Mother Turns To The Internet To Ask If Her Son Should Pay Rent And For His Own Things After He Turned 18
Do you remember when you first moved out of your parents’ home? Perhaps you bolted out the door on your 18th birthday and never looked back. Or maybe you stuck around a few extra years until you had a degree in your hand and landed a stable, full-time job. Each family handles the “flying from the nest” situation differently, with some young adults jumping blindly and others needing an extra nudge from their parents. But when an adult is finished with their education and earning a full-time salary, what is the protocol in terms of what they can be expected to contribute to the household if they are still living with their parents?
One mother recently sparked a debate online by wondering how much is reasonable to ask for from her 18-year-old son. Below, you can read the entire post she shared on MumsNet and decide for yourself whether she should ask her son to pay up or cut him some slack. Let us know what you think in the comments below, and then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda piece about parents taking on the role of landlords, check out this story next.
This mother recently sparked a debate online by wondering how much her 18-year-old son should contribute to the household
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The traditional expectation of a parent is to provide for their children until they are no longer children. In most countries, a person is considered an adult at the age of 18, so the assumption is that a young person can take care of themself from that point on. Whether that means starting their career so they can support themselves financially or moving off to university to complete their higher education, 18 is often an age of transition. Some parents might find it cold or harsh to expect young adults to become self-sufficient overnight, but in the case of this mother in particular, the parents’ financial situation should be a factor to consider.
The mother noted that her son now has a full-time job and has no plans of earning a degree. She also stated that money has been a bit tight for her and her husband. Now, I can see how it might be selfish to charge a child rent if the parents themselves are well-off or their teenager is still finding their footing in the workforce. But in this circumstance, the mother has a point. It would not make sense to fall into debt herself when her adult son earns enough money to start contributing to the household. And beginning to pay her £50 a week, as was suggested in the comments of the post, still allows him to save more money than if he had moved into an apartment on his own and had to pay the full price of rent.
The comments on this post might be so divided because of the cultural differences in the expectations of a young adult. In the United States, for example, it is extremely common for young people to move out at the age of 18. In Europe, however, the average age to fly the nest varies greatly based on the country. The country where people tend to move out at the youngest age was Sweden, with most people moving out at 17.5 years old. On the other hand, the average age to leave home in Croatia is 32.4 years old. Across all of the EU, the average age to move out is 26.4.
At the end of the day, it is completely up to the family to determine when a child should move out or begin to pay rent. Many factors come into play such as the parents’ income, the child’s income, how strong their relationship is, and what their future plans are. While this mother seems to have divided readers, only she and her husband really know the state of their financial situation. And her son does need to learn self-sufficiency eventually. Why not start with paying rent and build up from there? We’d love to hear your thoughts on this situation down below. When did you move out of the house and/or start paying rent?
Readers were divided in the comments, some parents believe all adults should pay rent while others find the idea of charging their children absurd
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He is an adult working full time, there is no reason he should not be contributing to the household. Doesn't need to be actual rent, just something towards the bills. Not only is it fair, but will prepare him for when he does end up moving out and having to manage his own money. And for the people saying "I would never ask my child to pay anything for living in my home", that's great for you if you can do that, but as she says part of the reason this has come up is the family is struggling financially, so why should he not contribute to costs he is helping run up?
Stop paying for the frivolity items. If he wants new trainers, he's earning the money to pay for them himself. If he's working full time, consider charging rent/board but *not at market rate*, putting about half into savings for when he moves out. This teaches him fiscal responsibility, while keeping the safety net of still providing a roof and food for when he inevitably makes mistakes. He's 18 - he's a young adult, not a child, it's time to let him have adult responsibility.
None of us get to live for free as adults and it does nobody any favours to let them think that they can. Of course he should contribute to the home. I paid a third of whatever I earned as soon as I started working. He should certainly be paying for his own recreational activities.
My parents had a rule that I thought was fair. We were welcome to live at home as adults. If we were in school, it was free. If we were not, then we needed to get a job and pay rent. Two of my siblings did this for a bit after they were out of school. The rent they charged was far below market rate and probably just covered their food, but it was basically to make sure we didn't dawdle at home with no job. And, of course, we all had to contribute to the household chores, but that was true school or not. I think it's completely fair for him to be covering his own transportation, clothing, phone, and other personal expenses. Rent? I'd have to have more of an idea of how much he's getting paid. They mentioned a lower minimum wage under 21. Is he getting full time hours? Plus, wages haven't kept up with inflation. It is tougher starting out now than when I was doing it 30 years ago. So I don't know if 1990s rules should still apply now.
That's why my mum always charged a percentage. Well, up to a reasonable maximum. Like you said, it's about being fair. And learning to live in the adult world.
Load More Replies... Stop paying for haircuts, clothes, shoes etc., except on birthday and Christmas, don't pay for his entertainment, Netflix, movies, games etc., he can be on yours or your husband's health insurance until age 27, but he should pay his copays, I wouldn't charge him rent but would have him pay 50 dollars a week towards groceries and 25 a week towards utilities. If he's on your car insurance he should pay his part each month. Also he should bank at least 50 dollars a week if paid weekly or a 100 bi weekly, this helps to teach him how to manage money and pay his way through life.
I don't understand the "18 and you're an adult." That may be the case from a legal standpoint but f*ck everyone, we all know d*mn well that at 18 you don't all of a sudden make decent money and know exactly how to live as an adult. Scientifically you haven't reached full mental maturity! I'm not saying they can't have responsibilities but charging rent right at 18 is absurd. AND what is "rent?" He doesn't have full range of the house to call 100% is own, probably not even his own bathroom so if we're talking hundreds of dollars a month (especially at minimum wage) while also requiring him to pay for all his food, car, car insurance, fuel, clothing, cell etc He'll never get ahead. I paid my father a little money every month and it was to cover my portion of the car insurance. Otherwise I paid for practically everything else in my life. He REFUSED more money from me because he said "it nominally made no difference to feed or house 4 then it did 3."
That's very true, but when you reach 18, that's when you start to learn to be an adult. And part of that is the painful reality that whatever you earn, you never get to keep it all. Life is neither free nor fair.
Load More Replies... There are a few reasons why he should not only pay for his own things but also pay in to the household. Obviously it helps in these hard times, it teaches him the value of things and will set him in good stead for when he leaves home. I don't think it should be a high amount, it still won't cover the costs really but something. It will encourage him, perhaps, to get a better paying job too. If everything were free then what incentive would he have to do anything for himself?
My parents had a very simple philosophy that they shared through their divorce: after graduation, if you continue schooling, you don't pay rent or for groceries. Everything else like clothes, prescriptions, vehicles and gas, etc was our responsibility. I should also point out that they couldn't contribute to schooling tuition, but our grandfather left us a few grand each. Otherwise, no school? Get a job and pay rent, and for a portion of groceries.
I was in full time work at 16, i paid rent to my parents at £200pm (on £650pm wage) and paid for everything else i wanted/needed. I understood I needed to pay towards bills etc as I was using it. Without my knowledge my parents put £100pm in a saving account for me which helped me with deposits and things when i moved out which was greatly appreciated. But it did teach me budgeting and paying bills were important and helped me in later life
I charged a low rent and then gave my daughter all of the money back when she moved out on her own. It was a nice surprise for her.
I love this!! Teaching a valuable lesson while helping her get a good start. Well done.
Load More Replies... I think it would be a good idea to sit down with the son to say. "Things are tight, we need to find a way through this as a family. We need to lower our expenses and up our contributions. Now that you've become a grown up, we need you to share in the responsibilities of making this family work. Everyone contributes to the family so from now on, we'd like you to contribute (some # here) to the family budget." Save it, use it, it's really helping him grow & understand the complexities of being that adult. Now that you're a grown up, your discretionary budget will need to cover (whatever you decide) these individual grown up expenses, like clothing, etc. media/gym memberships." You may also need to also explain that it's important to put money away for when he will need to make bigger purchases himself. He's in for sticker shock, but if it's put as "All for one, one for all.", it may be an easier pill to swallow.
You give him a place to live. EVERYTHING else he should pay for. Everything. He needs to understand finances and budgeting if he's ever top be a truly functioning adult. Trade offs are part of life. Food or fun, haircut or night out. His choice.
Once my 16 year old daughter gets a job is when she will pay us a certain percentage of her income towards board. We will still buy her the basics but if she wants a dearer shampoo for example then she will need to pay for it, if she wants $200 shoes, she will have to pay for it.
Wow I cant believe you are paying for all his s**t when he has a job. You are creating a useless adult and it’s sad how you don’t see it and are actually wondering if making someone pull their own weight now that they are old enough and capable is unreasonable. You should make him pay for everything he uses. Car, car insurance, phone, food, board ect, because you are doing him no favors coddling him from reality. These are all things he will have to take on if he moved out and not preparing him is going to make things difficult if not shocking once it’s all on him. You will most likely be paying for him your whole life at that rate.
I started working part-time at 14. I know it's a different world now but teaching your kids responsibility is important. They should also be taught either by the parents or schooling, personal finance. If they haven't a clue how money works they will resent their parents demanding money for things they have always been given. Best advice: communicate with your kid.
Yes she should. I work for a bank and its scary how many people have no clue about budgeting, paying bills abd how to generally manage money. People need to be taught how to mange money. Letting your kids live rent/board free isn't doing them any favours. Its not like they will leave your home and be mag8calky prepared for bills if they've never had any experience
Wow, my parents did the same thing and didn’t teach me about money. I had to learn the hard way and waste money on c**p I don’t need. I rent. My sister in law made her kids put 50% away of everything they earned as soon as they got a job. The oldest daughter at 24 owns a multi family dwelling and is in the real estate market in a big way because she had the down payment. Make them learn what bills cost, sit down and explain expenses, don’t hide it and living costs $
My daughter stays with us (she is 18) and is working. All she has to contribute is milk and cereal, because that is what she uses most. She buys her own toiletries, make up and clothes and social activities. I love having her in the house and she can stay as long as she needs to 💝
I'm shocked how many people say that it would be a disservice to him not to let him pay rent/board. The money he can save up while living rent-free at home will make a huge financial difference when he moves out. He can still learn to be responsible with money. (I also think he should pay for personal expenses, though.)
Some of these comments I totally agree on. You are not at all helping a child by not asking him or her to pay, unless you see, that he or she is saving for a home. Then you may dispense from payment (or part of it). Otherwise you are just teaching your child to be unable to cope on his or her own. All you grown ups here must have found, that when you go to live alone, things get straitened financially, and you have to abstain from lots of things you used to be able to buy, when living at home. Teach them, to pay the rent and utilities. Those you cannot do without, and then use the rest as they please, even if they have to go a little hungry by the end of the month. That way they will learn to hold household.
My kids knew, you have 3 months after you finish school, then you pay. You can live for free, all the way through college, or start paying 3 months after high school. I'm job is to raisie you to go out in the world, not take care of you forever. Worked fine with both of them.
When I got my first job, my parents stopped paying for any personal items, (clothes, toiletries, etc.) and made me responsible for the phone bill as a way to contribute until I got my own place at age 21. It wasn't what I wanted, but it didn't seem unfair to me. I'm grateful for what they taught me about money and responsibility.
When I started working, my parents paid for food and bought me a car; I paid for other things but was but charged rent. However, my parents are upper middle class for the area we live in. They are also controlling and made me live with them even after I got my own apartment... So ymmv. I don't think that not charging rent will make him stupid and entitled as others have suggested, but he should definitely be paying for non essentials, and depending on your financial situation, possibly be contributing to bills and groceries. Whatever you decide, be honest to him about your finances and why you chose to do it so he is not blindsided or feels that you are taking advantage of him.
I never had to pay rent and neither did my siblings. Our parents wanted us to save money to move out. We worked and went to school at the same time. I have friends that were “kicked out” as soon as they graduated high school. Work or college, didn’t matter - they had to figure it out. I will never understand that. My parents also kept us fed but we did buy our own clothes/hair cuts/toiletries/going out ect…
The agreement in my house was my parents covered the the basics for food, school and boarding while is was in high school. I could stay at home rent-free as long as I was going to college. However, if I wanted something different than what was being served then I could buy and cook my own. Sodas and treats I want two were covered by me. After HS, I payed for all my own toiletries, clothes, school supplies, gas and car. My parents covered clothes soap, washing machine, bed and bedding. I didn't pay for utilities. If it had been the age of cell phones, I'm sure I would have been on the family plan until after college and set up in a new job. However, if I wanted a fancy phone, extras like headphones or a fancy phone cover then I would have to pay for it.
I have seen the drama several times on panda, what is the problem with teaching the pre-adults the realities of real life. It's is the responsibility of the parent first and foremost to prepare their child to be successful contributing members. My thought on this situation, parents and son should sit down and draw up an agreement of expectations and considerations. Will it be perfect in the beginning, not likely, but another lesson, talk about the problem, admit fault, and agree to work on making the changes agreed upon. His future will be alot brighter if he learns how to adult now rather in his 30s when he's a partner and parent.
Our daughter did the traditional 4 year undergrad and has worked since she as 14. After we paid for most of her university and knew going in that Masters level classes were on her; she worked at several jobs and went to nursing school - which she paid for and has graduated from! She stayed on our phone plan, health insurance, car insurance, etc. (while she was still in school) and lived elsewhere most of the time. When she and her partner split recently, she came back home and I only asked for money towards food; with prices as they are, feeding another grown adult (who turned 27 last week) just wasn't planned for. She's lucked into an apartment and has already moved there; she broke with her long term partner and needed us so she came. And paid for some food. Every situation is different but as long as they're trying/striving to better themselves yet need you for emotional support and a roof over their head, you just it work.
get ready to fly the nest. The ones who went to college or trade school paid for gas, fancy toiletries, makeup, clothes, and entertainment. The ones who went directly to work paid 1/3 of check for room and board, 1/3 for savings, and 1/3 for expenses
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I have a genuine question here. How do you finish college at the age of 18? Doesn't people usually enroll in colleges around 18 or 19 years of age?
I'm pretty sure what we in America call "high school" is "college" in the UK... and what we call "college" is "university" there. My friend that lives in America but from England explained this to me, lol
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He is an adult working full time, there is no reason he should not be contributing to the household. Doesn't need to be actual rent, just something towards the bills. Not only is it fair, but will prepare him for when he does end up moving out and having to manage his own money. And for the people saying "I would never ask my child to pay anything for living in my home", that's great for you if you can do that, but as she says part of the reason this has come up is the family is struggling financially, so why should he not contribute to costs he is helping run up?
Stop paying for the frivolity items. If he wants new trainers, he's earning the money to pay for them himself. If he's working full time, consider charging rent/board but *not at market rate*, putting about half into savings for when he moves out. This teaches him fiscal responsibility, while keeping the safety net of still providing a roof and food for when he inevitably makes mistakes. He's 18 - he's a young adult, not a child, it's time to let him have adult responsibility.
None of us get to live for free as adults and it does nobody any favours to let them think that they can. Of course he should contribute to the home. I paid a third of whatever I earned as soon as I started working. He should certainly be paying for his own recreational activities.
My parents had a rule that I thought was fair. We were welcome to live at home as adults. If we were in school, it was free. If we were not, then we needed to get a job and pay rent. Two of my siblings did this for a bit after they were out of school. The rent they charged was far below market rate and probably just covered their food, but it was basically to make sure we didn't dawdle at home with no job. And, of course, we all had to contribute to the household chores, but that was true school or not. I think it's completely fair for him to be covering his own transportation, clothing, phone, and other personal expenses. Rent? I'd have to have more of an idea of how much he's getting paid. They mentioned a lower minimum wage under 21. Is he getting full time hours? Plus, wages haven't kept up with inflation. It is tougher starting out now than when I was doing it 30 years ago. So I don't know if 1990s rules should still apply now.
That's why my mum always charged a percentage. Well, up to a reasonable maximum. Like you said, it's about being fair. And learning to live in the adult world.
Load More Replies... Stop paying for haircuts, clothes, shoes etc., except on birthday and Christmas, don't pay for his entertainment, Netflix, movies, games etc., he can be on yours or your husband's health insurance until age 27, but he should pay his copays, I wouldn't charge him rent but would have him pay 50 dollars a week towards groceries and 25 a week towards utilities. If he's on your car insurance he should pay his part each month. Also he should bank at least 50 dollars a week if paid weekly or a 100 bi weekly, this helps to teach him how to manage money and pay his way through life.
I don't understand the "18 and you're an adult." That may be the case from a legal standpoint but f*ck everyone, we all know d*mn well that at 18 you don't all of a sudden make decent money and know exactly how to live as an adult. Scientifically you haven't reached full mental maturity! I'm not saying they can't have responsibilities but charging rent right at 18 is absurd. AND what is "rent?" He doesn't have full range of the house to call 100% is own, probably not even his own bathroom so if we're talking hundreds of dollars a month (especially at minimum wage) while also requiring him to pay for all his food, car, car insurance, fuel, clothing, cell etc He'll never get ahead. I paid my father a little money every month and it was to cover my portion of the car insurance. Otherwise I paid for practically everything else in my life. He REFUSED more money from me because he said "it nominally made no difference to feed or house 4 then it did 3."
That's very true, but when you reach 18, that's when you start to learn to be an adult. And part of that is the painful reality that whatever you earn, you never get to keep it all. Life is neither free nor fair.
Load More Replies... There are a few reasons why he should not only pay for his own things but also pay in to the household. Obviously it helps in these hard times, it teaches him the value of things and will set him in good stead for when he leaves home. I don't think it should be a high amount, it still won't cover the costs really but something. It will encourage him, perhaps, to get a better paying job too. If everything were free then what incentive would he have to do anything for himself?
My parents had a very simple philosophy that they shared through their divorce: after graduation, if you continue schooling, you don't pay rent or for groceries. Everything else like clothes, prescriptions, vehicles and gas, etc was our responsibility. I should also point out that they couldn't contribute to schooling tuition, but our grandfather left us a few grand each. Otherwise, no school? Get a job and pay rent, and for a portion of groceries.
I was in full time work at 16, i paid rent to my parents at £200pm (on £650pm wage) and paid for everything else i wanted/needed. I understood I needed to pay towards bills etc as I was using it. Without my knowledge my parents put £100pm in a saving account for me which helped me with deposits and things when i moved out which was greatly appreciated. But it did teach me budgeting and paying bills were important and helped me in later life
I charged a low rent and then gave my daughter all of the money back when she moved out on her own. It was a nice surprise for her.
I love this!! Teaching a valuable lesson while helping her get a good start. Well done.
Load More Replies... I think it would be a good idea to sit down with the son to say. "Things are tight, we need to find a way through this as a family. We need to lower our expenses and up our contributions. Now that you've become a grown up, we need you to share in the responsibilities of making this family work. Everyone contributes to the family so from now on, we'd like you to contribute (some # here) to the family budget." Save it, use it, it's really helping him grow & understand the complexities of being that adult. Now that you're a grown up, your discretionary budget will need to cover (whatever you decide) these individual grown up expenses, like clothing, etc. media/gym memberships." You may also need to also explain that it's important to put money away for when he will need to make bigger purchases himself. He's in for sticker shock, but if it's put as "All for one, one for all.", it may be an easier pill to swallow.
You give him a place to live. EVERYTHING else he should pay for. Everything. He needs to understand finances and budgeting if he's ever top be a truly functioning adult. Trade offs are part of life. Food or fun, haircut or night out. His choice.
Once my 16 year old daughter gets a job is when she will pay us a certain percentage of her income towards board. We will still buy her the basics but if she wants a dearer shampoo for example then she will need to pay for it, if she wants $200 shoes, she will have to pay for it.
Wow I cant believe you are paying for all his s**t when he has a job. You are creating a useless adult and it’s sad how you don’t see it and are actually wondering if making someone pull their own weight now that they are old enough and capable is unreasonable. You should make him pay for everything he uses. Car, car insurance, phone, food, board ect, because you are doing him no favors coddling him from reality. These are all things he will have to take on if he moved out and not preparing him is going to make things difficult if not shocking once it’s all on him. You will most likely be paying for him your whole life at that rate.
I started working part-time at 14. I know it's a different world now but teaching your kids responsibility is important. They should also be taught either by the parents or schooling, personal finance. If they haven't a clue how money works they will resent their parents demanding money for things they have always been given. Best advice: communicate with your kid.
Yes she should. I work for a bank and its scary how many people have no clue about budgeting, paying bills abd how to generally manage money. People need to be taught how to mange money. Letting your kids live rent/board free isn't doing them any favours. Its not like they will leave your home and be mag8calky prepared for bills if they've never had any experience
Wow, my parents did the same thing and didn’t teach me about money. I had to learn the hard way and waste money on c**p I don’t need. I rent. My sister in law made her kids put 50% away of everything they earned as soon as they got a job. The oldest daughter at 24 owns a multi family dwelling and is in the real estate market in a big way because she had the down payment. Make them learn what bills cost, sit down and explain expenses, don’t hide it and living costs $
My daughter stays with us (she is 18) and is working. All she has to contribute is milk and cereal, because that is what she uses most. She buys her own toiletries, make up and clothes and social activities. I love having her in the house and she can stay as long as she needs to 💝
I'm shocked how many people say that it would be a disservice to him not to let him pay rent/board. The money he can save up while living rent-free at home will make a huge financial difference when he moves out. He can still learn to be responsible with money. (I also think he should pay for personal expenses, though.)
Some of these comments I totally agree on. You are not at all helping a child by not asking him or her to pay, unless you see, that he or she is saving for a home. Then you may dispense from payment (or part of it). Otherwise you are just teaching your child to be unable to cope on his or her own. All you grown ups here must have found, that when you go to live alone, things get straitened financially, and you have to abstain from lots of things you used to be able to buy, when living at home. Teach them, to pay the rent and utilities. Those you cannot do without, and then use the rest as they please, even if they have to go a little hungry by the end of the month. That way they will learn to hold household.
My kids knew, you have 3 months after you finish school, then you pay. You can live for free, all the way through college, or start paying 3 months after high school. I'm job is to raisie you to go out in the world, not take care of you forever. Worked fine with both of them.
When I got my first job, my parents stopped paying for any personal items, (clothes, toiletries, etc.) and made me responsible for the phone bill as a way to contribute until I got my own place at age 21. It wasn't what I wanted, but it didn't seem unfair to me. I'm grateful for what they taught me about money and responsibility.
When I started working, my parents paid for food and bought me a car; I paid for other things but was but charged rent. However, my parents are upper middle class for the area we live in. They are also controlling and made me live with them even after I got my own apartment... So ymmv. I don't think that not charging rent will make him stupid and entitled as others have suggested, but he should definitely be paying for non essentials, and depending on your financial situation, possibly be contributing to bills and groceries. Whatever you decide, be honest to him about your finances and why you chose to do it so he is not blindsided or feels that you are taking advantage of him.
I never had to pay rent and neither did my siblings. Our parents wanted us to save money to move out. We worked and went to school at the same time. I have friends that were “kicked out” as soon as they graduated high school. Work or college, didn’t matter - they had to figure it out. I will never understand that. My parents also kept us fed but we did buy our own clothes/hair cuts/toiletries/going out ect…
The agreement in my house was my parents covered the the basics for food, school and boarding while is was in high school. I could stay at home rent-free as long as I was going to college. However, if I wanted something different than what was being served then I could buy and cook my own. Sodas and treats I want two were covered by me. After HS, I payed for all my own toiletries, clothes, school supplies, gas and car. My parents covered clothes soap, washing machine, bed and bedding. I didn't pay for utilities. If it had been the age of cell phones, I'm sure I would have been on the family plan until after college and set up in a new job. However, if I wanted a fancy phone, extras like headphones or a fancy phone cover then I would have to pay for it.
I have seen the drama several times on panda, what is the problem with teaching the pre-adults the realities of real life. It's is the responsibility of the parent first and foremost to prepare their child to be successful contributing members. My thought on this situation, parents and son should sit down and draw up an agreement of expectations and considerations. Will it be perfect in the beginning, not likely, but another lesson, talk about the problem, admit fault, and agree to work on making the changes agreed upon. His future will be alot brighter if he learns how to adult now rather in his 30s when he's a partner and parent.
Our daughter did the traditional 4 year undergrad and has worked since she as 14. After we paid for most of her university and knew going in that Masters level classes were on her; she worked at several jobs and went to nursing school - which she paid for and has graduated from! She stayed on our phone plan, health insurance, car insurance, etc. (while she was still in school) and lived elsewhere most of the time. When she and her partner split recently, she came back home and I only asked for money towards food; with prices as they are, feeding another grown adult (who turned 27 last week) just wasn't planned for. She's lucked into an apartment and has already moved there; she broke with her long term partner and needed us so she came. And paid for some food. Every situation is different but as long as they're trying/striving to better themselves yet need you for emotional support and a roof over their head, you just it work.
get ready to fly the nest. The ones who went to college or trade school paid for gas, fancy toiletries, makeup, clothes, and entertainment. The ones who went directly to work paid 1/3 of check for room and board, 1/3 for savings, and 1/3 for expenses
Load More Replies... I have a genuine question here. How do you finish college at the age of 18? Doesn't people usually enroll in colleges around 18 or 19 years of age?
I'm pretty sure what we in America call "high school" is "college" in the UK... and what we call "college" is "university" there. My friend that lives in America but from England explained this to me, lol
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