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People Are Torn About This “Lazy” Mom Of 4 And Her Honest View Of Her House After 4 Days Of Not Cleaning
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People Are Torn About This “Lazy” Mom Of 4 And Her Honest View Of Her House After 4 Days Of Not Cleaning

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Being a parent is awesome, but you can’t deny that some things are overly romanticized about it.

They tell you how kids can liven up your day and how their smiles can bring world peace, but let’s be real, the remaining 98% of parenting is a relentless attempt at raising decent human beings and adulting at the same time.

And to show you just how real it can get, this one mom shared what her house looks like after just 4 days of not tidying up with 4 kids in the household.

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Keeping a house clean is a challenge for many, let alone mothers with 4 kids who post videos of the reality as motivation to clean up

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Meet Bri James, also known as the The Messy Mama on TikTok, a momma blogger with 4 lovely children.

Not too long ago, she has been going viral with a video of hers where she shows what four days of not cleaning the house looks like in a 6-people family household.

In the video, she describes this as the consequence of “two really lazy adults have 4 kids and don’t clean up after themselves” for 4 days. She also elaborates that she has not done the dishes or picked up things throughout that time, highlighting that this isn’t dirty, but rather just a mess.

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Momma blogger of 4 Bri James shared a video where she shows just how messy it gets in 4 days in a house of a family of 6

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Said mess was what you’d expect of one: everything from kids’ toys to empty packets to furniture pieces scattered all over the floor, with kitchen counters occupied by dirty dishes and dining implements and the living room looking like a kid’s playground. Pretty standard if you ask me.

She posted the video to TikTok as a means of motivating herself to clean up the house and keep herself accountable, knowing all too well that she’ll be roasted for it.

But, in reality, what it ended up turning into was a bit of a debate, in the lightest sense of the word. People weren’t really discussing, but there were definitely two sides that people were choosing between.

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Everything from toys to furniture pieces on the floor to over-the-top counter stacking to this mini playground living room

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As of this article, the video has nearly 18 million views with over 1.2 million likes

@themessymama4I will block those who are mean. this is to keep me accountable not for views.♬ original sound – Bri James

But Bri did what she set out to do, and that is to clean the house, which she did in 4 videos

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On the one hand, sure, she got roasted. For the most part, people were pointing out that while things scattered on the floor is surely a mess, the unwashed dishes are definitely dirty and there is no other way of describing it. If anything, it was unhygienic.

Others said that it’s impossible to blame the kids at this point—this is all because these “lazy” parents were just too lazy about it, and yet others even explained that this sets a bad example for the kids.

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However, something that Bri seemingly did not expect was the vast support from other parents and just people who relate to the messy situation.

For starters, this is a very segmented part of the mother’s life—very real and very necessary, but also very out of context, as you can’t really assume that this is always the way it is. You can’t ever truly know what this mom goes through on the daily, especially with 4 little rascals.

Others, mostly parents of 1 to 5 kids, point out that this is an inevitability that parents shouldn’t be judged for. It’s much harder than it looks and it takes a parent to actually understand the struggle.

Reactions came from two sides, with some disapproving, and others showing support

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In general, there was lots of love and support for Bri to outweigh all of the negativity found in the comment section. But, as mentioned previously, the mom used this as motivation to clean up. And clean up she did.

But there was an overwhelming amount of support, mostly from people who know what parenting is really like

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The next day, her followers got four videos (here, here, here, and here) detailing her clean-up journey. And hey, one of her daughters joined in to help clean up, which throws the “setting a bad example” argument out the window. And in a day, she turned a messy house into a clean one.

The video got a significant amount of attention, garnering nearly 18 million views and over 1.2 million likes, with another 3.5 million from the clean-up videos. You can check out the video here, and her channel here, but before you go, let us know your levels of messy or what you thought about this video in the comment section below!

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Zophra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Opinion: I don't know about this... I don't want to judge but I think it does look dirty. Some of this - like trash on the floor - would have taken less than 10 seconds to put it in the trashcan - why allow it on the floor? And I wouldn't want my kids to grow up thinking that such disorganized, unhygienic conditions are "normal." If this is a one time family emergency - fine; but if they let it get to this condition regularly ...not a good "normal."

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Space Whale
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's a grown woman, she can pick up after her self and her kids. This is so unsanitary and in not an environment kids should be growing up in.

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GenericPanda09
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just looking at that gives me an increased heart rate. I know some people can live like this not because they're lazy but they have mental health issues that make them less motivated to clean and tidy the place up, but personally there's nothing that would make my mental health go downhill as quick as living in that mess. I like order, not chaos. And yeah, kids are messy but it ain't bad parenting to teach them to put toys away when they've finished with them before they get other ones out.

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DuchessDegu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We could get all toys out to play anywhere, but also were taught to put them away after finishing - ok for me the main motivation was not to let my siblings take my toys, but still it's something I've learned for life, I put everything away as soon as I'm done

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Johan van Luijn-Hermans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 kids, 5 year old girl, 7 year old boy living in the house with an extra adult. I'm sorry, but our house does not even get close to this kind of mess, this is just a lack of rules and motivation. I have no words for people who think this is normal or excusable. The kids have an excellent wonderful life, are doing fine of above in school, but they also clean up because that is the standard they see around them on daily base. If you would post this online in the Netherlands, you can count on it you will get a visit from the child protective services and to be honest, for a good reason.

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VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the second oldest of five, and our house is never that messy. If it gets to even half the mess of in the video, we have to help clean it. We have chores and stuff to help around the house, and if we don’t do them there’s consequences. This lady really needs to get some rules down

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Lazy Suzy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 kids under 8 and can definitely come confirm if you opt out of the hotel mind set / responsibilities / normality then it is easy to get to this state. Chores are the regular cause of parent arguments in my household (they are boring and mundane), until the kids are fully able to 'help' we are just going to have to bear with it. Relaxing some of the day to day responsibilities once in a while is ok. ❤

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LagoonaBlueColleen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people post stuff like this? It's like some sort of weird "check" thing. Like the anorexia body checks but with messy, dirty houses and then try to convince people "It's just messy. It's not dirty". They know that's bs.

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Kimi Tomminello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was trying to help people get out of their depression nests. She was showing how quickly you can clean up a completely trashed house. I think everybody is so focused on calling her nasty and leaving out the part that she cleaned the damn thing.

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BluEyedSeoulite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 2 under 5 and have a cleaner that comes to help on the weekend. Last Sunday, she did a fantastic job and my kids had ruined it within hours after she had left. By that evening, it looked like we hadn't cleaned in days. Kids are messy, no way around it until either they grow up or move out

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Kitty Monrova
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is that you can't rely on a cleaner to keep a home nice. It's really not that hard if you just check behind you. It can take 10 seconds to clean out a milk jug and throw it in the recycle, but if you fail to do those small things over and over again, it will start to be overwhelming very quickly. Kids are messy yeah, but that doesn't mean you just say screw it and leave a trail of messes everywhere. When they make a mess, you clean it up. They make another mess in 10 minutes, you clean it up again. Not to mention, if children are leaving this kind of mess behind, its most likely that it's because they haven't been taught any better. I live in a house with five children, and granted it's not spotless, but the children would never leave a mess like that, because they've been taught to respect their home through example from the other adults in the house

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Lara M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of those kids look old enough to pick up their own messes.

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Danyelka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of Four. You are demotivated when somebody imediatly destroys your work even when you are adult. If they would have to clean after siblings (they are not so grown that they should be responsible) I would expect abusive family.

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Bi-Polar Express
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous. There's a bike in the kitchen. This is a management problem beyond just making your kids clean up often themselves (which they can start doing as toddlers. Trash on the ground just doesn't happen, either. Even the 4 year old in our house knows where the trash goes.

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iseefractalz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not dirty...for a dumpster. There's no excuse for that. Qualifying it as "lazy with 4 kids" is just evidence that they should not have had 4 kids. It's not even the clutter that's obviously due to the kids, that's one thing. Kids are horrible (unfortunately allowing things to perpetually be that way will ensure they grow up to be horrible adults too). The biggest issue is the kitchen. It's disgusting. You don't leave dishes sitting, dirty, for 4 days and get to pretend that "it's not dirty, it's just MESSY teehee" it's nasty. What's worse, washing dishes right after you're done using them, is stupidly simple. It takes seconds to clean a dirty plate...so long as you do it right away. Once you let stuff dry, congeal, harden, and in this case probably mold, what should have taken 15 or 20 seconds per item, now takes MINUTES per item. All it takes is that one nasty dish that you left sitting overnight, before it snowballs into an overflowing sink. Shame. SHAAAAME.

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Sally Kerr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two young girls. They know they have to tidy up after themselves, they know how to clean their bathroom and wash the dishes. This is not Mum's job, this is the family's home and it is the parents that have let this happen by not raising their kids to respect their home and join in family chores.

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Lynn Wilcox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It really bothers me when people make horrible comments about others. I'm sick all the time. I honestly struggle to even get out of bed sometimes because I'm so sick. This can sometimes be every day for weeks. Just keeping the house decently clean can be so overwhelming and sad for me and seeing the lack of empathy just hurts my soul. Not everyone is mentally or physically capable of keeping a really organized house all the time. We need to show each other more grace and empathy. A LOT more. Mom's used to stay home, now we work and are still expected to keep the house in the same condition with home cooked meals. We were better off when one income could support a household.

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Kandi Heiple
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1 year ago

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Im sorry but if you're so sick you can't get out of bed then you shouldnt have kids

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Dorothy Cloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she didn't want or appreciate negative comments..............don't put your life out for the world to see. Why do people think they have to share their lives to others?

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No Fox Given
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s a liveable mess. So what that they don’t put toys away the second the kids have finished playing. So what if they don’t wash the dishes that same day they have eaten. God people these days too quick to preach. Relax. End of the day it gotten cleaned up, things put away, order was restored in THEIR home. Some need to stop clutching.

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Linny H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 sibs and I grew up in a messy (dirty too) house and it was very frustrating growing up in such wild disorder. Taught me to be highly stressed if something is out of place in my own house. I cannot save a mess till morning, I must have a sparkling kitchen and tidy everything else when I get up in the morning.

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was the opposite for me. My step mother would freak out while she was cleaning everything would have to be cleaned every day. I would get punished for a months at a time if there was a glass left in the sink after my morning clean up. I clean my house but I don't stress when it's not perfect bc I hated that scary feeling growing up. Like you can't live in your own house bc it's museum like.

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Babsywabs
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am with one of the commenters in the posting above, who said she had lived like this as a child and it was traumatizing. I, too, lived like this as a child, and she is absolutely right. I am 63 years old and STILL dealing with the consequences of growing up in a home like this. "It's not dirty, it's just messy." Honey, you need to wake up. You didn't wash dishes for FOUR DAYS??? It's dirty. Teach your children to put things away. Teach them that it is THEIR house, too, and they need to contribute. They're small, but they can help. Don't make them grow up like this.

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Line Hampen Olsen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this was a single dad no one would judge this hard🫤 she’s cleaning her house give her some support instead of shaming her..

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Frankenfrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wall to wall carpeting is disgusting. And how stupid does she think people are, there are clearly big stains on the carpet in the kitchen, and the rest of the carpet and the sofa looks abominable

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Anna Repp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rent and we have wall to wall carpeting and there's nothing I can do about it - hardwood floors are not optional at our place. They might have bought the place like that and just never had the money to replace it.

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is grown and I can tell you w every confidence if I did not clean every single day my daughter, her boyfriend, friends that come over or sleep over and my husband would destroy the house in one day. I just mopped the wood floors two days ago and it looks like someone dragged an open bottle of soda through the foyer and it got cold out so my husband brought some plants in from outside where fallen dirt was just left to sit waiting for me to clean it up. I cleaned the kitchen last night at 2 am while I watched my mind numbing 90 day fiance show and it's now 12 hrs later and there are crumbs all over the counter a sink full of dishes and grease on the stove w a dirty frying pan. I used to cry when this would take place a few minutes after I cleaned now I just feel defeated oh and right after I finished every piece of laundry the teens brought all the blankets in from a camping trip last weekend

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Catarina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when things get dirty or messy but you need to stop cleaning. You familly don't bother cleaning because YOU do everything....stop doing it

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Emma Starr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some judgy people. Life is dirty and people do the best they can.

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Zophra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not think this is the best they can. Especially when the OP starts with "two very lazy adults" -not family emergency or mental/physical disabilities...

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Shelley McKinney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Single mom of 2 boys who works full time. I find it exhausting. No sooner than I get dishes done when more are dirtied, I don't get clean clothes folded before there is more to do, why can't they remember to put wet towels in the laundry???? I try but it's a never ending cycle and it's hard to keep the motivation to keep doing the same dang thing over and over.

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Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old are they? Can you teach them how to wash dishes and do laundry? If you can that will take a big load off. As kids we all did our own laundry. It's just the way it was. Never thought about untilI I was older. Probably started about 10. But honestly, I was so young I don't remember. Clothes were fine.

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Sophie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her carpet is visibly filthy in the after photos. That's insanely unhygienic. The "clean" kitchen was still filthy. My mom was tough about cleaning and I'd way rather have it that way. She taught me how to be a clean adult. Set an example for your kids. I think people would have more empathy if she didn't say "this is when two lazy adults have four kids".

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Anna Repp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 45 and my mom is still trying to teach me how to keep the place clean and sparkly. It is still not working, because I am not her, I have depression and a teen who's struggling mentally and academically. My house will never look like hers, period. No matter how much you set examples for your kids, they grow up and become their own people. And sometimes they get lazy, sometimes they get tired or sick... Don't judge others before you know the full story. And never shame people for not keeping a house perfectly clean.

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Janet C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not dirty? It's filthy, even after the cleaning. I would hate to be a kid living there. And I wouldn't eat anything that came out of that kitchen.

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Trillian
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not lazy, she's unorganised. I have never seen a house look that messy and none of my friends are especially housekeepy. Even my messy friend's house, who has heaps of this and that all over the place, never looked like this. Geez. Sorry for judging, but I would go crazy if I had to live like this. At least put the dirty dishes away, that is gross.

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think what she MIGHT have meant is that while the house is messy AND dirty, it's NOT filthy. I don't know her life, I don't know what physical and other issues she might have to deal with on the daily with not only herself but her kids, too, so I can't judge her. I'm just glad she was able to, eventually, corral the mess. Good for her. (Also, the important thing to me is - does she love her kids? Does she treat them well? She did clean the house after that 4-day experiment so the kids are safe.)

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Ms.GB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live with 3 adults and if I skip 1 day of dishes my sink is overflowing...It's overflowing rn, I skipped them yesterday.

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Moose
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a large difference between not picking up clutter and toys being left out and just leaving trash in the middle of the floor. If the house looks like this after 4 days what are the parents doing.

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Danyelka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know I will downvoted. I hated when my aunt strted to clean the dishes befor everybody finished the meal. I still preffere instead deadly tired clean the dishis in the evening clean it in the morning and clean and plan my day while doing it. Second thing - as a child who were constantly cursing for cleaning, cleaning became most hated thing I do.

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Octavia Hansen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids need to start picking up after themselves NOW! She will not always be there. They are old enough to get things out, they can put things back. And if they won't, then she needs to be hard nosed and get rid of stuff, or put it away until they decide they will comply. No, I'm not talking depriving them or them going hungry . . . but they can put plates in the sink, pick up toys & clothes. Start them early. She's not the warden but she can teach them personal responsibility. And she's a saint for staying with the kids!

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Kristina Atwood
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm my a neat freak in any way, but not doing the dishes for 4 days?! Just imagining the smell turns my stomach. Not messy, dirty, definitely a recipe for opportunistic pests. Flies alone could wreak havoc in less than 4 days. It takes so little time to wash dishes even for 6. Scrape, rinse, into the dishwasher or soapy water. It's not that hard.

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Kristina Atwood
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The rest of the house, I get it. Kids are chaotic. No excuse for the kitchen being like that. None.

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Emmie The Squirrel Queen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank god my home wasn't like that as a kid, it would've definitely messed me up worse than I already am.

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ChickyChicky
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents need to be evaluated for ADHD. I kid you not, everyone I know who has a house like this has ADHD.

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Adam Zad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the kids need to do their part, too. If they're old enough to play with the toys, they're old enough to pick up after themselves, too.

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Dr. Carlos Dangercat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you get everyone to follow some basic rules like "empty packaging goes in the trash/recycling as soon as it's removed" and "dirty dishes go in the dishwasher when they're done being used" the house will never get into this state to begin with. When it builds up into a giant mess it becomes this big stressful thing.

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H Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

4 days?! MIL had 7 kids and worked in market gardens and it never looked like that!

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Bekaroo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one in this family is "living like this." This was the accumulated mess of 4 kids in 4 days while the parents were sick, then they cleaned it. That living room could have gotten that way in one hour with that many small kids. You can see in her other videos that it never stays that wrecked for very long. I grew up in a home plagued by poverty, abuse, and addiction. It was at that "4 days" stage and worse at ALL TIMES. That's when interventions were needed (but sadly didn't happen). I think this family is really real, most people don't like doing chores and put them off or have to put them off to accomplish the other things needed to keep a 4 kid family rolling. Stop judging regular families.

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Little king trash mouth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not judging. But why do people feel the need to post every single aspect of their lives online?

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Lola
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not dirty, it’s just messy??? This house hasn’t been cleaned in years. You are putting your kids at risk by exposing them to so many health hazards, never mind the psychological hurt this will cause. I wouldn’t even be able to find those kids in that filth and mess. Stop making excuses and clean your house, and please stop having kids. Downvote as much as you want, this is absolutely disgusting. And if you are the same way, you need to clean your damn house too. No child should live like an animal.

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Kathy Pearlman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only have one kid and he's 70 years old. I haven't seen my living room floor in over 10 years. It's hopeless. He'll "clean it up" and one day late, he fills the space back in. No matter what I do, he can undo it and yell at me about it. It isn't worth it. comics-626...53347b.jpg comics-626c13a53347b.jpg

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your son is a bully, has emotional issues and it's YOUR house. I understand with people like him it's not worth the fighting, but that's their way of being able to do what they want. It's not fair to you. If you have other relatives or friends who can help you get him help or support you, please do it.

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Alec
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only battle the mess to a draw. Entropy will always win out in the end, and keeping an immaculate house is a pointless waste of time imho. There will always be more dirt there tomorrow. So yeah, this is messy, but honestly, if that is your biggest concern, you have it made.

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Rabbit Carrot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok look, not putting toys and books away is one thing, hell even leaving the cushions disorganised is ok, but there is a LOT of trash and old food packets littered around that house. That’s just dirty. At least put your trash in the bin otherwise you’ll attract vermin.

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Susie Elle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two things: get your kids to clean up after themselves and get your husband to do it together with you. Where is he?

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Wilf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two kids (4 and 2), both of us parents work full time. As a parent you OWE your kids a tidy, safe, organized space to live in. At least a couple of those children are old enough to learn how to tidy away their toys and pick up anything they drop. Leaving trash on the floor represents a real danger if one of the younger children decides they want to eat it. Untidy and unclean spaces like this will have an effect on those children developmentally, who will learn some very poor behaviours as a result, not least they WILL be feeling stressful living in that sort of environment. Not to mention an untidy living space can also have an impact on your own mental health too. She needs to learn to get on top of housework, and teach the kids the importance of helping her do it.

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Julia Winfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No reason for it to be that dirty. She's an adult. And some of the kids are old enough to learn what a trash can is and how to put some toys away. She's using the kids as an excuse to be lazy.

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Ed
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who grew up with a "haha lazy parent" and had the house frequently look like this- it sucks. For everyone. And it keeps your kids from learning to clean after themselves and manage chores, it gets them used to a dirty house, no matter how much you tell them to clean up after themselves or their things, they follow the parents example. Also bugs and rodents, we had those every once and awhile too, and it got AT LEAST as dirty as that house.

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shut up I'm reading heartstopper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm definitely conflicted. I grew up in a house with 5 other siblings and it was definitely a lot, but it never got this bad. As one of the oldest I of course had chores and I think that's really important to teach kids, to pick up after themselves. This shouldn't all be put on the mom and after all she did clean it up.

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Miss Kat O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's some seriously judgmental people here. It's 4 days... it's not even a week

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Diemond Star
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not 4 days, that's from day 1 along with laziness. I feel so bad for her kids.

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similarly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I started picking up around the house when I was four. At 10, I started washing dishes, scrubbing the bathroom, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, helped my Mom and brothers re-wallpaper the house, and helped my Grandpa reshingle the roof. My next older brother taught me to sew, 2nd oldest taught me to cook, and oldest taught me to iron (and tie my necktie). The kids need to be organized into a cleaning crew. My Mom used to say "I work all week. Least you guys can do is the cooking, the laundry, the dishes, and cleaning up on the weekend." By the time we moved out, we all knew how to take care of ourselves.

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Ally Joy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares. If the kids are happy and healthy, that is all that matters.

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phil blanque
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter was a Montessori teacher. Her students were 2 years old through 5 years old. Each school day the 25 students were self-directed, taking out and using thousands of educational materials...puzzles, mathematical constructions, teaching cards, etc. And at the end of the day, pretty much everything was put back in an orderly way, because that is what they are taught. 25 2 to 5 year olds. There is no excuse. No excuse.

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Dr. Carlos Dangercat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly my thought! At preschool, children are perfectly capable of learning to throw away their trash, clear their plates, put away toys, etc. They can do it at home too.

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Katerina Huskova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that's why I've learnt to clean/tidy one section of our flat at a time, every day...it takes literally 10-15 minutes, which is an add break, and this helps me to keep our home nice

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Rick Holmes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is nothing to get anyone’s knickers in a twist over! THANKFULLY, that mom is ABLE to clean up, AND enlists the kids who can, to help. AND, there’s ..zero.. indication that this mess-piled house is that way, all the time. WAAAAYY too many people are “working/wounded”, with no helps, & WAAAYY too many heavy responsibilities, who physically cannot manage or cope, when disorder takes over. These folks commonly live with heaps, piles, & filth, too (there is a different between “mess”, “dirty”, & “filth”). . Regardless of which kind, the owner deserves empathy, compassion, & maybe some help, if they could get it in ways that avoided judging them, & avoided costing them.

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FABULOUS1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone has their own opinino as to what is considered messy and what is considered dirty, IMO this is dirty. I 100% understand toys, shoes and some clothes lying around, but this is beyond that. It appears that there is no supervision and the kids are allowed to do as they please in the house, and they are not required to pick up after themselves. But based on some of the things on the ground it appears the parents have not made a good example because their things are there also. I dont know these people or their situation but me personally would not be able to handle it. I think house work doesnt have to be an every day thing, but as long as you pick up after yourself it prevents it becoming overwhelming. They should do something now before their children think this is normal and end up living like this as adults.

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Coffeemama05
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like if you, and your lazy significant other and your kids all chipped in, it wouldn’t be like this. Kids can have chores at very young ages and I feel like this would be a good habit to get into for everyone. Being in a messy home is not healthy for anyone

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Marnie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with a bit of mess, but this looked ridiculous. Put things away at the time of being done with it and there is much less of a need to do anything later. Why are random things being left on the kitchen floor?

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up in a home with the 'lived in look'. No trauma to me, in some ways kinda relaxing. My mom had friends over with kids of their own along. Some reason for the visit was a needing for comfort with the chaos of their lives. One comment that would be made by these women were that they could talk and not stress over what their child would mess up and the reaction that a clean nut would give if the room got touched. Not saying that they left the home in disaray, but that they could feel comfortable that my mom would be judgemental over a mess created. No the magazine like perfection was not our house. A plaque in our house read " My house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy" spoke for itself.

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Nay Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if i walked into that house i'd have to turn around and walk straight back out. i'm not judging because i know how hard it is to keep things clean and tidy when you have little kids (2 of bree's kids are still in nappies) but i grew up with a hoarder for a mother and now that i live on my own i've gone in completely the opposite direction. i cannot stand stuff and mess. it will literally give me a panic attack. i have a rule in my house. if it doesnt get used at least once a week it goes in the bin

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Lexie Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not 'normal,' but we don't know what she's going through. I have no kids and sometimes my house is a disaster. I also suffer from major depression and my mental state sometimes just keeps me from doing what I know I need to do. "Clean the house, it will help with the depression," is a true statement, but depression also makes it so you don't want to clean. All of that said, she admits to being "lazy" so maybe she needs a different type of motivation.

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Brian Stanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Need a vacuum and carpet shampooed, nasty carpet. Dishes caked with food for days but has a dishwasher. Attracts bugs. Even water in dishes attracts roaches and fruitflies

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This entire post is just further validation of my decision to never have kids! I'm 61 now and still very pleased with my choice. Dogs and cats are so much easier and less expensive.

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Awsomemom52
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen worse... without children involved. Kids can turn a house into an absolutely frightening mess, in a fairly short amount of time... seems like a talent, they are born with! I'm a really lazy person, who hates tidying up and cleaning. Decluttering and reorganizing has helped me A LOT. Start in a small corner, or one cupboard and set a timer (10-20 minutes).. very helpful, if you want your kids to help you. When the time is up, you can stop... or continue, if you feel like it. This is important: find "a home" for all your stuff... I mean really, for EVERYTHING! If you can't it find "a home", you should probably get rid of it. Less stuff, less clutter, and if everything has it's place, it's easier for everyone to put it back, where it belongs. And always remind yourself: don't put it down... put it away!

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Shruti Patel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not every kid is such docile to put every toy in its place after play I know because I have such kids and they like to make a mess and it testes your patience to put everything back repeatedly for 10 to 12 times a day and that's to say in every room . Plus cooking for them cleaning them bathing them it takes a toll on us. In the end we are really ok with all the mess they make because we are tired as f. Only parents will know the feeling.

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It getting to that level means the kids haven't been learning how to do regular chores, which is the greater failure than it being gross.

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celery g
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When kids are 3 and older, there is no reason why they can't be taught to tidy up after themselves! Can't get lazier than me, but even I would never have such a midden!

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Amie Redman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So does she work full time? I do: I get up at 5:15 Monday through Friday, take my son to mother in laws, she takes him to school. (She is amazing!!) I get to work, at the end o of the day I clean up, house never looks like this. I understand she has 4 kids but some of this doesn’t seem like it would take long to maintain. That is a pig sty.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, sorry - but this isn't "just how it goes" when you have multiple children. Yes, I am being judgmental - because you're raising the next generation of pigs. You can't load the dishwasher, use a broom or teach your children to pick up after themselves? You are beyond lazy, honey - you're sad. I was the single parent of 2 kids, worked full time, and went to night school - AND my house was f*cking spotless.

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somnomania
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the fact that she can just pick a day and clean all of that up is mind-blowing. four days without cleaning, my god. try four months. try four YEARS, for parts of some rooms. when i finally deal with sections of my bedroom it's like an archeological dig. and my opinion is that for this lady, this is a good lesson for her kids for why you don't let it sit; it makes more, harder work later.

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Isle_of_stressed_pilots
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is ABSOLUTELY dirty, however I understand that keeping a house (that has 4 kids) clean 24/7 is difficult. Perhaps she should teach her children to clean up after themselves?

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Christopher Hawke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Y'all do not even f*****g know what a dirty house is. Do you see how fast she cleaned that up? Do you know how big of a deal it is she cared to clean it up at all? No, you don't. You have no f*****g clue because you have never had to live in obscene amounts of filth. Where you find your little brother, sitting on a pile of trash in the kitchen, eating a bowl of cereal out of a tupperware because it takes OVER AN HOUR to clean the kitchen enough that you can even open the microwave just to make a couple of hot pockets - and it is so normal to him that he is confused when you ask how he can stand living like this. Where there is dog p**s is, so thickly caked onto the dining room table and chairs that it takes you half the day to drag it into the yard and SCRUB it clean just so you can even sit at it without wanting to throw-up. Where cleaning one SMALL bedroom is a 10 hour job, and the mouse s**t is so thick that you realize you forgot that the carpet wasn't black! To say nothing of the

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kirsty louise
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 kids here. I can totally imagine it went from clean to that in 4 days. If I left mine for 2 days it would probably be worse but that's why I don't. I couldn't live like that and I wouldn't want my kids to either. BUT she did clean it eventually so can't be too harsh on her. Some people don't and live in squaller 24/7, now that's dirty

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Tina Oz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Picked up some of the stuff around... still doesn't look clean. If she didn't want to be judged then she shouldn't have posted this on internet to be seen. She is a dirty woman. Prob thinking surface clean is enough. Not nice living environment for the kids.

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Savage Susan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was dirty. Dirty dishes in the sink, on the counter, on the stove. Food spilled on the floor. It’s not just dirty, it’s unhealthy. I understand having a rough day, feeling sick, and still having to take care of the kids. We’ve all been there. Not being able to do everything I get, but not at least putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher and cleaning up spilled food is inexcusable.

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good god if we had of made a mess like that in my home as a child my mother would have throttled us we had to clean up after ourselves because both our parents worked full-time+ hours to keep us (also a family of 6) so from a very young age we learned that if we didn't clean up on a Friday after school then they would have to do it over the weekend which would result in us being stuck home all weekend and no fun, teach the kids to help include rewards pocket money it will also teach them responsibility and pride, if we got something out and played with it you put it back exactly where it came from when you were done, we were also taught to respect what we had and be bloody darn greatful for it to I'm sorry to say if the children are treating the furniture there toys etc this way they aren't being respectful or greatful for what they have or for you as parents what you've worked to provide. Also Florence nightingale says cleanliness is next to godliness" because bacteria causes illness

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Babies, young children become alot sicker than adults from gastric infections in severe sever cases they can die

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Deux
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course it's dirty- you haven't washed your dishes in 4 days! By the first morning there would already be stuff growing on those plates and surfaces that could put your kids in hospital. Instead of posting photos online and looking for approval from complete strangers on the other side of the planet just clean up! Enoughs enough with the current 'nobody say anything bad about anything in anyones life' nonsense- time to start taking personal responsibility again. Especially in this case where it isn't just yourself you are responsible for. You and your lazy ass husband are PARENTS to children for crying out loud! Even if YOU think it's acceptable, your young kids have no say. Plus, what example does this set to their young minds exactly?

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Londo Cotto
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shouda kept her legs closed if she cant handle the responsibilities: zero sympathy. Adult up.

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Katinka Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is the whole attitude behind it. It is not just lazyness, it is a lack of care and selfcare and she will pass that on to her children. Also: Where is the husband while she is doing this? (And it IS really dirty)

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Carrie Bradley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get the children involved! From the pictures. It looks like at least 2 of them are old enough to help. Make it fun! Turn up some fun dance music and make it a great time! I have chronic illness, so I know it’s hard to do sometimes, but you will feel much better when it’s done! 🙂

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Melissa TO
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why isn't the husband helping? Did I miss something? Sorry if I missed him helping, but if they both work full time they both should be doing daily chores.

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Sheila Cormack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Way worse than mine and my s mil said she couldn’t be friends with someone with a house like mine. I feel bad our house has issues but was cleaned by three cleaners once a week as I’m ill and hub is full time doc so it was clean but my daughter liked pressing the raised wallpaper with her nails. Also when she saw a tiny spot of anything she had to pick it. We had a leak from a bathroom radiator and haven’t been able to get if fixed because I’d have to stay in a hotel while they refit our loo. My mum micro cleaned everything I tried to be the same as a new mum it broke my partner and 1 up for a year. I was very unhappy as a kiddie to the insanity. If you’ve never washed a kitchen ceiling without a ladder or a mop then you might understand why it’s less important. It is important it’s clean enough for them to have friends to visit.

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Aline Cahill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I couldn't live like that. But from what I got from it she wasn't happy either, maybe she was sick or something? I have 2 kids and expecting 3rd any moment now, my house is not looking great, but it's temporary, I manage my anxiety keeping things clean and tidy.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I notice no one mentions her husband/partner.I know first hand how exhausting and overwhelming Being a Mum of 4 young kids can be.I worked 6 days a week when mine were little.We used my one day off to do family stuff, including drive,outings and 4 birthday parties a year etc.My Husband worked five days a week,so he did housework on his day off. I would pick up the slack ,after the kids were in bed.I cook dinner most nights,he cooked one night and we had take away once a week.Once they were older,my son cooked 2 or 3 nights a week(he is a great cook) .Buying a dish washer was the best thing I ever bought.Even with all that,our house was never going to make it into a design magazine.We would never have managed had we not worked as a team.Afterall,they are his kids too.Everyone is so quick to judge this poor woman but having one small child is so hard,but 4 little ones in virtually impossible with no help.

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Tigerpacingthecage
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. I'm torn about this. It's not a good environment to live in and the kids should learn to do their part of cleaning up (yes it takes a lot of work and patience to teach them that but saves time and sanity later on). On the other hand it gives you a good idea about how much work that comes with parenthood. We are a family of 5. Kids ages 9,8,1yrs. It's much easier now when the oldest can pick up after themselves but when they were young it was constant work. I imagine it could easily be like this with younger kids. That's why it's so important to divide housework equally between both parents.

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad to me that the OP is putting this up on social media. For what? Either to get disapproval or be told it's ok, normal and get sympathy? There are 2 small babies walking in bare feet in filth, with open drawers sticking out, mouldering food laying around. If you make the decision to have 4 kids then make sure you're able to take care of them. These kids are not being taken care of mentally or emotionally. There is no room to play, no order, rules, expectations, structure. I grew up with families that had 5-8 kids including cousins living with them, people they'd take in. It wasn't chaos. These children look lost. This borders on squalor. Cleaning it up shouldn't be so special it's a social media video. This is not ok

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Kimi Tomminello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did it to show how quick she can clean it up. This was after her family was sick. She inspired many people with depression nests to clean them up.

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Kandi Heiple
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't ok. I lived in a house that looked like this and it was humiliating. Her kids dont deserve to grow up in filth. I know being a mom is hard but this is unacceptable.

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Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why she's the only one doing all the cleaning. Why aren't the kids helping? Seriously- pick up those cushions and put them back before you X, take that bike (or was it a scooter)? Outside, throw these in the trash, put this in the hamper. You do that every night before bed and things are a lot less overwhelming. And you aren't the one doing it all. You train the kids. Even if the initial training is hard. It's worth it to get some help around the house.

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NaChO tHe UnIcOrN
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the oldest of four kids, and the only reason our house doesn't look like this after a day is because I'm a neat freak. Even if people are grossed out by it, it certainly is *real*

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Linda Hall Kuehl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, I had 4 kids, worked full time, took college classes but the house debris was cleaned up after supper before bedtime. Trained the kids to do homework, pick up after themselves to get their privileges - always "showed" & "helped" them to do it. Discipline should not be mean; it should be to allow them to grow in maturity. Their lives should be balanced between fun & growth. Control is something you teach they with love. If you start when kids are little it's a lot easier. Parents job is to raise responsible children. I now have 4 responsible kids; 11 grandkids. One daughter is now a Computer guru; one works with Handicapped; one VP of a top 500 company and a son is President of an International Mfg company. I have to agree with Zophra below....

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never judge someone for this. There are 6 people in that household, both contributing to the mess and (depending on age) capable of helping stay on top of things.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ya it's dirty, the floor, carpet, counters, she put things away but still dirty. If you don't want to be judged don't post online, honestly what did you expect.

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Chris Hardtke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tough s**t. You accept the responsibility of not living like a pig when you commit to the decision to have 4 kids.

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Dr. M.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have 4 children if you can't it. Filthy house. It's a health hazard for the kids. That woman should not have children!

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking at the food on the floors and your counter tops - it wasn’t just messy, it was dirty. I’m glad they cleaned it up but it never ceases to amaze me that people spend so much of their income on their homes and its contents but then choose to live in filth and squalor. I feel sorry for the kids., growing up thinking this is how you should live.

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El Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't get days off with kids and you get NO time off with 4 kids. There's 2 adults so no excuses (unless they are BOTH ill)

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Zophra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Opinion: I don't know about this... I don't want to judge but I think it does look dirty. Some of this - like trash on the floor - would have taken less than 10 seconds to put it in the trashcan - why allow it on the floor? And I wouldn't want my kids to grow up thinking that such disorganized, unhygienic conditions are "normal." If this is a one time family emergency - fine; but if they let it get to this condition regularly ...not a good "normal."

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Space Whale
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's a grown woman, she can pick up after her self and her kids. This is so unsanitary and in not an environment kids should be growing up in.

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GenericPanda09
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just looking at that gives me an increased heart rate. I know some people can live like this not because they're lazy but they have mental health issues that make them less motivated to clean and tidy the place up, but personally there's nothing that would make my mental health go downhill as quick as living in that mess. I like order, not chaos. And yeah, kids are messy but it ain't bad parenting to teach them to put toys away when they've finished with them before they get other ones out.

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DuchessDegu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We could get all toys out to play anywhere, but also were taught to put them away after finishing - ok for me the main motivation was not to let my siblings take my toys, but still it's something I've learned for life, I put everything away as soon as I'm done

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Johan van Luijn-Hermans
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 kids, 5 year old girl, 7 year old boy living in the house with an extra adult. I'm sorry, but our house does not even get close to this kind of mess, this is just a lack of rules and motivation. I have no words for people who think this is normal or excusable. The kids have an excellent wonderful life, are doing fine of above in school, but they also clean up because that is the standard they see around them on daily base. If you would post this online in the Netherlands, you can count on it you will get a visit from the child protective services and to be honest, for a good reason.

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VeninTheNonBinaryRogue
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am the second oldest of five, and our house is never that messy. If it gets to even half the mess of in the video, we have to help clean it. We have chores and stuff to help around the house, and if we don’t do them there’s consequences. This lady really needs to get some rules down

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Lazy Suzy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 kids under 8 and can definitely come confirm if you opt out of the hotel mind set / responsibilities / normality then it is easy to get to this state. Chores are the regular cause of parent arguments in my household (they are boring and mundane), until the kids are fully able to 'help' we are just going to have to bear with it. Relaxing some of the day to day responsibilities once in a while is ok. ❤

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LagoonaBlueColleen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people post stuff like this? It's like some sort of weird "check" thing. Like the anorexia body checks but with messy, dirty houses and then try to convince people "It's just messy. It's not dirty". They know that's bs.

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Kimi Tomminello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She was trying to help people get out of their depression nests. She was showing how quickly you can clean up a completely trashed house. I think everybody is so focused on calling her nasty and leaving out the part that she cleaned the damn thing.

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BluEyedSeoulite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 2 under 5 and have a cleaner that comes to help on the weekend. Last Sunday, she did a fantastic job and my kids had ruined it within hours after she had left. By that evening, it looked like we hadn't cleaned in days. Kids are messy, no way around it until either they grow up or move out

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Kitty Monrova
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is that you can't rely on a cleaner to keep a home nice. It's really not that hard if you just check behind you. It can take 10 seconds to clean out a milk jug and throw it in the recycle, but if you fail to do those small things over and over again, it will start to be overwhelming very quickly. Kids are messy yeah, but that doesn't mean you just say screw it and leave a trail of messes everywhere. When they make a mess, you clean it up. They make another mess in 10 minutes, you clean it up again. Not to mention, if children are leaving this kind of mess behind, its most likely that it's because they haven't been taught any better. I live in a house with five children, and granted it's not spotless, but the children would never leave a mess like that, because they've been taught to respect their home through example from the other adults in the house

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Lara M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of those kids look old enough to pick up their own messes.

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Danyelka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of Four. You are demotivated when somebody imediatly destroys your work even when you are adult. If they would have to clean after siblings (they are not so grown that they should be responsible) I would expect abusive family.

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Bi-Polar Express
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is ridiculous. There's a bike in the kitchen. This is a management problem beyond just making your kids clean up often themselves (which they can start doing as toddlers. Trash on the ground just doesn't happen, either. Even the 4 year old in our house knows where the trash goes.

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iseefractalz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not dirty...for a dumpster. There's no excuse for that. Qualifying it as "lazy with 4 kids" is just evidence that they should not have had 4 kids. It's not even the clutter that's obviously due to the kids, that's one thing. Kids are horrible (unfortunately allowing things to perpetually be that way will ensure they grow up to be horrible adults too). The biggest issue is the kitchen. It's disgusting. You don't leave dishes sitting, dirty, for 4 days and get to pretend that "it's not dirty, it's just MESSY teehee" it's nasty. What's worse, washing dishes right after you're done using them, is stupidly simple. It takes seconds to clean a dirty plate...so long as you do it right away. Once you let stuff dry, congeal, harden, and in this case probably mold, what should have taken 15 or 20 seconds per item, now takes MINUTES per item. All it takes is that one nasty dish that you left sitting overnight, before it snowballs into an overflowing sink. Shame. SHAAAAME.

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Sally Kerr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two young girls. They know they have to tidy up after themselves, they know how to clean their bathroom and wash the dishes. This is not Mum's job, this is the family's home and it is the parents that have let this happen by not raising their kids to respect their home and join in family chores.

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Lynn Wilcox
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It really bothers me when people make horrible comments about others. I'm sick all the time. I honestly struggle to even get out of bed sometimes because I'm so sick. This can sometimes be every day for weeks. Just keeping the house decently clean can be so overwhelming and sad for me and seeing the lack of empathy just hurts my soul. Not everyone is mentally or physically capable of keeping a really organized house all the time. We need to show each other more grace and empathy. A LOT more. Mom's used to stay home, now we work and are still expected to keep the house in the same condition with home cooked meals. We were better off when one income could support a household.

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Kandi Heiple
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1 year ago

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Im sorry but if you're so sick you can't get out of bed then you shouldnt have kids

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Dorothy Cloud
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If she didn't want or appreciate negative comments..............don't put your life out for the world to see. Why do people think they have to share their lives to others?

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No Fox Given
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s a liveable mess. So what that they don’t put toys away the second the kids have finished playing. So what if they don’t wash the dishes that same day they have eaten. God people these days too quick to preach. Relax. End of the day it gotten cleaned up, things put away, order was restored in THEIR home. Some need to stop clutching.

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Linny H
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have 3 sibs and I grew up in a messy (dirty too) house and it was very frustrating growing up in such wild disorder. Taught me to be highly stressed if something is out of place in my own house. I cannot save a mess till morning, I must have a sparkling kitchen and tidy everything else when I get up in the morning.

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was the opposite for me. My step mother would freak out while she was cleaning everything would have to be cleaned every day. I would get punished for a months at a time if there was a glass left in the sink after my morning clean up. I clean my house but I don't stress when it's not perfect bc I hated that scary feeling growing up. Like you can't live in your own house bc it's museum like.

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Babsywabs
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am with one of the commenters in the posting above, who said she had lived like this as a child and it was traumatizing. I, too, lived like this as a child, and she is absolutely right. I am 63 years old and STILL dealing with the consequences of growing up in a home like this. "It's not dirty, it's just messy." Honey, you need to wake up. You didn't wash dishes for FOUR DAYS??? It's dirty. Teach your children to put things away. Teach them that it is THEIR house, too, and they need to contribute. They're small, but they can help. Don't make them grow up like this.

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Line Hampen Olsen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If this was a single dad no one would judge this hard🫤 she’s cleaning her house give her some support instead of shaming her..

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Frankenfrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wall to wall carpeting is disgusting. And how stupid does she think people are, there are clearly big stains on the carpet in the kitchen, and the rest of the carpet and the sofa looks abominable

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Anna Repp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I rent and we have wall to wall carpeting and there's nothing I can do about it - hardwood floors are not optional at our place. They might have bought the place like that and just never had the money to replace it.

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K Wit
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is grown and I can tell you w every confidence if I did not clean every single day my daughter, her boyfriend, friends that come over or sleep over and my husband would destroy the house in one day. I just mopped the wood floors two days ago and it looks like someone dragged an open bottle of soda through the foyer and it got cold out so my husband brought some plants in from outside where fallen dirt was just left to sit waiting for me to clean it up. I cleaned the kitchen last night at 2 am while I watched my mind numbing 90 day fiance show and it's now 12 hrs later and there are crumbs all over the counter a sink full of dishes and grease on the stove w a dirty frying pan. I used to cry when this would take place a few minutes after I cleaned now I just feel defeated oh and right after I finished every piece of laundry the teens brought all the blankets in from a camping trip last weekend

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Catarina
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when things get dirty or messy but you need to stop cleaning. You familly don't bother cleaning because YOU do everything....stop doing it

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Emma Starr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some judgy people. Life is dirty and people do the best they can.

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Zophra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I do not think this is the best they can. Especially when the OP starts with "two very lazy adults" -not family emergency or mental/physical disabilities...

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Shelley McKinney
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Single mom of 2 boys who works full time. I find it exhausting. No sooner than I get dishes done when more are dirtied, I don't get clean clothes folded before there is more to do, why can't they remember to put wet towels in the laundry???? I try but it's a never ending cycle and it's hard to keep the motivation to keep doing the same dang thing over and over.

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Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How old are they? Can you teach them how to wash dishes and do laundry? If you can that will take a big load off. As kids we all did our own laundry. It's just the way it was. Never thought about untilI I was older. Probably started about 10. But honestly, I was so young I don't remember. Clothes were fine.

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Sophie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Her carpet is visibly filthy in the after photos. That's insanely unhygienic. The "clean" kitchen was still filthy. My mom was tough about cleaning and I'd way rather have it that way. She taught me how to be a clean adult. Set an example for your kids. I think people would have more empathy if she didn't say "this is when two lazy adults have four kids".

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Anna Repp
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm 45 and my mom is still trying to teach me how to keep the place clean and sparkly. It is still not working, because I am not her, I have depression and a teen who's struggling mentally and academically. My house will never look like hers, period. No matter how much you set examples for your kids, they grow up and become their own people. And sometimes they get lazy, sometimes they get tired or sick... Don't judge others before you know the full story. And never shame people for not keeping a house perfectly clean.

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Janet C
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not dirty? It's filthy, even after the cleaning. I would hate to be a kid living there. And I wouldn't eat anything that came out of that kitchen.

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Trillian
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not lazy, she's unorganised. I have never seen a house look that messy and none of my friends are especially housekeepy. Even my messy friend's house, who has heaps of this and that all over the place, never looked like this. Geez. Sorry for judging, but I would go crazy if I had to live like this. At least put the dirty dishes away, that is gross.

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Mer☕️🧭☕️
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think what she MIGHT have meant is that while the house is messy AND dirty, it's NOT filthy. I don't know her life, I don't know what physical and other issues she might have to deal with on the daily with not only herself but her kids, too, so I can't judge her. I'm just glad she was able to, eventually, corral the mess. Good for her. (Also, the important thing to me is - does she love her kids? Does she treat them well? She did clean the house after that 4-day experiment so the kids are safe.)

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Ms.GB
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live with 3 adults and if I skip 1 day of dishes my sink is overflowing...It's overflowing rn, I skipped them yesterday.

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Moose
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is a large difference between not picking up clutter and toys being left out and just leaving trash in the middle of the floor. If the house looks like this after 4 days what are the parents doing.

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Danyelka
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know I will downvoted. I hated when my aunt strted to clean the dishes befor everybody finished the meal. I still preffere instead deadly tired clean the dishis in the evening clean it in the morning and clean and plan my day while doing it. Second thing - as a child who were constantly cursing for cleaning, cleaning became most hated thing I do.

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Octavia Hansen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids need to start picking up after themselves NOW! She will not always be there. They are old enough to get things out, they can put things back. And if they won't, then she needs to be hard nosed and get rid of stuff, or put it away until they decide they will comply. No, I'm not talking depriving them or them going hungry . . . but they can put plates in the sink, pick up toys & clothes. Start them early. She's not the warden but she can teach them personal responsibility. And she's a saint for staying with the kids!

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Kristina Atwood
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm my a neat freak in any way, but not doing the dishes for 4 days?! Just imagining the smell turns my stomach. Not messy, dirty, definitely a recipe for opportunistic pests. Flies alone could wreak havoc in less than 4 days. It takes so little time to wash dishes even for 6. Scrape, rinse, into the dishwasher or soapy water. It's not that hard.

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Kristina Atwood
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The rest of the house, I get it. Kids are chaotic. No excuse for the kitchen being like that. None.

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Emmie The Squirrel Queen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank god my home wasn't like that as a kid, it would've definitely messed me up worse than I already am.

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ChickyChicky
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The parents need to be evaluated for ADHD. I kid you not, everyone I know who has a house like this has ADHD.

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Adam Zad
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the kids need to do their part, too. If they're old enough to play with the toys, they're old enough to pick up after themselves, too.

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Dr. Carlos Dangercat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you get everyone to follow some basic rules like "empty packaging goes in the trash/recycling as soon as it's removed" and "dirty dishes go in the dishwasher when they're done being used" the house will never get into this state to begin with. When it builds up into a giant mess it becomes this big stressful thing.

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H Moore
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

4 days?! MIL had 7 kids and worked in market gardens and it never looked like that!

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Bekaroo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one in this family is "living like this." This was the accumulated mess of 4 kids in 4 days while the parents were sick, then they cleaned it. That living room could have gotten that way in one hour with that many small kids. You can see in her other videos that it never stays that wrecked for very long. I grew up in a home plagued by poverty, abuse, and addiction. It was at that "4 days" stage and worse at ALL TIMES. That's when interventions were needed (but sadly didn't happen). I think this family is really real, most people don't like doing chores and put them off or have to put them off to accomplish the other things needed to keep a 4 kid family rolling. Stop judging regular families.

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Little king trash mouth
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not judging. But why do people feel the need to post every single aspect of their lives online?

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Lola
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s not dirty, it’s just messy??? This house hasn’t been cleaned in years. You are putting your kids at risk by exposing them to so many health hazards, never mind the psychological hurt this will cause. I wouldn’t even be able to find those kids in that filth and mess. Stop making excuses and clean your house, and please stop having kids. Downvote as much as you want, this is absolutely disgusting. And if you are the same way, you need to clean your damn house too. No child should live like an animal.

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Kathy Pearlman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only have one kid and he's 70 years old. I haven't seen my living room floor in over 10 years. It's hopeless. He'll "clean it up" and one day late, he fills the space back in. No matter what I do, he can undo it and yell at me about it. It isn't worth it. comics-626...53347b.jpg comics-626c13a53347b.jpg

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your son is a bully, has emotional issues and it's YOUR house. I understand with people like him it's not worth the fighting, but that's their way of being able to do what they want. It's not fair to you. If you have other relatives or friends who can help you get him help or support you, please do it.

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Alec
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only battle the mess to a draw. Entropy will always win out in the end, and keeping an immaculate house is a pointless waste of time imho. There will always be more dirt there tomorrow. So yeah, this is messy, but honestly, if that is your biggest concern, you have it made.

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Rabbit Carrot
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok look, not putting toys and books away is one thing, hell even leaving the cushions disorganised is ok, but there is a LOT of trash and old food packets littered around that house. That’s just dirty. At least put your trash in the bin otherwise you’ll attract vermin.

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Susie Elle
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two things: get your kids to clean up after themselves and get your husband to do it together with you. Where is he?

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Wilf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have two kids (4 and 2), both of us parents work full time. As a parent you OWE your kids a tidy, safe, organized space to live in. At least a couple of those children are old enough to learn how to tidy away their toys and pick up anything they drop. Leaving trash on the floor represents a real danger if one of the younger children decides they want to eat it. Untidy and unclean spaces like this will have an effect on those children developmentally, who will learn some very poor behaviours as a result, not least they WILL be feeling stressful living in that sort of environment. Not to mention an untidy living space can also have an impact on your own mental health too. She needs to learn to get on top of housework, and teach the kids the importance of helping her do it.

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Julia Winfield
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No reason for it to be that dirty. She's an adult. And some of the kids are old enough to learn what a trash can is and how to put some toys away. She's using the kids as an excuse to be lazy.

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Ed
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who grew up with a "haha lazy parent" and had the house frequently look like this- it sucks. For everyone. And it keeps your kids from learning to clean after themselves and manage chores, it gets them used to a dirty house, no matter how much you tell them to clean up after themselves or their things, they follow the parents example. Also bugs and rodents, we had those every once and awhile too, and it got AT LEAST as dirty as that house.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm definitely conflicted. I grew up in a house with 5 other siblings and it was definitely a lot, but it never got this bad. As one of the oldest I of course had chores and I think that's really important to teach kids, to pick up after themselves. This shouldn't all be put on the mom and after all she did clean it up.

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Miss Kat O
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's some seriously judgmental people here. It's 4 days... it's not even a week

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Diemond Star
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not 4 days, that's from day 1 along with laziness. I feel so bad for her kids.

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similarly
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I started picking up around the house when I was four. At 10, I started washing dishes, scrubbing the bathroom, doing laundry, mowing the lawn, helped my Mom and brothers re-wallpaper the house, and helped my Grandpa reshingle the roof. My next older brother taught me to sew, 2nd oldest taught me to cook, and oldest taught me to iron (and tie my necktie). The kids need to be organized into a cleaning crew. My Mom used to say "I work all week. Least you guys can do is the cooking, the laundry, the dishes, and cleaning up on the weekend." By the time we moved out, we all knew how to take care of ourselves.

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Ally Joy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares. If the kids are happy and healthy, that is all that matters.

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phil blanque
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter was a Montessori teacher. Her students were 2 years old through 5 years old. Each school day the 25 students were self-directed, taking out and using thousands of educational materials...puzzles, mathematical constructions, teaching cards, etc. And at the end of the day, pretty much everything was put back in an orderly way, because that is what they are taught. 25 2 to 5 year olds. There is no excuse. No excuse.

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Dr. Carlos Dangercat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly my thought! At preschool, children are perfectly capable of learning to throw away their trash, clear their plates, put away toys, etc. They can do it at home too.

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Katerina Huskova
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And that's why I've learnt to clean/tidy one section of our flat at a time, every day...it takes literally 10-15 minutes, which is an add break, and this helps me to keep our home nice

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Rick Holmes
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is nothing to get anyone’s knickers in a twist over! THANKFULLY, that mom is ABLE to clean up, AND enlists the kids who can, to help. AND, there’s ..zero.. indication that this mess-piled house is that way, all the time. WAAAAYY too many people are “working/wounded”, with no helps, & WAAAYY too many heavy responsibilities, who physically cannot manage or cope, when disorder takes over. These folks commonly live with heaps, piles, & filth, too (there is a different between “mess”, “dirty”, & “filth”). . Regardless of which kind, the owner deserves empathy, compassion, & maybe some help, if they could get it in ways that avoided judging them, & avoided costing them.

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FABULOUS1
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone has their own opinino as to what is considered messy and what is considered dirty, IMO this is dirty. I 100% understand toys, shoes and some clothes lying around, but this is beyond that. It appears that there is no supervision and the kids are allowed to do as they please in the house, and they are not required to pick up after themselves. But based on some of the things on the ground it appears the parents have not made a good example because their things are there also. I dont know these people or their situation but me personally would not be able to handle it. I think house work doesnt have to be an every day thing, but as long as you pick up after yourself it prevents it becoming overwhelming. They should do something now before their children think this is normal and end up living like this as adults.

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Coffeemama05
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like if you, and your lazy significant other and your kids all chipped in, it wouldn’t be like this. Kids can have chores at very young ages and I feel like this would be a good habit to get into for everyone. Being in a messy home is not healthy for anyone

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Marnie
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing wrong with a bit of mess, but this looked ridiculous. Put things away at the time of being done with it and there is much less of a need to do anything later. Why are random things being left on the kitchen floor?

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I grew up in a home with the 'lived in look'. No trauma to me, in some ways kinda relaxing. My mom had friends over with kids of their own along. Some reason for the visit was a needing for comfort with the chaos of their lives. One comment that would be made by these women were that they could talk and not stress over what their child would mess up and the reaction that a clean nut would give if the room got touched. Not saying that they left the home in disaray, but that they could feel comfortable that my mom would be judgemental over a mess created. No the magazine like perfection was not our house. A plaque in our house read " My house is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy" spoke for itself.

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Nay Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if i walked into that house i'd have to turn around and walk straight back out. i'm not judging because i know how hard it is to keep things clean and tidy when you have little kids (2 of bree's kids are still in nappies) but i grew up with a hoarder for a mother and now that i live on my own i've gone in completely the opposite direction. i cannot stand stuff and mess. it will literally give me a panic attack. i have a rule in my house. if it doesnt get used at least once a week it goes in the bin

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Lexie Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not 'normal,' but we don't know what she's going through. I have no kids and sometimes my house is a disaster. I also suffer from major depression and my mental state sometimes just keeps me from doing what I know I need to do. "Clean the house, it will help with the depression," is a true statement, but depression also makes it so you don't want to clean. All of that said, she admits to being "lazy" so maybe she needs a different type of motivation.

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Brian Stanton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Need a vacuum and carpet shampooed, nasty carpet. Dishes caked with food for days but has a dishwasher. Attracts bugs. Even water in dishes attracts roaches and fruitflies

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This entire post is just further validation of my decision to never have kids! I'm 61 now and still very pleased with my choice. Dogs and cats are so much easier and less expensive.

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Awsomemom52
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've seen worse... without children involved. Kids can turn a house into an absolutely frightening mess, in a fairly short amount of time... seems like a talent, they are born with! I'm a really lazy person, who hates tidying up and cleaning. Decluttering and reorganizing has helped me A LOT. Start in a small corner, or one cupboard and set a timer (10-20 minutes).. very helpful, if you want your kids to help you. When the time is up, you can stop... or continue, if you feel like it. This is important: find "a home" for all your stuff... I mean really, for EVERYTHING! If you can't it find "a home", you should probably get rid of it. Less stuff, less clutter, and if everything has it's place, it's easier for everyone to put it back, where it belongs. And always remind yourself: don't put it down... put it away!

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Shruti Patel
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not every kid is such docile to put every toy in its place after play I know because I have such kids and they like to make a mess and it testes your patience to put everything back repeatedly for 10 to 12 times a day and that's to say in every room . Plus cooking for them cleaning them bathing them it takes a toll on us. In the end we are really ok with all the mess they make because we are tired as f. Only parents will know the feeling.

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blatherskitenoir
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It getting to that level means the kids haven't been learning how to do regular chores, which is the greater failure than it being gross.

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celery g
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When kids are 3 and older, there is no reason why they can't be taught to tidy up after themselves! Can't get lazier than me, but even I would never have such a midden!

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Amie Redman
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So does she work full time? I do: I get up at 5:15 Monday through Friday, take my son to mother in laws, she takes him to school. (She is amazing!!) I get to work, at the end o of the day I clean up, house never looks like this. I understand she has 4 kids but some of this doesn’t seem like it would take long to maintain. That is a pig sty.

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Celtic Pirate Queen
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, sorry - but this isn't "just how it goes" when you have multiple children. Yes, I am being judgmental - because you're raising the next generation of pigs. You can't load the dishwasher, use a broom or teach your children to pick up after themselves? You are beyond lazy, honey - you're sad. I was the single parent of 2 kids, worked full time, and went to night school - AND my house was f*cking spotless.

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somnomania
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the fact that she can just pick a day and clean all of that up is mind-blowing. four days without cleaning, my god. try four months. try four YEARS, for parts of some rooms. when i finally deal with sections of my bedroom it's like an archeological dig. and my opinion is that for this lady, this is a good lesson for her kids for why you don't let it sit; it makes more, harder work later.

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Isle_of_stressed_pilots
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is ABSOLUTELY dirty, however I understand that keeping a house (that has 4 kids) clean 24/7 is difficult. Perhaps she should teach her children to clean up after themselves?

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Christopher Hawke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Y'all do not even f*****g know what a dirty house is. Do you see how fast she cleaned that up? Do you know how big of a deal it is she cared to clean it up at all? No, you don't. You have no f*****g clue because you have never had to live in obscene amounts of filth. Where you find your little brother, sitting on a pile of trash in the kitchen, eating a bowl of cereal out of a tupperware because it takes OVER AN HOUR to clean the kitchen enough that you can even open the microwave just to make a couple of hot pockets - and it is so normal to him that he is confused when you ask how he can stand living like this. Where there is dog p**s is, so thickly caked onto the dining room table and chairs that it takes you half the day to drag it into the yard and SCRUB it clean just so you can even sit at it without wanting to throw-up. Where cleaning one SMALL bedroom is a 10 hour job, and the mouse s**t is so thick that you realize you forgot that the carpet wasn't black! To say nothing of the

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kirsty louise
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

2 kids here. I can totally imagine it went from clean to that in 4 days. If I left mine for 2 days it would probably be worse but that's why I don't. I couldn't live like that and I wouldn't want my kids to either. BUT she did clean it eventually so can't be too harsh on her. Some people don't and live in squaller 24/7, now that's dirty

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Tina Oz
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Picked up some of the stuff around... still doesn't look clean. If she didn't want to be judged then she shouldn't have posted this on internet to be seen. She is a dirty woman. Prob thinking surface clean is enough. Not nice living environment for the kids.

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Savage Susan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was dirty. Dirty dishes in the sink, on the counter, on the stove. Food spilled on the floor. It’s not just dirty, it’s unhealthy. I understand having a rough day, feeling sick, and still having to take care of the kids. We’ve all been there. Not being able to do everything I get, but not at least putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher and cleaning up spilled food is inexcusable.

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good god if we had of made a mess like that in my home as a child my mother would have throttled us we had to clean up after ourselves because both our parents worked full-time+ hours to keep us (also a family of 6) so from a very young age we learned that if we didn't clean up on a Friday after school then they would have to do it over the weekend which would result in us being stuck home all weekend and no fun, teach the kids to help include rewards pocket money it will also teach them responsibility and pride, if we got something out and played with it you put it back exactly where it came from when you were done, we were also taught to respect what we had and be bloody darn greatful for it to I'm sorry to say if the children are treating the furniture there toys etc this way they aren't being respectful or greatful for what they have or for you as parents what you've worked to provide. Also Florence nightingale says cleanliness is next to godliness" because bacteria causes illness

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#iwriteitall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Babies, young children become alot sicker than adults from gastric infections in severe sever cases they can die

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Deux
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course it's dirty- you haven't washed your dishes in 4 days! By the first morning there would already be stuff growing on those plates and surfaces that could put your kids in hospital. Instead of posting photos online and looking for approval from complete strangers on the other side of the planet just clean up! Enoughs enough with the current 'nobody say anything bad about anything in anyones life' nonsense- time to start taking personal responsibility again. Especially in this case where it isn't just yourself you are responsible for. You and your lazy ass husband are PARENTS to children for crying out loud! Even if YOU think it's acceptable, your young kids have no say. Plus, what example does this set to their young minds exactly?

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Londo Cotto
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shouda kept her legs closed if she cant handle the responsibilities: zero sympathy. Adult up.

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Katinka Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is the whole attitude behind it. It is not just lazyness, it is a lack of care and selfcare and she will pass that on to her children. Also: Where is the husband while she is doing this? (And it IS really dirty)

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Carrie Bradley
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Get the children involved! From the pictures. It looks like at least 2 of them are old enough to help. Make it fun! Turn up some fun dance music and make it a great time! I have chronic illness, so I know it’s hard to do sometimes, but you will feel much better when it’s done! 🙂

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Melissa TO
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why isn't the husband helping? Did I miss something? Sorry if I missed him helping, but if they both work full time they both should be doing daily chores.

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Sheila Cormack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Way worse than mine and my s mil said she couldn’t be friends with someone with a house like mine. I feel bad our house has issues but was cleaned by three cleaners once a week as I’m ill and hub is full time doc so it was clean but my daughter liked pressing the raised wallpaper with her nails. Also when she saw a tiny spot of anything she had to pick it. We had a leak from a bathroom radiator and haven’t been able to get if fixed because I’d have to stay in a hotel while they refit our loo. My mum micro cleaned everything I tried to be the same as a new mum it broke my partner and 1 up for a year. I was very unhappy as a kiddie to the insanity. If you’ve never washed a kitchen ceiling without a ladder or a mop then you might understand why it’s less important. It is important it’s clean enough for them to have friends to visit.

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Aline Cahill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I couldn't live like that. But from what I got from it she wasn't happy either, maybe she was sick or something? I have 2 kids and expecting 3rd any moment now, my house is not looking great, but it's temporary, I manage my anxiety keeping things clean and tidy.

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Peta Hurley-Hill
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I notice no one mentions her husband/partner.I know first hand how exhausting and overwhelming Being a Mum of 4 young kids can be.I worked 6 days a week when mine were little.We used my one day off to do family stuff, including drive,outings and 4 birthday parties a year etc.My Husband worked five days a week,so he did housework on his day off. I would pick up the slack ,after the kids were in bed.I cook dinner most nights,he cooked one night and we had take away once a week.Once they were older,my son cooked 2 or 3 nights a week(he is a great cook) .Buying a dish washer was the best thing I ever bought.Even with all that,our house was never going to make it into a design magazine.We would never have managed had we not worked as a team.Afterall,they are his kids too.Everyone is so quick to judge this poor woman but having one small child is so hard,but 4 little ones in virtually impossible with no help.

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Tigerpacingthecage
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hm. I'm torn about this. It's not a good environment to live in and the kids should learn to do their part of cleaning up (yes it takes a lot of work and patience to teach them that but saves time and sanity later on). On the other hand it gives you a good idea about how much work that comes with parenthood. We are a family of 5. Kids ages 9,8,1yrs. It's much easier now when the oldest can pick up after themselves but when they were young it was constant work. I imagine it could easily be like this with younger kids. That's why it's so important to divide housework equally between both parents.

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Rannveig Ess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad to me that the OP is putting this up on social media. For what? Either to get disapproval or be told it's ok, normal and get sympathy? There are 2 small babies walking in bare feet in filth, with open drawers sticking out, mouldering food laying around. If you make the decision to have 4 kids then make sure you're able to take care of them. These kids are not being taken care of mentally or emotionally. There is no room to play, no order, rules, expectations, structure. I grew up with families that had 5-8 kids including cousins living with them, people they'd take in. It wasn't chaos. These children look lost. This borders on squalor. Cleaning it up shouldn't be so special it's a social media video. This is not ok

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Kimi Tomminello
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She did it to show how quick she can clean it up. This was after her family was sick. She inspired many people with depression nests to clean them up.

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Kandi Heiple
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't ok. I lived in a house that looked like this and it was humiliating. Her kids dont deserve to grow up in filth. I know being a mom is hard but this is unacceptable.

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Tyranamar Seuss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand why she's the only one doing all the cleaning. Why aren't the kids helping? Seriously- pick up those cushions and put them back before you X, take that bike (or was it a scooter)? Outside, throw these in the trash, put this in the hamper. You do that every night before bed and things are a lot less overwhelming. And you aren't the one doing it all. You train the kids. Even if the initial training is hard. It's worth it to get some help around the house.

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NaChO tHe UnIcOrN
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the oldest of four kids, and the only reason our house doesn't look like this after a day is because I'm a neat freak. Even if people are grossed out by it, it certainly is *real*

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Linda Hall Kuehl
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, I had 4 kids, worked full time, took college classes but the house debris was cleaned up after supper before bedtime. Trained the kids to do homework, pick up after themselves to get their privileges - always "showed" & "helped" them to do it. Discipline should not be mean; it should be to allow them to grow in maturity. Their lives should be balanced between fun & growth. Control is something you teach they with love. If you start when kids are little it's a lot easier. Parents job is to raise responsible children. I now have 4 responsible kids; 11 grandkids. One daughter is now a Computer guru; one works with Handicapped; one VP of a top 500 company and a son is President of an International Mfg company. I have to agree with Zophra below....

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Justme
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would never judge someone for this. There are 6 people in that household, both contributing to the mess and (depending on age) capable of helping stay on top of things.

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Jennifer Germain
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ya it's dirty, the floor, carpet, counters, she put things away but still dirty. If you don't want to be judged don't post online, honestly what did you expect.

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Chris Hardtke
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tough s**t. You accept the responsibility of not living like a pig when you commit to the decision to have 4 kids.

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Dr. M.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't have 4 children if you can't it. Filthy house. It's a health hazard for the kids. That woman should not have children!

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The Starsong Princess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Looking at the food on the floors and your counter tops - it wasn’t just messy, it was dirty. I’m glad they cleaned it up but it never ceases to amaze me that people spend so much of their income on their homes and its contents but then choose to live in filth and squalor. I feel sorry for the kids., growing up thinking this is how you should live.

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El Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't get days off with kids and you get NO time off with 4 kids. There's 2 adults so no excuses (unless they are BOTH ill)

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