

That's not cynical. That's realistic.

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Master Markus
Community Member
4 years ago

I'm with Selma to some degree. My opinion is this: First, to the poster: STOP TELLING PEOPLE ABOUT HOW GREAT YOUR ARE. To parents: if you can avoid it, if you have kids who won't listen to you, no matter what you do, try not to bring them on long trips (or to theatres or restaurants - basically any place they will be disruptive to people who came to enjoy something. Or, in the case of most traveling, people who are trying to distract themselves from how miserable they feel being stuffed in a metal tube with a crowd of other people.) If your child is generally quiet and/or well behaved, or at least easily pacified, nobody will go on a witch hunt for you.

Jenny Baker
Community Member
4 years ago

I don't fly terribly often (a couple times a year for work) and I have no kids. That being said, there is a difference between a fussy kid and a bad kid. Toddlers and babies get fussy for all sorts of reasons, generally the same as grown people: tired, hot, cold, hungry. I don't have a problem dealing with this and will help if I can. The problem is with completely undisciplined children who scream, cry, and pitch a fit because they don't get their way and have parents who make no effort to take care of the situation.

Me.
Community Member
4 years ago

There are many other helpful and considerate people out there who's stories haven't gone viral; I try to remember them during posts like thi

manowce
Community Member
4 years ago

in the shortest of ways: your kids, your problem. yes, we should be compassionate. yes, we can (not: have to) help if we feel like it, but it's not our responsibility. if you decided to take three kids on a plane, you should be prepared for that. I DO NOT agree with touching other people's kids, keep your hands to yourself, but if your kid is kicking someone else's seat - REACT. we do not have to raise your kids together (leave the village alone!). BUT people should not make faces, roll their eyes or mumble under their noses. if you have a problem - say it clearly, but politely. and don't be an asshole. that last part goes to both parents and non-parents.

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

I think it's weird too that the girl seems to want others to help - as a parent, I wouldn't expect or even want that. But I seriously don't agree with people bitching at me when my kid is crying, because I know my kid a lot better than they do and I know how hard she's trying not to cry. Not that people have ever really commented at me, I mean I'm very responsive to my kid being disrespectful to others and I never let her just go off without intervention, but I also only have the one. If you have three, sometimes you can't sort them all out in a timely manner. The faces I personally don't care so much about, I mean, I get that it's not pleasant (I'm hsp myself and loud noises can really hurt), but there's just no need to be an asshole, like you said. (and yeah parents need to take responsibility ofc).

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jasper j
Community Member
4 years ago

as a person with chronic migraines, i would be the person with hands on their ears. maybe take into consideration that there are people with disabilities and sensory issues who hate the sound of children screaming for a very valid reason? that whole section reeks of ableism.

Vicki Poh
Community Member
4 years ago

Then perhaps if children have such an affect on you you should wear ear plugs or noise cancelling headphones. YOUR post reeks of "ableism" just as much as you accuse hers of doing.

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Bleu Andersen
Community Member
4 years ago

Good job in offering help to an overwhelmed mother. I must say that although you cannot always comfort a child's crying, I would have prevented my son from kicking other people or their seats. Hopefully, this story has created a new idea in the minds of the readers that offering help is a desirable option. One might also be understanding of people who must cover their ears. As a person who suffers under the constraints of PTSD, I must say that sudden noises, stressful travel or prolonged screaming can trigger an anxiety attack which may or may not be understood by those around me depending on whether I am crying, defensive or angered as I struggle against overwhelming, and debilitating reactions due to a disorder from which I will never recover. Be more kind than seems necessary.

Amy Ferguson
Community Member
4 years ago

True- there are lots of stories people post about how they did something good and changed someone's life (at least for the moment). But the point for me is that in these tense situations we all need to take a breath and find our humanity. After all, would these stories be NECESSARY at all if we all just held our tongues and our ATTITUDES in check? No, they would be common-place and nobody would post them. As a preschool educator I have found myself in some awkward and uncomfortable situations with young children and their parents, and the way things resolve the best is that the adults ACT like adults and adapt with some maturity. Yes there are parents who have no concept of teaching their children "public" behavior. But for the most part, parents are trying (!!!!) and even the best kids can go downhill fast in the wrong situation.

Julie Millard
Community Member
4 years ago

Why do parents insist on dragging their kids half way across the country, just so they can carry on as if they were childless, so selfish. It is very difficult with toddlers, I have had 2. They get bored, fractious and generally a pain in the proverbial ! You must consider other travellers, that is Good Manners. I did not fly with my kids until youngest was 7, when she knew how to behave in public. I have an American friend who used to dose her kids with some over the counter drugs which kept them asleep. Don't advocate that either. If you want to carry on your normal life and travel/holiday as if you were 20, don't have kids

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

As if people only travel for pleasure... you must've had a luxurious life.

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Mike
Community Member
4 years ago

I wouldn't complain or show annoyance in this situation and would certainly have sympathy for the mothers plight, but as a person without kids and no idea how to handle them, I doubt I would be willing to take one off her hands.

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

I'd personally say that's totally fine. I have a kid and I'd never hand her off to someone I don't know tbh. But it's just nice not to be judged when you're doing the best you can (if you are. Not all parents do).

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Robyn Weinbaum
Community Member
4 years ago

i'd rather have my seat kicked by a toddler, listen to a baby cry, even have my hair pulled by a little kid, while flying, than listen to some of the nasty-ass adults on plane. adults whining, not saying excuse me when they get up, throwing their seat way back so it hits me in the face [and i'm short!] yakking on their phone about you know, private things. GIVE ME KIDS TO FLY WITH ANY DAY.

K
Community Member
4 years ago

Give me a break. A woman sitting on a plane with unruly kids is not the definition of suffering. I think anyone has the right to ask that a parent have a child not kick their seat. Respect goes both ways, people.

pilipe
Community Member
4 years ago

Exactly

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Meowton Mewsk
Community Member
4 years ago

If having three kids is so overwhelming and exhausting then don't do it. Mothers who want to have multiple kids have no right to complain about their own bad choices. It's not an addiction or a disease. It's your own mistake and other people shouldn't have to pay for it. The author asks what the mom is supposed to do. How about stop your kid from disrespecting others and being a rude family? She's "afraid" because "you can't do anything anymore"!? So her only idea of doing something is violence? You can discipline your kids without hitting them. These parents are already pathetic and then they act like everyone is so wrong for being annoyed. It's so selfish. Your kids shouldn't even be there and you're acting like they are the ONLY ones that matter. The parents should feel shame. I say getting upset and making faces is the best way to deal with it so maybe parents will stop bringing kids to adult spaces.

Amanda Godwin
Community Member
4 years ago

Why is a plane an adult space? Its a form of public transport for humans to travel to other countries. You wouldnt suggest a bus or train is an adult space. In fact if you were that unhappy about using a bus or train because you dont wish to be with the general public you would pay more and use a taxi or pay for the quiet compartment on the train.

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Jennifer Lester
Community Member
4 years ago

Kids are unpredictable. And so, basically, several of you think that because of that fact, parents shouldn't fly? Seriously, way to miss the point of the post, people. Jesus.

LeighAnn Koch
Community Member
4 years ago

Crying can't really be helped, other than trying a bottle, a snack or a toy. But kicking seats is straight up wrong. Having your seat kicked constantly, not just once, should be stopped immediately. Props to the woman for offering to help & cuddling the baby; not a bad way to spend some time.

Tori Jones
Community Member
4 years ago

What I got from this is: Don't offer help, fine. DON'T be a rude butt about a 3 yr old pushing or kicking your seat. How about saying "Ma'am can you please ask your child not to kick my seat" instead of being rude about it. Being rude raises the stress level that children can pick up on and make their behavior worse. If you are annoyed at the noise, try just shutting up and dealing. There are often adults on planes who talk loud or complain a lot. Do you think someone yelling for them to stop or shut up is appropriate?

Joelle Jansen
Community Member
4 years ago

Honestly, I get annoyed by little kids too, but at the same time; they can't help it! These little children are in an unfamiliar environment, most likely lack sleep (because being at the airport on time usually means no naps), their ears hurt (because they don't know how to clear them), and they get bored! Of course you can try and make clear to a child that they shouldn't kick your seat, but they're KIDS. I guess my TLDR is; Try and be a little more understanding.

pilipe
Community Member
4 years ago

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Yes they can help it. AN educated kid don't kick the seat in front of him. Nowadays, parents try to avoid there resposabilities.

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Mary Mary
Community Member
4 years ago

Some people don't like children. I love them and I find them more engaging and enjoy their company more than I do adults! I never miss an opportunity to say hello or have a conversation with a child. If you ask open ended questions, lead them in a topic, and encourage them to learn new words a child can be very well entertained and entertaining. Some of the funniest truths I have ever heard have come out of the mouths of babes. I pray that I never grow so old or jaded or bitter or miserable that I scorn or scoff or scold a child. They are the most endearing and lovely humans on the planet. We should cherish them and invite them and include them as a loving community wherever they are. They are our future. God blesses us with them. We should appreciate their innocence and relish in their imaginations and respect their presence.

Master Markus
Community Member
4 years ago

I can barely understand what children say, much less have a conversation with them. They won't talk politics or philosophy. AlsoGod'snotreal.

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Allie Orona
Community Member
4 years ago

I wish people could just be nicer and more understanding, you know? It's a three year old, they're children. They're learning. Do you want to tell me that you've never overreacted or been rude since before you were three?

Sharon Whitaker
Community Member
4 years ago

One should avoid flying with small children if possible, it is not a comfortable thing for the child and then it becomes an uncomfortable experience for everyone. If they must fly try to explain to the child before hand everything that is going to happen on the plane so they are hopefully ready for it. I can fully understand the woman complaining, but no she had no right to touch the child.

John Ashley
Community Member
4 years ago

Stands as nearly perfect paean of self-aggrandizement for the entitlement crowd... with all the appropriate buzz words to simultaneously attract the attention of the like minded and shame those who dare to disagree.

John Ashley
Community Member
4 years ago

Props to her for helping the woman... but not for her attitude. And, btw, if you're going to go with that old cliche that "it takes a village...", then you don't get to go "oh hell no" when the other villagers respond appropriately to a child's inappropriate social behavior... as happened when the aggreived passenger reached behind and simply grabbed the child's leg. That was an example of how the "it takes a village..." social mores works. How people outside of the family respond to their actions is how children learn what is and is not socially appropriate. Those are things mom and dad usually cannot completely teach by themselves. It takes interaction with others.

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La Vaun Johns
Community Member
4 years ago

On a flight from California to Texas my seat was repeatedly kicked by a boy of maybe 7-8. Finally I got up, turned around and leaned over the back of my seat. His eyes got as big as saucers as he took his feet of my seat. I smiled and asked his name. From California to our layover in Colorado that boy never stopped talking to me. I made a new friend that day and the flight seemed much faster.

Rebecca Coomes
Community Member
4 years ago

Really, really can't take the noise of a crying baby on a plane? Here's my perfect (or close to it, anyway) solution. Requires a cellphone, a tablet, a pair of earbuds, and a noise canceling headset. Set your cellphone or tablet to the music or video you want to drown it the crying or other cabin noise. Use the earbuds to listen to it. THEN, attach the nosie cancelling headset to whichever device you are NOT using for music or video, fire it up playing a purchased track of white noise, played with the volume at mid level. Place the headset on your head, over the ear buds. Now, simply set to work adjusting volume on both till you can hear your music or video very well, and the volume on the white noise high enough to drown out the cabin noise. Enjoy.

Enea
Community Member
4 years ago

Thanks for sharing, and thanks for helping. As a frequently flying mother of two under 4 I fortunately made the experience that many people react kind and positive. I've experienced elderly people drawing silly faces to distract the 3-year-old, teenage girls giggle with the baby and businessmen read a book to them. There's the odd 'oh no, a toddler on my flight' comment, but they are a clear minority. And to all those mother-shaming comments: I don’t think it's about whether she should have disciplined her 3-year-old or not, it’s about how a group of people deals with a stressful situation. It's heartbreaking to see that the group decision was to lash out at children who are clearly uncomfortable (i.e. crying) and their overwhelmed caretaker (because wouldn't you be as well in that situation?).

Gisele Cott
Community Member
4 years ago

without tooting my own horn. I too when I travel is genuinely alone. I was next to this mother with 3 young boys. we all had the same haircuts, so everyone assumed I was the mother. at the end of a long flight NYC-CA she thanked me for entertaining her children. and I said that it was my pleasure, since they also helped me pass the time as well. I am not a good flier. so I was grateful to this woman.

Kate Hebert
Community Member
4 years ago

Hmm ... I've been in both situations. Mostly, it's the parents' reaponsibility. I've always theorized there needs to be one whole parent for each kid. More kids than that is very taxing. The real culprit is crowded airplanes! I know I feel like screaming every minute. And no ugly airplane food to look forward to doubles the stress. A lot of time disappears watching the cart, struggling with bathroom breaks before the cart, eating? (Thank goodness I had gymnastics), clearing the trash. It's an awful challenge now. Screaming kids are part of the challenge. We have to all get along!

Angi Dee
Community Member
4 years ago

Ok, let's look at this logically. There are 3 small children who had to get up very early to get on a plane with their mom. I'm sure these kids don't usually behave like this. a two year old child will whine and be fussy sometimes, an infant can't talk so they cry to communicate, the other one was quiet but that child was older. So obviously at this point in time two very small children are needing mom and she is only one person dealing with three children. It's not that she can't control her kids. It's because she has kids. This can happen to anybody with children at anytime. I have a child that is very well behaved but she showed her behind when I flew with her and we were alone together. Somebody did ask if they could help me though. I said if you think you can please do. Luckily I put a stop to it though. But maybe the kids were having a bad day. If an adult can have a bad day then why can't kids? They are people too!

Trust Me
Community Member
4 years ago

As a person who doesn't really like children all that much, thank you for showing me I can help instead of complaining.

Amy Vins
Community Member
4 years ago

I LOVE that this mom took action to help another fellow human being! <3 I also think Selma in the comments needs an attitude adjustment ha ha ha.

Cynthia Preston
Community Member
4 years ago

Distraction is a wonderful technique. If you are flying whether you are going alone or with someone or with kids, take a hand puppet/a sock puppet, hec take a pen an put eyes nose and hair on your finger tip and peep them round the corner or across the isle, often played peek a boo with the baby or child over the back of a seat or across the isle, even held a child or two who came willingly and with momma's consent. Babies will often pick up mom or dads stress level and if someone else is calmer they can often get a child to sleep while the parent calms down. Now if everyone around is judging their aint no way no how a fussy baby or toddler is going to calm down until there is a calm person to project that calm!

Beth Riesen
Community Member
4 years ago

I have held someone else's infant while they ran to the restroom and prepared a bottle. It's hard to travel with small children and even harder if you are doing it solo. It's a no brainer- you help out that already frazzled mom.

Julie Coon
Community Member
4 years ago

I definite can support her view. Instead of trying to solve problems people get mad. They aren't empathetic they are just complainers. When ever I see a child crying i try to give them eye contact to see if they will respond so it will distract them from the distress. I have played ball with a kid on a flight once. The thing is if we help it helps us all.

Christine
Community Member
4 years ago

i think its hard travelling full stop let alone with young children yes its annoying when you are older and dont have young kids and a child kicks your seat, I would always give the benefit of the doubt as it could be an accident once or twice but after that i would get a bit annoyed a shoot a look. However would ld aways help someone if they needed it I would offer and save them asking, It isnt that kids arent well brought up necessarily travel is boring for adults at times; (Well i think so anyway)) let alone children And you can only take so much entertainment with you!! Kids need to expel energy; but yes there is a fine line between allowing this and being respectful to other passengers. Its tricky thats for sure. Most of us been parents aunts or big sisters etc so show some patience at least. And help people Its a bit of a selfish act in many ways because it almost aways helps you too LOL

Dianne Morris
Community Member
4 years ago

Such kind, understanding responses. NOT! Physically punishing that child would have shut him up, right. The only physical response that would quiet that child would be to abuse him, knock him unconscious and then everyone would be happy. No? Ah, the reaction then would have been that the mother abused the child and made the noise even worse. This is not unique. Many, so wrong, on that flight believe that the mother should not travel on a plane. You see, most people criticizing this mother who had the audacity to board a plane with child in tow are people who led perfect lives, didn't have to travel anywhere, who are always unfailing correct, kind, charitable....so much so that they leave their opinions not as solutions but to point out their superiority and good judgement. (BTW, sarcasm.) Yes, annoying noise...so what? That child? A distant memory. Your face contorted in hate, unforgettable.

Roxanne Lavender
Community Member
4 years ago

I have a 3yr old, we have never been on a plane though, but she tantrums a lot at home, she laughs when i discipline her, some kids/people just react that way to discipline, they have to understand why they shouldn't do that, then they stop, my 3yr old's language and understanding skills are not developed enough yet. Anywho, i live with toddler tantrums. If i were on a plane on my own, and some woman was having issues with her kids i would offer to help, i would ask to switch seats with someone so i could be closer to the woman with the kids so that i could help, even though i am terrible on planes with travel sickness, varicose veins, extreme ear-popping, etc. If you want peace in this world, don't expect it to be dropped in your lap, we all have to work together to create peace.

Wendy Oberg
Community Member
4 years ago

Selma as a frequent traveler I can tell you very young children are works of art in progress and people need to be kinder and more tolerant. I have often had my seat kicked or pushed and it doesn't bother me but I actually like children. Learn to not sweat the small stuff. It's the the big stuff in life you need to sweat.

Kelly Glover
Community Member
4 years ago

People aren't babysitters. What she did was nice, but this woman knew she was taking three kids on the plane. And when a lot of people get to go on one vacation a year, that they pay all of their spare money to enjoy, it's not shocking that they don't want their seat kicked or screaming the whole time. Here's the thing, grab your own kid's leg. I mean did the woman grabbing the leg hulk slam the kid? Or did she gently, but firmly stop the kid from kicking her seat? Because there's a huge difference. If you have three kids on a plane, and you know you might not be able to contain them you need to bring another adult. Because while it was great what this woman did, not everyone is going to want to watch and hold your kid on their vacation flight. Shocker. P.S. I know, I'm so mean. But most people won't make faces if you're actively getting a pacifier/telling your kid to quit kicking etc but yeah your gonna get more faces if you sit there with a derpy what do I do look on your face.

Mary Mary
Community Member
4 years ago

You have to prepare your child for a long journey. Bring things to distract them. Engage them in conversation. Bring snacks they like. Make it an adventure. Let them know they have your attention. Help them with the experience. Help them while waiting. Enjoy them. I had three in tow and they behaved because they had my undivided attention and they had fun. Mine were 3 all 3 years apart. My oldest liked to have responsibility and rewards if she helped me with her sisters and the children were promised stickers or an ice cream for good behavior and they got them.

Mare of Maers
Community Member
4 years ago

Why so judgemental? I don't think you can just expect to everyone being capable of pulling something like that off. Perhaps they are stressed, already have headache, have no idea how to deal with kids etc. I don't think looking down on these people does it make any better. For example, I don't think I would be able to go to a mother and offer help. I have sociophobia to a point where there are days I'm struggling to even order something in a restaurant. Also I tend to have headaches so bad I once vomited in the middle of the night - the headaches come out of nothing and can happen every day, everytime. So if I'd be forced to help in a situation like that, chances are you have me either shivering and almost crying before even saying a word or suddenly having to vomit because my head is killing me. Does that make it better for the mother in need or me? Not really. Am I a bad person for not offering help? According to this article, obviously.

Yavetsid Rodriguez
Community Member
4 years ago

That lady didn't right in helping that poor mom with her kids. Listen people, we can teach our kids all the manners in the world but sometimes the kids act up. And as for the rude adults, they could have been more helpful. Selma, guess what they mother's control over the kids is not the issue, some people just have a difficult time traveling by themselves with their kids. Don't be so judgmental

Victor Vakaras
Community Member
4 years ago

Always bring headphones when you fly. The end.

Mary Taylor
Community Member
4 years ago

Absolutely! Not only do you not hear crying children, but you also don't hear the middle seat person who booked the last-minute $69 seat sale who wants you to trade them your aisle seat you paid for at booking 6 months ago, the drunk person yelling randomly at the flight attendants, the loud group of spring breakers taking up 20 seats right in the middle of the plane, your boring seatmate who doesn't know how to shut up... Noise cancelling ones are expensive, but if you fly alot, they are pretty much indispensable.

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pilipe
Community Member
4 years ago

I think that if she can't controls her children, then she doesn't take the plan. We all pay for the plan ticket, so a minimum of respect for the passengers. I understand people getting upsets about crying baby or kicking to the seat. The problem here is the mother who can't handle her children and took the plane anyway. You try to transform the story in your advantage. I'm not agree with that.

Leni
Community Member
4 years ago

Even children who are completely calm on an every day basis can go apeshit on a plane. It's crowded, there's constant noise, the air is dry and their ears hurt. And taking the plane may not at all be optional for her. Who are you to assume anything about them?

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Brigitte
Community Member
4 years ago

Oh boy, this is a sensitive subject. I don't have kids so I've got nothing to say except: I sympathise with both sides. I do want to say something about "... The freaking flight attendant is just standing there... listening. Not even doing anything..." My best friend is a flight attendent and the one thing she hates most is passengers who call for her to help with something concerning another passenger before talking to them themselves. And I agree (to some extent). I'm not going to bother a flight attendent about every little problem I have, when he/she clearly has something more important to do. I'm a grown up - I don't need somebody else to speak on behalf of me.

Sheralyn
Community Member
4 years ago

I know right? What airline is this? The stewardesses are obviously not motivated to go the extra mile!!

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Rob Gustaveson
Community Member
4 years ago

One flight a day should be for parents with crying kids--how hard would that be. Airlines, Hotels, Car rental places should be compassionate but they only care about money these days not service. That lady who held another's baby is a true samaritan and the article is right on.

Lisa Petersen
Community Member
4 years ago

Cont from previous post: 3) GUM! If your child is old enough to chew gum, make sure you pack some. The change in pressure is hard on young children, who don't understand what causes it, just want to get rid of it. For infants and toddlers, just give them your pinky finger, pad side up, to suck on - this is far more effective than a bottle or a pacifier, and much more soothing. These are all simple things that, even after J grew up, I was still happy to share and pass on to other moms of little ones. Just the act of wanting to help can make for a more pleasant flight for everyone. And if the adult is acting more like a child, definitely either call them on it or report them to the crew - that type of behavior can get you bounced off the flight for being a disruption, and the crew would rather know before they start flying than when they're 30K feet and climbing - tossing Mrs. Bossy Pants out the door is no longer an option at that point. Happy flying...

Lisa Petersen
Community Member
4 years ago

It kinda saddens me to hear so many negative responses to this post - it's hard to fly with young kids, no matter how well-behaved they are. When you put even the most angelic child in a strange situation, they are going to react to it, each in their own way. And this is not a pat on my back by any means, but just some advice I learned while flying when my son was young: 1) I always made sure there were extra toys, books and snacks in his bag that he could share with an upset child seated nearby - kids bond much easier than adults do, and parents don't seem to mind accepting cheerios from another child as much as from an adult. 2) I always overpacked my son's carry-on with a variety of quite activities, as youngsters can get bored quite quickly - this trick actually got him invited to the cockpit to meet the captain and "fly" the plane after one particularly difficult flight on Alaska - lots of crying kids, and we were in the back so J couldn't offer his "help." Cont below...

Emmelina Ogilvy
Community Member
4 years ago

I have to agree that you cant go letting your kids misbehave like that...but people could do with being more helpful...Being helpful makes everyone feel good. Flying with kids takes preparation. I used to keep mine up so theyd sleep on the plane. I flew alone with my who was 2 months old. I fed him to stop ear pain and he slept. People were so nice. Holding him for me when I went to the toilet...I ended up walking into arrivals with an entourage of 10 people, holding my bags, loooking out for my car hire...it was amazing...They all just wanted to help. Im still so grateful to all of them years later. Please help those with kids. it doesnt take much.

Teresa Vazquez
Community Member
4 years ago

My grand daughter and her husband have been stationed in Okinawa now for 3 years, they have 2 boys age 4 and 1. They finally get to come home for 2 weeks before they go to the next place of assignment. I certainly hope they do not have to put up with any of these mean inconsiderate people. Any well mannered kids will get restless on a 13 hour flight. Please people. Be considerate, you don't know the circumstances of why they are flying.

Karen Peach
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