Men Share ‘What Did You Not Know Or Realize Until After Living With A Woman?’: And Here’re 40 Of The Top Answers
We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.
A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!
From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!
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Fine, I'll say it.
I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.
When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.
And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.
Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.
That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.
Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?
Yes. Yes, there is. The one and only! ♡ Because, a product, to be mass-produced, it needs to be built within certain norms and patterns, but each woman has different breasts. As a result, it's difficult to find the perfect one, but once you do find it, it becomes precioussssss. Not to mention, these things aren't cheap either. (Waiting for replies of the ladies whose boobs need no support. Respect to you, sisters, but see... just because I don't need braces, I'm not protesting against the dentist industry.)
I have small chesticles and can get away with not wearing a bra most of the time...I still own one good bra and damn is it a good bra. I will kill to keep the good bra safe. I hand wash the good bra. The good bra must be protected.
Load More Replies...I am devastated coz I have one good bra that fits all the right places and is very comfortable. I went to get another one a week later but they sold out and now no longer stock it and I haven't found a bra like it since. I dread the day my bra wears out.
The challenge is that you don't know if the bra is going to be the one when you purchase it, only time will tell. You can purchase 5 perfectly fitting bras, but only one of them is the one. By the time you realize which one it is and go back to the bra store the same style is no longer available. That's when the one you have becomes extra precious. And wow, I'm a bra wearer for over 20 years and only now I realize that this theory of only one good bra is true and the real challenge in life! Now I can also remember many of my best bras from past years, it's sad that they age so soon.
I let my wife wash her good bra. Not out of laziness; I just don't want to risk washing it incorrectly.
I think I understand what you don’t want to risk, have my simphaty
Load More Replies...Because for some reason the good ones cost far too much AND are never available AND is t the same bra for everyone.
I have 5 good bras cuz I figured I buy 4 more of the same ones I found it.
Same, I fell in love with a particular brand and went back to the store twice and got extras when my size was in stock.
Load More Replies...they are crazy expensive.. and.. you can not blindly trust the manufacturer to make two the same size to be exactly the same shape..
They're not only expensive, but if you finally find one that is not completely uncomfortable we go back and buy the exact same style and maker, yet the second one will NOT fit the same. It sucks.
This is so true. I remember the day i offered to go take her to get a new good bra as the one she had started to show the under support wires. Apparently, this simple act topped all the flowers, dinner, etc... I had ever done. who knew?
Because bras are f*****g expensive and dudes always want good boobs, so the boobs need to be protected and supported by good bras.
Dudes want good boobs? I'm hoping you don't care about what boobs dudes want, but about your own boobs instead?
Load More Replies...We have a washing machine with no agitator (largely because of bras). I almost never put loads into the washer (she insists that's her job), I suspect because of the bra. Not sure. However, I do often take loads OUT of the washer and put them into the dryer. There is a little clothes line above the washing machine. It's just for the bras. Do not put any bra into the dryer (excepting the sports bras) in my house, that's a serious crime!
Because finding a good bra is like finding a unicorn. Bras are these tight, strappy things that have the potential to gouge and leave friction burns or be just a bit off in fit where we're constantly aware of them all day. They're the first thing we can't wait to rip off when we get home, even with the comfortable ones. And no woman should ever let anyone else wash them, that should be on her to keep in the condition she needs it to be.
That's exactly how much I'd paid for my "good bra". 🤦🏼♀️.
Load More Replies...There is only 1 because its the 1 that fits correctly! Its the one that doesnt hurt shoulders or poke you in the armpit. Its the one where your nipple doesnt poke out after moving too much! You can buy 12 of the same bra, in the same style/size/brand and only 1 of them will end up as the good bra!! Lololol!
Right?! I have 1 boob thats def bigger & if i buy 1 to fit the big one, my smaller boob is falling out all over. If i buy to the small one, the big one gets pushed out all over. I cant win!
Load More Replies...The good bra is the one that doesn't annoy you as much as the other ones. It's not like it's really good or something.
The good bra must be sad at times, he feels always put away almost immediately.
Load More Replies...It is also your job to find it when needed as the owner never remembers where it was left.
That one bra fits you closer than you are to God. It's divine and you usually buy a lot of them and wear them until there is only one bra left..by which time they are usually discontinued and you have to start the process of finding 'The One' again. 🤦♀️
The bra you feel not even sexy in, the bra you feel good in emotionally and physically.. decent bras are a pretty penny so having one good bra and a few meh bras is normal
To piggy back off other ladies what ever your size may be not only will different brands not fit the same but even the same size of the same brand and model don't fit the same
Load More Replies...For mě it's because I have unusual size and truly good bras are freakishly expensive... so I buy one once in two years and wear it only for work/theater/etc. and wear worse and cheaper bras at home.
Because a "good bra" can cost the same as a car payment nowadays and my wife says you can buy 3 of the exact same bra and only one of them is "the right one!" It's bra science.
Because one good bra is very expensive - around $80. Hugs you like angel's wings and makes you look like a VS angel. We can't afford to buy so many good bras
I look at the tag and buy a second in a different color for my wife when l see the same bra for a week straight. She had one good nursing bra, now two. And since she is buxom, they are pricey as hell, but waaaay worth it.
Unfortunately that one good bra always stays at one good bra because it will take a few years to get another good bra
Because they cost so damn much!! Also, you finally FIND ONE THAT FITS and you're gonna hang onto it until it just can't be worn any more.
I think the ladies will agree with me there are some things you never compromise on: comfortable sneakers, quality glasses and supportive bras.
I keep my good bra in a fire proof vault that takes a series of combinations to access, with a Samuel Jackson type guy who stands guard over it. Sigh.
It's not our fault there's only one good bra. You can buy 3 of the same bra but only one is comfy and supports right.
When I find a supportive and comfortable bra, I buy several of them. The same for shoes, due to a foot deformity I was born with, I struggle to find suitable shoes so when I do, I always buy a few pairs :)
i have multiple good bras, but i was a devout free the titties person until i gained a little weight and also started having pain because of my bad connective tissue. i'd honestly recommend the website herroom.com, they have a universal sizing system in place that makes it easier to find something that actually fits, plus you can return things easily if they aren't comfy or don't fit. unfortunately there IS a lot of "this product is discontinued so sizes and colors may be limited", but i've still been lucky in that i found multiple things that i love and that are comfortable!
Heavy busted woman here. I only wear inexpensive bralettes and take them off as soon as I can. No good bra.
since a mastectomy and reconstruction i havent needed to ear a bra in yrs The girls stay up
Good bras are expensive, especially if you have big boobs. A-B gals can buy cheaper ones and still get good support. From C, you better be rich. F-u greedy bras companies!
Because this s**t is expensive as hell ... that's why! Women, who only have a "decent" income, usually buy "cheap" everyday bras ... and one (maybe two) indecently expensive bra, that you only wear on special occasions ... when you want to feel really expensive, good and sexy !
Because they are expensive. Because a lot of bras don't fit properly or are uncomfortable.
I have 3 good bras. They're all sports bras because I'm a trans guy so being able to just squish them back and not have pads that make it more obvious is wonderful. I only ever wear those 3 bras and I will dig one out of the laundry hamper, untangle them from my nasty underwear, and put it on. I will sleep in them. They are the best and I love them.
When you have a certain cup size, I would say D cups and larger, bras are EXPENSIVE & ACCORDING TO YOU where you live in the world, certain sizes may be scarce & you probably have to special order them. Yeah.
A good gift is finding more of them for when the prescious is too worn to wear any more
Hmm, all mines are GOOD BRAs. If not, they are dismissed. Ladies, why do you keep not-so-good-ones?
I always buy several as soon as I find "a good thing" so I never have that problem. The same goes for comfy shoes, perfect fit trousers, etc
I managed to get like 5 good bras lol and it's really hard for me to find them because I'm 34DDD and to find those on sale plus comfort is
I don't have any good bras. They are all well worn but still fit. I'm a weird size so finding even one is a prize, I have never seen multiples of my size in my style (basic no extra frills or stuffing)
Because trying on a bra is different to actually wearing it for a while, so you don't know it's a good or bad bra when you buy it. And also bras are expensive so buying many at a time is not possible for many women.
Load More Replies...I am petite (5'1") and ridiculously over endowed, so my bras have always been expensive because you can't buy them off the rack. Talking E-G size cups here. You have to go a plus size retailer or order online, plus you seldom get the option of trying on different styles. So my bras run $50-85 USD and that's when they're ON SALE. So yeah, my resources are limited and I can buy 2 per year maximum. ALL my bras are my good bra.
Now Im lost, like... Me too I have my preferred clothes but they aren’t ethernal so I usually buy many of them ansìd switch often because if it was one only it would get destroyed soon. What if you don’t find the very same ? So it shouldn’t be *just* one. Or be prepared not to find it available again when it’s gone.
If you were to spend over $100 on a pair of underwear, you would be protective of them too.
Until you have to wear a bra you cannot understand. Sorry. Thanks for asking.
I don't wear one anymore. Cause way too much pain. Never had a "good" one, only the least uncomfortable. Now I wear a tight stretchy lycra camisole and my 48F girls are free to scare the unwary
I'm young (not past the age of 15)but let me tell u this is sooo true
My friend tried to explain to me how crucial brafitting is. I thought it was just like socks or panties - look for right size. Apparently bras have more than one size in them and that is the key
Wash bras either by hand or on the delicate cycle in the washer which I do and doesn't appear to be too rough on them. NEVER put them in dryer as the heat and vigorous motion cause them to lose their shape and elasticity fast.
ALL of mine are good bras. I have rather large ta-tas and have to buy expensive ones. My husband knows not to wash the bras EVER! Lol
When you find "the one" what usually happens is the company stops making it
Not been my experience per se. Depends on the woman. I dated a woman who had at least fifteen different matching sets of pants and bras (not sure what the pants to bra ratio was as there appeared to be more than one set of pants that were the same). I'd say she thought they were all "GOOD" although several were reserved for "special occasions" :D
I have my favourite boxer shorts, and that's why I own 10 pairs of them.
why only one 'good bra'? because breasts are not mass produced to be the same for all women. because a 'good' bra can start at $40+ depending on the maker. because such a cost provides good support and protection (yes, protection). because it is easier to maintain and control junkyard dogs than two mammary glands that have to be taken care of for 12 to 18 hours a day while being physically comfortable for such a feat. other bras can be cheaper but not only don't they maintain their support but will fall apart fast regardless of treatment. a good bra will last a couple of years with care.
I tell my DD wife that a bra is like an orthopedic support device... Not underwear. Don't cheap out!! I don't care if they cost a hundred bucks if they fit right for once. But of course... She cheaps out.
I have only jog bras (still maturing). I have some that I hate, because my band size actually SHRUNK (I was overweight). I have some that I only wear if I have to, because I got them a bit too small (comfy, except I get a mark under the band) I have some I love so much the straps are almost ruined, and so I got more of the same :). I have yet to try a cupped bra that fits correctly, even if I do something like a backbend.
Because a well fitting, comfortable bra is hard to find and usually cost a fortune. Imagine if you had only one pair of boxer brief that didn't bind, pull or push in the wrong places and cost $50.00. You're be washing your tighty whities with utmost care as well.
No idea I don’t know anyone who has one “good bra” Don’t think this is a generic thing
I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:
Period Panties.
I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".
I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.
Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.
If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.
Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.
I didn’t realise this until my now wife showed me the pockets she had in her wedding dress. She was so excited.
What home feels like.
When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment
Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.
How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.
If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.
I do leave stuff on the stairs, but that's for whoever goes up first to bring along (and yes, that definitely includes myself)
They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.
Mine obsession can be any kind of storage including shoe boxes, takeaway containers etc.
Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.
No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.
And hairties.buy a pack and you'll have heaps for a few weeks, then back to one somehow.
Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!
One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.
An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.
The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.
You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.
I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!
I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.
Girl here I'm not allowed to load the dishwasher as i do it wrong husband is in charge
I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.
You do this so you don't need to unclog your shower weekly. But you don't leave it on the wall, it should be binned before you leave the bathroom
That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.
Yes there can. I am not a fan of throws and cushions. Not my thing.
That moisturizer goes on the body too.
Well yes, the lotion or moisturizer goes on the skin. Or you get the hoze again
Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.
The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.
There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.
No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.
To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.
When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.
If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?
They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.
Ya so ... let’s not generalize woman ... some woman are clean freaks others are in the middle and others are the opposite ... this is not a female trait .. this is a human being trait ... please stop putting woman in charge of cleaning and making them feel like if they don’t keep their house spotless there’s something wrong with them
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Some of these are kinda gender stereotypes... Not all women wear inches of makeup or are clean freaks... Also some of these are just usual relationship things not specifically female. I know plenty of guys who use more products than me everyone has their own ways of doing things regardless of gender.
Just came to say the same. A lot of this was not male-female, but just people stuff.
Load More Replies...I must confess that, before I moved in with my wife (then- girlfriend), I thought that women wore matching bras and nickers (panties), like in the lingerie ads. But, thinking about it, I don't match my socks with my boxer shorts.
The generalized sexist remarks here about woman are gross .. do better bored panda .. woman do not fit in a box .. we are unique people
It is not sexist for people to relate their experiences in life. Try understanding the article next time
Load More Replies...As a man with long hair, I just laugh at all the comments about hairs everywhere, because they are usually mine. Or I just notice them because they are gray and my wife's are not. I really don't know.
Aww, that's so sweet of her! Your wife is definitely a keeper. What a kind person!
Load More Replies...Just a reminder that just because you live with a woman that doesn't mean that's an indication of what all women do. We're still not a monolith. We're individual humans just like men are and no two women will be the same.
Yeah, but the thing is that most stereotypes have a basis in truth. Enough women do these things that a large number of men have noticed them on a large scale. Therefore while there are exceptions, these are true in general.
Load More Replies...Judging from many of these posts, there are so many women who rule that their partners do stuff "wrong" just because they do it differently. Please be considerate! Often, there is more than one good way to do something.
As long as the task gets done, there's no right or wrong way. Some ways may be more efficient, but if the end result is the same it doesn't really matter how you get there! :)
Load More Replies...In the articles where men are idiots everyone agrees.In articles where women do something different everyone rants about stereotypes
Aside from the "women are all like this" implication, what about the "men apparently never know anything about women" implication? Maybe "neat freaks vs slobs", but not really gender. You should see how my hubby gets about his concert t-shirts! Forget the "good bra"! Do not touch his concert t-shirts! See? It's just people being people.
I really love this thread! I’m living on my own (is that said right when you live alone?) and I almost forgot how lovely it was sharing a home. So heartwarming, even the discussions!
All the hair-related ones are true for anyone with long hair, not just girls
Very relatable, I've lived with men and women and there are definitely some things that differ. But preferences regarding cleaning etc are individual...
As a wife of 20 years....yesssss I definately do all these things😁....I laughed at almost all of them...
I I have 1 wife 3 daughters all with long hair, cleaning the shower trap every month was a must. Fortunately they didn't stick hair to the shower wall which is a bit gross, weirdly enough.
I don't really understand #12, I'm pretty sure we're humans too. What'd you expect, we suppress farts? Unless this is satire, in which case please don't get mad at me lol
To the gentleman who asked why women only own one good bra is because a good bra that is well made, fits properly and is comfortable is EXPENSIVE and they only get more so the bigger a woman's boobs are. Another reason is the life expectancy of a bra. A cheap bra will only last anywhere from 2-6 months with regular wear(depending on bra size, brand/style, how often its washed); whereas a good bra will last anywhere from 12-18 months with the same amount of wear(though the life expectancy of a good bra is nothing compared to a good quality corset which can last anywhere from 5-10 YEARS with proper care).
I put everything I can snack size in old candle jars. I can't seem to handle throwing them away, and it looks nice.
my wife is the queen of the dishwasher. I have given up any attempt of trying to load it correctly. My sons have inherited the dishwasher loading gene. Sometimes family dinners degenerate into mockery of us lesser types missing the dishwasher loading gene. Apparently proper placement of cutlery is important.
My hair gets EVERYWHERE, I have Fibromyalgia so my hair constantly falls out. I always have a massive ball of hair after I wash it. I do my best not to leave it all over the shower. However, I can't do much about what gets on the carpets. Regular vacuuming still yields masses of my hair.
Dunno why you were downvoted, I too shed hair like mad, it seems impossible that I can produce so much!
Load More Replies...I think I'm meeting the wrong women... I've never had a tidy GF; I'm always the one being a**l about keeping everything tidy XD
Three things that surprised me: 1) How shitty women's shoes are. Honestly if my shoes give me blisters after the first day I wear them, they are defective and I'm getting my money back. My wife (and pretty much every woman I know) accepts this as normal. 2&3) That apparently smell and colour matter. I'm happy living in a beige home with no artificial smells, but that's just not civilized anymore (I don't mind the colour, but I find all the fragrances in women's products actually offensive to my nose).
Some of these are kinda gender stereotypes... Not all women wear inches of makeup or are clean freaks... Also some of these are just usual relationship things not specifically female. I know plenty of guys who use more products than me everyone has their own ways of doing things regardless of gender.
Just came to say the same. A lot of this was not male-female, but just people stuff.
Load More Replies...I must confess that, before I moved in with my wife (then- girlfriend), I thought that women wore matching bras and nickers (panties), like in the lingerie ads. But, thinking about it, I don't match my socks with my boxer shorts.
The generalized sexist remarks here about woman are gross .. do better bored panda .. woman do not fit in a box .. we are unique people
It is not sexist for people to relate their experiences in life. Try understanding the article next time
Load More Replies...As a man with long hair, I just laugh at all the comments about hairs everywhere, because they are usually mine. Or I just notice them because they are gray and my wife's are not. I really don't know.
Aww, that's so sweet of her! Your wife is definitely a keeper. What a kind person!
Load More Replies...Just a reminder that just because you live with a woman that doesn't mean that's an indication of what all women do. We're still not a monolith. We're individual humans just like men are and no two women will be the same.
Yeah, but the thing is that most stereotypes have a basis in truth. Enough women do these things that a large number of men have noticed them on a large scale. Therefore while there are exceptions, these are true in general.
Load More Replies...Judging from many of these posts, there are so many women who rule that their partners do stuff "wrong" just because they do it differently. Please be considerate! Often, there is more than one good way to do something.
As long as the task gets done, there's no right or wrong way. Some ways may be more efficient, but if the end result is the same it doesn't really matter how you get there! :)
Load More Replies...In the articles where men are idiots everyone agrees.In articles where women do something different everyone rants about stereotypes
Aside from the "women are all like this" implication, what about the "men apparently never know anything about women" implication? Maybe "neat freaks vs slobs", but not really gender. You should see how my hubby gets about his concert t-shirts! Forget the "good bra"! Do not touch his concert t-shirts! See? It's just people being people.
I really love this thread! I’m living on my own (is that said right when you live alone?) and I almost forgot how lovely it was sharing a home. So heartwarming, even the discussions!
All the hair-related ones are true for anyone with long hair, not just girls
Very relatable, I've lived with men and women and there are definitely some things that differ. But preferences regarding cleaning etc are individual...
As a wife of 20 years....yesssss I definately do all these things😁....I laughed at almost all of them...
I I have 1 wife 3 daughters all with long hair, cleaning the shower trap every month was a must. Fortunately they didn't stick hair to the shower wall which is a bit gross, weirdly enough.
I don't really understand #12, I'm pretty sure we're humans too. What'd you expect, we suppress farts? Unless this is satire, in which case please don't get mad at me lol
To the gentleman who asked why women only own one good bra is because a good bra that is well made, fits properly and is comfortable is EXPENSIVE and they only get more so the bigger a woman's boobs are. Another reason is the life expectancy of a bra. A cheap bra will only last anywhere from 2-6 months with regular wear(depending on bra size, brand/style, how often its washed); whereas a good bra will last anywhere from 12-18 months with the same amount of wear(though the life expectancy of a good bra is nothing compared to a good quality corset which can last anywhere from 5-10 YEARS with proper care).
I put everything I can snack size in old candle jars. I can't seem to handle throwing them away, and it looks nice.
my wife is the queen of the dishwasher. I have given up any attempt of trying to load it correctly. My sons have inherited the dishwasher loading gene. Sometimes family dinners degenerate into mockery of us lesser types missing the dishwasher loading gene. Apparently proper placement of cutlery is important.
My hair gets EVERYWHERE, I have Fibromyalgia so my hair constantly falls out. I always have a massive ball of hair after I wash it. I do my best not to leave it all over the shower. However, I can't do much about what gets on the carpets. Regular vacuuming still yields masses of my hair.
Dunno why you were downvoted, I too shed hair like mad, it seems impossible that I can produce so much!
Load More Replies...I think I'm meeting the wrong women... I've never had a tidy GF; I'm always the one being a**l about keeping everything tidy XD
Three things that surprised me: 1) How shitty women's shoes are. Honestly if my shoes give me blisters after the first day I wear them, they are defective and I'm getting my money back. My wife (and pretty much every woman I know) accepts this as normal. 2&3) That apparently smell and colour matter. I'm happy living in a beige home with no artificial smells, but that's just not civilized anymore (I don't mind the colour, but I find all the fragrances in women's products actually offensive to my nose).