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People Accuse Girls Of Being Racist For “Refusing” To Hold A Black Girl’s Hand, Then The Girl’s Mom Responds
People Accuse Girls Of Being Racist For “Refusing” To Hold A Black Girl’s Hand, Then The Girl’s Mom Responds
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People Accuse Girls Of Being Racist For “Refusing” To Hold A Black Girl’s Hand, Then The Girl’s Mom Responds

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After the tragic shooting at Santa Fe High School on 18th May, the city has rallied around its students and teachers, showing “Santa Fe Strong” solidarity and support as they return to the school just before summer break. 10 people lost their lives and 13 were injured in the horrific incident, and it has deeply affected the entire city.

Sadly some people, instead of showing solidarity and asking what can be done to make American schools safer, chose to bring race issues into the equation. A cropped picture emerged of Nicole, a student of Santa Fe High who happens to be black, not holding hands with her white classmates before singing the national anthem at a basketball game. Naturally, somebody just had to play the race card. “But why is nobody holding the black girl’s hand?”

And so it began. Without anybody bothering to question the context and background to the story, the accusations began to flow. “Who the white girls?? Yeah they did have one job and refused to hold the black chicks hand…their racisms showing BIG TIME,” was just one example of a righteous indignation that quickly got out of control.

That is, until mom stepped in. Nicole’s mother explained that the picture was in fact cropped, and there were other girls standing beside Nicole who were also not holding hands. Nicole herself was very upset by the ‘racism’ storm the picture had kicked up, the reason she chose not to hold hands was because she was understandably feeling very emotional after the events at her school. “My daughter didn’t want to cry before she had to sing and holding hands would have caused her to start crying,” her mom said. “That’s the story, it’s nothing about race.”

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You would think that was the end of the story, right? Wrong. Nicole’s mom, who happens to be white, faced all kinds of questioning about whether she really is Nicole’s mom, as well as a smattering of abuse from people whose righteous narrative had been suddenly cut short.

The entire episode showed much of what is wrong with American society, from yet another community in mourning after a school shooting, to a stream of manufactured racism outrage based on nothing more than a cropped picture. However at the same time Nicole’s mom’s exasperated yet reasoned response showed that there is hope. While some people see only division and negativity, her defense of her daughter while bringing the focus back onto the real issues, such as the healing of the community as a whole, was admirable. Sure, there are major issues with race that run deep in society. But while some people are fighting for equality and justice, those who point fingers and look for racism when it isn’t there are doing more harm than good.

Scroll down to check out the story for yourself below, and let us know what you think in the comments.

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    Other people jumped in on the accusations as well

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    Then the girl’s mom responded to clear things up

    But that wasn’t enough

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    Someone even doubted that it was her mother

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    Even that wasn’t enough for some people

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    The girl herself responded in a video

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    Her cousin also responded to the tweets

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    In the end, a lot of people supported the girl and her mom

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    Image credits: rmwire

    Here’s a final message from the mom

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    The whole situation sparked a discussion

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    stellermatt
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you know when someone is feeling rubbish and all it takes is for you to say 'are you ok?' or 'do you need a hug?' and that person who was doing their best to keep their s**t together instead of crumbling into a tearful mess, crumbles just because of the offer of help, yeah, this. I'm guessing after she sang they hugged and cried and cried and hugged. A picture taken out of context is all some people need to get on their soap box and preach their b******t.

    Daria B
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Too much too much morality, can drop to criminality" ♬♪ No, but seriously, those people are thw worst. Because of their self-righteousness, they have exposed a girl's inner privacy (which, btw, appears to be exactly part of the kind of group they claim they are protecting). Not to mention how they threated her family. So anti-racist, they can't believe multiethnic people can have children. What the...

    Betty Rubble
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's time I go back to the landline. This internet b******t is ridiculous

    Aaron Kara
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to remember that sometimes a confession of ignorance is necessary for the pursuit of knowledge, we need to stop immediately reacting to subjects and incidents we dont have sufficient information of. Admit our ignorance of a subject, seek new information and opinions and simply refrain from jumping to conclusions. This is particularly important when dealing with these kind of news stories, where presumptions idiots are causing a chain reaction of aggression caused by misinformation.

    Cherie O
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cannot believe some troll asked if Nicole was actually her daughter. It is almost laughable at this point. That troll, and others like it, need to evaporate.

    Kiki
    Community Member
    7 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    And the irony is, a white mother and many other left-wingers are upset that the airport questioned her on whether her mixed raced baby was actually hers and yet here the left-wingers are doing the exact same thing.

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    TheBoredPanda
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    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Racism will never end as long as both sides continue crying racism. How about trying to live your life as a person and not a color...hmmm?

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    Max Blancke
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To some people, everything is about race and oppression. They never stop looking for it, so they see it everywhere. Much of it is in their imagination, of course. Some of it is deliberately misleading. In this case, you need to crop the picture to make the racist claims. Anytime you need to resort to deception or exaggeration to support your viewpoint, you need to reevaluate your reasoning.

    lakitha tolbert
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think some people forget that not everything is about things white people do to us. Black people have agency, and can make decisions. My first thought when I saw the photo was that maybe she didn’t want to hold their hands, although I didn’t know why she wouldn’t. At every turn I do wonder if the Black person had agency in that situation to make their own decisions. Did they have any choice or say in the matter. Sometimes we do.

    Meowton Mewsk
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting perspective. I agree, people don’t consider that as often as they probably should.

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    Ladies and Gentlemen
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes Internet is just at its Stupid best. Nothing more need to be said.

    Johanna Martin
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People love to scream racism ... it's become a crutch of the "tolerant"

    Meowton Mewsk
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No it hasn’t. You’re taking it too far just like the people on Twitter. It’s like dumb people have no middle grounds.

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    stellermatt
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you know when someone is feeling rubbish and all it takes is for you to say 'are you ok?' or 'do you need a hug?' and that person who was doing their best to keep their s**t together instead of crumbling into a tearful mess, crumbles just because of the offer of help, yeah, this. I'm guessing after she sang they hugged and cried and cried and hugged. A picture taken out of context is all some people need to get on their soap box and preach their b******t.

    Daria B
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Too much too much morality, can drop to criminality" ♬♪ No, but seriously, those people are thw worst. Because of their self-righteousness, they have exposed a girl's inner privacy (which, btw, appears to be exactly part of the kind of group they claim they are protecting). Not to mention how they threated her family. So anti-racist, they can't believe multiethnic people can have children. What the...

    Betty Rubble
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's time I go back to the landline. This internet b******t is ridiculous

    Aaron Kara
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to remember that sometimes a confession of ignorance is necessary for the pursuit of knowledge, we need to stop immediately reacting to subjects and incidents we dont have sufficient information of. Admit our ignorance of a subject, seek new information and opinions and simply refrain from jumping to conclusions. This is particularly important when dealing with these kind of news stories, where presumptions idiots are causing a chain reaction of aggression caused by misinformation.

    Cherie O
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cannot believe some troll asked if Nicole was actually her daughter. It is almost laughable at this point. That troll, and others like it, need to evaporate.

    Kiki
    Community Member
    7 years ago

    This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

    And the irony is, a white mother and many other left-wingers are upset that the airport questioned her on whether her mixed raced baby was actually hers and yet here the left-wingers are doing the exact same thing.

    Load More Replies...
    TheBoredPanda
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Racism will never end as long as both sides continue crying racism. How about trying to live your life as a person and not a color...hmmm?

    Load More Replies...
    Max Blancke
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To some people, everything is about race and oppression. They never stop looking for it, so they see it everywhere. Much of it is in their imagination, of course. Some of it is deliberately misleading. In this case, you need to crop the picture to make the racist claims. Anytime you need to resort to deception or exaggeration to support your viewpoint, you need to reevaluate your reasoning.

    lakitha tolbert
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think some people forget that not everything is about things white people do to us. Black people have agency, and can make decisions. My first thought when I saw the photo was that maybe she didn’t want to hold their hands, although I didn’t know why she wouldn’t. At every turn I do wonder if the Black person had agency in that situation to make their own decisions. Did they have any choice or say in the matter. Sometimes we do.

    Meowton Mewsk
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting perspective. I agree, people don’t consider that as often as they probably should.

    Load More Replies...
    Ladies and Gentlemen
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes Internet is just at its Stupid best. Nothing more need to be said.

    Johanna Martin
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People love to scream racism ... it's become a crutch of the "tolerant"

    Meowton Mewsk
    Community Member
    7 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No it hasn’t. You’re taking it too far just like the people on Twitter. It’s like dumb people have no middle grounds.

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