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“Entitled Parent At Pool Doesn’t Like A Taste Of Her Own Medicine”: Woman Demands Children Share Toys With Her Kid, Regrets It
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“Entitled Parent At Pool Doesn’t Like A Taste Of Her Own Medicine”: Woman Demands Children Share Toys With Her Kid, Regrets It

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Being kind to others, giving them a helping hand, sharing your things with those who might be down on their luck—all of these are very admirable qualities. Human beings are hardwired for being social and our brains reward us for our altruism. However, there’s always a chance that someone will try to take advantage of your kindness.

Case in point, a redditor shared a bit of drama that recently happened at the pool. They told the r/entitledparents subreddit how some mom yelled at their kids to share their toys with her own child… something that they’d previously been doing anyway.

Disliking the entire situation and wanting to shut down this behavior, the redditor took matters into their own hands and gave the entitled mom a taste of her own medicine. Oh, did she find it bitter! Scroll down to read the full story in the OP’s own words, as well as how the internet reacted. Once you’re done, tell us what you would have done, Pandas.

Parenting blogger Samantha Scroggin, the mastermind behind the witty ‘Walking Outside in Slippers’ blog, kindly shared her thoughts about generosity, sharing, and entitlement with Bored Panda. Scroll down to see what she told us.

Learning to share your toys is a wonderful thing… until someone starts taking advantage of your kindness

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A parent shared how they reacted when an entitled mom started berating their kids at the pool

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“I find teaching my kids to share is most effective when they experience the rewards of sharing. For example, when another child is so happy to play with a toy that belongs to my kid,” mom and blogger Samantha told Bored Panda.

“My kids are not so enamored with sharing that I worry about them being taken advantage of. They have plenty, and can certainly share. If I thought my kids were being taken advantage of, I would step in and tell my kids it’s ok for them to say no to sharing anymore in that moment.”

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She added: “And of course, some belongings are personal and shouldn’t be shared. Like diaries, fragile items, and keepsakes.”

Samantha said that it’s important for parents to be aware of their privilege, as well as help their own children understand their own inherited privilege, too.

“I want my kids to work for what they are given, like allowance. I stress the value of hard work and the benefits of generosity.”

Learning to share and being generous with your time, energy, attention, and resources, is generally a good way to go through life. And in an ideal world, there would be no need to even consider that someone might take advantage of you. However, we don’t live in an ideal world.

As the redditor’s story showed us, there are some extremely entitled people out there who demand that you share what you have with them. And yet, they’re unwilling to do the same. They go on to teach their kids that they can get anything they want by virtue of just existing. They don’t even have to put in any effort. Or be polite.

That’s the kind of thinking that the OP tried to shut down by taking the entitled mom’s book: she was acting hypocritical because she didn’t apply her own values to herself. Obviously, taking some stranger’s book is a bit unexpected, but it might have been necessary to set some boundaries and put an end to this nonsense. After all, nobody enjoys seeing their kids being berated. Especially if they did nothing wrong.

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Though we’re optimistic about the fact that people can and do change, whatever their age, the fact remains that it’s easier to create good values and habits early on in life. What this means is that how parents raise their kids matters. A lot! The way to deal with potential entitlement is to nip it in the bud. Teach your children to be charitable instead of just expecting special treatment wherever they go.

Though everyone sometimes feels like they deserve to be treated special, things break down when you completely ignore this need in others. Everyone deserves to be treated with equal respect. When you demand special privileges, you may end up losing friends who no longer find your company fun.

That’s why it’s so important for parents to instill habits like humility and valuing others while their kids are still small. Otherwise, they might soon find that nobody wants to share their toys with their children no matter where they go—whether it’s the local pool or the neighborhood playground.

Here’s how the internet reacted to the story. Some users shared their own experiences with similar situations

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Uncommon Boston
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My former sister in-law did the same thing to my son. My ex gave my son a boggie board to use in the ocean. His sister demanded he give it to one of her kids when they asked -- even if he was using it. Her brother, my ex was furious. Since she didn't understand what sharing is, her kids were forbidden to use it. She would never listen to me and my son always 'shares'. My son wanted to use it most of the day, but couldn't. These things sold for around $20. It was absurd.

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Cindy Hurd
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Awww poor kid..that is really sad that he couldn't even use the gift his own dad gave to him?

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Danni
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, I know this has little to do with the topic, BUT, Are Bug Bears Equivalent to Pet peeves? That might be the cutest thing I've ever heard! I'm using this from now on!!

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Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that's one of the definitions, but it's one word - bugbear =)

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perfect move on that mom...done peacefully reinforced with words... unfortunately "sharing" has come to mean "giving away" ... the demanding kid throws a tantrum when told to give it back...demanding kids like thay are often not getting enough of something at home... like attention? protection? it is called neglect and material possessions fill the void

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Penny Kemper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the grandma and I could care less what other people think. So no I don't let other kids use my 14 month old grandkids toys. If the older grandkids want to share the floaters or noodles they can, but baby toys are going to bigger kids to lose or just be mean and take, no. I'll stop mine from being mean, but I'm not putting up with other kids being mean either. But I do tell my grandkids to tell the lifeguard when other kids are being mean. Because that is part of their job .

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hhh cubed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was right there with you until I got to the part about about telling the lifeguard when kids are mean. Water safety and life saving measures are their job, not dispute resolution. That's the parent/ caregiver's job.

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Someone Important
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry Karen, but I spent my hard earned money to buy MY kids toys, not your kid. I don't know you nor are your kids entitled to use and break what I paid for. If I knew you or your kid it would be different.

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents once went on a holiday and they had a rubber boat they used every day on a lake, but they didn't want to take it with them to the hotel every day and inflate, deflate it, so they left it in the reed with a rope, to use it the next day. That went very well. Lol then someone got mad and said: You use this boat all the time! Now it's our turn! Dad: Ehm this is our boat. Oh oh sorry LOL. They were in their 60s or 70s at the time. So funny. Adults fighting over a rubber boat.

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did daycare, and the children were to take turns with the general toys, if there was a new toy my son had, he choose to share it or it was put away til the children were gone for the day. However, shared toys should be asked for. I would go to the park, I'd bring water and 1st aid kit. Some of these new parents were taught by example of how to do things when taking children out in public. It was kind of 'cute' how they thanked me in being a responsible parent/adult. Whether that came in the form of asking for water for their child who was thirsty or a bandage for a scrape. They only asked once, for they brought their own after that.

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fu yu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a relief it must be not to have to interact with that wacko entitled mom with the double standards again.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was never taught to share with kids who were not my friends. Kids are clumsy, careless and irresponsible. They may break your toy, stain it, lose it. Let alone the fact some of them can be hella mean and jealous and ruin it on purpose. So no, isn't worth it, if this kid is your good friend - sure, you can even get them a new toy as a present. But if it's some random- a*s kid, it's not your problem they don't bring any toys. Toys are not a basic necessity,let them use their imagination, if their parents can't be bothered to buy them anything.

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF? Mine is mine, PERIOD. If it is actually my personal item then NO ONE is ever entitled to it without my express PERMISSION. Required or enforced sharing ONLY applies to group items in daycare or school. Anything else, you do NOT get an opinion. Would you let your neighbor have your ATM card and pin number because they demanded it? Think, people, THINK...

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Celeste Grant
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1 year ago

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Pin stands for personal identification number, so you don't need to say PIN number as that's like saying personal identification number number. It makes no sense.

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Himory TheDreamer
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a kid in church I was taught that sharing meant giving everyone your lunch and going hungry, giving everyone your school supplies and not being bother by people breaking or stealing it. Meanwhile my mom taught me "never share anything but also never ask to borrow". I rather live by what my mother taught me, but even to this day I'm a bit traumatized by the stuff they said in church, this being only one example among many and one of many reasons why I have eating issues, I was taught the way to be a good person was to let people take my stuff, I was taught being good was not eating so others could and not having feelings of caring towards things you owned, not feeling hurt when people ruined said things, not feeling anything. To this day I tell myself to be bad, be horrible, because that's what I learned meant not letting yourself be hurt.

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I now have a budget coach. She said I should try to save money. Save money? Isn't that a sin? The rich man and the poor Lazarus or the foolish rich guy with his retirement money. The church I went to wasn't extreme. Others have absolutely no feeling of guilt when they have lots of savings, but when I have a few hundred and I know others can't eat, I have to share. Oh yeah what you say is a text. If someone asks you, give. I always did that and then you have no cent yourself and ppl take advantage of you. All nice and dandy, but since I got kids I only save food out of my mouth for them and if some kid with rich parents wants their food or stuff, bugger off or an adult, who can very well take care of him- or herself. Bye. Love your neighbour as yourself. Don't forget yourself. If you want them to eat, eat yourself too.

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Joyce Murotani
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I watch my 3yr old and my 5yr old grandkids, they are brother and sister, and the youngest will take her brothers toys, while he is playing with them, and that’s a no, no with me, she can play with the toys he not playing with and eventually he start sharing the toy she wanted with her, he’s five but even with him being five he sometimes wants the toy she has and it’s the same rule with him that’s a no no with their Nana I don’t put up with it, you can’t just take something from somebody else, that’s how I teach my grandchildren that’s how I taught my own children. So for the mom that took the book good for you you did the right thing you taught that mother that her entitled little brat doesn’t get everything that he wants and neither does she.

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GameQueen Momma
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gonna be honest, I teach my kids that if they want to share they can, but if they don't want to they don't have to. Realistically sharing isn't as important to growth as some parents make it out to be. I mean when have you ever seen an adult go to another adult and be like oh you have to share your cell phone or oh you have to share your laptop. You don't. Because as adults those are your personal belongings. Kids feel the same about their toys.

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John Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta berate the greedy child infront of her Karen mother and teach the entitled child how entitled her Karen mother is. Stop the Karen bloodline. Share a backhand with her.

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Rasheeda Shaheen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The other comments that have me confused,is when they said that the kid needs to be patient and wait until they was done. But the toy in questioning is a toy the child had that was their favorite one. They didn't want to share that toy.

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Adam Bidlack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Demanding someone else share their own property is rude and disrespectful. They have the choice to share but it's not an obligation. I don't doubt those adults were taught better when they were kids, but somewhere the system collapsed and too many people lost their minds. I get it that parenting isn't easy, but some people are just clueless. Props to those parents that try to instill good values in your kids. It's unfortunate that good parenting is becoming rare and will eventually become extinct.

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Leslie Agostino
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job momma. Taught that mommy a hard lesson. Hope her kids will learn from it.

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Jackie Nettleton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way that i was taught was as long as you kept the toy in your hands then it was yours but as soon as you out it down you couldn’t play with it again until everyone got a turn. The only exception was if you had to use the toilet you could give the toy to an adult and get ot straight back when finished

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Bobby
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this. I can see so many ways to adapt this to my SIL. The attitude on required sharing, hugs/kisses, thinking she can just ignore our rules.... I think I'm looking forward to the next family gathering for the first time in a long time

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John de la Cruz
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See, this kind of bad parenting is so normalized these days. And we're seeing what kind of adults those children grow up to be.

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Salty Wild Hair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, problem solved. I would have dumped her into the pool and said "go entertain your own kid".

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“arguments” were usually started in response to me finding out that Bill had taken it into his head that Will wasn’t obeying his father in a manner appropriate in Bill’s mind & he had taken Will to his bedroom with a wooden spoon to spank Will with to “make Will to show the proper respect that is appropriate that a son should show his father”. What really pissed Bill off the most was that Will never cried the entire time Bill was using the wooden spoon on the butt until the wooden spoon broke from the misuse of the spoon, at which point Will would just laugh in his father’s face. What I couldn’t get Bill to understand was that each time he did this to his own son, Will would gradually learn to have no respect as well as learn to hate his father. Shortly after Bill “lost the battle” with Will, I would “start” the verbal fight with Bill. Right from the very start of these battles between Will & Bill I tried to stop the physical abuse but Will told me that he didn’t have a problem with

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Darkfoxx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find that these days people go over board with the whole "sharing" thing. My wife does this with her kids and it makes no since. Say a kid owns something, for instance one owns a football, he plays football, the other only wants to play with it to aggravate the other, he'll pick it up and say the other wasn't playing with it so he can play with it, the owner will yell and say "give that back! It's mine" and then the mom chimes in and says "now you know you weren't playing with it, he's not hurting it, you can share". That drives me crazy because under this ridiculous rule, neither kid owns anything, they'd have to play with all their stuff 24-7 or the other would just have free reign over it. I've thought about showing my wife how stupid this rule is by wearing her underwear or something and saying "you weren't wearing it, i can use them, why can't you share?" Or some iteration of that that'll show her the stupidity of this.

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Darkfoxx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When i was a kid me and my siblings didn't touch each other's stuff without permission from the owner. If you have no say-so of who can mess with your stuff then you don't actually own anything.

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Darian Starfrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Inspired idea to do that! Lol unfortunately, dhe likely still didn't understand, that's my experience anyway..seems most people aren't adept at 'higher reasoning'.. evident in the comments, when a good number of them made remark to an entirely different scenario.. 2020 people!

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Steve Soto
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's funny you guys comment like this is a true story. All it is is another Reddit lie. Even funnier is the obviousness that people who raise their kids like this are rarely educated and probably would be more likely reading Reddit or watching tik tok then bothering reading a book

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Rasheeda Shaheen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is 20 she use to share all the time until she got fed up with my little sister who is 23 now and my niece who is 22 now. They would take her toys break them and than go back to playing with their toys and would not allow my daughter to play. It was every time she got a new toy like they were jealous. So my daughter stopped bring her toys around them. My son is 21 months old. My 3 year old goddaughter takes all his toys. She would take his stuff and push him on the ground. I would tell her parents but nothing work. I would put her in time out and nothing. She just doesn't care. One day my son was playing with a drum set my mom got him. He didn't want to give her his drum stick, so she decided to step on it and break it than she laughs and walks away. I don't want like my son putting his hands on a girl period

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Paul Richards
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A very illustrative response to poor behavior, good on that mom

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DC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where to have rules for adults that aren't the same for kids: Sex, Drugs. Basically, kids just can't have any of these, while adults, regardless of if it is good for them, are entitled to chose, for their own good, their own bad.

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s0nicfreak
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you saying that's how it should be or that's how it is? Nobody can have sex with kids, neither kids nor adults, and that's how it should be.

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

asked a question & then stopped talking to get the answer, I didn’t get the answer back like I had expected. It was then that I realized that I was alone in the room with Mom. I had no idea just how much Mom had heard but I went with the assumption that she had heard enough so I stood up & turned around to face her. At which time she was saying all sorts of nasty things to me. I just calmly looked at her without saying anything until she asked me “What do you say for yourself?” I started walking towards her while I said, “At least I waited until I was 2 weeks BEFORE my SEVENTEENTH BIRTHDAY to get pregnant.” Mom’s lower jaw dropped shock that I would have the gaul to say something like that to her so I just headed outside to find my grandpa to tell him that I was ready to go home now. I had every intention to “keep what I stole” from my then ex-boyfriend, but that is a totally different story for another time. The moral of this story would have to be that it doesn’t matter if a woman

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the parent to teenagers. My teen years weren’t good years as I was a “problem child” & no one actually wasn’t filling any part of the parent of a teen, so I just grew up. I had a bf who was considerably older than me (just around my 16th birthday & him being 22 or 23 yrs old) I quit school to be with him. When I realized that I was losing him, I deliberately got pregnant about 2 weeks before my 17th birthday. Relevant for later. I told everyone in my immediate family except for Mom. They were too afraid to say anything to her so my secret was safe with them. They didn’t want to be the recipient of her mood when she did finally learned what I did. Mom had had me young & she had been tricked into having sex for the first time by my bio father. She was exactly 17 yrs & 24 hours old to the minute when I was born. When Mom walked into the room when I was talking with Dad & my siblings about my pregnancy, they quietly got out of the room without giving me notice. I chattered on but, when I

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

being “disciplined” like this because it didn’t hurt physically as much as it did the bond between father & son. He expressly requested that I didn’t try to stop this because Will could handle the mistreatment far easier than he could witnessing the cruel things that Bill said & did to me. Will was just trying to protect me, even thought he was not older than 8 or 9 yrs old. Will was far more mature than his own father & Bill knew this, which was why he acted the way he did with Will. I met the man, Dean, that I am with a little more than 21 yrs ago & he stepped up to mentor my children & my support person a couple of years after Bill walked out of our family. The strangest thing was … he also stepped up as their protector as well when I started not being a good parent because I had exceeded the age that I knew how to be

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

every verbal argument with me & walking out of the house to go for a long walk to “cool down” … slamming the front door as he left. The main reason he would throw his temper tantrum? … He would be yelling & screaming at me … I wasn’t much better at the start of the argument but then I would remember the children. Our yelling frightened them & I would have to lower the volume of my voice to try to protect them from further emotional/mental abuse that I had grown up with until I turned 15. As soon as I lowered my voice with Bill I would ask him why he was yelling … I was no longer yelling, so why was he? Most of the time I would remember either right from the start of the loud talking/verbal abuse or very soon after it started & the argument always stopped right after I refused to continue to yell at him. Right after he left, I went to comfort the children who were hiding behind the bed in her room, which was the furthest “safe spot” from the kitchen where the arguments usually were. The

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

learned these when I was growing up … suddenly I was thrown a new daily task … protecting my children from a growing threat of an emotionally, mentally, verbally abusive father figure who actually had never learned how to grow up past 6 or 7 years because his mother wouldn’t/couldn’t allow him to grow up. It wasn’t as bad as it could have been if I wasn’t as protective of the children as I was but Bill was getting frustrated with everything in his life because he had no control for the most part. When I started keeping him from harming them, he turned his frustration on me but I had no problems with “taking care of everything” … or so he thought. I was so much better at everything than he was, & yet, I grew up on in a “damaged” home but I was still “better at everything than he was” & he was jealous of how I could do everything even though I had a debilitating disease that will only slowly get worse. More times than not, he would wind up throwing a temper tantrum at the end of each &

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“quake” sued him for what financial restitution they could get from this monster, Bill’s parents just quietly went in search of a surgeon who could try to fix whatever he could considering Bill’s age & medical trauma that could help Bill but there was absolutely no way to fix his feet for the most part as they had been put through horrendous operations that left his legs & feet severely fragile & not much, if anything, could be done to make them “normal”. Bill thought that he would be a better parent if he had his own “flesh & blood” child but no one could convince him that his thinking was flawed. Once the two children got a a certain age (9 & 5) Bill just didn’t know what he was doing &, as a result, he started emotionally and mentally abusing them so, on top of me having to basically raising them as best as I could while slowly losing my war on MS, raising children with no real idea of how to be a “proper parent”, continuing to learn how to keep a clean house & cooking as I had

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

but better. Unfortunately, the way I parented didn’t help me as they grew into preteens & older partly because I had no basis to work with personally as well as I got sicker & Bill was no help either because he had grown up in an equally “damaged” home as well, but his childhood & teen years were because of his poor health right from the moment of being born too early as well as having to undergo medically mistreated by a surgeon who he should never been allowed to practice with children with physical difficulties because this doctor used his child patients as nothing more than “Guinea pigs”. Bill spent most of his years under the age of 16 years in & out of hospital having surgeries that were never intended to help fix Bill’s physical difficulties that came with being born with hip dysplasia &/or clubbed feet. The surgeon finally was caught & brought up on multiple charges of medical abuses as well as his license to practice medicine was taken away. While most of the parents of this

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

whoever he, Will, was invited to share a meal with them. After seeing how he was treated by the parents, they started doing the same so that they would get treated as well as he was & it stuck. Will saw how the mother of each home was able to do so many things that I couldn’t do or that I was too tired to do myself as I tired easily because of MS. The parents always complimented on how well I taught my children to be but I could only say that they were this way because I tried to think first how I would want to be treated & so I would treat them the way that I would want to be treated. It actually was amazing how many parents didn’t raise their children the same way as I treated my own children but it actually helped the other parents to understand their parenting skills as to what actually worked so several of the couples started teaching their children the same way. I’m not saying that it was always adopted into their family lifestyle, but it did help the parents to understand me a

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

her home, I was treated as one of her kids. I remember that, even as young as 8 or 9 yrs old I only wanted to be a stay at home mom & have an even # of children. I was the eldest of 3 children & my younger sister & brother would never allow me to play with them. What I knew about being a good mother to my children was that if I was unsure of how to treat my children, all I had to ask myself how I would feel if I was in their position & then parent them the way that I would have wanted to be treated. I got unknowingly pregnant with my last pregnancy a couple of weeks before Bill & I got married. Because of how I parented my two children they didn’t really know that I wasn’t like the mothers of my children’s friends until we moved to a street that had several children my children’s age. My son only acted in his friend’s houses as I had taught him to be … he would offer to help the parents whenever they needed a “helping hand” in setting the table for a meal as well as clearing the table

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was 23½ yrs old I found out that I had Multiple Sclerosis. I had already had my daughter, Alana, before I was diagnosed but I was about 2 or 3 months away from getting married, for the second time, with a man named Bill when I receive the diagnosis. As I had no idea what MS was, other than seeing a boy of 14 or 15 yrs old on the “Timmy Telathon” the previous February 14th on tv. He had been born with the MS gene “awake” so he never learned to do any of the normal things that children learn right from the very start of their lives, but he did learn how to communicate with his family, as much as he could. As I hadn’t had a good childhood because my mother was mentally capable of being a “normal” mother due to a chemical imbalance in her brain, I grew up mostly by my own sense of how children should grow up as well as how my maternal Grandma took care of her children & me whenever I was in her home. Grandma had her two youngest children (adopted) around my age so, whenever I was in

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Makabert Abylons
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How nice of you to write a full novel and your lifestory for everyone. A bit excessive

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Babz Dabz
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the end, no use wasting brain space on figuring out who is right, this story is a literal copy paste from another site with a couple word changes to make it sound different. This is a wrong and weird way to make articles.

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Matt Mosher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt the part where she took the book really happened. Its the kind of thing someone usually thinks of afterwards.

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Lindsey Leigh Phillips
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dunno. I was waiting in a heavily backed up line in a craft store. The registers went offline, so each lane contained 6+ people . Nobody was complaining, perhaps because most people buying bargain ribbon at 2pm on a tuesday have at least some spare time. But here comes this broad, clearly über important, and she's late she's late she's late she's late for a very important date. Just starts jawing away about the absurdity of it all. Cuz, of course, nobody would realize we're standing still if this proto karen wasn't raising an almighty stink to spotlight the obvious. You could feel the teenage cashiers' waves of anxiety turning to dread. They did f_ckall to create the system crash, but they were making it work. No dice. As this lady's working herself up into embolism territory, i spun on my heel, put my hand out in a grabby motion and bawled, "Waaaah! IWANTITNOW!". She had the good grace to turn as red as her yarn, and to put a lid on it. The cashiers couldn't stop smiling.

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Stacey Dea Pack
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Lol. I will be filing this under, “things that never happened”. But it sure made for a great virtue signaling story that clearly was necessary for this thirsty mom to feel relevant and validated and for her much needed daily dose of internet flex. I’m telling ya, social media will be our eventual demise. Of this I have zero doubt.

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Potato
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does making this internet flex make YOU feel relevant and validated?

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Uncommon Boston
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My former sister in-law did the same thing to my son. My ex gave my son a boggie board to use in the ocean. His sister demanded he give it to one of her kids when they asked -- even if he was using it. Her brother, my ex was furious. Since she didn't understand what sharing is, her kids were forbidden to use it. She would never listen to me and my son always 'shares'. My son wanted to use it most of the day, but couldn't. These things sold for around $20. It was absurd.

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Cindy Hurd
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Awww poor kid..that is really sad that he couldn't even use the gift his own dad gave to him?

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Danni
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, I know this has little to do with the topic, BUT, Are Bug Bears Equivalent to Pet peeves? That might be the cutest thing I've ever heard! I'm using this from now on!!

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Min
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that's one of the definitions, but it's one word - bugbear =)

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Julia Purdy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Perfect move on that mom...done peacefully reinforced with words... unfortunately "sharing" has come to mean "giving away" ... the demanding kid throws a tantrum when told to give it back...demanding kids like thay are often not getting enough of something at home... like attention? protection? it is called neglect and material possessions fill the void

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Penny Kemper
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the grandma and I could care less what other people think. So no I don't let other kids use my 14 month old grandkids toys. If the older grandkids want to share the floaters or noodles they can, but baby toys are going to bigger kids to lose or just be mean and take, no. I'll stop mine from being mean, but I'm not putting up with other kids being mean either. But I do tell my grandkids to tell the lifeguard when other kids are being mean. Because that is part of their job .

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hhh cubed
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was right there with you until I got to the part about about telling the lifeguard when kids are mean. Water safety and life saving measures are their job, not dispute resolution. That's the parent/ caregiver's job.

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Someone Important
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry Karen, but I spent my hard earned money to buy MY kids toys, not your kid. I don't know you nor are your kids entitled to use and break what I paid for. If I knew you or your kid it would be different.

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents once went on a holiday and they had a rubber boat they used every day on a lake, but they didn't want to take it with them to the hotel every day and inflate, deflate it, so they left it in the reed with a rope, to use it the next day. That went very well. Lol then someone got mad and said: You use this boat all the time! Now it's our turn! Dad: Ehm this is our boat. Oh oh sorry LOL. They were in their 60s or 70s at the time. So funny. Adults fighting over a rubber boat.

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Diane Knight
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I did daycare, and the children were to take turns with the general toys, if there was a new toy my son had, he choose to share it or it was put away til the children were gone for the day. However, shared toys should be asked for. I would go to the park, I'd bring water and 1st aid kit. Some of these new parents were taught by example of how to do things when taking children out in public. It was kind of 'cute' how they thanked me in being a responsible parent/adult. Whether that came in the form of asking for water for their child who was thirsty or a bandage for a scrape. They only asked once, for they brought their own after that.

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fu yu
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a relief it must be not to have to interact with that wacko entitled mom with the double standards again.

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Casey McAlister
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was never taught to share with kids who were not my friends. Kids are clumsy, careless and irresponsible. They may break your toy, stain it, lose it. Let alone the fact some of them can be hella mean and jealous and ruin it on purpose. So no, isn't worth it, if this kid is your good friend - sure, you can even get them a new toy as a present. But if it's some random- a*s kid, it's not your problem they don't bring any toys. Toys are not a basic necessity,let them use their imagination, if their parents can't be bothered to buy them anything.

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Craig Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF? Mine is mine, PERIOD. If it is actually my personal item then NO ONE is ever entitled to it without my express PERMISSION. Required or enforced sharing ONLY applies to group items in daycare or school. Anything else, you do NOT get an opinion. Would you let your neighbor have your ATM card and pin number because they demanded it? Think, people, THINK...

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Celeste Grant
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1 year ago

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Pin stands for personal identification number, so you don't need to say PIN number as that's like saying personal identification number number. It makes no sense.

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Himory TheDreamer
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a kid in church I was taught that sharing meant giving everyone your lunch and going hungry, giving everyone your school supplies and not being bother by people breaking or stealing it. Meanwhile my mom taught me "never share anything but also never ask to borrow". I rather live by what my mother taught me, but even to this day I'm a bit traumatized by the stuff they said in church, this being only one example among many and one of many reasons why I have eating issues, I was taught the way to be a good person was to let people take my stuff, I was taught being good was not eating so others could and not having feelings of caring towards things you owned, not feeling hurt when people ruined said things, not feeling anything. To this day I tell myself to be bad, be horrible, because that's what I learned meant not letting yourself be hurt.

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Boerenhond
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I now have a budget coach. She said I should try to save money. Save money? Isn't that a sin? The rich man and the poor Lazarus or the foolish rich guy with his retirement money. The church I went to wasn't extreme. Others have absolutely no feeling of guilt when they have lots of savings, but when I have a few hundred and I know others can't eat, I have to share. Oh yeah what you say is a text. If someone asks you, give. I always did that and then you have no cent yourself and ppl take advantage of you. All nice and dandy, but since I got kids I only save food out of my mouth for them and if some kid with rich parents wants their food or stuff, bugger off or an adult, who can very well take care of him- or herself. Bye. Love your neighbour as yourself. Don't forget yourself. If you want them to eat, eat yourself too.

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Joyce Murotani
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I watch my 3yr old and my 5yr old grandkids, they are brother and sister, and the youngest will take her brothers toys, while he is playing with them, and that’s a no, no with me, she can play with the toys he not playing with and eventually he start sharing the toy she wanted with her, he’s five but even with him being five he sometimes wants the toy she has and it’s the same rule with him that’s a no no with their Nana I don’t put up with it, you can’t just take something from somebody else, that’s how I teach my grandchildren that’s how I taught my own children. So for the mom that took the book good for you you did the right thing you taught that mother that her entitled little brat doesn’t get everything that he wants and neither does she.

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GameQueen Momma
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gonna be honest, I teach my kids that if they want to share they can, but if they don't want to they don't have to. Realistically sharing isn't as important to growth as some parents make it out to be. I mean when have you ever seen an adult go to another adult and be like oh you have to share your cell phone or oh you have to share your laptop. You don't. Because as adults those are your personal belongings. Kids feel the same about their toys.

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John Smith
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta berate the greedy child infront of her Karen mother and teach the entitled child how entitled her Karen mother is. Stop the Karen bloodline. Share a backhand with her.

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Rasheeda Shaheen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The other comments that have me confused,is when they said that the kid needs to be patient and wait until they was done. But the toy in questioning is a toy the child had that was their favorite one. They didn't want to share that toy.

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Adam Bidlack
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Demanding someone else share their own property is rude and disrespectful. They have the choice to share but it's not an obligation. I don't doubt those adults were taught better when they were kids, but somewhere the system collapsed and too many people lost their minds. I get it that parenting isn't easy, but some people are just clueless. Props to those parents that try to instill good values in your kids. It's unfortunate that good parenting is becoming rare and will eventually become extinct.

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Leslie Agostino
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good job momma. Taught that mommy a hard lesson. Hope her kids will learn from it.

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Jackie Nettleton
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way that i was taught was as long as you kept the toy in your hands then it was yours but as soon as you out it down you couldn’t play with it again until everyone got a turn. The only exception was if you had to use the toilet you could give the toy to an adult and get ot straight back when finished

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Bobby
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this. I can see so many ways to adapt this to my SIL. The attitude on required sharing, hugs/kisses, thinking she can just ignore our rules.... I think I'm looking forward to the next family gathering for the first time in a long time

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John de la Cruz
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

See, this kind of bad parenting is so normalized these days. And we're seeing what kind of adults those children grow up to be.

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Salty Wild Hair
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, problem solved. I would have dumped her into the pool and said "go entertain your own kid".

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“arguments” were usually started in response to me finding out that Bill had taken it into his head that Will wasn’t obeying his father in a manner appropriate in Bill’s mind & he had taken Will to his bedroom with a wooden spoon to spank Will with to “make Will to show the proper respect that is appropriate that a son should show his father”. What really pissed Bill off the most was that Will never cried the entire time Bill was using the wooden spoon on the butt until the wooden spoon broke from the misuse of the spoon, at which point Will would just laugh in his father’s face. What I couldn’t get Bill to understand was that each time he did this to his own son, Will would gradually learn to have no respect as well as learn to hate his father. Shortly after Bill “lost the battle” with Will, I would “start” the verbal fight with Bill. Right from the very start of these battles between Will & Bill I tried to stop the physical abuse but Will told me that he didn’t have a problem with

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Darkfoxx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find that these days people go over board with the whole "sharing" thing. My wife does this with her kids and it makes no since. Say a kid owns something, for instance one owns a football, he plays football, the other only wants to play with it to aggravate the other, he'll pick it up and say the other wasn't playing with it so he can play with it, the owner will yell and say "give that back! It's mine" and then the mom chimes in and says "now you know you weren't playing with it, he's not hurting it, you can share". That drives me crazy because under this ridiculous rule, neither kid owns anything, they'd have to play with all their stuff 24-7 or the other would just have free reign over it. I've thought about showing my wife how stupid this rule is by wearing her underwear or something and saying "you weren't wearing it, i can use them, why can't you share?" Or some iteration of that that'll show her the stupidity of this.

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Darkfoxx
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When i was a kid me and my siblings didn't touch each other's stuff without permission from the owner. If you have no say-so of who can mess with your stuff then you don't actually own anything.

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Darian Starfrog
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Inspired idea to do that! Lol unfortunately, dhe likely still didn't understand, that's my experience anyway..seems most people aren't adept at 'higher reasoning'.. evident in the comments, when a good number of them made remark to an entirely different scenario.. 2020 people!

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Steve Soto
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's funny you guys comment like this is a true story. All it is is another Reddit lie. Even funnier is the obviousness that people who raise their kids like this are rarely educated and probably would be more likely reading Reddit or watching tik tok then bothering reading a book

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Rasheeda Shaheen
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My daughter is 20 she use to share all the time until she got fed up with my little sister who is 23 now and my niece who is 22 now. They would take her toys break them and than go back to playing with their toys and would not allow my daughter to play. It was every time she got a new toy like they were jealous. So my daughter stopped bring her toys around them. My son is 21 months old. My 3 year old goddaughter takes all his toys. She would take his stuff and push him on the ground. I would tell her parents but nothing work. I would put her in time out and nothing. She just doesn't care. One day my son was playing with a drum set my mom got him. He didn't want to give her his drum stick, so she decided to step on it and break it than she laughs and walks away. I don't want like my son putting his hands on a girl period

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Paul Richards
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A very illustrative response to poor behavior, good on that mom

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DC
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where to have rules for adults that aren't the same for kids: Sex, Drugs. Basically, kids just can't have any of these, while adults, regardless of if it is good for them, are entitled to chose, for their own good, their own bad.

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s0nicfreak
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are you saying that's how it should be or that's how it is? Nobody can have sex with kids, neither kids nor adults, and that's how it should be.

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

asked a question & then stopped talking to get the answer, I didn’t get the answer back like I had expected. It was then that I realized that I was alone in the room with Mom. I had no idea just how much Mom had heard but I went with the assumption that she had heard enough so I stood up & turned around to face her. At which time she was saying all sorts of nasty things to me. I just calmly looked at her without saying anything until she asked me “What do you say for yourself?” I started walking towards her while I said, “At least I waited until I was 2 weeks BEFORE my SEVENTEENTH BIRTHDAY to get pregnant.” Mom’s lower jaw dropped shock that I would have the gaul to say something like that to her so I just headed outside to find my grandpa to tell him that I was ready to go home now. I had every intention to “keep what I stole” from my then ex-boyfriend, but that is a totally different story for another time. The moral of this story would have to be that it doesn’t matter if a woman

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

the parent to teenagers. My teen years weren’t good years as I was a “problem child” & no one actually wasn’t filling any part of the parent of a teen, so I just grew up. I had a bf who was considerably older than me (just around my 16th birthday & him being 22 or 23 yrs old) I quit school to be with him. When I realized that I was losing him, I deliberately got pregnant about 2 weeks before my 17th birthday. Relevant for later. I told everyone in my immediate family except for Mom. They were too afraid to say anything to her so my secret was safe with them. They didn’t want to be the recipient of her mood when she did finally learned what I did. Mom had had me young & she had been tricked into having sex for the first time by my bio father. She was exactly 17 yrs & 24 hours old to the minute when I was born. When Mom walked into the room when I was talking with Dad & my siblings about my pregnancy, they quietly got out of the room without giving me notice. I chattered on but, when I

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

being “disciplined” like this because it didn’t hurt physically as much as it did the bond between father & son. He expressly requested that I didn’t try to stop this because Will could handle the mistreatment far easier than he could witnessing the cruel things that Bill said & did to me. Will was just trying to protect me, even thought he was not older than 8 or 9 yrs old. Will was far more mature than his own father & Bill knew this, which was why he acted the way he did with Will. I met the man, Dean, that I am with a little more than 21 yrs ago & he stepped up to mentor my children & my support person a couple of years after Bill walked out of our family. The strangest thing was … he also stepped up as their protector as well when I started not being a good parent because I had exceeded the age that I knew how to be

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

every verbal argument with me & walking out of the house to go for a long walk to “cool down” … slamming the front door as he left. The main reason he would throw his temper tantrum? … He would be yelling & screaming at me … I wasn’t much better at the start of the argument but then I would remember the children. Our yelling frightened them & I would have to lower the volume of my voice to try to protect them from further emotional/mental abuse that I had grown up with until I turned 15. As soon as I lowered my voice with Bill I would ask him why he was yelling … I was no longer yelling, so why was he? Most of the time I would remember either right from the start of the loud talking/verbal abuse or very soon after it started & the argument always stopped right after I refused to continue to yell at him. Right after he left, I went to comfort the children who were hiding behind the bed in her room, which was the furthest “safe spot” from the kitchen where the arguments usually were. The

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

learned these when I was growing up … suddenly I was thrown a new daily task … protecting my children from a growing threat of an emotionally, mentally, verbally abusive father figure who actually had never learned how to grow up past 6 or 7 years because his mother wouldn’t/couldn’t allow him to grow up. It wasn’t as bad as it could have been if I wasn’t as protective of the children as I was but Bill was getting frustrated with everything in his life because he had no control for the most part. When I started keeping him from harming them, he turned his frustration on me but I had no problems with “taking care of everything” … or so he thought. I was so much better at everything than he was, & yet, I grew up on in a “damaged” home but I was still “better at everything than he was” & he was jealous of how I could do everything even though I had a debilitating disease that will only slowly get worse. More times than not, he would wind up throwing a temper tantrum at the end of each &

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“quake” sued him for what financial restitution they could get from this monster, Bill’s parents just quietly went in search of a surgeon who could try to fix whatever he could considering Bill’s age & medical trauma that could help Bill but there was absolutely no way to fix his feet for the most part as they had been put through horrendous operations that left his legs & feet severely fragile & not much, if anything, could be done to make them “normal”. Bill thought that he would be a better parent if he had his own “flesh & blood” child but no one could convince him that his thinking was flawed. Once the two children got a a certain age (9 & 5) Bill just didn’t know what he was doing &, as a result, he started emotionally and mentally abusing them so, on top of me having to basically raising them as best as I could while slowly losing my war on MS, raising children with no real idea of how to be a “proper parent”, continuing to learn how to keep a clean house & cooking as I had

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

but better. Unfortunately, the way I parented didn’t help me as they grew into preteens & older partly because I had no basis to work with personally as well as I got sicker & Bill was no help either because he had grown up in an equally “damaged” home as well, but his childhood & teen years were because of his poor health right from the moment of being born too early as well as having to undergo medically mistreated by a surgeon who he should never been allowed to practice with children with physical difficulties because this doctor used his child patients as nothing more than “Guinea pigs”. Bill spent most of his years under the age of 16 years in & out of hospital having surgeries that were never intended to help fix Bill’s physical difficulties that came with being born with hip dysplasia &/or clubbed feet. The surgeon finally was caught & brought up on multiple charges of medical abuses as well as his license to practice medicine was taken away. While most of the parents of this

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

whoever he, Will, was invited to share a meal with them. After seeing how he was treated by the parents, they started doing the same so that they would get treated as well as he was & it stuck. Will saw how the mother of each home was able to do so many things that I couldn’t do or that I was too tired to do myself as I tired easily because of MS. The parents always complimented on how well I taught my children to be but I could only say that they were this way because I tried to think first how I would want to be treated & so I would treat them the way that I would want to be treated. It actually was amazing how many parents didn’t raise their children the same way as I treated my own children but it actually helped the other parents to understand their parenting skills as to what actually worked so several of the couples started teaching their children the same way. I’m not saying that it was always adopted into their family lifestyle, but it did help the parents to understand me a

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

her home, I was treated as one of her kids. I remember that, even as young as 8 or 9 yrs old I only wanted to be a stay at home mom & have an even # of children. I was the eldest of 3 children & my younger sister & brother would never allow me to play with them. What I knew about being a good mother to my children was that if I was unsure of how to treat my children, all I had to ask myself how I would feel if I was in their position & then parent them the way that I would have wanted to be treated. I got unknowingly pregnant with my last pregnancy a couple of weeks before Bill & I got married. Because of how I parented my two children they didn’t really know that I wasn’t like the mothers of my children’s friends until we moved to a street that had several children my children’s age. My son only acted in his friend’s houses as I had taught him to be … he would offer to help the parents whenever they needed a “helping hand” in setting the table for a meal as well as clearing the table

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Karen Rothery
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was 23½ yrs old I found out that I had Multiple Sclerosis. I had already had my daughter, Alana, before I was diagnosed but I was about 2 or 3 months away from getting married, for the second time, with a man named Bill when I receive the diagnosis. As I had no idea what MS was, other than seeing a boy of 14 or 15 yrs old on the “Timmy Telathon” the previous February 14th on tv. He had been born with the MS gene “awake” so he never learned to do any of the normal things that children learn right from the very start of their lives, but he did learn how to communicate with his family, as much as he could. As I hadn’t had a good childhood because my mother was mentally capable of being a “normal” mother due to a chemical imbalance in her brain, I grew up mostly by my own sense of how children should grow up as well as how my maternal Grandma took care of her children & me whenever I was in her home. Grandma had her two youngest children (adopted) around my age so, whenever I was in

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Makabert Abylons
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How nice of you to write a full novel and your lifestory for everyone. A bit excessive

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Babz Dabz
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In the end, no use wasting brain space on figuring out who is right, this story is a literal copy paste from another site with a couple word changes to make it sound different. This is a wrong and weird way to make articles.

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Matt Mosher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I doubt the part where she took the book really happened. Its the kind of thing someone usually thinks of afterwards.

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Lindsey Leigh Phillips
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dunno. I was waiting in a heavily backed up line in a craft store. The registers went offline, so each lane contained 6+ people . Nobody was complaining, perhaps because most people buying bargain ribbon at 2pm on a tuesday have at least some spare time. But here comes this broad, clearly über important, and she's late she's late she's late she's late for a very important date. Just starts jawing away about the absurdity of it all. Cuz, of course, nobody would realize we're standing still if this proto karen wasn't raising an almighty stink to spotlight the obvious. You could feel the teenage cashiers' waves of anxiety turning to dread. They did f_ckall to create the system crash, but they were making it work. No dice. As this lady's working herself up into embolism territory, i spun on my heel, put my hand out in a grabby motion and bawled, "Waaaah! IWANTITNOW!". She had the good grace to turn as red as her yarn, and to put a lid on it. The cashiers couldn't stop smiling.

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Stacey Dea Pack
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1 year ago

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Lol. I will be filing this under, “things that never happened”. But it sure made for a great virtue signaling story that clearly was necessary for this thirsty mom to feel relevant and validated and for her much needed daily dose of internet flex. I’m telling ya, social media will be our eventual demise. Of this I have zero doubt.

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Potato
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Does making this internet flex make YOU feel relevant and validated?

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