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Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message
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Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

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If you’re a parent, you probably have at least ten moments a day where you have to stop and ask yourself – “am I doing this right?” Stay-at-home mom Karen Johnson knows exactly how you feel, and she thinks it’s about time we all cut ourselves (and each other) a break.

Not only is she hoping to encourage parents to keep their spirits high, she also wants to put a stop to sanctimonious ‘mom-shamers’ who judge others on the different ways they choose to raise their kids. Johnson, who operates a blog called The 21st Century SAHM, penned a powerful, brutally honest rant on Thursday that completely dropped the mic on pedestal parents, and she did it with more class than a new pair of shoes.

Johnson’s post has gone seriously viral, with over 650 thousand likes and more than 400 thousand shares. Scroll down to find out why moms and dads everywhere are giving her a standing ovation, and weigh in with your thoughts at the end!

Meet Karen Johnson, a stay-at-home mom who got too tired of seeing moms being shamed for being “not perfect enough”

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

She posted a powerful rant against it and it’s going seriously viral

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

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Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Parents overwhelmingly identified with Johnson’s words, and gave her a standing ovation

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

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Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Some, however, felt this mom deserved to be judged on a few of her methods

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

Woman Gets Fed Up With Mom-Shaming, Decides To Shut It Down With A Powerful Message

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What do you think? Is Karen Johnson a super-mom, or did she miss the mark? Tell us below!

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June Pixeld
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone is suddenly a parenting critic. If you love your kids , thats the most important thing.otherwise its noone elses buisiness how you manage your home. I think for all of the energy required to take care of kids , you can allow yourself a drink a day.being a mother also does not require a woman to become a nun.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a little confused by that anyway. Maybe it's because I'm European but I've never heard anyone make a big deal of having 'a drink' (especially beer or wine) in front of your kid, like over dinner or something.

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Lynn Provost
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love your children, try your best and the rest will follow. The best advice I got on parenting (and anything worth doing, frankly!) was " start as you intend to finish"

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Amy Ferguson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK- just a word of caution. We can't give a pass on everything. There is a difference between snarky, judgmental high-minded comments and good old-fashioned common sense and courtesy. Snickers for breakfast? No biggie. Pacifier after the age of 3? Some kids need a little convincing. Letting your 2-year-old take apart someone's living room while you chat away, oblivious to your child's need for intervention? NOPE. IF you wanna be a parent, be the grown-up (sometimes).

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok yeah, I agree with most of it. But there's stuff she says that I go: don't stop trying to improve that. Like feeding your kids popsicles for breakfast. Or for example, I sometimes swear in front of my child. I really don't like that I do that (but was myself raised that way so it's a hard habit to break). I don't think that makes you a bad parent right away, because there's tons of things that make a good parent, but that doesn't mean you can't keep trying to improve best you can. Raising kids is the hardest but also most important job you'll probably ever have.

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Donna Oades
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's so hard to not swear when you've been brought up with a swearing parent! I try really hard not to swear in front of kids (not that I'm around kids very often) but it's quite difficult!

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Kjorn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! Finally the majority speaks! tired of those F*ck*ng 'perfect' moms who think they are better than everyone.

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Brigitte
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse: Some people don't have kids and still think they know better how to raise kids. Internet warriors suck. I hate people who are offended on behalf of someone else.

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DancingToMyself
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! The people who don't have kids sharing their opinions how should I raise my own kids - they are THE WORST! My ount was just like that. From time to time, I just wanted to strangle her.

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's actually healthier for the kids to avoid being too clean . People's Pharmacy radio show talked about this last weekend. I grew up camping and with pets and I'm very healthy. We raised our kids camping and with pets, and they are perfectly healthy. The luck of genetics helps. I admire people with spotless homes, but you can be healthy around fur and dirt.

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Jan Feline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Thank you! Growing up in an environment that is too sterile doesn't let the immune system mature and learn how to fight of everyday invaders.

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Irina Peshinskaya
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are correct practices to do while parenting. Not to be "good" or "bad" mom, but to increase probability of the good results, healthy and happy children. Every clever person should try to learn as much as possible about these practices and apply them. So as for me - don't care to write such letters, ignore unwanted advices and opinions, just make correct things.

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José Alejandro Díaz Bravo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Popsicles for breakfast? Ok, if you are going to be a parent there's some stuff that you OUGHT to do... it's ok if you don't want to clean your living room, but replacing an important meal with a shock of sugar? That's far too much...

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Kristi Zoebelein
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH come on, she didn't mean every day. We don't know the circumstances in other people's households, if something happened and there's no food in the house and it's got to be Popsicles one morning, it's not going to kill anyone.

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Martina Drobne
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social media rants like this one are annoying AF. Face it, everyone has an opinion about everything but its up to you if you're gonna pay any heed to it. There's really no need for you to seek your 5 minutes of fame like this. Go clean your house instead if comments about it offend you so much.

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Maike Weidner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am with you and i went trough nearly all of the above stages as a mom. You are awesome, your kids are, too i am sure. Thank you very much for making that clear. No judgment here.

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Alice Felden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The most important thing is to love your kids . The real world is going to yell at your kids. They're going to hear swearing, they're going to eat what they want. The best parents can do is to guide them toward the best choices. They are going to touch a hot stove, when they get older they are going to make stupid choices in their effort to be independent, whatever and however we raise them. Give them a chance to make small mistakes and see that we are not perfect also so they can learn to cope with the real world

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Marisa Thomas
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for her, I grew up drinking out of a hose, running around barefoot, and climbing trees, some people are so judgemental, and overprotective, that I feel bad for how their kids will end up.

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Justina Palinavičiūtė
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am truly interested to see what this woman think is being a bad mom.

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John
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Opinions are like a******s, everybody has one, and no one wants to hear it.

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Maureen Zappellini
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was shocked by "competitive mothering" I discovered when I had my son. learned 2 ignore the judgment & just love my kid- he's wonderful

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Marzo Florida
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I havent read this post yet, but HOW DO MOMS GET JUDGED?! Good moms are the original wonder women and love their children more than the world could know. Nobody should put that expectation on a mom because they might be putting expectations on themselves!

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Moms get judged because they are humans too. Having a child doesn't excuse every wrong move you make. A child is not a magic force field that protects you from apt criticism.

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Nadine Hughey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parenting is something that can never be done perfectly, so how are there so many experts at it?

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Fairsher
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love all but those dam frozen icepops or whatever they go by. Hate those with a passion. I just try and get the frozen fruit with no sugar because I can eat them too, can't stand the taste of the others. I raised my 3 with judgemental inlaws, sisters and mother but still did things my way .My house was never dirty but it was messy at times with toys and laundry and dishes from baking. I didn't care in the least and still don't with the grandchildren. Although I must say I still find sticky hands gross lol

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I completely agree with this post. Im a good mom and so are other moms who have different child-rearing philosophies. Let's stop with the judging. I'm just glad that this blogging stuff wasn't around when my kids were little. I feel bad for today's young mothers.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tbh I was never bothered with blog posts, but get constant comments from family, especially the mother in law lol. That kinda s**t was around before the blogging stuff too xD

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Joe Sauer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how people want to tell others how they should live their lives, raise their kids, and so many other things, but don't want anyone telling them what they should do. I have a good idea, how about we let worry less about what others are doing and work on our selves. This woman is raising her children how she see fit. Good for her! Screw everyone else!

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Terri Rowland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done for saying what millions are thinking. Nobody has the rights to judge another, those who do could be missing something in their own lives, and that's really sad 😢

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Brooke Wellington
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

June Pixeld, EXACTLY. Doesn't anybody find it worse that people are criticizing the stay at home mom who is standing up for all the moms who are getting scrutinized every day! Also, for people out there, these are not YOUR kids, if you want to try out parenting advice do it with your own, or at least somebody who will want it. Moms are working their butts off EVERY SINGLE DAY for their family, and do not need blame. This is the end of my rant and criticize if you want the only people I don't want to be are all the moms out there working their hardest. DISCLAIMER: Dads are the best also, keep up the good work guys!

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blah, blah...love is all that matters. Love and education. If you can't be bothered to keep your kids reasonable safe and healthy, you suck.

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Aish Siva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not everyone IS a good mom BUT all the things she listed are things mom are criticized for all the time - ppl need to support rather than judge. I'm not a mom and when I see moms, all I can think is HOW ON EARTH DO YOU GET THE ENERGY. So kudos to like everyone who pushed that massive watermelon out of you and those who have the energy to raise human beings! And by everyone-moms, dads, aunts, uncles!

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Millie Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't agree with this. All this does is make me realize and see that there are people in this world who think they can parent how ever they want and call it "good" because they cant afford to give their children a healthy life.

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bravo! Breeding does not qualify a person to be a parent. I know too many people who never bothered to consider the cost of a child, let alone the MANY they had. They don't bother to learn how to properly care for children, but call themselves good parents.

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Millie Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't "shutting" anything down. All this does is make me realize and see that there are people in this world who think they can parent how ever they want and call it "good" because they cant afford to give their children a healthy life.

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Jan Feline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have kids. I am human, I have opinions, but it would be damn arrogant of me to try to tell someone else how to raise their kids.

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not acting smart. She's emotional and childish herself. Good and bad mom are extremes. You can be a good person and still do bad things. You can be a decent mom and still make blatantly incorrect choices. Having a constantly filthy house and screaming at small children are bad things even if you are a good person. There's no reason to make excuses. Either do it or don't do it, but don't act like bad decisions are good decisions.

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Kristi Zoebelein
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not having a clean house does not mean it's filthy. It means there are toys everywhere and school projects are all over the table, the remote and several dollars of change are in the couch cushions, and maybe you are using the same towel two days in a row. So what?! That doesn't mean you have rotting food laying around or that you haven't flushed the toilet in a week.....BIG difference between the two. And I'm sure she didn't mean that she screams at them, raising your voice is not screaming.

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Azure Adams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There were some real sanctimonious c***s ready to 'should' all over a really good and important piece for all parents to read and know

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Amy Ferguson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One word of caution... we can't give each other a pass on everything. There is a difference between snarky, judgmental high-mindedness and good old fashioned common sense and courtesy. Popsicles for breakfast? No biggie! Pacifier after the age of 3? Sometimes these things resolve on their own. Letting your 2-year-old take apart someone's living room while you chat away, oblivious to the fact that there is damage being done? NOPE. There are times when somebody's gotta chime in. Just sayin'.

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nina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

..its disturbing how many people reacted on this courageous post with excactly what she asked to let go for one secound- criticism!

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Jonathan Eatsalot
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised at how many people actually give a eff what others think. So much so that they feel compelled to defend themselves in public.

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Kimberly Cline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a mom but I love this. We are all way too quick to criticize without taking a moment to walk in the other person's shoes.

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DancingToMyself
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is she having doubts about her parenting? Clearly she is, if she feels that she needs to justify herself ONLINE. Is that a "thing" now? Also, as soon as I read that something "has seriously gone viral", I instantly lose my interest. I'm not wasting my time to judge anyone's parenting skills and I don't care if anyone judging me. It's stupid. If I know I'm doing my best, I'm satisfied - I don't need anyone to approve my job as a mom.

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Zenozenobee
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think she has doubt about her parenting or that she's seeking approval. I feel she's just tired of being judged and receiving those unasked advices every parent receive daily... I guess she just post it on whatever social media and people who recognize themselves shared it which must have aweken those judgmental people who cannot help themselves of being judgmental. The "gone viral" stuff is a click bait the poster use to have views using this woman post.. if at least it was a link to the original post to give her visibility.

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Joyce Blodgett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you love your children, give them a decent home (and what home that has happy, well adjusted children isn't a bit messy, hm?), feed them mostly good food---I used to declare a day was "Backward Day" to my son, and we'd start the day off with ice cream and cake, then go from there!---and give them loads of love, they'll be just fine. Sure beats all the hideous things we're seeing in the news the last few years, especially in such monstrous cases as the Turpins, keeping their 13 children locked up and chained to their beds, or the people who just last week got arrested for torturing their 9 year old son his entire short life until his body simply gave out and he died like an unwanted animal in the basement of their house, chained to the walls and lying on a filthy, excrement and urine-filled mattress. It's nobody's business if the kids have popsicles occasionally for breakfast, or you have to yell at times.

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SilverSkyCloud
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

doesnt matter the situation theres no excuse for kids having popsicles for breakfast

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Sarah Lennie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's enough stress in the world without checking whether your strawberries are GMO or not. Just let mums be mums, and stop judging.

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piggy panda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do people not like parents who yell my parents yelled at me (not everyday) but if i did something i already knew i wasn't supposed to do or i did something they asked me not to they would probably yell when i was little they spanked me but not often and now i have a 3.7 gpa an iq of 145 and i don't have any physiological problems oh and i am only 11 i think my parents did a great job and still are!

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Lisa Shaw
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think all parents are great at some things and maybe not so great at others. There is no absolute to measure parenting on a whole, every situation is unique, there simply can't be a unit of measure but there are and have to be basic standards.

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Michèle Gyselinck
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those judgers should go f@#k themselves. It's okay to eat junk food once in a while. Or to have a house that is not spotless as long as it's not a pigsty. You can't expect people to run around cleaning up every time their kids make a mess. They'd run themselves ragged. I wonder if those judges actually have kids of their own. I don't but I'm becoming more tolerant as I grow older. But some people find fault with every thing.

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SA Jane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just do the best you can. When you obsserve something that you think will make you better, try it, if it works great, if not just explore other options that might work for you. Life should be a learning experience, if you show your kids this they will more than likely grow up as functioning adults. We are all different people inside and out, different experiences teach us and help us grow. Too many people think their way is the only way.

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Maggie Collins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a great mom. Moms who criticize other people in front of their kids, not so much. Tolerance and understanding in all things will go a long way in ending all the hate and cruelty. Just saying. Karen, you rock SAHM!

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CharliAnn Olney
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a Military Mom. My Mom was a single working mother. One of my sons is a single working father of two. All of us did (and are doing) GREAT! Despite the critics and naysayers. Live it, Love it and Do your Best! That it all that can an SHOULD be expected!

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Jamie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jugement lives and breaths as I look at the other set of comments. Didn't they get the whole meaning behind the rant thing... ? We are all just winging it for crying out loud. If your not over in the corner shooting up while your naked kids roll around on the rat poop on the floor then your not a bad mom, period, end of discussion. Me mostly patient, except when I yell, they eat good except when I run them to get donuts and chocolate milk before dropping them at school, and I gave birth naturally except for the one that I had an epidural with and the other a Caesarean section... but two came without drugs and sorry no water births. They all slept with my husband and me before they graduated to beds on their own and all were breastfed, one for one year, second for two years, third for 3 years and the fourth was going to be going to kindergarten so I suggested he didn't need it anymore and he agreed, good kid. So.. no judgments moms..dads...and strangers, it's none of your business.

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Jovy Jergens
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

P,.S. In the summer when we came indoors for the night, first we had to sit on the front stoop with a pail of water and pick the ticks off each other. Sometimes we missed one and it would blow up like a gray balloon and get squashed and make a goopy blood spatter. I reiterate, we survived and sturdily and hardily.

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Jovy Jergens
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As kids we were allowed to run wild in rural KY. We got kicked, thrown, stomped and rubbed off by horses, chased by bulls, scratched beyond recognition by dewberry bushes, drank from the cow creek, ate dirt, got lost in the woods for many hours, fell out of trees, stepped barefoot on sharp stuff then walked thru manure, etc etc and we survived. Now that we are in our 60s we are ten times hardier and sturdier than our urban peers with "careful" parents. We always had clothes, at least one pair of shoes and food on the table. We had good parents. You parents above are awesome!

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Jon Chevalier
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only people I know of who are taught parenting classes are parents who adopt. plus we get a public nurse come and check on us every week then every month for the first six months. so he happy you who push out your babies... you have innate knowledge. thous of us who adopt need to be supervised and trained ahead of time.. and I was happy for the classes and help.

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Proud Momma
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People mom shaming a woman decrying mom shaming. Really!? I wish I, as a great single mom of 3, had the free time to judge others! Get a life!

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Johnny Slapstick
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are married moms better than single mom? No. I would argue this statement, but people will hate me for what I would say.

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Sebastian Morkisch
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the hell is Mom Shaming? Never thought that this is worth a wording at all.

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Olivia Joy Menin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i will forever think that single mothers who work and also take care of the children and the house are the f*****g best.

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iblowsheep
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unwated advice : don't confuse statement of overgeneralized opinion for advice.

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but co-sleeping kills. I should know. Can't let that go. If you know something kills kids and you still do it, you are a bad mother.

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Carmen Devore-Blakestad
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mom was a single Mom when it wasn't "cool" to be one (1968 and she became a widow with 3 kids when my Dad was killed in Vietnam. We were 5, 4 and 2). She swore, she yelled, we got spanked, we ate those frozen pops, Spaghetti-O's (and LOTS of other processed foods!) and had pancakes for supper. Our house ALWAYS looked like a tornado had hit it and our rooms were worse! She took us camping, by herself (which she should have gotten an award for), took to the drive-in movies and SO much more! She was an unconventional Mom and she was the "cool" Mom. I think she did a damn good job and she has 3 grown, healthy and fairly normal kids to prove it. Any Mom that can bring up happy and healthy kids is a "Good Mom" in my book.

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Diane Phillips
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think being a good patient Mom is the hardest job on earth. 😊💕

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Katie Giampino
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm way too busy doing my own mum stuff to worry about other peoples parenting style. 😂

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Katie Giampino
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I am waaay too busy doing my own mum s**t to worry about wether anyone else is a good enough mum. 😂

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Nuniek Widiayani
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always feel that popsicles and stuffs are parts of the childhood, and if I take them away from my children they would miss something. Its part of being a child

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Lisa Watson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she's a good mom. She's s doing the best she can. I bet her kids are happy. I think Shannon Moore, Jannna Zaben and Christine Sullivan need to mind their own business and shut their judgemental pie holes. When you are perfect, let us know.

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Joelle Jansen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is so right! Since when has parenting become a competition?? Everyone has their own responsibilities and priorities and that results in different parenting styles and as long as there is no abuse it's none of your business how people raise their children. You raise your children the way you want to so let other people do it their way.

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Christine Buhr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think there's any way of knowing what will work when and with whom . To me a great mom is one that cares about her child, does what she can with the resources she has been allotted and maybe scratch that second one. Caring about your child, putting in a sincere effort . . What else can one expect?

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Ana Fuentes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a mom is the hardest thing in this world, no one should judge you for giving popsicles for breakfast!!

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Doreen Ball
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To Karen Johnson - kudos on your wonderful post To the response posters in the article (since they love unsolicited advice so much)... Janna Zaben - What you think might matter in your home. Outside your home... not so much. It's not your place to tell other people what should be important to them in their homes. The post was not an invitation for your advice. Maybe you should STFU and read it again - pay attention next time. Take notes if you need to. Christine Sullivan - sounds like you're the one that needs to stick with the therapy. Life is full of people who yell and it does no good to pretend otherwise. ADAPT! Shannon Moore - newsflash - it is not your place to "forgive" or not forgive this woman LOL - what a douche you are! Your opinion is exactly that, and in no way more correct or relevant than that of any other stranger. You are a model study for narcissism meeting hubris. What an accomplishment!

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it an accomplishment that you think these people will actually read your comment.

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Eman Diaz
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Don't be too proud. Yes, not all criticism is correct, BUT cant tell people not to tell you when you are wrong. YOU are not perfect. this is just a s**t post from a too proud person.

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Bob 3.0
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, so freedom of speech is apparently bad now? She just wants to stop bullying.

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You're not a good mom if deep inside even you feel that you need to justify yourself online in front of complete strangers.

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June Pixeld
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Everyone is suddenly a parenting critic. If you love your kids , thats the most important thing.otherwise its noone elses buisiness how you manage your home. I think for all of the energy required to take care of kids , you can allow yourself a drink a day.being a mother also does not require a woman to become a nun.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a little confused by that anyway. Maybe it's because I'm European but I've never heard anyone make a big deal of having 'a drink' (especially beer or wine) in front of your kid, like over dinner or something.

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Lynn Provost
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love your children, try your best and the rest will follow. The best advice I got on parenting (and anything worth doing, frankly!) was " start as you intend to finish"

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Amy Ferguson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OK- just a word of caution. We can't give a pass on everything. There is a difference between snarky, judgmental high-minded comments and good old-fashioned common sense and courtesy. Snickers for breakfast? No biggie. Pacifier after the age of 3? Some kids need a little convincing. Letting your 2-year-old take apart someone's living room while you chat away, oblivious to your child's need for intervention? NOPE. IF you wanna be a parent, be the grown-up (sometimes).

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok yeah, I agree with most of it. But there's stuff she says that I go: don't stop trying to improve that. Like feeding your kids popsicles for breakfast. Or for example, I sometimes swear in front of my child. I really don't like that I do that (but was myself raised that way so it's a hard habit to break). I don't think that makes you a bad parent right away, because there's tons of things that make a good parent, but that doesn't mean you can't keep trying to improve best you can. Raising kids is the hardest but also most important job you'll probably ever have.

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Donna Oades
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's so hard to not swear when you've been brought up with a swearing parent! I try really hard not to swear in front of kids (not that I'm around kids very often) but it's quite difficult!

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Kjorn
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG! Finally the majority speaks! tired of those F*ck*ng 'perfect' moms who think they are better than everyone.

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Brigitte
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse: Some people don't have kids and still think they know better how to raise kids. Internet warriors suck. I hate people who are offended on behalf of someone else.

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DancingToMyself
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This! The people who don't have kids sharing their opinions how should I raise my own kids - they are THE WORST! My ount was just like that. From time to time, I just wanted to strangle her.

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's actually healthier for the kids to avoid being too clean . People's Pharmacy radio show talked about this last weekend. I grew up camping and with pets and I'm very healthy. We raised our kids camping and with pets, and they are perfectly healthy. The luck of genetics helps. I admire people with spotless homes, but you can be healthy around fur and dirt.

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Jan Feline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes! Thank you! Growing up in an environment that is too sterile doesn't let the immune system mature and learn how to fight of everyday invaders.

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Irina Peshinskaya
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are correct practices to do while parenting. Not to be "good" or "bad" mom, but to increase probability of the good results, healthy and happy children. Every clever person should try to learn as much as possible about these practices and apply them. So as for me - don't care to write such letters, ignore unwanted advices and opinions, just make correct things.

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José Alejandro Díaz Bravo
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Popsicles for breakfast? Ok, if you are going to be a parent there's some stuff that you OUGHT to do... it's ok if you don't want to clean your living room, but replacing an important meal with a shock of sugar? That's far too much...

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Kristi Zoebelein
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OH come on, she didn't mean every day. We don't know the circumstances in other people's households, if something happened and there's no food in the house and it's got to be Popsicles one morning, it's not going to kill anyone.

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Martina Drobne
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Social media rants like this one are annoying AF. Face it, everyone has an opinion about everything but its up to you if you're gonna pay any heed to it. There's really no need for you to seek your 5 minutes of fame like this. Go clean your house instead if comments about it offend you so much.

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Maike Weidner
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am with you and i went trough nearly all of the above stages as a mom. You are awesome, your kids are, too i am sure. Thank you very much for making that clear. No judgment here.

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Alice Felden
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The most important thing is to love your kids . The real world is going to yell at your kids. They're going to hear swearing, they're going to eat what they want. The best parents can do is to guide them toward the best choices. They are going to touch a hot stove, when they get older they are going to make stupid choices in their effort to be independent, whatever and however we raise them. Give them a chance to make small mistakes and see that we are not perfect also so they can learn to cope with the real world

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Marisa Thomas
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Good for her, I grew up drinking out of a hose, running around barefoot, and climbing trees, some people are so judgemental, and overprotective, that I feel bad for how their kids will end up.

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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am truly interested to see what this woman think is being a bad mom.

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John
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Opinions are like a******s, everybody has one, and no one wants to hear it.

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Maureen Zappellini
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was shocked by "competitive mothering" I discovered when I had my son. learned 2 ignore the judgment & just love my kid- he's wonderful

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Marzo Florida
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I havent read this post yet, but HOW DO MOMS GET JUDGED?! Good moms are the original wonder women and love their children more than the world could know. Nobody should put that expectation on a mom because they might be putting expectations on themselves!

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Moms get judged because they are humans too. Having a child doesn't excuse every wrong move you make. A child is not a magic force field that protects you from apt criticism.

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Nadine Hughey
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Parenting is something that can never be done perfectly, so how are there so many experts at it?

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Fairsher
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Love all but those dam frozen icepops or whatever they go by. Hate those with a passion. I just try and get the frozen fruit with no sugar because I can eat them too, can't stand the taste of the others. I raised my 3 with judgemental inlaws, sisters and mother but still did things my way .My house was never dirty but it was messy at times with toys and laundry and dishes from baking. I didn't care in the least and still don't with the grandchildren. Although I must say I still find sticky hands gross lol

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Janet Clarke
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I completely agree with this post. Im a good mom and so are other moms who have different child-rearing philosophies. Let's stop with the judging. I'm just glad that this blogging stuff wasn't around when my kids were little. I feel bad for today's young mothers.

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Tbh I was never bothered with blog posts, but get constant comments from family, especially the mother in law lol. That kinda s**t was around before the blogging stuff too xD

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Joe Sauer
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how people want to tell others how they should live their lives, raise their kids, and so many other things, but don't want anyone telling them what they should do. I have a good idea, how about we let worry less about what others are doing and work on our selves. This woman is raising her children how she see fit. Good for her! Screw everyone else!

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Terri Rowland
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well done for saying what millions are thinking. Nobody has the rights to judge another, those who do could be missing something in their own lives, and that's really sad 😢

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Brooke Wellington
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

June Pixeld, EXACTLY. Doesn't anybody find it worse that people are criticizing the stay at home mom who is standing up for all the moms who are getting scrutinized every day! Also, for people out there, these are not YOUR kids, if you want to try out parenting advice do it with your own, or at least somebody who will want it. Moms are working their butts off EVERY SINGLE DAY for their family, and do not need blame. This is the end of my rant and criticize if you want the only people I don't want to be are all the moms out there working their hardest. DISCLAIMER: Dads are the best also, keep up the good work guys!

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Blah, blah...love is all that matters. Love and education. If you can't be bothered to keep your kids reasonable safe and healthy, you suck.

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Aish Siva
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not everyone IS a good mom BUT all the things she listed are things mom are criticized for all the time - ppl need to support rather than judge. I'm not a mom and when I see moms, all I can think is HOW ON EARTH DO YOU GET THE ENERGY. So kudos to like everyone who pushed that massive watermelon out of you and those who have the energy to raise human beings! And by everyone-moms, dads, aunts, uncles!

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Millie Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't agree with this. All this does is make me realize and see that there are people in this world who think they can parent how ever they want and call it "good" because they cant afford to give their children a healthy life.

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bravo! Breeding does not qualify a person to be a parent. I know too many people who never bothered to consider the cost of a child, let alone the MANY they had. They don't bother to learn how to properly care for children, but call themselves good parents.

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Millie Holmes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't "shutting" anything down. All this does is make me realize and see that there are people in this world who think they can parent how ever they want and call it "good" because they cant afford to give their children a healthy life.

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Jan Feline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't have kids. I am human, I have opinions, but it would be damn arrogant of me to try to tell someone else how to raise their kids.

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Meowton Mewsk
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She's not acting smart. She's emotional and childish herself. Good and bad mom are extremes. You can be a good person and still do bad things. You can be a decent mom and still make blatantly incorrect choices. Having a constantly filthy house and screaming at small children are bad things even if you are a good person. There's no reason to make excuses. Either do it or don't do it, but don't act like bad decisions are good decisions.

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Kristi Zoebelein
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not having a clean house does not mean it's filthy. It means there are toys everywhere and school projects are all over the table, the remote and several dollars of change are in the couch cushions, and maybe you are using the same towel two days in a row. So what?! That doesn't mean you have rotting food laying around or that you haven't flushed the toilet in a week.....BIG difference between the two. And I'm sure she didn't mean that she screams at them, raising your voice is not screaming.

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Azure Adams
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There were some real sanctimonious c***s ready to 'should' all over a really good and important piece for all parents to read and know

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Amy Ferguson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One word of caution... we can't give each other a pass on everything. There is a difference between snarky, judgmental high-mindedness and good old fashioned common sense and courtesy. Popsicles for breakfast? No biggie! Pacifier after the age of 3? Sometimes these things resolve on their own. Letting your 2-year-old take apart someone's living room while you chat away, oblivious to the fact that there is damage being done? NOPE. There are times when somebody's gotta chime in. Just sayin'.

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nina
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

..its disturbing how many people reacted on this courageous post with excactly what she asked to let go for one secound- criticism!

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Jonathan Eatsalot
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm surprised at how many people actually give a eff what others think. So much so that they feel compelled to defend themselves in public.

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Kimberly Cline
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not a mom but I love this. We are all way too quick to criticize without taking a moment to walk in the other person's shoes.

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DancingToMyself
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is she having doubts about her parenting? Clearly she is, if she feels that she needs to justify herself ONLINE. Is that a "thing" now? Also, as soon as I read that something "has seriously gone viral", I instantly lose my interest. I'm not wasting my time to judge anyone's parenting skills and I don't care if anyone judging me. It's stupid. If I know I'm doing my best, I'm satisfied - I don't need anyone to approve my job as a mom.

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Zenozenobee
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think she has doubt about her parenting or that she's seeking approval. I feel she's just tired of being judged and receiving those unasked advices every parent receive daily... I guess she just post it on whatever social media and people who recognize themselves shared it which must have aweken those judgmental people who cannot help themselves of being judgmental. The "gone viral" stuff is a click bait the poster use to have views using this woman post.. if at least it was a link to the original post to give her visibility.

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Joyce Blodgett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you love your children, give them a decent home (and what home that has happy, well adjusted children isn't a bit messy, hm?), feed them mostly good food---I used to declare a day was "Backward Day" to my son, and we'd start the day off with ice cream and cake, then go from there!---and give them loads of love, they'll be just fine. Sure beats all the hideous things we're seeing in the news the last few years, especially in such monstrous cases as the Turpins, keeping their 13 children locked up and chained to their beds, or the people who just last week got arrested for torturing their 9 year old son his entire short life until his body simply gave out and he died like an unwanted animal in the basement of their house, chained to the walls and lying on a filthy, excrement and urine-filled mattress. It's nobody's business if the kids have popsicles occasionally for breakfast, or you have to yell at times.

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SilverSkyCloud
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

doesnt matter the situation theres no excuse for kids having popsicles for breakfast

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Sarah Lennie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There's enough stress in the world without checking whether your strawberries are GMO or not. Just let mums be mums, and stop judging.

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piggy panda
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

why do people not like parents who yell my parents yelled at me (not everyday) but if i did something i already knew i wasn't supposed to do or i did something they asked me not to they would probably yell when i was little they spanked me but not often and now i have a 3.7 gpa an iq of 145 and i don't have any physiological problems oh and i am only 11 i think my parents did a great job and still are!

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Lisa Shaw
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think all parents are great at some things and maybe not so great at others. There is no absolute to measure parenting on a whole, every situation is unique, there simply can't be a unit of measure but there are and have to be basic standards.

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Michèle Gyselinck
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those judgers should go f@#k themselves. It's okay to eat junk food once in a while. Or to have a house that is not spotless as long as it's not a pigsty. You can't expect people to run around cleaning up every time their kids make a mess. They'd run themselves ragged. I wonder if those judges actually have kids of their own. I don't but I'm becoming more tolerant as I grow older. But some people find fault with every thing.

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SA Jane
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just do the best you can. When you obsserve something that you think will make you better, try it, if it works great, if not just explore other options that might work for you. Life should be a learning experience, if you show your kids this they will more than likely grow up as functioning adults. We are all different people inside and out, different experiences teach us and help us grow. Too many people think their way is the only way.

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Maggie Collins
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a great mom. Moms who criticize other people in front of their kids, not so much. Tolerance and understanding in all things will go a long way in ending all the hate and cruelty. Just saying. Karen, you rock SAHM!

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CharliAnn Olney
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was a Military Mom. My Mom was a single working mother. One of my sons is a single working father of two. All of us did (and are doing) GREAT! Despite the critics and naysayers. Live it, Love it and Do your Best! That it all that can an SHOULD be expected!

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Jamie
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jugement lives and breaths as I look at the other set of comments. Didn't they get the whole meaning behind the rant thing... ? We are all just winging it for crying out loud. If your not over in the corner shooting up while your naked kids roll around on the rat poop on the floor then your not a bad mom, period, end of discussion. Me mostly patient, except when I yell, they eat good except when I run them to get donuts and chocolate milk before dropping them at school, and I gave birth naturally except for the one that I had an epidural with and the other a Caesarean section... but two came without drugs and sorry no water births. They all slept with my husband and me before they graduated to beds on their own and all were breastfed, one for one year, second for two years, third for 3 years and the fourth was going to be going to kindergarten so I suggested he didn't need it anymore and he agreed, good kid. So.. no judgments moms..dads...and strangers, it's none of your business.

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Jovy Jergens
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

P,.S. In the summer when we came indoors for the night, first we had to sit on the front stoop with a pail of water and pick the ticks off each other. Sometimes we missed one and it would blow up like a gray balloon and get squashed and make a goopy blood spatter. I reiterate, we survived and sturdily and hardily.

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Jovy Jergens
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As kids we were allowed to run wild in rural KY. We got kicked, thrown, stomped and rubbed off by horses, chased by bulls, scratched beyond recognition by dewberry bushes, drank from the cow creek, ate dirt, got lost in the woods for many hours, fell out of trees, stepped barefoot on sharp stuff then walked thru manure, etc etc and we survived. Now that we are in our 60s we are ten times hardier and sturdier than our urban peers with "careful" parents. We always had clothes, at least one pair of shoes and food on the table. We had good parents. You parents above are awesome!

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Jon Chevalier
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only people I know of who are taught parenting classes are parents who adopt. plus we get a public nurse come and check on us every week then every month for the first six months. so he happy you who push out your babies... you have innate knowledge. thous of us who adopt need to be supervised and trained ahead of time.. and I was happy for the classes and help.

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Proud Momma
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People mom shaming a woman decrying mom shaming. Really!? I wish I, as a great single mom of 3, had the free time to judge others! Get a life!

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Johnny Slapstick
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Are married moms better than single mom? No. I would argue this statement, but people will hate me for what I would say.

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Sebastian Morkisch
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the hell is Mom Shaming? Never thought that this is worth a wording at all.

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Olivia Joy Menin
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i will forever think that single mothers who work and also take care of the children and the house are the f*****g best.

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iblowsheep
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

unwated advice : don't confuse statement of overgeneralized opinion for advice.

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Linda Gulley
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but co-sleeping kills. I should know. Can't let that go. If you know something kills kids and you still do it, you are a bad mother.

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Carmen Devore-Blakestad
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My Mom was a single Mom when it wasn't "cool" to be one (1968 and she became a widow with 3 kids when my Dad was killed in Vietnam. We were 5, 4 and 2). She swore, she yelled, we got spanked, we ate those frozen pops, Spaghetti-O's (and LOTS of other processed foods!) and had pancakes for supper. Our house ALWAYS looked like a tornado had hit it and our rooms were worse! She took us camping, by herself (which she should have gotten an award for), took to the drive-in movies and SO much more! She was an unconventional Mom and she was the "cool" Mom. I think she did a damn good job and she has 3 grown, healthy and fairly normal kids to prove it. Any Mom that can bring up happy and healthy kids is a "Good Mom" in my book.

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Diane Phillips
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think being a good patient Mom is the hardest job on earth. 😊💕

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Katie Giampino
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm way too busy doing my own mum stuff to worry about other peoples parenting style. 😂

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Katie Giampino
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly, I am waaay too busy doing my own mum s**t to worry about wether anyone else is a good enough mum. 😂

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Nuniek Widiayani
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always feel that popsicles and stuffs are parts of the childhood, and if I take them away from my children they would miss something. Its part of being a child

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Lisa Watson
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think she's a good mom. She's s doing the best she can. I bet her kids are happy. I think Shannon Moore, Jannna Zaben and Christine Sullivan need to mind their own business and shut their judgemental pie holes. When you are perfect, let us know.

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Joelle Jansen
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is so right! Since when has parenting become a competition?? Everyone has their own responsibilities and priorities and that results in different parenting styles and as long as there is no abuse it's none of your business how people raise their children. You raise your children the way you want to so let other people do it their way.

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Christine Buhr
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think there's any way of knowing what will work when and with whom . To me a great mom is one that cares about her child, does what she can with the resources she has been allotted and maybe scratch that second one. Caring about your child, putting in a sincere effort . . What else can one expect?

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Ana Fuentes
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being a mom is the hardest thing in this world, no one should judge you for giving popsicles for breakfast!!

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Doreen Ball
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To Karen Johnson - kudos on your wonderful post To the response posters in the article (since they love unsolicited advice so much)... Janna Zaben - What you think might matter in your home. Outside your home... not so much. It's not your place to tell other people what should be important to them in their homes. The post was not an invitation for your advice. Maybe you should STFU and read it again - pay attention next time. Take notes if you need to. Christine Sullivan - sounds like you're the one that needs to stick with the therapy. Life is full of people who yell and it does no good to pretend otherwise. ADAPT! Shannon Moore - newsflash - it is not your place to "forgive" or not forgive this woman LOL - what a douche you are! Your opinion is exactly that, and in no way more correct or relevant than that of any other stranger. You are a model study for narcissism meeting hubris. What an accomplishment!

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Leni
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find it an accomplishment that you think these people will actually read your comment.

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Eman Diaz
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6 years ago

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Don't be too proud. Yes, not all criticism is correct, BUT cant tell people not to tell you when you are wrong. YOU are not perfect. this is just a s**t post from a too proud person.

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Bob 3.0
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6 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wait, so freedom of speech is apparently bad now? She just wants to stop bullying.

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Adogcalledkitty
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6 years ago

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You're not a good mom if deep inside even you feel that you need to justify yourself online in front of complete strangers.

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