12 Waitresses Decide Not To Show Up For Work After Boss Promotes “Son Of A Friend” Without Any Experience Over Them
Asking for a promotion is far from a pleasant task, but sometimes — you know you deserve it. However, gender bias is still taking its toll on women, and as long as there are men at the top, females find it hard to step into the spotlight. So imagine working your fingers to the bone in your preferred industry only to see a less experienced male colleague get the desired rise after only a few weeks.
That’s what happened to Redditor HurryTeeniebeanie. As this woman shared her confession on the well-known Anti Work subreddit, it’s easy to say that nothing in the world ever seems truly fair.
You see, the user and her female coworkers have been working at their restaurant for years — they have the experience, know all the nooks and crannies of the business, and feel ready to work their way up the career ladder. Sadly, the manager seemed to have a different opinion when he decided to promote an inexperienced man instead. Read on to see how the whole story unfolded.
After working in a restaurant for years, a woman learned just how terrible the gender promotion gap is
Image credits: Ketut Subiyanto (not the actual photo)
She recently shared on the Anti Work subreddit how her male coworker, who started 5 weeks ago, got offered a desired promotion by her manager
Image credits: Vanessa Garcia (not the actual photo)
The more widespread problem of the gender promotion gap is the unconscious beliefs recruiters hold, an expert says
“Men are more likely to be promoted than women in the US and the UK,” Sally Heady, a career coach and cognitive hypnotherapist, told Bored Panda. As an example, she mentioned a study by McKinsey and Leanin.org that assessed the representation of women in corporate America. “They found that for every 100 men promoted to the first step up to manager, only 86 women are promoted.”
“This refers to the ‘broken rung’ which explains why fewer women are then promoted to higher leadership positions,” she explained. When it comes to the UK, another study found that 1 in 5 women have been passed over for a promotion at work in favor of a male colleague. They are also “significantly less likely to be offered a promotion compared to men after having children.”
Often, managers underestimate womens’ potential and refuse to give the desired climb at work. When asked what could be the reasons for this, Heady said there’s always the possibility of malice or overt sexism by the recruiter. “However, I believe the more widespread problem is the limiting, unconscious beliefs recruiters hold regarding the roles of men, women, and what a successful leader looks like,” she added.
According to the career coach, you might describe a great leader as ambitious, strong, visionary, strategic, charismatic, and assertive. “As a result of societal conditioning and historical male dominance in leadership positions, many people, consciously or unconsciously, would still associate the word ‘strength’ or ‘ambition’ with a man.”
“Whether we realize it or not, we have a natural predisposition to categorize ‘types’ of people in certain roles, purely because it’s easier on our mental load… This is why training on unconscious bias is absolutely crucial in addressing the promotion gap. Unconscious bias is more dangerous than overt sexism in many ways because people don’t even realize the impact that societal norms, conditioning, and personal beliefs have on their decision-making. Without that awareness, the problem just continues.”
Speaking about HurryTeeniebeanie’s situation, there are several things to be said about the management. First, they made this decision “based on their conscious or unconscious bias toward men in leadership” and “need training about the power of unconscious bias”. Second, “they promoted the man because of a pre-existing relationship, a natural rapport because of shared beliefs and values or the gut pull of the ‘familiar’ model of leadership presented by the man.”
“If those possibilities are true, then it would point to management who isn’t committed to addressing gender equality in leadership, which is very disappointing in 2022.”
Situations like these can lead to feeling less confident and get in the way of women showing their full brilliance in a leadership role
“It can be really disheartening for women who want to progress and pursue leadership opportunities if they don’t have confidence that their application will be considered fairly,” Heady noted. Women may start to wonder “what’s the point if I’m not going to get it,” which may lead to poor performance in interviews.
Finding yourself in a vicious cycle of feeling less confident and more stressed “might get in the way of women showing their full power and brilliance in a leadership role. For some women, this might even result in not bothering to apply for promotion because they don’t feel supported or that they don’t have the ‘backing’ of their organization, which is a crying shame.”
However, if you’re going for a leadership position, Heady suggested it’s important to embody a strong sense of confidence in your abilities. “Women are known for being less comfortable with self-promotion, but that will not help your chances of being promoted,” she said and added you should not act obnoxious or arrogant. “Some of the most impactful leaders are very humble and they have a calm confidence in their ability to get the job done.”
According to her, there’s great power in the unconscious mind, and recruiters could decide whether or not to promote you within the first few seconds of meeting you. “Practice holding yourself and adjusting your body language to reflect confidence and self-belief so that you instill that same level of confidence in the person recruiting you,” she recommended connecting to a memory of when you felt at your most confident.
“Whilst there’s still a way to go in addressing inequality in the workplace, please don’t lose heart and keep going if you want a promotion. The world needs women leaders and voices like never before. You can be a leader and you can do it your way. Don’t squash yourself into the masculine model of leadership if it doesn’t feel good to you,” she concluded.
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I believe it. My DILs parents refused to help her or her sister through college and paid for their brother. It was because he was going to be the breadwinner for his family. Guess who didn’t finish college and doesn’t have a family? Both the girls have married and graduated with masters and can proudly say they di it on their own.
WHERE IS THE UPDATE? Oh wait, all these reddit stories copied to BP are from new redditors...
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Myy country: Wahhaaaaa, we don't have enough people working in construction and crafts, we can't fill apprenticeship places. Also my country: Naw, we're excluding half the population because they have tits. And if a woman dares to become a carpenter, she'll be hassled and discirminated her whole working life. Oh, and we also don't liek to hire people who are not white. My country again. Waaaaaahaaaa, we don't have enough people... And so on and so forth.
The boss can just hire a dozen men to wait on tables, no experience or courteous manners needed. Just a big dose of testosterone will come in handy for power-lifting plates of food and racing in and out of the kitchen and around the tables.
Just trying to be helpful in selling the position to some guy on the street who thinks "F**k no, construction jobs pay better and I can cuss all I want." (I don't care if my server is male, female or other, but the boss seems to care more about that than suitability and experience.).
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It's a red flag when the managers are all men and the staff are all women. I've worked at a place like this and they'll never move you up no matter how good you are. Leave now it's a dead end.
I saw the same thing at a Denny's restaurant down the street from me. But, I didn't want to pass judgments on the manager, just because he was male, and the staff mostly female, as there were a couple of male floor workers too.
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I mean, it may be sexism, sure. But, imo, that detracts from the fact that the owner obviously has low opinions of his staff. If that stems from sexism, all the worse but you don't even need that to be the case for this to be extremely f****d up.
The best idea, if they can afford it, is to book a table for 12 there, that night, to celebrate their liberation. Although, if it's a busy place that's 12 fewer angry customers than if he'd cancel another table.
It might ruin their case, if they try to retaliate that way, although it might be fun.
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Men have to deal with nepotism as well not, it's called capitalism in America! Its not what ya know it who ya know has never been more true. It's not fair but u can't complain or else ur a "snowflake" it's a bunch of crap...
I was skipped over for promotion because of chronic illness. They aren't supposed to use that against me if I apply for promotion, and everything they write down says I was passed over for other options, but I had one tell me they didn't promote me because they can't count on me to be there... I'm thinking of recording the next meeting I have just so I can get them on record saying that. And that's just me at one job. I can't imagine having to face this at every job
Honestly it depends. If it rarely causes you to miss work, or it's not a big deal for that position, then they're definitely d***s. If it's a common occurrence and you being there is make or break, then I get it. When I worked in fast food we struggled so hard with finding reliable workers, and the managers filling in is the only thing that kept that place together sometimes. Reliability matters regardless of the reason for not being reliable.
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I'm just going to say this, @Getty Love, you need to stop being so bitter. Yes this might be fake, but it also may be a real thing, just slightly exaggerated. Who knows? But you need to stop being a d and stop commenting this sh*t.
Good for them!! It seems that this is a new day for workers and a new reckoning for owners and managers.
Ya. Happens. Happens to men to though. Some kid has a diploma from college, golfs with the bosses son and voila he's managing people with ten years of trade qualifications and experience. Boss's son goes to the company convention at some sandy beach resort while managers twenty years his senior keep the profits coming in back in the mud and the snow. Mostly the women complaining fall into the privileged category - for instance it's women to front of the line for training and trades any large company I ever worked for (which is large utilities) there are jobs posted literally with "women only" since the 1980s to try and get numbers up in night work, outside work, dirty and dangerous work and I don't blame a mother for not taking these jobs. Some do, and they're a rare bunch.
I say good for you women. I was in this position once. I worked at a hotel and was hired to do every position in food and beverage because I had years of experience in the industry. The cocktail server position at the pool came open. There was only 1 person to do the job. You had to cover a huge area (on a pedometer you walked 6 to 10 miles in an 8 hour shift) They had always hired women. As I said the job came open. I was told by a manager that I was the wrong sex and to not bother applying! I waited tables, bartended (which was my main gig) and cocktailed at the other bars in the hotel but suddenly I'm the wrong sex to handle the pool? I quit. 7 weeks went by. The food and beverage director got a hold of me and wanted to know why I suddenly quit because I used to work at least 70 hours a week filling in at all positions. I told him about the manager telling me I was the wrong sex for the pool cocktail server job. He said come back it's yours. I did & did it 3 years
Here's a "real" reality check, being "promoted" in the restaurant industry is one of the most backwards concepts ever conceived. Waiter life: Roll in, short shift, leave with cash, make it rain! Manager life: show up first, leave last, eat Maruchan, ask to defer rent payment. "Those who can waiter, those who can't manage". If this GM liked his team, he possibly wanted to leave it intact.
This story is fake as f. While I'm certain this scenario has played out somewhere at some time. However, the notion of hiring an inexperienced supervisor/manager from outside is not new, nor is it limited to men. I worked at Brewskys in Omaha and was going through the trials of obtaining an assistant manager spot. Shortly after, the executive chef's brother Dan was hired as a cook. I was given a meeting date of Thursday and wrote the date and time down. On the Wednesday before, I was called into the office and asked why I didn't show up to the meeting. I explained that the meeting was scheduled for the following day. I was told I was wrong and that I was no longer up for the position. Instead, it was given to Dan, who hadn't done anything to secure that spot. No tests, no out of the way meetings. I didn't own a car, but still made it to the meeting (in Lincoln) with the executive chef. I was later terminated with horrific pink-eye caused by their nasty dish area.
I've had this happen to the bank staff where I worked in one branch. There were 4 women and one man who worked the teller line. When annual raise time came around, the gm was allowed to give up to a 6% raise. Three of us got 2%, 1 got none and should have been let go before her 90 days because she was awful) but the guy got his 6% after being $263 short in his drawer the day before his vacation. Same AH GM screwed me over on a promotion, so I switched branches.
I once worked in a temporary job in accounting. Then this new guy comes in also temporary and I was asked to train him, which I did. But then they decided to offer him permanent emplyment , though his training was not finished. A few days after that the boss asked me to sign for another period. I thought, there is no future in it, at least not for a woman and refused. The boss then realised, that the firm could not very well do without me, and I ended up making 10% more the rest of the time, I was there. I have always been a sucker for the kind of compliment that a substantial raise is.
Men work 14% more over time. Women take 12% more time off. Woman also call in sick roughly 10% more than men. You think this might make up for the 14% less women getting promotions? Or is it just the evil patriarchy? Stfu please, I'm sick of this bs and it's been debunked about a million times by any researcher who's reputable outside pink news. Also Nepotism is not the same as sexism. It doesn't matter what gender the "child of the friend was" they were gonna get the promotion. If it was a female "child of a friend" and a male waiter the girl would've gotten the promotion and the guy would be stuck scrubbing the floors. If you think otherwise, you're a fakking idiot.
In what city is this restaurant located? Why not involve the local press in this situation? Let tv and print pick up the story and run with it. Zero tolerance for this toxic sexist behavior.
You do realize that the 12 of you can get together and file a sex discrimination case against the restaurant and sue them heavily right? Gloria Alred would probably love a case like this. Heck, I can't even begin to imagine the damages. Promotions for all of you, and maybe you own the restaurant. This is a horrible case. I had a similiar situation and I just quit and found a new job. My HR manager was using Nepotism, so I quit. He hired his best friend to work in the lab, who was an actor and I was a Chemist. When they told me to listen to him, although they said they know I'm right about a special project, and they got beligerent with me, I quit. I had saved the small company and I was doing amazing things. It's a long sad story. But, that's Nepotism for you.
1.f#ck that place, good on ya for moving on. 2. This restaurant(franchise) (not necessary for location) needs to be named.. So we all can give a bit of f&ck off to em ! This shall not PASS!,
A lot of these waitresses are single moms busting their butts to make ends meet and tolerate so much nonsense from customers and mgmt. It saddens me that this is still happening in today's world especially where we have so many advancements and achieved so much yet we don't appreciate people or those who run our businesses. You 12 ladies teach them a lesson they desperately need but don't screw yourselves in the process.
I was once passed over for a promotion because I was white. They needed a female minority to fill the slot. I shrugged my shoulders and a couple weeks later was working for another firm with a promotion. This is how an adult navigates the real world versus hysterical millennials who over dramatize everything.
It's his business. He can do whatever the . he wants. Op applied as waitress. Got job as waitress. What do you expect? Oh I do my job for 10 years and magically it evolves like a pokemon? Nah uh
Anyone that thinks a waitress and a manager have an even marginally overlapping skillset, needs a reality check. Just because you know a job inside out, does not mean you can teach, manage, or even plan that job. Bricklayers do not become engineers by watching surveyors at work. This is completely preposterous. If management was nothing but work experience, management wouldn't need to be taught. Sorry girls, reality is not on your side here.
Disappointed with the focus on gender, when it's about favoritism of working with family. Not to happy about manipulation of information.
I think it's time for these women to speak the the UFCW - I think I got that right - to hear about the benefits of unionizing. The way conditions have worsened in the workplace and wages have either stagnated or actually decreased, it's time to get real about unions again. 30+ years of misleading propoganda about how they do nothing but take your dues has overshadowed the massive good unions have done for American workers in the last century. Yes, there were crooked union bosses, and yes, some of the steel mills reneged on the pensions they owed their workers. These things were in the 70s and 80s, and laws were created to stop things like that from happening again. Unions are the way to improve conditions and pay, just like they were for our grandparents and great grandparents who created them and secured our right to have a union if we want one.
Same thing happened to me, but it was an inexperienced woman... It can go both ways.
Wow. This crap happens both ways. I got looked over for a promotion because my manager was a lesbian and she hired a female with no . experience over me! So saying it's because you're a female you got looked over is b******t because it's the manager and doesn't matter what sex you are!
I don't think that was a woman vs man thing. It was a jerk of a boss thing. If women want a 50/50 equality of work it can't just be in the COE and management sector. It should be across the board. Brick layers, sky scrapers, sewers, etc.. not just the clean fingernail type.jobs.
The owner is a male and hired a friend. It's not because he's a male, it's because he's the owners FRIEND who happens to be male. Quit trying to create more drama and go do something productive.
So nepotism is completely fine? Besides, if you didn't have shts for brains, you'd probably be able to follow the story and know that the promotion wasn't only offered to friends son. He's the second inexperienced male the job was offered to.
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Well since op (original poster) never confronted there boss this is all just biased opinion. It could be a family and friends business. So they only want them in management positions. I know its so easy to jump to conclusions and hate on people. But jeez our generation is so afraid of confrontation we blow s**t up that most times is a misunderstanding without the need to ever clarify. Sad to see.
I can't be the only one thrown by the fact that OP can't spell "assistant."
This is an idiotic story, written by idiots, for idiots. Nobody cares if you hate your stupid job. You're all lazy and narcissistic.
Maybe the people hired knew there were 3 S's in "assistant"? Once is a typo. 4 times? Just saying - being good at your job doesn't mean you have the skills needed to to get promoted. "You know everything about the restaurant" - do you step up and help with ordering supplies? Argue with suppliers who send incorrect orders? Encourage the other workers to stop talking and get to work? Step in to settle conflict? Report conflicts to management? Balance the cash drawer against the receipts? Sometimes the way to get promoted is to ask to spend your slow times watching the managers and asking them to show you how to do things.
You make a good point. But. It said the new guy had not restaurant experience. So some training was going to be necessary. If you had management experience, you would still have to learn front of /back of house plus portion control, temperature mgt., ordering, scheduling for rushes, and more. So you can't take a Home Depot manager and put him in charge of a restaurant and expect a smooth transition. One more thing. Speed of management. HD manager = In the next day or two I'll get it done. Restaurant manager = In the next minute or two I'll get it done.
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Soooo.... dont show up. Thats it. Dont oost about it, dont ask opinions about it it, just dont show up. What the actual f**k?!?!
If you didn't like the post go away lol
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She’s a horrible speller and even though it’s clear the owner is sexist I can only guess why she wasn’t the promotion choice.
This is the dumbest article ive ever read. The gender paygap is so huge between men and women in restaurants where I worked for 10 years time. Women in the restaurants nightly would almost make double what I make. And, if it isnt a bad restaurant, even the worst performing waitstaff make more in average than the Managers. What a load of crap. Additionally, the manager of a restaurant is usually the least competent, not the most. If you get promoted in a restaurant, chances are the manager didnt want to fire you, so they promoted you to management. Manager of a restaurant is not an upward move, its a downward move. Any one of those women that were so butt hurt about not being management are in a big surprise. I guess we dont expect the waitress to be smart. That pretty face needs to pay the bills somehow.
His credentials are not included and are necessary to judge this situation. Period. If he was trained to be a GM and put in time learning the lower rungs, it could be valid. Being a server doesn't mean you can be a GM.
You will never touch a real woman, so better start saving up for a Real Doll.
Load More Replies... Oh man, a Trump supporter railing on about how some things on the internet are made up... Yet at the same time, has clearly bought into every single BS made-up culture war euphemism from his far right hate mongering, putin loving, white victimhood preaching supremacists.. DESPITE being Latino as mentioned in a different post. You do realize they have made hating Latinos a policy? And do please explain to me, considering you mentioned "woke" 4 times, what's so bad about it? I know they've convinced you somehow to hate the term and those associated with it. But I would have no problem betting your entire month's salary that you cannot answer what's wrong with being woke?
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You are saying a good manager does not have to know how to wait tables or tend a bar? How does he train? Show them a video? I've managed million $ places and I'll serve/bus a table with the best of 'em. If a server beat me or out shone me, then they got a pat on the back, a $10 bill and a high five. It is called motivation. Same in the kitchen. Peel and dice that onion faster than me. Great job! Remember the recipe for today's soup! Hell yes! I had a business degree but that was so low on the reasons that made me a good manager. Set the example. Smile, work hard and help each other to make a team.
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I believe it. My DILs parents refused to help her or her sister through college and paid for their brother. It was because he was going to be the breadwinner for his family. Guess who didn’t finish college and doesn’t have a family? Both the girls have married and graduated with masters and can proudly say they di it on their own.
WHERE IS THE UPDATE? Oh wait, all these reddit stories copied to BP are from new redditors...
No update on the original Reddit post, despite people continuing to ask, OP has gone radio silent.
Load More Replies... Myy country: Wahhaaaaa, we don't have enough people working in construction and crafts, we can't fill apprenticeship places. Also my country: Naw, we're excluding half the population because they have tits. And if a woman dares to become a carpenter, she'll be hassled and discirminated her whole working life. Oh, and we also don't liek to hire people who are not white. My country again. Waaaaaahaaaa, we don't have enough people... And so on and so forth.
The boss can just hire a dozen men to wait on tables, no experience or courteous manners needed. Just a big dose of testosterone will come in handy for power-lifting plates of food and racing in and out of the kitchen and around the tables.
Just trying to be helpful in selling the position to some guy on the street who thinks "F**k no, construction jobs pay better and I can cuss all I want." (I don't care if my server is male, female or other, but the boss seems to care more about that than suitability and experience.).
Load More Replies... It's a red flag when the managers are all men and the staff are all women. I've worked at a place like this and they'll never move you up no matter how good you are. Leave now it's a dead end.
I saw the same thing at a Denny's restaurant down the street from me. But, I didn't want to pass judgments on the manager, just because he was male, and the staff mostly female, as there were a couple of male floor workers too.
Load More Replies... I mean, it may be sexism, sure. But, imo, that detracts from the fact that the owner obviously has low opinions of his staff. If that stems from sexism, all the worse but you don't even need that to be the case for this to be extremely f****d up.
The best idea, if they can afford it, is to book a table for 12 there, that night, to celebrate their liberation. Although, if it's a busy place that's 12 fewer angry customers than if he'd cancel another table.
It might ruin their case, if they try to retaliate that way, although it might be fun.
Load More Replies... Men have to deal with nepotism as well not, it's called capitalism in America! Its not what ya know it who ya know has never been more true. It's not fair but u can't complain or else ur a "snowflake" it's a bunch of crap...
I was skipped over for promotion because of chronic illness. They aren't supposed to use that against me if I apply for promotion, and everything they write down says I was passed over for other options, but I had one tell me they didn't promote me because they can't count on me to be there... I'm thinking of recording the next meeting I have just so I can get them on record saying that. And that's just me at one job. I can't imagine having to face this at every job
Honestly it depends. If it rarely causes you to miss work, or it's not a big deal for that position, then they're definitely d***s. If it's a common occurrence and you being there is make or break, then I get it. When I worked in fast food we struggled so hard with finding reliable workers, and the managers filling in is the only thing that kept that place together sometimes. Reliability matters regardless of the reason for not being reliable.
Load More Replies... I'm just going to say this, @Getty Love, you need to stop being so bitter. Yes this might be fake, but it also may be a real thing, just slightly exaggerated. Who knows? But you need to stop being a d and stop commenting this sh*t.
Good for them!! It seems that this is a new day for workers and a new reckoning for owners and managers.
Ya. Happens. Happens to men to though. Some kid has a diploma from college, golfs with the bosses son and voila he's managing people with ten years of trade qualifications and experience. Boss's son goes to the company convention at some sandy beach resort while managers twenty years his senior keep the profits coming in back in the mud and the snow. Mostly the women complaining fall into the privileged category - for instance it's women to front of the line for training and trades any large company I ever worked for (which is large utilities) there are jobs posted literally with "women only" since the 1980s to try and get numbers up in night work, outside work, dirty and dangerous work and I don't blame a mother for not taking these jobs. Some do, and they're a rare bunch.
I say good for you women. I was in this position once. I worked at a hotel and was hired to do every position in food and beverage because I had years of experience in the industry. The cocktail server position at the pool came open. There was only 1 person to do the job. You had to cover a huge area (on a pedometer you walked 6 to 10 miles in an 8 hour shift) They had always hired women. As I said the job came open. I was told by a manager that I was the wrong sex and to not bother applying! I waited tables, bartended (which was my main gig) and cocktailed at the other bars in the hotel but suddenly I'm the wrong sex to handle the pool? I quit. 7 weeks went by. The food and beverage director got a hold of me and wanted to know why I suddenly quit because I used to work at least 70 hours a week filling in at all positions. I told him about the manager telling me I was the wrong sex for the pool cocktail server job. He said come back it's yours. I did & did it 3 years
Here's a "real" reality check, being "promoted" in the restaurant industry is one of the most backwards concepts ever conceived. Waiter life: Roll in, short shift, leave with cash, make it rain! Manager life: show up first, leave last, eat Maruchan, ask to defer rent payment. "Those who can waiter, those who can't manage". If this GM liked his team, he possibly wanted to leave it intact.
This story is fake as f. While I'm certain this scenario has played out somewhere at some time. However, the notion of hiring an inexperienced supervisor/manager from outside is not new, nor is it limited to men. I worked at Brewskys in Omaha and was going through the trials of obtaining an assistant manager spot. Shortly after, the executive chef's brother Dan was hired as a cook. I was given a meeting date of Thursday and wrote the date and time down. On the Wednesday before, I was called into the office and asked why I didn't show up to the meeting. I explained that the meeting was scheduled for the following day. I was told I was wrong and that I was no longer up for the position. Instead, it was given to Dan, who hadn't done anything to secure that spot. No tests, no out of the way meetings. I didn't own a car, but still made it to the meeting (in Lincoln) with the executive chef. I was later terminated with horrific pink-eye caused by their nasty dish area.
I've had this happen to the bank staff where I worked in one branch. There were 4 women and one man who worked the teller line. When annual raise time came around, the gm was allowed to give up to a 6% raise. Three of us got 2%, 1 got none and should have been let go before her 90 days because she was awful) but the guy got his 6% after being $263 short in his drawer the day before his vacation. Same AH GM screwed me over on a promotion, so I switched branches.
I once worked in a temporary job in accounting. Then this new guy comes in also temporary and I was asked to train him, which I did. But then they decided to offer him permanent emplyment , though his training was not finished. A few days after that the boss asked me to sign for another period. I thought, there is no future in it, at least not for a woman and refused. The boss then realised, that the firm could not very well do without me, and I ended up making 10% more the rest of the time, I was there. I have always been a sucker for the kind of compliment that a substantial raise is.
Men work 14% more over time. Women take 12% more time off. Woman also call in sick roughly 10% more than men. You think this might make up for the 14% less women getting promotions? Or is it just the evil patriarchy? Stfu please, I'm sick of this bs and it's been debunked about a million times by any researcher who's reputable outside pink news. Also Nepotism is not the same as sexism. It doesn't matter what gender the "child of the friend was" they were gonna get the promotion. If it was a female "child of a friend" and a male waiter the girl would've gotten the promotion and the guy would be stuck scrubbing the floors. If you think otherwise, you're a fakking idiot.
In what city is this restaurant located? Why not involve the local press in this situation? Let tv and print pick up the story and run with it. Zero tolerance for this toxic sexist behavior.
You do realize that the 12 of you can get together and file a sex discrimination case against the restaurant and sue them heavily right? Gloria Alred would probably love a case like this. Heck, I can't even begin to imagine the damages. Promotions for all of you, and maybe you own the restaurant. This is a horrible case. I had a similiar situation and I just quit and found a new job. My HR manager was using Nepotism, so I quit. He hired his best friend to work in the lab, who was an actor and I was a Chemist. When they told me to listen to him, although they said they know I'm right about a special project, and they got beligerent with me, I quit. I had saved the small company and I was doing amazing things. It's a long sad story. But, that's Nepotism for you.
1.f#ck that place, good on ya for moving on. 2. This restaurant(franchise) (not necessary for location) needs to be named.. So we all can give a bit of f&ck off to em ! This shall not PASS!,
A lot of these waitresses are single moms busting their butts to make ends meet and tolerate so much nonsense from customers and mgmt. It saddens me that this is still happening in today's world especially where we have so many advancements and achieved so much yet we don't appreciate people or those who run our businesses. You 12 ladies teach them a lesson they desperately need but don't screw yourselves in the process.
I was once passed over for a promotion because I was white. They needed a female minority to fill the slot. I shrugged my shoulders and a couple weeks later was working for another firm with a promotion. This is how an adult navigates the real world versus hysterical millennials who over dramatize everything.
It's his business. He can do whatever the . he wants. Op applied as waitress. Got job as waitress. What do you expect? Oh I do my job for 10 years and magically it evolves like a pokemon? Nah uh
Anyone that thinks a waitress and a manager have an even marginally overlapping skillset, needs a reality check. Just because you know a job inside out, does not mean you can teach, manage, or even plan that job. Bricklayers do not become engineers by watching surveyors at work. This is completely preposterous. If management was nothing but work experience, management wouldn't need to be taught. Sorry girls, reality is not on your side here.
Disappointed with the focus on gender, when it's about favoritism of working with family. Not to happy about manipulation of information.
I think it's time for these women to speak the the UFCW - I think I got that right - to hear about the benefits of unionizing. The way conditions have worsened in the workplace and wages have either stagnated or actually decreased, it's time to get real about unions again. 30+ years of misleading propoganda about how they do nothing but take your dues has overshadowed the massive good unions have done for American workers in the last century. Yes, there were crooked union bosses, and yes, some of the steel mills reneged on the pensions they owed their workers. These things were in the 70s and 80s, and laws were created to stop things like that from happening again. Unions are the way to improve conditions and pay, just like they were for our grandparents and great grandparents who created them and secured our right to have a union if we want one.
Same thing happened to me, but it was an inexperienced woman... It can go both ways.
Wow. This crap happens both ways. I got looked over for a promotion because my manager was a lesbian and she hired a female with no . experience over me! So saying it's because you're a female you got looked over is b******t because it's the manager and doesn't matter what sex you are!
I don't think that was a woman vs man thing. It was a jerk of a boss thing. If women want a 50/50 equality of work it can't just be in the COE and management sector. It should be across the board. Brick layers, sky scrapers, sewers, etc.. not just the clean fingernail type.jobs.
The owner is a male and hired a friend. It's not because he's a male, it's because he's the owners FRIEND who happens to be male. Quit trying to create more drama and go do something productive.
So nepotism is completely fine? Besides, if you didn't have shts for brains, you'd probably be able to follow the story and know that the promotion wasn't only offered to friends son. He's the second inexperienced male the job was offered to.
Load More Replies... Well since op (original poster) never confronted there boss this is all just biased opinion. It could be a family and friends business. So they only want them in management positions. I know its so easy to jump to conclusions and hate on people. But jeez our generation is so afraid of confrontation we blow s**t up that most times is a misunderstanding without the need to ever clarify. Sad to see.
I can't be the only one thrown by the fact that OP can't spell "assistant."
This is an idiotic story, written by idiots, for idiots. Nobody cares if you hate your stupid job. You're all lazy and narcissistic.
Maybe the people hired knew there were 3 S's in "assistant"? Once is a typo. 4 times? Just saying - being good at your job doesn't mean you have the skills needed to to get promoted. "You know everything about the restaurant" - do you step up and help with ordering supplies? Argue with suppliers who send incorrect orders? Encourage the other workers to stop talking and get to work? Step in to settle conflict? Report conflicts to management? Balance the cash drawer against the receipts? Sometimes the way to get promoted is to ask to spend your slow times watching the managers and asking them to show you how to do things.
You make a good point. But. It said the new guy had not restaurant experience. So some training was going to be necessary. If you had management experience, you would still have to learn front of /back of house plus portion control, temperature mgt., ordering, scheduling for rushes, and more. So you can't take a Home Depot manager and put him in charge of a restaurant and expect a smooth transition. One more thing. Speed of management. HD manager = In the next day or two I'll get it done. Restaurant manager = In the next minute or two I'll get it done.
Load More Replies... Soooo.... dont show up. Thats it. Dont oost about it, dont ask opinions about it it, just dont show up. What the actual f**k?!?!
If you didn't like the post go away lol
Load More Replies... She’s a horrible speller and even though it’s clear the owner is sexist I can only guess why she wasn’t the promotion choice.
This is the dumbest article ive ever read. The gender paygap is so huge between men and women in restaurants where I worked for 10 years time. Women in the restaurants nightly would almost make double what I make. And, if it isnt a bad restaurant, even the worst performing waitstaff make more in average than the Managers. What a load of crap. Additionally, the manager of a restaurant is usually the least competent, not the most. If you get promoted in a restaurant, chances are the manager didnt want to fire you, so they promoted you to management. Manager of a restaurant is not an upward move, its a downward move. Any one of those women that were so butt hurt about not being management are in a big surprise. I guess we dont expect the waitress to be smart. That pretty face needs to pay the bills somehow.
His credentials are not included and are necessary to judge this situation. Period. If he was trained to be a GM and put in time learning the lower rungs, it could be valid. Being a server doesn't mean you can be a GM.
You will never touch a real woman, so better start saving up for a Real Doll.
Load More Replies... Oh man, a Trump supporter railing on about how some things on the internet are made up... Yet at the same time, has clearly bought into every single BS made-up culture war euphemism from his far right hate mongering, putin loving, white victimhood preaching supremacists.. DESPITE being Latino as mentioned in a different post. You do realize they have made hating Latinos a policy? And do please explain to me, considering you mentioned "woke" 4 times, what's so bad about it? I know they've convinced you somehow to hate the term and those associated with it. But I would have no problem betting your entire month's salary that you cannot answer what's wrong with being woke?
Load More Replies... You are saying a good manager does not have to know how to wait tables or tend a bar? How does he train? Show them a video? I've managed million $ places and I'll serve/bus a table with the best of 'em. If a server beat me or out shone me, then they got a pat on the back, a $10 bill and a high five. It is called motivation. Same in the kitchen. Peel and dice that onion faster than me. Great job! Remember the recipe for today's soup! Hell yes! I had a business degree but that was so low on the reasons that made me a good manager. Set the example. Smile, work hard and help each other to make a team.
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