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Kids Are Creating Memes About Their Insane Parents And Here Are 30 Of The Best Ones
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Arguing with parents is the only battle you can never win. Every time it seems you’re just a step away from winning, there’s a bonus card being thrown your way. “You’re still a kid” works even if you’re already a parent yourself.
Luckily, there’s a subreddit dedicated to capturing all the messed-up drift we got from our parents. R/insaneparents is a safe space to talk about hard things in memes. Lucky enough to have a woo-woo anti-vax mom? They get you. Dad insisting COVID-19 is caused by 5G? Been there, heard that. All these shenanigans get a well-deserved meme fix, and Bored Panda has selected the best ones down below. Don't forget to upvote your faves and share what you think in the comments!
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Others Have It Worse Than Many Of Us
I Feel Like This Applies A Lot For The Parents On Here
Insane Parents Inadvertently Teaching Skills
Bored Panda contacted redditor u/Mynameisethan182, who’s the moderator of r/insaneparents, to find out more about their community, which has a whopping 984K readers.
It turns out, r/insaneparents is far more than just the memes. “The community started off as a joke and it grew over time into a weird, chaotic place for people to talk about their real issues and hopefully raise awareness about them.” Kids today deal with their issues with memes and jokes, and they have “a much darker sense of humor than I had when growing up,” said u/Mynameisethan182.
Should've Stayed At Home
We Have All Been Through This
R/insaneparents looks for memes that have a story to tell and take effort to make. Most importantly, other Reddit users have to relate to it. “No one wants to see memes about your mom taking your Xbox away—they don't care about that,” explained the moderator. “They want to know others out there are going through the same traumas as them and they find solace in that.”
On average, r/insaneparents pulls 900K page views per day with 350K unique viewers. It adds up to a total of 15-20 million page views per month. But u/Mynameisethan182 assures me it’s not about the view count: “We're a decently-sized community and just want to help people.”
He’s Totally Safe!
A Meme About How My Parents Treat Me
This was the question I got from my family. "Why don't you ever come over for the holidays?" Because I don't care to travel almost 2 hours to have a quick meal that eventually deteriorates into a full scale screaming match. When I went to college, I was encouraged by a friend to cut out the negative influences in my life. My family is extremely negative. Out of my parents, my 3 siblings and my cousins...the only one I have time for is my sister...and only because we've supported each other so much through the years. Just because they are related to you by blood does not mean you should obligate yourself to their abuse. The way to rise up is to shed the weights that are holding you down. Who knows..you may encourage them to take a turn towards change.
It Be Like Dat
We’ve all been in a situation where it seems that no matter what you tell your parents, they’ll always have their own way of doing things. It's not uncommon for kids and parents to argue over most things. But if it’s happening way too often and leaving a negative impact on your life, self-esteem, and relationships with others, you should get worried.
According to Psychology Today, you should ask yourself a couple of questions in order to find out whether your relationship with parents is unhealthy. “Do they try to control you? Do they manipulate, use guilt, or play the victim? Do they disregard your feelings and needs?” If the answer is positive, it may be a sign you’re living with toxic parents.
Just A Little Meme For You Guys
Let me fix this. My mother is a horrible person. She treats everyone like c**p. Screams at everyone. Has the mouth of a drunken sailor and will steal the shirt off your back when you're not looking. That being said, I still love her...I just hate the things she does. I know she was dealt a crappy hand in life, but that doesn't excuse her behavior. I know she has mental issues that she doesn't want to get help for and that's her choice. But it doesn't mean I make myself open to her abuses and her behavior. I can worry about her and would be devastated if something happened to her. But I won't feed into her problems by opening myself up to her abuse.
She Doesn't Know I'm Bi
How I've Been Feeling These Past Many Months. Maybe Not Stressed Y'know But Still
Why is this so true? Honestly I'd show this to my parents but then I'd get a "Well you DO have it easy."
Darlene Lancer, a certified hypnotherapist, suggests detaching from toxic parents. “It means not reacting, not taking things personally, and not feeling responsible for someone else’s feelings, wants, and needs. Our parents can easily push our buttons.” In fact, it has nothing to do with physical distance. You can still be close to your parents, but not taking in the things they say.
Remember that having a healthy and pleasant relationship always starts with your feelings and attitudes. “Sometimes working on yourself is all it takes. That doesn’t imply that your parents will change, but you will,” Darlene claims. And that means that sometimes forgiveness is necessary to keep on moving together and building a connection.
Still Bitter...
Meme Monday Has Arrived
My husband looks at the floor anytime we have an argument. I kept thinking that he was just ignoring me. It would make me more furious. Then when I spent quite a bit of time with his mother, I realized she was the queen of lectures. Then I understood who had conditioned him to look at the floor. I approach arguments differently now..trying not to lecture but, instead, engaging him to express his thoughts. We've been able to overcome much more stress in our relationship because we both have a voice.
Finally
This just reminds me of that weird movie where this guy kidnaps a kid and winds up taking him Trick or Treating while he robs people because his Mom wouldn't let him trick or treat. Its called A Perfect World. Pretty interesting movie actually.
Yeah...
Happened To Me Once
Whenever Mom Is Losing An Argument
Not Saying Anything Is Sometimes Worse Though
My son got into a fight at school. I was told he started it. I was furious because he knew that I didn't approve of fighting. Then I get to the school and was told that he attacked another kid in the hallway next to the school door to his classroom. After talking to witnesses, I find out that the boy in question had decided to call my son all sorts of nasty names (my son is autistic) including "stupid" and "r****d" because my son was holding the outside door open in ice cold weather so the bus driver could help a student in a wheelchair enter the building, also letting cold air in. The school explained that my son would receive a day in-school suspension, but that the other kid was being suspended for 3 days. I sat down and explained to him how to handle it differently next time and I explained the reason he was suspended for a day was because he took it to the next level of physical attack instead of getting an adult involved to make the kid stop.
Basically Every Kid Growing Up With Strict Parents
(: Fun
Never tell your kids you had it worse. It's like telling them "I suffered more so you just need to suck it up!" Just listen to them.
That'll Solve It
Insaneparents When They Expect Children They Abuse To Love Them Unconditionally Be Like:
This is true. When I was younger my mum hit me and pinched me and whatnot. Now, I stay in my room, and she tells me off when I "isolate" myself. I firmly believe she only stopped abusing me because we learnt about childline in school and I came home telling her all about it.
Gotta Save Every Last Penny
I wish I could do that... the problem is, my parents have to know EVERYTHING that I do. I swear, it feels like they are stalking me sometimes...
My Parents To A Tee
My mom saw an e-girl and told me to look away and called them strippers.
“Walked To School... Uphill Both Ways...”
The Taste
If you're kids are making a valid argument, don't shut them down. Discuss it. Admit Defeat. If you shut them down every time they are winning an argument, you teach them never to fight for what they believe in. You make them shy about asking for help. You make them afraid of authority. That opens the door for them being taken advantage of and it creates problems with confidence. If you are a mature adult..it's ok to admit that a teenager is making a valid point. It's not disrespectful to stand up for what you believe in as long as you keep the conversation civilized.
It's That Damn Radiation!
This is the same BS logic that caused anti-vaxxers to believe that vaccines cause autism. Autism is a genetic malady..not caused by heavy metals in vaccines (which, btw, have already been removed.)
Guys What Do I Do. I Creted This Meme So She Wouldn't Understand This
Rent
my mother always guilted me into giving her my money. then I started lying and saying I didn't have any to give just so I could survive. we haven't spoken in over a decade now.
We Love Rationalizing Toxic Behavior!
Thank God My Chemistry Teacher Actually Understood When I Told Him What Happened
And then they wonder why their kids fail school. Stop making judgements...get all the facts first.
I Literally Went Out To Pay Dnd And Drink Beer, At 16 The Legal Age In My Country To Drink
As someone who did some drugs as a teen i got to admit I'm probably more scared than most parents that didn't have the same experience.
Nice
@Jaxson..although it can be funny when it comes up years later. Like I offered to wash the dishes for my mother once after a family gathering...she said "No..I don't like the way you do them." I said "Really..because you never complained when I did them on evenings you and Dad were out." My mother's jaw dropped as she said "You weren't supposed to do the dishes when we were gone, your sister was supposed to do them." I look over at my sister whose staring at the ceiling, whistling while shifting uncomfortably in her seat. All those years she said "You better get the dishes done or mom will be mad when she gets home!' Liar. LOL.
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Every single time I would open up to my mom about some really deep s**t that has been bothering me, she would use it against me next time we had an argument. Now I never open up to anybody.
Aye ... 7y/o me got blamed for my cousins and my brother walking away (1-3y younger than me) while I read a book... bc apparently (& unknowingly) as the elder it would have been my responsibility to watch them, while at least 8 adults walk around the whole place.
Then I Can’t Control You
I had a friend that had this issue. Parents said she couldn't get a job...but she got them to let her join sports instead. So she told the coaches that she "signed up" but that she was working instead to earn money for when she eventually moves out after graduation. The coaches supported her on it and covered her with the parents. A week after graduating, she moved out and moved into her own apartment because her bosses kicked her up to full-time. Then her parents were like..."What do you want to leave for? You have everything right here." Uh..you told her when she moves out she can make her own rules...soooo.
I Relayed To This Waaaay Too Much
Yes. They think I'm a satanist cos I listen to Panic!
Unfortunately True X * Trigger Warning*
Lool
I'll be glad when they pass a law making it legal for kids over the age of 12 to decide if they want to be vaccinated or not without parent permission or knowledge.
*5 Missed Calls*
There Is A Fine Line Between Discipline And Scare-Tactics
And once they get older and bigger, that fear will dissolve...and the "love and respect" may not be in place to fill the void! Be careful authoritarian parents!
"You Should Go Out More"
That's less of about hypocrisy and more about the fact that a lot of people die in drunk driving accidents on New Years...most of them innocent victims of someone else's bad decision.
My Mom And Me,thankfully She’s Been Sober For 6 Weeks
No when I say that (even though it hasn't ended) I get punished.
Og Insaneparents
I Live In Argentina, And Have 8 Essays For Different Teachers Due To The First Class I Have With Them After The Quarantine
You're lazy..so here...let me make it impossible for you to do your work and, thereby, make you fail your classes to prove a point. And that point would be...what..bad parenting?
Funny And Relatable
How Could You Do This To Us?!
I never understood parents that flip out at their kids being LGBT. They're your kids. Their orientation has nothing to do with your parenting skills. You did not fail them. They haven't failed you. You decided to love them since they day they were born. You never said "I'll only love you if..." To flip out on them for having the courage to be who they are makes you selfish. You're only thinking about yourself...not them.
Thanks Alot For The Help
It isn't can't bully someone into accepting abuse from you just because they live in your house
And He Wonders Why I Stay In My Room All Of The Time
This Is Waaaaay To Familiar
my dad used to do this even if i was getting dressed, one time i was doing weights in my room and asked him to leave, he wanted to watch, i gave him one more chance then i came at him with a dumbbell, he whined to my mother that i was unprovoked and aggressive and she blamed me but he didn't come in my room unannounced again.
I Wish I Had Taken A Picture Of Her Face
Sometimes (Or Most Of The Time For Some) They Know Least
Mother knows best take it from your mumsie, on your own you won't survive......... Does anyone get it??
After Talking To My GF’s Parents
Thought Some Of Yall Would Relate...
The Next Is You, Karen
No, because even if they read word for word how they are treating their kids, they won't be able to connect the dots. They'd be sitting there: Hey, my daughter is also called Shirley. That's strange she's also 16. What do you know, she also likes to become a fashion designer!! Wow, that mom is a b***h....Horrible parents. "
She's Not Even Abusive, Just Being Insane
She Wants People To Feel Sorry For Her
Good Times, Indeed
It's the complete opposite for me. Them: "You're so fat" Me: *Going on a rant about how they are insecure and how I'm fine and secure* Them: "Give me your phone. You're grounded. You are so hateful, and no one wants to be around you." *Takes away TV and leaves me with nothing to do* (A few weeks later) Them: "I feel like we need to reconnect." Me: (The pic)
Dad
When I was 17, I was backing out of our driveway with my dad's truck when I hit the post to the gate. My father said my siblings had all hit the same post and informed me that I would be out the next weekend to help reset the post and fix the fence. Fast forward 4 years later and my mother hit the same post backing out of the driveway in her car. I turned to my father without missing a beat and said "Are you going to make her go out and help you reset the post and fix the fence?" He was stuck because I knew he wouldn't dare demand her to do anything.....
Me: Comes Out As Trans (Mtf) Parents: Not In My Household. We Raised You Better! You're Too Good At Sport! Also Parents: Grounds Me For Three Weeks And Takes All Internet Access Away. They Have Been Crappy To Me For 2 Years Now
I can only see the top of the yellow words. What does it say?
Parents
Poor Kids Of Stupid Parents
To All Of Y’all That Know This Feeling
The Flashblacks Are Real
"Because i said so" is usually code for "i already told why 20 times. Every day. For the last year."
I'm Not A Kid, I'm 30, But: Being A Millennial During Covid And Trying To Convince Your Parents Not To Do Dangerous Things That Might Kill Them And You
I can relate. My mom made us go for a bike ride the other day on the path built near our house. Their was a sign on the bridge that said the PATH was closed but she refused to believe that. She said it was just the bridge and proceeded to make us go around it. That was a steep hill covered in gravel. My sister and I fell multiple times. When we argued about it she got made and took my phone for being ¨disrespectful¨. Like SHE was disrespecting the construction workers who had never even finished the trail.
My Mom's Reaction When I Sent Her A Picture From A Post
No..not all parents are like this. I've met some very understanding parents in my time. These people that treat their kids like this should not be around kids....period.
And That’s How Feelings Of Inadequacy Are Born
Y'alls Parents Are Crazy
Really Mindblowing That Your Kid Starts To Cry When You Yell At Them
"What's Privacy?"
And They Wonder Why Their Kids Do So Poorly
College classes make me cry on a regular basis because of how my parents reacted when I failed English in high school.
She Got In Trouble For This. My Mom Has No Idea That I'm Bisexual
Send Help I'm 15
It also makes me realize, sadly, that I am completely not alone in my experience :(
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had an eating disorder lost a bunch of weight ended up in hospital , i was told by both parents and drs that it was attention seeking or i was on drugs, lol thanks, my sister only has to have a sniffle and its off to A an E. One time she had wind and they took her to emergency room. I fell down the stairs and fractured my ankle and they said its just a sprain and left it. now my ankle is messed up lol
I hear you. I had a severe reaction to medication once, which made my muscles contract randomly; my eyes rolled back and my arms were bent at the elbow and wouldn't release. my mother told me to stop acting, and belted me. She put me to bed, and slapped me again when I couldn't lie down because my abs were contracted. Eventually, after hours of this, she realised I needed a hospital. It's hard to forgive that one, I was only 5 or 6 yrs old.
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I just want to give a hug to the majority of the people who posted these. I am so sorry you haven't been treated with love and respect from your family, you are worthy of love and deserve more than that.
Yup. Seems about right. My parents have never trusted me, don’t respect my opinion even when I have a valid argument because they’re the adults, called me trashy and attention seeking when I developed and eating disorder and attempted suicide because I hate myself so much, told me I was faking my anxiety and depression which lead to the former items on the list, just generally don’t love me, etc. I can’t wait to move out.
I am so sorry. I hope you are able to get the support and care you need. You are worthwhile - don't let your parents opinion of you be your opinion of you. Take care - we Bored Pandas care about YOU.
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Having a mom who says that you have to "sleep" in the same bed with someone because men will not wait. I'm dating that guy for a month and she knows my trauma's. That she dives in bed with a lot men is her thing, but I'm not like that. A mom who wants to be your friend isn't that great either.
Hahahaha amateurs!! My mom literally drop things so we (sister and i) have to bow to her feet when we pick the things up. One day she even say to me (we were on H&M by the way and some other people listen to her s**t) "good! There's were you belong"
My dad had us bathe his feet. We were also trained to respond to commands given to us that were the same given to our *dogs*.... Except dogs didn't have to fill his glass or light his cigarette. I feel ya.
Load More Replies... I don't understand why 'strict' is equaled to abusive. I could see a parent being strict on things (no tv or games until homework is done, eating at the table with the family, cleaning your room) is good. It doesn't mean the child doesn't have love and freedom, just that they have structure. Most of the examples here are shilling, though.
they say strict when they mean "abusive" i used to call my mother strict and she tried to stab me with a knife when i was 12 because i asked her a question.
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I think a bunch of things get labeled "strict" that should really not be in the same category. My parents were/are very loving, but I was constantly under rigid control as a kid. My mom took my door off the hinges as a teenager because she was convinced I was doing drugs. My bedtime was 7 pm until I was in High School. I wasn't allowed to watch movies or TV except as a special treat, and nothing over G unless my parents watched it first for "suitability." I don't consider this abusive, and they did it out of love but it really messed with me. My first relationship was with a controlling and abusive person because I thought that behavior was normal. Now I have a huge problem with any percieved attempt to control me, but this means issues with authority figures, resentment of rules, fear of failure, and a refusal to ask for or accept help to preserve my autonomy and validate my "worth." My parenting style is "don't do the thing, but I'll give you plenty of rope to hang from."
Strict is... don't break the rules. Abusive is... "I feel bad so you have to feel worse". I think good intentions run amok, however, and even parents who try (maybe too hard!) to "guard their kids from bad things" end up causing damage. I say that b/c my one in-law parented their kids the same way ----- with distrust and so much sheltering that their kids could not handle a school trip to the local museum. Yep. A museum trip. Had them in screaming hysterics and panic at "all the bad scary stuff". (Wasn't even dinosaurs.) The school counselor made some calls, fortunately, and things moothed out but... Yeah. Good intentions can go wrong, too. At least yours had good motives. My dad was basically batsh*t crazy when he was sober. We prayed he'd drink....
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This is a very sad and relatable thing for me. I've had a mentally abusive stepdad since I was 4. He always causes me of being manipulative and always having an "alternative plan". I am a sensitive person so I kind of feel sad for him because I can see that he wants to spend more time with me, but it is hard for me to do that when every time we talk he starts a meaningless argument. He constantly tries to turn my own mom against me with his reasonings also. He is also very judgmental. He claims that gay people are the same as pedophiles, which is RIDICULOUS.
Anyone who things that pedos have a place in the LGBTQ community needs to f**k right off. NO WAY, NOT NOW, NOT EVER.
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some of these are relatable like the door one. My mom thinks that just because other people are parenting their kids that way she should too. Even in movies and TV shows!
Ugh the sad thing is a lot of these parents also had abusive parents, just no resources to help them realize it wasn't normal/healthy. A lose lose for everyone. (That said some people are just evil for no reason too, I understand)
It's not an excuse in my opinion. My mother had a crappy childhood, I'll admit that. So did I, a lot of stories I have make your hair stand on end. I chose not to do that to my children. Not because
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Been there... got the t-shirt unfortunately. I m glad i m living in a different country now!
Well...this was heartbreaking. :( So sorry for all the guys out there creating those memes or suffering similar behaviour. Parents aren't always right, sometimes they're terrible abusive people from which you should get away as soon as you can and never look back. I hope all those who have to make such a decision find some great friends that make up for the good for nothing families. <3
*when you already don't like your at home situation and then you read this expecting laughs and end up just getting angrier because you think of what your parents already do that you REALLY don't agree with because it's "to protect you", and then think of all the people that read this post and cried or something because THEY relate too and now you're mad at all parents because no one should make their kids feel this way, and no one should have to feel this way and relate to these so well*
When I was young, I went through some pretty traumatic stuff involving my disabled sister who was a lot older than me (no, it wasn't sexual, and it wasn't entirely her fault as her brain didn't function right). The event left me with terrible PTSD when I was just 10 years old, and I hated my sister at the time. My mother treated me like I had no reason to be as resentful and upset as I was, and acted like I was supposed to just get over it when my sister came home a few months later and apologized to me. A couple of years later, my sister passed away unexpectedly and it hit my family hard--I was still dealing with untreated PTSD when it happened, and because my reaction didn't please my mother, when we got home, she slapped me and made sure to tell me what a stupid little b***h I was for not getting over it. Almost 20 years later, she wonders why I don't talk to her about my feelings.
As a single mother of 3 and 5 years old boys, one of my biggest fears is to be a abusive parent and don't even realize it or thinking that is normal or okay, until is too late and damage my kids. I'm against hit a child because I was hit a lot as a child, but I do scream a bit. (or maybe a lot, on my kids point of view.)? I really don't know. 😢
I'm no parent (in fact I'm a kid myself), but maybe try this trick I found on Tumblr? Basically this girl's mom always asked her 'can I hear that in polite-personese?' whenever she threw a tantrum or did something wrong. And the kid was made to say her exact intentions, so the mom knew exactly why the kid did what she did and could tell between a kid doing something wrong and a kid just trying to communicate. But lots of love to you, being a single mother of two toddlers must be hellfire and just know that you're awesome
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All true about my mum except any hitting, with her it's always mental abuse. Always talks about negative things and is always complaining. I'm the only one she talks to about it so that's all she thinks she has to talk about. I don't want to hear about the news, mum tells me about it anyway. Trying to improve my thoughts, complains about work. Says I'm tired, she works full time so I'm not allowed to be. Don't have a boyfriend and barely have friend, obviously thinks I'm gay. She has also blamed me on her being single and smoking. If I'm upset at anything she'll find a dumb reason to say it's my fault such as not sleeping at night aka at a proper time or completely ignore me because obviously she has it so much harder. I have depression, anxiety and PTSD that needs proper professional help but she won't help me get it.
My mom:Do you need help joy me:yes My Mom: WHATS THE SQUARE ROOT OF 123 Me:We didnt learn that My mOm: ITS SO SIMPLE IF YOU WERENT GONNA GET HELD BACK me:*cries* my mom: STOP CRYING BEFORE I GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY FOR me:*cries* My mom: STOP FAKING TO GET OUT OF IT my Mom: you know what im over it im gonna do what I want I could be at a jill scott concert but I spend all my money on you but it's fine fail and get held back if you want do whatever you want.
I was a chubby kid & my Grandmother (Mom's mom) was always incredibly cruel to me. I thought she just hated me for being fat - she actually hated me because I realized what a cruel & nasty b***h she was and wouldn't put up with it. Flash forward 20 years and we all met for my uncle's wedding. I was in the best shape of my life and looked amazing. She tried to teach my 3 year old daughter to call her "Aunt June", but I quickly instructed my daughter to correctly call her "Great Grandmother June". My children (12 year old son as well) were well groomed, polite and well behaved. I was no longer "our little fat girl" so she basically didn't have anything to chide/insult me, and didn't really speak to me the whole day. F*****g win/win! For the life of me, I will never understand how she managed to raise my kind, thoughtful & generous mother. I actually sang "Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead" when told of her passing. She was one of the most awful, hateful people I have ever known.
It's a sad comment on parenting that I got too late in life. Ive lost my son to what I thought was good parenting.
Reading this post was kind of I think a bitter sweet moment for a lot of us. At least we aren't alone in our struggles and pain, but at the same time... No one should have to feel like this. It's the moment I WISH I was alone, because I don't want so many people to have felt this horrible, disgusting feeling.
These were really hard for me. Not because I went through any of this but because they made me think of all of the people who either are or have gone through this. Being a parent is a privilege and you shouldn't leave your child with emotional, psychological, or physical scars. If you don't think you can have control over yourself enough to be a parent then don't become a parent.
Because it is a post from the view of people with toxic parents FFS. How can you miss that simple premise. If you think controlling is good parenting you are wrong. It is weak. If you parent through fear, you are weak.
Load More Replies... It also makes me realize, sadly, that I am completely not alone in my experience :(
Load More Replies... had an eating disorder lost a bunch of weight ended up in hospital , i was told by both parents and drs that it was attention seeking or i was on drugs, lol thanks, my sister only has to have a sniffle and its off to A an E. One time she had wind and they took her to emergency room. I fell down the stairs and fractured my ankle and they said its just a sprain and left it. now my ankle is messed up lol
I hear you. I had a severe reaction to medication once, which made my muscles contract randomly; my eyes rolled back and my arms were bent at the elbow and wouldn't release. my mother told me to stop acting, and belted me. She put me to bed, and slapped me again when I couldn't lie down because my abs were contracted. Eventually, after hours of this, she realised I needed a hospital. It's hard to forgive that one, I was only 5 or 6 yrs old.
Load More Replies... I just want to give a hug to the majority of the people who posted these. I am so sorry you haven't been treated with love and respect from your family, you are worthy of love and deserve more than that.
Yup. Seems about right. My parents have never trusted me, don’t respect my opinion even when I have a valid argument because they’re the adults, called me trashy and attention seeking when I developed and eating disorder and attempted suicide because I hate myself so much, told me I was faking my anxiety and depression which lead to the former items on the list, just generally don’t love me, etc. I can’t wait to move out.
I am so sorry. I hope you are able to get the support and care you need. You are worthwhile - don't let your parents opinion of you be your opinion of you. Take care - we Bored Pandas care about YOU.
Load More Replies... Having a mom who says that you have to "sleep" in the same bed with someone because men will not wait. I'm dating that guy for a month and she knows my trauma's. That she dives in bed with a lot men is her thing, but I'm not like that. A mom who wants to be your friend isn't that great either.
Hahahaha amateurs!! My mom literally drop things so we (sister and i) have to bow to her feet when we pick the things up. One day she even say to me (we were on H&M by the way and some other people listen to her s**t) "good! There's were you belong"
My dad had us bathe his feet. We were also trained to respond to commands given to us that were the same given to our *dogs*.... Except dogs didn't have to fill his glass or light his cigarette. I feel ya.
Load More Replies... I don't understand why 'strict' is equaled to abusive. I could see a parent being strict on things (no tv or games until homework is done, eating at the table with the family, cleaning your room) is good. It doesn't mean the child doesn't have love and freedom, just that they have structure. Most of the examples here are shilling, though.
they say strict when they mean "abusive" i used to call my mother strict and she tried to stab me with a knife when i was 12 because i asked her a question.
Load More Replies... I think a bunch of things get labeled "strict" that should really not be in the same category. My parents were/are very loving, but I was constantly under rigid control as a kid. My mom took my door off the hinges as a teenager because she was convinced I was doing drugs. My bedtime was 7 pm until I was in High School. I wasn't allowed to watch movies or TV except as a special treat, and nothing over G unless my parents watched it first for "suitability." I don't consider this abusive, and they did it out of love but it really messed with me. My first relationship was with a controlling and abusive person because I thought that behavior was normal. Now I have a huge problem with any percieved attempt to control me, but this means issues with authority figures, resentment of rules, fear of failure, and a refusal to ask for or accept help to preserve my autonomy and validate my "worth." My parenting style is "don't do the thing, but I'll give you plenty of rope to hang from."
Strict is... don't break the rules. Abusive is... "I feel bad so you have to feel worse". I think good intentions run amok, however, and even parents who try (maybe too hard!) to "guard their kids from bad things" end up causing damage. I say that b/c my one in-law parented their kids the same way ----- with distrust and so much sheltering that their kids could not handle a school trip to the local museum. Yep. A museum trip. Had them in screaming hysterics and panic at "all the bad scary stuff". (Wasn't even dinosaurs.) The school counselor made some calls, fortunately, and things moothed out but... Yeah. Good intentions can go wrong, too. At least yours had good motives. My dad was basically batsh*t crazy when he was sober. We prayed he'd drink....
Load More Replies... This is a very sad and relatable thing for me. I've had a mentally abusive stepdad since I was 4. He always causes me of being manipulative and always having an "alternative plan". I am a sensitive person so I kind of feel sad for him because I can see that he wants to spend more time with me, but it is hard for me to do that when every time we talk he starts a meaningless argument. He constantly tries to turn my own mom against me with his reasonings also. He is also very judgmental. He claims that gay people are the same as pedophiles, which is RIDICULOUS.
Anyone who things that pedos have a place in the LGBTQ community needs to f**k right off. NO WAY, NOT NOW, NOT EVER.
Load More Replies... some of these are relatable like the door one. My mom thinks that just because other people are parenting their kids that way she should too. Even in movies and TV shows!
Ugh the sad thing is a lot of these parents also had abusive parents, just no resources to help them realize it wasn't normal/healthy. A lose lose for everyone. (That said some people are just evil for no reason too, I understand)
It's not an excuse in my opinion. My mother had a crappy childhood, I'll admit that. So did I, a lot of stories I have make your hair stand on end. I chose not to do that to my children. Not because
Load More Replies... Been there... got the t-shirt unfortunately. I m glad i m living in a different country now!
Well...this was heartbreaking. :( So sorry for all the guys out there creating those memes or suffering similar behaviour. Parents aren't always right, sometimes they're terrible abusive people from which you should get away as soon as you can and never look back. I hope all those who have to make such a decision find some great friends that make up for the good for nothing families. <3
*when you already don't like your at home situation and then you read this expecting laughs and end up just getting angrier because you think of what your parents already do that you REALLY don't agree with because it's "to protect you", and then think of all the people that read this post and cried or something because THEY relate too and now you're mad at all parents because no one should make their kids feel this way, and no one should have to feel this way and relate to these so well*
When I was young, I went through some pretty traumatic stuff involving my disabled sister who was a lot older than me (no, it wasn't sexual, and it wasn't entirely her fault as her brain didn't function right). The event left me with terrible PTSD when I was just 10 years old, and I hated my sister at the time. My mother treated me like I had no reason to be as resentful and upset as I was, and acted like I was supposed to just get over it when my sister came home a few months later and apologized to me. A couple of years later, my sister passed away unexpectedly and it hit my family hard--I was still dealing with untreated PTSD when it happened, and because my reaction didn't please my mother, when we got home, she slapped me and made sure to tell me what a stupid little b***h I was for not getting over it. Almost 20 years later, she wonders why I don't talk to her about my feelings.
As a single mother of 3 and 5 years old boys, one of my biggest fears is to be a abusive parent and don't even realize it or thinking that is normal or okay, until is too late and damage my kids. I'm against hit a child because I was hit a lot as a child, but I do scream a bit. (or maybe a lot, on my kids point of view.)? I really don't know. 😢
I'm no parent (in fact I'm a kid myself), but maybe try this trick I found on Tumblr? Basically this girl's mom always asked her 'can I hear that in polite-personese?' whenever she threw a tantrum or did something wrong. And the kid was made to say her exact intentions, so the mom knew exactly why the kid did what she did and could tell between a kid doing something wrong and a kid just trying to communicate. But lots of love to you, being a single mother of two toddlers must be hellfire and just know that you're awesome
Load More Replies... All true about my mum except any hitting, with her it's always mental abuse. Always talks about negative things and is always complaining. I'm the only one she talks to about it so that's all she thinks she has to talk about. I don't want to hear about the news, mum tells me about it anyway. Trying to improve my thoughts, complains about work. Says I'm tired, she works full time so I'm not allowed to be. Don't have a boyfriend and barely have friend, obviously thinks I'm gay. She has also blamed me on her being single and smoking. If I'm upset at anything she'll find a dumb reason to say it's my fault such as not sleeping at night aka at a proper time or completely ignore me because obviously she has it so much harder. I have depression, anxiety and PTSD that needs proper professional help but she won't help me get it.
My mom:Do you need help joy me:yes My Mom: WHATS THE SQUARE ROOT OF 123 Me:We didnt learn that My mOm: ITS SO SIMPLE IF YOU WERENT GONNA GET HELD BACK me:*cries* my mom: STOP CRYING BEFORE I GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY FOR me:*cries* My mom: STOP FAKING TO GET OUT OF IT my Mom: you know what im over it im gonna do what I want I could be at a jill scott concert but I spend all my money on you but it's fine fail and get held back if you want do whatever you want.
I was a chubby kid & my Grandmother (Mom's mom) was always incredibly cruel to me. I thought she just hated me for being fat - she actually hated me because I realized what a cruel & nasty b***h she was and wouldn't put up with it. Flash forward 20 years and we all met for my uncle's wedding. I was in the best shape of my life and looked amazing. She tried to teach my 3 year old daughter to call her "Aunt June", but I quickly instructed my daughter to correctly call her "Great Grandmother June". My children (12 year old son as well) were well groomed, polite and well behaved. I was no longer "our little fat girl" so she basically didn't have anything to chide/insult me, and didn't really speak to me the whole day. F*****g win/win! For the life of me, I will never understand how she managed to raise my kind, thoughtful & generous mother. I actually sang "Ding Dong, the Witch is Dead" when told of her passing. She was one of the most awful, hateful people I have ever known.
It's a sad comment on parenting that I got too late in life. Ive lost my son to what I thought was good parenting.
Reading this post was kind of I think a bitter sweet moment for a lot of us. At least we aren't alone in our struggles and pain, but at the same time... No one should have to feel like this. It's the moment I WISH I was alone, because I don't want so many people to have felt this horrible, disgusting feeling.
These were really hard for me. Not because I went through any of this but because they made me think of all of the people who either are or have gone through this. Being a parent is a privilege and you shouldn't leave your child with emotional, psychological, or physical scars. If you don't think you can have control over yourself enough to be a parent then don't become a parent.
Because it is a post from the view of people with toxic parents FFS. How can you miss that simple premise. If you think controlling is good parenting you are wrong. It is weak. If you parent through fear, you are weak.
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