Mila Kunis Opened Up About Having A Disagreement With Ashton Kutcher After She Encouraged Their 6 Y.O. Kid To Push Back A Bully
Being a parent requires a lot of patience and hard work to raise happy and healthy kids. It’s no secret that a lot of lessons on the matter are learned along the way. And sometimes it becomes interesting as well as beneficial to hear stories from other parents on how they manage to deal with their kids. Recently, during one of The Ellen DeGeneres Show segments “Mom Confessions” actress Mila Kunis opened up about her experiences of raising two children.
When she was asked the question “What’s your biggest parenting fail?”, the woman decided to share one of the personal stories “that’s about to get her in trouble.”
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Recently, Mila Kunis shared some insights from her family life, including some details about parenting
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Mila Kunis, together with her husband Ashton Kutcher, actor and entrepreneur, have two children: 7-year-old Wyatt Isabelle and 4-year-old Dimitri Portwood. Their daughter Wyatt started going to preschool, where one day she had to face a bully, who pushed the girl. After Wyatt came back home, she told her mom about this incident. This is when Kunis asked her daughter: “Did you push her back?” The actress said that she asked this question instinctually and her daughter was quick to answer that she hadn’t done it.
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“Push her back next time,” was the advice Kunis gave to her daughter. “You push her back and say ‘No, thank you,’ and you walk away.” The reason why the mother said this was because she wanted to make sure that her kids would learn to stand up for themselves from a young age. Later she elaborated on this situation, telling her daughter not to push anyone when they are on the swings, ladder, or slides, but when they are “even-steven,” she shouldn’t be afraid to stand up for herself.
Together with actor Ashton Kutcher, they have a 7-year-old daughter and 4-year-old son
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The actress also shared the reaction of her husband who heard the whole conversation. Once he heard his wife’s advice, he immediately disagreed with her. Even though Kunis explained why it is important not to just let someone push and bully you, she agreed that this whole parenting situation could be added among her parenting fails.
In her recent interview, Kunis shared one of her parenting fails that occurred when her daughter came back from school and shared that she was pushed by another kid
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The woman said to her daughter to not be afraid to stand up for herself and push the other person back
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The advice Kunis gave to her daughter wasn’t something her husband agreed with, so she marked this incident as one of her parenting fails
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In the segment of “Mom Confessions,” Kunis revealed some more everyday things she has to go through and consider when raising her kids. She shared that at this age, her son and daughter are depending on her and see her as “the center of their universe,” so it is important to take into consideration what is being said to them and notice their reactions to various things.
What do you think about this situation? What are some of the things you had to share with your kids? Don’t forget to share your experiences in the comments down below!
You can watch the whole video with Kunis down below!
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Even though Kutcher didn’t support his wife’s advice, a lot of people online agreed with her and shared their own experience
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My rule is you ask nicely 3 times for them to stop, then you push back. I was bullied so badly in school, all my foster parents did was move me to a different school when I got so depressed and became suicidal. I ended up going to 3 different high schools. Please teach your kids to stand up for themselves, because there are parents who won’t do anything if their kid is a bully, and some even encourage it.
THIS is the answer, at least in my humble opinion, and no one will ever change my opinion on it. I was the smallest kid at school, and was bullied relentlessly. The act of “not fighting back” got me more intense and frequent bullying. Which is when the suicidal attempts started. I was then MORTIFIED to go to school for almost 2 years, losing sleep and all sorts of other anxiety. When I started fighting back the bullying stopped fast, even though I lost most of those fights. I’ve since taught my kids emphatically to never start a fight and never bully…but if you are and ask them to stop and they don’t, you FIGHT DIRTY AND WIN. And to stick up for those being bullied…there’s strength in numbers.
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Before people start trashing on him, or something, I'll say I can see from both sides of view. I see why she would suggest that, and why he may not find it the best idea. Either way, they're both right. However, it's not as simple as that.
I disagree with both of them. I say if someone hits you, hit them back harder. Animal nature is that you don’t repeat behavior that results in pain. Not trashing either of them. It would be easy enough to test his theory, have their daughter complain to a teacher. Then, if she gets pushed again, knock the bully on their @ and see if it happens again ;)
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I don't know, i feel like where here in this point in time because the bully never got "pushed back" and instead we "took the high road" or went to find someone to fight our battles. Sometimes you have to defend yourself for bullies to learn to check themselves. I'm pro-Mila. My mom told me the same thing, you don't put your hands on anyone but if anyone puts their hands on you, defend yourself.
It is very important to allow children to defend themselves. Too many children are told to just ignore it, which to a child means just let it happen. No one should think abuse should just be ignored and let it happen.
You’re spot on Anita, my daughter is 7 and I’m teaching her defense during an attack. EYES, NOSE, THROAT, BALLS or VAGINA. Sad
Load More Replies... Although I've never been bullied I have stood up for kids who were bullied. And I did it by beating the bully up. The bullying stopped because the bully experienced what it was to be bullied. I never got in trouble for it because I did it outside the school. And it was in the 1960's.
From what it sounds like, the kid was just being plain mean, and it wasn't an accident or anything, so push back! Just not enough for damage. I'm not gonna hate on the dad though, because I can definitely see why he thinks this.
Not a parenting "fail"; simply a difference of opinion that needed resolution. Personally, pushing is a walk away deal - anything causing pain is respond-in-kind.
Pushing in adult land is domestic violence. I’m a big guy, if I shoved your wife you would want me arrested.
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The school did absolutely nothing about the little first grade boy bullying my small for her age kindergartner. Their attitude was "oh, he likes her, isn't that cute". No it's not f*****g cute that my daughter is having stomach issues from stress at the AGE OF FIVE. I sent emails, left phone messages, etc. Nada. So, finally I taught my daughter some self defense moves. The next time that little s**t yanked her (long) hair on the playground, she dropped him with a good swift kick to the nuts. All parents to the principal's office. I come with a file folder with copies of all the emails I'd sent and dates & times of phone calls. The other parents hadn't even been notified. I informed them that if their little prick ever touched my daughter again I would call the police and have him charged with sexual assault (yeah - you can do that). Those chose to move him to a new school & my daughter's stomach issues miraculously disappeared.
Sure - don't encourage a cycle of violence, fine - but how do you really defend yourself when society views you and treats you a certain way? The issue as far as I've experienced is that if you're non-white presenting AND female... you get blamed for defending yourself. Grade 8. The "boy" was nearly 6 feet tall, white, pushes me, I tell him to stop, he pretends not to hear, and tries to kick me, but my weenie 5'0" self managed to get out of the way and land a punch in a soft spot (fortunately, big target). Guess who gets loudly reamed out in the hallway in front of a crowd of students? Ohhh it wasn't the big kid...had I tried 'seeing an adult' in the past? Sure? Did they scoff or scold me for 'whining'? You bet they did.
Understanding is key. My boy, from pre-K to 3rd grade was taught not to hit, or put his hands on another in an aggressive way. If a kid were to push him, or the likes, he was to tell his teacher or bus driver etc. Now that he is in 4th and he is more mature the conversation has shifted. Now I believe he has the starts of coping skills to prevent a fight with his reasoning. He is now taught, that If he his pushed and bullied, his reason tells him to ignore, if that does not work, give warning, and if that does not work, defend himself. MY first reaction was never to teach him to hit back. That is our problem as a society.
if you don't teach your kid to stick up for himself he will be bullied all his life
Sad but true. And it gets worse when you’re an adult, because talking back or defending ones self gets you fired or a police record.
Load More Replies... And these stupid no tolerance policies. Had a kid effing with my son. Tripping, pushing, smack talk. My son tried to avoid him but kid kept following. Backs him up to a locker and takes a swing, my boy dodged it threw one back and dropped him like a bag of hammers and walked away. He got suspended, All ON VIDEO . I told principal I was gonna reward his 3 day vacation with camping and 6 flags.
I was getting harassed by a male classmate, he was being very innapropiate etc ( i was 14) and i told my mum because I told him many times to stop and he didn't, i told the teachers and they didn't do much My mum told me to hit him and I was like I'm going to get in trouble and she told me although violence is bad, you told him many times to back off and he didn't so the next step... I ended up slapping him hard and he finally stopped The sad thing is I told him the calm way he just laughed He learnt the hard "bad way" All these years later sorry but not sorry These kind of situations are always complex
I'll assume Ashton has never had to deal with being bullied, or his answer would likely have been different. Teaching a son how to live in this world is not the same as how you teach your daughter to live in this world, you always have to teach the daughter's to fight harder against the barrage of nonsense coming her way.
why people listen to hollywood stars? they have lot of money so they don't have the same issue that normal people have. and parenting can be different from person to person.
Clearly their kids go to school with other kids. And Mila just opened up about an issue many parents face. So. It would be interesting from any parent to hear their pov. Whether it be an unknown person in a magazine or Mila Kunis. So they found a way to talk about it. I'm all for calling out people making money of of stoops things, but this is not stupid, it's pretty relevant.
Load More Replies... Gave you the upvote! I don’t believe celebrities saying they don’t have a nanny. Look at how many red carpet and sporting events they attend. Not a nanny just a super duper babysitter that does everything
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Shut the f**k up and F**k off. You people always want to complain about western countries and how bad we are. You’d probably suck anybody and everybody’s d**k to be able to leave your s**t hole country and live here.
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My rule is you ask nicely 3 times for them to stop, then you push back. I was bullied so badly in school, all my foster parents did was move me to a different school when I got so depressed and became suicidal. I ended up going to 3 different high schools. Please teach your kids to stand up for themselves, because there are parents who won’t do anything if their kid is a bully, and some even encourage it.
THIS is the answer, at least in my humble opinion, and no one will ever change my opinion on it. I was the smallest kid at school, and was bullied relentlessly. The act of “not fighting back” got me more intense and frequent bullying. Which is when the suicidal attempts started. I was then MORTIFIED to go to school for almost 2 years, losing sleep and all sorts of other anxiety. When I started fighting back the bullying stopped fast, even though I lost most of those fights. I’ve since taught my kids emphatically to never start a fight and never bully…but if you are and ask them to stop and they don’t, you FIGHT DIRTY AND WIN. And to stick up for those being bullied…there’s strength in numbers.
Load More Replies... Before people start trashing on him, or something, I'll say I can see from both sides of view. I see why she would suggest that, and why he may not find it the best idea. Either way, they're both right. However, it's not as simple as that.
I disagree with both of them. I say if someone hits you, hit them back harder. Animal nature is that you don’t repeat behavior that results in pain. Not trashing either of them. It would be easy enough to test his theory, have their daughter complain to a teacher. Then, if she gets pushed again, knock the bully on their @ and see if it happens again ;)
Load More Replies... I don't know, i feel like where here in this point in time because the bully never got "pushed back" and instead we "took the high road" or went to find someone to fight our battles. Sometimes you have to defend yourself for bullies to learn to check themselves. I'm pro-Mila. My mom told me the same thing, you don't put your hands on anyone but if anyone puts their hands on you, defend yourself.
It is very important to allow children to defend themselves. Too many children are told to just ignore it, which to a child means just let it happen. No one should think abuse should just be ignored and let it happen.
You’re spot on Anita, my daughter is 7 and I’m teaching her defense during an attack. EYES, NOSE, THROAT, BALLS or VAGINA. Sad
Load More Replies... Although I've never been bullied I have stood up for kids who were bullied. And I did it by beating the bully up. The bullying stopped because the bully experienced what it was to be bullied. I never got in trouble for it because I did it outside the school. And it was in the 1960's.
From what it sounds like, the kid was just being plain mean, and it wasn't an accident or anything, so push back! Just not enough for damage. I'm not gonna hate on the dad though, because I can definitely see why he thinks this.
Not a parenting "fail"; simply a difference of opinion that needed resolution. Personally, pushing is a walk away deal - anything causing pain is respond-in-kind.
Pushing in adult land is domestic violence. I’m a big guy, if I shoved your wife you would want me arrested.
Load More Replies... The school did absolutely nothing about the little first grade boy bullying my small for her age kindergartner. Their attitude was "oh, he likes her, isn't that cute". No it's not f*****g cute that my daughter is having stomach issues from stress at the AGE OF FIVE. I sent emails, left phone messages, etc. Nada. So, finally I taught my daughter some self defense moves. The next time that little s**t yanked her (long) hair on the playground, she dropped him with a good swift kick to the nuts. All parents to the principal's office. I come with a file folder with copies of all the emails I'd sent and dates & times of phone calls. The other parents hadn't even been notified. I informed them that if their little prick ever touched my daughter again I would call the police and have him charged with sexual assault (yeah - you can do that). Those chose to move him to a new school & my daughter's stomach issues miraculously disappeared.
Sure - don't encourage a cycle of violence, fine - but how do you really defend yourself when society views you and treats you a certain way? The issue as far as I've experienced is that if you're non-white presenting AND female... you get blamed for defending yourself. Grade 8. The "boy" was nearly 6 feet tall, white, pushes me, I tell him to stop, he pretends not to hear, and tries to kick me, but my weenie 5'0" self managed to get out of the way and land a punch in a soft spot (fortunately, big target). Guess who gets loudly reamed out in the hallway in front of a crowd of students? Ohhh it wasn't the big kid...had I tried 'seeing an adult' in the past? Sure? Did they scoff or scold me for 'whining'? You bet they did.
Understanding is key. My boy, from pre-K to 3rd grade was taught not to hit, or put his hands on another in an aggressive way. If a kid were to push him, or the likes, he was to tell his teacher or bus driver etc. Now that he is in 4th and he is more mature the conversation has shifted. Now I believe he has the starts of coping skills to prevent a fight with his reasoning. He is now taught, that If he his pushed and bullied, his reason tells him to ignore, if that does not work, give warning, and if that does not work, defend himself. MY first reaction was never to teach him to hit back. That is our problem as a society.
if you don't teach your kid to stick up for himself he will be bullied all his life
Sad but true. And it gets worse when you’re an adult, because talking back or defending ones self gets you fired or a police record.
Load More Replies... And these stupid no tolerance policies. Had a kid effing with my son. Tripping, pushing, smack talk. My son tried to avoid him but kid kept following. Backs him up to a locker and takes a swing, my boy dodged it threw one back and dropped him like a bag of hammers and walked away. He got suspended, All ON VIDEO . I told principal I was gonna reward his 3 day vacation with camping and 6 flags.
I was getting harassed by a male classmate, he was being very innapropiate etc ( i was 14) and i told my mum because I told him many times to stop and he didn't, i told the teachers and they didn't do much My mum told me to hit him and I was like I'm going to get in trouble and she told me although violence is bad, you told him many times to back off and he didn't so the next step... I ended up slapping him hard and he finally stopped The sad thing is I told him the calm way he just laughed He learnt the hard "bad way" All these years later sorry but not sorry These kind of situations are always complex
I'll assume Ashton has never had to deal with being bullied, or his answer would likely have been different. Teaching a son how to live in this world is not the same as how you teach your daughter to live in this world, you always have to teach the daughter's to fight harder against the barrage of nonsense coming her way.
why people listen to hollywood stars? they have lot of money so they don't have the same issue that normal people have. and parenting can be different from person to person.
Clearly their kids go to school with other kids. And Mila just opened up about an issue many parents face. So. It would be interesting from any parent to hear their pov. Whether it be an unknown person in a magazine or Mila Kunis. So they found a way to talk about it. I'm all for calling out people making money of of stoops things, but this is not stupid, it's pretty relevant.
Load More Replies... Gave you the upvote! I don’t believe celebrities saying they don’t have a nanny. Look at how many red carpet and sporting events they attend. Not a nanny just a super duper babysitter that does everything
Load More Replies... Shut the f**k up and F**k off. You people always want to complain about western countries and how bad we are. You’d probably suck anybody and everybody’s d**k to be able to leave your s**t hole country and live here.
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