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Dad Is Planning To Leave An Equal Inheritance To His Two Adult Kids And Now Teenage Stepson, His Kids Get Upset And The Internet Is On Their Side

Dad Is Planning To Leave An Equal Inheritance To His Two Adult Kids And Now Teenage Stepson, His Kids Get Upset And The Internet Is On Their Side

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Few things are as messy as inheritances. In fact, if there are problems in a family, it’s quite likely everything will be messy from that point on.

But, believe it or not, it’s not just about greed. Sometimes, it’s about fairness, or even justice. Money per se is not the destination, but rather a means, or mayhaps a complication, in the whole scheme of things.

This is exemplified in a recent Am I The A-Hole story posted by a father who thought dividing up the inheritance equally would be the best thing for everyone. But, alas, it ended in family drama.

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Few things are as messy as inheritances, but it’s not always about money—but rather about fairness and respect

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So, a 62-year-old dad of 2, biologically speaking, adult children—both in their early 30s—and a stepdad to another kid, a 12-year-old boy, has recently approached the Am I The A-Hole community for some perspective.

You see, OP admits he wasn’t the best father figure with his 2 biological kids. Growing up, he would often prioritize work over family—having your own business demands certain sacrifices. So, their relationship was anything but a good one. It got better when the kids became adults, but you can bet there is some issue there, especially given that entrepreneurship had its ups and downs, begging the question “was it worth it?”

His relationship with his stepson, on the other hand, is great. And while 4 years later, it’s still not at the stage of “being a dad” to him just yet, being “a close uncle” seems like a win in his book for now.

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A dad recently visited the AITA community to find out if giving equal parts of his inheritance to his kids was the right thing to do

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Given this context, OP started thinking more about his will. He had an idea to split his inheritance equally among his kids as follows: leaving about 60% of his assets to all three kids, each getting 20%. The wife will get about 30%. The business he has will be going to his biological kids, unless his wife or stepson decide to get involved in the future, but his biological kids would get majority stakes either way.

Having always prioritized his business, his biological kids felt it unfair that the stepson, who has been there just 4 years, is elevated to the same level as his actual kids

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Seems fair, right? Well, no, because there’s more nuance to that. Remember how we mentioned him admitting that he wasn’t the best of dads? His biological kids claim that they had to grow up with a “cold, emotionally and physically distant or unavailable father” who was too busy with the business so he could bring food to the table.

Later on, OP gave specific numbers on what the inheritance looked like, with 60% of being split into equal parts among the 3 kids

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They went on to say that, unlike them, the stepson now sees the dad as a new person, one who doesn’t work as much, and they can all enjoy their luxurious life because the business is booming. But that is exactly the problem—this kid always got the good side of things.

It seems that it wasn’t about the money here—it was about reconciling relationships and being fair. Throughout the post, the dad acknowledged several times that he understood his biological children’s concerns and reasoning. Still, he felt like sharing it with the AITA community.

And they sided with his biological kids, you can say.

The community sided with the biological children, for a number of reasons, but mostly because it was surely unfair given the context

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Folks online certainly saw the unfairness of the situation. Not only was it on a chronological degree, whereby his biological kids have spent their entire lives with the dad, and the stepson has only been in the picture for 4 years, but also considering how much different he was as a father figure to them versus the stepson.

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Most agreed that while it is a nice gesture to include the stepson in the inheritance, he shouldn’t be considered an equal in it. Not now, at least. If he was to leave it equal, it would mean he’s “elevating” the stepson to a level equal to his actual children, and that is, if anything, disrespectful towards the kids.

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The overall consensus was YTA, or you’re the a-hole, aimed at OP. An edit was also added to the post, whereby OP elaborated on how the will was originally planned out, and how he was reconsidering this whole deal.

You can read through the post in context here, and also have a go at some of our other AITA coverage here, here, and here. But don’t go just yet as we have a lot of questions for you, the most important of which is what are your thoughts on this? Let us know in the comment section below!

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad doesn't owe any of his kids anything. He could leave 100% to the local animal rescue if he wants! At least until the stepson is 18, stepdad should do his best to make sure his wife and her child aren't out in the cold if he dies suddenly. Yeah, that means the 30-somethings don't get the house. Assuming they're not currently homeless, they don't need it. Giving the wife and/or stepson a share of the business means they can afford to keep the electricity on. Bio kids are being selfish.

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Jo V.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omfg I was just wondering if I was the only one getting annoyed with everyone calling the dad the Ahole when his kids sound super entitled to something they didn't work for.

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WonderWoman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP owes his children NOTHING. That his bio children are *upset* and think $$ is warranted due to his earlier behavior is ridiculous and indicates that they are only involved for a payout. I hope OP leaves his entire estate to whomever he wants as he wants and not to be influenced by his greedy, selfish children.

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ItsJess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah tbh I think the biochildren are the AH in this scenario-greedy, entitled, and selfish. It's ok to feel like their stepbrother is not part of their family- he came into their lives when they were adults with loves of their own. But if OP feels compelled to provide for a child with whom he hopes to have a parental relationship, that's his business (and imo a lovely thing to do). How will the stepson feel if one day he finds out that the man he has come to regard as a father doesnt see him as equal to his biological children? I think OP sounds like a compassionate person who has recognized his new familial situation as a chance to grow and do better- he has the maturity and hindsight to see where he was lacking as a dad and to right that wrong. His adult biological children sound jealous and grabby. They are the AH in this situation. For context, I have a large family of steps and we have always regarded each other on equal footing- loving and making each other crazy equally.

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LFish
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA 1. You are asking this BEFORE making the will. Thinking it through with sounding boards and intent is not an a.h. move. 2. I don't understand the common mentality that the inheritor should decide what's fair. It is in fact your money that you can do whatever you want with. You can donate it all to charity, give it to your dog, whatever you please. You need to do what feels right to you. The rest isn't really anybody else's business.

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To Be Continued
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thinking that way will cause emotional harm to the inheritors.... Theyve a right to something if nothing more than a pen or $10 to buy a pen. Saying hey i dont owe u anything says hey i dont cherish anything about what youve been to me in my life. Its up to the inheritor to say "thats ok, i appreciate it but i dont need any of this"

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KC Anderson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beth said exactly the truth. So yeah the kids had a $h!t dad growing up and he owns it. The fact they are getting SO worked up Over the amount of their inheritance makes me wonder if they stuck around to make sure they collected after he dies and not really to have a relationship. So your step brother gets an equal share. So what!!! The fact you are getting an inheritance is something most kids will never see. And that you are getting pissed and holding on to it again tells me the $$ is a bigger factor in your keeping a relationship with the father then if his business had failed or was so so and there want any $$ when he died. NTA. Not only do they get to get paid and it sounds quite handsomely when their father dies, they also get to take over majority stake in his company that by all accounts is making a lot of $$ so their inheritance goes beyond the $$ on the bank but if they are willing to work for it, it’s even more money from a successful business.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're getting so worked up over it BECAUSE after DECADES of being ignored, cheated out of childhood memories, (and barely getting by financially so they have money anxieties) PLUS putting in the physical & emotional work of establishing an adult relationship with their jerk of a father HE turns around and tosses it back in their faces by focusing that love (that they believe should be theirs by right) and gives it to a kid that HE barely knows! This is far more than a money issue~~the fact that it's about inheritance is a language that their *cough* 'father' can recognize. The stepped HAS both a Father & Mother. Kid can get his support (love & finance) through them. DAD is trying to buy affection from the kid on the cheap.

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Vira
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is one of those times where crowd-sourcing a judgment goes horribly wrong. Step-kids are still your children. Loving a person shouldn't have a time-requirement. I know that knowing someone for a certain amount of time is important, before changing a will, but 4+ years is plenty to include someone in a will. I think this whole thing where people over-value blood-relation clouds actual love, and loyalty. I imagine that step-kid would wonder for the rest of his life if his step-dad actually loved him, if he were treated as a second-class family member in the will. It would be a second blow to a kid who already had a terrible biological father growing up. Equal shares is fair, if the father cares about the kids equally. I think the bio kids stuck around for the money.

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JMil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bio-kids the AH's. It sounds like they will get a huge windfall of inheritance, yet they want X% more or it is unfair. Also, not enough emphasis on this: the bio kids get the business!!! A successful business, that brings in residual income year after year after year is worth much more than a slightly higher % upfront (exact numbers unknown, but this is what I gather, could be off depending on size of inheritance and amount of residual income).

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Debbie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. What if his business fails and he has nothing left... Did he mention to his bio kids that they get the business, and that is maybe worth more than 20% of the rest of the inheritance... So they don't get the same as the stepson.

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MiriPanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Second suggestion seems reasonable. Those saying the bio kids are just in it for the money forget that the first draft is just another slap in the face from a distant father whose business they helped to grow nevertheless. Also, stepson has another father from whom he might inherit. Ironically the wife could also be accused of being "just after the money" by marrying a much older, wealthy man to secure hers and her sons financial future, but no...

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those kids didn't *help* any business grow. I'm sure their childhoods were negatively impacted by him focusing on the business, but there's tons of kids who have a similar experience because a parent had a gambling or substance problem, or worked really hard for an unsuccessful business, or had to work long hours at low wages with no equity in a business. Cash after he's gone isn't going to get him to their 4th grade play. Cash today won't either. The two issues need to be separate if the adult kids are going to form a healthy relationship with their father.

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Dagnirath
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that dad doesn't owe anyone anything, but at the same time the comment about bio kids losing our when dad takes up a new family resonates with me. My grandpa married a widow with 4 kids. He died first, and after she passed her will divided all of both their assets among her kids with no provisions for my dad and aunt. In this situation I would divide it evenly and each time someone whines about it they get a little less.

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Mary Bricklin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is he the AH?? I don't get it. He'd be the AH if he were planning on giving his stepson more than his bio kids but he isn't.

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Eric Yoder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MAGA we own the world and your wallet, rent free people I'm taking it. Otherwise I don't see how he could possibly be an a*****e by giving them something. It sounds like his children need medications. I can only imagine how these two treat others

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Vally Dover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally disagree with most of ya'll. The point is is the guy an A-hole for what he's doing, not is he allowed to do it. I'm allowed to do what I want with my money but how I use it could still be a-hole-ish. I dont think the kids are entitled by saying that they don't think the brand-new step kid should get the same amount as they are. Their points are valid and their anger is valid. Negating it by calling them entitled because they are hurt yet again by this terrible excuse of a father displays a significant lack of empathy. The dad barely knows the kid, the kid doesn't think of him as a father, and he'll inherit the moms half anyway. I would be resentful in their place as well. True, dad doesn't technically owe them, but that doesnt mean it's not hurtful. The terrible father then goes on the internet to reveal what they said in private in the heat of the moment - for the consumption and critique of millions of people who don't know the situation or the emotions attached.

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the commenters on that site are assholes themselves. First of all it's his money and he can divide it up as he sees fit. His two bio children are adults and they need to quit whining. They're lucky they're even in the will. As far as being an absentee father because he was working so hard at building a business that's leaving them such a great inheritance anyway? There wouldn't be an inheritance if he didn't put as much of his work into the business in the first place. If he wants to support his stepson he has every right to do so and for the poster that called his stepson some random kid? the hell with that guy. Just because his current wife is his second wife that doesn't make her a trophy wife so whoever said that is an A*****E too.

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Misty Moon
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a loathed step-child, I can honestly say that the OP even considering to leave anything to his stepson is a very honorable and non-a.hole thing to do. I do understand the bio kids feeling they earned more but, in actuality there is no amount of money that can fix the past. They should be so lucky to recieve any inheritance and should be proud to have a father whom admits his shortfalls as a parent and who has it in his heart to want and work for a healthy relationship with his stepson. Lastly, I agree with whoever stated this: discussing the inheritance with his bio children before making it legal is not something an a.hole would do.

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Tandi Parent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry; but, since when is there a rule or law that says that he HAS to leave his petty ungrateful adult kids, who I'd guess at their ages have their own lives now, anything at all?!?

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The critical thing is he wants to "do right" by his stepson, that is being a responsible stepparent. He gave the kid his name to INCLUDE him as a family member, the kid is not a foster child after all. The bio kids need to grow up and let their father make his own choices.

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Bob Cakin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK... I am extremely annoyed with that subreddit's response to this. I thought we were over the "not even your real kid" argument by now... but I guess f*****g not! Adopted kids are REAL kids you assholes! And their argumentation for why it's unfair is akin to boomer's argumentation against forgiving student loans: "I had to suffer so everyone after me should suffer too". Yeah... he wasn't a great dad when you were young... why are you trying to make it so that he won't be a great dad to his new kid? Why are you trying to take away something from a kid just because you didn't have it growing up? It's complete b******t and it just reminds me of that trolley meme: "You can save the people tied up on the tracks by stopping the trolley at any time but that wouldn't be fair to the people the trolley has already run over". Grow up people! Being "fair" is just going to make it so that NOTHING ever changes for the better!

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kid isn't adopted. HE HAS both parents~~he isn't Oliver Twist, FFS! When you are robbed of parental affection for decades, THEN finally start making progress on what you believe is a mutually loving, respected relationship only to be sidelined by a new kid who doesn't have that knowledge of the parent's tarnished character? I suspect you'd be bitter, too! In the end, our society has made it so our inheritances are the measure of how much our parents loved us. The dad better do some more hard, FAIR thinking before he signs his newest will.

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Tash
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First time I haven't agreed with the majority on this kind of post. I think its lovely that he's including his step child and no one is actually entitled to get their parents money anyway. I personally agree that he should ensure that the stepson doesnt get more than the bio children but at the end of the day, its his money.

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Chris Winchester
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dads money is dads money and he can do with it as he pleases. No one is entitled to anything. Everyone seems like whiney little spots here. If the bio kids worked on getting dads business going they should get more. I dont get it sometimes. If I was the dad I would just spend as much money on my kids as I could now. I told my dad to spend all of his money before he died. He got close. Made my sons, himself and a boatload of people happy by giving to charities,his grandkids and whatever else he wanted to.

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Disinterested Panda
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've said it before and I'll say it again your parents owe you absolutely nothing. Once you hit adulthood, whatever else your relationship was, they don't owe you a damn cent of *their* money. Adults should not behave like this. If the man wants to divide his wealth equally, he should. Or are the kids now saying that there's a price tag to their childhood? And since people are arguing on the "they made your wealth" front... He's already giving them the business. That probably includes it's assets and profits. He's not the a****le. And all 3 of them need to go to therapy.

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Liesl English
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it hard to believe not a single person on the original post thought the kids were the assholes. His step son is a human and is part of the family. The fact they think they are owed compensation for a crappy childhood is weird and gross.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be on the receiving end of that 'parental' behavior and see how you feel.

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Vicki Mathison
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad does get to do what he wants with his money but i understand them being mad since he obviously is giving this kid more time and love. Maybe they would care less if you manned uped about being a s**t dad and tried to make up for loss time.

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Edel Codd
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but ill-advised. First off, he said he was considering the even split, not that he'd formalised it. Based on his post, it sounds like it was a spontaneous comment. It's good he's giving the issue thought, because his original will is currently disastrous. The kids, however, ATA, because they seem to feel entitled. He doesn't owe them anything. Being a hard working, struggling dad is nothing to be apologetic about.

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J Matz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of the YTA people are the real A's, it's his choice. At this point, I'd even consider lying to bio kids and saying ok fine, stepson is out. Let them hate me when I'm dead, who cares, they sound like entitled brats

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Tina Newman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd leave the older kids out completely. I'd leave it all to the stepson. They are ungrateful turds who don't understand that he does not owe them an inheritance.

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Megan Johnson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this Jay Pritchett from Modern Family? This sounds like Modern Family.

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Proverb Woman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A shocking 80% of all millionaires received zip, nada, nothing from anyone in terms of an inheritance. It's hard for me to hear grown adults complain and whine about what they are "owed". Pressing and punishing your parents while they live about what they had better give you (of THEIR hard earned assets) when they're dead seems incredibly self centered. BUT I understand that this is about something deeper than cash. Their hurt and rejection from their father obviously still lingers and family counseling would really help them all!!

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Melissa Camus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta. I got more upset reading the yta than anything. I do think he needs to rethink the portions because if he leaves 35% to his wife and 20% to his step son his bio kids do seem to get the short end of the stick. When his wife dies she's leaving her to her son so step son would end up with 55% while bio kids only get 40%.... that seems kinda off to me. However that being said it's his money and his decision. The fact that his kids got upset just shows that his bio kids don't treat their step brother like family and are jealous of him which really annoys me.

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Jake Wheeler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bio kids get the business. Plus 1/5 of all the money. That's fine. Follow your heart.

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Miah Shawn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for the bio kids and stepson. Must be really shitty to have hot garbage for a father.

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R Lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nvm this story. What if your dad only leaves the entire inheritance to a swindling daughter that manipulated her way to get 100%. I have talked about it to my dad and he is afraid to confront my sister. So now I am completely out and my sister takes all. And the best if this story, my sister's husband is CEO for a large Canadian Insurance company. I am 62 years old and still struggling while helping my dad every day! Our dad is 89 years old and can no longer care for himself and my sister hasn't seen him in years.

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To Be Continued
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA. I agree with the ones stating the unfairness to the biokids. They could ir could not be there for a payout. Doesnt matter he should HAVE to reconcile his behavior at the very least for the fact they had to in the manly way take care of themselves as children. The stepson i think should get a share of the business a small share as well as the wife. She should get the house and personal items 5% of the money and the rest should go to the biokids. Period. Theyre not selfish, Theyre hurt. Theyre looked over and what theyve been through as ignored children shouldnt go unrectified. Especially since theyve helped out

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Elliot Eden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man f**k all these YTA people. Entitled bio children clearly don't see the step-son as an actual addition to the family, which he is. A good suggestion I saw though was making a college funding account, or hell, paying for his college in general. I think that could be a good compromise if needed.

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Zed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA step or adopted children should be treated the same as Biological any thing less would make YTA

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Carrie-ann Dyson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow pretty selfish of his bio kids. I think that's great of the dad. Go dad go. We'll done for being a good father

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Soccer237
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reading comments about him NTA down here made me feel better cause I don’t believe he is TA. I feel like this is kind of a now one situation because if he doesn’t include step son in the will people will be pissed and if he does (as we can see) people get pissed. But being a kid who grew up with a distant dad I don’t think he’s TA. He’s totally in the right to do what he wants with his money

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Ophelia Payne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. You owe child support until 18. That's all! Nothing stopping them making their own money. Spoiled, selfish and entitled. Stepson didn't choose him either. Your money, do what you want

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also it sounds to me like his biological kids went and made sure to develop a relationship with him so they would be left in the will. They're proving it by acting like they deserve his money. I think that he should leave it exactly the way he intended and end the subject right there. If his bio kids have a problem with it then he can just leave them out of the will altogether.

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Eric Yoder
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This dad owes the little pr*cks nothing. They should feel lucky they're even getting ANYTHING after showing their true colors during an event such as this. These kids have no rights. What the OP owns IS HIS! If he wants to split it, he can do so. If I were him I would IMMEDIATELY remove them from the will and make the step child the sole inheritor. Make it clear to the attorney that he atm is in sound mind and that they cannot take it to court after he dies. They deserve nothing. Maybe if the rent free Republicans got off their butts and got jobs....

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ariana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why are there so many "YTA" of course NTA he does not owe his kids anything its inky logical to include your step-son. thats pretty greedy for the kids to be mad that they arent getting half

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Sydneywhite
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What shitty bio kids. You are owed no inheritance. My auntie recently told me she wanted to save as much of her money to split amongst myself and brother, I told her to screw that idea and spend every cent on whatever she wants if there's stuff she could do with it that would make her happy. Inheritance is a nice gesture, but in no way something owed to you, even if you saw you dad as being a shitty parent and it somehow makes you owed something.

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Chris Winchester
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was saving money for my brother and I when he died. I told him to stuff that and spend every freaking penny he had. He had a really good last three years of his life. We were left a good chunk in his will but that will never replace the joy he had just spending on whatever he wanted. He got the most expensive car he could afford and wanted. He ate out a lot. Got stuff for his grandkids and my brother and I. Good times.

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Cecily Holland
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO AN INHERITANCE! Just put that in big capital letter for the people who are self entitled enough to think that they are.

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Joe calbery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The father is being less than honest with himself if he is treating the stepson as an equal to the 2 "bios". The last revision he mentioned sounded fair 30% to each "bio", 25% to trophy wife, and 10% to the "do over" child, also the business goes to the "bios", I would add that the wife gets the house, but even though I offered, the father said he didn't need my help to write his will... His loss.

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michael spivey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad can never be a FATHER to a non biological CHILD! His actions wouldwarrant as the WORLD puts it DADDY figure! FATHER'S help birth a child and an only if he stays in that's child's life is he the NATURAL FATHER. OTHERWISE DADDY OR STEP DAD. Their is ALOT of misrepresentation out here for as roles and titles.

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad doesn't owe any of his kids anything. He could leave 100% to the local animal rescue if he wants! At least until the stepson is 18, stepdad should do his best to make sure his wife and her child aren't out in the cold if he dies suddenly. Yeah, that means the 30-somethings don't get the house. Assuming they're not currently homeless, they don't need it. Giving the wife and/or stepson a share of the business means they can afford to keep the electricity on. Bio kids are being selfish.

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Jo V.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omfg I was just wondering if I was the only one getting annoyed with everyone calling the dad the Ahole when his kids sound super entitled to something they didn't work for.

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WonderWoman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP owes his children NOTHING. That his bio children are *upset* and think $$ is warranted due to his earlier behavior is ridiculous and indicates that they are only involved for a payout. I hope OP leaves his entire estate to whomever he wants as he wants and not to be influenced by his greedy, selfish children.

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ItsJess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah tbh I think the biochildren are the AH in this scenario-greedy, entitled, and selfish. It's ok to feel like their stepbrother is not part of their family- he came into their lives when they were adults with loves of their own. But if OP feels compelled to provide for a child with whom he hopes to have a parental relationship, that's his business (and imo a lovely thing to do). How will the stepson feel if one day he finds out that the man he has come to regard as a father doesnt see him as equal to his biological children? I think OP sounds like a compassionate person who has recognized his new familial situation as a chance to grow and do better- he has the maturity and hindsight to see where he was lacking as a dad and to right that wrong. His adult biological children sound jealous and grabby. They are the AH in this situation. For context, I have a large family of steps and we have always regarded each other on equal footing- loving and making each other crazy equally.

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LFish
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA 1. You are asking this BEFORE making the will. Thinking it through with sounding boards and intent is not an a.h. move. 2. I don't understand the common mentality that the inheritor should decide what's fair. It is in fact your money that you can do whatever you want with. You can donate it all to charity, give it to your dog, whatever you please. You need to do what feels right to you. The rest isn't really anybody else's business.

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To Be Continued
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thinking that way will cause emotional harm to the inheritors.... Theyve a right to something if nothing more than a pen or $10 to buy a pen. Saying hey i dont owe u anything says hey i dont cherish anything about what youve been to me in my life. Its up to the inheritor to say "thats ok, i appreciate it but i dont need any of this"

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KC Anderson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Beth said exactly the truth. So yeah the kids had a $h!t dad growing up and he owns it. The fact they are getting SO worked up Over the amount of their inheritance makes me wonder if they stuck around to make sure they collected after he dies and not really to have a relationship. So your step brother gets an equal share. So what!!! The fact you are getting an inheritance is something most kids will never see. And that you are getting pissed and holding on to it again tells me the $$ is a bigger factor in your keeping a relationship with the father then if his business had failed or was so so and there want any $$ when he died. NTA. Not only do they get to get paid and it sounds quite handsomely when their father dies, they also get to take over majority stake in his company that by all accounts is making a lot of $$ so their inheritance goes beyond the $$ on the bank but if they are willing to work for it, it’s even more money from a successful business.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're getting so worked up over it BECAUSE after DECADES of being ignored, cheated out of childhood memories, (and barely getting by financially so they have money anxieties) PLUS putting in the physical & emotional work of establishing an adult relationship with their jerk of a father HE turns around and tosses it back in their faces by focusing that love (that they believe should be theirs by right) and gives it to a kid that HE barely knows! This is far more than a money issue~~the fact that it's about inheritance is a language that their *cough* 'father' can recognize. The stepped HAS both a Father & Mother. Kid can get his support (love & finance) through them. DAD is trying to buy affection from the kid on the cheap.

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Vira
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is one of those times where crowd-sourcing a judgment goes horribly wrong. Step-kids are still your children. Loving a person shouldn't have a time-requirement. I know that knowing someone for a certain amount of time is important, before changing a will, but 4+ years is plenty to include someone in a will. I think this whole thing where people over-value blood-relation clouds actual love, and loyalty. I imagine that step-kid would wonder for the rest of his life if his step-dad actually loved him, if he were treated as a second-class family member in the will. It would be a second blow to a kid who already had a terrible biological father growing up. Equal shares is fair, if the father cares about the kids equally. I think the bio kids stuck around for the money.

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JMil
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bio-kids the AH's. It sounds like they will get a huge windfall of inheritance, yet they want X% more or it is unfair. Also, not enough emphasis on this: the bio kids get the business!!! A successful business, that brings in residual income year after year after year is worth much more than a slightly higher % upfront (exact numbers unknown, but this is what I gather, could be off depending on size of inheritance and amount of residual income).

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Debbie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. What if his business fails and he has nothing left... Did he mention to his bio kids that they get the business, and that is maybe worth more than 20% of the rest of the inheritance... So they don't get the same as the stepson.

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MiriPanda
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Second suggestion seems reasonable. Those saying the bio kids are just in it for the money forget that the first draft is just another slap in the face from a distant father whose business they helped to grow nevertheless. Also, stepson has another father from whom he might inherit. Ironically the wife could also be accused of being "just after the money" by marrying a much older, wealthy man to secure hers and her sons financial future, but no...

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Beth L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those kids didn't *help* any business grow. I'm sure their childhoods were negatively impacted by him focusing on the business, but there's tons of kids who have a similar experience because a parent had a gambling or substance problem, or worked really hard for an unsuccessful business, or had to work long hours at low wages with no equity in a business. Cash after he's gone isn't going to get him to their 4th grade play. Cash today won't either. The two issues need to be separate if the adult kids are going to form a healthy relationship with their father.

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Dagnirath
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree that dad doesn't owe anyone anything, but at the same time the comment about bio kids losing our when dad takes up a new family resonates with me. My grandpa married a widow with 4 kids. He died first, and after she passed her will divided all of both their assets among her kids with no provisions for my dad and aunt. In this situation I would divide it evenly and each time someone whines about it they get a little less.

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Mary Bricklin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is he the AH?? I don't get it. He'd be the AH if he were planning on giving his stepson more than his bio kids but he isn't.

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Eric Yoder
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MAGA we own the world and your wallet, rent free people I'm taking it. Otherwise I don't see how he could possibly be an a*****e by giving them something. It sounds like his children need medications. I can only imagine how these two treat others

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Vally Dover
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally disagree with most of ya'll. The point is is the guy an A-hole for what he's doing, not is he allowed to do it. I'm allowed to do what I want with my money but how I use it could still be a-hole-ish. I dont think the kids are entitled by saying that they don't think the brand-new step kid should get the same amount as they are. Their points are valid and their anger is valid. Negating it by calling them entitled because they are hurt yet again by this terrible excuse of a father displays a significant lack of empathy. The dad barely knows the kid, the kid doesn't think of him as a father, and he'll inherit the moms half anyway. I would be resentful in their place as well. True, dad doesn't technically owe them, but that doesnt mean it's not hurtful. The terrible father then goes on the internet to reveal what they said in private in the heat of the moment - for the consumption and critique of millions of people who don't know the situation or the emotions attached.

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the commenters on that site are assholes themselves. First of all it's his money and he can divide it up as he sees fit. His two bio children are adults and they need to quit whining. They're lucky they're even in the will. As far as being an absentee father because he was working so hard at building a business that's leaving them such a great inheritance anyway? There wouldn't be an inheritance if he didn't put as much of his work into the business in the first place. If he wants to support his stepson he has every right to do so and for the poster that called his stepson some random kid? the hell with that guy. Just because his current wife is his second wife that doesn't make her a trophy wife so whoever said that is an A*****E too.

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Misty Moon
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a loathed step-child, I can honestly say that the OP even considering to leave anything to his stepson is a very honorable and non-a.hole thing to do. I do understand the bio kids feeling they earned more but, in actuality there is no amount of money that can fix the past. They should be so lucky to recieve any inheritance and should be proud to have a father whom admits his shortfalls as a parent and who has it in his heart to want and work for a healthy relationship with his stepson. Lastly, I agree with whoever stated this: discussing the inheritance with his bio children before making it legal is not something an a.hole would do.

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Tandi Parent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry; but, since when is there a rule or law that says that he HAS to leave his petty ungrateful adult kids, who I'd guess at their ages have their own lives now, anything at all?!?

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The critical thing is he wants to "do right" by his stepson, that is being a responsible stepparent. He gave the kid his name to INCLUDE him as a family member, the kid is not a foster child after all. The bio kids need to grow up and let their father make his own choices.

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Bob Cakin
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK... I am extremely annoyed with that subreddit's response to this. I thought we were over the "not even your real kid" argument by now... but I guess f*****g not! Adopted kids are REAL kids you assholes! And their argumentation for why it's unfair is akin to boomer's argumentation against forgiving student loans: "I had to suffer so everyone after me should suffer too". Yeah... he wasn't a great dad when you were young... why are you trying to make it so that he won't be a great dad to his new kid? Why are you trying to take away something from a kid just because you didn't have it growing up? It's complete b******t and it just reminds me of that trolley meme: "You can save the people tied up on the tracks by stopping the trolley at any time but that wouldn't be fair to the people the trolley has already run over". Grow up people! Being "fair" is just going to make it so that NOTHING ever changes for the better!

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kid isn't adopted. HE HAS both parents~~he isn't Oliver Twist, FFS! When you are robbed of parental affection for decades, THEN finally start making progress on what you believe is a mutually loving, respected relationship only to be sidelined by a new kid who doesn't have that knowledge of the parent's tarnished character? I suspect you'd be bitter, too! In the end, our society has made it so our inheritances are the measure of how much our parents loved us. The dad better do some more hard, FAIR thinking before he signs his newest will.

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Tash
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First time I haven't agreed with the majority on this kind of post. I think its lovely that he's including his step child and no one is actually entitled to get their parents money anyway. I personally agree that he should ensure that the stepson doesnt get more than the bio children but at the end of the day, its his money.

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Chris Winchester
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dads money is dads money and he can do with it as he pleases. No one is entitled to anything. Everyone seems like whiney little spots here. If the bio kids worked on getting dads business going they should get more. I dont get it sometimes. If I was the dad I would just spend as much money on my kids as I could now. I told my dad to spend all of his money before he died. He got close. Made my sons, himself and a boatload of people happy by giving to charities,his grandkids and whatever else he wanted to.

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Disinterested Panda
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've said it before and I'll say it again your parents owe you absolutely nothing. Once you hit adulthood, whatever else your relationship was, they don't owe you a damn cent of *their* money. Adults should not behave like this. If the man wants to divide his wealth equally, he should. Or are the kids now saying that there's a price tag to their childhood? And since people are arguing on the "they made your wealth" front... He's already giving them the business. That probably includes it's assets and profits. He's not the a****le. And all 3 of them need to go to therapy.

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Liesl English
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it hard to believe not a single person on the original post thought the kids were the assholes. His step son is a human and is part of the family. The fact they think they are owed compensation for a crappy childhood is weird and gross.

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CL Rowan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Be on the receiving end of that 'parental' behavior and see how you feel.

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Vicki Mathison
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad does get to do what he wants with his money but i understand them being mad since he obviously is giving this kid more time and love. Maybe they would care less if you manned uped about being a s**t dad and tried to make up for loss time.

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Edel Codd
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA, but ill-advised. First off, he said he was considering the even split, not that he'd formalised it. Based on his post, it sounds like it was a spontaneous comment. It's good he's giving the issue thought, because his original will is currently disastrous. The kids, however, ATA, because they seem to feel entitled. He doesn't owe them anything. Being a hard working, struggling dad is nothing to be apologetic about.

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J Matz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of the YTA people are the real A's, it's his choice. At this point, I'd even consider lying to bio kids and saying ok fine, stepson is out. Let them hate me when I'm dead, who cares, they sound like entitled brats

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Tina Newman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd leave the older kids out completely. I'd leave it all to the stepson. They are ungrateful turds who don't understand that he does not owe them an inheritance.

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Megan Johnson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this Jay Pritchett from Modern Family? This sounds like Modern Family.

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Proverb Woman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A shocking 80% of all millionaires received zip, nada, nothing from anyone in terms of an inheritance. It's hard for me to hear grown adults complain and whine about what they are "owed". Pressing and punishing your parents while they live about what they had better give you (of THEIR hard earned assets) when they're dead seems incredibly self centered. BUT I understand that this is about something deeper than cash. Their hurt and rejection from their father obviously still lingers and family counseling would really help them all!!

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Melissa Camus
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nta. I got more upset reading the yta than anything. I do think he needs to rethink the portions because if he leaves 35% to his wife and 20% to his step son his bio kids do seem to get the short end of the stick. When his wife dies she's leaving her to her son so step son would end up with 55% while bio kids only get 40%.... that seems kinda off to me. However that being said it's his money and his decision. The fact that his kids got upset just shows that his bio kids don't treat their step brother like family and are jealous of him which really annoys me.

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Jake Wheeler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The bio kids get the business. Plus 1/5 of all the money. That's fine. Follow your heart.

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Miah Shawn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel so bad for the bio kids and stepson. Must be really shitty to have hot garbage for a father.

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R Lopez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nvm this story. What if your dad only leaves the entire inheritance to a swindling daughter that manipulated her way to get 100%. I have talked about it to my dad and he is afraid to confront my sister. So now I am completely out and my sister takes all. And the best if this story, my sister's husband is CEO for a large Canadian Insurance company. I am 62 years old and still struggling while helping my dad every day! Our dad is 89 years old and can no longer care for himself and my sister hasn't seen him in years.

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To Be Continued
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YTA. I agree with the ones stating the unfairness to the biokids. They could ir could not be there for a payout. Doesnt matter he should HAVE to reconcile his behavior at the very least for the fact they had to in the manly way take care of themselves as children. The stepson i think should get a share of the business a small share as well as the wife. She should get the house and personal items 5% of the money and the rest should go to the biokids. Period. Theyre not selfish, Theyre hurt. Theyre looked over and what theyve been through as ignored children shouldnt go unrectified. Especially since theyve helped out

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Elliot Eden
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Man f**k all these YTA people. Entitled bio children clearly don't see the step-son as an actual addition to the family, which he is. A good suggestion I saw though was making a college funding account, or hell, paying for his college in general. I think that could be a good compromise if needed.

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Zed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA step or adopted children should be treated the same as Biological any thing less would make YTA

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Carrie-ann Dyson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow pretty selfish of his bio kids. I think that's great of the dad. Go dad go. We'll done for being a good father

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Soccer237
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reading comments about him NTA down here made me feel better cause I don’t believe he is TA. I feel like this is kind of a now one situation because if he doesn’t include step son in the will people will be pissed and if he does (as we can see) people get pissed. But being a kid who grew up with a distant dad I don’t think he’s TA. He’s totally in the right to do what he wants with his money

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Ophelia Payne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. You owe child support until 18. That's all! Nothing stopping them making their own money. Spoiled, selfish and entitled. Stepson didn't choose him either. Your money, do what you want

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P Webb
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also it sounds to me like his biological kids went and made sure to develop a relationship with him so they would be left in the will. They're proving it by acting like they deserve his money. I think that he should leave it exactly the way he intended and end the subject right there. If his bio kids have a problem with it then he can just leave them out of the will altogether.

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Eric Yoder
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This dad owes the little pr*cks nothing. They should feel lucky they're even getting ANYTHING after showing their true colors during an event such as this. These kids have no rights. What the OP owns IS HIS! If he wants to split it, he can do so. If I were him I would IMMEDIATELY remove them from the will and make the step child the sole inheritor. Make it clear to the attorney that he atm is in sound mind and that they cannot take it to court after he dies. They deserve nothing. Maybe if the rent free Republicans got off their butts and got jobs....

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ariana
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why are there so many "YTA" of course NTA he does not owe his kids anything its inky logical to include your step-son. thats pretty greedy for the kids to be mad that they arent getting half

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Sydneywhite
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What shitty bio kids. You are owed no inheritance. My auntie recently told me she wanted to save as much of her money to split amongst myself and brother, I told her to screw that idea and spend every cent on whatever she wants if there's stuff she could do with it that would make her happy. Inheritance is a nice gesture, but in no way something owed to you, even if you saw you dad as being a shitty parent and it somehow makes you owed something.

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Chris Winchester
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad was saving money for my brother and I when he died. I told him to stuff that and spend every freaking penny he had. He had a really good last three years of his life. We were left a good chunk in his will but that will never replace the joy he had just spending on whatever he wanted. He got the most expensive car he could afford and wanted. He ate out a lot. Got stuff for his grandkids and my brother and I. Good times.

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Cecily Holland
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO AN INHERITANCE! Just put that in big capital letter for the people who are self entitled enough to think that they are.

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Joe calbery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The father is being less than honest with himself if he is treating the stepson as an equal to the 2 "bios". The last revision he mentioned sounded fair 30% to each "bio", 25% to trophy wife, and 10% to the "do over" child, also the business goes to the "bios", I would add that the wife gets the house, but even though I offered, the father said he didn't need my help to write his will... His loss.

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michael spivey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad can never be a FATHER to a non biological CHILD! His actions wouldwarrant as the WORLD puts it DADDY figure! FATHER'S help birth a child and an only if he stays in that's child's life is he the NATURAL FATHER. OTHERWISE DADDY OR STEP DAD. Their is ALOT of misrepresentation out here for as roles and titles.

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