“I Miss You”: Maintenance Man Tries To Break Into Woman’s Apartment, And Their Text Exchange Is Truly Terrifying
Our home is our sanctuary and when someone with absolutely zero understanding of boundaries threatens to invade it, there’s a problem.
Last week, Twitter user Judgie Bee Jonez shared creepy texts from a maintenance man who said he was “coming in.”
Bee told BuzzFeed that her neighboring unit’s occupants had recently moved out and upkeep was being done within, so when one of the workers texted her a seemingly polite “How u doing” message, she thought they might need access to her apartment to fix something shared by the two spaces.
Instead, the man said he missed her and invited himself over to “see her face.”
Bee, a 36-year-old Louisiana resident, was living in a small, privately owned apartment building
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When the hired maintenance worker sent her a series of messages saying he was “coming in”
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Bee said her reply ‘oh lol’ was the same as a nervous chuckle in real life. “I literally did not know how else to respond to that kind of message from a person I was not interested in,” she explained. “Even the nicest person can be harmful.”
The woman broke the lease a month later and blocked him. “I felt unsafe, [so] I moved as soon as I had the resources to do so.”
According to her, alerting the owners of the building did not feel like a good option.
“The owners were a married couple that just owned and renovated a house,” she pointed out. “They didn’t care about anything but the rent. All of the tenants had several complaints about various things. Nothing was ever handled.”
Furthermore, the couple employed family and friends to help run the building, leaving their relationship with this particular maintenance worker questionable.
As the exchange was going viral, people were confused as to why the maintenance man had her number in the first place
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So Bee posted a video to explain the situation in greater detail
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— Judgie Bee Jonez (@ThunderCatHeaux) October 4, 2021
If you were to google “maintenance man, harassment”, you’d see many more similar stories. Take this confession on Avvo (a website that offers people help to find a lawyer). An anonymous woman from Kelso, Washington, said that her on-site maintenance man has been sexually harassing her and she’s scared of being kicked out if she spoke up.
However, the Justice Department’s Civil Rights Division enforces the Fair Housing Act, which prohibits discrimination in housing on the basis of race, color, religion, sex, familial status, national origin, and disability, and sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination prohibited under this law.
Sexual harassment in housing includes demands for sex or sexual acts in order to buy, rent, or continue renting a home. It also includes other unwelcome sexual conduct that makes it hard to keep living in or feel comfortable in one’s home.
The Department of Justice can investigate reports of sexual harassment in housing and if there’s a pattern or practice of harassment, the DOJ may be able to file a lawsuit against harassers and other people who are involved with a victim’s housing.
Sadly, she isn’t the only one who has had such an experience
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And once again all the people asking how he got her number and why he would "feel comfortable" texting her like this. WTF??? He announced coming into her apartment after she clearly said NO! Can we please focus on this???
There was a murder in the states by a maintenance man who used his keys to enter a woman's apt. She rejected him and he murdered her. I lived in a huge building and was friendly with staff always asking saying hello but nothing more. In elevator one day and the guy leans in for a kiss. Shocked I ask WTF. He said I was coming on to him. This s**t happens all the time and the woman is always blamed.
This is yuck. The dude totally knows the impact of what he is doing. I hope he was barred from the property. Totally pissweak response from the landlord also!
The company gave a canned response that sounds like doublespeak for “we don’t give a s**t”. Well, management doesn’t seem to understand that, once the police are involved, not only could their maintenance man be arrested, their management office could also end up being investigated for violations of rental codes. Those codes are the legally required boilerplate info listed in plain language (not “legalese”) on every lease, and which the company is supposed to explain, until the prospective tenant truly understands it, prior to the lease signing. Since this is a private owner, they most likely didn’t do their homework on this, and could find themselves in some real deep legal trouble. TBH, I hope they are.
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If the company isn't willing to protect their tenants from their employee who is abusing his position and making himself a threat, the tenants should get restraining orders to force the company to get a repairman that can behave professionally. They shouldn't have to, but the company isn't acting in good faith and that's a remedy the tenants have the right to take. That text alone is likely enough to have a judge issue the order.
This is why my pops taught me how to fix everything in my house on my own. Because he was scared when I first started living alone n he didn't want strange men coming into my home if he couldn't be there to help. Obviously I'm not blaming this woman for not knowing how to fix things n obviously he wasn't even supposed to be coming go her apartment. My point is that... women literally have to think of everything n have to learn how to do n fix everything just to ensure our safety n even that's not enough when men like this are involved. I'm grateful for my dad teaching me everything I know because I help the women in my life learn to fix n build things just so they can avoid this whole ordeal. Also, what ppl don't realize is that it's super easy these days to find people's personal info. N even if she did give it to him herself... that DOES NOT MEAN HE IS ENTITLED TO HER TIME OR TO BE ALLOWED IN HER HOME! WOMEN DONT OWE MEN S**T!
He trespassed limits stated into Protection Laws. He can be even prosecuted only by those texts.
I hope he will be both fired and prosecuted because of those texts, because at least where I live, it isn't legal for the maintenance people to enter my apartment without my express permission. There was an exception, once the manager came in without permission, because half a tree was about to fall on my roof and she was afraid for my safety. I didn't object.
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Might want to invest in a Master Lock Door Security Bar until things get resolved.
For every single entrance door too. That includes any patio, deck, or balcony, in addition to front and back doors.
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A college girl in Orlando just (like a week ago) disappeared after a maintenance man entered her apartment!
The management office is also at fault for letting the maintenance man have her number, or access to it. I worked in property management, and would never give a tenant’s phone number to the maintenance staff. Even though the ones at the property I worked at were all totally trustworthy, it doesn’t mean a creep might not have been hired in the future. Prior to property management, I worked hotel front desks and night audits. Even as far back as the eighties, we were told to NEVER give out a guest’s room number—-on threat of immediate termination. Too many single women have been stalked/attacked/raped/murdered in their hotel rooms or their rental homes—-and not by strangers, but by employees! Not to mention having valuables, or underwear, stolen. This creep should never have been able to see anything with her number on it. Period. I hope she did finally call the police, and not only have the creep fired, but the management company investigated for other violations of the local rental codes.
"I'm coming in".............."I have a gun and I will shoot you in the face"
This is not okay!!! She said "NO". That should have been the end of it.
Frightening. There have also been cases where shop owners have gotten a customer's number, thanks to Covid's track and trace rules, and solicited them. For every decent guy who thinks would I want this to happen to my sister, daughter, aunt, mother - there are several more who don't give a damn and who get a kick out of un-nerving women. Despicable.
Did y’all read that Twitter thread about the woman at the D.C. Cambria though? This is crazy.
Just read it, that is f*cking terrifying. I'm glad she is okay.
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Why on earth did she reply to him like that in the beginning? Some guy you don't even know texts you "I'm coming in to see your face, I miss u" an appropriate reply is not "oh lol". Would have told him he's out of line immediately then.
Because a lot of us are programmed to respond in a polite non-threatening manner to men who approach us for fear of angering them and escalating the situation. He has all the power in the situation and he knows it.
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It would be lovely if it worked that way. Rather than retaliation or at best being ignored. Last place I lived the maintainence man felt entitled to enter apartments with no reason or notice. Especially of single women. Took 5 years to get him fired for something unrelated. Complaints were met with retaliation by moving those tenants to last place for maintenance requests and not everyone can up and move. Some things aren't so black and white. Especially if it threatens housing.
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Some of your comments make you sound like you might be a serial killer.
Load More Replies... And once again all the people asking how he got her number and why he would "feel comfortable" texting her like this. WTF??? He announced coming into her apartment after she clearly said NO! Can we please focus on this???
There was a murder in the states by a maintenance man who used his keys to enter a woman's apt. She rejected him and he murdered her. I lived in a huge building and was friendly with staff always asking saying hello but nothing more. In elevator one day and the guy leans in for a kiss. Shocked I ask WTF. He said I was coming on to him. This s**t happens all the time and the woman is always blamed.
This is yuck. The dude totally knows the impact of what he is doing. I hope he was barred from the property. Totally pissweak response from the landlord also!
The company gave a canned response that sounds like doublespeak for “we don’t give a s**t”. Well, management doesn’t seem to understand that, once the police are involved, not only could their maintenance man be arrested, their management office could also end up being investigated for violations of rental codes. Those codes are the legally required boilerplate info listed in plain language (not “legalese”) on every lease, and which the company is supposed to explain, until the prospective tenant truly understands it, prior to the lease signing. Since this is a private owner, they most likely didn’t do their homework on this, and could find themselves in some real deep legal trouble. TBH, I hope they are.
Load More Replies... If the company isn't willing to protect their tenants from their employee who is abusing his position and making himself a threat, the tenants should get restraining orders to force the company to get a repairman that can behave professionally. They shouldn't have to, but the company isn't acting in good faith and that's a remedy the tenants have the right to take. That text alone is likely enough to have a judge issue the order.
This is why my pops taught me how to fix everything in my house on my own. Because he was scared when I first started living alone n he didn't want strange men coming into my home if he couldn't be there to help. Obviously I'm not blaming this woman for not knowing how to fix things n obviously he wasn't even supposed to be coming go her apartment. My point is that... women literally have to think of everything n have to learn how to do n fix everything just to ensure our safety n even that's not enough when men like this are involved. I'm grateful for my dad teaching me everything I know because I help the women in my life learn to fix n build things just so they can avoid this whole ordeal. Also, what ppl don't realize is that it's super easy these days to find people's personal info. N even if she did give it to him herself... that DOES NOT MEAN HE IS ENTITLED TO HER TIME OR TO BE ALLOWED IN HER HOME! WOMEN DONT OWE MEN S**T!
He trespassed limits stated into Protection Laws. He can be even prosecuted only by those texts.
I hope he will be both fired and prosecuted because of those texts, because at least where I live, it isn't legal for the maintenance people to enter my apartment without my express permission. There was an exception, once the manager came in without permission, because half a tree was about to fall on my roof and she was afraid for my safety. I didn't object.
Load More Replies... Might want to invest in a Master Lock Door Security Bar until things get resolved.
For every single entrance door too. That includes any patio, deck, or balcony, in addition to front and back doors.
Load More Replies... A college girl in Orlando just (like a week ago) disappeared after a maintenance man entered her apartment!
The management office is also at fault for letting the maintenance man have her number, or access to it. I worked in property management, and would never give a tenant’s phone number to the maintenance staff. Even though the ones at the property I worked at were all totally trustworthy, it doesn’t mean a creep might not have been hired in the future. Prior to property management, I worked hotel front desks and night audits. Even as far back as the eighties, we were told to NEVER give out a guest’s room number—-on threat of immediate termination. Too many single women have been stalked/attacked/raped/murdered in their hotel rooms or their rental homes—-and not by strangers, but by employees! Not to mention having valuables, or underwear, stolen. This creep should never have been able to see anything with her number on it. Period. I hope she did finally call the police, and not only have the creep fired, but the management company investigated for other violations of the local rental codes.
"I'm coming in".............."I have a gun and I will shoot you in the face"
This is not okay!!! She said "NO". That should have been the end of it.
Frightening. There have also been cases where shop owners have gotten a customer's number, thanks to Covid's track and trace rules, and solicited them. For every decent guy who thinks would I want this to happen to my sister, daughter, aunt, mother - there are several more who don't give a damn and who get a kick out of un-nerving women. Despicable.
Did y’all read that Twitter thread about the woman at the D.C. Cambria though? This is crazy.
Just read it, that is f*cking terrifying. I'm glad she is okay.
Load More Replies... Why on earth did she reply to him like that in the beginning? Some guy you don't even know texts you "I'm coming in to see your face, I miss u" an appropriate reply is not "oh lol". Would have told him he's out of line immediately then.
Because a lot of us are programmed to respond in a polite non-threatening manner to men who approach us for fear of angering them and escalating the situation. He has all the power in the situation and he knows it.
Load More Replies... Congrats for winning the YTA award for this comment thread.
Load More Replies... It would be lovely if it worked that way. Rather than retaliation or at best being ignored. Last place I lived the maintainence man felt entitled to enter apartments with no reason or notice. Especially of single women. Took 5 years to get him fired for something unrelated. Complaints were met with retaliation by moving those tenants to last place for maintenance requests and not everyone can up and move. Some things aren't so black and white. Especially if it threatens housing.
Load More Replies... Some of your comments make you sound like you might be a serial killer.
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