Mom Annoyed That School Held Off Snack For 5YO As Punishment, Netizens Disagree With Her

Navigating the school system as a first-time parent is a wild ride. You have to accept that discipline is part of the package, and a missed playtime for a playground scuffle seems perfectly fair. Standard consequences like a timeout, an apology written in crayon, or a chat with the teacher are all part of the deal.

But some punishments feel less like a lesson and more like a bizarre power trip. One mom was left completely baffled when her son’s consequence didn’t just cost him his recess, but the snack she had packed in his lunchbox.

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After her 5-year-old son got into a fight, the school kept him inside during afternoon recess

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As part of the punishment, he was also denied the afternoon snack his mother had packed for him

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Upset that her son came home hungry, the mom questioned if the punishment was too extreme or if she was overreacting

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She planned to speak with the teacher, feeling the school had no right to withhold a child’s food

A mom found herself in a situation that isn’t covered in any of the parenting books. Her 5-year-old son, who is rarely in trouble, got into a standard-issue playground scuffle with another boy. The school’s punishment was equally standard: he was kept inside during afternoon break time. The mom was completely on board with this consequence; it was fair, proportionate, and a classic tool in the elementary school justice system.

But the punishment didn’t stop at lost playtime. Because her son was inside and not out on the playground with the other kids, he was also denied his afternoon snack, a snack that his mom had packed for him in his lunchbox. While the rest of the class enjoyed their food outside, her son was told that missing his snack was part of the consequence for his earlier fight.

Her son came home from school “really upset” and, more importantly, “really hungry,” and recounted the story with the accuracy only a wronged 5-year-old can muster. The mom was left completely baffled, questioning if this was some new, bizarre chapter in the secret handbook of school discipline that she, as a first-time parent, had never been told about.

Now, she’s preparing to talk to the teacher but is second-guessing herself, wondering if she’s just being “too sensitive.” She’s fine with him being punished for a fight, but withholding food from a hungry 5-year-old feels less like a lesson and more like a cruel and “extreme” power trip. She’s now asking the internet: is this a normal thing that happens in schools, or is her gut feeling right?

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It’s true that young children have small stomachs and benefit from eating every few hours, as explained by health resources like Healthy Parents Healthy Children. However, it’s crucial to distinguish between a core meal and an optional snack. The child wasn’t denied lunch; he missed one of the day’s three snack times.

While not ideal for his hunger, from a school’s perspective, this is a far cry from withholding essential nutrition and might be seen as a minor, temporary discomfort rather than a serious issue.

School policies, as outlined in resources like the Encyclopedia of School Health, almost universally condemn withholding meals like lunch as a form of punishment. The situation here, however, is more nuanced, which is likely what the teacher will argue. The snack was simply part of the afternoon break time activity that took place outside. The punishment was the loss of the activity, not specifically the withholding of food.

The next step is talking to the teacher, and experts at Parents.com advise against an accusatory approach. Instead of framing it as the school “withholding food,” try an information-gathering question, such as, “Can you help me understand the school’s policy on consequences that overlap with snack time?” This collaborative tone is more likely to lead to a positive outcome than an emotional confrontation.

Do you see this missed snack opportunity as cruel punishment or maybe just an oversight that won’t do much harm? Let us know in the comment section!

The internet, however, was divided, with many commenters suggesting she was overreacting and that the child wouldn’t have starved

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