Bored Panda works better on our iPhone app
Continue in app Continue in browser

BoredPanda Add post form topAdd Post Search
Tooltip close

The Bored Panda iOS app is live! Fight boredom with iPhones and iPads here.

Boyfriend Showers His GF With Flowers And Presents On Valentine’s Day, This Enrages Her Sisters’ Husbands
795

Boyfriend Showers His GF With Flowers And Presents On Valentine’s Day, This Enrages Her Sisters’ Husbands

ADVERTISEMENT

Valentine’s Day can be filled with such a diverse range of emotions. Ideally, it’s romance and love, but often enough it’s a time of loneliness and maybe even some jealousy. But sometimes it can be a holiday full of disappointment and terror, as one or maybe both parts of the couple remember, too late, that the special day is coming up.

Recently, a more conscientious internet user asked if he was in the wrong for giving his girlfriend regular bouquets of roses. And on Valentine’s Day, almost by accident, he really outdid himself. By itself, this sounds at worst harmless, but his actions seem to have upset his girlfriend’s relatives.

Getting flowers and other gifts on special occasions is a time-tested way to show your significant other that you care

Image credits: StudioLucky (not the actual photo)

So when a man sent his girlfriend a lovely bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s Day, he thought nothing of it

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT

While his gift was very thoughtful, it ruffled a few feathers with her immediate family

Image credits: Prostock-studio (not the actual photo)

ADVERTISEMENT

Image credits: Flower-PowerRanger

Flowers have been a sign of love and care for almost as long as civilization

The aesthetic powers of flowers go back, like many inventions, to the Ancient Egyptians, where they would be used to decorate primarily woman’s hair. There is some evidence that we valued flowers for one reason or another during the stone age. The El Mirón Cave in Northern Spain is the tomb of a woman who died around 18’000 years ago. Among other items, archeologists found flowers buried with her, indicating some ritual value for this impractical plant. Now, the story here focuses on love, hence the roses for Valentine’s Day, but flowers are also commonly used to mark death or mourning.

Ancient Greek burial rights included flower crowns for the deceased and the Día de los Muertos from Mexico has Aztec ritual elements that also include flowers for the dead. We still place flowers on gravestones regularly, purely to show others that this particular person is still cared for even after their passing. Now, flowers aren’t actually useless, they have traditionally been used in dyes, cooking, and even some winemaking. But next to their aesthetic appeal is the fact that they are not everyday items, so its more special when someone gives you a bouquet.

Image credits: Olena_Rudo (not the actual photo)

ADVERTISEMENT

So that gifted bouquet is actually a time-honored tradition dating back centuries

Speaking of bouquets, we again have the Egyptians to thank. The first recorded decorative bouquets are from around 2500BC, lotuses, irises, anemones, and narcissus. China and Japan also have their own conventions and styles of flower arrangement. In Japan, the art of flower arrangement, or ikebana, was a sign of status and was practiced by accomplished military leaders as a way to decompress. But the more modern bouquet, particularly the sort given to a loved one originated in the Netherlands.

Valentine, in Valentine’s Day actually refers to a saint of the same name, who is often referred to as a patron of lovers. While recognized as a feast day as far back as 800AD, the connection with lovers only came about in the late medieval ages, when it was connected with courtly love. February was picked for the feast day, so as to replace the pagan Lupercalia with a Christian alternative. Since the Lupercalia celebrated love and marriage, the connection to Valentine’s became more clear. Later, in the 18th century, did people start sending cards and gifts. Candy was a popular item to give to a lover, along with flowers.

Image credits: Pressmaster (not the actual photo)

Commentors were united in proclaiming that OP was not a jerk and that his girlfriend’s family should really relax

ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Share on Facebook
You May Like
Popular on Bored Panda
Leave a comment
Add photo comments
POST
carolyngerbrands avatar
Caro Caro
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Why can't the husbands and gf's mum be happy for their sister/daughter who received such lovely flowers? Yes the husbands are Aholes but it's really none of any one's business what the gift is and how big or expensive. Just be happy for others ... And if you can't afford quality flowers then the alternatives are one rose, chocolates, a bottle of wine, whatever.

karenphilpott avatar
kevinfelton avatar
Kevin Felton
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From somebody who doesn't celebrate holidays birthdays or anniversaries, and doesn't buy his wife s**t just because the calendar says I need to, I say you're NTA. Other people's relationship problems are not your problem and your best bet (if you're planning on staying with this girl) is to distance yourself and her from these insecure m***********s and her enabling a*s parents cause they are always gonna make their problems yours.

dpopknight avatar
Diane Knight
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, too, don't celebrate Holidays, or buy 'sh*t' because the calendar or media said so. How much more is the gesture of a meal made or take out? V-day we were out of town, had no time requirements to be somewhere at a set time, so hubby let me sleep more then he did. He saw a deal on a prepared meal package that Friday, a heat and eat tray. No cooking for me then. Win for me and a treat for family (returned to town by then.) I sew , so should my family or bils be all pissy because my sisters don't? Matching outfits for reunions or theme park trips so the small children are easily reconnected should they separate from us? That helped so much to know who belonged to who. A stranger would have been able to spot his/her folks in the crowd. It happen to us, although the little boy did not tell the stranger that his parents had a matching shirt, just his brother did. Should others be offended that we do us?

Load More Replies...
micheldurinx avatar
ericgibbs avatar
Eric G
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was exactly my thought when I saw the headline. Here, I've got one too. AITA because I made my siblings look bad because I donate 120% of my income and volunteer 170 hours a week?

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
carolyngerbrands avatar
Caro Caro
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. Why can't the husbands and gf's mum be happy for their sister/daughter who received such lovely flowers? Yes the husbands are Aholes but it's really none of any one's business what the gift is and how big or expensive. Just be happy for others ... And if you can't afford quality flowers then the alternatives are one rose, chocolates, a bottle of wine, whatever.

karenphilpott avatar
kevinfelton avatar
Kevin Felton
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From somebody who doesn't celebrate holidays birthdays or anniversaries, and doesn't buy his wife s**t just because the calendar says I need to, I say you're NTA. Other people's relationship problems are not your problem and your best bet (if you're planning on staying with this girl) is to distance yourself and her from these insecure m***********s and her enabling a*s parents cause they are always gonna make their problems yours.

dpopknight avatar
Diane Knight
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I, too, don't celebrate Holidays, or buy 'sh*t' because the calendar or media said so. How much more is the gesture of a meal made or take out? V-day we were out of town, had no time requirements to be somewhere at a set time, so hubby let me sleep more then he did. He saw a deal on a prepared meal package that Friday, a heat and eat tray. No cooking for me then. Win for me and a treat for family (returned to town by then.) I sew , so should my family or bils be all pissy because my sisters don't? Matching outfits for reunions or theme park trips so the small children are easily reconnected should they separate from us? That helped so much to know who belonged to who. A stranger would have been able to spot his/her folks in the crowd. It happen to us, although the little boy did not tell the stranger that his parents had a matching shirt, just his brother did. Should others be offended that we do us?

Load More Replies...
micheldurinx avatar
ericgibbs avatar
Eric G
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was exactly my thought when I saw the headline. Here, I've got one too. AITA because I made my siblings look bad because I donate 120% of my income and volunteer 170 hours a week?

Load More Replies...
Load More Comments
Popular on Bored Panda
Trending on Bored Panda
Also on Bored Panda