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OK, I get it. You're a funny guy. A bubbly personality. A born entertainer who is going to conquer the country with his standup program. But for the love of life, you're my Uber driver and I don't want to hear any more of your knock-knock jokes. Especially if my date is with me in the back seat and your stupid two-liners are funnier than everything I told her this evening. Some of us just can't seem to understand when we're socially inclined to keep it professional! So to remind everyone to stay on their best behavior, Bored Panda has compiled a list of dentists, professors, and others who didn't. Too-da-loo!

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The email my sister got from a landscaping company job she applied for vs. The one she sent back

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We cross each other's lines all the time. And not just online. According to Chester McNaughton, a registered professional counselor who specializes in boundaries, anger management, and dysfunctional relationships in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada, boundary violations typically fall into three categories: aggressive, passive-aggressive, or accidental.

Aggressive violations, for example, include shoving and hitting; damaging property; exerting control over someone’s time or money; making threats; taunting and hurling insults.

Passive-aggressive violations include interrupting; gossiping; giving the silent treatment, and assuming you know what someone thinks, needs, or wants.

For instance, we might tell someone: "you don't really believe that, you're too sensitive, why are you making such a big deal?" Susan Orenstein, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist, and relationship expert, explained.

Accidental violations (like the "meatballs" DM that IKEA sent to a random Twitter user) include bumping into someone or stating an opinion respectfully, but finding out that the other person finds it offensive, McNaughton said.

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There are many reasons why we don’t respect someone else’s boundaries. For example, we might’ve been raised with different expectations. Even physical touch is something that different families treat in different ways. Some of us like to hug and kiss when we say hello while others believe that shaking hands is perfectly sufficient. Same thing with words!

But if you want to avoid acting like the 'heroes' of this list, here are several suggestions for respecting other people’s boundaries:

  • Focus on respect. McNaughton stressed the importance of seeing others as “simply human.” Remember that everyone has thoughts, feelings, plans, dreams, and hopes, he said. Remember that everyone wants to be heard and accepted as they are, he said.
  • Listen fully. Listen to another person with the goal of truly understanding them, Orenstein said. “[L]isten to care about them,” McNaughton said. Don’t interrupt, “resist what’s being said or think of what you’re going to say next,” Orenstein said. She also suggested practicing the silent pause: “Completely wait until the other person is finished speaking, take a breath, pause and then respond … You’ll be making space for the other person to express him or herself and get out of the habit of reactivity.”
  • Listen for verbal cues. Some verbal cues may be obvious, such as another person saying “I’m uncomfortable sitting so close to you,” or “I’ve asked you before to knock before you come in my house,” Julie de Azevedo Hanks, LCSW, founder and executive director of Wasatch Family Therapy, said. Others may be subtle, such as “changing the subject in the midst of a conversation to something less emotionally vulnerable.”
  • Pay attention to body language“[B]ody language often speaks louder than words,” Hanks added. She shared these examples: If someone has their arms folded while they’re talking to you, they might not be open to what you’re saying. If someone is stepping back every few minutes, you might be standing too close and invading their personal space.
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The key is mindfulness. We're often simply unaware of what we’re doing and how our actions impact others.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seems like he really doesn't see the problem. Well he's learning it the hard way

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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is just too creepy. Something needs to be done that encrypts customer phone numbers or something because this is really NOT COOL to be doing to people (usually women).

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The pharmasist is wrong and mentions his family as if it's not his fault but the woman's. And that last sentence is a bit snarky.

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My friend asked me if this message from her 53yr old landlord was creepy

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My Coworker.. He’s 58 And I’m 20

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh no, the "not like the other guys" text. This preditor needs a kick in the balls. 58 yo texting this to a 20yo. Shame on you, you dirty old man.

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Anna Banana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't see anything inappropriate about this. Mistake was made, company apologized, life can move on.

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Pungent Sauce
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because Julie works for Alaska Air, not the TSA at JFK. Not much mystery there.

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H Edwards
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes you can hit the wrong one by accident, I've definitely done it.

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Andy Acceber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why wouldn't you tell your driver where you're going? Sure, his response was catty, but so was hers.

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ZAPanda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

it should say where customer is going on the map. That means that he hasn't bothered to open the map/route to check what the request is. Presumably he wants to slack off and not take a customer at that point in time, or, he wants to avoid a long drive.

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blueeyes629
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't see the destination until you start the fare after the person is in the car. What the Driver is doing is wanting to know so they know if they want the fare. Big no no for drivers to do. This gets drivers thrown off the platform.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not totally sure about this for Uber everywhere, but here drivers only see the location once they've accepted the trip, and because of extremely low pay(also rising petrol prices without rising fares), the longer trips are better for drivers so they ask before accepting the trip. Sometimes the system is broken, and it affects all.

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Marina Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uber doesn't show the driver the location until they actually start the trip. This can lead to drivers asking where someone is going as they prefer longer trips = more money. EVERY TIME a driver does this, I take a screenshot of their name, license number and how far away they are so I can complain to Uber about it. Due to an eyesight problem I cannot drive and depend on Uber to get around (we don't have proper public transport here). I don't mind them asking - I mind them cancelling because to them the trip isn't long enough. If they cancel, their name, license number and the time is immediately reported to Uber.

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LuCa
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

....or maybe he needed to get back to his family or get to an important appointment and wanted to get another fare in..maybe he hoped it was on his way. No?

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cybermerlin2000
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he accidentally deleted the route for the trip and was just asking where she was going to put the info back in

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Paula Marowsky
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, how inappropiated for a taxi driver to ask indeed WHERE the customer is going... perhaps should he have to read her mind?? It's almost as bad as a bf asking his gf if she is mad or something and she not answering him... or telling "you should know"

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is this inappropriate? Foolish custoner won't tell uber driver where they're going.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's the question answered and it must be reassuring to know that a possible stalker knows your phone number.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he was just trying to be light-hearted and put a smile on your face. A bit like when you order online for pizza, and they give you funny messages about the progress of your pizza from prep to delivery and all the stages in between 'Just peeked into the oven. The cheese is bubbling nicely. Should be done in about 15 minutes'

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