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This Woman Breaks Up With Her Fiancé Because He’s In Love With Her Sister, Finds Out That Her Mom Wants To Attend Their Wedding
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This Woman Breaks Up With Her Fiancé Because He’s In Love With Her Sister, Finds Out That Her Mom Wants To Attend Their Wedding

A lot of people would agree that family is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Some say we can’t choose family and thus have to accept these close people for who they are. But life is full of complex situations that help to test ourselves and those who are around us. It also shows who these people really are and if they are ready to lend us a helping hand. Reddit user @mommyinthemud decided to share the situation her family had to go through and ask people online if she made the right choice under these circumstances.

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It’s a good feeling to be sure that your family will always have your back, unless your sibling is marrying your ex

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The woman shared that she is a mother to two daughters, 30-year-old Jennifer, and 28-year-old Hayleigh. Her older daughter was engaged to her fiancé Sam, however, their wedding was called off because it turned out that Hayleigh and Sam fell in love with each other. Of course, this situation caused a lot of family drama. The woman shared that she talked about this with both Hayleigh and Sam. The mother pointed out to her daughter that what Sam did to Jennifer, he can do the same to her. Hayleigh convinced her mother that their relationship was true and that Sam didn’t want to marry her sister because Hayleigh and Sam knew that they belonged together.

This Reddit user decided to share her family situation after finding out that her younger daughter was in love with her sister’s fiancé

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The woman shared that her older daughter’s wedding was called off because her fiancé and her sister had feelings for each other

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The mother tried to understand the situation as best as possible by talking with her younger daughter and the fiancé

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After a year of being together, the couple decided to get married. This brought new issues to the already disrupted family. It was revealed that since the incident, the woman’s husband supported their older daughter and even told her that he will not give his blessing to Sam and won’t be walking Hayleigh down the aisle. Of course, Jennifer didn’t take the news of the wedding too well and was upset when she heard that her mom wants to go to the wedding.

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However, this situation ripped their family apart as her husband decided to support their older daughter

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The woman believes that her older daughter needs to forgive and move on so they all can be a family again

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The woman shared that she tried talking with her older daughter, asking her to forgive and move on, as this whole situation is ripping their family apart. The mother shared that she wants to support both of her daughters but it’s getting harder having in mind the circumstances. Because of this, she asked people online if it would be wrong for her to attend her younger daughter’s wedding knowing that it would hurt her other daughter’s feelings.

Now that the couple decided to get married, the whole situation became even worse

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The older daughter blamed the mother for always justifying her sister’s behavior

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A lot of users online found the mother to be wrong in this situation, pointing out that she clearly prioritizes her younger daughter Hayleigh over Jennifer. Some of them even thought that it’s great that her husband has Jennifer’s back because she’s being totally wrong by siding with Hayleigh and Sam. What is your take on this situation? Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comments down below!

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After the woman told her she would be attending her sister’s wedding, the daughter stated that she then will never speak to her again

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For those who were curious about the whole situation, the woman provided some more details

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Users online were quick to see that the mother was in the wrong here and clearly prioritized one of her daughters over the other

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Otter
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sam and Haleigh are both dirtbags. Sam doesn't care if he rips a family to shreds, and no decent person would even touch a sibling's beloved! The parents aren't obligated to condemn the temporarily happy couple, but they shouldn't attend or pay for the wedding.

Keith O
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9 months ago

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See this is where I completely disagree, the parents should absolutely support their child even if they disagree with them. I'm not saying pay for the wedding, but who are you to judge Mom and say she shouldn't attend her own daughters wedding. People on here have lost their minds over this one.

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Andy
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9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A horrible situation, however I would not say she is being an Ahole. If he was engaged and started to have feelings for someone else, it's a bad situation, but he did the right thing to call off the wedding. It's unfortunate that it was her sister, but it was clearly a mutual feeling, and not just a fling. The sister has every right to not attend the wedding and be pissed at them, and the father has every right to hate the man who dumped his daughter, but it's not right that they demand the poster cut her daughter out her life too. A few years down the line, the sister will likely have met someone new and be happy, but the relationship between the mother and the other daughter will be permanently damaged by missing her wedding

Ozacoter
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9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem would be if the cheated on the sister before calling the relation off. Thats terrible.

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Jo Choto
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me tell you, as an older person, and a parent, that mother is NTA. She is doing everything possible to love both daughters unconditionally, without condoning the questionable behaviour of one daughter. I am in awe of her calm and rational handling of an impossible situation. It sounds like she needs to fully hear Jennifer out about her sense of childhood favouritism for Hayleigh, and if Hayleigh has had a pattern of always stealing what Jennifer wants, because Jennifer needs to be heard and validated. Other than that, this mother is doing EVERYTHING right in terms of being honest about how she feels about the situation and the behaviour, and loving her children unconditionally anyway. It's an impossible situation for her, but I'm in awe of her.

Otter
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. Haleigh is marrying a dirtbag and is a dirtbag herself, as she either cheated with her sister's BF or dated her sister's ex knowing exactly what kind of problems that would cause. If you love your children unconditionally, you don't cut them off when they're being total dirtbags, but you don't condone their behavior and you sure as hell don't urge the party they've injured to forgive in the name of family harmony. She isn't urging Jennifer to forgive because Haleigh's actions were condonable, she's urging Haleigh to forgive because it's the only way the mother can pretend everything is okay.

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Otter
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9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sam and Haleigh are both dirtbags. Sam doesn't care if he rips a family to shreds, and no decent person would even touch a sibling's beloved! The parents aren't obligated to condemn the temporarily happy couple, but they shouldn't attend or pay for the wedding.

Keith O
Community Member
9 months ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

See this is where I completely disagree, the parents should absolutely support their child even if they disagree with them. I'm not saying pay for the wedding, but who are you to judge Mom and say she shouldn't attend her own daughters wedding. People on here have lost their minds over this one.

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Andy
Community Member
9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A horrible situation, however I would not say she is being an Ahole. If he was engaged and started to have feelings for someone else, it's a bad situation, but he did the right thing to call off the wedding. It's unfortunate that it was her sister, but it was clearly a mutual feeling, and not just a fling. The sister has every right to not attend the wedding and be pissed at them, and the father has every right to hate the man who dumped his daughter, but it's not right that they demand the poster cut her daughter out her life too. A few years down the line, the sister will likely have met someone new and be happy, but the relationship between the mother and the other daughter will be permanently damaged by missing her wedding

Ozacoter
Community Member
9 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem would be if the cheated on the sister before calling the relation off. Thats terrible.

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Jo Choto
Community Member
9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me tell you, as an older person, and a parent, that mother is NTA. She is doing everything possible to love both daughters unconditionally, without condoning the questionable behaviour of one daughter. I am in awe of her calm and rational handling of an impossible situation. It sounds like she needs to fully hear Jennifer out about her sense of childhood favouritism for Hayleigh, and if Hayleigh has had a pattern of always stealing what Jennifer wants, because Jennifer needs to be heard and validated. Other than that, this mother is doing EVERYTHING right in terms of being honest about how she feels about the situation and the behaviour, and loving her children unconditionally anyway. It's an impossible situation for her, but I'm in awe of her.

Otter
Community Member
9 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I disagree. Haleigh is marrying a dirtbag and is a dirtbag herself, as she either cheated with her sister's BF or dated her sister's ex knowing exactly what kind of problems that would cause. If you love your children unconditionally, you don't cut them off when they're being total dirtbags, but you don't condone their behavior and you sure as hell don't urge the party they've injured to forgive in the name of family harmony. She isn't urging Jennifer to forgive because Haleigh's actions were condonable, she's urging Haleigh to forgive because it's the only way the mother can pretend everything is okay.

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