Sometimes parents want to be 'relatable' and 'cool', so they use meme references and words like 'lit' but these things don't cut it. All these desperate attempts do is just embarrass their kids. However, if they try something really ridiculous, it brings them even more shame. They end up on the subreddit /r/InsaneParents.
The online community describes itself as "a weird place where you can post those crazy parents who post in those woo-woo anti-vax groups on Facebook and do things harmful (directly and indirectly) to their children. We want to be a place where people can come and both get support and laugh. So this sub is a mixture of both the heartbreaking and the hilarious. Come and join us. Especially if you have your own stories to tell or your own social media content to post." Below you will find some of their most popular posts.
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My Mother Dearest, Whom My Sister And I Just Let Back Into Our Lives, Talking To My Sister About Her Daughter (My Niece). Behold The Kind Of Person She Is
Your sister has the right answer. Your mom is a piece of work. You never call children names.
Bored Panda has already published two posts about the subreddit (here and here) but it looks like there's no shortage of insane moms and dads; people keep posting more and more parenting horror stories. Even though the subreddit was created relatively recently, in 2017, it already unites over 1.2 million members, with thousands online at any given moment.
It's normal for parents and their kids to have different views and opinions. In fact, they can be used for growth, too. Vicki Broadbent, founder of Honest Mum and author of Mumboss, is one of those parents who are open to learning from their children as much as they want to teach them. "They've taught me a lot from feeling more confident when I've been trolled online, to how to create a TikTok video!" she told Bored Panda. "My kids aged 10 and 8 respectively are both creative, empathetic, resilient, and strong-willed little humans. We base our relationships on open conversations and trust. I think the art of listening has been lost somewhat, and rather than being didactic as a parent, we need to practice listening more (and really hearing) to others' points of view, before sharing our own views.
Guilty Has Punished
Can we all send her something to congratulate her ? I want this child to be proud of her work! (of course, we can't actually send her something, but still!)
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What the?? I would be extremely proud of my kids if they came home with a grade like that. Grades aren't everything and no child should be punished because of that.
I have a 3.5 gpa and I had one B because my gpa in that particular class was 3.33, so basically super close to an A. I got grounded for it
Sorry, but that's unfair. Punishment like that is more warranted for an act that is deliberate. If you were deliberately not trying or refusing to study that's one thing but we're not always good at every subject and sometimes a slighlty lower score happens. There needs to be a proportionate response. Also, grades mean very little later in life. If you do well enough to get into the further education you want, the career you want then who cares if you got an A- or a B once. As an interviewer I have NEVER asked what grades people got - I care about whether they are properly qualified and if they have the relevant skills. There are a lot of successful people who didn't get the best grades. Do your best, of course, but don't be disheartened by unreasonable expectations.
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Quora Questions like this are bait. They have a program where you can get paid for asking highly answered questions so people ask intentionally dumb or trolly questions like this to get more replies.
I got an 85% on a test once and I was punished because "85% is a failing grade"
Sounds like a great score to me! Any non psycho parent would be so proud.
People like this raise neurotic, stressed adults that have a low self-image of themselves...
I am currently taking Spanish science because I am part of the Spanish immersion program (since kindergarten) but my mom expects me to get all As. Imagine taking chemistry in Spanish, then needing to translate it back into English for highschool chemistry classes. What I'm trying to say is, don't punish kids for their grades. It shows them that the grade matters more than the actual subject being learned.
My mom was never like this, but she once got angry at me because I got an eighty-seven in reading because of one randomly bad test grade in the middle of the year. The next test brought my grade up to a ninety-three, funny enough. But I was like, "You know not every book is easy to understand, right? Nor are the tests."
Again.. This just sounds narcissistic. And a good example on what conditional love is vs unconditional.
92% is the cut of for A, this is a horrible parent, my friends have said they think I'm the smartest kid in the GIFTED class and I rarely get straight A's.
My son came home with 91% on his math and he was so proud and so happy and told us that it was an A+ and we told him we were so very proud. He then wanted to go over what he missed and why he missed it (his idea!). I thought that was so great, he wanted to learn about what he missed. Im so proud!!!
when I got a good grade my parents would always talk about all the bad things that I did like that one time I was late for class.
Lol that is like an A (at least in my school system), this girl is definitely passing. Mr./Mrs. Parent is a jerk
ugh, my friend's parents have been like this for her whole life, while treating her little sister as a perfect little princess. She can't have under a 95% on a grade or she'll get punished. Thank God strict parents raise sneaky children, though. Her parents don't speak English very well, and they're not very tech-savvy, so she can get away with an 85% sometimes. Don't get me wrong, she's an amazing, smart person, but she's sneaky too, because her parents (mainly her mom, she loves her dad) are extremely strict with her.
I'm already a perfectionist and impose a lot of pressure like this on myself, especially when it comes to grades. I feel really lucky that I don't have to live with someone like this as well. Good luck to this young lady, if she can keep working as hard as she already does, she will undoubtedly find great success.
10th grade? wow. that child is intelligent compared to that i'm Dumb
It was on Quora. I think It was probably a troll question, Quora has a lot of those. There are also Quora bots that ask millions of questions similar to this.
Parental pressure like this can sometimes lead to eating disorders and substance abuse. I got more encouragement from a few of my high school teachers than I did my parents, and thanks to one of them my name is listed in Who's Who Among American High School Students. That same pat on the back from my parents would have meant a thousand times more, just once.
Demanding perfection will either get you ignored or you'll end up with a stressed out kid that needs real help.
This is a stupid Quora troll question, written to attract comments. There are hundreds of similar questions: "My daughter only came third in the state finals, how should I punish her?" and so on.
93%, that great for being in 10th Grade. Why would you want to punish her?!
Broadbent acknowledges that parents have the responsibility to inform, protect, and guide their kids, however, she thinks that children who feel endlessly chastised and forced to conform will do the complete opposite. "You have more chance of persuading your children to do the right thing if you are calm in the way you present your opinions."
"Encouraging children to talk to you honestly without judgement means they will always come to you when they're in trouble. It's also healthy they learn that no one will ever always agree with one another. Another lost art is that of debating!"
When Rebekah Tayebi, a clinical therapist and family coach, looks at toxic family systems, one thing that becomes really evident to her is seeing that the children are more attuned to the needs of the parents. That means, the typical parent-child relationship is inverted and there's confusion about what appropriate boundaries should be in place.
"The hard part for children in these environments is that which is like so many of us, is that we might start to mirror the dysfunction that we're seeing," Tayebi said. That's the reason why it's so important to start to catch negative patterns in the moment and try to eradicate them.
I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here
"Parenting is hard, there's no manual, we're all simply trying to navigate our children through choppy waters and this ever challenging life to be kind and strong," Broadbent concluded. "We also want them to have fun. Childhood is precious. I also think showing my own children my own vulnerabilities has encouraged greater empathy in them and they've understood early on that I'm a real human being not a womb on legs."
What some parents apparently forget is that they need their kids just as much as their little ones need them. When Broadbent had a big operation on her thyroid, for example, she was amazed to find just how much her children can support her during a difficult time.
I don't know, maybe some of the parent-child relationships we see on r/InsaneParents are beyond saving. But I hope they can at least act as a reminder for the rest of us to cherish ours.
I Decided To Finally Go Vaccinated Behind My Anti-Vax Parent's Back!
Insane Parents
Should've Stayed At Home
Yeah and school was because i was born too dumb...SoRrY eVeRyOnE
Essential Oils Don’t Work
Those people should be charged with murder, manslaughter or child endangerment (whatever it comes under).
An Insane Mom
Insane Parents
Father Tries To Say He Put Me Through College. My 1k Monthly Loan Payments Say Otherwise
Yup, sounds like something my ex did. My grown daughter called him out infront of everyone he knows. It was awesome. He didn't want to be a part of her life not the other way around.
Insane Parents
Insane Parents Destroy Their Child’s Art Tablet For... Not Getting Up On Time
Is Violence The Answer ? I Don't Think So
What a disgusting piece of garbage, you just don't do that and you don't brag about it either.
Never Thought My Mom Was That Insane But I Guess Jesus Is Anti-Metal Straw. Sorry If It Doesn't Seem Serious, I Can't Take Anything Seriously
Hypocritical, Awful And Abusive
"every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child"
Raised By Insane Parents Feels
That’s exactly how I feel, I’ve been lucky and I don’t even know anyone who has had covid. But this isn’t even my top 10 worst years of my life.
My Mother Blamed Me For Her Suicidal Tendencies. I'm 15
Because His Kid Didn't Do Homework?
what the f**k? i feel sorry for both kid and doggo, won't be surprised if kid will hold grudge on parents for eons...
Check Mate, Religious Insane Parents
Maybe I can get all those years of rent back from my parents. They're religious nutjobs.
Poor Kid
Abusing Child Support
Lady Tries To Blame Vaccines After Her Son Contracts Hiv
My Dad Charges Me $300 A Month For Rent And Refuses To Let Me Move Out. After Spending The Weekend With My Boyfriend, I Received This
What the actual, she needs to get out of that house and away from that nasty piece of crap.
Using Your Daughter’s Entire College Fund To Pay For Your Crappy Pyramid Scheme Products
This Was By Far The Worst Incident. I Was In 2nd Grade, 7-8 Years Old And Just Went Through Some Of The Worst Trauma Of My Life And My Mom Was More Worried About Going To Vegas Then My Health
Children Aren’t Slaves, Apologize When You’re Supposed To
Found It On Facebook
My Moms Response When I Came Out To Her. Haven’t Talked To Them For Two Weeks Now
I am so mad right now... she worked up all her courage and she get's this :(
I Didn't Want To Give My Jehovah's Witness Dad My Password Because I Was Texting A Girl And He Smashed It With An Axe And Then Beat Me. That Was 5 Years Ago And Today I'm Happily Living Together With That Girl
I Definitely Hope I Can "Indoctrinate" My Children Into Believing In Human Rights
Just A Cold
You just endangered hundreds of people and at least a few will die. You belong in prison.
Imagine Being A Pos Who Not Only Pulls Their Kid Out Of School Due To Not Wanting To Vaccinate Him But Also Broadcast His Misery In An Attempt To Get People To Side With You...
Parents "React" To Their 6 Year Old's Report Card For Views
I Don't Understand How Scientology Came Into Play
Oh, the ignorance is terrifying. I hope some of those 73 comments set them straight.
You Should Be Grateful
This Was Not Posted In A Joking Way
Thats devastating to do to someone. Not only physically but mentally and emotionally.
“A 5 Year Old Is Perfectly Capable Of Fending For Himself”
I think the father should be packing the bags and taking the child. She is not right in the head if she truly thinks what she did was fine. Isn't there laws about this kind of thing.
Update: I’m Immunocompromised And My Mom Refused To Let Me Isolate. Now I Have The Coronavirus
A Question That Came Into One Of My Local Radio Stations
Spare The Rod
Yeah spanking always seemed a tautology of a punishment: *smack* "how many times do I have to tell you [name]?! *smack* We. Do. Not. Hit. People!" *smack*
Glad I Have A Good Relationship With My Parents
Idiot
How can anyone not see that giving a kid this age alcohol, caffeine or sugar is just giving them an early start on addiction?
My Fiance's Mom When We First Started Dating
Imagine Posting This And Being Proud Of The Anger That You Just Took Out On This Kid's Form Of Entertainment
A Friend Of Mine Who’s 27 Years Old
You could have fun with this and hide some weird and random stuff in your bin.
Her Brother Died Of Measles, But She Still Won’t Vaccinate Her Child Against It
Breaking A 7-Year-Old's Heart On Christmas
And Guess What She’d Have Blamed Her Son’s Autism On If She Did Vaccinate?
"i did all the right things. Had a natural birth, DiDn'T vAcCiNaTe, breastfed on d e m a n d for a year, fed a healthy diet..." Your's truly, -Seeking Sympathy 2020
My 5yo Child Is Enrolling In School And They Say I Can’t Come And Breastfeed Him. I’m Being Discriminated Against!
Sick woman. Your child will be fine. You are still breastfeeding to meet your own needs, not his.
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I've said it before and I'll say it again - this is why I hate when people are pushing the "Everyone should respect their parents" idea. Yes - there are many great parents and they deserve recognition, respect and care. But there are also, unfortunately, many parents like these and their children deserve support and understanding when they decide to stop seeing them and cease contact. If you're in that situation - I admire you, it's immensely tough to stand up to your parents and even harder to actually cut them out of your lives. May you find better people to have around who'll make your family. Because blood doesn't make a family. Love does.
I'll type here what I typed below: The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Load More Replies... I don know what to say. I live in a situation like this, but I'm scared to share because I'm worried somehow I'll get in trouble. all I can say is: Other kids in this situation, they may make you think that you're a failure, that you're useless, that you deserve whats happening to you. it's not. it's really not. never forget it.
Dear Pineapple and flowers, Thank you for reaching out. Just like you said to all those other kids, you do not deserve this. This is not your fault. The abuser is at fault, the abuser is responsible. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve love and respect over and over again, only love.
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I really hope and pray for the best for everybody stuck in such situations at this present. It should be a no brainer that we all deserve basic human decency and respect, yet it upsets me deeply that we still haven't overcome this type of behaviour. If it's anything, this random stranger on the internet cares for you, supports you, is proud of your accomplishments, understands your pains, and most of all, loves you. Sending good vibes and best wishes towards everybody's way. PS: I don't think it was a good decision to read this entire article in one sitting, lol.
I did all I was told to do. I still got beat. Some parents are too damaged as people to be good parents.
This isn't the exact quote (I'm paraphrasing) but it's in the bible for those "Christian" parents. The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Aaaaaand now I feel like a rockstar parent. I had a few doosies from my own childhood. 'You're ruining my marriage' when severe depression was making it difficult to get out of bed in time to do my morning chores and make it to the bus stop on time. This was said while basically shoving me out of a moving car down the street from my school. And 'I hope you got that out of your system' when coming out that a friend of mine had been more than just a friend. Then there was that time when my step dad called me a whore when I went home for Christmas. Fun times! I remind myself of how these, and many other incidents, felt any time I feel myself loosing my patience with my own kids. Abuse causes lifelong damage and I refuse to perpetuate that cycle.
This is one of the most horrific articles I've seen on Bored Panda. It's not about parents who "went too far" or "got shamed." Many of these examples are abuse perpetrated by parents onto their children.
We drank the foam off our parents beer as kids and I didnt even like drinking at my friends as a teen. Didnt drink more often till like 36.
Big difference between disciplining children (i.e. teaching them manners and good behaviour) and abusing children. Physical discipline is unnecessary - just a bit of common sense and communication with your kids. Most people these days seem too afraid to even raise their voice to the kid, and then wonder why the children turn out so awful and uncontrollable (which doesn't help the kid at all in their future lives).
The two worst kinds of parents are authoritarian and absent/permissive. You get the screaming, bullying abusive and inconsistent in the authoritarian and the absent, inconsistent, "shrug" neglectful from the permissive. There is a vast field of positive between those two poles.
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This is so sad & painful to read. I lived in a broken home, my Dad used to beat me from the age of 3 upwards, I remember he was drunk the first time around Christmas. Afterwards, he quit drinking but it wasn't the alcohol that fueled his violent outbursts. I was told I was worthless, ugly, lazy, the black sheep of the family, etc. I was punched in the stomach, kicked, dragged by the hair & he tried to smother me with a pillow on one occasion, then tried to buy me something because he felt bad afterwards. I was only 14 & had nowhere to go. Honestly I blotted a lot of it out but now getting therapy as an adult in my late twenties & no longer see my Dad.
Laura, I hope telling your story helps. I'm so sorry that man was your father. I always wanted children, and it kills me to think he had the greatest opportunity a human being is lucky to have and he hurt you. I wish you a lifetime of love and support and kindness.
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The way I see it, all these parents who are doing these terrible things do not deserve their children. Children deserve loving parents who will give their all and do everything in their power to support them above all things.
These are all horrid in their own ways.....but #19 (the dog that was put in a shelter as a punishment to a child not doing well in school) absolutely made me tear up. How can people be this cruel and controlling. Go get psych degrees everyone....they'll always be a use for them with this brand of nutbags around!
Never thought I’d hear of such evil, stupid, and moronic parents! It really makes me want to be in law enforcement, the illegal kind.
My boyfriend’s mom is one of those people who constantly posts/shares hateful and prejudiced content on Facebook especially stuff related to LGBTQ people. One of her grandkids is gay (my boyfriend’s niece) she threatens her with taking away her inheritance when she dies if she doesn’t go to church with her..
To everyone else who's suffering abuse at the hands of a parent/guardian, I want you to know that you don't have to be grateful that it's not worse. I'm aware that many of my stepmom's actions don't even get close to some of the things I see here, but that still doesn't make her a good person: she tried to punish one of her kids for having suicidal thoughts, and is very backhanded about how she supports my transgender (FTM) stepbrother. (I'm also a closeted FTM, and she's one of the very reasons I'm closeted.)
It is so unfortunate that too many damaged people are not self-aware. Instead of seeking help, they go on to have children and to pass that damage along to the next generation. My family was the same. I am 57 now, and in the decades since my childhood I have learned: that I have to be responsible for healing myself, and for finding my own love sources; that my parents were also damaged and abused as children; to have compassion for my parents' suffering without denying the real pain and anger that I still feel; to thank my parents for giving me life itself. Without life, none of my journey would have been possible. I wish ultimate love and calm, a life free from abuse and toxic relationships, and a fruitful uplifting journey to all of us: children who suffer beyond imagination.
We need licenses to have a dog, but any idiot can reproduce. Maybe one day we will change that.
So... some of these are fabricated for shock value and noted on original posts on Reddit.
Allthough there are probably plenty of people like that, I bet more than half of these are fake
Wait what? There's no woman bashing is there? I saw dysfunctional parents in this thread, mothers and father's, and I know of parents who do this kind of s**t i dont see it as fake anecdotes, and I genuinely didn't see any gender agenda? (Omg I love how that rhymes though as a side note: gender agenda)
Load More Replies... I've said it before and I'll say it again - this is why I hate when people are pushing the "Everyone should respect their parents" idea. Yes - there are many great parents and they deserve recognition, respect and care. But there are also, unfortunately, many parents like these and their children deserve support and understanding when they decide to stop seeing them and cease contact. If you're in that situation - I admire you, it's immensely tough to stand up to your parents and even harder to actually cut them out of your lives. May you find better people to have around who'll make your family. Because blood doesn't make a family. Love does.
I'll type here what I typed below: The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Load More Replies... I don know what to say. I live in a situation like this, but I'm scared to share because I'm worried somehow I'll get in trouble. all I can say is: Other kids in this situation, they may make you think that you're a failure, that you're useless, that you deserve whats happening to you. it's not. it's really not. never forget it.
Dear Pineapple and flowers, Thank you for reaching out. Just like you said to all those other kids, you do not deserve this. This is not your fault. The abuser is at fault, the abuser is responsible. You have done nothing wrong. You deserve love and respect over and over again, only love.
Load More Replies... I really hope and pray for the best for everybody stuck in such situations at this present. It should be a no brainer that we all deserve basic human decency and respect, yet it upsets me deeply that we still haven't overcome this type of behaviour. If it's anything, this random stranger on the internet cares for you, supports you, is proud of your accomplishments, understands your pains, and most of all, loves you. Sending good vibes and best wishes towards everybody's way. PS: I don't think it was a good decision to read this entire article in one sitting, lol.
I did all I was told to do. I still got beat. Some parents are too damaged as people to be good parents.
This isn't the exact quote (I'm paraphrasing) but it's in the bible for those "Christian" parents. The Bible says, "Honour your mother and father." But the Bible also says, "Parents, don't invoke your children to wrath." I interpret that as respect is earned.
Aaaaaand now I feel like a rockstar parent. I had a few doosies from my own childhood. 'You're ruining my marriage' when severe depression was making it difficult to get out of bed in time to do my morning chores and make it to the bus stop on time. This was said while basically shoving me out of a moving car down the street from my school. And 'I hope you got that out of your system' when coming out that a friend of mine had been more than just a friend. Then there was that time when my step dad called me a whore when I went home for Christmas. Fun times! I remind myself of how these, and many other incidents, felt any time I feel myself loosing my patience with my own kids. Abuse causes lifelong damage and I refuse to perpetuate that cycle.
This is one of the most horrific articles I've seen on Bored Panda. It's not about parents who "went too far" or "got shamed." Many of these examples are abuse perpetrated by parents onto their children.
We drank the foam off our parents beer as kids and I didnt even like drinking at my friends as a teen. Didnt drink more often till like 36.
Big difference between disciplining children (i.e. teaching them manners and good behaviour) and abusing children. Physical discipline is unnecessary - just a bit of common sense and communication with your kids. Most people these days seem too afraid to even raise their voice to the kid, and then wonder why the children turn out so awful and uncontrollable (which doesn't help the kid at all in their future lives).
The two worst kinds of parents are authoritarian and absent/permissive. You get the screaming, bullying abusive and inconsistent in the authoritarian and the absent, inconsistent, "shrug" neglectful from the permissive. There is a vast field of positive between those two poles.
Load More Replies... This is quite possibly some of the most f’d up s I’ve ever seen posted here
This is so sad & painful to read. I lived in a broken home, my Dad used to beat me from the age of 3 upwards, I remember he was drunk the first time around Christmas. Afterwards, he quit drinking but it wasn't the alcohol that fueled his violent outbursts. I was told I was worthless, ugly, lazy, the black sheep of the family, etc. I was punched in the stomach, kicked, dragged by the hair & he tried to smother me with a pillow on one occasion, then tried to buy me something because he felt bad afterwards. I was only 14 & had nowhere to go. Honestly I blotted a lot of it out but now getting therapy as an adult in my late twenties & no longer see my Dad.
Laura, I hope telling your story helps. I'm so sorry that man was your father. I always wanted children, and it kills me to think he had the greatest opportunity a human being is lucky to have and he hurt you. I wish you a lifetime of love and support and kindness.
Load More Replies... The way I see it, all these parents who are doing these terrible things do not deserve their children. Children deserve loving parents who will give their all and do everything in their power to support them above all things.
These are all horrid in their own ways.....but #19 (the dog that was put in a shelter as a punishment to a child not doing well in school) absolutely made me tear up. How can people be this cruel and controlling. Go get psych degrees everyone....they'll always be a use for them with this brand of nutbags around!
Never thought I’d hear of such evil, stupid, and moronic parents! It really makes me want to be in law enforcement, the illegal kind.
My boyfriend’s mom is one of those people who constantly posts/shares hateful and prejudiced content on Facebook especially stuff related to LGBTQ people. One of her grandkids is gay (my boyfriend’s niece) she threatens her with taking away her inheritance when she dies if she doesn’t go to church with her..
To everyone else who's suffering abuse at the hands of a parent/guardian, I want you to know that you don't have to be grateful that it's not worse. I'm aware that many of my stepmom's actions don't even get close to some of the things I see here, but that still doesn't make her a good person: she tried to punish one of her kids for having suicidal thoughts, and is very backhanded about how she supports my transgender (FTM) stepbrother. (I'm also a closeted FTM, and she's one of the very reasons I'm closeted.)
It is so unfortunate that too many damaged people are not self-aware. Instead of seeking help, they go on to have children and to pass that damage along to the next generation. My family was the same. I am 57 now, and in the decades since my childhood I have learned: that I have to be responsible for healing myself, and for finding my own love sources; that my parents were also damaged and abused as children; to have compassion for my parents' suffering without denying the real pain and anger that I still feel; to thank my parents for giving me life itself. Without life, none of my journey would have been possible. I wish ultimate love and calm, a life free from abuse and toxic relationships, and a fruitful uplifting journey to all of us: children who suffer beyond imagination.
We need licenses to have a dog, but any idiot can reproduce. Maybe one day we will change that.
So... some of these are fabricated for shock value and noted on original posts on Reddit.
Allthough there are probably plenty of people like that, I bet more than half of these are fake
Wait what? There's no woman bashing is there? I saw dysfunctional parents in this thread, mothers and father's, and I know of parents who do this kind of s**t i dont see it as fake anecdotes, and I genuinely didn't see any gender agenda? (Omg I love how that rhymes though as a side note: gender agenda)
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