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“Your Mom Is Literally Satan”: Woman Accidentally Overheard Her Teen Talking To Friends, Found Out She Was Lying About Having Abusive Parents
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“Your Mom Is Literally Satan”: Woman Accidentally Overheard Her Teen Talking To Friends, Found Out She Was Lying About Having Abusive Parents

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Having friends is essential, especially when you’re a young and impressionable teen; you want to belong and be surrounded by peers who are willing to hang out, create great memories and conquer the unknown world.

When we’re all grown up, we prefer to stick with those who make us feel good and wanted. We long for a strong connection, and we’re not wasting our time on people who, perhaps, are not influencing us in a healthy way.

However, when we’re growing up, we have a tendency to fall for the illusion of being a part of something, simply to not seem like a “loner” – and sometimes, when we want to fit in, we do very questionable things that we’re bound to regret later.

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Being falsely accused of things is never pleasant, especially when your own kid is claiming that you’re abusing her

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“Mumsnet” is a UK-based online forum created for discussions between parents of children and teenagers; a mother of 3 recently decided to use the platform to seek advice from fellow parents concerning her daughter and all the false accusations she’s mentioned to her friends.

Teen daughter lied to friends about having abusive parents, says she did it to fit in

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A concerned mother began her post by revealing that for the last few months she’s been hearing her 15-year-old daughter badmouthing both her and her husband on Discord.

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The teen called her parents losers, she claimed that they don’t understand her and, as the author said, it seems that her friends reciprocate with dreadful stories about their own parents.

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One day, the OP went out for a walk while her husband and son were busy with an event. Unfortunately, it started to rain, so she had to walk back home, but because her boots were muddy, she came round the back where her daughter wouldn’t have heard her.

The author immediately caught her daughter chatting to her friends. The things that the 15-year-old said completely shocked the mother, so she sat still and listened.

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The OP mentioned that usually, her daughter has her headphones on and she can only hear her responses – however, that day she didn’t and the poor mother also heard her teen’s friends’ remarks.

They called the woman “Satan”, said that her dad should divorce her mother and take the 15 Y.O with him, while others argued that they should put her in a foster care to “give her the chance of a happy family”.

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Someone began sharing their own story and said that their mother fat-shamed them by saying that they didn’t need more sugar when they reached out to grab another chocolate bar; the woman’s daughter then responded by revealing that her mom only lets her have 800 calories a day.

The friends replied with a couple of comments such as: “if she lets you out of the bedroom!”, while also asking whether the OP was still locking her up.

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When her daughter’s peers accused the woman of being homophobic, she simply couldn’t believe it; the author shared that she always took her daughter to see her girlfriend, nobody ever laid a finger on her and that both parents are very involved in all of their children’s lives.

The author spent some time processing all the bashing and finally decided to confront her offspring. Turns out, all of her teen’s friends have horrible parents and she decided to create these characters to fit in.

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The OP told her 15-year-old that accusing her family of child abuse is extremely dangerous, let alone hurtful. She said that if she needs to make such horrible things up in order to have a connection with her friends, she needs better ones.

The woman was infuriated; what if those kids tell their parents who will then contact the authorities? She was in disbelief that her beloved daughter could’ve done such a thing.

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After their conversation, the teen demanded that her mother stop acting as if she’s done something “bad”; the 15 Y.O. later slammed the door and started screaming about free speech and people being excessively offended by things.

What do you think about this situation? And how would you handle it?

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1.21Gigawatts?!
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is f***ing insane. That is not normal teenage behaviour like WHO LIES ABOUT HAVING ABUSIVE PARENTS!! That’s an insult to people who actually have to suffer from parental abuse!

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can name you half a dozen from when I was in high school. Kids who feel like they need more attention than they're getting, and fall into a circle of similar kids who all think they need to one-up each other. Heck, a group of kids in small town, with the help of misguided child psychologists, invented a whole band of child-sacrificing satan-worshippers in the 1980s.

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angied4liberty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if one of those kids tells their parents what she said and Child Protective Services is called? That is a nightmare unto itself. My mother and I did not get along but I would never have said things like that about her. And I know my kids don't as well. That is absolutely not normal teenage Behavior

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Poeha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw on reddit that a kid lied and CPS came. The parents were divorced. There were also stepkids, so the mom sent her to her dad, who was a lot more strict and she wanted to come back, but she didn't let her. CPS may take all the kids away.

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Tiger Pearl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, this is so close to what we are going through with my teen girl. Thankfully she hasn’t accused me of abuse… though she talks so horribly about us with her friends and even some family. It’s too devastating to go into detail about it, but the hurt and betrayal I felt when I found out.

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Tiger Pearl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t believe my kids owe me anything for raising them… they didn’t ask to be born. However, when I have completely gone the extra miles to my own physical, mental, and emotional detriment… I at least deserve not to be talked about like that. ***For just a small taste it all mainly happened when I was supporting her school play and different drama clubs she was in. So many very late nights taking her places and picking her up from places, while completely exhausted from a full days of work. After driving myself to exhaustion, when all of this coming to light, one line just devastated me. She said to her Aunt, she didn’t give a f*** if I showed up to watch her play. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I had supported her 100% with money and more importantly with my time, all with very little complaining (occasionally good-natured complaining only).

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Moezzzz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, I get teens saying "oh my god! My parents are so mean! I cant do anything!" (Meaning strict), but this? This is "someone's gonna call CPS and try to get her out of the house" kind of thing. Def not normal teenage behavior. She's crying wolf for attention, but she's going to get her parents in trouble (or try to). Girl needs help, asap.

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Toast Of Saint Louis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter did this to the point DFS got involved. They took her out of my home and put her in a home for teens. I let her sit there for a year and we never had any more issues after that.

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Lee
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All these people siding with the daughter because "let teens be teens" are either still teenagers themselves or just do not grasp the severity of what could happen if these lies go public. This isn't some petty rebellion by a sulky 15 year old. These are things that, if they were believed, could cost her parents everything. Their jobs, all of the kids, and possibly even their home if they have to sell or downsize to pay legal fees. I think that mother can use this as a "learning opportunity" and teach this child that freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from consequences. If she goes into a job and say, lies about a coworker harassing her for her sexual orientation she can and will be let go. In the same way, she can SAY anything she wants at home, but she will still have no internet or phone privileges. Also get her butt to therapy. Not as a punishment, though she might see it as that, but because she desperately needs it.

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Bex
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling she gets away with a lot of stuff because of her condition.

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Carol Emory
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would flat out tell her that her actions are hurting people that really are abused. She's lying to her friends and, when they find out, they're going to feel betrayed. When a legitimate person with a legitimate problem comes forward to get help, they may not get it because the people she lied to will think this person is lying as well. That's not fair to the person that needs help. She needs to learn there are punishments for lying. My suggestion is to have her write a letter that tells the truth. Then get that child into therapy. As bad as I was as a teen, I would have never accused my parents of abuse even though my mother was an abuser. She's got some psychological need for why she's doing this....you need to find out why before she becomes an abuser herself.

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, this. I would sit her down - maybe with a mediator or a psychologist to keep things civil because ... well, teenager - and tell her that her words are hurting them. That it makes her mother cry or really sad because she thinks she is not a bad mother. Make her aware that words have consequences! That people actually get hurt by them - no matter free speech! And then like you said, also explain how damaging such lies can be to people who think they found real support for their own, real problems. How they would feel if they realized all is based on lies. AND take away her internet-privileges. That, too. But first, make her aware and make her ASHAMED. Not shame her - appeal to her empathy until it sinks in and forms a hard knot in her belly that will make her cry at night for being so mean and hurtful. That might sound harsh but it's the only way to make her understand and prevent such a thing from happenign again. (cont)

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Lara Verne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not normal, her behaviour is very toxic. I don't know what she's trying to accomplish, to fit into some group of friends? Complaining about parents is one thing, but falsely accusing them of abuse is different.

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RoseTheMad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you had abusive parents, you wouldn't be on the internet bitching about it because chances are you wouldn't have that privilege. Also, those who are abused in some way are far less likely to actually talk about it and open up, out of fear of repercussion. Or even, in worst case scenarios, an event so awful and traumatic they completely bury the memory as if it never happened, or perhaps even develop Dissociative Identity disorder. (many cases of DID relate to childhood abuse and/or assault. For me, it was an assault from people I thought were friends when I was a teenager.) :/

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Liu Woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of people with abusive parents are still allowed on the internet, I feel like saying something like that sets a dangerous precedent of ignoring people who’s situations are bad but don’t fit that particular mold

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Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd puplicy call her out on it, set things right so everyone knows she's lying.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think from a healthcare giver stand, that she needs some counseling. Has low self esteem, and this type if behavior is NOT normal! I would also talk to the other parents if you can find them, snd explain what the kids are doing. Then, get a family therapist to talk with all of you and see where this pattern of thinking is coming from, snd the actual harm it can do .1. DCSF COULD TAKE A COMPLAINT seriously snd actually remove her and her brothers from the home while they investigate the complaint, into a facility or foster care they could go. 2. There is now a file at DCSF, snd even if it comes to nothing, the file will remain because of the complaint. 3. The daughter will have a separate file of her own and have a report stating she is a pathological liar, abusive to her parents and a behavior problem. This will follow her until she is 18 and out of the system. But... it will also possibly follow her as an adult if some company were to dig deep for it to check her stability..

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chiizu !!
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is so gross?? i feel so bad for that girl's friends, they probably worry for her so much and are going through their own issues and it turns out everything she's told them is false?? god. that's disgusting

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Donkey boi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a pathological liar, I told my friends many, MANY stories that had no basis in truth. But when it came to my parents, I never lied. Not about them or to them. They would always be by my side, helping me face whatever the world threw at me. That kind of behaviour deserves a level of respect that can't be matched. I like to think I would show that same treatment if I ever had a child, but I realise that's just not possible, and if that were my child, I'd show them some adoption services.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a position she may be interviewing for. Pop goes that job and she may find it very hard to get a job anywhere because of her lies and what they amounted to. In effect, Mom and dad need the scare her straight now before any of this actually happens and she ruins her whole life. She needs better friends and a therapist to help her learn proper coping skills to live.

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Zedrapazia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What are DD, DH and DS supposed to mean? Never heard that before

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Wondering Alice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guessing - Darling Daughter, Darling Husband and Darling Son. I've definitely seen DH used in this way and it seems to fit. (I'm guessing though to be honest)

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This girl may not even realize how serious her behavior is. She needs therapy for sure. Ironically, many actual abused children don't even realize they are being abused, and so they don't speak up. I didn't consider my mother's behavior abusive until I got into therapy for depression. I literally believed every rotten thing my mother said about me and it came as a total revelation when my therapist told me that her behavior was completely wrong.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anger and punishment isn’t helping. It just makes her dig in to justify herself. I think the best course is some family and individual therapy to determine why she needs to lie to these friends and to help her understand the impact of these lies.

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Popescu Adina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That takes time and she might chose not to want to go to therapy so it might not work at all. In the mean time they need to do something... like limit her chances to further spew lies. I mean, it's damage control.

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Patti Vance
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this infuriates me on so many levels. first, i would not let go of this. not sure what avenue to take. maybe try to tape these accusations for evidence & then start at school to see if she has mentioned this to counselors/teachers. growing up, i had many friends whose home life sucked. i, on the other hand, had parents that were great. not perfect. looking back they could have been a little more involved re academics but for the most part supportive in anything i did. many friends ended spending a lot of time at my house because of them. so, hearing a child condemn their parents with lies such as this makes me so angry as they truly don't know what it is to be neglected and/or abused.

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C Ronz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bet she's gonna fake cancer for attention at some point in her life.

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Royal Stray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone do this!? Not only is there no bennefits, but you lower the chanses of people who are actually abused to be believed and in many cases you'll make them doubt themselves. These are like the people who lie about mental conditions, why? Does it make you seem cool? What is the point? Also telling your kid that they don't need more sugar isn't fat shaming, it's looking after your kid who probably ate to much candy.

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, it makes them feel cool. And to fit in with a group of others who (seemingly) have similar experiences. It's not even malicious intent, just complete and utter self-absorbtion to the point of ignoring other people's feelings. I hope it turns out well and the girl can see her mistake and feel truly ashamed for her hurtful words. It'll prevent her from doing something like this again. Teenagers are just weird creatures. Imagine a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. First, they have to spin themselves into a cocoon and then they liquify and everything rearranges to something that's then a butterfly. Teenagers are the liquid state of humanity. (although I am generalizing - there are a lot of quite solid teenagers out there :-) )

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Rider
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My oldest (step) was telling similar abuse stories to her friends and her mom's friends. I had an idea it was happening, but chose not the get involved. Half live in another county and the other half are teenagers. Luckily her slightly younger sister runs in the same circles and stands up for me, their mom too. It has been interesting to watch the progression as these people come to realize I'm not the villain she painted and get smart to her ploys. Glorious karmic backfire.

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RP
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe going old-school here and calling a group meeting with all the parents and kids involved would be a good idea. It's different when you're saying things to someone's face and it gives the kids a chance to see the other parents as real people too. The 'one-upping' is fairly normal, but this is extreme and online chatting is part of what allows it to get that far because there is no reality check from the other kids

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Athena June
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex girlfriend used to do exactly that, lie and make up awful things about her home life for attention. The thing was, I’d stay over at her house every weekend and anyone could see some of the things she said to our friend group at school weren’t true ( eg. she said her mum would lock her in her room for hours at a time but the room didn’t even have a lock on the door). She also said her parents were homophobic ( I’m also a girl) and tried to hurt her partners, but this was one hundred percent not true. Her parents were always lovely, in general and to me. Once, my parents had to go out of town for a family emergency and I couldn’t go with them since I’d just had major surgery so my gf’s parents let me stay with them. My gf’s mum went absolutely above and beyond to take care of me and I was so grateful. But my gf told our friend group really nasty lies about her family and expected me to back her up, even though I knew they weren’t true.

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Athena June
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She would even intimidate me to keep quiet when it was clear we both knew I knew she was lying. This was especially awful as some of our friends — as my ex gf very well knew — had experienced difficult family situations, so they believed her and were very sympathetic. I came out and told them what was going on, and then thankfully they believed me. They helped me leave the relationship with my ex gf, and then it turned out she had been lying to me individually about some various serious things as well. A lot of other stuff happened between us that I don’t go into detail about. It’s been a few years now and I haven’t dated anyone since, as the emotional abuse I now realise happened to me in my last relationship was so so awful. The point I’m trying to make is situations like this hurt everyone involved, and are often part of a pattern of behaviour. Nb. When I said partners, I meant myself and my ex gf’s previous partner ( who was also shocked when they found out that ex gf was going round saying her parents were homophobes) not partners as in multiple at the same time ( not that there’s anything wrong with that, it just wasn’t what I was doing).

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Anita Rapp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Free speech??? Tell her her right to swing her fist ends where your nose begins.

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Marian Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she needs to be in foster care and counseling. I would not want her living with me and the rest of the family. She is poison and would poison the other kids minds. Talk to your doctor and see who he recommends to come into this mess. This girl needs to know there are consequences to her lies that could split your family wide open. Your husband could lose his job if you and he were accused of child abuse. There are so many things that could happen and none of them good.

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Id row
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reason #355 why I prefer cats to kids. That mom went through 9 months of hell and had so much hope, then risked her life giving birth all for the sake of this disappointment.

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Tex
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who was the person saying that's normal teen behavior?! No it is NOT! She needs to potentially be psychologically evaluated, have her devices removed or cut off from internet, and have a long heart to heart talk about why she thinks she needs to lie in such a horrible way and why she thought it would be okay, and then explain and teach why it is absolutely NOT.

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Mad McQueen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like all the parents need to get together and log in as kids an call their kids out on that platform. Kid: My mom is a troll and locks me in my room. Mom: glad to know that since you're sitting on the couch next to me right now. Kid: my parents are homophobes. Parents: you have two moms/dads. So I guess we have to cut out being your parents now. Just some random stuff like that might help.

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Bonnie Wolloff
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d take away everything for your brat….tell her if she feels that way mayber she should live in foster care…

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Nina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a disgusting child. Take away everything then throw her into therapy. Let her know when she's eighteen, she's out of the house and never to come back.

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Alex Schroeder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

am i like this if my mom is severely transphpbic, cotnrolling (doesnt let me wear what i want, she still eont let mebuy anything for myself and im fifteen and readsall my texts and search hisstory and all anduses it against me) and tells me she doesnt love me most of the time because im a b***h

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know what Child Services would do. On the other hand, foster homes vary in quality. Is there a counselor or kind teacher that you can talk to at school? It's a start to seeing your way out of this. In the meantime, try to do well at school so that you can get education in something that will help you earn money. If you can get summer jobs, save up money to move out. Running away is not a good idea - living on the streets can be quite dangerous.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro..... Deep. That girl has no idea what actual abuse looks like, and this is kinda hurtful to me because I've seen real abuse and real neglect firsthand. She should be thankful she has what she has, and that's really disgusting

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd definitely make her correct the information with "these friends" in some format be it an email if not on chat that'll probably put distance between the friendships to which sounds like an added bonus, and now I would only let her have phone and internet access under the strictest guidelines and when you are available to closely monitor for the time being. If you don't correct this behaviour now who knows what else she is prepared to fabricate that could be dangerous seems like she's attention seeking behaviour so it could easily escalate to become the centre of attention. You need to instill in her that liars cannot be trusted and the more she lies the less people will trust her, she'll hate you for the time for doing it but give it a couple of years she will understand and let it go. I did I didn't lie about my parents but I did like about where I was going one night and got busted for weeks my routine was school walk toy mums office sit there QUIETLY till she finished then we'd go home I wasn't even trusted to go home and be on my own and ally phone internet was watched like a hawk, did the trick though me and my mum have an amazing open relationship where I talk to her litrally about anything and everything in adult hood just had a few rough years to get here lol, but I was terribly misbehaved as a teen.

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millac
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take all internet and devices. Put locks on your own and her siblings' devices that she can't get into. Enroll her in an exhausting amount of in-person, team-based activities, and chores. So many chores. Keep this up for a year. If she doesn't get with it by the 6 month mark, then it's time for family counseling where you flat out say her lies make you not like her or want to take care of her. I also think it's time to take stock of the other kids you have. How are they doing? Has your focus on being 'career' to this one neglected them? Does their sister treat them poorly and you excuse it due to her condition? You realize her behavior is putting them at risk at being taken away, right? A more even hand may help everyone in the entire household.

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Avery Kinsey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanted to get mad at something today to get my mind off things and this takes the cake. Who the f*ck lies about their parents or siblings abusing them. Just imagine if her parents actual set her up for adoption, she would've been f*ckin upset. She is obviously doing this for attention, like I have a literal friend that would say bullsh*t about her mom and her family and I met her mom once, she was nice and sweet. And u know what scary, what if someone tells their parent and there parent call CPS, like that would not look good

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Shruti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would invite those friends frequently if local to show what's going on really if they are smart they will know. If some of them have real abusive household they will know too. Anyway they also need someone to show them compassion if that's the case.

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Kat Sotiriou
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe a reality check and to be put into foster care might wake her up

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Autumn Artemis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah normal teenage behavior for me was saying that “my parents didn’t understand me” or that they “never listened and only paid attention to my younger siblings”. NOT me telling my friends that my mom starved me??? Or locked me up????? What in all heII

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willi santiago
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are people so stupid. Banning her from devices just masks the symptoms, it doesn't address the issue. This kid needs counseling

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Sang Fe
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly did not know this was even a thing some teenagers did. I spent most of my life acting like abuse at home did not happen to me. Some of it was so traumatic that I blocked it out.

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Rubimon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not sure if taking devices will help with anything. It would be amazing if you could pull off taking it to the next level and show her consequences to her actions. I would talk about this with my husband and together put on a show where she thinks that I'm being arrested and questioned for the things she said online. Meanwhile take a 2 day vacation and see how she reacts to her mother being in jail for the lies she said.

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lapis lazuli
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wait so dd means daughter dh means husband and ds means son but what does the d stand for?

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The lavender Fox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse is no joke. Just because she wants to have something to complain about or ppl to be sorry for her or be popular,this is such a messed up way to do it.shame on her.

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olx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

does anyone know what the d means? perhaps like darling or dearest idk lmao thats all i could think of cuz ig dd is ____ daughter, dh is ____ husband and ds is ____ son but i am just confused lol

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Violet Jensen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, used to be that way. I had recently gotten out of being homeless, I’d lost all my friends and moved far away, turned to the internet and learned some undesirable things. I was later diagnosed with severe mental illnesses and medicated and now I’m better. Absolutely cut her off from these people. If they’re only online it’s not like they can call cps. And let me tell you. I resented my parents for YEARS, I’d been deluding myself and everyone else. But our relationship fixed itself, years and years later.

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Henry Shane
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol think that's bad I gave my daughter my old phone, she started using Instagram but it auto logged into my account. The messages she sent were very sexual in nature coming from my account. I told the whole family and had to embarrass her as no way was that being attached to me. Don't feel bad for going to these people and telling them, bring the kid with you as you need proof and they are the cause. In my case was partially my fault, though honestly I been used to just putting old phones in a drawer not stripping them down and removing stuff...so on me for just handing her a phone...I did delete the pictures lol.

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Alma Muminovic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop doing anything for her. Just ignore her. Let her get a taste of what it could be like. Eventually she will realize what a tool shes being. Don’t speak to her, don’t make her dinner, dont drive her anywhere, dont pay for her phone, dont give her anything but the bare necessities. I think the guilt will get through to her because common sense is sailing right on by.

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ewa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think this is weird or evil. I understand that Mom is furious (I would be too) - but this is roleplaying, "trying" out different personalities, pretending without the chance of anyone finding out (except her parents- obviously ;) ) - I think just discussing with your teen how this hurts your feelings or could be causing problems if it gets to the wrong person. But in gemeral, it's not worse than pretending to be an elf or something like that....

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1.21Gigawatts?!
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is f***ing insane. That is not normal teenage behaviour like WHO LIES ABOUT HAVING ABUSIVE PARENTS!! That’s an insult to people who actually have to suffer from parental abuse!

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can name you half a dozen from when I was in high school. Kids who feel like they need more attention than they're getting, and fall into a circle of similar kids who all think they need to one-up each other. Heck, a group of kids in small town, with the help of misguided child psychologists, invented a whole band of child-sacrificing satan-worshippers in the 1980s.

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angied4liberty
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What if one of those kids tells their parents what she said and Child Protective Services is called? That is a nightmare unto itself. My mother and I did not get along but I would never have said things like that about her. And I know my kids don't as well. That is absolutely not normal teenage Behavior

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Poeha
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I saw on reddit that a kid lied and CPS came. The parents were divorced. There were also stepkids, so the mom sent her to her dad, who was a lot more strict and she wanted to come back, but she didn't let her. CPS may take all the kids away.

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Tiger Pearl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, this is so close to what we are going through with my teen girl. Thankfully she hasn’t accused me of abuse… though she talks so horribly about us with her friends and even some family. It’s too devastating to go into detail about it, but the hurt and betrayal I felt when I found out.

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Tiger Pearl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t believe my kids owe me anything for raising them… they didn’t ask to be born. However, when I have completely gone the extra miles to my own physical, mental, and emotional detriment… I at least deserve not to be talked about like that. ***For just a small taste it all mainly happened when I was supporting her school play and different drama clubs she was in. So many very late nights taking her places and picking her up from places, while completely exhausted from a full days of work. After driving myself to exhaustion, when all of this coming to light, one line just devastated me. She said to her Aunt, she didn’t give a f*** if I showed up to watch her play. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I had supported her 100% with money and more importantly with my time, all with very little complaining (occasionally good-natured complaining only).

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Moezzzz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, I get teens saying "oh my god! My parents are so mean! I cant do anything!" (Meaning strict), but this? This is "someone's gonna call CPS and try to get her out of the house" kind of thing. Def not normal teenage behavior. She's crying wolf for attention, but she's going to get her parents in trouble (or try to). Girl needs help, asap.

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Toast Of Saint Louis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter did this to the point DFS got involved. They took her out of my home and put her in a home for teens. I let her sit there for a year and we never had any more issues after that.

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Lee
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All these people siding with the daughter because "let teens be teens" are either still teenagers themselves or just do not grasp the severity of what could happen if these lies go public. This isn't some petty rebellion by a sulky 15 year old. These are things that, if they were believed, could cost her parents everything. Their jobs, all of the kids, and possibly even their home if they have to sell or downsize to pay legal fees. I think that mother can use this as a "learning opportunity" and teach this child that freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from consequences. If she goes into a job and say, lies about a coworker harassing her for her sexual orientation she can and will be let go. In the same way, she can SAY anything she wants at home, but she will still have no internet or phone privileges. Also get her butt to therapy. Not as a punishment, though she might see it as that, but because she desperately needs it.

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Bex
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have a feeling she gets away with a lot of stuff because of her condition.

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Carol Emory
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would flat out tell her that her actions are hurting people that really are abused. She's lying to her friends and, when they find out, they're going to feel betrayed. When a legitimate person with a legitimate problem comes forward to get help, they may not get it because the people she lied to will think this person is lying as well. That's not fair to the person that needs help. She needs to learn there are punishments for lying. My suggestion is to have her write a letter that tells the truth. Then get that child into therapy. As bad as I was as a teen, I would have never accused my parents of abuse even though my mother was an abuser. She's got some psychological need for why she's doing this....you need to find out why before she becomes an abuser herself.

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, this. I would sit her down - maybe with a mediator or a psychologist to keep things civil because ... well, teenager - and tell her that her words are hurting them. That it makes her mother cry or really sad because she thinks she is not a bad mother. Make her aware that words have consequences! That people actually get hurt by them - no matter free speech! And then like you said, also explain how damaging such lies can be to people who think they found real support for their own, real problems. How they would feel if they realized all is based on lies. AND take away her internet-privileges. That, too. But first, make her aware and make her ASHAMED. Not shame her - appeal to her empathy until it sinks in and forms a hard knot in her belly that will make her cry at night for being so mean and hurtful. That might sound harsh but it's the only way to make her understand and prevent such a thing from happenign again. (cont)

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Lara Verne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is not normal, her behaviour is very toxic. I don't know what she's trying to accomplish, to fit into some group of friends? Complaining about parents is one thing, but falsely accusing them of abuse is different.

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RoseTheMad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you had abusive parents, you wouldn't be on the internet bitching about it because chances are you wouldn't have that privilege. Also, those who are abused in some way are far less likely to actually talk about it and open up, out of fear of repercussion. Or even, in worst case scenarios, an event so awful and traumatic they completely bury the memory as if it never happened, or perhaps even develop Dissociative Identity disorder. (many cases of DID relate to childhood abuse and/or assault. For me, it was an assault from people I thought were friends when I was a teenager.) :/

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Liu Woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A lot of people with abusive parents are still allowed on the internet, I feel like saying something like that sets a dangerous precedent of ignoring people who’s situations are bad but don’t fit that particular mold

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd puplicy call her out on it, set things right so everyone knows she's lying.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think from a healthcare giver stand, that she needs some counseling. Has low self esteem, and this type if behavior is NOT normal! I would also talk to the other parents if you can find them, snd explain what the kids are doing. Then, get a family therapist to talk with all of you and see where this pattern of thinking is coming from, snd the actual harm it can do .1. DCSF COULD TAKE A COMPLAINT seriously snd actually remove her and her brothers from the home while they investigate the complaint, into a facility or foster care they could go. 2. There is now a file at DCSF, snd even if it comes to nothing, the file will remain because of the complaint. 3. The daughter will have a separate file of her own and have a report stating she is a pathological liar, abusive to her parents and a behavior problem. This will follow her until she is 18 and out of the system. But... it will also possibly follow her as an adult if some company were to dig deep for it to check her stability..

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chiizu !!
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is so gross?? i feel so bad for that girl's friends, they probably worry for her so much and are going through their own issues and it turns out everything she's told them is false?? god. that's disgusting

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Donkey boi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a pathological liar, I told my friends many, MANY stories that had no basis in truth. But when it came to my parents, I never lied. Not about them or to them. They would always be by my side, helping me face whatever the world threw at me. That kind of behaviour deserves a level of respect that can't be matched. I like to think I would show that same treatment if I ever had a child, but I realise that's just not possible, and if that were my child, I'd show them some adoption services.

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Kim Lorton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For a position she may be interviewing for. Pop goes that job and she may find it very hard to get a job anywhere because of her lies and what they amounted to. In effect, Mom and dad need the scare her straight now before any of this actually happens and she ruins her whole life. She needs better friends and a therapist to help her learn proper coping skills to live.

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Zedrapazia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What are DD, DH and DS supposed to mean? Never heard that before

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Wondering Alice
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm guessing - Darling Daughter, Darling Husband and Darling Son. I've definitely seen DH used in this way and it seems to fit. (I'm guessing though to be honest)

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Mary Rogers
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This girl may not even realize how serious her behavior is. She needs therapy for sure. Ironically, many actual abused children don't even realize they are being abused, and so they don't speak up. I didn't consider my mother's behavior abusive until I got into therapy for depression. I literally believed every rotten thing my mother said about me and it came as a total revelation when my therapist told me that her behavior was completely wrong.

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Anger and punishment isn’t helping. It just makes her dig in to justify herself. I think the best course is some family and individual therapy to determine why she needs to lie to these friends and to help her understand the impact of these lies.

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Popescu Adina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That takes time and she might chose not to want to go to therapy so it might not work at all. In the mean time they need to do something... like limit her chances to further spew lies. I mean, it's damage control.

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Patti Vance
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this infuriates me on so many levels. first, i would not let go of this. not sure what avenue to take. maybe try to tape these accusations for evidence & then start at school to see if she has mentioned this to counselors/teachers. growing up, i had many friends whose home life sucked. i, on the other hand, had parents that were great. not perfect. looking back they could have been a little more involved re academics but for the most part supportive in anything i did. many friends ended spending a lot of time at my house because of them. so, hearing a child condemn their parents with lies such as this makes me so angry as they truly don't know what it is to be neglected and/or abused.

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C Ronz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bet she's gonna fake cancer for attention at some point in her life.

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Royal Stray
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone do this!? Not only is there no bennefits, but you lower the chanses of people who are actually abused to be believed and in many cases you'll make them doubt themselves. These are like the people who lie about mental conditions, why? Does it make you seem cool? What is the point? Also telling your kid that they don't need more sugar isn't fat shaming, it's looking after your kid who probably ate to much candy.

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Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, it makes them feel cool. And to fit in with a group of others who (seemingly) have similar experiences. It's not even malicious intent, just complete and utter self-absorbtion to the point of ignoring other people's feelings. I hope it turns out well and the girl can see her mistake and feel truly ashamed for her hurtful words. It'll prevent her from doing something like this again. Teenagers are just weird creatures. Imagine a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. First, they have to spin themselves into a cocoon and then they liquify and everything rearranges to something that's then a butterfly. Teenagers are the liquid state of humanity. (although I am generalizing - there are a lot of quite solid teenagers out there :-) )

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Rider
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My oldest (step) was telling similar abuse stories to her friends and her mom's friends. I had an idea it was happening, but chose not the get involved. Half live in another county and the other half are teenagers. Luckily her slightly younger sister runs in the same circles and stands up for me, their mom too. It has been interesting to watch the progression as these people come to realize I'm not the villain she painted and get smart to her ploys. Glorious karmic backfire.

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RP
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe going old-school here and calling a group meeting with all the parents and kids involved would be a good idea. It's different when you're saying things to someone's face and it gives the kids a chance to see the other parents as real people too. The 'one-upping' is fairly normal, but this is extreme and online chatting is part of what allows it to get that far because there is no reality check from the other kids

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Athena June
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My ex girlfriend used to do exactly that, lie and make up awful things about her home life for attention. The thing was, I’d stay over at her house every weekend and anyone could see some of the things she said to our friend group at school weren’t true ( eg. she said her mum would lock her in her room for hours at a time but the room didn’t even have a lock on the door). She also said her parents were homophobic ( I’m also a girl) and tried to hurt her partners, but this was one hundred percent not true. Her parents were always lovely, in general and to me. Once, my parents had to go out of town for a family emergency and I couldn’t go with them since I’d just had major surgery so my gf’s parents let me stay with them. My gf’s mum went absolutely above and beyond to take care of me and I was so grateful. But my gf told our friend group really nasty lies about her family and expected me to back her up, even though I knew they weren’t true.

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Athena June
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She would even intimidate me to keep quiet when it was clear we both knew I knew she was lying. This was especially awful as some of our friends — as my ex gf very well knew — had experienced difficult family situations, so they believed her and were very sympathetic. I came out and told them what was going on, and then thankfully they believed me. They helped me leave the relationship with my ex gf, and then it turned out she had been lying to me individually about some various serious things as well. A lot of other stuff happened between us that I don’t go into detail about. It’s been a few years now and I haven’t dated anyone since, as the emotional abuse I now realise happened to me in my last relationship was so so awful. The point I’m trying to make is situations like this hurt everyone involved, and are often part of a pattern of behaviour. Nb. When I said partners, I meant myself and my ex gf’s previous partner ( who was also shocked when they found out that ex gf was going round saying her parents were homophobes) not partners as in multiple at the same time ( not that there’s anything wrong with that, it just wasn’t what I was doing).

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Anita Rapp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Free speech??? Tell her her right to swing her fist ends where your nose begins.

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Marian Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe she needs to be in foster care and counseling. I would not want her living with me and the rest of the family. She is poison and would poison the other kids minds. Talk to your doctor and see who he recommends to come into this mess. This girl needs to know there are consequences to her lies that could split your family wide open. Your husband could lose his job if you and he were accused of child abuse. There are so many things that could happen and none of them good.

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Id row
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reason #355 why I prefer cats to kids. That mom went through 9 months of hell and had so much hope, then risked her life giving birth all for the sake of this disappointment.

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Tex
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who was the person saying that's normal teen behavior?! No it is NOT! She needs to potentially be psychologically evaluated, have her devices removed or cut off from internet, and have a long heart to heart talk about why she thinks she needs to lie in such a horrible way and why she thought it would be okay, and then explain and teach why it is absolutely NOT.

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Mad McQueen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like all the parents need to get together and log in as kids an call their kids out on that platform. Kid: My mom is a troll and locks me in my room. Mom: glad to know that since you're sitting on the couch next to me right now. Kid: my parents are homophobes. Parents: you have two moms/dads. So I guess we have to cut out being your parents now. Just some random stuff like that might help.

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Bonnie Wolloff
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’d take away everything for your brat….tell her if she feels that way mayber she should live in foster care…

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Nina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a disgusting child. Take away everything then throw her into therapy. Let her know when she's eighteen, she's out of the house and never to come back.

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Alex Schroeder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

am i like this if my mom is severely transphpbic, cotnrolling (doesnt let me wear what i want, she still eont let mebuy anything for myself and im fifteen and readsall my texts and search hisstory and all anduses it against me) and tells me she doesnt love me most of the time because im a b***h

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know what Child Services would do. On the other hand, foster homes vary in quality. Is there a counselor or kind teacher that you can talk to at school? It's a start to seeing your way out of this. In the meantime, try to do well at school so that you can get education in something that will help you earn money. If you can get summer jobs, save up money to move out. Running away is not a good idea - living on the streets can be quite dangerous.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bro..... Deep. That girl has no idea what actual abuse looks like, and this is kinda hurtful to me because I've seen real abuse and real neglect firsthand. She should be thankful she has what she has, and that's really disgusting

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd definitely make her correct the information with "these friends" in some format be it an email if not on chat that'll probably put distance between the friendships to which sounds like an added bonus, and now I would only let her have phone and internet access under the strictest guidelines and when you are available to closely monitor for the time being. If you don't correct this behaviour now who knows what else she is prepared to fabricate that could be dangerous seems like she's attention seeking behaviour so it could easily escalate to become the centre of attention. You need to instill in her that liars cannot be trusted and the more she lies the less people will trust her, she'll hate you for the time for doing it but give it a couple of years she will understand and let it go. I did I didn't lie about my parents but I did like about where I was going one night and got busted for weeks my routine was school walk toy mums office sit there QUIETLY till she finished then we'd go home I wasn't even trusted to go home and be on my own and ally phone internet was watched like a hawk, did the trick though me and my mum have an amazing open relationship where I talk to her litrally about anything and everything in adult hood just had a few rough years to get here lol, but I was terribly misbehaved as a teen.

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millac
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Take all internet and devices. Put locks on your own and her siblings' devices that she can't get into. Enroll her in an exhausting amount of in-person, team-based activities, and chores. So many chores. Keep this up for a year. If she doesn't get with it by the 6 month mark, then it's time for family counseling where you flat out say her lies make you not like her or want to take care of her. I also think it's time to take stock of the other kids you have. How are they doing? Has your focus on being 'career' to this one neglected them? Does their sister treat them poorly and you excuse it due to her condition? You realize her behavior is putting them at risk at being taken away, right? A more even hand may help everyone in the entire household.

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Avery Kinsey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wanted to get mad at something today to get my mind off things and this takes the cake. Who the f*ck lies about their parents or siblings abusing them. Just imagine if her parents actual set her up for adoption, she would've been f*ckin upset. She is obviously doing this for attention, like I have a literal friend that would say bullsh*t about her mom and her family and I met her mom once, she was nice and sweet. And u know what scary, what if someone tells their parent and there parent call CPS, like that would not look good

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Shruti
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would invite those friends frequently if local to show what's going on really if they are smart they will know. If some of them have real abusive household they will know too. Anyway they also need someone to show them compassion if that's the case.

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Kat Sotiriou
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe a reality check and to be put into foster care might wake her up

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Autumn Artemis
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah normal teenage behavior for me was saying that “my parents didn’t understand me” or that they “never listened and only paid attention to my younger siblings”. NOT me telling my friends that my mom starved me??? Or locked me up????? What in all heII

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willi santiago
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why are people so stupid. Banning her from devices just masks the symptoms, it doesn't address the issue. This kid needs counseling

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Sang Fe
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I honestly did not know this was even a thing some teenagers did. I spent most of my life acting like abuse at home did not happen to me. Some of it was so traumatic that I blocked it out.

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Rubimon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not sure if taking devices will help with anything. It would be amazing if you could pull off taking it to the next level and show her consequences to her actions. I would talk about this with my husband and together put on a show where she thinks that I'm being arrested and questioned for the things she said online. Meanwhile take a 2 day vacation and see how she reacts to her mother being in jail for the lies she said.

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lapis lazuli
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

wait so dd means daughter dh means husband and ds means son but what does the d stand for?

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The lavender Fox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Abuse is no joke. Just because she wants to have something to complain about or ppl to be sorry for her or be popular,this is such a messed up way to do it.shame on her.

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olx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

does anyone know what the d means? perhaps like darling or dearest idk lmao thats all i could think of cuz ig dd is ____ daughter, dh is ____ husband and ds is ____ son but i am just confused lol

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Violet Jensen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, used to be that way. I had recently gotten out of being homeless, I’d lost all my friends and moved far away, turned to the internet and learned some undesirable things. I was later diagnosed with severe mental illnesses and medicated and now I’m better. Absolutely cut her off from these people. If they’re only online it’s not like they can call cps. And let me tell you. I resented my parents for YEARS, I’d been deluding myself and everyone else. But our relationship fixed itself, years and years later.

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Henry Shane
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol think that's bad I gave my daughter my old phone, she started using Instagram but it auto logged into my account. The messages she sent were very sexual in nature coming from my account. I told the whole family and had to embarrass her as no way was that being attached to me. Don't feel bad for going to these people and telling them, bring the kid with you as you need proof and they are the cause. In my case was partially my fault, though honestly I been used to just putting old phones in a drawer not stripping them down and removing stuff...so on me for just handing her a phone...I did delete the pictures lol.

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Alma Muminovic
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop doing anything for her. Just ignore her. Let her get a taste of what it could be like. Eventually she will realize what a tool shes being. Don’t speak to her, don’t make her dinner, dont drive her anywhere, dont pay for her phone, dont give her anything but the bare necessities. I think the guilt will get through to her because common sense is sailing right on by.

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ewa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think this is weird or evil. I understand that Mom is furious (I would be too) - but this is roleplaying, "trying" out different personalities, pretending without the chance of anyone finding out (except her parents- obviously ;) ) - I think just discussing with your teen how this hurts your feelings or could be causing problems if it gets to the wrong person. But in gemeral, it's not worse than pretending to be an elf or something like that....

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