Delusional Guy Lists The Things He Expects For His “Birthday Month” And They Are Ridiculous
Imagine a perfect day: what would it be like for you? Well, it seems like the guy in this story had a very clear vision of it. “He gets to go out with his friends whenever he wants.” “He gets to play with his Xbox for hours on end without his wife interrupting.” I am not just making this up.
These demands come from a post on r/AITA, from a Redditor and wife who announced that “her husband is turning 30 next month” and added that “it’s a big deal to him, clearly.” In fact, saying that the deal was big would be an understatement.
The husband has called the whole month “his birthday month” and created an expectation list that basically cancels his day-to-day responsibilities and enables him to do whatever he wants. The expectations were meant to be made come true by not just anyone, but his wife. So let me just tell you this didn’t sit with her well, and clearly, family drama ensued.
Recently, a woman has shared this “list of expectations” she received from her husband
(not the actual photo)
It turns out he’s turning 30 next month, which he calls “his birthday month,” meaning he expects the special treatment listed above
And this is what people had to comment about the whole situation
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Share on FacebookSo he's basically saying he wants to act like an irresponsible, entitled child for an entire month, just to honor the dubious achievement of being alive for thirty years?? Eh no, not if he wants to make it to 31.
Lmaooo the sass!! xD *wheeze* i swer the way you worded this just lifted my spirits rn. XD dubious achievement of being alive hehehh!!! he took birth-day out of proportion lol
Load More Replies...This list was not written by a man about to turn 30, it was written by a self entitled 11 year old!
Don't throw shade to my fellow middle schoolers lol
Load More Replies...There is no such thing as a "birthday month". Your birthDAY is one day, it's literally in the name. Also, is the OP sure her husnabd is 30? Sounds more like 10.
And, with a few exceptions due to laws, birthdays shouldn't be that big a deal after you move out of your mother's house.
Load More Replies...I can understand the value of gestures and pampering rather than material gifts, and having a responsibility-free day or two sounds great... but a month is just delusional.
Give him the month off . . . by YOU going somewhere WITHOUT him to be SURE he is not interrupted! Leave the kid with him, your parents or his parents, and he can do everything he wants. For all the years you didn't get a birthday treat and all the holidays I'm sure you hosted and cleaned up after -- he can celebrate by himself, which apparently he wants. Don't call home. Don't pack much, travel light. Here’s hoping there is only one vehicle and you need to take it! This way he won't be bothered to fill it up or think about parking. You can make up your own schedule about driving or staying in a nice place -- very little stress on you. And while you're at it, look around at the real world and know you can do better than this guy! If he won't grow up, you have to. Life is too short to be mother to the man . . .
That's putting your child in dangerous condition. For a month. I mean, if she loves her kid and sees that daddy is irresponsible jerk, she wouldn't do that.
Load More Replies...Did anyone else notice that the piece of paper was "not the actual photo?" Sure enough, it's not on the Reddit post. Some BP staff member took the time to write that out and make it look sloppy as hell just to have an appropriate photo of some child's birthday wishlist. I'm impressed.
Load More Replies...Congratulations, big man. You’ve managed to somehow keep yourself alive for thirty years whilst simultaneously being an ignorant and spoiled human!
Nope out on work and the rent xD What is this b.s Tell him to have fun bringing this up with his boss
It's birthday DAY, not month! He's an adult, 30 years old, has a son, his family is struggling financially and he's acting like an entitled brat. He needs to grow up.
My husband also calls it my "birth month" instead of birth day. He does stuff for me that I don't like to do and if I say "but it's my birth month" in a super annoying spoiled brat voice then I don't have to do most things. But it's a game. It's not reality. We laugh hysterically and make jokes the whole time about people who actually do/act that way. (But I still don't end up doing the thing if I really don't wanna) We know some women who behave like this and need pampering for a whole month cuz BIRTHDAY!! Ya. No. I don't put up with that nonsense. The guy in this post isn't joking, right? He's insane! Maybe he should move back in with mommy and daddy if he wants to be such a big baby.
Tell him that he can call the mortgage company/apartment manager and explain that he's turning 30, so he deserves for them to waive their mortgage/rent for the month in honor of his birthday. When they stop laughing, look at him and say, "I told you so."
Wtf is a birthday month? It's not a thing that's what. The clue's in the name, birthDAY
If he were pulling his weight all the time, and he asked for this on his actual birthday, then I would say it wasn't unreasonable. But he's not pulling his weight, according to OP, so even that list on just his birthday is unreasonable.
Exactly. For a day, or a weekend, sure... but a *month*? When he has *kids*?! No. Just no.
Load More Replies...NTA. He is being an infantile brat. Maybe for the month you could treat him as such! Pretend that he is seven for the month and treat him accordingly.
"a-all i want is to not be a father for an entire month, is that so hard?🥺"
He wants to go back to being a kid for a month. Which suggests that he still is. And you don't turn off your children like a tap
He should do that for her birthday month first. If he does it successfully she can return the favour. Doubt he'd make it two days with a child and her not doing the majority of the work
Where tf does people like this come from? Are they for real or a part of some soap opera or something? Its like watching a kid on Sweet 16 throwing a fit over that the car they got was the wrong color.
So she's already working, doing most of the chores, taking care of the kid and paying most of the bills and she only now notices he's her first child and she's being taken advantage off? I'm always sad they don't notice that before they bring a baby into this. This is never going to work out long term.
What is wrong with modern men? Seriously? Getting so sick of these stories of entitled overblown men-children expecting the world on a silver platter whilst having someone wipe their ar*e. Every one of them treats their partner like a slave and breeding cattle - just there to birth his kids, cook his meals and wash his skidmark underwear. Was there a meeting I missed? You guys all get that we're not living in the 1750's anymore, right? To OP, ditch him. He already doesn't respect you, you're just an addendum and doormat in his life. Leave and give him his whole 30th birthday YEAR to himself. If you want to be a di*k, tell him "no problem, but on my birthday month, I get to go out and sleep with as many men as I want". See him change his fuc*ing tune then.
I’ve never understood this. You’re an adult. You sometimes have to work on your birthday. Your children still need cared for on your birthday. You bills don’t care it’s your birthday. The rest of the world doesn’t really care either. Buy yourself a cake and move on.
So basically he wants to act like a f****n child? Speaking of child, if he is complaining about taking care of the one he decided to have then WHY did he have it? Kiddo was definitely an "oops" moment. Big deal you made it to thirty, thirty is 27yrs past the age he is acting. File for divorce and find a real man, because this loser isn't worth anybody time.
Holy. Gawd. This ... person... who wrote this list... is a father... a PARENT... and seriously thought... this list was 'acceptable'...? This has GOT to be a joke.
Since when do spouses each pay half rent? Do they split all bills? When they go out to a restaurant, do they ask for two checks? The problem seems to have started before this bday list.
Sorry that you were stupid and married a "man-child". You have no one to blame but yourself.
The last thing on the list is just the icing on his birthday party. "Don't want to have to deal with any emergencies" He is the emergency. At least you won't have to co-parent after the divorce. Are you nagging him to do his share of chores? This cannot possibly be the first "red flag" If you are doing all the physical, emotional and responsible WORK to be with this man child, think how much better you could breathe without out the responsibility of raising a 30 year old all by yourself. If this isn't the end of the marriage, you are going to have to start saving up for his 40th birthday. That's when most men go through a mid-life crises. This is the wake-up call. Don't be the main character in a horror movie. GET OUT NOW. WHILE THE GETTIN IS GOOD. And put that handwritten list of demands in a safety deposit box. Your biggest responsibility is to meake sure your child doesn't turn out like him.
Ok, it's called birthDAY, right, not birthMONTH or even birthWEEK. I mean, I'm all for spoiling people on the week of their bday, but I mean, that doesn't mean the world revolves around them! If I ever had a partner demanding a month of behaving like a brattish ahole, that relationship would immediately be over
Sorry, but my kids are 6 and 9 and are much more responsible men than this brat. And I bet they did more chores at the age of 3 than him at the age of 30. I never realized how the millennial attitude would translate from work to home, now I know...
“Here’s the list for my birthday month” “PFFT, Hah! Good luck with that”
Get a large bottle of gorilla glue. Glue his arms and fingers down by his side. Glue his legs together. Leave him a bedside toilet so he just needs to make a couple of hops to poop. Let him know he's on his own to take care of his s**t while he spends his month playing his x box. Tell him you will even glue his hands to the controllers!!!
I have to ask... why did she marry this petulant child? Surely she'd be better off with a divorce instead of having to take care of two kids
I'm thinking this is a 20 something and it's time to break up with him, but no, he's a grown man with a child of his own. They are still splitting the rent? He thinks he "deserves" not to have to be a father or a participating adult for a month? Well, however hard she thinks her life is now, I promise, it will be easier when she has removed this dead weight from her life.
Wow, if this is the thing, then for her birthday he'd be cooking 3 times a day full month. "And don't forget darling, i'm not paying my part of rent... ah yeah... kids on you" Can bet he wouldn't like only these three "gifts", not to mention other conditions. As we say... "You like a fun ride? You should learn to like pulling some one's sleigh up the hill too"
Do it!!! En then give him the exactly same list when it's your birthdaymonth
What a great role model for his son. Maybe he should buy himself adult size diapers for the month.
With all of these 'AITA' posts that involve shitty spouses, I always wonder what possessed an intelligent person to marry these people. Like, didn't she see that he was like this? You don't SUDDENLY get to 30 and develop an X-Box habit in preference to your kid. You've always been a gaming addict, and THEN you had a kid. That took two of you. Why is she suddenly surprised that he's like this?
Of course you are being unreasonable! You should cherish him all the time, especially on his birthday month. He won't keep you around for long if you refuse to do things that make him feel special.
Sounds like a win then, because I certainly wouldn't want this person to "keep me around." This better be sarcasm because y'all aren't the hot s**t you think you are.
Load More Replies...Not an asshole but an idiot - why would you have a child with this person, in the first place??
We do a birthday "week" which is similar to this, minus the rent thing (we have joint finances) and the kid thing (no kids). So basically, for a week one person cooks, and the other gets to pick what moves we watch and gets breakfast in bed on days they don't work, and coffee in bed on the others. So yeah, a month of slavery seems extreme
Why are people in reddit so dumb to take a very clear argument to: aM i ThE AsSHolE
This dude has issues. He is ridiculous and very childish. I think if this were my husband , he wouldn't make it to 31!
You chose to marry this man-baby and are shocked by this type of behavior?! So let me get this right: you make more money, tend the home more, and do the raising of the child correct? This makes you the breadwinner and the power ball in the relationship. Period and non-negotiable! (equal means equal input in household and finances people!!). Get a divorce lawyer immediately and give the papers as well as eviction to him for his birthday! I mean it! This behavior is very indicative of some bigger entitlement issue that will get worse without him getting some big consequences and held accountable for them. Seriously what attracted you to marry this guy? Were you pregnant and wanted to "do the family thing for the kid?" Your husband cannot show up as a man, father, or partner and is showing that he won't. End. This. Now!
I think it's agreat idea for a couple to both have such month off (Except if they are born the same month of the year)
I would indulge him, if he offers you the same. I think doing one month ALL chores would be terrifying for him. I guess you are already more than your half, so this could be your chance to have 1 month of going out with your friends, while your husband does ALL the cleaning
Oh hell no. Maybe pick one or two you want to happen on your actual birthday, but all of this for the whole month? Nope.
He wants a break, i get that. But adults and esp parents just don't have that option.
Me and fiance have our birthdays same month. So i guess we're not paying rent at all then lol Birthday week is the most a KID could get, but an adult who has a child and other responsibilities??? His entitlement is just unhinged wow
No one finds it ridiculous that she said that she takes care of the majority of the rent, bills, and internet payments? She's married to a sissy, or a pu*sy is more like it.
OP needs to cancel all the credit cards, close the bank accounts, and lawyer up.
Tell him, "Ok, honey, but your birth month starts on your birthday," then give him the birthday gift of divorce papers. I mean, you're already shouldering most of the work. What do you need this man-child for? He doesn't even pull his weight when it's not his "birthday month."
I wonder what kind of relationship would not allow him to play some Xbox games and spend quality time with his friends...
YTA for still being married to this man and letting him raise your son. I doubt this is his first ridiculous thing he's done. Dump him or live with a terrible human and let your child turn into one.
The danish crown prince arranges royal runs in Denmark at his birthday and runs along in 3-5 cities every year. He started when he turned 50 and only corona stopped it 1 year. That lazy a** can come and join. The royal run is for every body and our Prince activates the danes and his family... Use your birthday to do something for anybody but yourself!
Some people really do these things. That's why I give up on humanity so often.
Load More Replies...I’m looking at the idea of having a birthday month: I have kids, I work, my birthday is in December and my husband’s work goes crazy busy before Christmas. I’m lucky if I get a birthday day to “spoil myself”.
Oh my goodness I cannot breathe I need my inhaler he may as well dig him self a grave
To me it sounds more like he is turning 13. Both Siri and Alexa confuse 30 and 13 all the time too when I set a cooking timer. An understandable mistake. For a silly computer, not for this moron.
What is up with all these women on AITA marrying children. Stop pedophilia and marry men, men who clean, cook, help with child care, and help pay the bills. Women, come on, just stop marrying inferior man-children. Some people are against living together before marriage but I say live with someone for five years before you get married, make sure they do their half of the chores and pay their half of the bills. I don't understand why so many men can't help clean and take care of the kids. I can't understand how women keep marrying men who can't help clean or take care of the kids. Sounds like the guy wants to be single for his birthday and I don't think she should stand in his way. I would welcome him to get a studio apartment and send his child support in the mail.
How OLD is this man??? He makes demands like he's a 14 year old teenager. What a douche bag! Completely childish behavior AND thinking.
If you want your partner to help you feel special, it helps if you DO ALL OF THOSE THINGS FOR YOUR PARTNER FIRST. Then there may be an implied "this is special stuff." (Only maybe). A month is a lot of extra burden on your partner, and a written demand is crass and childish. Doubling down because you're embarrassed doesn't make you look more mature. She is so NTA.
I could deal with 1, 2, and 4. 3 and 5 is where I'd put my foot down. Overall I'm just glad I'm not married.
This has to be one of the most ridiculous things that I've ever heard of. My mother's birthday is the day before mine, so we celebrate together over those two days, but neither of us would demand to give up all responsibilities for an entire month. He sounds so entitled and immature and this can end only one of two ways:either He comes to his senses and forgets this crap or they get divorced and she gets full custody of their son.
He wants a day off....a day to himself, doing his favourite things, the rent is stretching it, but then again, 1 days rent? Woman say they want days like that, why pick on him?
No, he wants an ENTIRE MONTH off - free of all financial and parental responsibilities. Not a day, a MONTH.
Load More Replies...Not an A-hole on not agreeing this list but perhaps a bit on completely dismissing and rejecting the topic without first asking the simple question "why?" List and request of a whole month is way out of the line but just calling the thing ridiculous misses a good place to talk why he feels that way
While that's a mature attitude, I'd think there's not much question. We'd all love a month off our responsibilities. But he also wants to skiop paying rent, taking care of his kids... That's red flags one and two that he wants to be single.
Load More Replies...That list tells you everything you need to know about how their relationship is doing. She's the responsible adult, he's the entitled s**t. She's pulling all the weight and dragging him along. She needs a divorce, that'll be one child less to care for.
Load More Replies...So he's basically saying he wants to act like an irresponsible, entitled child for an entire month, just to honor the dubious achievement of being alive for thirty years?? Eh no, not if he wants to make it to 31.
Lmaooo the sass!! xD *wheeze* i swer the way you worded this just lifted my spirits rn. XD dubious achievement of being alive hehehh!!! he took birth-day out of proportion lol
Load More Replies...This list was not written by a man about to turn 30, it was written by a self entitled 11 year old!
Don't throw shade to my fellow middle schoolers lol
Load More Replies...There is no such thing as a "birthday month". Your birthDAY is one day, it's literally in the name. Also, is the OP sure her husnabd is 30? Sounds more like 10.
And, with a few exceptions due to laws, birthdays shouldn't be that big a deal after you move out of your mother's house.
Load More Replies...I can understand the value of gestures and pampering rather than material gifts, and having a responsibility-free day or two sounds great... but a month is just delusional.
Give him the month off . . . by YOU going somewhere WITHOUT him to be SURE he is not interrupted! Leave the kid with him, your parents or his parents, and he can do everything he wants. For all the years you didn't get a birthday treat and all the holidays I'm sure you hosted and cleaned up after -- he can celebrate by himself, which apparently he wants. Don't call home. Don't pack much, travel light. Here’s hoping there is only one vehicle and you need to take it! This way he won't be bothered to fill it up or think about parking. You can make up your own schedule about driving or staying in a nice place -- very little stress on you. And while you're at it, look around at the real world and know you can do better than this guy! If he won't grow up, you have to. Life is too short to be mother to the man . . .
That's putting your child in dangerous condition. For a month. I mean, if she loves her kid and sees that daddy is irresponsible jerk, she wouldn't do that.
Load More Replies...Did anyone else notice that the piece of paper was "not the actual photo?" Sure enough, it's not on the Reddit post. Some BP staff member took the time to write that out and make it look sloppy as hell just to have an appropriate photo of some child's birthday wishlist. I'm impressed.
Load More Replies...Congratulations, big man. You’ve managed to somehow keep yourself alive for thirty years whilst simultaneously being an ignorant and spoiled human!
Nope out on work and the rent xD What is this b.s Tell him to have fun bringing this up with his boss
It's birthday DAY, not month! He's an adult, 30 years old, has a son, his family is struggling financially and he's acting like an entitled brat. He needs to grow up.
My husband also calls it my "birth month" instead of birth day. He does stuff for me that I don't like to do and if I say "but it's my birth month" in a super annoying spoiled brat voice then I don't have to do most things. But it's a game. It's not reality. We laugh hysterically and make jokes the whole time about people who actually do/act that way. (But I still don't end up doing the thing if I really don't wanna) We know some women who behave like this and need pampering for a whole month cuz BIRTHDAY!! Ya. No. I don't put up with that nonsense. The guy in this post isn't joking, right? He's insane! Maybe he should move back in with mommy and daddy if he wants to be such a big baby.
Tell him that he can call the mortgage company/apartment manager and explain that he's turning 30, so he deserves for them to waive their mortgage/rent for the month in honor of his birthday. When they stop laughing, look at him and say, "I told you so."
Wtf is a birthday month? It's not a thing that's what. The clue's in the name, birthDAY
If he were pulling his weight all the time, and he asked for this on his actual birthday, then I would say it wasn't unreasonable. But he's not pulling his weight, according to OP, so even that list on just his birthday is unreasonable.
Exactly. For a day, or a weekend, sure... but a *month*? When he has *kids*?! No. Just no.
Load More Replies...NTA. He is being an infantile brat. Maybe for the month you could treat him as such! Pretend that he is seven for the month and treat him accordingly.
"a-all i want is to not be a father for an entire month, is that so hard?🥺"
He wants to go back to being a kid for a month. Which suggests that he still is. And you don't turn off your children like a tap
He should do that for her birthday month first. If he does it successfully she can return the favour. Doubt he'd make it two days with a child and her not doing the majority of the work
Where tf does people like this come from? Are they for real or a part of some soap opera or something? Its like watching a kid on Sweet 16 throwing a fit over that the car they got was the wrong color.
So she's already working, doing most of the chores, taking care of the kid and paying most of the bills and she only now notices he's her first child and she's being taken advantage off? I'm always sad they don't notice that before they bring a baby into this. This is never going to work out long term.
What is wrong with modern men? Seriously? Getting so sick of these stories of entitled overblown men-children expecting the world on a silver platter whilst having someone wipe their ar*e. Every one of them treats their partner like a slave and breeding cattle - just there to birth his kids, cook his meals and wash his skidmark underwear. Was there a meeting I missed? You guys all get that we're not living in the 1750's anymore, right? To OP, ditch him. He already doesn't respect you, you're just an addendum and doormat in his life. Leave and give him his whole 30th birthday YEAR to himself. If you want to be a di*k, tell him "no problem, but on my birthday month, I get to go out and sleep with as many men as I want". See him change his fuc*ing tune then.
I’ve never understood this. You’re an adult. You sometimes have to work on your birthday. Your children still need cared for on your birthday. You bills don’t care it’s your birthday. The rest of the world doesn’t really care either. Buy yourself a cake and move on.
So basically he wants to act like a f****n child? Speaking of child, if he is complaining about taking care of the one he decided to have then WHY did he have it? Kiddo was definitely an "oops" moment. Big deal you made it to thirty, thirty is 27yrs past the age he is acting. File for divorce and find a real man, because this loser isn't worth anybody time.
Holy. Gawd. This ... person... who wrote this list... is a father... a PARENT... and seriously thought... this list was 'acceptable'...? This has GOT to be a joke.
Since when do spouses each pay half rent? Do they split all bills? When they go out to a restaurant, do they ask for two checks? The problem seems to have started before this bday list.
Sorry that you were stupid and married a "man-child". You have no one to blame but yourself.
The last thing on the list is just the icing on his birthday party. "Don't want to have to deal with any emergencies" He is the emergency. At least you won't have to co-parent after the divorce. Are you nagging him to do his share of chores? This cannot possibly be the first "red flag" If you are doing all the physical, emotional and responsible WORK to be with this man child, think how much better you could breathe without out the responsibility of raising a 30 year old all by yourself. If this isn't the end of the marriage, you are going to have to start saving up for his 40th birthday. That's when most men go through a mid-life crises. This is the wake-up call. Don't be the main character in a horror movie. GET OUT NOW. WHILE THE GETTIN IS GOOD. And put that handwritten list of demands in a safety deposit box. Your biggest responsibility is to meake sure your child doesn't turn out like him.
Ok, it's called birthDAY, right, not birthMONTH or even birthWEEK. I mean, I'm all for spoiling people on the week of their bday, but I mean, that doesn't mean the world revolves around them! If I ever had a partner demanding a month of behaving like a brattish ahole, that relationship would immediately be over
Sorry, but my kids are 6 and 9 and are much more responsible men than this brat. And I bet they did more chores at the age of 3 than him at the age of 30. I never realized how the millennial attitude would translate from work to home, now I know...
“Here’s the list for my birthday month” “PFFT, Hah! Good luck with that”
Get a large bottle of gorilla glue. Glue his arms and fingers down by his side. Glue his legs together. Leave him a bedside toilet so he just needs to make a couple of hops to poop. Let him know he's on his own to take care of his s**t while he spends his month playing his x box. Tell him you will even glue his hands to the controllers!!!
I have to ask... why did she marry this petulant child? Surely she'd be better off with a divorce instead of having to take care of two kids
I'm thinking this is a 20 something and it's time to break up with him, but no, he's a grown man with a child of his own. They are still splitting the rent? He thinks he "deserves" not to have to be a father or a participating adult for a month? Well, however hard she thinks her life is now, I promise, it will be easier when she has removed this dead weight from her life.
Wow, if this is the thing, then for her birthday he'd be cooking 3 times a day full month. "And don't forget darling, i'm not paying my part of rent... ah yeah... kids on you" Can bet he wouldn't like only these three "gifts", not to mention other conditions. As we say... "You like a fun ride? You should learn to like pulling some one's sleigh up the hill too"
Do it!!! En then give him the exactly same list when it's your birthdaymonth
What a great role model for his son. Maybe he should buy himself adult size diapers for the month.
With all of these 'AITA' posts that involve shitty spouses, I always wonder what possessed an intelligent person to marry these people. Like, didn't she see that he was like this? You don't SUDDENLY get to 30 and develop an X-Box habit in preference to your kid. You've always been a gaming addict, and THEN you had a kid. That took two of you. Why is she suddenly surprised that he's like this?
Of course you are being unreasonable! You should cherish him all the time, especially on his birthday month. He won't keep you around for long if you refuse to do things that make him feel special.
Sounds like a win then, because I certainly wouldn't want this person to "keep me around." This better be sarcasm because y'all aren't the hot s**t you think you are.
Load More Replies...Not an asshole but an idiot - why would you have a child with this person, in the first place??
We do a birthday "week" which is similar to this, minus the rent thing (we have joint finances) and the kid thing (no kids). So basically, for a week one person cooks, and the other gets to pick what moves we watch and gets breakfast in bed on days they don't work, and coffee in bed on the others. So yeah, a month of slavery seems extreme
Why are people in reddit so dumb to take a very clear argument to: aM i ThE AsSHolE
This dude has issues. He is ridiculous and very childish. I think if this were my husband , he wouldn't make it to 31!
You chose to marry this man-baby and are shocked by this type of behavior?! So let me get this right: you make more money, tend the home more, and do the raising of the child correct? This makes you the breadwinner and the power ball in the relationship. Period and non-negotiable! (equal means equal input in household and finances people!!). Get a divorce lawyer immediately and give the papers as well as eviction to him for his birthday! I mean it! This behavior is very indicative of some bigger entitlement issue that will get worse without him getting some big consequences and held accountable for them. Seriously what attracted you to marry this guy? Were you pregnant and wanted to "do the family thing for the kid?" Your husband cannot show up as a man, father, or partner and is showing that he won't. End. This. Now!
I think it's agreat idea for a couple to both have such month off (Except if they are born the same month of the year)
I would indulge him, if he offers you the same. I think doing one month ALL chores would be terrifying for him. I guess you are already more than your half, so this could be your chance to have 1 month of going out with your friends, while your husband does ALL the cleaning
Oh hell no. Maybe pick one or two you want to happen on your actual birthday, but all of this for the whole month? Nope.
He wants a break, i get that. But adults and esp parents just don't have that option.
Me and fiance have our birthdays same month. So i guess we're not paying rent at all then lol Birthday week is the most a KID could get, but an adult who has a child and other responsibilities??? His entitlement is just unhinged wow
No one finds it ridiculous that she said that she takes care of the majority of the rent, bills, and internet payments? She's married to a sissy, or a pu*sy is more like it.
OP needs to cancel all the credit cards, close the bank accounts, and lawyer up.
Tell him, "Ok, honey, but your birth month starts on your birthday," then give him the birthday gift of divorce papers. I mean, you're already shouldering most of the work. What do you need this man-child for? He doesn't even pull his weight when it's not his "birthday month."
I wonder what kind of relationship would not allow him to play some Xbox games and spend quality time with his friends...
YTA for still being married to this man and letting him raise your son. I doubt this is his first ridiculous thing he's done. Dump him or live with a terrible human and let your child turn into one.
The danish crown prince arranges royal runs in Denmark at his birthday and runs along in 3-5 cities every year. He started when he turned 50 and only corona stopped it 1 year. That lazy a** can come and join. The royal run is for every body and our Prince activates the danes and his family... Use your birthday to do something for anybody but yourself!
Some people really do these things. That's why I give up on humanity so often.
Load More Replies...I’m looking at the idea of having a birthday month: I have kids, I work, my birthday is in December and my husband’s work goes crazy busy before Christmas. I’m lucky if I get a birthday day to “spoil myself”.
Oh my goodness I cannot breathe I need my inhaler he may as well dig him self a grave
To me it sounds more like he is turning 13. Both Siri and Alexa confuse 30 and 13 all the time too when I set a cooking timer. An understandable mistake. For a silly computer, not for this moron.
What is up with all these women on AITA marrying children. Stop pedophilia and marry men, men who clean, cook, help with child care, and help pay the bills. Women, come on, just stop marrying inferior man-children. Some people are against living together before marriage but I say live with someone for five years before you get married, make sure they do their half of the chores and pay their half of the bills. I don't understand why so many men can't help clean and take care of the kids. I can't understand how women keep marrying men who can't help clean or take care of the kids. Sounds like the guy wants to be single for his birthday and I don't think she should stand in his way. I would welcome him to get a studio apartment and send his child support in the mail.
How OLD is this man??? He makes demands like he's a 14 year old teenager. What a douche bag! Completely childish behavior AND thinking.
If you want your partner to help you feel special, it helps if you DO ALL OF THOSE THINGS FOR YOUR PARTNER FIRST. Then there may be an implied "this is special stuff." (Only maybe). A month is a lot of extra burden on your partner, and a written demand is crass and childish. Doubling down because you're embarrassed doesn't make you look more mature. She is so NTA.
I could deal with 1, 2, and 4. 3 and 5 is where I'd put my foot down. Overall I'm just glad I'm not married.
This has to be one of the most ridiculous things that I've ever heard of. My mother's birthday is the day before mine, so we celebrate together over those two days, but neither of us would demand to give up all responsibilities for an entire month. He sounds so entitled and immature and this can end only one of two ways:either He comes to his senses and forgets this crap or they get divorced and she gets full custody of their son.
He wants a day off....a day to himself, doing his favourite things, the rent is stretching it, but then again, 1 days rent? Woman say they want days like that, why pick on him?
No, he wants an ENTIRE MONTH off - free of all financial and parental responsibilities. Not a day, a MONTH.
Load More Replies...Not an A-hole on not agreeing this list but perhaps a bit on completely dismissing and rejecting the topic without first asking the simple question "why?" List and request of a whole month is way out of the line but just calling the thing ridiculous misses a good place to talk why he feels that way
While that's a mature attitude, I'd think there's not much question. We'd all love a month off our responsibilities. But he also wants to skiop paying rent, taking care of his kids... That's red flags one and two that he wants to be single.
Load More Replies...That list tells you everything you need to know about how their relationship is doing. She's the responsible adult, he's the entitled s**t. She's pulling all the weight and dragging him along. She needs a divorce, that'll be one child less to care for.
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