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23 Insecurities A Lot Of Men Have That Most Women Actually Don’t Care About Shared In This Online Group
Even the most self-confident people have some insecurities—whether it would be about their appearance, personality, or something else in their lives. But the truth is, we are the biggest critics to ourselves. More often than not, other people would never know that you are insecure about something or they wouldn’t see it as a big deal. Social media is full of women sharing their insecurities and sending a message that the things they’re insecure about are normal.
But what about men? They also should be encouraged to not pick themselves apart. Reddit user GorillaS0up asked: “Women of Reddit, what common insecurities do men have about their bodies that women don't actually care about?“ 3.4k women responded and they listed not only insecurities men have about their bodies they don’t really care about, but their insecurities in general. Bored Panda gathered some of the best answers given by redditors. If you would like to add anything else to this list, share your opinions in the comments!
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Dont worry about coming off as nerdy or brainy- ffs plz think for yourself and ENJOY your hobbies. We actually dig someone with passion and honestly being able to hold conversation with depth is delicious. Extra points on sarcasm, wit and humor.
PLEASE come off nerdy AND brainy! Talk to me about the last book you read, or the video game you're currently playing.
Honestly? Height. If you’re short and have an attitude about it, it’s the attitude that makes you unattractive, not your actual height.
Im small but i look down at nobody and i look up to nobody. I even joke about my height.
Money. I've seen a few guys try to act like they have money to burn in order to impress their dates (me included) but then not be able to pay the bills at the end of the month. Honestly, I'll take stability and honesty over a fancy dinner any day.
There are loads of women that expect the guy to pay for everything. Double standards.
Your body and the likely lack of a sixpack. First of all, i love you for your character, second, it‘s really nice when we cuddle, and it makes me feel better for not having a model-body
Ikr. I personally don't prefer men with sixpacks, I love anyone who is healthy and happy in their body.
Showing their emotions. Turns out a lot of guys can't even cry, because at a young age males are told "boys don't cry" "man up"
Baldness. There are plenty of hot men that are bald.
With barbers closed due to corona virus i wish i was bald right now. At the moment i am feeling like cousin it
Having a bit of a gut. It's cute.
Having a flat butt. No biggie...!
Not having a monster dong is perfectly fine.
Having some zits. Don't care.
Big nose. So what?
Crooked smile. As long as you smile :)
I hate when a guy, who's clearly broke to the bone wants to take me out to dinner or buy me something to impress me. I once went out with I guy and I could see in eyes that he was doing mental math... needlessly to say, I took the cheapest everything and ended our suffering. Guys, it is okay if you don't have money atm, as long as you are working/studying and is a hardworking individual with a good personality. STOP trying to impress. Let's just buy a bag of cheetos, sit on the sofa and watch a stupid movie. It'll be okay.
Society has conditioned men to feel inadequate if they cannot impress women by spending money. Even though a lot of women don't mind. Many men find it difficult to unlearn that mentality
It's about being a provider. A man with money and a decent car would rather drive his girlfriend/wife/other to the restaurant rather than pay for a taxi, even if it's well within his means, because he is providing the transportation. Money certainly helps project that image, but even being comfortably well off won't prevent some men choosing the provider option, instead of the throw money at it option.
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I was once arranging a date with a beautiful girl, she wanted to go out that Friday and I said, 'Can we do it after next Wednesday when I get paid', She said 'well I get paid tomorrow so it's not a problem'. It did feel weird but I knew this was someone that would be fair in a relationship and was actually keen to see me. Now been together 16 years.
Best dates ever with now-hubby? We split a cola ($0.79) and a small side of fries ($0.89). It was and remains "our thing".
You don't have to have a lot of money to be romantic and thoughtful - make a picnic and eat in the park, bring her a bunch of flowers you picked from hedgerows or your garden. Invite her to something you do that's free - build sandcastles, take a walk in the park, go to a gallery or museum, volunteer at a beach clean up or an animal shelter, bird watching - invite her to share something you love or find inspiring. Ask what she likes to do, or wants to try - and if you can join her. Much more special and memorable than just another dinner out.
My wife literally stomps her feet and throws a fit over $10. Come to a country like Fiji and say that women don't care about money.
Love this. Sitting by the curb, under the stars and discussing about life with cheap booze can be a very fun date too. Better yet if you can piggyback me in the carpark and let me pretend I'm flying.
I'd much rather have a bowl of icecream and sit on the sofa to watch a movie and hang out, then go to a fancy restaurant where I have to wear nice clothes, and we don't have as much of a chance to talk.
When my partner and I had dated for 2 months he bought me an alabaster jewellery box. He was only an apprentice at the time so his wages were minimal, took him a month to pay it off. Over 18 years later I still have it.
I would rather a guy impress me with his conversation, wit, the time he spends listening, and making love... if we're not homeless and starving, then I'm not worried about money.
Yeah well, clearly you have not been scammed by such..or you have and do not care....and happy to go to work to support the bum which is what he was looking for.....lol...yup...got caught that way...lol.
With your attitude about women never. Luckily for them.
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Hair on their chest or arms. Its there yeah and no one cares.
Honestly the same ones as women most of the times. Such as stretch marks and scars. I couldn't care less. I have em also. Oatmeal cream pies have stretch marks and no one turns them down!
i love this. I'm a guy and i dont care what the hell a woman looks like as long as she has a good personality. Or a guy for that matter.
Being awkward sometimes or doing something embarrassing. I somehow find this more appealing than guys who never seem embarrassed or are extremely confident.
Same. I'm pretty socially awkward, and I like people who I can relate to, people who aren't afraid to make mistakes and be themselves.
Graying hair. My 32 year old husband is currently freaking out because he has “so many” (it’s not that many), gray hairs. I couldn’t give two s**** lol I think he’s still just as handsome and I really don’t see what the big deal is
My missus and daughter point out about my hair as a joke. I always say to them that Italians do not go grey we go silver.
Excess weight. Of course, we are not talking about the final stage of obesity, when the weight prevents the guy from functioning normally, but 10-15 kg (sorry, I can not correctly translate into pounds). Big men with excess weight seem to me like big bears, behind which you want to hide and snuggle tightly.
My ex hated his voice, he thought it was too high. I don't even notice voice pitches. But he let it put a fake divide between us which is why we broke up. HIGH VOICES ARE CUTE! DEEP VOICES ARE CUTE! ALL VOICES ARE PERFECT!
Bellies and love handles. I personally love seeing the hips on a guy, and a soft belly is nice to touch and rest on. I like hugging my love from behind and I want to stretch my fingertips right up under that shirt. Love a tummy, and again with the last one, the amount of hair on it ain't no thang to me!
I like healthy teeth, but years ago I long-term dated a guy with crooked front teeth that to me made him cuter really, especially when he laughed. I ended up marrying a guy with a gap in his front teeth. Again, great with a good laugh.
There's a big difference between "healthy" and "straight" teeth. I don't care if your teeth are a little crocked, but if you don't brush regularly or go to a dentist, that is a turn off.
My husband is way too worried about how big his biceps are. He was a really skinny kid (our son is the same way) so I think he always just wanted to be the big tough guy. Well now he’s got muscles and he’s constantly asking me what I think off them. I mean dude I’m into you no matter what size your biceps. Like contractually obligated for the past fifteen years I’m not going anywhere even if you can’t lift heavy things.
Calves. We don't care that they're skinny.
A big nose. I personally like that!
Mmm ugly feet? speakin for myself; i could care less bout ur feet as my feet are ugly as well for a girl haha
I truly don't care about acne. My boyfriend is really insecure about it but I don't mind it and he looks pretty cute with it.
The sad truth is that plenty of women do care about these things, just like plenty of men care. But the healthy mindset, if you can get there, is to forget about those people and look for someone who wants you as you. Superficial traits are impermanent anyway. Attractiveness is subjective. If you put some effort in, and make yourself an interesting person (ie things that interest you outside of the relationship) then the only thing left is to find the ones who are attracted to YOU.
Any man that's tried online dating knows that there are plenty of women out there who care about all of the things mentioned in the article - they want a 6 ft tall financially secure man with abs and big biceps and perfect skin (just like there are many men that care most about superficial appearance). At least with online dating, it's relatively easy to weed our the women with unrealistic expectations.
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Just like women, at the end of the day appearances don't count, What does count is the personality and how you treat people. Be happy with the person you are and don't let others put you down for it! Enjoy life ; )
Appearance does count, but it is not everything. And where great character and personality can often outshadow average appearance, no amount of beauty will make up for being a douche.
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Bodies change with age, diet, accidents, genetic influence over time, you name it ..... Who you choose to be in action and character is *forever*. And way more amazing, IMO.
I think everyone needs a reality-check. Most people have "ideal fantasy types" but in real life are intimately involved with people who are much different in appearance. The majority of celebrities we appreciate mainly for their looks make up a very small percent of humanity (as do their equally attractive non-celebrity counterparts). Luckily for most of us, we are attractive to other people for different reasons...
I have a friend. He is pretty overweight and has a lazy eye. But still, he gets plenty of good looking women because he is genuinely nice, funny, and is never insecure about his looks. Its all about who you are
Never mistake going to a gym or being attractive, for a personality. Personality and a sense of humor are the most attractive thing.
To all guys: don't let any woman judge your worth! And don't let other men do so, either. If they're a good person, they'll appreciate you for who you are, regardless of how you look or what your hobbies are. Yes, some people may simply not click, but don't let that get you down! As long as you are kind and respectful, you've got this, pal. ❤️
You forgot height. Men are obsessed with height and I know some dumb bitches will only date men over 6 feet. But honestly who the hell cares? What the hell does someone height have to do anything valuable to a relationship.
I would personally say that while these do seemingly mostly apply to males, they could potentially just apply to people in general. Just generally speaking, as a society, we need to be more accepting of others. Just because a man(or anyone, really) shows up to their first date with their s/o in a suit means they have the same amount of money as a major bank does. Just because a man(again, or anyone really) doesn't have iron metal muscles or doesn't show their emotions doesn't mean they are tough–in fact, I ENCOURAGE ppl to let their emotions out–you can't keep everything bottled in forever.
I think it shouldn’t matter what women like or dislike. Just like we always say it doesn’t matter what men like or dislike. We do what we want. Men don’t have to get stuck in the trap of caring what women want. Just live your life and if you’re looking for a partner, you shouldn’t have to change yourself to attract somebody unless you are just a shîtty person who needs to check his attitude. The most attractive thing you can be is a good person, and all the other stuff is just preferences. A guy with no abs won’t attract a woman who obsesses over abs, and that’s okay. Because they wouldn’t actually be a match anyway. Just do what you want. Fûck what anyone else thinks.
I HATE topics like this. We're basically being shamed for being made to feel ashamed of ourselves. Saying we are "needlessly self conscious" is gaslighting to the EXTREME.
No they aren’t saying your self consciousness is gross. They’re saying that if you’re worried that women are judging your skinny calf muscles, many of them aren’t, and that you might be torturing yourself unnecessarily.
Load More Replies... The sad truth is that plenty of women do care about these things, just like plenty of men care. But the healthy mindset, if you can get there, is to forget about those people and look for someone who wants you as you. Superficial traits are impermanent anyway. Attractiveness is subjective. If you put some effort in, and make yourself an interesting person (ie things that interest you outside of the relationship) then the only thing left is to find the ones who are attracted to YOU.
Any man that's tried online dating knows that there are plenty of women out there who care about all of the things mentioned in the article - they want a 6 ft tall financially secure man with abs and big biceps and perfect skin (just like there are many men that care most about superficial appearance). At least with online dating, it's relatively easy to weed our the women with unrealistic expectations.
Load More Replies... Just like women, at the end of the day appearances don't count, What does count is the personality and how you treat people. Be happy with the person you are and don't let others put you down for it! Enjoy life ; )
Appearance does count, but it is not everything. And where great character and personality can often outshadow average appearance, no amount of beauty will make up for being a douche.
Load More Replies... Bodies change with age, diet, accidents, genetic influence over time, you name it ..... Who you choose to be in action and character is *forever*. And way more amazing, IMO.
I think everyone needs a reality-check. Most people have "ideal fantasy types" but in real life are intimately involved with people who are much different in appearance. The majority of celebrities we appreciate mainly for their looks make up a very small percent of humanity (as do their equally attractive non-celebrity counterparts). Luckily for most of us, we are attractive to other people for different reasons...
I have a friend. He is pretty overweight and has a lazy eye. But still, he gets plenty of good looking women because he is genuinely nice, funny, and is never insecure about his looks. Its all about who you are
Never mistake going to a gym or being attractive, for a personality. Personality and a sense of humor are the most attractive thing.
To all guys: don't let any woman judge your worth! And don't let other men do so, either. If they're a good person, they'll appreciate you for who you are, regardless of how you look or what your hobbies are. Yes, some people may simply not click, but don't let that get you down! As long as you are kind and respectful, you've got this, pal. ❤️
You forgot height. Men are obsessed with height and I know some dumb bitches will only date men over 6 feet. But honestly who the hell cares? What the hell does someone height have to do anything valuable to a relationship.
I would personally say that while these do seemingly mostly apply to males, they could potentially just apply to people in general. Just generally speaking, as a society, we need to be more accepting of others. Just because a man(or anyone, really) shows up to their first date with their s/o in a suit means they have the same amount of money as a major bank does. Just because a man(again, or anyone really) doesn't have iron metal muscles or doesn't show their emotions doesn't mean they are tough–in fact, I ENCOURAGE ppl to let their emotions out–you can't keep everything bottled in forever.
I think it shouldn’t matter what women like or dislike. Just like we always say it doesn’t matter what men like or dislike. We do what we want. Men don’t have to get stuck in the trap of caring what women want. Just live your life and if you’re looking for a partner, you shouldn’t have to change yourself to attract somebody unless you are just a shîtty person who needs to check his attitude. The most attractive thing you can be is a good person, and all the other stuff is just preferences. A guy with no abs won’t attract a woman who obsesses over abs, and that’s okay. Because they wouldn’t actually be a match anyway. Just do what you want. Fûck what anyone else thinks.
I HATE topics like this. We're basically being shamed for being made to feel ashamed of ourselves. Saying we are "needlessly self conscious" is gaslighting to the EXTREME.
No they aren’t saying your self consciousness is gross. They’re saying that if you’re worried that women are judging your skinny calf muscles, many of them aren’t, and that you might be torturing yourself unnecessarily.
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