We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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Francis
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1 month ago

:'D i am cry laughing right now xD this is great

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#2

Living-With-Woman-Draft When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.

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Francis
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1 month ago

Awwwrr sweet :)

Night Owl
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1 month ago

Yeah, probably one of the most romantic things I've ever read

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AJ
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1 month ago

Sounds like a very healthy relationship.

Iffydust
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1 month ago

I think this is the sweetest love declareation I ever have read.

B
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1 month ago

"... you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down". Here's a thing, men: why not just sit to pee? It's not like it'll kill you. Last time I stood pee'ing was over a decade ago, when I noticed (thanks to a ray of sunlight at the right angle) that the spray I thought was going straight down basically spread out and coated the floor and walls. Zero mess since then, happy partner, and maybe 10 seconds of my life wasted to undo trousers.

JitkaBlitka
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1 month ago

My husband usually sits, he says it's more comfortable for him, but once he was in a hurry getting kids to kindergarten and peed staying... our younger daughter was SO impressed, she almost fall to the toilet to see everything. She then demanded him to stay everytime so she could admire this natural miracle again.

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Sportsgal
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1 month ago

Do you have a brother? Lol!

Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat
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1 month ago

As long as you listen to her about her bad days as well, this is for sure a home.

Watching
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1 month ago

You are the best.

Cupcake168
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1 month ago

This nearly made me cry. I haven’t cried for 15 years, but this was close.

Sam rice
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1 month ago

Lol "...12 stage laundry deployment.." this guy gets it

Jods
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1 month ago

A keeper.

Kat Hoth
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1 month ago

My husband just told me, after reading this to him, said it's very common for boys to think that.

crazy_cat_notAlady
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1 month ago

this reads like poetry. so beautifully put in words. <3

Toni
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1 month ago

that's how it should be

TrashPandaru
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1 month ago

I couldn't heart this more

DKS 001
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1 month ago

love this

Mimi M
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1 month ago

This is beyond sweet.

Ross Keim
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1 month ago

And then crushes your hopes and dreams because of some little thing you did that annoyed her and she never told you about it but instead found comfort in the next man to treat her better that doesn’t have bad days and makes her feel as special as she made you while she slowly slipped through your fingers with your blinders on

Shaivya Shrivastava
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1 month ago

This is beautiful

The Dave
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1 month ago

This is marriage. Anyone not interested in marriage should read this.

Dispatcherqueen
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1 month ago

So well said

JLaw
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1 month ago

💕💕💕

Eilat Jelin
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1 month ago

This is BEAUTIFUL. I hope you two are happy together for a very long time!!!!

...
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1 month ago

Check back with us in a year. Want to see if it's still the "Utopia" you think it is now.

Mer
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1 month ago

I hope my bf would say the same when/if we move in. :) SO SWEET

The Chosen One
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1 month ago

This is the best and sweetest thing I have ever read

Everything AGR
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1 month ago

this is so cute!!!

Jim Day
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1 month ago

Sounds like you are in for a really great night ;)

JonaLou2U
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1 month ago

Wow. Ive been married 40 years, and my husband STILL isn't this kind.....bravo

Petra Pan
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1 month ago

...and yet you're STILL there.

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Stephen Wade
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1 month ago

Hah... such pandering trash.

Brittany
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1 month ago

I get him now…thankful for my relationship

Piper McLean
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1 month ago

Aww that’s so sweet!

Louise B
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1 month ago

So gorgeous

OhForSmegSake
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1 month ago

This is the best love letter to having a great partner and a great relationship

Jessica Cifelli
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1 month ago

This needs to be higher

Jamie S. Martindale
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1 month ago

Dude, you should be doing the laundry not her - either that or the cooking. Why would you think both of those things are all about her? It's past 1957!

Lola
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1 month ago

I always admired a man who appreciates all these things. Unfortunately, there are many out there who think you’re supposed to do all these things because it’s your job.

Madadh Sweeney
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1 month ago

This was written by someone still in the honeymoon phase of their relationship.

Nevits Yibble
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1 month ago

And then you wake up from your dream

Lisa Yario
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1 month ago

Just as long as the real you and the show aren't too different.

Josurf
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1 month ago

Right.... But now back to reality.

Steve
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1 month ago

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This is precisely how it works in Disney movies. In reality, she tells you it's all your fault for not taking the garbage cans out "the right way", starts crying, and makes you sleep on the couch.

Saint Thomas
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1 month ago (edited)

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Soooo... Women's role is to be supportive when men have a bad day, and in return men accept the "crazy things" women do... Is this one from one of those 50's books about how relationships work ?

N G
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1 month ago

He's worded it very badly, but when he says about wanting to put the toilet seat down, that's how he is showing that he supports the woman in his life as well.

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#3

Living-With-Woman-Draft That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?

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Daria B
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1 month ago (edited)

Yes. Yes, there is. The one and only! ♡ Because, a product, to be mass-produced, it needs to be built within certain norms and patterns, but each woman has different breasts. As a result, it's difficult to find the perfect one, but once you do find it, it becomes precioussssss. Not to mention, these things aren't cheap either. (Waiting for replies of the ladies whose boobs need no support. Respect to you, sisters, but see... just because I don't need braces, I'm not protesting against the dentist industry.)

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#4

Living-With-Woman-Draft I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".

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Daria B
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1 month ago

Exactly!

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#5

Living-With-Woman-Draft I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.

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Francis
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1 month ago

How the f did you live until you met your so? :D

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#6

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yup, I don't wash my hair every time I have a shower.

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#7

Living-With-Woman-Draft If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.

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I I
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1 month ago

yep , when i cook my wife "tidies up" around me , only thing is i still need the things she's putting in the dishwasher

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#8

"Period s**ts."

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Francis
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1 month ago

This needs tobbe higher :D

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#9

Living-With-Woman-Draft Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

I didn’t realise this until my now wife showed me the pockets she had in her wedding dress. She was so excited.

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#10

Living-With-Woman-Draft What home feels like.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

Aw! Sweet ^-^

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#11

When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment

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DKS 001
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1 month ago

I dry off in the shower so there are no wet foot prints outside the shower

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#12

They fart just as much as men.

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Vihra Stancheva
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1 month ago

We are humans. And no... we don't fart rainbows:))

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#13

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.

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Ripley
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1 month ago

Or . . . you know . . . ever

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#14

Living-With-Woman-Draft Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.

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Scagsy
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1 month ago

My wife always says 'Don't buy the pink razors, get the yellow ones please'.

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#15

Living-With-Woman-Draft How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.

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Eva the Egg
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1 month ago

I totally agree! I have sooo many houseplants in my house

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#16

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.

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Francis
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1 month ago

Yes! My bf had to hang the laundry last week.. he tried. And failed xD had to rehang everything LOL

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#17

If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.

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Linda van der Pal
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1 month ago

I do leave stuff on the stairs, but that's for whoever goes up first to bring along (and yes, that definitely includes myself)

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#18

Living-With-Woman-Draft They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Mine obsession can be any kind of storage including shoe boxes, takeaway containers etc.

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#19

Living-With-Woman-Draft Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

Still looking for that drawer!

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#20

Living-With-Woman-Draft No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

And hairties.buy a pack and you'll have heaps for a few weeks, then back to one somehow.

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#21

Living-With-Woman-Draft Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

It's a superpower

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#22

One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

So true

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#23

Living-With-Woman-Draft An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

😂😂😂😂 I didn't realize until now that I do this very often

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#24

Living-With-Woman-Draft The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

The hair is everywhere!!!

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#25

Living-With-Woman-Draft You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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Brendan
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1 month ago

I thought that a full fridge was more of a 'male' thing. It is for me and my two boys, anyway.

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#26

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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Eva the Egg
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1 month ago

Well yes its fancy so you gotta put in every detail!

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#27

Living-With-Woman-Draft You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

Now I am intrigued and curious to know what you did to find this out!

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#28

Living-With-Woman-Draft I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

Start wearing her clothes and tell her it’s an equal partnership

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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I I
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1 month ago

and its NOT drag CAR race

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#30

Living-With-Woman-Draft I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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A Bringhurst
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1 month ago

Worked out for you, didn’t it?

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#31

Living-With-Woman-Draft I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

You do this so you don't need to unclog your shower weekly. But you don't leave it on the wall, it should be binned before you leave the bathroom

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#32

Living-With-Woman-Draft That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yes there can. I am not a fan of throws and cushions. Not my thing.

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#33

Living-With-Woman-Draft That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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Dark Pigeon
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1 month ago

Well yes, the lotion or moisturizer goes on the skin. Or you get the hoze again

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#34

Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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Marianne
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1 month ago

That's true for any new person in your house, not just women. :)

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#35

Living-With-Woman-Draft The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

Because we just neeeeeed more space

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#36

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

Really?

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#37

No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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Karen Joy Nesheim
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1 month ago

Try owning a cat! 🤣

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#38

Living-With-Woman-Draft To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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Mary Veltri
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1 month ago

Imagine! Lol

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#39

Living-With-Woman-Draft When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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Materyst
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1 month ago

I'm a long haired woman and have never heard of this

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#40

Living-With-Woman-Draft They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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Jessica Aubé
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1 month ago

Ya so ... let’s not generalize woman ... some woman are clean freaks others are in the middle and others are the opposite ... this is not a female trait .. this is a human being trait ... please stop putting woman in charge of cleaning and making them feel like if they don’t keep their house spotless there’s something wrong with them

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