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“That’s Cheating”: Woman Goes Viral For Exposing Chinese Influencers That Fake Being Rich So Well, You’d Never Realize It
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“That’s Cheating”: Woman Goes Viral For Exposing Chinese Influencers That Fake Being Rich So Well, You’d Never Realize It Interview

Just because someone looks wealthy, it doesn’t mean that they are. The luxurious lifestyle they lead might be nothing more than a smokescreen, meant to trick others on social media.

TikToker Midiforreal created a video about this phenomenon in Shanghai. She detailed how a guy went undercover into a WeChat group for a couple of weeks and discovered what these alleged ‘Bai Fu Mei’ (“rich and pretty girls,” according to the video creator) were really talking about.

As it turns out, they were discussing ways to appear rich, like Bai Fu Mei, without having to spend a fortune. It all comes down to sharing everything… but we don’t want to spoil too much for you. You’ll find Midiforreal’s full video below, dear Pandas!

Bored Panda got in touch with Midiforreal. She told me that the phenomenon of women pretending that they’re rich can be found more often in societies that put a heavy emphasis on the importance of social status. “I would say this phenomenon may be more common in a society that is more judgemental based on ppl’s social status,” she said. Scroll down to read more of Midiforreal’s thoughts and to learn about how she got started on TikTok.

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TikToker Midiforreal explained exactly how some influencers in China pretend to be rich to raise their social status

I was interested to know what it would take to encourage people to become more genuine on social media. However, Midiforreal told Bored Panda that “we cannot force people to be real on social media,” as “they have a right to be what they want to be.”

She added: “When there are willing sellers, there are willing buyers.”

The content creator also shared how she started making videos on TikTok. “I started making TikTok videos because I want to promote my photography business. But in the end, I realized people are more interested in China content. Although these things are quite common to me, some people were still surprised. And also the content about China is what I’m interested in, so I just keep on going.”

In the video, Midiforreal says that the main motivation for women to pretend to be rich is to “increase their social status in order to find a rich husband.” The TikToker pointed out that she believes that showing off is perfectly fine; however, she considers pretending to have what you don’t to be immoral and “cheating.”

The moral of the story here is simple. Midiforreal suggests that people should be genuine and, if they truly want to be rich, should earn it, instead of relying on illusions of grandeur. However, many TikTok users were quite impressed by what these women have been doing. But what do you think, dear Pandas?

This is yet more proof to take everything that you see on social media with a grain of salt. If you ever feel a smidge of jealousy when scrolling through your feed because you happen to come across someone posing in front of a luxurious car, enjoying themselves at a fancy resort, and eating delicious 5-star cuisine, take a moment and think.

What you’re seeing might be a highly-curated image that has barely anything to do with reality. The influencer might have rented the luxurious space/clothes/items (possibly with dozens of other people, like Midiforreal noted).

Or they might have a ton of problems lurking behind the smiles, the glitz, the glamor. You never know the battles they’re fighting. At the end of the day, taking our social media feeds seriously can be a one-way trip to becoming “depressed and demoralized,” as Forbes points out.

You can watch her full video right over here

@midiforrealFake it until u make it 🤪 ##china ##shanghai♬ original sound – ▶️ midi ◀️

Sam Dogen, the founder of Financial Samurai, told Bored Panda some time ago that the main way to climb out of poverty is through financial education.

“The most important thing one can do is gain as much financial education as possible to get out of poverty. If there is no internet access at home or mobile data plan, perhaps there is free internet access at the local library, pandemic-willing. We can now learn anything and everything for free on the internet,” he said.

Sam believes that it’s important to have your priorities straight if money is tight. “Paying for food is obviously the #1 necessity to spend money on. The second focus is on shelter,” he said.

Meanwhile, he added that building passive income streams can help us become less dependent on our day jobs and paves the way toward financial freedom.

“The more passive investment income streams you have, the better. Starting with stocks or funds that generate dividends is the easiest for most investors because you can open up a brokerage account and buy just one share. Then you can invest in Real Estate Investment Trusts (REITs) and private REITs as well,” he told Bored Panda.

The key here is building up your investments slowly, consistently, over a long period of time. Sam warned that, for example, buying and selling cryptocurrencies is “more of a speculative play” and won’t generate income. It’s still a risk.

Some TikTok users were actually impressed. Here’s what they had to say

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Hey pandas, what do you think?
Rick
Community Member
7 months ago

Of course it’s mostly all fake. If influencers were so rich why are they always on the beg for free stuff all the time?

Kinslee the witches apprentice
Community Member
7 months ago

Because they dont want to spend their "money"

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Ausrine Ciapaite
Community Member
7 months ago

Shaming people online is not a way. The real problems gotta be tackled. Why are these women doing it in a first place? Are they living in poverty and see no other way out? Is it a pressure from the parents? Is the person putting material value above else - and if it's the case - why? This behaviour is a symptom.

Petra, princess of Brigid
Community Member
7 months ago

That's exactly what I was thinking!

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Martha Meyer
Community Member
7 months ago

So... who cares? Does this guy think he's an investigative journalist now, that he "infiltrated" a chat group?

Otter
Community Member
7 months ago

Does he think any of the lifestyle photos on Instagram are for real? Hell, does he think the faces on Instagram are for real???

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Hannah Edwards
Community Member
7 months ago

Lol. Then the rich husband isn’t rich either. It reminds me of a story where all these beggars agreed to put their food together into a cooking pot to make stew. Secretly each one thought that they wouldn’t put their food in and would keep it for themselves, but would still have some of the stew. As they all pretended to put food in, they only got hot water.

William Teach
Community Member
7 months ago

So, wait, this woman didn't actually expose it, she took someone else's work and broadcast it. Isn't that cheating?

Monday
Community Member
7 months ago

I don't quite understand how they think this is going to land them a rich husband? Surely any man they date is going to realize pretty quickly they aren't as wealthy as he is?

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
7 months ago

I think the point is more to show that you’re in the circle and that maybe other wealthy men are giving you those gifts. That you’re “worthy.” Not necessarily rich. Valuable.

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Geoffers
Community Member
7 months ago

I understand the part where these girls post rich looking photo's on insta, I can see how that might work. The bit I don't get is what the heck happens when they meet up for the first date? Imagine you're a rich Chinese guy all excited to meet this new girl but when she arrives she's like "sorry, I can't stay long, I've only got 45 minutes left before it's someone else's turn for this dress". Or you go to a restaurant and when the waiter brings out the food she says "hold on, I can't start eating yet - there's 20 ofther girls waiting in the lobby who all need to take a selfie with my starter before I eat it"🤣

UpupaEpops
Community Member
7 months ago

I couldn't care less about bagging a rich husband but renting a pretty bag or two doesn't sound stupid at all. I really like the Bayswater, but you have to be an idiot to pay that much for an effin' bag.

Rose the Cook
Community Member
7 months ago

Unfortunately, many things in China today are all about putting on a false front or cheating somehow. It is supposedly "polite" to tell people what they want to hear and to hell with the truth. That said, most outsiders don't realise just how many genuine super rich people there are in China and how much money is actually thrown around in order to show off that wealth.

Aleksandra
Community Member
7 months ago

Good for them, i hope they enjoy what they do tho. It's also actually kinda cool that they are able to share with others, a lot of people would prefer not having something themselves if it meant for others to not have it as well

More Thinking Needed
Community Member
7 months ago

The next big headline: the author Midiforreal just found his navel.

Alyssa
Community Member
7 months ago

What is the actual f*****g point though?? What kind of life is this?? Jesus some people need a reality check.

Mazer
Community Member
7 months ago (edited)

You choose where your focus is in life. Life isn’t a competition. Live for yourself as yourself all messed up and not perfect. It’s okay, it’s what most of us do.

SilverSkyCloud
Community Member
4 months ago

so? nobody cares,

Erica N
Community Member
4 months ago

Love how she calls this "cheating," when she's clearly using a severe filter. IMHO, there is nothing wrong with what these girls are doing, especially in a society that undervalues women.

Hotrobot
Community Member
7 months ago

It's weirdly comforting to know it's all fake.

Mad Mar
Community Member
7 months ago

So personality is all fake and only want someone with looks and money to keep up their fake lives? It's one thing to say have a group of girls have a fake rich pretend weekend like that cost sharing, it's another to pretend that's your life non stop. Just stop the fake intsafake life's people.

Lady of the Mountains
Community Member
7 months ago

you have to assume everything on social media is fake and cheating; otherwise you'll have a very depressed and sucky life. but imagine the sisterhood of these girls!!!

Holly Stevens
Community Member
7 months ago

Well that's just smart

Signe Manat Hansen
Community Member
7 months ago (edited)

"How about we just earn that rich life ourselves" how about you think good and long about how privileged and tone deaf that statement is. There's a reason these girls are doing this.

Tara Raay
Community Member
7 months ago

Don’t all influencers do this!?!

Queen Jackson.
Community Member
7 months ago

I’m sorry, 60?

Giovanna
Community Member
7 months ago

That's just the lamest thing ever.

Lara Verne
Community Member
7 months ago

So they're pretending to be rich to find rich boyfriend/husband? But guy will eventually find out his girlfriend isn't rich, what then?

New Prometheus
Community Member
7 months ago

F****d up and dystopic. Social media should burn.

Minnie-me
Community Member
7 months ago

so you are telling me that social media can be fake??? *shocking* 🤡

King Joffrey
Community Member
7 months ago

I don't have a problem with this as such but what it does is it creates an expectation in young, impressionable people and they feel like their life is lacking something if they don't have these things. Instagram in a nutshell, basically.

Gogubaci
Community Member
7 months ago

too bad they can't also rent out a presonality to share between them

Dera Anih
Community Member
7 months ago

It's their life, so let them live however they want.

Rick
Community Member
7 months ago

Of course it’s mostly all fake. If influencers were so rich why are they always on the beg for free stuff all the time?

Kinslee the witches apprentice
Community Member
7 months ago

Because they dont want to spend their "money"

Load More Replies...
Ausrine Ciapaite
Community Member
7 months ago

Shaming people online is not a way. The real problems gotta be tackled. Why are these women doing it in a first place? Are they living in poverty and see no other way out? Is it a pressure from the parents? Is the person putting material value above else - and if it's the case - why? This behaviour is a symptom.

Petra, princess of Brigid
Community Member
7 months ago

That's exactly what I was thinking!

Load More Replies...
Martha Meyer
Community Member
7 months ago

So... who cares? Does this guy think he's an investigative journalist now, that he "infiltrated" a chat group?

Otter
Community Member
7 months ago

Does he think any of the lifestyle photos on Instagram are for real? Hell, does he think the faces on Instagram are for real???

Load More Replies...
Hannah Edwards
Community Member
7 months ago

Lol. Then the rich husband isn’t rich either. It reminds me of a story where all these beggars agreed to put their food together into a cooking pot to make stew. Secretly each one thought that they wouldn’t put their food in and would keep it for themselves, but would still have some of the stew. As they all pretended to put food in, they only got hot water.

William Teach
Community Member
7 months ago

So, wait, this woman didn't actually expose it, she took someone else's work and broadcast it. Isn't that cheating?

Monday
Community Member
7 months ago

I don't quite understand how they think this is going to land them a rich husband? Surely any man they date is going to realize pretty quickly they aren't as wealthy as he is?

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
7 months ago

I think the point is more to show that you’re in the circle and that maybe other wealthy men are giving you those gifts. That you’re “worthy.” Not necessarily rich. Valuable.

Load More Replies...
Geoffers
Community Member
7 months ago

I understand the part where these girls post rich looking photo's on insta, I can see how that might work. The bit I don't get is what the heck happens when they meet up for the first date? Imagine you're a rich Chinese guy all excited to meet this new girl but when she arrives she's like "sorry, I can't stay long, I've only got 45 minutes left before it's someone else's turn for this dress". Or you go to a restaurant and when the waiter brings out the food she says "hold on, I can't start eating yet - there's 20 ofther girls waiting in the lobby who all need to take a selfie with my starter before I eat it"🤣

UpupaEpops
Community Member
7 months ago

I couldn't care less about bagging a rich husband but renting a pretty bag or two doesn't sound stupid at all. I really like the Bayswater, but you have to be an idiot to pay that much for an effin' bag.

Rose the Cook
Community Member
7 months ago

Unfortunately, many things in China today are all about putting on a false front or cheating somehow. It is supposedly "polite" to tell people what they want to hear and to hell with the truth. That said, most outsiders don't realise just how many genuine super rich people there are in China and how much money is actually thrown around in order to show off that wealth.

Aleksandra
Community Member
7 months ago

Good for them, i hope they enjoy what they do tho. It's also actually kinda cool that they are able to share with others, a lot of people would prefer not having something themselves if it meant for others to not have it as well

More Thinking Needed
Community Member
7 months ago

The next big headline: the author Midiforreal just found his navel.

Alyssa
Community Member
7 months ago

What is the actual f*****g point though?? What kind of life is this?? Jesus some people need a reality check.

Mazer
Community Member
7 months ago (edited)

You choose where your focus is in life. Life isn’t a competition. Live for yourself as yourself all messed up and not perfect. It’s okay, it’s what most of us do.

SilverSkyCloud
Community Member
4 months ago

so? nobody cares,

Erica N
Community Member
4 months ago

Love how she calls this "cheating," when she's clearly using a severe filter. IMHO, there is nothing wrong with what these girls are doing, especially in a society that undervalues women.

Hotrobot
Community Member
7 months ago

It's weirdly comforting to know it's all fake.

Mad Mar
Community Member
7 months ago

So personality is all fake and only want someone with looks and money to keep up their fake lives? It's one thing to say have a group of girls have a fake rich pretend weekend like that cost sharing, it's another to pretend that's your life non stop. Just stop the fake intsafake life's people.

Lady of the Mountains
Community Member
7 months ago

you have to assume everything on social media is fake and cheating; otherwise you'll have a very depressed and sucky life. but imagine the sisterhood of these girls!!!

Holly Stevens
Community Member
7 months ago

Well that's just smart

Signe Manat Hansen
Community Member
7 months ago (edited)

"How about we just earn that rich life ourselves" how about you think good and long about how privileged and tone deaf that statement is. There's a reason these girls are doing this.

Tara Raay
Community Member
7 months ago

Don’t all influencers do this!?!

Queen Jackson.
Community Member
7 months ago

I’m sorry, 60?

Giovanna
Community Member
7 months ago

That's just the lamest thing ever.

Lara Verne
Community Member
7 months ago

So they're pretending to be rich to find rich boyfriend/husband? But guy will eventually find out his girlfriend isn't rich, what then?

New Prometheus
Community Member
7 months ago

F****d up and dystopic. Social media should burn.

Minnie-me
Community Member
7 months ago

so you are telling me that social media can be fake??? *shocking* 🤡

King Joffrey
Community Member
7 months ago

I don't have a problem with this as such but what it does is it creates an expectation in young, impressionable people and they feel like their life is lacking something if they don't have these things. Instagram in a nutshell, basically.

Gogubaci
Community Member
7 months ago

too bad they can't also rent out a presonality to share between them

Dera Anih
Community Member
7 months ago

It's their life, so let them live however they want.

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