Husband Is Upset That His Friend Left His Wedding Because His Wife Kicked Out His +1
When people are budgeting their weddings, the main aspect that the price depends mostly on is how many guests you are inviting as this is how the size of the wedding is determined. If you want a small wedding, that means that you have to carefully think over your guest list, which can lead to various disagreements.
This woman specifically wanted only people she knew to come and when her husband’s friend brought a plus one she didn’t recognize, she asked her to leave. The thing is that the husband’s friend left as well and that upset the woman’s husband, who found out only a day later.
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Woman was planning a small wedding so when she saw someone who she didn’t want to be there, she kicked her out
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The Original Poster (OP) got married just a few weeks ago and one incident that happened at her wedding is still bothering her husband, even though she doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
The incident involves her husband’s friend. This friend didn’t live near the couple, so they met very rarely, which meant that they didn’t know his girlfriend that well and this was a problem to the bride, who wanted the plus one to be a spouse or a person she was familiar with as she was planning a small wedding.
The woman got married a few weeks ago and she allowed a plus one if it was a spouse or a significant other she and her husband knew well
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The woman’s husband managed to convince her to allow the friend a plus one as he was traveling to their wedding and he didn’t know anyone else there, so bringing his girlfriend would keep him company.
Turns out, the friend broke up with his girlfriend a few days before the wedding, but he still came; however, he brought another woman who the bride didn’t recognize, so she asked her to leave. The bride was actually quite mad as the friend already had an exception made for him and then he brought a complete stranger.
However, the woman made an exception for her husband’s childhood friend as he was traveling to the wedding and didn’t know anyone else
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The unfamiliar woman didn’t make a fuss and neither did the husband’s friend, but he decided to leave with the woman he brought. The bride didn’t think much of it and believed everything was fine until the next day when her husband found out and got angry for not being consulted about this before saying anything to his friend.
A few weeks into the marriage, the husband keeps bringing up the incident especially because his friend is not answering his texts, but the OP would have felt uncomfortable with a stranger at her wedding.
To the bride’s surprise, the friend didn’t bring his girlfriend that the woman was already unfamiliar with, but he brought a complete stranger
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Invitations with plus one have quite strict etiquette rules and are seen more as a favor the wedding organizers are doing for their guests to make sure nobody feels alone. They are not mandatory, so couples pick and choose who can and can’t bring company according to their budget.
Wedding Spots’ number one rule for guests who were allowed a plus one is “Don’t RSVP and swap out the second guest’s name for someone else. If the included person will not be attending, politely notify the couple in your response,” which is not what the husband’s friend did. The friend didn’t notify the husband either, so his plus one was a surprise for both of the spouses.
Turns out, the friend and his girlfriend broke up a few days before the wedding and as he was allowed to bring someone, he took another woman to fill in the spot
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Other rules include to not bring someone if the invitation didn’t specify that you are allowed a plus one. They also note that “‘invited guest’ typically refers to a date, not your best friend. It’s a wedding, not an excuse to party for free with your pals.”
If the plus one is not certain that they can make it to the wedding, it’s best to notify the couple to not make them pay for empty seats at the wedding. Also, if you bring a plus one who knows the couple, it is expected for them to contribute to the gift. Lastly, if the person you’re bringing to the wedding doesn’t know the couple, it would be nice to introduce them and show appreciation for allowing them to come.
That irritated the bride and she asked the strange woman to leave, which made the childhood friend leave as well
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The bride didn’t think much of it until her husband found out and got really mad, especially because the friend wasn’t answering his texts
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Even though etiquette says you shouldn’t bring someone that is not mentioned on the invitation, people on Reddit didn’t see the big deal of the husband’s friend staying with his companion as he traveled to be at the wedding and still came even though he just went through a breakup.
People deemed the OP to be the jerk for going behind her husband’s back and because she already paid for that person to be there, so there was no harm in him bringing someone else. She couldn’t even tell the woman to leave herself and sent a bridesmaid in her place. On top of that, the stranger didn’t do anything that would provoke such a reaction besides coming to the wedding.
We would like to hear what you think. Do you agree with commenters who say that the friend’s companion should have been allowed to stay? Do you think it was sneaky of the friend to not tell the couple he was bringing someone else as the invitation mentioned a different person’s name? Do you think it’s acceptable to bring whoever you want if you have a plus one? Let us know your thoughts!
People in the comments thought that the bride overreacted and should have allowed the friend and his plus one to stay
We need to get past the idea that weddings need to be perfect performances. As others point out, it was the groom's day too. And yes, she is TA.
Ah, but weddings are performances. The size of the ceremony doesn't make you any more or less married.
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What makes this even crazier is the fact that she had to ask in the first place. Of course, she is the a-hole. She kicked her husband's childhood friend out of her wedding because he didn't bring the plus one that she expected him to. The woman wasn't doing anything wrong so I don't understand why she had to be kicked out at all. This bride sounds very entitled.
Plus she didn’t even have the stones to ask the plus-one to leave herself! She asked one of her bridesmaids to do the dirty work FOR her! Gutless coward as well as an a-hole.
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I don't understand why many brides claimed "my wedding" when it's both hers and her husband/partner. OP is rude AF and obviously an AH.
I think so many of these bitches are ONLY getting married for the wedding and reception. It's just a big fancy show for them. They forget WHY they're getting married in the first place. I would NEVER go to anyone's wedding, ever. Women are such entitled c***s.
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I'm sorry, but this can't be real, can it? A woman would actually think that it's okay to tell someone that they can't come to an event they flown in especially for? In what world does that make sense? And she seriously thought the friend would just ditch his partner? Nobody is that obtuse it has to be someone trolling.
I don't doubt it. Heck, they have a television show about Bridezillas. So I could only wish this was fake, but I doubt it.
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Some people start setting the grounds for divorce at the wedding. I give them a year
"You can stay, but your date needs to leave, by herself, in a state where she probrably knows no-one, and doesn't have transport independent of you, so you can be here alone feeling awkward at a wedding reception were you only know the bride and groom." You effectively asked both to leave, and of course the guy is pissed off at being asked to travel out of state for a wedding, then being treated so rudely. YTA, and you've made your husband look like a major a*****e to his friend, too.
What is wrong with people. I'd divorce her. How controlling are you that you would think this is okay to do. If I'd traveled for a friend's wedding and this happened, I would not talk to them again either. What a jerk.
She would be a complete controlling b***h. Unless the husband is a wimp with no backbone or balls, that marriage won't last a year.
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Biggest red flag being missed here - he had to beg to have his friend come!!!!! Wasn't it his wedding too? Doesn't sound like it. Hope his next wedding is better X
Not my place to judge, but are there really Bridezillas like this???!!! Easiest YTA from my standpoint. The new girl wasn't even guilty of anything except being a new face and the +1 of the husband's friend. The least Bridezilla could do was get to know her at the wedding before even pulling this c**p.
Seriously, I would think proper wedding etiquette when you see someone you don't know is to, gee, GET TO KNOW THEM. It's not like they were crashing the wedding.
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The Plus -One must have upstaged the bride some how-looks, dress...class?
Your new job as a wife is to ask yourself “What would be best for my husband?” His job is to always consider what’s best for you. Marriage is a partnership that involves lots of sacrifices that results in happiness.
Also communication. Without it, it's a bad marriage and bad relationship.
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That's awful. I got stressed reading this. The best friend must have been so shocked, angry and humiliated. I doubt the husband will ever get over it even if he stays with her.
The kicker for me is that she didn't even have the guts to do it herself. She had a bridesmaid do it. The date was probably prettier than her and she couldn't stand it. That's the vibe she gives off anyway.
It sounds like she sent the invitation as "Childhood Friend and guest", when what she meant was "Childhood Friend and His GF". If you want to be particular about your wedding guests, invite each person by name. Saying on the invitation that someone can bring a guest means they can bring anyone they want. I see this as her mistake on the invitation if she wasn't honest about who she wanted at the wedding. Once the mistake was made and the guy turned up with his friend instead of the expected gf, bride should have accepted it and moved on with her day. It was totally an AH move to ask the guest to leave.
While I do understand the bridezilla thing, I for one wouldn't put up with this s**t and our marriage would be in deep trouble if my wife would pull such a despicable thing and please correct me if I'm wrong she didn't even consult her husband until after the facts? I wouldn't be able to trust her henceforth.
oh my god, your wedding is not going to be your pErFeCt DaY. It's a day. It's a party. Hopefully, it's a nice party. FFS stop acting like you are commiting ceremonial suicide the next day and gotta make this one count
I think the Bride was extremely rude! His friend travelled from out of state to attend THEIR wedding. What was the big deal? A +1 is a +1....You can't control who people bring. Why would you want to cause bad vibes on your own wedding day? The Bride should have thanked them both for travelling so far to be there. Instead she acted very rude. Not cool!
They won't be married long..seems she wants complete control of every thing. Well I see husband becoming ex soon. Don't have any kids.
"my wedding" could easily turn into "my divorce" because it's not "your" wedding it's the couples wedding together, you bridezilla
If this story is real and I was the grooms friend who brought a date rather than just leaving and my friend wondering why I would have went up to him, wished him the best and explained im sorry i need to leave but your bride ask my date to leave and i am not just standing her up that would be inconsiderate and wrong. My best wishes for you and call me after the divorce.
So tired of this "me-me-me my perfect wedding, my day." It is also about hospitality where people come to celebrate your marriage. If money is the issue, I get the number of people allowed etc, but he already had a plus one. Was she prettier and she felt upstaged? If so, and even if not,, ridiculous.
What totally amazed me about this is that she had to ASK if she was TA in doing this! A seven year old would have figured it out! Hopefully her husband’s wedding will go smoother with his next wife.
What you probably didn't want was photographs of this woman at her wedding. And that should could have easily stated. And it's our wedding not my wedding. And it's probably not your marriage anyway anymore.
Why does it matter if you don't personally know everyone at your wedding? I mean, I wouldn't want a stranger off the street, who didn't know me or my husband. But if one of our guests, who we know, brings a date we haven't met, and they aren't causing any trouble, so the héll what?? My own wedding was 18 years ago. But I can still tell you, there's enough going on, that you won't even get to see everyone there, let alone talk to them. Or maybe only for a minute or two. Talk to the person you know, be polite to the date, and move on. Dance. Eat. Drink (if that's your thing). Have fun. RELAX. It doesn't have to be this perfect, over controlled experience, to be your dream day. It should be your dream day no matter what, because you're marrying the partner of your dreams. Unless someone is causing a disturbance, that's all that should matter. You have too many details to worry about anyway, without going full bridezilla over the petty shít. 1/2
Besides, I can guarantee-from experience-that 20, 10, 5 years, even a year from now, no one will remember your flowers or your colors, or even your dress, really, except you and your partner. They certainly won't remember, or care, that your husband's friend who lives hundreds of miles away, that he only sees a few times a year, and they NEVER see, brought a date, and not his girlfriend. They probably won't even remember HIM. And there's a lot of shít YOU won't even remember. It's just one day. As long as it went smoothly, and you ended the day married to your partner, that's all that matters. The wedding isn't nearly as important as the marriage. And OP, you are hurting your marriage. Massive Bridezilla, massive YTA. 2/2/End
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How incredibly rude of you. You could have taken this in the opposite direction and possibly made a new friend. Instead you made it so your husband lost an old friend. So to your husband's future former wife, YES YOU ARE THE AH!!!!
Please tell me this is fake. Please tell me an a-hole bride like this truly doesn't exist. Takes being a b* tch to a whole new level.
You and me both. But the TV show Bridezillas kind of show the same or even more amount of b*tchiness than OP.
Load More Replies... How you think this kind of behaviour is ok to begin with and then has to ask other people if.you are the AH is kind of astounding. Maybe you'll respond differently at your second wedding.
Complete a*****e! You behaved like a spoiled toddler. It seems to me you care much more about the looks, the photos to show on Ig and Fb than the real event and its meaning. You’d rather post pictures of the “perfect” wedding (even if , to do so, you ruin other people’s day, and a meaningful friendship of your husband), instead of actually have a nice, cozy wedding. Also, you were unforgivably unconsiderate to your husband by handling this issue like it is your and only your wedding. Your “special day” will be unforgettable, but for the wrong reasons. So sorry for your husband
Stupid b***h. "Weddings" are not worth all that trouble. You can bet your a*s if I went with a date that bitchface didn't know, and he was kicked out for it, of course I would leave as well, and NEVER speak to bitchface again. What a r****d. I hope he divorces her.
Why do people think they are doing some enormous favor inviting people to their wedding? They are buying you a gift, taking time out of their lives, getting dressed up. This man traveled for your wedding and you decide to be a "see you next Tuesday"? Seriously?HE did YOU the favor!
You showed you lack any class. Very rude and disrespectful. Did you even give your actions a second thought? Yta or just have your head up it
Cut and run, this is only the beginning. The bride new it was wrong, she sent a friend to do the dirty work. The mean girl from middle school resurface as a bride
Hummm the Bride was really busy checking guest that she didn't know!? Had the nerve to kick out the young lady. SMH.. GO and enjoy your special day. I hope her husband will be able to deal with her. Wife is a busy body. Ohh and You for fitting on your gift. 😂 why in the world would she do that!?
Wedding invite rules would dictate that if you don't want randoms and only want established couples, you don't give anyone a plus one - don't address the invite for John and guest, you invite the couple and address the invite to John and Jane. If you put and guest or plus one, they can bring anyone, so depending on how their invites were addressed and worded, she might be a big A, but even if he brought a friend because he was lonely and anxious about going to a wedding alone out of state when the invite said the girlfriends name, you can't really send her away at that point unless she poses an actual problem (she turns out to be bride/groom/close family member's ex, she's being rude or destructive, smells so bad someone literally throws up, she as a specific person rather than a plus one is making the couple uncomfortable, etc). If she was making the bride uncomfortable, I'd understand her wanting her to leave, but talk to the groom about how to handle it and don't send a bridesmaid.
Also friend was with gf for three years...you can't invite someone in an established couple and disinclude their partner. It's all or nothing if they live together, are very serious, or have been dating over a year, so there should never have been a question of inviting the gf and he wasn't given a "dispensation" and she didn't make an exception for him. Someone's partner is not a random.
Load More Replies... I can see the point of the plus 1 debacle when you're planning cuz sh** gets expensive! I'm planning my own wedding right now and it was getting to a point where I was like Yay another £60 every time a friend met someone... we've gone with a buffet now so everyone can come... But when you've already paid for the plus 1 what's the issue?!?!
You can choose not to have an expensive wedding. I mean, it's your choice, but I've been to several perfectly wonderful weddings that didn't break the bank (including my own). If you tie the knot at a backyard barbecue you're just as married as someone who spent $100,000 to stage a spectacular extravaganza.
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Sounds like something out of Legally Blonde *edit-not to be mean or insinuate that she was lying
Well, I bet that didn't go the way she was expecting. And yes,I totally agree ,she is the AH BIG time.
Probably could have just kicked the poor guy in the nuts next time. Dood traveled to come see his best friends wedding and full filled his RSVP..would you rather him just waste the extra plate you paid for? What was she doing that you needed to kick her out? Smfh.
Next time she gets married (because she is a narcissist). She should marry herself as nobody deserves to have to put up with her bs.
I don't think that YTA is sufficient for you. That you were so petty is telling, as well as the fact that you did it without your husband's knowledge. I hope you don't plan on doing things behind his back, going forward. To insult the gentleman and his date at the reception (not that it's okay to do it anywhere) was rude and uncalled for. It wasn't "your day." It was BOTH your day. Trying being nicer, it works quite well.
I understand not wanting random people at your wedding, but this is going too far here. So is that one comment saying "hopefully you're going to be an ex-wife soon." Damn, she made a mistake, give her a chance to own up and become better instead of throwing away a relationship, tf
I may be the only one that thinks you're not COMPLETELY TA, ONLY because it appears that you made it clear the condition of the +1 invitations. So, you should expect someone in a recent breakup w/a spouse or S/O to come alone. It's one of those common scenarios where you are forced to look like TA. There were likely guests w/out a +1 invitation who had someone they would have liked to bring. And here is someone bringing (I assume) a 'date', a FEW DAYS after a break up!
We need to get past the idea that weddings need to be perfect performances. As others point out, it was the groom's day too. And yes, she is TA.
Ah, but weddings are performances. The size of the ceremony doesn't make you any more or less married.
Load More Replies... What makes this even crazier is the fact that she had to ask in the first place. Of course, she is the a-hole. She kicked her husband's childhood friend out of her wedding because he didn't bring the plus one that she expected him to. The woman wasn't doing anything wrong so I don't understand why she had to be kicked out at all. This bride sounds very entitled.
Plus she didn’t even have the stones to ask the plus-one to leave herself! She asked one of her bridesmaids to do the dirty work FOR her! Gutless coward as well as an a-hole.
Load More Replies... I don't understand why many brides claimed "my wedding" when it's both hers and her husband/partner. OP is rude AF and obviously an AH.
I think so many of these bitches are ONLY getting married for the wedding and reception. It's just a big fancy show for them. They forget WHY they're getting married in the first place. I would NEVER go to anyone's wedding, ever. Women are such entitled c***s.
Load More Replies... I'm sorry, but this can't be real, can it? A woman would actually think that it's okay to tell someone that they can't come to an event they flown in especially for? In what world does that make sense? And she seriously thought the friend would just ditch his partner? Nobody is that obtuse it has to be someone trolling.
I don't doubt it. Heck, they have a television show about Bridezillas. So I could only wish this was fake, but I doubt it.
Load More Replies... Some people start setting the grounds for divorce at the wedding. I give them a year
"You can stay, but your date needs to leave, by herself, in a state where she probrably knows no-one, and doesn't have transport independent of you, so you can be here alone feeling awkward at a wedding reception were you only know the bride and groom." You effectively asked both to leave, and of course the guy is pissed off at being asked to travel out of state for a wedding, then being treated so rudely. YTA, and you've made your husband look like a major a*****e to his friend, too.
What is wrong with people. I'd divorce her. How controlling are you that you would think this is okay to do. If I'd traveled for a friend's wedding and this happened, I would not talk to them again either. What a jerk.
She would be a complete controlling b***h. Unless the husband is a wimp with no backbone or balls, that marriage won't last a year.
Load More Replies... Biggest red flag being missed here - he had to beg to have his friend come!!!!! Wasn't it his wedding too? Doesn't sound like it. Hope his next wedding is better X
Not my place to judge, but are there really Bridezillas like this???!!! Easiest YTA from my standpoint. The new girl wasn't even guilty of anything except being a new face and the +1 of the husband's friend. The least Bridezilla could do was get to know her at the wedding before even pulling this c**p.
Seriously, I would think proper wedding etiquette when you see someone you don't know is to, gee, GET TO KNOW THEM. It's not like they were crashing the wedding.
Load More Replies... The Plus -One must have upstaged the bride some how-looks, dress...class?
Your new job as a wife is to ask yourself “What would be best for my husband?” His job is to always consider what’s best for you. Marriage is a partnership that involves lots of sacrifices that results in happiness.
Also communication. Without it, it's a bad marriage and bad relationship.
Load More Replies... That's awful. I got stressed reading this. The best friend must have been so shocked, angry and humiliated. I doubt the husband will ever get over it even if he stays with her.
The kicker for me is that she didn't even have the guts to do it herself. She had a bridesmaid do it. The date was probably prettier than her and she couldn't stand it. That's the vibe she gives off anyway.
It sounds like she sent the invitation as "Childhood Friend and guest", when what she meant was "Childhood Friend and His GF". If you want to be particular about your wedding guests, invite each person by name. Saying on the invitation that someone can bring a guest means they can bring anyone they want. I see this as her mistake on the invitation if she wasn't honest about who she wanted at the wedding. Once the mistake was made and the guy turned up with his friend instead of the expected gf, bride should have accepted it and moved on with her day. It was totally an AH move to ask the guest to leave.
While I do understand the bridezilla thing, I for one wouldn't put up with this s**t and our marriage would be in deep trouble if my wife would pull such a despicable thing and please correct me if I'm wrong she didn't even consult her husband until after the facts? I wouldn't be able to trust her henceforth.
oh my god, your wedding is not going to be your pErFeCt DaY. It's a day. It's a party. Hopefully, it's a nice party. FFS stop acting like you are commiting ceremonial suicide the next day and gotta make this one count
I think the Bride was extremely rude! His friend travelled from out of state to attend THEIR wedding. What was the big deal? A +1 is a +1....You can't control who people bring. Why would you want to cause bad vibes on your own wedding day? The Bride should have thanked them both for travelling so far to be there. Instead she acted very rude. Not cool!
They won't be married long..seems she wants complete control of every thing. Well I see husband becoming ex soon. Don't have any kids.
"my wedding" could easily turn into "my divorce" because it's not "your" wedding it's the couples wedding together, you bridezilla
If this story is real and I was the grooms friend who brought a date rather than just leaving and my friend wondering why I would have went up to him, wished him the best and explained im sorry i need to leave but your bride ask my date to leave and i am not just standing her up that would be inconsiderate and wrong. My best wishes for you and call me after the divorce.
So tired of this "me-me-me my perfect wedding, my day." It is also about hospitality where people come to celebrate your marriage. If money is the issue, I get the number of people allowed etc, but he already had a plus one. Was she prettier and she felt upstaged? If so, and even if not,, ridiculous.
What totally amazed me about this is that she had to ASK if she was TA in doing this! A seven year old would have figured it out! Hopefully her husband’s wedding will go smoother with his next wife.
What you probably didn't want was photographs of this woman at her wedding. And that should could have easily stated. And it's our wedding not my wedding. And it's probably not your marriage anyway anymore.
Why does it matter if you don't personally know everyone at your wedding? I mean, I wouldn't want a stranger off the street, who didn't know me or my husband. But if one of our guests, who we know, brings a date we haven't met, and they aren't causing any trouble, so the héll what?? My own wedding was 18 years ago. But I can still tell you, there's enough going on, that you won't even get to see everyone there, let alone talk to them. Or maybe only for a minute or two. Talk to the person you know, be polite to the date, and move on. Dance. Eat. Drink (if that's your thing). Have fun. RELAX. It doesn't have to be this perfect, over controlled experience, to be your dream day. It should be your dream day no matter what, because you're marrying the partner of your dreams. Unless someone is causing a disturbance, that's all that should matter. You have too many details to worry about anyway, without going full bridezilla over the petty shít. 1/2
Besides, I can guarantee-from experience-that 20, 10, 5 years, even a year from now, no one will remember your flowers or your colors, or even your dress, really, except you and your partner. They certainly won't remember, or care, that your husband's friend who lives hundreds of miles away, that he only sees a few times a year, and they NEVER see, brought a date, and not his girlfriend. They probably won't even remember HIM. And there's a lot of shít YOU won't even remember. It's just one day. As long as it went smoothly, and you ended the day married to your partner, that's all that matters. The wedding isn't nearly as important as the marriage. And OP, you are hurting your marriage. Massive Bridezilla, massive YTA. 2/2/End
Load More Replies... How incredibly rude of you. You could have taken this in the opposite direction and possibly made a new friend. Instead you made it so your husband lost an old friend. So to your husband's future former wife, YES YOU ARE THE AH!!!!
Please tell me this is fake. Please tell me an a-hole bride like this truly doesn't exist. Takes being a b* tch to a whole new level.
You and me both. But the TV show Bridezillas kind of show the same or even more amount of b*tchiness than OP.
Load More Replies... How you think this kind of behaviour is ok to begin with and then has to ask other people if.you are the AH is kind of astounding. Maybe you'll respond differently at your second wedding.
Complete a*****e! You behaved like a spoiled toddler. It seems to me you care much more about the looks, the photos to show on Ig and Fb than the real event and its meaning. You’d rather post pictures of the “perfect” wedding (even if , to do so, you ruin other people’s day, and a meaningful friendship of your husband), instead of actually have a nice, cozy wedding. Also, you were unforgivably unconsiderate to your husband by handling this issue like it is your and only your wedding. Your “special day” will be unforgettable, but for the wrong reasons. So sorry for your husband
Stupid b***h. "Weddings" are not worth all that trouble. You can bet your a*s if I went with a date that bitchface didn't know, and he was kicked out for it, of course I would leave as well, and NEVER speak to bitchface again. What a r****d. I hope he divorces her.
Why do people think they are doing some enormous favor inviting people to their wedding? They are buying you a gift, taking time out of their lives, getting dressed up. This man traveled for your wedding and you decide to be a "see you next Tuesday"? Seriously?HE did YOU the favor!
You showed you lack any class. Very rude and disrespectful. Did you even give your actions a second thought? Yta or just have your head up it
Cut and run, this is only the beginning. The bride new it was wrong, she sent a friend to do the dirty work. The mean girl from middle school resurface as a bride
Hummm the Bride was really busy checking guest that she didn't know!? Had the nerve to kick out the young lady. SMH.. GO and enjoy your special day. I hope her husband will be able to deal with her. Wife is a busy body. Ohh and You for fitting on your gift. 😂 why in the world would she do that!?
Wedding invite rules would dictate that if you don't want randoms and only want established couples, you don't give anyone a plus one - don't address the invite for John and guest, you invite the couple and address the invite to John and Jane. If you put and guest or plus one, they can bring anyone, so depending on how their invites were addressed and worded, she might be a big A, but even if he brought a friend because he was lonely and anxious about going to a wedding alone out of state when the invite said the girlfriends name, you can't really send her away at that point unless she poses an actual problem (she turns out to be bride/groom/close family member's ex, she's being rude or destructive, smells so bad someone literally throws up, she as a specific person rather than a plus one is making the couple uncomfortable, etc). If she was making the bride uncomfortable, I'd understand her wanting her to leave, but talk to the groom about how to handle it and don't send a bridesmaid.
Also friend was with gf for three years...you can't invite someone in an established couple and disinclude their partner. It's all or nothing if they live together, are very serious, or have been dating over a year, so there should never have been a question of inviting the gf and he wasn't given a "dispensation" and she didn't make an exception for him. Someone's partner is not a random.
Load More Replies... I can see the point of the plus 1 debacle when you're planning cuz sh** gets expensive! I'm planning my own wedding right now and it was getting to a point where I was like Yay another £60 every time a friend met someone... we've gone with a buffet now so everyone can come... But when you've already paid for the plus 1 what's the issue?!?!
You can choose not to have an expensive wedding. I mean, it's your choice, but I've been to several perfectly wonderful weddings that didn't break the bank (including my own). If you tie the knot at a backyard barbecue you're just as married as someone who spent $100,000 to stage a spectacular extravaganza.
Load More Replies... Sounds like something out of Legally Blonde *edit-not to be mean or insinuate that she was lying
Well, I bet that didn't go the way she was expecting. And yes,I totally agree ,she is the AH BIG time.
Probably could have just kicked the poor guy in the nuts next time. Dood traveled to come see his best friends wedding and full filled his RSVP..would you rather him just waste the extra plate you paid for? What was she doing that you needed to kick her out? Smfh.
Next time she gets married (because she is a narcissist). She should marry herself as nobody deserves to have to put up with her bs.
I don't think that YTA is sufficient for you. That you were so petty is telling, as well as the fact that you did it without your husband's knowledge. I hope you don't plan on doing things behind his back, going forward. To insult the gentleman and his date at the reception (not that it's okay to do it anywhere) was rude and uncalled for. It wasn't "your day." It was BOTH your day. Trying being nicer, it works quite well.
I understand not wanting random people at your wedding, but this is going too far here. So is that one comment saying "hopefully you're going to be an ex-wife soon." Damn, she made a mistake, give her a chance to own up and become better instead of throwing away a relationship, tf
I may be the only one that thinks you're not COMPLETELY TA, ONLY because it appears that you made it clear the condition of the +1 invitations. So, you should expect someone in a recent breakup w/a spouse or S/O to come alone. It's one of those common scenarios where you are forced to look like TA. There were likely guests w/out a +1 invitation who had someone they would have liked to bring. And here is someone bringing (I assume) a 'date', a FEW DAYS after a break up!
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