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Orphaned Teen Works Two Jobs To Get By, Gets Called A Freeloader By His Brother’s Girlfriend
Interview With ExpertRelationships are rarely simple. At their best, they’re built on shared values, mutual support, and understanding, but sometimes, even the people we love the most can reveal a side of themselves we never expected, especially when life throws in real-world responsibilities.
This is the reality for today’s Original Poster (OP) who’s juggling more responsibility than many adults twice his age. After losing both of their parents, he stepped up to become the legal guardian of his younger brother, but his girlfriend wasn’t happy about it.
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The author has been caring for his teenage brother since their parents passed away, with the brother working multiple jobs to help cover expenses
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His girlfriend now wants to move in without contributing financially, arguing she shouldn’t be charged rent since she’s not a tenant
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She also demands that the brother be asked to leave to give her more space, calling him a “freeloader” despite his efforts and their family situation
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He refused, feeling his brother deserves support, and is conflicted about whether to break up with his girlfriend over her attitude
The OP didn’t blink when life threw him a curveball. After losing both parents to health issues, he became his teenage brother’s full-time guardian. The teen had to switch high schools and relocate, leaving his old life behind to live with the OP.
The OP was sure to note that his brother was a good kid and wasn’t slacking. He works two part-time jobs during the school year and goes full-time in the summer just to stay afloat and save for the future. However, after a year of dating, the OP’s girlfriend decided she wanted to move in.
That’s fair enough, until we find out that said girlfriend insisted on not paying any rent because, in her words, the OP is not her landlord. She then suggested that the younger brother be kicked out so she could have space in the apartment. She went ahead and referred to the OP’s brother as a freeloader despite the fact that he works multiple jobs and contributes what he can.
The OP was quick to draw boundaries, standing firm and letting her know that his brother wasn’t going anywhere. Now, he’s wondering if breaking up with his girlfriend would be an extreme move.
To understand the financial challenges young caregivers face, Bored Panda spoke with financial expert Tofunmi Adeoye, who shed light on the heavy burdens many young adults carry when stepping into caregiving roles unexpectedly.
“Many young caregivers experience a sudden loss of income because they have to reduce work hours or quit their jobs altogether to provide care,” Adeoye stated, explaining that this disruption can derail their savings and career plans.
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She also pointed out that unexpected expenses like medical supplies, transportation, and housing modifications quickly add up, especially when coupled with rent or student loans. Adeoye added that “without adequate insurance or support, these caregivers often juggle too much, which can lead to debt and burnout.”
We then asked how couples should handle finances when one partner refuses to contribute because they’re “not a tenant,” and Adeoye responded that in a committed relationship, expecting to avoid any financial responsibility isn’t reasonable, as sharing a home means sharing costs, whether that’s rent, utilities, or groceries.
She stressed that “financial contributions don’t have to be split 50/50, but the arrangement must feel fair and reflect each partner’s capacity.”
Adeoye also highlighted the importance of open communication. “Couples should discuss their income and expenses honestly and find a system that works, whether that means splitting bills, pooling resources, or contributing in non-monetary ways.”
Finally, we explored how financial compatibility affects relationships over the long haul. She noted, “Money is just as important as emotional connection. Couples aligned on spending and saving habits tend to experience less conflict and more trust.”
However, she warned, “Differing attitudes toward debt, budgeting, or even how the other party spends their money can create lead to tension, especially during major life events like buying a home or raising kids.”
She then emphasized that it’s not about being perfectly matched; what matters is honest, respectful communication and a willingness to compromise. Couples who talk openly about money early on are better equipped to build a resilient partnership that can withstand both love and financial challenges.
Netizens supported the OP, condemning the girlfriend’s attitude and urging him to prioritize his brother. They expressed disbelief at the girlfriend calling the hardworking, underage brother a “freeloader” while expecting to move in rent-free herself. They saw the girlfriend’s demands as selfish and a major red flag, advising the OP to reconsider the relationship.
What do you think about this situation? What would you do if your partner asked you to prioritize them over a close family member? We would love to know your thoughts!
Netizens insisted that the author’s girlfriend’s actions are more than enough grounds for a breakup, to which he mentioned that he had already ended things with her
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sweet emotion 5 months ago
Good for LW. When selfish, manipulative people show you how they are, believe them and remove them from your life.
Janelle Collard 5 months ago (edited)
OMG! GF is freaking delusional + glad OP dumped her nasty a**.
Family's_disappointment 5 months ago (edited)
He sounds like a nice brother. Because a few months back I read a post in reddit where a older brother sent his younger sister to a complete different country (South Korea) to live with their mom, few months after their parents divorce. The father moved on to start his own family and wanted nothing to do with them so all they had each other. Until the brother's girlfriend came in the picture and asked him to send the sister back because apprently she is feeling uncomfortable in the apartment or something related to needing space. (I don't remember properly). But long story short the girl begged her brother to let stay, that she'll get a part time job, won't be back home sooner than bedtime, so that she doesn't disturb them. All she needed was a roof, she will do the cooking too. But the brother didn't care and left her at the airport to go back home all by herself. After reaching she called but he didn't answer any calls. I think so in the end she said now her father and brother are dead to her.
SheamusFanFrom1987 5 months ago (edited)
Let's see: 17-year old who is working 2 jobs outside of school to ease big bros burden after being orphaned VS 21-year old gf who is just planning to freeload and contribute zilch under the guise of being in a relationship... Yup, OP, good to know you dumped the actual freeloader and kept your family going strong. The nerve of the actual freeloading (now ex) gf! SMH!!!
Gene Perry 5 months ago
you "think" that you should break up? Seriously? It doesn't take much thought to ditch the b*tch.
JayWantsACat 5 months ago
Even before her comments about the brother, the fact that she demanded to move but not contribute at all should've been your obvious red flag.
sweet emotion 5 months ago
Good for LW. When selfish, manipulative people show you how they are, believe them and remove them from your life.
Janelle Collard 5 months ago (edited)
OMG! GF is freaking delusional + glad OP dumped her nasty a**.
Family's_disappointment 5 months ago (edited)
He sounds like a nice brother. Because a few months back I read a post in reddit where a older brother sent his younger sister to a complete different country (South Korea) to live with their mom, few months after their parents divorce. The father moved on to start his own family and wanted nothing to do with them so all they had each other. Until the brother's girlfriend came in the picture and asked him to send the sister back because apprently she is feeling uncomfortable in the apartment or something related to needing space. (I don't remember properly). But long story short the girl begged her brother to let stay, that she'll get a part time job, won't be back home sooner than bedtime, so that she doesn't disturb them. All she needed was a roof, she will do the cooking too. But the brother didn't care and left her at the airport to go back home all by herself. After reaching she called but he didn't answer any calls. I think so in the end she said now her father and brother are dead to her.
SheamusFanFrom1987 5 months ago (edited)
Let's see: 17-year old who is working 2 jobs outside of school to ease big bros burden after being orphaned VS 21-year old gf who is just planning to freeload and contribute zilch under the guise of being in a relationship... Yup, OP, good to know you dumped the actual freeloader and kept your family going strong. The nerve of the actual freeloading (now ex) gf! SMH!!!
Gene Perry 5 months ago
you "think" that you should break up? Seriously? It doesn't take much thought to ditch the b*tch.
JayWantsACat 5 months ago
Even before her comments about the brother, the fact that she demanded to move but not contribute at all should've been your obvious red flag.
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