This Online Group Is Dedicated To Shaming Insane Parents, And Here Are 30 Of Their Best Posts (New Pics)
Becoming a parent is a life changing experience. Suddenly, you are responsible for a whole other human being, and your new full-time job is to give them the best life you can. So you read stacks of books, attend parenting classes and try to soak up as much knowledge as possible to be a great parent. Maybe you even join a few Facebook groups to gain insight from other parents and to be part of a community. It’s nice to have other moms help you find the cutest and most affordable kids clothing without spending hours scouring the internet. Other parents can also provide some support when you just need to vent about the struggles of raising kids. There’s just one thing to be wary of in online parenting groups: they seem to be a breeding ground for crazy people.
Flooded with anti-vax posts and complaints about talentless toddlers, these parenting groups are painfully cringey. The silver lining, however, is that these groups have inspired the hilarious Mom Group Drama subreddit. r/Sh*tMomGroupsSay has 300k members, and shares countless screenshots of ridiculous posts on parenting groups. Their description says they’re “here to judge the ‘No Judge’ culture of the internet mom groups", and we can’t thank them enough for their service. Enjoy this list we’ve compiled of some of the best recent posts, then check out Bored Panda’s previous publications of crazy parenting posts here and here.
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I Don't Have A Problem With Extended Nursing, But Omg Still Using Months?
It’s important for new mothers to feel they have a safe space to ask questions and share their feelings. That place, however, does not need to be an online group. These controversial mommy groups have even sparked discussion from former members who have had enough. In 2020, Chelsy Theriault, creator of the blog Motherhood+Mayhem, published a piece on Filter Free Parents titled “6 Reasons I Hate Mom Facebook Groups”. She explained that at first glance, these groups seemed like a great community to be a part of. Over time, however, she realized that the groups “tended to be a crutch for mothers who either didn’t really want to deal with motherhood issues or didn’t want to (or have the courage or personal strength to) come up with their own solutions to parenting challenges”.
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Chelsy went on to say that these Facebook groups invalidate mothering instincts. “It seems that many moms, instead of assessing a situation and formulating their own solution, immediately run to Facebook to seek advice.” Similarly to how Google seems to have killed many peoples’ critical thinking skills, these mothering groups have squashed some parents’ abilities to make decisions. Chelsy recommends that mothers follow their instincts and skip seeking out help for every minor question that pops into their heads. She also adds a bit of advice a good friend gave her following the birth of her daughter to reassure anxious mothers: “If you don’t drop them or sit on them, you’re doing great.”
I Want To Smack This Parent
I Feel So Bad For This Poor Boy
The next concerning reason Chelsy cited for disliking these groups is that moms seek medical advice in them, rather than going to a real doctor. “I know of a local mom Facebook group in my area that had to put a stop to mothers posting pictures of their children’s rashes and other visible physical ailments,” she noted. Even pregnant women post asking for health advice for themselves, but it’s unlikely many people in the group are actually medical professionals. And with only a Facebook post describing symptoms to go off of, they probably couldn't be of much help anyway. If you are concerned about your own health or your child’s health, please seek out someone with appropriate credentials. Don't just take the word of Cindy from Ohio who is spending 7 hours a day on Facebook during her maternity leave.
You Can't Even Count On Your Own Parents After You Have A Baby
Why do people expect other people to parent their kids? I've never understood this. Did these people ever really listen to other parents and the complaints parents have about having no time for themselves? I get this mom is venting but I don't get where she would ever assume people would be willing to watch her kid, especially her own mom who already raised hers and should be able to pick and choose when she wants to take her grandchild for the weekend. If you're thinking of becoming a parent please understand that nobody is going to be a nanny for your kid so you can have weekends to yourself unless you pay them and pawning your kid off on any of your friends and family every chance you get is not parenting- it's entitlement.
My mom taught me to always be appreciative and never assume or expect anything. Whatever nice gesture someone does is voluntary. Perhaps some people were never taught that.
Load More Replies...The real eye opener here will be for the baby when they realize that they were not born to parents who are mammals, but instead, reptiles.
I think it's above and beyond that the grandma takes the baby ever other Saturday, esp. if that's overnight into Sunday. And esp. since she is still working full time.
My husband and I spent over 10 years working opposite shifts so we wouldn’t have to rely on family or pay someone to watch our children. We asked for four nights for our 10th anniversary and we split them up with other family members so it was only 2 nights each. They were asked and given possible dates before we booked a trip. If they want one or both of them for a visit, they ask and we will use that time for ourselves. We already asked for one night in august for the youngest so we could go to a concert. My hubby’s family always helps us, more than needed and we are always grateful. I was blessed with a great FIL and 2 MILs. I would never just expect someone to regularly take my kids because I said so
Load More Replies...This is a major reason why we did not have kids. My (now late) husband was ill and because of that unable to care for a baby and I had to work fulltime because single income family. No way we were going to have a baby and have it taken care of by others 40 hours a week.
That doesn't stop most people from churning out kid after kid..mental illness in the family..have kids..genetic diseases all over the place in your family? have a litter! why not..have a special needs husband or a husband who will be away 6 months out of the year? hell why not lets make life harder for everyone!!!
Load More Replies...I couldn't tell you the last time my husband and I got time alone together -I don't dump my children on other people a regular basis - I can't even think of the last time they had an overnight stay with anyone. Usually if they're staying at my mums house I go there with them and we have a multi-generational sleepover
That is a bit much. My mom gave me 10 min to go out for a coffee a few blocks down and that's it. It would have taken 20 min just to get there so I walked down to the end of our block and went back home barely refreshed and destressed. (Come to think of it, my boyfriend (the Dad) could've taken her for an hour or so. He was there.... WTF?) None of our parents would take our daughter for the night until she was older and sleeping through the night. I get it, though. It is shockingly lonely, isolating and there are things no one can prepare you for that cause you post-partum depression. But I don't understand how a parent can still desire wanting to be apart from their baby for so long. Even when I felt so tired, craving a bit of adult time, the moment I was away from my baby I was missing her and couldn't wait to come home. I'd be worried my baby would forget about me if I was away from her for too long.
I have 4 grandchildren between the ages of 1 and 10. I work 6 days a week and I dont feel like I am required to keep them on their parents schedule. I keep the oldest 3 once a month overnight and if I dont have plans than I will keep them if their parents request. When they were babies I would only keep them for a couple of hours at a time. I dont feel bad at all and this women should grow up and realize its not her parents job to keep them at her convenience. She should be happy they keep them at all considering some grandparents refuse to babysit.
Erm? Spread legs, have baby, want others to look after it? FFS what is wrong with people?!
You decided to breed so I guess it is only your problem, nobody elses.
Can we talk about how this person can't even count to 2 yet is apparently responsible for a baby they don't want to take care of full time? Friday to Saturday is 1 day, Saturday to Sunday is another day. That is not 3 days.
Such parents need a reality check. Others (their parents, family members or any childless couple) are not your babysitters. Want kids? Be accountable. Everyone wants a life. If you do not understand these things, chances are you will not have anyone around you
You know, NOT having kids at all is an option, but only BEFORE they are born.
Arrrggg. These type of things make me so angry. Its a privilege too have a child, all you got to do is step up and be a f*****g mum
Mama, you didn't raise your daughter right. Now she is selfish, demanding and privileged.
My sister rarely saw her young son from one week to the next for years. Lazy, self centred narcissist who is a parasite.
Hey at least she takes him sometimes you should be happy about that. Some parents will not do stuff like that. Or will only do it if it is an emergency
Pardon me but aren't you the baby's parent? If you wanted time alone with your partner then you shouldn't have had a child
" Don't ask me if I will get children - it's my decision" but " I decided to have children therefore I decide about your grandparent-effort too" There is a voluntary pleasure to accompany your grandchilds growing up- but there is just no obligation to please their mothers wishes
smh she shouldn’t be using her parents she’s supposed to be caring for baby and believe me she should enjoy it while it lasts. a small baby is easier to take care of than a friggin toddler
OMG, I think I hate this person that I've never even met. Are you F'ing kidding me?
If u were expecting other people to help, u should have found parents to adopt the baby and you.
Sometimes I'm hoping people are just joking about this. Apparently they are not. Having your family babysit your kids is on the same train of disaster as asking a great friend to do something around your house, like varnishing your floors or renovate your kitchen. If you're not happy with the service, what happen with your friendship?
Get The Hell Out With This Nonsense
Along the same lines, Chelsy points out that many mothers ask questions that could easily be solved with a quick Google search. “We’re moms. We’re busy. We don’t have time to do the Googling for other moms.” Next she notes her annoyance about posts that begin with “Okay, mamas, let’s talk [enter topic here]”. “Every time a post starts with this statement, all I can picture is some tacky infomercial tempting me to purchase some cheesy product,” Chelsy adds. Just cut to the chase. "For some reason, introducing a post with 'Let’s talk -' seems pushy and impersonal."
My Friends Are Also Pregnant And I Dont Feel Special. How Dare They Ruin My Experience
What is she going to feel like once the baby gets more attention than her? Maybe she should grow up THEN have a baby.
Seems, She Really Does Not Want A Boy...
This Might Be The Best-Worst Thing I’ve Ever Seen In Fundie-Crunchy Mom Group Hell
Next, Chelsy comments on the odd habit some mothers have of displaying their shortcomings to gain pity and attention. She gives an example of a mom asking if she’s the only one who forgets to leave money from the tooth fairy, followed by multiple “haha”s and a face palm emoji. Of course she’s not the only one. Moms are not perfect, and Chelsy empathizes with the pressure mothers often feel. “I think these moms are simply looking for pity or for someone to console them and convince them that they are not a horrid parent. Perhaps they are trying to displace their mom guilt or trying to make light of their mom fails.” “Either way,” Chelsy adds. “It drives me nuts.”
Lastly, Chelsy points out another popular post style on the page: "Pic for attention!" “This is annoying,” she says. “But at least they’re being honest.”
“My Doctor Says My 9mo Baby Is Normal, But He Clearly Has Bipolar!”
Saw This And Just Knew It Belonged Here
Err...what?
Luckily for moms everywhere, not every online community is full of infuriating posts and medical misinformation. In 2018, Alexis Barad-Cutler launched Not Safe for Mom Group (or nsfmg) after becoming fed up with the “curated Instagram feeds, filtered momfluencers, and holier-than-thou Facebook mom groups that made her feel worse about her parenting”. "Whenever I would go to my mom groups, it felt like I was having a completely different experience than what my peers were having," Barad-Cutler said in an interview with TODAY. "I was mired in postpartum anxiety, depression and psychosis, and my baby was really colicky. So it just felt like there was a cellophane between me and the rest of the world — like I was living on a different planet."
So she channeled her frustrations into writing. But media outlets were not always on board with publishing articles depicting less than picture-perfect realities of motherhood. “That's where it started — the idea that I couldn't say these things out loud," she said. "I wanted to create a community. I wanted a place for people to go and be able to say the things that they're feeling out loud."
That’s Not The School’s Problem
Oh dear lord. Have your kid get the boys parents' numbers and call/ text them. Or- give the boy your number to give the parents. Or- Facebook/ social media. It's not that hard.
5g Did It!
Won't Someone Please Think Of The Karma!?
Thus, the Not Safe for Mom Group was born. On their website, the group is described as “an online — and IRL— community that welcomes challenging topics around motherhood in a judgment-free setting”. Nsfmg seems like a breath of fresh air compared to the chaotic groups being ridiculed on reddit. Under “who we serve” the site says, “Our community is centered on mothers, those on the journey towards motherhood, those who identify as mothers, the mom-curious, and the folks who support and love moms.” And the reasoning listed for why the site exists is because “tremendous healing can occur when we share our experiences and stories with others. We created this space as a safe haven for messy, uncomfortable dialogue that enables us to to learn and grow from each other."
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F**k You And Your Privacy. I’m Gonna Show 53,000 People Your Picture And Tell Them You Got Your Period Today!
1: Don't get her the ultra-thin kind, that's b******t. 2: Pull your head out of your ass and take down the damn post, ya creep
Vacuum Salesman By Age 2!!!
While the website has been active since 2018, nsfmg recently began hosting a podcast as well. Episodes feature candid conversations such as “I Begged For Help and No One Listened: Mothering Through Mental Ilness” and “My Ex’s Sinister Secret: A New Mom’s Shocking Discovery”. Barad-Cutler welcomes these difficult topics on her site. “You don't have to preface anything by saying, 'I love my baby' — it is assumed that you love your child," she explains. "We invite you to curse — we love a good curse word. We welcome a difference of opinion, and we encourage people to use language like 'folks' or 'friends' — not heteronormative language, because we know that not everyone is married or cisgender."
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No Fatties Allowed!
It’s Gross Karen. I’m Also Pretty Certain It’s Illegal To Feed Unsuspecting People Your Bodily Fluids
In addition to the podcast, nsfmg’s website also includes a blog, resources for parents struggling with mental health issues or abusive relationships, virtual talking circles “for support in this sh*t-storm”, the opportunity to book private sessions with Barad-Cutler, and a shop (which features a tee shirt proudly saying “NO MORE MOTHERFU*KING MOM GROUPS).
For the ‘anti-mom group’ moms out there, nsfmg seems like an excellent alternative to the run-of-the-mill Facebook groups.
Two Opposing Cleaning Strategies
It Sounds Like You’ve Got A Pretty Smart Kid
Comments Are Filled With Moms Saying That Hygiene Is Non-Negotiable As This Will Lead To Health Problems
Another resource for moms interested in critiquing online mommy culture is the podcast "Under the Influence", hosted by journalist and mother Jo Piazza. "Under the Influence" is described as “a deep dive into the Mom Internet, a place haunted by aspirational marketing where it feels like every other mom is a social media influencer trying to sell you something… Jo Piazza looks at how we got here, what it all means and how the commodification of motherhood is driving mothers a little insane.”
On the topic of mommy blogging, Piazza told TODAY, "It's a multi-billion dollar industry that gets ignored because women are doing it and it's a 'mom thing'. But they're building these huge platforms and I say it all the time: If they were men, they'd be on the cover of Forbes because they're building mini media empires."
Woman Suggests Wrapping An Onion Around A Child's Ear Because It'll "Pull Out" The Infection, Just Like Tears!
Only Boys Are Supposed To Have Disgusting Habits?
This Is What The Admins To Mom Groups Drive
Well, this isn't horrible...except for the "co-sleeping" part. Scarier to me is what kind of person feels the need to advertise their parenting style on the rear window of their vehicle? NO ONE CARES!!!!
Despite how much wisdom raising children can bring, being a mother does not automatically make someone an authority on health, wellness or even parenting. Be cautious of what overbearing mothers are posting in online groups, and find a community where you actually feel safe to express your parenting concerns. But if no online group makes you feel at home or you’re simply not a parent, you might as well get a laugh out of the Mom Group Drama subreddit. We certainly did.
Be sure to upvote the photos you find most egregious and let us know in the comments if you've ever witnessed questionable parenting posts online!
What The Krap?!
How about "K,somymom'skindacrazyandshedoesn'treallycareifnoonecanspellournamesbecausesheneedslikesonFacebook"? Also, Loki is a Norse God
How Old?!
Actually, this might not be as odd as some people seem to think. Having your baby's hips checked soon after birth is standard hospital care where I live (but by a medical professional!) and neck misalignment can be quite commen if there were issues during the birth, as was the case with mine (suction). Again, this should all be done by a medical professional, but it can be an important check-up to have done.
I Can Weaponize Your Toddler, Dm?
Note: this post originally had 125 images. It’s been shortened to the top 30 images based on user votes.
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.
I will quote Michael Levine here; "Having children no more makes you a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist."
You should have to pass an IQ test to have kids... 😑
Load More Replies...I couldn't continue. This stuff is sickening. What parents are doing to their kids is obscene!
WHY?? WHY?? Do "parents" have to give their children impossible names to spell or pronounce? Like Oprah, who constantly insisted she was named after some African queen or whatever, until her mom revealed she made it up (her mom must have hallucinated during Marx brothers movies and thought he was named Oprah). The absolute worst name I had ever seen was someone who apparently was a drug addict and put a string of words together, over 20 words, as a name. I wouldn't tell you what it is but can you imagine something like this: Ilikemymomanddadbutiwillbeaworthlessdrugaddictwhenigrowupbecauseofthisnamemyparentsgavemeandihavetopaythreehundreddollarstogetthecourtstochangeitandthegovernmentmakesmewritethiswholethingasmyname Seriously people!! You are not creative! You are harming your child.
I couldn't read past the first 10. Too disturbing. These idiots are making the rest of us parents look bad.
There have always been people who just aren't fit to be parents, but there seems to be so many more of them these days...
I'm sure I speak for everyone when I express my gratitude for there being no mention of gender reveals here.