Man’s Response To A Toxic And Misogynistic Podcast About Women After Giving Birth Goes Viral
InterviewSeeing someone explain how much they love their partner, completely honestly and without any reservations, is a breath of fresh air. That’s exactly what Professor Chesko did in a candid and emotional TikTok video.
In it, the teary-eyed Communication Studies professor, living and working in LA, spoke about how much he loves his wife and how he doesn’t see any supposed flaws that she thinks she might have. He filmed the TikTok in response to seeing 3 men from the No Filter podcast speaking about how women’s bodies change after birth and how they supposedly ‘let themselves go.’
Professor Chesko’s video immediately went viral, getting 2.3 million likes and 10.3 million views.
Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chesko to hear more about his video. He told us just how shocked he was by how much attention the TikTok got online. “I’ve had a few other videos get a couple million views, but the reaction was nothing like this. The overwhelming positivity in comments, emails, stiches, and DM’s from people has been one of the greatest experiences of my career and just shows why it is so important to allow yourself to be vulnerable for an audience,” the professor shared his joy.
The video was completely genuine and filmed from the heart. “I just filmed one take from the heart and quickly captioned and posted it right before I had to sign into a department meeting—I think that’s one of the reasons it resonated so much with people though. If I had tried scripting something like this, it would have felt very disingenuous.”
Scroll down for the rest of Bored Panda’s interview with Professor Chesko, dear Pandas.
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One podcast’s video caused a stir on TikTok. A lot of people didn’t agree with the misogynistic message
@nofilterpod_ Goes for the man too! Stay on point!#mensdating #podcast #foryou #fyp #nofilterpod #nofilterpodcast #youtube #instagram #redpill #goviral ♬ original sound – No Filter Pod
Professor Chesko had an epic comeback to them. In an emotional video, he explained just how much he loves his wife
The professor revealed to Bored Panda that he has been married to his wife for 11 years. He also told us a bit more about himself and his family. “I grew up with a single mom and a toxic father that wasn’t really a part of my life, so I’m kind of winging it as I go as far as this marriage thing is concerned,” he said.
“I didn’t actually ever even want to get married since I only knew it as this hurtful thing, but that changed almost immediately when I started dating her—I even started saving up for an engagement ring just a few months after we started dating and proposed just a couple weeks before our 1-year-anniversary.”
The one piece of advice for a successful and happy marriage that Professor Chesko had for us is to “love your partner recklessly.”
“What I mean by that is that you need to love without reservation and concern of reciprocation and if they love you back the same way, then even all the hard stuff just seems to fade away. So even when the times are tough, and we’ve had rocky times just like any other couple, the love is still always there keeping us anchored to one another,” he said.
We were also interested to learn a bit more about the professor as a TikTok content creator. Here’s what he had to say: “My content is all over the place, but most of my videos are just my takes on life. I’m a pretty compassionate and positive guy and with all the negative energy in the world right now, I think people just enjoyed my lighthearted takes on some serious topics ranging from teaching to mental health,” he explained.
“I started creating content in January of 2021 as a way to make fun extra credit videos for my students to watch and no intention of being a ‘real’ content creator. My page just kind of took off from there though and my teaching content is just a small part of what I post about now. I still only do it as a fun side hobby, but the relationships I’ve formed with other content creators and my followers has kept me wanting to keep producing videos.”
The professor’s video was seen by over 10 million people around the globe
@speechprof #stitch w/@No Filter Pod If that original video resonated with you, then I have to believe that you have never known love. #toxicmasculinity #redflags ♬ original sound – Professor Chesko (He/Him)
The podcast that Professor Chesko responded to had 3 guys talking about how they’d leave their wives if they didn’t look amazing after childbirth.
Meanwhile, the professor shared in his video that he “can’t fathom” thinking like them because each flaw that his wife has is a part of their history together. What’s more, they all remind him of the 3 children they have together. Ladies and gentlemen, this is the type of husband who will always have your back.
Professor Chesko currently has over 173.8k followers on TikTok, as well as a combined total of 6 million likes on all of his videos. That particular video that went viral accounts for over a third of his channel’s popularity.
The content creator drew attention to an important topic. Many internet users believe that the guys doing the podcast are prime examples of toxic masculinity. Earlier, psychotherapist Silva Neves went into detail with Bored Panda about toxicity and misogyny and how to put an end to them.
“Better education is definitely key, but it is also down to all of us to challenge it by not allowing toxic masculinity to keep going. It means that we all have to actively challenge misogyny and homophobia,” he said.
The expert noted that men need to “do their part” and be more in tune with their emotions. Repressing them isn’t the way to go.
“We need more representations of men who embrace their emotions, talk about them and show them with crying, laughing, or hugging,” Silva told us.
“We also need to change the image of ‘male success’. So, basically, we need to change society at its core because toxic masculinity is part of a faulty system of thoughts. That will take time, but it can start with all of us doing our parts about it.”
Many social media users applauded the man for filming the teary-eyed video. Here’s what they had to say
For a lot of men the only interesting thing in a woman is her body, and the person in this body is a nuisance they have to deal with, to get access to the body itself.
Stop making stupid people famous. Those three muppets with room temperature IQ don't deserve so much as the effort it takes to watch their "podcast".
Room temperature IQ :D I am borowing this, if you don't mind.
Load More Replies...It's one thing not taking care of basic stuff like hygiene and it's another getting upset or no longer being attracted to your partner because their body changed due to a normal process. I have never understood how some people can think like this. Especially with pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. If your partner risks her life and sacrifices her body to carry your genes and nourish them the very least thing you can do is to be grateful and not see her as only a body you want to f**k. So disrespectful. The same thing would apply on other natural processes that changes your appearance, like getting older. Would you really blame your partner for that?
Yes, but I would go farther to say that even “basic stuff like hygiene” shouldn’t be a deal breaker. I mean, did your partner stink when you dated? If they do now , and they aren’t listening that they need to shower, it sounds like depression. Also, “Until death do us part” means diapers and bed baths too. I mean, life is a long time.
Load More Replies...I wonder if these tw*ts realize that right now, women are looking at them, and thinking, "Ugly!" .
i gained a lot weight after i turned 35 and worried my husband was no longer attracted to me. we have no kids, so we've always walked around the house naked. i started covering up all the time and hubby asked why. i was ashamed of my body. he said he couldn't even see that i had gained any weight and i was still the most beautiful thing he'd ever seen. i effin love that man.
My husband and I have been together for almost 24 years. Both of our bodies have changed bc of age and time and kids and health. The alternative to all of that is dying. Misogynistic men think woman shouldn't age. I'm glad you have a wonderful man in your life, I do too it makes all the difference when someone has your back no matter what. I don't see him as any different from the day I met him. He makes me laugh like no other. I fell in love w him not his looks. Imagine being the person that will never understand that kind of love ugh
Load More Replies...I hope these three little stooges in the video he was commenting on, do some growing up.
Oh you're not as hot to me now & I don't wanna stick my D in you. Bc, uk, that's all women are worth/for! I hope he has a tragic, disfiguring accident.
And, IF he’s in a relationship, she dumps him because she’s no longer attracted to him.
Load More Replies...I hope Mr. "I'm out" warns dates ahead of time that the following scenario could happen later on: "Kids, your father is leaving because I didn't have time to go to the gym."
Even with going to the gym there is really no way to get the body you once had back. A lot of women end up with loose skin and stretch marks from pregnancy and these things can't be changed through diet and exercise.
Load More Replies...When you love someone you love what they look like because inside that wrapping is *them*. If they have "flaws" you love those wrinkles, scars, stretch marks, 'blemishes', etc because they mean you are looking at the person you love. When I glance out the window and see my husband coming home my heart leaps because it's *him* I see. My heart doesn't care about his weight, his hair, his skin, his clothes. And I am sure he feels the same about me. I don't feel anger towards the young men in the video because they don't know. I just hope they find love and experience the depths that it goes to, and look back on their silly former selves with a shake of their head.
My husband says to me, "Webster doesn't have the words for me to explain my love for you." He also says, "I love you with all my bones," which can go either way so.......
Welcome to the next big podcast on Spotify. Now they can check that important pro misogyny box along with Joe Rogan’s racism and Covid misinformation.
Wow. After 10 yrs, my husband still grabs me, tells my how sexy and beautiful I am and talks about my butt like he's in awe. I think he's full of it, but it's still nice to hear. I can't imagine being with that guy, the way he talk about ditching a wife if she gets heavy? He'll always have shallow relationships and never get to experience real love
WOMEN... stop giving these jerks the time of day. They mean what they say, they have no respect for you, you are a p***y with legs. When they tell you " oh I did not really mean that"... do NOT fall for it easily. Actions speak louder than words, they can only hide the misoginy under a thin veil. Make them prove their intentions daily ( aka watch how they treat mom's, co-workers and friends) before you trust their heart.
I'm highly critical of my body, but my hubby has told me more than once, "it's just a body, it's not who you are or why I love you". So if I'm 35 or 53 or 67, I'm still who he married and why he loves me. 15 or 51 pounds heavier, butt sagging and don't see or hear as well as I once did, I had helped in getting us to this day, with these memories.
I am so happy and luck that my man loves me for me just as I love him just as he is. I've been big at times and small at times. I've looked like a total wreck! There hasn't been a single day gone by in the years we've been together that he doesn't tell me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me. When he brings me coffee in bed, it's in a cup that says" Good morning Beautiful ". He leaves me little notes around the house and so on. I wish every couple had this. It's the best feeling ever!
Anyone who expects their partner to always maintain the same appearance through the years doesn’t understand how human bodies (and mental health) work AND has no empathy. It would be a good idea for such people to not partner up or procreate.
Do you have a brother I can marry? Men like you are so rare it's heartbreaking.
Great content, it will help in my business Thanks for sharing useful information. Respectfully, David, author of the blog https://hackear.app/
No one is perfect. Loving yourself is the greatest love of all. Then finding someone who sees you confident in yourself is second to none. Instagram needs to be shut down an tic tok too. The fake filtered plastic surgery people of the fake world are making 9 year olds want implants and the parents need to instill the self beauty in them. Idk the world is f****d up these days.
I remember when i was young, lotsa baby boomers said this esp in my culture. Nowadays, im glad men are more considerate and sensitive and those misogynistic boomers are all retired or dead. They were vy toxic bunch of people.
This was beautiful. These are the type of people we need to make famous (the husband, not the 3 douche canoes) why do we make dumbass people famous...? Dumbass people who perpetuate b******t ideas, beliefs and ways of thinking? All that's doing is forcing these idiotic trends to keep going on and on and on... when instead we need to be normalizing how people change and it's beautiful. We need to normalize that beauty comes in ALL shapes and sizes. Whether you're a size 00 or a size 10000 (not real I know) it isn't a fucken calculation of how attractive you are. It just means that you're you, and that's fucken beautiful! We need to normalize the fact that women age, we change after kids, we change as we evolve... we change as we experience life and thats fucken beautiful.. that's normal. That's what being human is. I'm only directing this at women because I am a women so I can speak on the societal pressures. Men deal w/ the same s**t. But it's not my place to speak on their experiences
Geez, this is an eye-opener... my (ex)husband gained over 60kg over a 20 year period, I told him often that I have a big problem with this, his attractiveness waned to where I didn't want to share a bed with him anymore..... So much that goes with it:snoring, sleep apnea....... sadly as we didn't share a bed anymore, along came the porn, and our marriage of 30 years failed. (Many other probs though)...... Am I as shallow as this man????
God forbid their wives get old! What will those Doug bag men do then?
Trade them in for a younger model. hence the term "Starter wife"
Load More Replies...So tired of this frigging narrative. This post was literally men being disgusting as*holes. They are literally saying it out of there very own mouths and somehow you've twisted into talking fuking sh*t about women. You must be one of those men. I really cannot wrap my mind around misogynistic men like you.
Load More Replies...Abusive women or a woman that has never been in love or an immature child or a woman that has never been loved or a toxic woman. Same for men.
Load More Replies...For a lot of men the only interesting thing in a woman is her body, and the person in this body is a nuisance they have to deal with, to get access to the body itself.
Stop making stupid people famous. Those three muppets with room temperature IQ don't deserve so much as the effort it takes to watch their "podcast".
Room temperature IQ :D I am borowing this, if you don't mind.
Load More Replies...It's one thing not taking care of basic stuff like hygiene and it's another getting upset or no longer being attracted to your partner because their body changed due to a normal process. I have never understood how some people can think like this. Especially with pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. If your partner risks her life and sacrifices her body to carry your genes and nourish them the very least thing you can do is to be grateful and not see her as only a body you want to f**k. So disrespectful. The same thing would apply on other natural processes that changes your appearance, like getting older. Would you really blame your partner for that?
Yes, but I would go farther to say that even “basic stuff like hygiene” shouldn’t be a deal breaker. I mean, did your partner stink when you dated? If they do now , and they aren’t listening that they need to shower, it sounds like depression. Also, “Until death do us part” means diapers and bed baths too. I mean, life is a long time.
Load More Replies...I wonder if these tw*ts realize that right now, women are looking at them, and thinking, "Ugly!" .
i gained a lot weight after i turned 35 and worried my husband was no longer attracted to me. we have no kids, so we've always walked around the house naked. i started covering up all the time and hubby asked why. i was ashamed of my body. he said he couldn't even see that i had gained any weight and i was still the most beautiful thing he'd ever seen. i effin love that man.
My husband and I have been together for almost 24 years. Both of our bodies have changed bc of age and time and kids and health. The alternative to all of that is dying. Misogynistic men think woman shouldn't age. I'm glad you have a wonderful man in your life, I do too it makes all the difference when someone has your back no matter what. I don't see him as any different from the day I met him. He makes me laugh like no other. I fell in love w him not his looks. Imagine being the person that will never understand that kind of love ugh
Load More Replies...I hope these three little stooges in the video he was commenting on, do some growing up.
Oh you're not as hot to me now & I don't wanna stick my D in you. Bc, uk, that's all women are worth/for! I hope he has a tragic, disfiguring accident.
And, IF he’s in a relationship, she dumps him because she’s no longer attracted to him.
Load More Replies...I hope Mr. "I'm out" warns dates ahead of time that the following scenario could happen later on: "Kids, your father is leaving because I didn't have time to go to the gym."
Even with going to the gym there is really no way to get the body you once had back. A lot of women end up with loose skin and stretch marks from pregnancy and these things can't be changed through diet and exercise.
Load More Replies...When you love someone you love what they look like because inside that wrapping is *them*. If they have "flaws" you love those wrinkles, scars, stretch marks, 'blemishes', etc because they mean you are looking at the person you love. When I glance out the window and see my husband coming home my heart leaps because it's *him* I see. My heart doesn't care about his weight, his hair, his skin, his clothes. And I am sure he feels the same about me. I don't feel anger towards the young men in the video because they don't know. I just hope they find love and experience the depths that it goes to, and look back on their silly former selves with a shake of their head.
My husband says to me, "Webster doesn't have the words for me to explain my love for you." He also says, "I love you with all my bones," which can go either way so.......
Welcome to the next big podcast on Spotify. Now they can check that important pro misogyny box along with Joe Rogan’s racism and Covid misinformation.
Wow. After 10 yrs, my husband still grabs me, tells my how sexy and beautiful I am and talks about my butt like he's in awe. I think he's full of it, but it's still nice to hear. I can't imagine being with that guy, the way he talk about ditching a wife if she gets heavy? He'll always have shallow relationships and never get to experience real love
WOMEN... stop giving these jerks the time of day. They mean what they say, they have no respect for you, you are a p***y with legs. When they tell you " oh I did not really mean that"... do NOT fall for it easily. Actions speak louder than words, they can only hide the misoginy under a thin veil. Make them prove their intentions daily ( aka watch how they treat mom's, co-workers and friends) before you trust their heart.
I'm highly critical of my body, but my hubby has told me more than once, "it's just a body, it's not who you are or why I love you". So if I'm 35 or 53 or 67, I'm still who he married and why he loves me. 15 or 51 pounds heavier, butt sagging and don't see or hear as well as I once did, I had helped in getting us to this day, with these memories.
I am so happy and luck that my man loves me for me just as I love him just as he is. I've been big at times and small at times. I've looked like a total wreck! There hasn't been a single day gone by in the years we've been together that he doesn't tell me how beautiful I am and how much he loves me. When he brings me coffee in bed, it's in a cup that says" Good morning Beautiful ". He leaves me little notes around the house and so on. I wish every couple had this. It's the best feeling ever!
Anyone who expects their partner to always maintain the same appearance through the years doesn’t understand how human bodies (and mental health) work AND has no empathy. It would be a good idea for such people to not partner up or procreate.
Do you have a brother I can marry? Men like you are so rare it's heartbreaking.
Great content, it will help in my business Thanks for sharing useful information. Respectfully, David, author of the blog https://hackear.app/
No one is perfect. Loving yourself is the greatest love of all. Then finding someone who sees you confident in yourself is second to none. Instagram needs to be shut down an tic tok too. The fake filtered plastic surgery people of the fake world are making 9 year olds want implants and the parents need to instill the self beauty in them. Idk the world is f****d up these days.
I remember when i was young, lotsa baby boomers said this esp in my culture. Nowadays, im glad men are more considerate and sensitive and those misogynistic boomers are all retired or dead. They were vy toxic bunch of people.
This was beautiful. These are the type of people we need to make famous (the husband, not the 3 douche canoes) why do we make dumbass people famous...? Dumbass people who perpetuate b******t ideas, beliefs and ways of thinking? All that's doing is forcing these idiotic trends to keep going on and on and on... when instead we need to be normalizing how people change and it's beautiful. We need to normalize that beauty comes in ALL shapes and sizes. Whether you're a size 00 or a size 10000 (not real I know) it isn't a fucken calculation of how attractive you are. It just means that you're you, and that's fucken beautiful! We need to normalize the fact that women age, we change after kids, we change as we evolve... we change as we experience life and thats fucken beautiful.. that's normal. That's what being human is. I'm only directing this at women because I am a women so I can speak on the societal pressures. Men deal w/ the same s**t. But it's not my place to speak on their experiences
Geez, this is an eye-opener... my (ex)husband gained over 60kg over a 20 year period, I told him often that I have a big problem with this, his attractiveness waned to where I didn't want to share a bed with him anymore..... So much that goes with it:snoring, sleep apnea....... sadly as we didn't share a bed anymore, along came the porn, and our marriage of 30 years failed. (Many other probs though)...... Am I as shallow as this man????
God forbid their wives get old! What will those Doug bag men do then?
Trade them in for a younger model. hence the term "Starter wife"
Load More Replies...So tired of this frigging narrative. This post was literally men being disgusting as*holes. They are literally saying it out of there very own mouths and somehow you've twisted into talking fuking sh*t about women. You must be one of those men. I really cannot wrap my mind around misogynistic men like you.
Load More Replies...Abusive women or a woman that has never been in love or an immature child or a woman that has never been loved or a toxic woman. Same for men.
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