A mother to two grown-up kids and grandmother to two grandkids turned to the AITA community after her Thanksgiving gathering snowballed into a huge drama that divided the family.
“DIL and I don’t get along for many reasons I won’t go into. She’s also just one of those condescending people who constantly looks down on others, especially because of her veganism,” the woman explained in a post that amassed 12.8k upvotes.
Right before Thanksgiving, the author was contacted by her DIL, who told her which of her dishes would work and which of them wouldn’t. Moreover, “She also sent me many replication recipes to make for her, with expensive specialty items in all of them, many I didn’t even know what they were.”
As the tension between the two kept piling up day by day, it was not until Thanksgiving dinner when the serious conflict blew up. Now, mom blames her DIL for acting passive-aggressively at the table out of spite, trying to prove her point about veganism and pushing the author to the very last limit of her nerves.
Annoyed mom kicks her daughter-in-law out of her Thanksgiving dinner in front of everyone, wonders if she crossed the line
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The author later added some more details about the whole situation
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Many people thought that the author was not wrong to act this way 
Others, however, thought that everyone was to blame in this situation
When someone is providing you not only a free meal that accommodates your dietary preferences, BUT IS ALSO providing you FREE CHILD CARE 3X a week - YOU do NOT BITE THAT HAND!!! Now her entitled son and his witch of a wife can find new child care.
Her DIL could've thanked about the free babysitting and how she's been a wonderful grandma & MIL for understanding and providing hours of care, but instead choose to say those things. Yeah DIL definitely deserves it.
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Here's the issue. DIL is a vegan because she wants to be cruelty free/animal rights...I get that. What I've also seen is that many people that go vegan for this reason get very aggressive and nasty with anyone that doesn't conform. It's not that she wanted vegan options...she wanted a cruelty-free Thanksgiving. But there were two issues here...first she got demanding about it...then she got smug about it. My husband is vegan for health reasons...I am vegetarian. He understands that I just love cheese and eggs too much to give them up completely. But you don't win people over to your point of view by being nasty, demanding and smug. DIL was in the wrong. OP is right to stand her ground. And using Grandkids as leverage is cruel.
You can't have a cruelty-free Thanksgiving by throwing money around to be cruel to your MIL, so I have a suspicion the smug b didn't do any homework to determine if any of what she bought was ACTUALLY cruelty-free, either. Being vegan DOESN'T actually guarantee that, after all, no matter what propaganda would have you believe.
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People don't seem to understand the concept of boundaries. We each need to set limits on how we allow others to treat us. There is being gracious and then there is allowing others to trod all over us. This lady was gracious for a good while but drew the line at a point when the treatment moved beyond tolerable.
When someone is providing you not only a free meal that accommodates your dietary preferences, BUT IS ALSO providing you FREE CHILD CARE 3X a week - YOU do NOT BITE THAT HAND!!! Now her entitled son and his witch of a wife can find new child care.
Her DIL could've thanked about the free babysitting and how she's been a wonderful grandma & MIL for understanding and providing hours of care, but instead choose to say those things. Yeah DIL definitely deserves it.
Load More Replies... Here's the issue. DIL is a vegan because she wants to be cruelty free/animal rights...I get that. What I've also seen is that many people that go vegan for this reason get very aggressive and nasty with anyone that doesn't conform. It's not that she wanted vegan options...she wanted a cruelty-free Thanksgiving. But there were two issues here...first she got demanding about it...then she got smug about it. My husband is vegan for health reasons...I am vegetarian. He understands that I just love cheese and eggs too much to give them up completely. But you don't win people over to your point of view by being nasty, demanding and smug. DIL was in the wrong. OP is right to stand her ground. And using Grandkids as leverage is cruel.
You can't have a cruelty-free Thanksgiving by throwing money around to be cruel to your MIL, so I have a suspicion the smug b didn't do any homework to determine if any of what she bought was ACTUALLY cruelty-free, either. Being vegan DOESN'T actually guarantee that, after all, no matter what propaganda would have you believe.
Load More Replies... People don't seem to understand the concept of boundaries. We each need to set limits on how we allow others to treat us. There is being gracious and then there is allowing others to trod all over us. This lady was gracious for a good while but drew the line at a point when the treatment moved beyond tolerable.
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