We're learning all our lives. But some things and experiences teach us more than others.

A month ago, Reddit user Artudetan posted a question on r/AskMen that read, "What did you not know or realize until after living with a woman?" Turns out, a lot!

From "the good bra" to doing the dishes, the post has already received over 14,000 answers and judging from them, getting a roommate can be quite educational!

#1

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fine, I'll say it.

I always thought that pads operated like Band-aids and they'd just slap em over their vaginas and absorb everything. It wasn't until I was... 27? When my girlfriend at the time had some as a backup in case she ran out of tampons and I opened it and looked. The adhesive was on the wrong side for my version of how they worked, and it dawned on me that they're supposed to be stuck to their panties, not their vaginas. I only regret telling her of that revelation, because she laughed until she cried and then called her mom to tell her about it.

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Francis
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1 month ago

:'D i am cry laughing right now xD this is great

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#2

Living-With-Woman-Draft When you’re having a really tough day, she unexpectedly comes home and surprises you with a bottle of your favorite drink, homemade cookies and a dinner you love. And then she cuddles with you while you vent about your now not so crappy day. And you realize what it’s like to actually have someone support you.

And you find yourself wanting to make sure the toilet seat is down, smiling when you can never find anything in the kitchen, rolling with it when the living room turns into a 12 stage laundry OCD deployment zone, and you laugh when you trip over her shoes that are now tangled in a knot of hair bigger than the dog.

Because your house/apartment is no longer a place you live at, it’s now your home. And it’s safe to be the real you, not the show you put on when you were dating.

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Francis
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1 month ago

Awwwrr sweet :)

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#3

Living-With-Woman-Draft That she owns only one truly GOOD BRA. There is only one and part of your duty as a man is to protect The Good Bra. If you are doing laundry, you must take the greatest of precautions to make sure it is properly cleaned, dried, and stored. God forbid The Good Bra ever turn up missing or in the wrong drawer.

Ladies, why is there only one GOOD BRA?

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Daria B
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1 month ago (edited)

Yes. Yes, there is. The one and only! ♡ Because, a product, to be mass-produced, it needs to be built within certain norms and patterns, but each woman has different breasts. As a result, it's difficult to find the perfect one, but once you do find it, it becomes precioussssss. Not to mention, these things aren't cheap either. (Waiting for replies of the ladies whose boobs need no support. Respect to you, sisters, but see... just because I don't need braces, I'm not protesting against the dentist industry.)

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#4

Living-With-Woman-Draft I was raised by a woman, so none of it was new to me, except:

Period Panties.

I wasn't shocked or disgusted by it because I wasn't a 12-year-old; it was just like, "Huh. Yeah, I guess I'd have a separate selection of underwear to use when I'm menstruating, too. Why the Hell would I ruin all of my sexy underwear?".

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Daria B
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1 month ago

Exactly!

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#5

Living-With-Woman-Draft I learned that bathroom can smell like soap and flowers and coconut instead of like pee.

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Francis
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1 month ago

How the f did you live until you met your so? :D

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#6

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently showering and washing your hair are separate events.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Yup, I don't wash my hair every time I have a shower.

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#7

Living-With-Woman-Draft If you leave something on the kitchen counter, it will get put/thrown away. If she leaves something on the kitchen counter, that's where it goes now.

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I I
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1 month ago

yep , when i cook my wife "tidies up" around me , only thing is i still need the things she's putting in the dishwasher

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#8

"Period s**ts."

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Francis
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1 month ago

This needs tobbe higher :D

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#9

Living-With-Woman-Draft Pockets are very rare for women's pants. Several years married and still shocked by this.

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

I didn’t realise this until my now wife showed me the pockets she had in her wedding dress. She was so excited.

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#10

Living-With-Woman-Draft What home feels like.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

Aw! Sweet ^-^

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#11

When you’re done showering, you’re supposed to stay on the bath mat while you dry off, not walk around the apartment

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DKS 001
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1 month ago

I dry off in the shower so there are no wet foot prints outside the shower

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#12

They fart just as much as men.

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Vihra Stancheva
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1 month ago

We are humans. And no... we don't fart rainbows:))

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#13

Living-With-Woman-Draft Apparently, cleaning the toilet on the regular is much, much more important than I'd previously thought.

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Ripley
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1 month ago

Or . . . you know . . . ever

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#14

Living-With-Woman-Draft Just how expensive and shoddy brands for women are.

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Scagsy
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1 month ago

My wife always says 'Don't buy the pink razors, get the yellow ones please'.

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#15

Living-With-Woman-Draft How nice house plants are. Now I have all kinds of plants and my place feels so much more nice and relaxing.

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Eva the Egg
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1 month ago

I totally agree! I have sooo many houseplants in my house

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#16

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is a wrong way to hang clothes to dry.

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Francis
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes! My bf had to hang the laundry last week.. he tried. And failed xD had to rehang everything LOL

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#17

If they leave stuff at the bottom of the stairs, that means you’re supposed to bring it up. If it’s at the top of the stairs, you should bring it down. Also, the correct place for objects in the kitchen is where they currently reside. Stuff is gonna move around constantly, just roll with it.

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Linda van der Pal
Community Member
1 month ago

I do leave stuff on the stairs, but that's for whoever goes up first to bring along (and yes, that definitely includes myself)

Nancy Lynch
Community Member
1 month ago

Her books. She carries them up. Deal with your own stuff.

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Rissie
Community Member
1 month ago

To Renske, who's comment is no longer here. Expecting others to bring up your stuff is something different from expecting everyone in the household to do their part. If someone has cleaned up and put your stuff in a basket near the stairs, you pick up your things and take them up. If someone folded laundry and kept going with other chores, you get that laundry upstairs. If your fellow student leaves a box of books down the stairs and expects anyone else to bring it up, you tell her she's delusional.

Lisa Yario
Community Member
1 month ago

I asked my husband to take two small boxes of books down the stairs. Oh yes I'll do it, but not now. Walked past those boxes for two months. Gave him a few reminders, I'm not a nag. Always got the same answer. Finally got them downstairs myself by shoving them. Left them there for two days. He said he would have brought them down if I'd asked him.

Vicky Zar
Community Member
1 month ago

Poor books

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Tina Ciancia
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband still asks if something goes upstairs when it is sitting on the fourth or fifth stair. Yes, dear. Thank you. ♥️

Sam rice
Community Member
1 month ago

There can still be that communication, no one is supposed to be psychic

Popescu Adina
Community Member
1 month ago

Actually me and my mom do this... we buy stuff and don't immediately go upstairs to put them in their places, just leave them on the stairs. First one up will take them... you don't really need to be psychic to know that if there is something on the stairs that belongs upstairs, then it should get upstairs and you might as well take it there... unless you are assuming husbands have no idea whatsoever what is in the house... then yes, you must tell them.

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Manny_Flawz
Community Member
1 month ago

Never go up/down the stairs empty-handed. This was from my parents, who also said"If you are bored, I'll give you something to do". LOL

Linda Cowley
Community Member
1 month ago

They went to the same parent school as my parents then

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Honu
Community Member
1 month ago

In my house, the agent of kitchen chaos was my husband. He's gotten better over the years since he knows I find it incredibly irritating when I look for something while I'm cooking and it's not in its proper place. There's a method to the organization based on what tasks are performed where. For instance, things you use while at the stove are stored by the stove. Stuff you use for prep is stored where you do prep. Since we both cook, organization is more important since you can't rely on just remembering where you put it last with someone else using it, too.

Aroha
Community Member
1 month ago

I don't get this... If something needs to go upstairs I take it there. Why would I leave it for someone else??

Anne Reid
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1 month ago

It’s for when you’re tidying up one floor & find stuff that belongs on another. Instead of stopping & going up & down the stairs, you make a pile. Should anyone else use the stairs in the meantime, they should take it with, just to help out. They’re going that way anyway.

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Seedy Vine
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1 month ago (edited)

Actually, it's my husband who keeps moving stuff around constantly, because he doesn't ever seem to realize that I have already made a place for all of the things, and then I get all paranoid and wonder why he's not paying attention to my process.

somnomania
Community Member
1 month ago

my dad is like this, and even he gets mad when he can't find something that HE moved!

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anarkzie
Community Member
1 month ago

Lol, this is my mum.

lara
Community Member
1 month ago

NOTHING, NOTHING makes me madder than for someone to "rehome" my kitchen as in putting stuff where THEY think it should go and then I spend three freaking hours looking for something that is not where it should be. Like, all pot holders go into the left drawer next to the stove. All baking and cooking spatulas and spoons and forks go into the right hand drawer. All dish cloths and towels go into the top drawer next to the sink, all table ware goes into the drawer to the right of the dishwasher. WHY is that so freaking hard to figure out? I am STILL finding pot holders in places that make wonder if they are hiding from the cops.

Sam Mix
Community Member
1 month ago

Full hands up, full hands down.

somnomania
Community Member
1 month ago

flip this around and you've got my house. my dad moves things and forgets where he's put them, and gets mad if we move things and don't tell him

Marigen Beltran
Community Member
1 month ago

I need to always put things in the same place because when I need them I know where to look for them.

Mindy Keys
Community Member
2 weeks ago

This really should be #1 just so every man who sees this understands the code. Mine still does not get it 10 years on. He will walk past something 20x, never once picking it up. When I ask why - he says (quite logically I suppose) "If you wanted me to (do whatever) why didn't you just ask." Makes sense I suppose.

Lyra Sis
Community Member
4 weeks ago

My bf is fighting this one lol

Erin E
Community Member
1 month ago

My husband is the one who moves crap constantly in the kitchen. Even with labels my kids (teenage boys) are the ones who can’t put things up. I’ve even tried labels.

Marnie
Community Member
1 month ago

That does not sound like it has anything to do with being a woman. That has to do with this person's specific woman. It is the epitome of sexism to know the characteristics of one woman and then generalize that to all women.

Jods
Community Member
1 month ago

I do that even though I live on my own. However, it tends to stay there for months!

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#18

Living-With-Woman-Draft They have a really weird obsession with glass containers or jars.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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1 month ago

Mine obsession can be any kind of storage including shoe boxes, takeaway containers etc.

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#19

Living-With-Woman-Draft Hair ties actually disappear faster than MIA socks. Until you find 20 in a kitchen drawer.

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Lauren Caswell
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1 month ago

Still looking for that drawer!

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#20

Living-With-Woman-Draft No matter how many bobby pins are in the house, there is always a need for more.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

And hairties.buy a pack and you'll have heaps for a few weeks, then back to one somehow.

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#21

Living-With-Woman-Draft Women are both simultaneously messier and cleaner than men. It’s bizarre how messy rooms can get with them and how quickly they can turn it around and make it clean!

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

It's a superpower

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#22

One corner of the shower will become a "graveyard" for bottles of shampoo, conditioner, all sorts of stuff.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

So true

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#23

Living-With-Woman-Draft An innocent cleaning excursion in the right circumstances will lead to a full-on reorganization of all the dang furniture in the house, if you're not careful.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

😂😂😂😂 I didn't realize until now that I do this very often

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#24

Living-With-Woman-Draft The hair that gets stuck in the shower drain. OMG.

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LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

The hair is everywhere!!!

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#25

Living-With-Woman-Draft You find out the amount of food that a refrigerator can really hold.

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Brendan
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1 month ago

I thought that a full fridge was more of a 'male' thing. It is for me and my two boys, anyway.

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#26

Living-With-Woman-Draft Fancy makeup takes a long time.

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
1 month ago

Well yes its fancy so you gotta put in every detail!

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#27

Living-With-Woman-Draft You’ve been doing laundry wrong your whole life.

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Nerdlife
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1 month ago

Now I am intrigued and curious to know what you did to find this out!

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#28

Living-With-Woman-Draft I never realised that she'd start wearing my clothes. T-shirts, sweaters, not even my damn underwear is mine any more!

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Thomas Price
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1 month ago

Start wearing her clothes and tell her it’s an equal partnership

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#29

Turns out RuPaul’s drag race is a great show

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I I
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1 month ago

and its NOT drag CAR race

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#30

Living-With-Woman-Draft I load the dishwasher so inefficiently, I'm no longer allowed to load it at all.

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A Bringhurst
Community Member
1 month ago

Worked out for you, didn’t it?

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#31

Living-With-Woman-Draft I have freaked out too many times at what I thought was a 52-legged spider clinging to my bathroom wall.

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Lauren Caswell
Community Member
1 month ago

You do this so you don't need to unclog your shower weekly. But you don't leave it on the wall, it should be binned before you leave the bathroom

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#32

Living-With-Woman-Draft That there can never be enough throws/blankets/cushions.

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Foxxy (The Original)
Community Member
1 month ago

Yes there can. I am not a fan of throws and cushions. Not my thing.

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#33

Living-With-Woman-Draft That moisturizer goes on the body too.

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Dark Pigeon
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1 month ago

Well yes, the lotion or moisturizer goes on the skin. Or you get the hoze again

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#34

Strange new foods will appear in the cupboard and the fridge. This is actually good, you will get to try new things.

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Marianne
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1 month ago

That's true for any new person in your house, not just women. :)

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#35

Living-With-Woman-Draft The wardrobe in your bedroom that you agreed to share 50/50? Just like the bathroom, in a few years it will be 90/10.

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LuckyL
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1 month ago

Because we just neeeeeed more space

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#36

Living-With-Woman-Draft There is an incorrect place for hand soap on the sink.

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Nerdlife
Community Member
1 month ago

Really?

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#37

No matter how much you vacuum or sweep the floor, there will ALWAYS be hair in the floor.

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Karen Joy Nesheim
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1 month ago

Try owning a cat! 🤣

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#38

Living-With-Woman-Draft To get rid of bangs you don't just cut them off.

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Mary Veltri
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1 month ago

Imagine! Lol

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#39

Living-With-Woman-Draft When long, loose head hairs wash off in the shower, it's common practice to stick them to the wall rather than let them collect in the drain.

If she forgets to remove them afterwards, it can be very confusing for the next person in the shower. Why are there a bunch of individual strands of hair deliberately stuck to the wall?

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Materyst
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1 month ago

I'm a long haired woman and have never heard of this

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#40

Living-With-Woman-Draft They're not nearly as neat and tidy as they want you to believe.

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Jessica Aubé
Community Member
1 month ago

Ya so ... let’s not generalize woman ... some woman are clean freaks others are in the middle and others are the opposite ... this is not a female trait .. this is a human being trait ... please stop putting woman in charge of cleaning and making them feel like if they don’t keep their house spotless there’s something wrong with them

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