A man from California is being slammed on the internet after a video surfaced of him allegedly complaining that his wife didn’t make him food while he was golfing — even though she was busy receiving and recovering from her cancer treatment.
The clip of the entitled spouse’s tantrum has accumulated nearly 2 million views on TikTok and almost 5 million on Twitter.
“Poor guy had to make his own Jalapenos,” says the caption over the footage, posted by wife Gonda, who suffers from desmoplastic melanoma — a rare form of skin cancer.
Earlier this year, she’d also been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, which she has been combating with regular immunotherapy treatments, according to her social media accounts.
This man was really irritated that he had to make his own food
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Image credits: teamdoubleg16
Image credits: teamdoubleg16
His wife asked him: “So you expected to go play golf all day and then come home and have your jalapeño poppers all ready for you?”
Image credits: teamdoubleg16
Image credits: teamdoubleg16
Their conversation immediately went viral after she shared it online
@teamdoubleg16 #jalepenopoppers #mancook#myperson#mylove ♬ original sound – Team Double G
He continued his rant in a follow-up clip. “I’m going to make myself a plate. And when I’m done, you can have none,” he said, ultimately leaving his wife one popper out of the entire tray.
In another part of the series, Gonda notes that Gerald got “jalapeño juice in his eye” while eating his self-made meal. And while people appreciated karma getting him back, they thought it wasn’t enough.
As you might imagine, his antics enraged the TikTok community and their comments, and even video replies started pouring in.
This guy responded to it by highlighting the statistics of people leaving their partners after a cancer diagnosis
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And his TikTok has already received 414K likes
@world.shaker It just keeps getting worse #relationship #relationships #fairplay #momsoftiktok #dadsoftiktok ♬ original sound – World Shaker
The TikToker is probably referring to a study by three medical centers — the SCCA, Huntsman, and Stanford University School of Medicine — called Gender disparity in the rate of partner abandonment in patients with serious medical illness.
It enrolled a total of 515 patients in 2001 and 2002 and followed them until February 2006. The men and women were in three diagnostic groups: those with a malignant primary brain tumor (214 patients), those with a solid tumor with no central nervous system involvement (193 patients), and those with multiple sclerosis (108 patients).
The study confirmed earlier research that put the overall divorce or separation rate among cancer patients at 11.6 percent. This number isn’t anything shocking as it is similar to the divorce rate of the population as a whole. However, researchers were surprised by the difference in separation and divorce rates by gender — the rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient.
“Female gender was the strongest predictor of separation or divorce in each of the patient groups we studied,” said Marc Chamberlain, M.D., a co-corresponding author and director of the neuro-oncology program at the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (SCCA).
The study authors suggested that men leave a sick spouse because of their lack of ability, compared to women, to make more rapid commitments to being caregivers to a sick partner and women’s better ability to assume the burdens of maintaining a home and family.
The study also found correlations between age and length of the marriage and the likelihood of divorce or separation. The older the woman was the more likely her partnership would end, but longer marriages remained more stable.
“We believe that our findings apply generally to patients with life-altering medical illness,” the researchers wrote. “We recommend that medical providers be especially sensitive to early suggestions of marital discord in couples affected by the occurrence of a serious medical illness, especially when the woman is the affected spouse and it occurs early in the marriage. Early identification and psychosocial intervention might reduce the frequency of divorce and separation, and in turn improve quality of life and quality of care.”
Another popular reaction came from this person, who used the video as an example of how society treats men’s and women’s time
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You can watch her take below
@thatdarnchat all time is created equal. #fairplay ♬ original sound – Laura Danger
Americans do have different expectations for men and women. However, when the Pew Research Center asked them in an open-ended format to name the traits or characteristics that society values most in men, honesty and morality were the top choices. Neither of which Gerald seems to be particularly gifted with.
Overall, people were absolutely appalled by the man’s behavior
I hope that she recovers fully from cancer and divorces him. He must be a nightmare to live with.
The air quotes round the word “treatment” are the worst bit for me. Dismissing cancer treatment as no more than a mani/pedi. Does he not realise those “treatments” are trying to save her life?
And chemo treatments are BRUTAL. They leave the patients sick, exhausted, and in pain…I drove an ambulance for many years. Taking people to their treatments, often times they could walk (or at least sit up). Bringing people back from treatments meant we had to put them on the stretcher for the return trip. The fact that he would rather golf than take her to treatments speaks volumes. No wonder he reacted that way!
He's a pig
I took a year of chemo when I had cancer consisting of four different infusion meds, and at Roswell here in Buffalo they wouldn’t LET me go alone because of the risks. I completely agree that the fact he golfed instead of taking her is a red flag. That relationship probably had HUGE issues long before the woman got cancer.
Hope you’re doing better! ❤️
A lot of men believe that when one wife dies, they can get another without a problem. This lady needs a vicious divorce attorney and financial backup until that lawyer makes him fiscally responsible for ALL her bills until she *completely* recovers from her cancers. A suspicious death immediately puts him as the main suspect, given how vindictive he is.
There's a follow up TikTok video. As he's finishing eating ALL the poppers, he rubs his eyes & gets jalapeno juice in them. Some karma, but not enough.
That would. Be hilarious. Made me sick when he mentions her treatment & does the air quote thing with his fingers. Almost like he thinks its fake
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I hope that she recovers fully from cancer and divorces him. He must be a nightmare to live with.
The air quotes round the word “treatment” are the worst bit for me. Dismissing cancer treatment as no more than a mani/pedi. Does he not realise those “treatments” are trying to save her life?
And chemo treatments are BRUTAL. They leave the patients sick, exhausted, and in pain…I drove an ambulance for many years. Taking people to their treatments, often times they could walk (or at least sit up). Bringing people back from treatments meant we had to put them on the stretcher for the return trip. The fact that he would rather golf than take her to treatments speaks volumes. No wonder he reacted that way!
He's a pig
I took a year of chemo when I had cancer consisting of four different infusion meds, and at Roswell here in Buffalo they wouldn’t LET me go alone because of the risks. I completely agree that the fact he golfed instead of taking her is a red flag. That relationship probably had HUGE issues long before the woman got cancer.
Hope you’re doing better! ❤️
A lot of men believe that when one wife dies, they can get another without a problem. This lady needs a vicious divorce attorney and financial backup until that lawyer makes him fiscally responsible for ALL her bills until she *completely* recovers from her cancers. A suspicious death immediately puts him as the main suspect, given how vindictive he is.
There's a follow up TikTok video. As he's finishing eating ALL the poppers, he rubs his eyes & gets jalapeno juice in them. Some karma, but not enough.
That would. Be hilarious. Made me sick when he mentions her treatment & does the air quote thing with his fingers. Almost like he thinks its fake
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