28 Texts Women Got From Men That Are A Crash Course In How Not To Communicate
InterviewFor many of us, texting is a huge part of our lives. It’s a lightning-quick way to communicate with pretty much anyone, no matter where they might be. However, some conversations can take an unexpected turn for the bizarre, hilarious, and even downright cringy.
We’ve collected some of the most facepalm-worthy text messages that men sent women, as shared on the popular r/texts online community. Scroll down for a crash course on how not to communicate, ever!
We reached out to the friendly team running r/texts, and one of the moderators was kind enough to answer our questions. You'll find what they told Bored Panda below.
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Matched With This Guy On Tinder, After Talking To Him On Facetime One Time…. He Sends Me These
"I have a girl already anyway" Does he think this is going to make him more desirable? Like she's gonna read that and be like 'dang, he MUST be a catch if an another girl wants to be with him. I certainly messed this one up, didn't I? 😫" .. Idiot.
I love that based on the time stamps it took him two full days to think of "The hilarity." I'm just picturing him spending the whole time googling "cool comebacks for mean fat girls who reject you," brainstorming ideas with his friends, scripting the conversation five different ways in his head, and finally he hits back with the absolute banger: "The hilarity."
I hate online dating so much. Guys always have some s**t to say. This idiot, why did he match w her if he only wanted to insult her? You’re definitely not perfect yourself dude so gtfo.
Oh no, she's missed her chance with " Prince Charming " how will she cope....
I love when dudes keep talking to themselves in the DMs just to show how superior and unbothered and very much NOT butthurt they are 😂
According to Statista, the most popular mobile messenger apps as of January 2024 are WhatsApp (2 billion monthly active users), WeChat (1.3 billion users), Facebook Messenger (979 million users), followed by Telegram (800 million users), Snapchat (750 million users), and QQ (558 million users).
Edison Mail states that text messaging is the preferred mode of communication for most generations, including Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X, and Baby Boomers. It’s only the Silent Generation that overwhelmingly prefers emails and calls to texts.
Guy I Dated For Less Than A Week Asked Me For Money-Nope!
If you send me that $50 in Apple giftcards I'll be able to get the inheritance I'm due from my wealthy father. Once the giftcards are received I can guarantee you a return of $36,578,231 United States Dollars. PLease> Thank you sir for prompting attention.
Load More Replies...For any scammers lurking, just know that I will never pay rent on any place I’m not living in. Thank you and goodbye.
Landlords don't "send it to their lawyers." They post a document on your door that gives you notice. If it isn't paid a couple weeks after that, they post another document letting you know you've been evicted and need to vacate. If you're still there a few days later, they call the sheriff and your belongings get moved to the lawn. No need for a lawyer.
Not where I’m from. They can’t evict you without going to court
Load More Replies...I would say nooooooo very slowly so he doesn't think you stuttered. He hangs around after well you decide.
Romance scam? Sounds like it since they talked for a short amount of time. Idk if they met but this really do look like a romance scam to me. Block asap! You never gonna receive either the money back or a key.
Pushy Guy From Hinge
Basically just want to f**k. Too many guys on online dating apps only want one thing and as soon as they get it they move on till the next girl. I will never understand that kind of mentality. I hope she didn’t invite him over.
Bored Panda got in touch with the moderator team behind the popular r/texts subreddit, and a representative was kind enough to tell us about the online group's history.
“The subreddit started as a place to post phone text message screenshots, as other subreddits didn’t allow them,” they shared what the roots of r/texts were.
“Eventually, other messaging types were added to the subreddit: Discord, Telegram, Instagram DMs, etc,” the moderator said, adding that the community then “became more about conversations.”
I’ve Only Met Up With This Guy A Couple Times Smh
What is he saying? He lives in a shed? He can't spell either. Imagine being in a relationship with him. You would need Google translate
Conversation With A Guy I Met On Bumble
Fellow men, we need to popularize the notion that Real Men aren't insecure little weasels who treat women like possessions.
Yikes. Someone probably told him women love confident men, and this is what he thinks confidence is. Funny and sad at the same time.
Consult a lawyer about a restraining order and talk to the local precinct police.
"You are my possession now" er, what now?! This is why people need to share more and talk to friends or family. He needs someone to tell him that's not acceptable and basically batshit crazy talk!!! As well as the other red flags he's waving like crazy in his messages!
Yeah he's sick in the head. Nothing good will come from this
This Red Flag From A Guy Who Essentially Harassed This Woman With Texts For Days, Then Threw This At Her
He's negging. But oh boy, she better act fast, this deal won't last long!
I never understood how guys can have sex with multiple women without any feelings for them.
Maybe he is a sex worker?/s
Load More Replies...We were curious to hear about the subreddit's popularity. According to the moderator, r/texts "had massive growth in 2023."
This happened "due to a change by Reddit that categorized the subreddit and featured the subreddit to users in recommendations." In short, more redditors were able to find the sub and enjoy the comical and bizarre conversations.
According to the mod, "It's 2024, and more people prefer sending a message over a text medium than ever."
This Guy Just Added Me On Snap From A Dating Site Like Ok???
This is negging. Guys who neg try to weed out the self secure girls to find one that's insecure and easy to manipulate. Good guys don't neg.
Negged his way right out the door. Good for confident girls. Really bad for the insecure ones.
Load More Replies...Messages I Got From A Guy On Wink (An App To Make Friends)
It's that creepy wolf from the Looney Tunes'. But way grosser
Hey, hey, us wolves don't claim that wolf OR this guy as one of our own XD
Load More Replies...He even tipped a fedora and called her M'lady!??! Nice when they display their creepiness up front so you don't waste any time.
i have so many questions about that "boioioing, rolls out like carpet" sh*t. what the actual hell
All from old cartoons, like Looney Tunes or Who Framed Roger Rabbit. Dude lives in his imagination
Load More Replies...Guy On Tinder Is Mad At Me For Existing As A Woman
Makes for a good laugh though. Thanks for the laugh.
Load More Replies...I don't understand how a man like this wants a woman, but seems to hate women?
I mean he's right that men don't get a lot of compliments, but also I feel like if he genuinely cares about that he would put his energy towards complimenting other men and trying to normalize words of affirmation between men without internalized homophobia making it "weird." Pulling the "men never get compliments" card just seems like a bizarre guilt trip here.
He should be the change he wants to see and start complimenting his guy friends. I know he won't, but that sort of thing can be SO easy to perpetuate in a group if someone just takes that first step. People like being told nice things. Probably thinks it doesn't count if it's not a woman doing it to him, though.
Load More Replies...Ah yes because women get called gorgeous and beautiful everyday, and get lavishly adorned with gifts throw by the pathetic men at their feet
There's sort of a point her so to any guys who feel unappreciated: you're doing great and I'm sure you are lovely beautiful people.
Meanwhile, they noted that the r/texts subreddit and the comments section are great places to find out all about the right and wrong ways of using text messages for anyone who's interested. There are tons of examples of what (not) to do!
Probably the biggest advantage of texting is that it’s instantaneous while also allowing for conversations to take place over long stretches of time. You send whatever you want to say, and then the other person will respond to you when they can. It’s very convenient (e.g., compared to having to listen to voice messages). On top of that, there’s always a written record of the entire conversation in case you want to look up some earlier info.
In short, unless you’ve set up some fancy auto-deleting parameters, there’s a (digital) paper trail of everything that’s been said. Moreover, texting allows people to take their time, think about, and edit what they want to say before sending the message. That’s not to say that texting is perfect, though. Far from it!
This Guy Who Stalked A Girl On Her Instagram Because He Assumed That Her Left Swipe Meant She Was Interested
Yeah, but just based on looks, usually. It's very superficial.
Load More Replies...I don't want to victim blame, but putting your insta handle on Tinder seems a bit iffy. Like if someone left their front door open and got robbed, you still feel bad that they got robbed but...
Load More Replies...Context needed to decide if he's a creep Unless someone is specifically saying they're messaging despite not matching, I usually assume they added and messaged when they saw the info in their Tinder page. Lots of people add Snap, Instagram, etc- either because they want followers or don't check Tinder often and would rather you match there. This looks like Snapchat, not Instagram, and that makes sense because a lot of people wanted to instantly talk on Snap instead of Tinder.
I (22f) On A First Date With A Guy (23m) And Instead Of Ghosting I Sent This
As awkward as the conversation is, it's always best to tell someone you're not interested. Ghosting is way worse.
Ugh This Guy
Even with punctuation, emojis, memes, videos, and gifs, it’s very hard to convey tone, mood, and intentions through messages alone. A call or video chat can tell you loads more about how someone’s feeling. It’s more genuine than communicating through words on a screen.
(Though, some of us still prefer face-to-face communication whenever possible. Body language is super informative! And online communication has no physical aspect to it, aside from you holding your phone.)
Miscommunication can happen whether you’re speaking to someone in person, on the phone, or texting. Usually, if anything seems unclear, you can simply ask the other person to clarify what they meant. But there’s often this sense of awkwardness when you ask someone to explain themselves over text.
Guy I Was Casually Talking To Told Me My Teeth Were Yellow
Isn't this from some pick up book that tells men to insult a woman then offer a compliment her after she gets upset? I'm sure I've seen it on some comedy show?
Yep, its called negging. I hate that some studies have found that it can work as a 'tactic'. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201308/can-insult-make-you-fall-in-love
Load More Replies...Who Hurt This Guy?
Not all idiots are racist, but all racists are idiots.
Load More Replies...If you follow the link under the photo, the full conversation is there, which goes on for multiple pages. She tells him that 90% of women she knows have been cheated on in their relationships, and he responds that it's a sign that all of them weren't "good enough" for their man. A racist AND an a**e.
For some reason I can't get the link, can you send it to me?
Load More Replies...I hope you’re going for humor there. If so, good job.
Load More Replies...Friends, just block. Don't engage. Never play games with someone who refuses to let you see the rules. Just disengage completely.
Geez stop telling people you want to date they are stupid and go on a racist rant to prove you are. That's a pro tip.
Being a racist gaslighter. Yeah, that's totally gonna get you a gf 🙄
SEARCH FOR A MEN - EAT A SANDWICHES - RIDE A BUSES - WEAR A HATS
This Guy Who Boasted To His Ex That He's Talking To One Of The Girls He Was Interested In While They Were Together
the "we was together" part made me read this is a London accent. "I bloody loved you when we was togevver. Now you're nuffink to me. Nuffink."
Ok maybe it just me and I’m totally desensitized by men like this but I am actually more bothered by the fact this person has 980 unread messages. I’d go crazy seeing that. Also, kind of ironic.
Thank goodness I’m not the only one who fixated on 980 lol
Load More Replies...Flirting over text alone might not give you an accurate impression of the other person. They might work up a fabulously witty texting game, but in real life, they might be very reserved and awkward.
Similarly, just because someone isn’t the most charming over text doesn’t mean they’re not charismatic in person. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
Went On One Lunch Date With This Guy Yesterday
Mansplaining how she should feel about him. That is a great move (obvious sarcasm).
She's done the right thing by being upfront. She's tactful and honest. This is way better than being ghosted!
Reading these, I realize why I have not tried to date in years.I am 63 and completely out of the modern dating scene.
I assume he paid for the lunch and wants his money back as it didn't buy him sex
Load More Replies...Met This Guy On Facebook Before A Concert And He Quickly Became Clingy
Holy c**p, clingy men are so annoying. Men out there, my best advice of what girls like is this: don’t be clingy.
Guy I Went On One Date With
These guys flip-flop more than fish out of water. I NEED YOU! Nah, it's cool, whatev. You're a B! So should I come over? Okay, goodbye. Not gonna talk to you anymore.... unless you want me to. Last message, for real. Talk to you tomorrow.
In this fellas defence, he might have substance abuse issues. Definitely needs to do some work on himself. And for the love of all that is holy, stop texting someone who is not texting back.
If you want to see whether the person you’re texting with might be a potentially good partner for you, the rule of thumb is to move past the messages ASAP. Hop on a call or video chat to see whether there’s any real attraction there.
And, of course, even that is no match for meeting them in person. It’s easier to curate your online image than it is to fake your entire personality during dates.
5th Time He Has Text Me
You reminded me of this: IMG_8772-6...cd78c6.png
Guy (30m) From Bumble That I’ve (29f) Talked To For A Week But Haven’t Met Yet Gave Me A “Compliment”
SHM, I don't know where these guys get this s**t from. I guess from watching too much p*rn.
What's with the fedora, 'ma'am' and the random hi-polar attitude with these folks?
From A Guy Who Wonders Why I Won’t Give Him A Chance
The r/texts community is very popular, ranking among the top 1% of subreddits. At the time of writing, it boasts 406k members. The idea behind the online group is simple: people post screenshots of funny, weird, or random conversations from their smartphones. However, screenshots from your computer aren’t allowed by the moderators running the popular group.
A Recent Example Of A Married Guy Hitting On Me
He's married and "hunting and fishing" for girls on the side. Al long as he's forgiven, then it makes it all ok....at least in his eyes.
Load More Replies...yea needs more context, generally wouldn't see how hunting and fishing would be seen as bad unless it was just for sport/trophies or if the poster was vegan. sounds like there was something else the guy had done tho apart from the hunting and fishing
He's hunting and fishing for other women, outside his marriage.
Load More Replies...Met This Guy In Person A Few Months Ago And Received This
In what planet is that a conversation to have with someone you've not met yet?
Guy I Went One Date With 3 Years Ago Hit Me Up Again A Day After I Found A Reel Of His Wedding Invitations
There's not enough information here for me to make a judgment call of his intentions. He could be doing something wrong, or it was just an invitation. There was no other texts messages showing him or her being inappropriate or showing what his intentions maybe. I might get downvotes for this but this one is not as clear and straight up inappropriate behavior like the others listed.
The mods also point out that screenshots of single messages aren’t allowed either. There needs to be a conversation between two or more people for you to post about it on r/texts. Facebook or X (formerly Twitter) posts also aren’t allowed. Instead, what internet users should focus on are phone texts, as well as messages on WhatsApp, Discord, Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit, or Telegram.
Convo With A Guy I Matched With On Hinge
Yeah, this is weird. He seems funny and hasn't said anything wrong, meanwhile she got mad at him for... offering up his instagram? What?
Load More Replies...Guy From Dating Site
I feel that 1 of 2 things is happening here. 1) dude is messaging multiple women at the same time and sending generic responses without taking the time to read what each woman is saying. 2) the dude is an idiot. On reflection, I think both things are happening here.
What’s Wrong With This Guy?
okay wait. hold on. HE wants to call HER daddy? or am I reading that wrong?
If its a guy wanting to call a girl daddy i will definitely kink shame because that's weird
Load More Replies...Meanwhile, anyone hoping to be an active member of the group should be careful with what they post. For example, you should not be sharing any personal information in your screenshots. That means no names, usernames, or phone numbers. If they’re in the screenshot, you have to make sure you black them out.
On top of that, the members of r/texts have to mark their posts if they’re not suitable for viewing at work. There’s also a zero-tolerance approach to hate speech. Moreover, the moderators have the right to remove any post or comment at any time in order to maintain the integrity of the group as a whole.
Obsessive Guy After I Went To A Party Without Him
this feels very out of context. from our perspective, it seems like she just brushed him off and canceled her plans to meet up with him without telling him. his response isn't even creepy or anything, he's clearly upset that she didn't give a reason for not showing up. honestly, I think the guy is the one who dodged a bullet here.
I've finally found my ultimate red flag. He abbreviated address to "addy". And I'm out....
I don’t understand why all these women don’t just block these @ssh0les? Why keep responding to texts?
Because society taught us to be fúcking nice to creeps and give them a chance goddammit. But sure, keep blaming women for men's bad behavior.
Load More Replies...BP, your homepage on this topic has Janeway 'face palming' hehe Screenshot...c0-png.jpg
Sure, let's ignore reality for the sake of your convenience.
Load More Replies...I don’t understand why all these women don’t just block these @ssh0les? Why keep responding to texts?
Because society taught us to be fúcking nice to creeps and give them a chance goddammit. But sure, keep blaming women for men's bad behavior.
Load More Replies...BP, your homepage on this topic has Janeway 'face palming' hehe Screenshot...c0-png.jpg
Sure, let's ignore reality for the sake of your convenience.
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