I always have heated discussions with my mom that usually ends with both of us furious. In spite of having opposite views on lots of things, we definitely have one thing in common – we both are very strong in our beliefs. And yet I never thought that one of our arguments would provoke me to come out to my parents as bisexual.
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since i cant reply to those calling bisexuality a 'trend'.. it isn't. yes, now people are more aware of what bisexuality is, and that's causing people to realize that they identify with it. bisexuality isn't something cool, or something that people go out of their way to be. identifying as bisexual comes with many hardships, like dealing with bigoted relatives like the girl in the post had to.
Yes. Thanks to better acceptance and awareness of the LGBTQ+ community, I didn't have to spend many years wondering who I was, like many people have had to do - I already knew that being bi was a thing, and so when I first caught feelings for a girl, I knew what that was. I am lucky that my parents are very accepting, but there is so much casual (and not so casual) homophobia out there that nobody would 'choose' to be gay, or bi, or whatever. Besides, it's not a choice, it's who you are. Anyway, sorry for the long reply, but yeah - nobody is LGBTQ+ because it's 'trendy'.
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I always knew I was BI since being 9 years old. But I never had the need to tell that to my parents, since I had a boyfriend, then husband, for 11 years. After our divorce, I started dating a girl, so I knew I had to come out to my mom. It was hell, but after 6 months she's finally accepting me. So, it takes time, but if your parent loves you, he'll love you no matter if you're gay, bi or pan :))
I hate that parents can doubt their children word on such important things and doubt the fact that they really are bi. People should start to believe people when they talk about what they feel and not start with the "you don't know what you say" etc...Mostly parents should support their kids. Being LGBTQI+ is already hard, we definitly need the support of our families and not hatred and despising from them!
@Marie-Louise Chenois When I brought up LGBTQ+ in my family as I was thinking about coming out they were all like well I believe that children don't fully know if they are until your older which is s****y because if I came out as straight they would be like fine with it and no second guesses!
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Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure it'll resonate with many people if it hasn't already. You're very brave for standing up to yourself but it saddens me that freedom only comes with college...
Interesting how college frees you from some things, and then forces you as a prisoner to new things... I thought college would be nothing but liberating my first semester haha. Now I'm crumbling behind adult responsibilities, debt, and important life decisions...
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Hey. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. I’m also bi, and this was my worst case scenario when I came out to my parents. I hope they still support you despite their beliefs. Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us, and I hope things get better for you
Damn. How am I supposed to come out as bi now? At least here no one knows who I am.
I always knew I liked boys and girls and as a kid, (we're talking 30 years ago), I honestly thought that everyone was the same. I never had to come out to my parents, (my mates all knew), as I had flings with girls, but only serious relationships with lads, (only two because I married my second boyfriend). Later on, I learned the term 'pansexual' and I realised that fitted me much better. I never did any of this to be "cool" or "trendy", just to live as my authentic self. If I had done it to be cool, it seriously backfired because I've never been cool in any way, shape or form. I love my husband and obviously I'd never cheat but I fancy celebs just like everyone else does and they're a mix of genders and I don't mind if he looks at girls, as long as he points out the cute ones! I don't know why any of this is so hard for people to understand.
Married to a bi wife, have one asexual lesbian daughter and one pan daughter. You treat your kids like s**t and dismiss aspects of their lives, you're gonna' push them away and possibly lose them later in life. Would you rather love your child for who they are or hate them because a 2000 year old game of Telephone told you to? If you're gonna' use religion to justify your bigotry, then eyeball Matthew 7:1-3 KJV and stop being an a*****e.
Omg 2000 year old game of Telephone. I think that'll be added to my vocabulary from now on.
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De toutes façons, j'ai toujours pensé qu'on était bi de nature, on a juste des préférences orientées vers untel pour telle ou telle raison. C'est beau l'amour ~
I'm bi and thankfully my dad is really understanding my and my bio mom didn't really talk about it before I cut off contact a couple months ago(my parents are divorced),I think that if they don't accept you try to get them to understand and if they don't then maybe you need to cut of the relationship. I know it can hurt I'm only 12 and I've had to cut off relationships with people I care about,sadly this doesn't include my mom,there is no love for my mom in me anymore. Me and her (so would her and my big brother) would fight because I had no more love or respect for her anymore and I didn't want my younger siblings in a toxic environment (I have 2 little brothers and 2 little sisters,me and my big brother are the oldest)so me and my brother now stay full time at my dad's and he accepts me for who I am and I'm forever grateful for him.
I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not...I really hope you are.
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Yeah sure but bi-phobia is still super present, and she shared her experience. No need to be rude about
Load More Replies... since i cant reply to those calling bisexuality a 'trend'.. it isn't. yes, now people are more aware of what bisexuality is, and that's causing people to realize that they identify with it. bisexuality isn't something cool, or something that people go out of their way to be. identifying as bisexual comes with many hardships, like dealing with bigoted relatives like the girl in the post had to.
Yes. Thanks to better acceptance and awareness of the LGBTQ+ community, I didn't have to spend many years wondering who I was, like many people have had to do - I already knew that being bi was a thing, and so when I first caught feelings for a girl, I knew what that was. I am lucky that my parents are very accepting, but there is so much casual (and not so casual) homophobia out there that nobody would 'choose' to be gay, or bi, or whatever. Besides, it's not a choice, it's who you are. Anyway, sorry for the long reply, but yeah - nobody is LGBTQ+ because it's 'trendy'.
Load More Replies... I always knew I was BI since being 9 years old. But I never had the need to tell that to my parents, since I had a boyfriend, then husband, for 11 years. After our divorce, I started dating a girl, so I knew I had to come out to my mom. It was hell, but after 6 months she's finally accepting me. So, it takes time, but if your parent loves you, he'll love you no matter if you're gay, bi or pan :))
I hate that parents can doubt their children word on such important things and doubt the fact that they really are bi. People should start to believe people when they talk about what they feel and not start with the "you don't know what you say" etc...Mostly parents should support their kids. Being LGBTQI+ is already hard, we definitly need the support of our families and not hatred and despising from them!
@Marie-Louise Chenois When I brought up LGBTQ+ in my family as I was thinking about coming out they were all like well I believe that children don't fully know if they are until your older which is s****y because if I came out as straight they would be like fine with it and no second guesses!
Load More Replies... Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure it'll resonate with many people if it hasn't already. You're very brave for standing up to yourself but it saddens me that freedom only comes with college...
Interesting how college frees you from some things, and then forces you as a prisoner to new things... I thought college would be nothing but liberating my first semester haha. Now I'm crumbling behind adult responsibilities, debt, and important life decisions...
Load More Replies... Hey. I’m so sorry that you had to go through this. I’m also bi, and this was my worst case scenario when I came out to my parents. I hope they still support you despite their beliefs. Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us, and I hope things get better for you
Damn. How am I supposed to come out as bi now? At least here no one knows who I am.
I always knew I liked boys and girls and as a kid, (we're talking 30 years ago), I honestly thought that everyone was the same. I never had to come out to my parents, (my mates all knew), as I had flings with girls, but only serious relationships with lads, (only two because I married my second boyfriend). Later on, I learned the term 'pansexual' and I realised that fitted me much better. I never did any of this to be "cool" or "trendy", just to live as my authentic self. If I had done it to be cool, it seriously backfired because I've never been cool in any way, shape or form. I love my husband and obviously I'd never cheat but I fancy celebs just like everyone else does and they're a mix of genders and I don't mind if he looks at girls, as long as he points out the cute ones! I don't know why any of this is so hard for people to understand.
Married to a bi wife, have one asexual lesbian daughter and one pan daughter. You treat your kids like s**t and dismiss aspects of their lives, you're gonna' push them away and possibly lose them later in life. Would you rather love your child for who they are or hate them because a 2000 year old game of Telephone told you to? If you're gonna' use religion to justify your bigotry, then eyeball Matthew 7:1-3 KJV and stop being an a*****e.
Omg 2000 year old game of Telephone. I think that'll be added to my vocabulary from now on.
Load More Replies... De toutes façons, j'ai toujours pensé qu'on était bi de nature, on a juste des préférences orientées vers untel pour telle ou telle raison. C'est beau l'amour ~
I'm bi and thankfully my dad is really understanding my and my bio mom didn't really talk about it before I cut off contact a couple months ago(my parents are divorced),I think that if they don't accept you try to get them to understand and if they don't then maybe you need to cut of the relationship. I know it can hurt I'm only 12 and I've had to cut off relationships with people I care about,sadly this doesn't include my mom,there is no love for my mom in me anymore. Me and her (so would her and my big brother) would fight because I had no more love or respect for her anymore and I didn't want my younger siblings in a toxic environment (I have 2 little brothers and 2 little sisters,me and my big brother are the oldest)so me and my brother now stay full time at my dad's and he accepts me for who I am and I'm forever grateful for him.
I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not...I really hope you are.
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Load More Replies... Yeah sure but bi-phobia is still super present, and she shared her experience. No need to be rude about
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