We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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Francis
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1 month ago

:'D i am cry laughing right now xD this is great

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#2

Living-With-Woman-Draft When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.

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Francis
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1 month ago

Awwwrr sweet :)

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#3

Living-With-Woman-Draft That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?

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Daria B
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Yes. Yes, there is. The one and only! ♡ Because, a product, to be mass-produced, it needs to be built within certain norms and patterns, but each woman has different breasts. As a result, it's difficult to find the perfect one, but once you do find it, it becomes precioussssss. Not to mention, these things aren't cheap either. (Waiting for replies of the ladies whose boobs need no support. Respect to you, sisters, but see... just because I don't need braces, I'm not protesting against the dentist industry.)

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#4

Living-With-Woman-Draft I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".

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Daria B
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1 month ago

Exactly!

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#5

Living-With-Woman-Draft I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.

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Francis
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1 month ago

How the f did you live until you met your so? :D

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#6

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yup, I don't wash my hair every time I have a shower.

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#7

Living-With-Woman-Draft If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.

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I I
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1 month ago

yep , when i cook my wife "tidies up" around me , only thing is i still need the things she's putting in the dishwasher

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#8

"Period s**ts."

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Francis
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1 month ago

This needs tobbe higher :D

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#9

Living-With-Woman-Draft Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.

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Thomas Price
Community Member
1 month ago

I didn’t realise this until my now wife showed me the pockets she had in her wedding dress. She was so excited.

DaVo
Community Member
1 month ago

If a dress has pockets and someone compliments you on the dress every woman will put hands in pockets and say: "Look it has pockets!!

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Annamagelic
Community Member
1 month ago

I bought a skirt recently and was pleasantly surprised when I tried it on and realized not only doese it have pockets, but it has deep useful pockets. My husband joked that it must not be a skirt afterall, with pockets like that, itmust be a kilt for men.

Valisbourne Spiritforge
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't get this. Pretty much every woman I've spoken with would love pockets. But they just aren't there! The primary difference between of mens and womens sweatpants seems to be pockets or no pockets.

Vicky Z
Community Member
1 month ago

I was also wondering why they don't make woman's pants with big pockets!! They would sell like crazy!! But it seems they want to sell purses too so they don't care, as long as ALL the pants are without pockets!

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VeninTheRogue
Community Member
1 month ago

This is why I prefer men/boys jeans. Also, FAKE POCKETS are completely idiotic and stupid

Royer Potts
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

My wife owns numerous articles of men’s clothing. Men’s clothes are usually 1/2 the price, the fabric is twice as heavy (so you cannot see through it), and the pockets aren’t decorative. And, apparently, our button down shirts come in “way more interesting patterns”.

Anna Banana
Community Member
1 month ago

I've learned to sew a few years ago, I didn't even know it would give me the superpower of being able to add pockets to every item I make. Oh, and also: it's stupidly easy to include properly-sized pockets in the seam of a lot of dresses (not all of them, but a lot) without changing how they look. There's really no reason at all why they shouldn't be there in the first place.

Ashbug
Community Member
1 month ago

My biggest pet peeve about women's pants/shorts. I will shamelessly wear men's shorts for the bigger pockets

The Dave
Community Member
1 month ago

Female clothing designers are unpractical assholes.

Kim Irving
Community Member
1 month ago

Random stranger (F): Nice dress! Me: Thanks! It's got POCKETS!!! *shows pockets* RS: OMG!! That's AWESOME!!! O.O Me: Right?!

Shell
Community Member
1 month ago

This.

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June
Community Member
1 month ago

I showed my boyfriend the size of my pockets this morning. He was horrified and offered to give me jogging pants 😂 that was kind of him

Jods
Community Member
1 month ago

I get men’s jeans. The pockets are great and what’s more, you can put your mobile phone and wallet in them and they don’t fall out.

Sang Fe
Community Member
1 month ago

Pockets are an absolute thrill for most women

Aileen
Community Member
1 month ago

Seriously! I have a pair of jeans that could only fit maybe one tube of lipstick. Not even deep enough for a phone! And my phone is rather small.

Debra Trayler
Community Member
1 month ago

As am I. Female, 67 years old and ready to hurl my newest trackie dacks out the window - NO FRIGGIN POCKETS! Gaaaahhhhhh.

Isabel Care
Community Member
1 month ago

"Snag" tights now make non see through leggings with pockets (up to size 34 or 36) and stretchy skirts with pockets too. They started with all kinds and colours of tights to fit different sized women properly. I love their products

Jayne Kyra
Community Member
1 month ago

That´s why the compliment "nice dress/skirt" usually has the response: "Thanks! It has pockets!"

Jane W.
Community Member
1 month ago

We aren't allowed to put anything in pockets, because it would make our bodies lumpy and men would not like that. That's the real reason. No lumps allowed in the wrong places. GET REAL. We need pockets, too!!!

Mimi777
Community Member
1 month ago

I get excited when a dress has pockets

Ceredwyn Ealanta
Community Member
1 month ago

Got sent the men's version of a set of pants online. What a freakin' revelation. It wasn't just that it had pockets. It had pockets YOU COULD PUT A HAND INTO. Not some useless little thing. DEEP pockets. My freaking PHONE FITS ENTIRELY INSIDE. I love those pants.

Lsai Aeon
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't understand why other women keep complaining and don't just start buying mens pants THEY HAVE BIG POCKETS

Anonymousplease
Community Member
1 month ago

I hate when you buy pants that finally fit and realize that the pockets are fake, it's so annoying!

Ivana
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband is so use to handing me his things to put in my purse. We go to an amusement park and we both try to hand off our wallets to the other. He was like "Why don't you put them in your purse?" And I was like "Dude, you can't take a purse on rides so the purse in the car. Also, my pockets are too shallow to carry a dime in so it is your turn to carry some weight around here."

Holly Molly
Community Member
1 month ago

Even more rare for dresses and skirts

Sarah Grape
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

yes WHY!?! is it so we can make our boyfriends carry our stuff? or is it so that we have to give the companies money for purses, too? either way, it's a total jerk move.

Kat
Community Member
1 month ago

I've actually redesigned so many of my clothes because of that and when I make something to myself I always add big pockets. There's nothing more awesome than a dress with big hidden pockets.

LesAnimaux
Community Member
1 month ago

I have a pair of pants with VERY deep pockets and I squealed with excitement when I found out

MiniMaus
Community Member
1 month ago

Actually I hate pants that have pockets. Why? Because those damn pockets add another 4" to my already fat hips

booHguy
Community Member
1 month ago

This is the reason why women have a handbag, as men have pockets

Avery Day
Community Member
1 month ago

one reason i am stuck with my 2015 samsung phone - newer models simply dont fit in the pockets of my jeans. (and NO, i HATE handbags, dont own one and refuse to own one)

Lisa Yario
Community Member
1 month ago

No lumps !

Vicky Z
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm a woman and ALWAYS shocked!!

DKS 001
Community Member
1 month ago

so are we

Lynn Marie
Community Member
3 weeks ago

Pockets in skirts and dresses are a big selling point now. I just bought a dress yesterday that had "I have pockets!" on the tag, and it's partially why I bought it. As teachers, we have to have our keys and phones with us all the time (in case of emergencies), so my clothing always has to have pockets.

Lyra Sis
Community Member
1 month ago

My son is amazed at how much smaller pockets are on women's clothes when we do get them.

Memere
Community Member
1 month ago

For every day casual wear, I buy men's pants & shorts - mainly Wrangler brand. For the POCKETS, and so I can get the correct waist size & inseam length I need (I'm lucky to have slim hips!). And it's not hard to add pockets to dresses & skirts as long as they're not skin tight.

Kiera Mortensen
Community Member
1 month ago

i am so jealous of my husband's pants because they have actual, proper sized pockets and i can't even fit my entire hand in mine

Susan Egan
Community Member
1 month ago

Plus they are making them smaller. I don't like to carry a bag all the time but if I want my phone or some money with me I may have to since my pockets are too small or gone.

Jaybird3939
Community Member
1 month ago

I bought a new nightshirt. It had pockets!! I wore it a half-dozen times before I realized it.

Lynn Smith
Community Member
1 month ago

The reason women's pants do not have pockets is because of the lines - the way a woman is built the pockets would "stick out" and look bad. Even if pants do have pockets they are usually sewn closed.

Purr·maid
Community Member
1 month ago

That's how they get us to buy purses and handbags.

Sid Dall
Community Member
1 month ago

When you own dozens of purses why would you? Especially when half of them are the size of my gym bag!

Bob Bobbins
Community Member
1 month ago

I always wondered why this was a problem - why don't they just sell dresses with pockets in them? Someone explained it to me today - "no pockets? Well, we have a wonderful selection of purses and handbags over here that you can buy"

Max L.
Community Member
1 month ago

Im shocked the op expected pockets to be assigned with marriage.

Betsy Hirons
Community Member
1 month ago

Not all women hate pockets. I won’t buy or wear pants unless they have pockets..

Noemie Houtekie-N'Da
Community Member
1 month ago

I never had a problem finding pants with pockets.

CatWoman312
Community Member
1 month ago

So we can buy purses

Scagsy
Community Member
1 month ago

Is it something to do with the 'hang' of the garment that pockets might spoil? I ask because my tailor told me to leave my suit jacket pockets sewn closed to protect this mythical 'hang' thing. So I'm curious.

Memere
Community Member
1 month ago

That's part of it - if you take the stitches out, the pocket in your jacket will hang open just from the weight of the fabric. And also because so much women's clothing is "body con" - meaning the clothing is fitted tightly so pockets would spoil the look.

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Haunting Spirit
Community Member
1 month ago

They say the purse industry caused this. No pockets? Buy a purse.

Memere
Community Member
1 month ago

I read a theory once that it was so women couldn't carry enough money & identification with them to be able to run away from an abusive situation, and that it started back in the Victorian era. Don't know how much of that is true, but it kind of makes sense.

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Millar
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1 month ago

I live with a woman. Her pants have pockets. Maybe it’s the choice of pants

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#10

Living-With-Woman-Draft What home feels like.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

Aw! Sweet ^-^

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#11

When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment

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DKS 001
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1 month ago

I dry off in the shower so there are no wet foot prints outside the shower

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#12

They fart just as much as men.

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Vihra Stancheva
Community Member
1 month ago

We are humans. And no... we don't fart rainbows:))

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#13

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.

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Ripley
Community Member
1 month ago

Or . . . you know . . . ever

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#14

Living-With-Woman-Draft Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.

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Scagsy
Community Member
1 month ago

My wife always says 'Don't buy the pink razors, get the yellow ones please'.

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#15

Living-With-Woman-Draft How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
1 month ago

I totally agree! I have sooo many houseplants in my house

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#16

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.

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Francis
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes! My bf had to hang the laundry last week.. he tried. And failed xD had to rehang everything LOL

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#17

If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.

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Linda van der Pal
Community Member
1 month ago

I do leave stuff on the stairs, but that's for whoever goes up first to bring along (and yes, that definitely includes myself)

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#18

Living-With-Woman-Draft They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

Mine obsession can be any kind of storage including shoe boxes, takeaway containers etc.

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#19

Living-With-Woman-Draft Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

Still looking for that drawer!

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#20

Living-With-Woman-Draft No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

And hairties.buy a pack and you'll have heaps for a few weeks, then back to one somehow.

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#21

Living-With-Woman-Draft Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

It's a superpower

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#22

One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.

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LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

So true

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#23

Living-With-Woman-Draft An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

😂😂😂😂 I didn't realize until now that I do this very often

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#24

Living-With-Woman-Draft The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

The hair is everywhere!!!

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#25

Living-With-Woman-Draft You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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Brendan
Community Member
1 month ago

I thought that a full fridge was more of a 'male' thing. It is for me and my two boys, anyway.

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#26

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
1 month ago

Well yes its fancy so you gotta put in every detail!

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#27

Living-With-Woman-Draft You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

Now I am intrigued and curious to know what you did to find this out!

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#28

Living-With-Woman-Draft I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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Thomas Price
Community Member
1 month ago

Start wearing her clothes and tell her it’s an equal partnership

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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I I
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1 month ago

and its NOT drag CAR race

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#30

Living-With-Woman-Draft I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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A Bringhurst
Community Member
1 month ago

Worked out for you, didn’t it?

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#31

Living-With-Woman-Draft I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

You do this so you don't need to unclog your shower weekly. But you don't leave it on the wall, it should be binned before you leave the bathroom

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#32

Living-With-Woman-Draft That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes there can. I am not a fan of throws and cushions. Not my thing.

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#33

Living-With-Woman-Draft That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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Dark Pigeon
Community Member
1 month ago

Well yes, the lotion or moisturizer goes on the skin. Or you get the hoze again

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#34

Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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Marianne
Community Member
1 month ago

That's true for any new person in your house, not just women. :)

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#35

Living-With-Woman-Draft The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

Because we just neeeeeed more space

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#36

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

Really?

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#37

No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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Karen Joy Nesheim
Community Member
1 month ago

Try owning a cat! 🤣

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#38

Living-With-Woman-Draft To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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Mary Veltri
Community Member
1 month ago

Imagine! Lol

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#39

Living-With-Woman-Draft When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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Materyst
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm a long haired woman and have never heard of this

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#40

Living-With-Woman-Draft They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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Jessica Aubé
Community Member
1 month ago

Ya so ... let’s not generalize woman ... some woman are clean freaks others are in the middle and others are the opposite ... this is not a female trait .. this is a human being trait ... please stop putting woman in charge of cleaning and making them feel like if they don’t keep their house spotless there’s something wrong with them

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