OK, I get it. You're a funny guy. A bubbly personality. A born entertainer who is going to conquer the country with his standup program. But for the love of life, you're my Uber driver and I don't want to hear any more of your knock-knock jokes. Especially if my date is with me in the back seat and your stupid two-liners are funnier than everything I told her this evening. Some of us just can't seem to understand when we're socially inclined to keep it professional! So to remind everyone to stay on their best behavior, Bored Panda has compiled a list of dentists, professors, and others who didn't. Too-da-loo!

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Inappropriate Messages From People Who Should Be Professional

The email my sister got from a landscaping company job she applied for vs. The one she sent back

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Caro Caro
Community Member
1 month ago

Charlotte sent a wonderful reply. Good for her! Mark is a twat.

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ZuluIsraeliAmnesiac
Community Member
1 month ago

"Against my best wishes, I have been shot"

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We cross each other's lines all the time. And not just online. According to Chester McNaughton, a registered professional counselor who specializes in boundaries, anger management, and dysfunctional relationships in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, boundary violations typically fall into three categories: aggressive, passive-aggressive, or accidental.

Aggressive violations, for example, include shoving and hitting; damaging property; exerting control over someone’s time or money; making threats; taunting and hurling insults.

#3

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Yvonne Dauwalder Balsiger
Community Member
1 month ago

I wonder for what exactly he (I assume) is on parole...

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

*Random screams*... "it's all good!"

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Passive-aggressive violations include interrupting; gossiping; giving the silent treatment, and assuming you know what someone thinks, needs, or wants.

For instance, we might tell someone: "you don't really believe that, you're too sensitive, why are you making such a big deal?" Susan Orenstein, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist, and relationship expert, explained.

Accidental violations (like the "meatballs" DM that IKEA sent to a random Twitter user) include bumping into someone or stating an opinion respectfully, but finding out that the other person finds it offensive, McNaughton said.

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
1 month ago

How completely inappropriate

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#6

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Caro Caro
Community Member
1 month ago

Crreep.

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There are many reasons why we don’t respect someone else’s boundaries. For example, we might’ve been raised with different expectations. Even physical touch is something that different families treat in different ways. Some of us like to hug and kiss when we say hello while others believe that shaking hands is perfectly sufficient. Same thing with words!

But if you want to avoid acting like the 'heroes' of this list, here are several suggestions for respecting other people’s boundaries:

  • Focus on respect. McNaughton stressed the importance of seeing others as “simply human.” Remember that everyone has thoughts, feelings, plans, dreams, and hopes, he said. Remember that everyone wants to be heard and accepted as they are, he said.
  • Listen fully. Listen to another person with the goal of truly understanding them, Orenstein said. “[L]isten to care about them,” McNaughton said. Don’t interrupt, “resist what’s being said or think of what you’re going to say next,” Orenstein said. She also suggested practicing the silent pause: “Completely wait until the other person is finished speaking, take a breath, pause and then respond … You’ll be making space for the other person to express him or herself and get out of the habit of reactivity.”
  • Listen for verbal cues. Some verbal cues may be obvious, such as another person saying “I’m uncomfortable sitting so close to you,” or “I’ve asked you before to knock before you come in my house,” Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW, founder and executive director of Wasatch Family Therapy, said. Others may be subtle, such as “changing the subject in the midst of a conversation to something less emotionally vulnerable.”
  • Pay attention to body language“[B]ody language often speaks louder than words,” Hanks added. She shared these examples: If someone has their arms folded while they’re talking to you, they might not be open to what you’re saying. If someone is stepping back every few minutes, you might be standing too close and invading their personal space.

The key is mindfulness. We're often simply unaware of what we’re doing and how our actions impact others.

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Droopsnoot
Community Member
1 month ago

Seems like he really doesn't see the problem. Well he's learning it the hard way

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#8

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

This is just too creepy. Something needs to be done that encrypts customer phone numbers or something because this is really NOT COOL to be doing to people (usually women).

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#9

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Caro Caro
Community Member
1 month ago

The pharmasist is wrong and mentions his family as if it's not his fault but the woman's. And that last sentence is a bit snarky.

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#10

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River Webb
Community Member
1 month ago

next thing you know, you won't be able to poo in the toilet

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#11

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Ray Martin
Community Member
1 month ago

That's pretty funny.

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#12

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Droopsnoot
Community Member
1 month ago

The great and powerful trixie is not good with people

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#13

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My friend asked me if this message from her 53yr old landlord was creepy

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

Call. The. Police.

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#14

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Only one word can describe this post: WTF?

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#15

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James016
Community Member
1 month ago

He's glitched in a big way.

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#16

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

Sounds like this dentist has been in the nitrous oxide...

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#17

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Droopsnoot
Community Member
1 month ago

Please leave them in my sockets though

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#18

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

And Elvis is too, didn't you hear it on TikTok? 🤣

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#19

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My Coworker.. He’s 58 And I’m 20

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Caro Caro
Community Member
1 month ago

Oh no, the "not like the other guys" text. This preditor needs a kick in the balls. 58 yo texting this to a 20yo. Shame on you, you dirty old man.

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#20

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LuckyL
Community Member
1 month ago

DELIVERED

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#21

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Vicious Insect (they/them)
Community Member
1 month ago

Smile and blame the intern...

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#22

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Droopsnoot
Community Member
1 month ago

Mah boi...

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#23

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Pungent Sauce
Community Member
1 month ago

Because Julie works for Alaska Air, not the TSA at JFK. Not much mystery there.

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#24

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ZAPanda
Community Member
1 month ago

not harassment, just frivolous.

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#25

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

This guy's a smooth criminal.

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#26

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H Edwards
Community Member
1 month ago

Sometimes you can hit the wrong one by accident, I've definitely done it.

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#27

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Madison Feehan
Community Member
1 month ago

Can't he just eat himself since he's already a pig?

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#28

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Andy Acceber
Community Member
1 month ago

Why wouldn't you tell your driver where you're going? Sure, his response was catty, but so was hers.

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
1 month ago

That's the question answered and it must be reassuring to know that a possible stalker knows your phone number.

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#30

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Buren
Community Member
1 month ago

I think you better get down to get the food

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#31

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Droopsnoot
Community Member
1 month ago

This kind of compliments are just very weird

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#32

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Julia Atkinson
Community Member
1 month ago

I really must slip "cheapo nana" into a conversation ASAP

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#33

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Andy Acceber
Community Member
1 month ago

I'm going to assume autocorrect fail for "picked."

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kjorn
Community Member
1 month ago

at first i read it as Gorgeous Fortnite

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#35

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cybermerlin2000
Community Member
1 month ago

I think he was just trying to be light-hearted and put a smile on your face. A bit like when you order online for pizza, and they give you funny messages about the progress of your pizza from prep to delivery and all the stages in between 'Just peeked into the oven. The cheese is bubbling nicely. Should be done in about 15 minutes'

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