People Accuse Girls Of Being Racist For “Refusing” To Hold A Black Girl’s Hand, Then The Girl’s Mom Responds
After the tragic shooting at Santa Fe High School on 18th May, the city has rallied around its students and teachers, showing “Santa Fe Strong” solidarity and support as they return to the school just before summer break. 10 people lost their lives and 13 were injured in the horrific incident, and it has deeply affected the entire city.
Sadly some people, instead of showing solidarity and asking what can be done to make American schools safer, chose to bring race issues into the equation. A cropped picture emerged of Nicole, a student of Santa Fe High who happens to be black, not holding hands with her white classmates before singing the national anthem at a basketball game. Naturally, somebody just had to play the race card. “But why is nobody holding the black girl’s hand?”
And so it began. Without anybody bothering to question the context and background to the story, the accusations began to flow. “Who the white girls?? Yeah they did have one job and refused to hold the black chicks hand…their racisms showing BIG TIME,” was just one example of a righteous indignation that quickly got out of control.
That is, until mom stepped in. Nicole’s mother explained that the picture was in fact cropped, and there were other girls standing beside Nicole who were also not holding hands. Nicole herself was very upset by the ‘racism’ storm the picture had kicked up, the reason she chose not to hold hands was because she was understandably feeling very emotional after the events at her school. “My daughter didn’t want to cry before she had to sing and holding hands would have caused her to start crying,” her mom said. “That’s the story, it’s nothing about race.”
You would think that was the end of the story, right? Wrong. Nicole’s mom, who happens to be white, faced all kinds of questioning about whether she really is Nicole’s mom, as well as a smattering of abuse from people whose righteous narrative had been suddenly cut short.
The entire episode showed much of what is wrong with American society, from yet another community in mourning after a school shooting, to a stream of manufactured racism outrage based on nothing more than a cropped picture. However at the same time Nicole’s mom’s exasperated yet reasoned response showed that there is hope. While some people see only division and negativity, her defense of her daughter while bringing the focus back onto the real issues, such as the healing of the community as a whole, was admirable. Sure, there are major issues with race that run deep in society. But while some people are fighting for equality and justice, those who point fingers and look for racism when it isn’t there are doing more harm than good.
Scroll down to check out the story for yourself below, and let us know what you think in the comments.
The NBA shared this tweet recently, showing solidarity with Sante Fe after the tragic school shooting on May 18th
Someone quickly noticed something ‘off’ about this picture however
Other people jumped in on the accusations as well
Then the girl’s mom responded to clear things up
But that wasn’t enough
Someone even doubted that it was her mother
Even that wasn’t enough for some people
The girl herself responded in a video
Click to unmuteHer cousin also responded to the tweets
In the end, a lot of people supported the girl and her mom
Image credits: rmwire
Here’s a final message from the mom
The whole situation sparked a discussion
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you know when someone is feeling rubbish and all it takes is for you to say 'are you ok?' or 'do you need a hug?' and that person who was doing their best to keep their s**t together instead of crumbling into a tearful mess, crumbles just because of the offer of help, yeah, this. I'm guessing after she sang they hugged and cried and cried and hugged. A picture taken out of context is all some people need to get on their soap box and preach their b******t.
"Too much too much morality, can drop to criminality" ♬♪ No, but seriously, those people are thw worst. Because of their self-righteousness, they have exposed a girl's inner privacy (which, btw, appears to be exactly part of the kind of group they claim they are protecting). Not to mention how they threated her family. So anti-racist, they can't believe multiethnic people can have children. What the...
I think it's time I go back to the landline. This internet b******t is ridiculous
People need to remember that sometimes a confession of ignorance is necessary for the pursuit of knowledge, we need to stop immediately reacting to subjects and incidents we dont have sufficient information of. Admit our ignorance of a subject, seek new information and opinions and simply refrain from jumping to conclusions. This is particularly important when dealing with these kind of news stories, where presumptions idiots are causing a chain reaction of aggression caused by misinformation.
I cannot believe some troll asked if Nicole was actually her daughter. It is almost laughable at this point. That troll, and others like it, need to evaporate.
Racism will never end as long as both sides continue crying racism. How about trying to live your life as a person and not a color...hmmm?
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To some people, everything is about race and oppression. They never stop looking for it, so they see it everywhere. Much of it is in their imagination, of course. Some of it is deliberately misleading. In this case, you need to crop the picture to make the racist claims. Anytime you need to resort to deception or exaggeration to support your viewpoint, you need to reevaluate your reasoning.
I think some people forget that not everything is about things white people do to us. Black people have agency, and can make decisions. My first thought when I saw the photo was that maybe she didn’t want to hold their hands, although I didn’t know why she wouldn’t. At every turn I do wonder if the Black person had agency in that situation to make their own decisions. Did they have any choice or say in the matter. Sometimes we do.
Interesting perspective. I agree, people don’t consider that as often as they probably should.
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Sometimes Internet is just at its Stupid best. Nothing more need to be said.
People love to scream racism ... it's become a crutch of the "tolerant"
No it hasn’t. You’re taking it too far just like the people on Twitter. It’s like dumb people have no middle grounds.
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'How do you explain racism to your daughter?' 'I'll let her read these posts' TOUCHE!!!
I just can't understand why we have to alway keep looking at people's skin colour. I have quite many black friends but I never think about their skin colour and I don't they think about mine, we never talk about it. I have gotten racist comments from black people so it goes both ways too (I'm quite pale with blond hair and green eyes)
That’s true, same here. But it’s also true that black people can be subject to daily casual racism and after so many years of that, it probably puts you on edge. Still no excuse for the bullying on Twitter.
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The race debate in America is rather strange for sure a looong time back when the whole country is built on different people from all the world not long ago ... After they killed the Indians !?.
i think South park have the better exemple i saw. in one episode they want to change the South park flag because it represend 1 black person being hang by 4 white persons. but the kid didn't see the wrong in that because for them it's just a person who's being hang, they didn't see it as a black person but as a person! just stop see Something happen to a black person and imply it's racism. if you think she's mean to the black kid, maybe it's right. but what you can't be mad at someone if he's another color than you? that's racism. we're all people. i honestly don't care about the color. the best friend i had in school were black people and arab people. i don't judge by the color i judge by the rest
Great episode, South park was so good back in the day.
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Another "social injustice" completely fabricated and perpetuated online. This s**t is getting old, save it for REAL LIFE racism, there's enough of it.
First of all Nicole don’t let some twisted idiot get you and your friends and family upset! Unfortunately there are those people that troll the internet to try to start some crazy c**p! Because they aren’t happy in their life so they want to make everyone else miserable! Why they do it well because they are miserable and want everyone that way! Since you were the vocalist it is your right to do what ever makes you comfortable. And you do not have to explain yourself to anyone! And as far as “The White Girl didn’t hold “The Black Girls” hand!!!! Really, she was singing did you ever think that maybe that may have something to do with it!!! And nothing to do with race!!!! Why must we assume there is a problem where there clearly wasn’t! And people want the worse to be! You should be ashamed! And to question her validity of her parents!!! Wow shame on the evil and weak minded that wants there always to be a race problem when there isn’t! When are you going to get over yourself!
The original question was fair but the unrelenting abuse of the town and family were not. It’s important to be vigilant of racism because it IS a real issue everywhere every day. But there’s absolutely no excuse for berating a mother who did nothing wrong or attacking children who did nothing wrong. Find out the answer first before you look stupid. That girl seems smart, pretty and funny and her friends probably are too. What kind of person would judge any of these women who are all probably great people? Everyone needs to shut the f**k up sometimes.
People have wayyyyy too much time on their hands. To most of them I just want to say stfu, as others said 'mind your own business.'
I am glad both the girl and the family had the courage to say something. That was all that was needed. Having to deal with just one more thing after all the tragedy leading up to this is quite a bit for kids and families. I hope they go on to keep making the world an amazing place!
The thing I find MOST offending is that someone literally asked if the white mom actually had a black daughter. Now that's racism. People can adopt, you know. Also, the girl CHOSE to not hold hands. If she was my friend, I wouldn't force her to hold my hand or anything.
Oh my gosh, seriously?? That girl who refused to hold the black girls hand is so rude-b***h in my opinion, why can't you at LEAST hold her HAND?!?!!? That is 100% idiotic and racist s**t.
This s**t stays stirred up because of the very people crying about racism and how it needs to stop. Boo f*****g hoo. Stop jumping to conclusions about s**t you know nothing about and concentrate on your own f*****g life. F**k.
Some people seem to be genetically disposed to only see the negative in any situation. I have found that there is nothing you can do except ignore them and stay positive.
Yeah, this proves one thing, beyond any doubt: people are jerks. Yes, there are awesome people out there, but the a**holes are way too damm high.
I can see how some well meaning folks could have misinterpreted the photo bc racism IS real and is hurting everyone. It's cool that the girl and her fam set everyone straight on what was happening in the photo. Peace.
There should be more white people adopting black babies. And abortion should be stricter.
De unde reiese faptul că stângii americane - la fel de ipocrită, ticăloasă și bolnavă de corectitudine politică acută ca și stânga europeană - i-a reușit crearea omului nou american, după chipul și asemănarea ei. Până în comunism mai sunt câțiva pași!/ From where it turns out that the American left - just as hypocritical, wicked and sick of acute political correctness as the European left - managed to create the new American man in its image and likeness. Until communism there are several steps!
The thing is - those who called the race card would never come out physically and shout their ridiculous comments in public. They hide behind their computers and smart-phones and do it. After being corrected, they also will hardly ever apologise after the damage has been done.
And the haters gunna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.... Shake it off, shake it o-o-offf!
There seems to be no end to the insanity. Be strong and always remember that we are not all the same. Most of us are good Non Racist Loving people who wil always be there when we are needed. God Bless you
Nowadays remember me the old McCarthy days, and the old witch hunt. What a good days, accusing the neighbor that you did not like, walking through the streets with torches lit and tridents, in the name of the white race and the anticommunism, now in the name of feminism and racism. Going to read twitter now to see if I can take down another tv show and shut up the people I don't like.
If you look for racism, you will find it everywhere. That's the lesson I got from this article.
I suppose you could say that they were lucky they didn't have the creepy 'antifa' crowd around their house, calling out the all the non-existent racists.
Why do some people love to see non-existent things? This is what people in my country call "buscarle 5 pies al gato sabiendo que tiene 4".
My first thought was that the girl was on the autism spectrum, and wasn't comfortable holding hands. Guess I'm kinda weird.
Yeah, u want God to listen and answer your prayers but the girl won't hold that girls hand?? Yeah. OK. That make perfect sense!
What bothers me most is that everybody is talking about different races. Erm... excuse people, we all look different but we are the human race. Period.
Has no one else noticed that out of 7 girls in that picture,only one looked athletic.also,most of them had very narrow hips.all of this is a result of lack of movement plus bad diet,stress...anyone else around here see this terrible tragedy for American people?or are they just living their truth how they say it lol?
Lord, I am so sick of white virtue seeking idiots and black folks that scream racism every chance they get. Yes, the world is a mess but this constant Lefty overreacting is only making it worse.
I agree except for the “Lefty” comments. Yes, these PEOPLE are annoying but even if every left winger in America is a full-on twat, that has nothing to do with voting left in elections. Progressive left values are good for common people - healthcare, anti-war, anti money in politics, anti-corporation, workers rights, civil rights, etc. Everyone wants this stuff but they let party stop them. Even Democrats aren’t far left or progressive enough. But going right wing just because of some s****y reactionary people is like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
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She never said "Black People are reaching" she said people like you, as in the group which included a white person as well "Dey". Yeah the picture looks kind of wrong but she explained what was going on, it makes no sense to keep having a go at her when it's clear(now), that it was innocent.
Load More Replies... you know when someone is feeling rubbish and all it takes is for you to say 'are you ok?' or 'do you need a hug?' and that person who was doing their best to keep their s**t together instead of crumbling into a tearful mess, crumbles just because of the offer of help, yeah, this. I'm guessing after she sang they hugged and cried and cried and hugged. A picture taken out of context is all some people need to get on their soap box and preach their b******t.
"Too much too much morality, can drop to criminality" ♬♪ No, but seriously, those people are thw worst. Because of their self-righteousness, they have exposed a girl's inner privacy (which, btw, appears to be exactly part of the kind of group they claim they are protecting). Not to mention how they threated her family. So anti-racist, they can't believe multiethnic people can have children. What the...
I think it's time I go back to the landline. This internet b******t is ridiculous
People need to remember that sometimes a confession of ignorance is necessary for the pursuit of knowledge, we need to stop immediately reacting to subjects and incidents we dont have sufficient information of. Admit our ignorance of a subject, seek new information and opinions and simply refrain from jumping to conclusions. This is particularly important when dealing with these kind of news stories, where presumptions idiots are causing a chain reaction of aggression caused by misinformation.
I cannot believe some troll asked if Nicole was actually her daughter. It is almost laughable at this point. That troll, and others like it, need to evaporate.
Racism will never end as long as both sides continue crying racism. How about trying to live your life as a person and not a color...hmmm?
Load More Replies... To some people, everything is about race and oppression. They never stop looking for it, so they see it everywhere. Much of it is in their imagination, of course. Some of it is deliberately misleading. In this case, you need to crop the picture to make the racist claims. Anytime you need to resort to deception or exaggeration to support your viewpoint, you need to reevaluate your reasoning.
I think some people forget that not everything is about things white people do to us. Black people have agency, and can make decisions. My first thought when I saw the photo was that maybe she didn’t want to hold their hands, although I didn’t know why she wouldn’t. At every turn I do wonder if the Black person had agency in that situation to make their own decisions. Did they have any choice or say in the matter. Sometimes we do.
Interesting perspective. I agree, people don’t consider that as often as they probably should.
Load More Replies... Sometimes Internet is just at its Stupid best. Nothing more need to be said.
People love to scream racism ... it's become a crutch of the "tolerant"
No it hasn’t. You’re taking it too far just like the people on Twitter. It’s like dumb people have no middle grounds.
Load More Replies... 'How do you explain racism to your daughter?' 'I'll let her read these posts' TOUCHE!!!
I just can't understand why we have to alway keep looking at people's skin colour. I have quite many black friends but I never think about their skin colour and I don't they think about mine, we never talk about it. I have gotten racist comments from black people so it goes both ways too (I'm quite pale with blond hair and green eyes)
That’s true, same here. But it’s also true that black people can be subject to daily casual racism and after so many years of that, it probably puts you on edge. Still no excuse for the bullying on Twitter.
Load More Replies... The race debate in America is rather strange for sure a looong time back when the whole country is built on different people from all the world not long ago ... After they killed the Indians !?.
i think South park have the better exemple i saw. in one episode they want to change the South park flag because it represend 1 black person being hang by 4 white persons. but the kid didn't see the wrong in that because for them it's just a person who's being hang, they didn't see it as a black person but as a person! just stop see Something happen to a black person and imply it's racism. if you think she's mean to the black kid, maybe it's right. but what you can't be mad at someone if he's another color than you? that's racism. we're all people. i honestly don't care about the color. the best friend i had in school were black people and arab people. i don't judge by the color i judge by the rest
Great episode, South park was so good back in the day.
Load More Replies... Another "social injustice" completely fabricated and perpetuated online. This s**t is getting old, save it for REAL LIFE racism, there's enough of it.
First of all Nicole don’t let some twisted idiot get you and your friends and family upset! Unfortunately there are those people that troll the internet to try to start some crazy c**p! Because they aren’t happy in their life so they want to make everyone else miserable! Why they do it well because they are miserable and want everyone that way! Since you were the vocalist it is your right to do what ever makes you comfortable. And you do not have to explain yourself to anyone! And as far as “The White Girl didn’t hold “The Black Girls” hand!!!! Really, she was singing did you ever think that maybe that may have something to do with it!!! And nothing to do with race!!!! Why must we assume there is a problem where there clearly wasn’t! And people want the worse to be! You should be ashamed! And to question her validity of her parents!!! Wow shame on the evil and weak minded that wants there always to be a race problem when there isn’t! When are you going to get over yourself!
The original question was fair but the unrelenting abuse of the town and family were not. It’s important to be vigilant of racism because it IS a real issue everywhere every day. But there’s absolutely no excuse for berating a mother who did nothing wrong or attacking children who did nothing wrong. Find out the answer first before you look stupid. That girl seems smart, pretty and funny and her friends probably are too. What kind of person would judge any of these women who are all probably great people? Everyone needs to shut the f**k up sometimes.
People have wayyyyy too much time on their hands. To most of them I just want to say stfu, as others said 'mind your own business.'
I am glad both the girl and the family had the courage to say something. That was all that was needed. Having to deal with just one more thing after all the tragedy leading up to this is quite a bit for kids and families. I hope they go on to keep making the world an amazing place!
The thing I find MOST offending is that someone literally asked if the white mom actually had a black daughter. Now that's racism. People can adopt, you know. Also, the girl CHOSE to not hold hands. If she was my friend, I wouldn't force her to hold my hand or anything.
Oh my gosh, seriously?? That girl who refused to hold the black girls hand is so rude-b***h in my opinion, why can't you at LEAST hold her HAND?!?!!? That is 100% idiotic and racist s**t.
This s**t stays stirred up because of the very people crying about racism and how it needs to stop. Boo f*****g hoo. Stop jumping to conclusions about s**t you know nothing about and concentrate on your own f*****g life. F**k.
Some people seem to be genetically disposed to only see the negative in any situation. I have found that there is nothing you can do except ignore them and stay positive.
Yeah, this proves one thing, beyond any doubt: people are jerks. Yes, there are awesome people out there, but the a**holes are way too damm high.
I can see how some well meaning folks could have misinterpreted the photo bc racism IS real and is hurting everyone. It's cool that the girl and her fam set everyone straight on what was happening in the photo. Peace.
There should be more white people adopting black babies. And abortion should be stricter.
De unde reiese faptul că stângii americane - la fel de ipocrită, ticăloasă și bolnavă de corectitudine politică acută ca și stânga europeană - i-a reușit crearea omului nou american, după chipul și asemănarea ei. Până în comunism mai sunt câțiva pași!/ From where it turns out that the American left - just as hypocritical, wicked and sick of acute political correctness as the European left - managed to create the new American man in its image and likeness. Until communism there are several steps!
The thing is - those who called the race card would never come out physically and shout their ridiculous comments in public. They hide behind their computers and smart-phones and do it. After being corrected, they also will hardly ever apologise after the damage has been done.
And the haters gunna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.... Shake it off, shake it o-o-offf!
There seems to be no end to the insanity. Be strong and always remember that we are not all the same. Most of us are good Non Racist Loving people who wil always be there when we are needed. God Bless you
Nowadays remember me the old McCarthy days, and the old witch hunt. What a good days, accusing the neighbor that you did not like, walking through the streets with torches lit and tridents, in the name of the white race and the anticommunism, now in the name of feminism and racism. Going to read twitter now to see if I can take down another tv show and shut up the people I don't like.
If you look for racism, you will find it everywhere. That's the lesson I got from this article.
I suppose you could say that they were lucky they didn't have the creepy 'antifa' crowd around their house, calling out the all the non-existent racists.
Why do some people love to see non-existent things? This is what people in my country call "buscarle 5 pies al gato sabiendo que tiene 4".
My first thought was that the girl was on the autism spectrum, and wasn't comfortable holding hands. Guess I'm kinda weird.
Yeah, u want God to listen and answer your prayers but the girl won't hold that girls hand?? Yeah. OK. That make perfect sense!
What bothers me most is that everybody is talking about different races. Erm... excuse people, we all look different but we are the human race. Period.
Has no one else noticed that out of 7 girls in that picture,only one looked athletic.also,most of them had very narrow hips.all of this is a result of lack of movement plus bad diet,stress...anyone else around here see this terrible tragedy for American people?or are they just living their truth how they say it lol?
Lord, I am so sick of white virtue seeking idiots and black folks that scream racism every chance they get. Yes, the world is a mess but this constant Lefty overreacting is only making it worse.
I agree except for the “Lefty” comments. Yes, these PEOPLE are annoying but even if every left winger in America is a full-on twat, that has nothing to do with voting left in elections. Progressive left values are good for common people - healthcare, anti-war, anti money in politics, anti-corporation, workers rights, civil rights, etc. Everyone wants this stuff but they let party stop them. Even Democrats aren’t far left or progressive enough. But going right wing just because of some s****y reactionary people is like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
Load More Replies... She never said "Black People are reaching" she said people like you, as in the group which included a white person as well "Dey". Yeah the picture looks kind of wrong but she explained what was going on, it makes no sense to keep having a go at her when it's clear(now), that it was innocent.
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