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“It’s Legal To Marry Children?”: Internet Roasts A Man Who Got Banned From Thanksgiving By His Own Wife
Shopping for Thanksgiving is usually stressful. That’s why almost half (49%) of Americans said that this year, they started shopping for the holiday by the end of October. Surprisingly, some started even earlier, as 38% claimed to have done their first Thanksgiving shopping in the first week of September.
This couple needed to do their shopping almost last minute, but the wife received little help from her husband. What’s more, she was recovering from a sinus infection, affecting her energy levels. But when she asked her hubby to pick up some groceries for Thanksgiving, he got a jar of cranberry sauce and called it a day.
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A woman banned her husband from Thanksgiving with her parents for not helping her prepare for the dinner
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After she asked him to do some shopping, he opted to play video games instead
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Women tend to take on more hosting and cooking duties during Thanksgiving than men
Most people are already aware of how women shoulder the bigger part of the mental load in a household. But there is a similar trend of women being busier and more stressed during the holiday season as well.
A 2021 survey revealed that women are two times more likely to do the cooking and cleaning during Thanksgiving. Only 24% of men said they would be cooking the meal by themselves, and only 31% admitted that they clean up after the feast.
Of course, the data are not absolute; in some families, men might be the ones who cook and clean more during the holidays. In others, the work shared may be proportionate to both the men and the women in the household.
Still, it has been proven that women experience more stress than men during the holiday season. According to the U.S. Office of Women’s Health (OASH), more than half of American women report higher levels of stress during the holiday season. In comparison, a third of American men say the same.
For women, this stress manifests itself in physical symptoms. It can lead to higher blood pressure, skin and menstrual problems, heart disease, depression, anxiety, obesity, and elevated heart rate. And it’s not just the meal and the prep that women have to think about. When extended family members are visiting, they also have to do the emotional labor.
As Amanda Rose, Ph.D., professor of Psychological Sciences at the University of Missouri, writes for Psychology Today, women are often responsible for things like “Making sure that conservative Aunt Sally is not seated next to cousin Frank who’s studying at Berkley, getting all of the invitations out within a matter of minutes so that no one feels that they were invited last (and doing so without using social media or texting because that would be tacky), and providing children with activities and entertainment that are neither boring nor overstimulating.”
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Online delivery services and eating out on Thanksgiving can ease the burden significantly but is more expensive
While women do experience more stress during Thanksgiving because of all the hosting duties, men stress too. So, wouldn’t it be wiser to look for ways to reduce the prep and hosting burden for both people in the couple so they can enjoy quality time with friends and family?
Although the majority of Americans still choose to go the homemade route, some families do order all or part of their meals from a restaurant or a retailer. 31% of consumers told Deloitte that they will be doing exactly that, and 36% of hosts said they plan to buy prepared sides or desserts.
According to Popmenu’s annual study, 58% of Americans plan to either order takeout or dine at a restaurant on Thanksgiving. This is a trend that is becoming more popular each year: in 2024, only 42% of American families dined out for Thanksgiving. As CNN reports, restaurants have received 13% more reservations for Thanksgiving day than last year.
However, these options are not for those who have a tighter budget. The national average of a Thanksgiving dinner at a restaurant is around $75 per person, and that’s excluding tip, drinks, and tax. This year, as the U.S. Farm Bureau estimates, groceries for a traditional Thanksgiving dinner cost around $55.18. A homemade Thanksgiving dinner is still cheaper than making a dinner reservation, especially for larger groups of people.
Some commenters sided with the wife and called out the husband for his incompetence: “You married a man baby”
“Stop using shame in your relationship,” other commenters told her
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arthbach 1 week ago
This does not sound like weaponised incompetence to me, but rather two people struggling. The OP has been physically ill and unable to prepare as usual for Thanksgiving. They turned to their partner and asked for help. (Totally reasonable.) It sounds like he is not in a position to give that help. He left his previous job because of stress and mental health problems. The description of his actions and inactions make it clear he is still in the midst of these problems. They desperately need to sit down and talk about what is going on. If they don't start communicating their marriage is going to crumble to dust.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
He had two opportunities to do this but chose to play video games and get a sub instead then gaslit her when she pulled him up on it. That's not struggling, that's weaponised incompetence. I hope she reflects long and hard about their relationship and that they can have a proper talk about where it is headed if they don't start working together.
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Melissa Harris 1 week ago
He probably needs councilling for depression but that's not an excuse to be a selfish a*****e. They need to talk and if he's not capable of taking responsibility for his mental health and just wants to behave like a spoiled child who throws his toys out of the pram then this is the beginning of the end for thr marriage. She needs to make him understand that she's not going to mother him. He's her partner not her child.
marianne eliza 1 week ago
42 and a******d to video games? Everyone chooses what's most important to them. He's a loser.
arthbach 1 week ago
This does not sound like weaponised incompetence to me, but rather two people struggling. The OP has been physically ill and unable to prepare as usual for Thanksgiving. They turned to their partner and asked for help. (Totally reasonable.) It sounds like he is not in a position to give that help. He left his previous job because of stress and mental health problems. The description of his actions and inactions make it clear he is still in the midst of these problems. They desperately need to sit down and talk about what is going on. If they don't start communicating their marriage is going to crumble to dust.
KatSaidThat 1 week ago
He had two opportunities to do this but chose to play video games and get a sub instead then gaslit her when she pulled him up on it. That's not struggling, that's weaponised incompetence. I hope she reflects long and hard about their relationship and that they can have a proper talk about where it is headed if they don't start working together.
Load More Replies... Melissa Harris 1 week ago
He probably needs councilling for depression but that's not an excuse to be a selfish a*****e. They need to talk and if he's not capable of taking responsibility for his mental health and just wants to behave like a spoiled child who throws his toys out of the pram then this is the beginning of the end for thr marriage. She needs to make him understand that she's not going to mother him. He's her partner not her child.
marianne eliza 1 week ago
42 and a******d to video games? Everyone chooses what's most important to them. He's a loser.
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