Woman Laughs In Husband’s Face When He Regrets Forcing To Sign Her A Prenup 6 Years Ago After He Finds Out She Now Makes 3x More Than Him
A prenuptial agreement is a written contract by two people before they are married. Typically, it lists all of the property each person owns (as well as debts) and specifies what each person’s property rights will be after the marriage. One of the most common reasons for signing one is to protect the assets of a wealthy fiancé, but other motives can be at play, like avoiding arguments in case of divorce or clarifying financial rights.
This story from a 32 Y.O. woman who has been married for 6 years gives us a glimpse into what happens when the financial dynamics in the family change. “Before we got married he had me sign a prenup stating that our financials would always be separate,” the author explained in a post on r/AITA and added that “the reason for this was because he was making pretty good money and I was in graduate school so my financial situation was pretty bad but I signed nonetheless.”
But fast forward to today, the author has been out of school for 4 years and makes more than 3 times as much as her husband, she argues. This didn’t go unnoticed when the husband saw her new big purchase, wondering where she got all that money from.
Read on to see how this family drama evolved and let me spoil it for you, someone (and that’s not the so-called head of the family) is having a sweet laugh at the end of it.
A woman has recently shared how her husband who made her sign a prenup before marriage changed his mind all of a sudden after realizing she earns much more
Image credits: Liza Summer (not the actual photo)
Later, the author added a couple of edits to clear things up
And this is what people had to comment about this whole situation
But this was not the end: the situation in the family evolved pretty fast and ended in an unexpected way
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I thought exactly the same. She doesn't end up with his sh!t. What an idiot.
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Wait, there's still a prenup, so does it matter if you file for divorce in your own? He doesn't have to sign, it just takes longer to get it granted. Since there's no shared monies, this doesn't seem like a big deal. Do use your high priced lawyer as much as you can.
Apparently, there are no children involved, either, which makes it even easier. Thank God.
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The difference an Audi can make...this story would make a great commercial! I love the part where he thinks he should be able to quit his job and chase his dreams of being a professional gambler...LMAO...Girl, congrats on the car, discovering the truth, and saving your future. And definitely thank god for not having a kid with him!
You did not over react. That's probably the best decision you'll ever make in terms of your marriage!
having done the divorce thing, he can refuse to sign papers all he wants. she can opt, if her state allows, for a legal separation and the prenup will still protect her assets. so, she can let him pout, whine, complain and spend money he doesn't have on a divorce attorney and she can wait him out.
I think it’s hilarious that he had her sign a prenup and now it comes back to bite him in the behind. I hope she realizes that she was married to a narcissist. She needs to lose this dude and block any contact with any of his family if they harass her. She is a self sufficient, self made woman and owes that loser and his family nothing. And for God’s sake, be more careful in choosing your next life partner if you even want one.
It's not clear that this guy is a narcissist, he could be just a person with a gambling addiction as well as being a huge asshole. I mean it makes no real difference to her, you have to cut both narcissists and assholes with gambling problems loose to save yourself.
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I guess the lesson here is if your spouse asks for a prenup, sign it because it might end up benefitting you.
Oh my, he sold his house and you didn't even know? Serious lack of communication and partnership there. Whilst on the face of it you're acting in haste after an argument, you certainly have enough grounds so maybe it's just your inner voice speaking up at last.
She never said there was a house. Property can be a parcel of land.
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The sheer amount of people that are in toxic relationships but are just making it work is depressing. She's an independent woman but is questioning divorce after being treated like sh*t. Can we please strengthen our young girls so they don't feel the need to stay with guys like this.
I think he's dreaming if he thinks that not signing the divorce papers means she can never divorce him. Divorce does not have to be a mutual decision.
Yeah, unless they practice the sort of Judaism where the wife needs a gett from her husband, his not signing the papers means nothing.
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Wow! All I can say is well done to her for getting out of there. What a mess!
How can anyone think it's a normal relationship if you keep your finances so separated that you don't even know how much the other makes or how much they save? I mean, I know people keep their money on separate accounts, which already weirds me out, but not even knowing what the other one makes is just insane. Glad she got the wake up call and is divorcing him.
Keeping money in separate accounts is a splendid idea. A shared bank account can really blow up in your face if you end up divorcing or your spouse is bad with money or, like in this case, has a gambling problem.
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They were married for 6 years and barely knew anything about one another. Looks like this marriage was doomed from the first day.
It wasn't fast. Her subconscious knew this was coming for a long time. Spouses who respond to trouble by refusing therapy and telling their SO that they are lucky to have them are just so awful. She will be so much happier after this is all over.
NTA. You're doing the right thing in running. And he can't force you to stay married to him, my ex tried the "I will never give you a divorce" nonsense, a judge doesn't swing that way and will sign off on a default decree if he refuses to be involved in the case. Good move on your part, go find a man who actually respects you and doesn't view you as competition or a free bank account in your own home. He's made himself a loser, you're a winner. Keep going and enjoy your life without this noose around your neck.
Oh gosh I really hope she doesn't think she overreacted. He had a gambling addiction and refused counseling .... Among other things...Not marriage material, because it's all about him and he's too adversarial. Maybe one day he'll sort himself out but even if he gets into therapy, I wouldn't hold my breath.
So....he's not interested in your job, you don't know he's a gambler and sold his house, he doesn't know how much you earn, you have no idea what his financial situation is - are you even friends? Even flat mates know more about each other. What on earth do you have in common?
My comment didn't go through, here I go again: This isn't a marriage, it's a roomate situation with benefits. I totally understand having separate finances, but come on, a couple needs to know the finantial situation of the other. Also, he didn't help you back when you were struggling, and now he expects you to do it for him? What an A$$! Besides, is it just me, or it has INFIDELITY written all over???? I hope she does not back down from the divorce (the pre-nup is a blessing for her), if he doesn't sign the papers, a judge eventually will. And I hope she block him, his family and go see a therapist ASAP.
NTA. I rarely root for divorce in these cases because I want a magical rainbow unicorn world where all the couples can work out their differences and keep their beautiful vows. Not this time. Divorce him!
Gosh, I don't understand people who hide and don't talk about money with their partner ... Even when I was an intern and was just dating my husband back then, I used to know his monthly income and he used to know mine ... he used to pay all in his credit card and then used to split the expenses we did together... then ... when we got married it stopped... it is all in one ... we plan together, spend together and most import , we save money together ... the gifts he buys me , I pay for it at the very end ... and the vice verse ...
She can still divorce him, it just takes longer. What will likely happen is she’ll end up throwing him a few grand for his signature. Cheaper in the long run. Good for her for taking out the trash.
One of the most bizarre stories I have ever read. Seriously. It would appear they share a house and nothing else. How do you get 6 years into a marriage and not have a clue on really quite important subjects about the other spouse? Christ wept, he sold a house and they don't even know the approximate of what the other earns! How do you plan for anything in life as a married couple with this level of unawareness . Should have had the "what do you want out of life" chat when they started to get serious. It's lucky they don't have children, get the divorce asap and be happy again.
Maybe the sex was really good? Lucky they weren't more fertile if so...
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Jealousy is such a destructive emotion. He sounds like a real d!ck, I hope OP does divorce him and finds someone that just loves her. She's definitely NTA.
Yeah, all this doesn't really sound like they'll be together much longer...
Another weird couple who apparently went ok until this point which usually is known or non important when reached that event.
Wait wait wait, so you are married for 6 years, dont share finances and dont talk about work at all or your personal life it seems. WTF!! What is this dumbassery!? You from Murica or something... I just cant figure it out how 2 people get married and then just dont discuss those things...
When one of them is so desperate to be married, they won't discuss a lot of things
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This isn't the 1920s, and you can get a divorce without his consent or agreement.
Make a career as a professional gambler after losing money bigtime as an amateur. That sounds about as sensible as becoming a chef when all your kitchen experience consists of producing hockey puck pancakes, crunchy scrambled eggs and soaked cereals.
I mean, he can refuse to sign the divorce papers all he wants but he isn't getting any of her money. However, his gambling debt concerns me. Since they're married, could that affect her? Or would it not since their prenup states their finances are separate? Funny how he wanted to "protect his finances" but clearly doesn't know how to manage them.
Ask your good lawyer how to protect your identity as well. His next step is to forge your signature to try to get credit or money to cover his debts. Be careful.
Apparently, she's already moved out and is consulting with a DivAttorney. Good.
And then everyone clapped. Seriously peo0le, like most AITA threads this never happened or at least not in the way it’s been presented.
He doesn’t have to sign or agree to be divorced it doesn’t work like that. My ex didn’t want to cooperate either. You made the right call!!! Believe in yourself and don’t let him or his family talk you out of it or guilt you in various ways. Divorce is hard but it’s so worth it!
He thought he was protecting himself, but it rebounded on him, soooo funny. I'm glad she came out the winner!
I do not believe that...stories stories and more stories but this one esspecially is BS!
I’d like some more complex AITA stories on here. All we get is where one party is completely unreasonable every step of the way and the other person asks if they are the one being the a**e.
This is not a marriage, it's a roomate situation where s*x was involved. I am baffled that this relashionship lastaed that long. I bet if she dug deeper, she would find proof of infidelity as well. He could't support her when she was borke and now he expects her to do it for him? Do not back down, divorce his A$$. If he doesn't sign it, fine, the judge eventually will and the prenup will protect your assets. And do yourself 2 favors: 1) block him and his relatives. 2) Go to therapy ASAP.
How the hell do people not know or ask how much their partner earns? Obviously with everyone else it's none of their business and it's a touchy subject for some, but in a serious relationship and not knowing I just find odd.
A wise man once told me you regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do. I would never go into a relationship holding back. To me, having separate finances is keeping one foot out the door, and a recipe for failure. When you marry someone, you are literally trusting them with your life. Why would you value money more than your life? So, if you are going to commit to someone, do it all the way. No holding back. Can you get burned? Yes. But you will also never regret what might have been if you hadn't held back. Peace of mind knowing you tried your best is more valuable than money.
This sounds like a marriage of convenience from the start for both parties.
Tell him that sure they can void the prenup.. by voiding the entire sham of a marriage.
WTF? No, this was not an overreaction. He showed you who you have actually married and now it's time to get him out of your life. He's a gambling addict and you make way more money, what do think he's gonna do when his gambling debts start piling up?
Not hasty, I think your husband showed his true face and you deserve better. Get out while you can at least you don’t have kids to complicate things.
So she unwittingly married a male chauvinist child? Thank the stars fir that prenup, it’ll get her out in one piece with exactly what she’s earned and is fully entitled to. That prenup appears to be his only positive contribution. PS supporting a ‘professional’ gambler isn’t a thing, you become a pro by being a successful amateur, no one supports you, if you are good enough then you turn pro with the money you’ve won, if you’ve not won enough then you deserve nothing, you are just good at losing money.
I fully understand getting a prenup to protect existing assets, but getting one that separates finances/assets gained after marriage kinda makes marriage pointless, its supposed to be a partnership....just live together and don't bother getting married
NTA, but I don't see why she stayed with him as long as she did -- it sounds more like they were in a business partnership than a relationship.
Nah, a business partnership should be a mutually beneficial relationship. They sound like roommates.
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EVEN if he won't sign divorce papers make sure you notify the courts, and financial institutions YOU ARE SEPARATED. Make an announcement in the local paper YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS DEBTS. I am sure the divorce attorney you have has told you thing IN the meantime, sever all ties as fast as possible or you may actually be held liable for any debts he accrued.
NTA. First off KNOW THIS! He doesn't need to sign the divorce papers. The court can still order the dissolution of the marriage. My only concern is what's in the prenup you both signed and if it covers the distribution of assets and debts in a divorce as well any stipulations regarding spousal support. If those are not addressed he may very well be able to come after you for spousal support. You better get a really good lawyer and fast. I would check your credit reports for any unauthorized accounts and consider putting a freeze on your accounts with all 3 agencies, just in case. It sounds like you had a closet narcissist on your hands that just recently came out to the world. Imagine if you didn't buy the Audi! How long would he have kept you in dark about his financial situation and how long before it started impacting you? Bill collectors calling and knocking, unauthorized joint credit cards, etc.
Why is no one questioning the authenticity of this post to begin with? For a CRNA, this person sounds terribly uneducated---look at the writing style, the terrible spelling, constant misuse of syntax and punctuation, and the ridiculously teenager-type use of certain terms and phrases. I don't think this person is what they purport to be---anyone can make themselves to be anything on the Internet, after all---and it sounds as if someone is having fun at all your expenses.
Good to be getting rid of a greedy, cheap, total idiot! At least in Florida, with a prenup, there will be no "papers" for him to sign. Also sounds like he's broke, so he probably can't afford an attorney. That will make it especially easy.
I think your husband's greed and secrecy have worked in your favor. I assume he expected to be the next big thing in the gambling world and he didn't want you to benefit from it. It sounds more like you were sharing a house more than being married. I hope his family and friends are willing to support him now. After all, they stood up for him before. Go, be free, enjoy the money you worked so hard for.
Wow. Everything was fine until he discovered you had more money than he did. Judging by his reaction you are better off without him! Thank goodness the prenup saved you from his gambling debt!
Dump the loser. If he won't sign divorce papers there's always a unilateral separation, annulment because of deception, etc.
If seeing his wife earning more can bend him out of sorts like that, then it's best to leave before she enhance her life with what she's earned. I'm pretty sure, if she waited and "carry" him it isn't going to go well especially with that ego and entitlement. Bottomline, I would dump his sorry a**e.
These people have no idea what their spouse makes. None. Do they even look at the taxes before they sign? How does a marriage work when you don't even know the basics. What happens if one is in an accident and the other needs to handle everything? They are screwed.
Good thing a divorce doesn't need a spouse's signature- in most states. If your state is no fault, file for dissolution. They have a set number of days to respond, usually less than 30. If they don't respond, congrats, done. If they do, then you either mediate or go to trial. You have a prenup, so he will sure look like a gold digger to the court if he comes in crying to get your money now!
Hahaha he won't sign because he knows he's finished. No house, no car, no money no nothing but a whole lotta debt. Funny thing is you'll get it by default and since he made you sign a prenup....well you're good. Enjoy your life. Marry someone that deserves you and maybe even makes what you do and you two can have his and her Audis and live happily ever after.... also I am fully aware money doesn't make a marriage just making a point.
Honey, you didn't overreact; the main thing is to get out of that marriage ASAP. Save every little bit of evidence you have of your financial (and his gambling, if possible) situations; it will come in handy.
NTA, but may be it would be a good time for OP to think about getting post-nuptial agreement to protect yourself and your earnings. Husband sounded like an idiot nor that he's a good provider, in my opinion.
Like most BP content, it is made up. You just need a stock photo and some bs narrative to paint men as bad.
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Does anyone else feel like this is made up? Just seems wildy unrealistic in so many aspects. My apologies if it is true.
If you are in a no fault divorce state he can't stop it. I know because I did not want to be divorced in Indiana but I could not stop it.
Get out as fast as you can. I understand a prenup for everything before you get married, but one that keeps your finances separated even after you get married, that is just BS. Any marriage based on the paradigm "be both chip in 50%" is lost from the get-go.
Something tells me you don't have much experience with the other gender.
Load More Replies... I thought exactly the same. She doesn't end up with his sh!t. What an idiot.
Load More Replies... Wait, there's still a prenup, so does it matter if you file for divorce in your own? He doesn't have to sign, it just takes longer to get it granted. Since there's no shared monies, this doesn't seem like a big deal. Do use your high priced lawyer as much as you can.
Apparently, there are no children involved, either, which makes it even easier. Thank God.
Load More Replies... The difference an Audi can make...this story would make a great commercial! I love the part where he thinks he should be able to quit his job and chase his dreams of being a professional gambler...LMAO...Girl, congrats on the car, discovering the truth, and saving your future. And definitely thank god for not having a kid with him!
You did not over react. That's probably the best decision you'll ever make in terms of your marriage!
having done the divorce thing, he can refuse to sign papers all he wants. she can opt, if her state allows, for a legal separation and the prenup will still protect her assets. so, she can let him pout, whine, complain and spend money he doesn't have on a divorce attorney and she can wait him out.
I think it’s hilarious that he had her sign a prenup and now it comes back to bite him in the behind. I hope she realizes that she was married to a narcissist. She needs to lose this dude and block any contact with any of his family if they harass her. She is a self sufficient, self made woman and owes that loser and his family nothing. And for God’s sake, be more careful in choosing your next life partner if you even want one.
It's not clear that this guy is a narcissist, he could be just a person with a gambling addiction as well as being a huge asshole. I mean it makes no real difference to her, you have to cut both narcissists and assholes with gambling problems loose to save yourself.
Load More Replies... I guess the lesson here is if your spouse asks for a prenup, sign it because it might end up benefitting you.
Oh my, he sold his house and you didn't even know? Serious lack of communication and partnership there. Whilst on the face of it you're acting in haste after an argument, you certainly have enough grounds so maybe it's just your inner voice speaking up at last.
She never said there was a house. Property can be a parcel of land.
Load More Replies... The sheer amount of people that are in toxic relationships but are just making it work is depressing. She's an independent woman but is questioning divorce after being treated like sh*t. Can we please strengthen our young girls so they don't feel the need to stay with guys like this.
I think he's dreaming if he thinks that not signing the divorce papers means she can never divorce him. Divorce does not have to be a mutual decision.
Yeah, unless they practice the sort of Judaism where the wife needs a gett from her husband, his not signing the papers means nothing.
Load More Replies... Wow! All I can say is well done to her for getting out of there. What a mess!
How can anyone think it's a normal relationship if you keep your finances so separated that you don't even know how much the other makes or how much they save? I mean, I know people keep their money on separate accounts, which already weirds me out, but not even knowing what the other one makes is just insane. Glad she got the wake up call and is divorcing him.
Keeping money in separate accounts is a splendid idea. A shared bank account can really blow up in your face if you end up divorcing or your spouse is bad with money or, like in this case, has a gambling problem.
Load More Replies... They were married for 6 years and barely knew anything about one another. Looks like this marriage was doomed from the first day.
It wasn't fast. Her subconscious knew this was coming for a long time. Spouses who respond to trouble by refusing therapy and telling their SO that they are lucky to have them are just so awful. She will be so much happier after this is all over.
NTA. You're doing the right thing in running. And he can't force you to stay married to him, my ex tried the "I will never give you a divorce" nonsense, a judge doesn't swing that way and will sign off on a default decree if he refuses to be involved in the case. Good move on your part, go find a man who actually respects you and doesn't view you as competition or a free bank account in your own home. He's made himself a loser, you're a winner. Keep going and enjoy your life without this noose around your neck.
Oh gosh I really hope she doesn't think she overreacted. He had a gambling addiction and refused counseling .... Among other things...Not marriage material, because it's all about him and he's too adversarial. Maybe one day he'll sort himself out but even if he gets into therapy, I wouldn't hold my breath.
So....he's not interested in your job, you don't know he's a gambler and sold his house, he doesn't know how much you earn, you have no idea what his financial situation is - are you even friends? Even flat mates know more about each other. What on earth do you have in common?
My comment didn't go through, here I go again: This isn't a marriage, it's a roomate situation with benefits. I totally understand having separate finances, but come on, a couple needs to know the finantial situation of the other. Also, he didn't help you back when you were struggling, and now he expects you to do it for him? What an A$$! Besides, is it just me, or it has INFIDELITY written all over???? I hope she does not back down from the divorce (the pre-nup is a blessing for her), if he doesn't sign the papers, a judge eventually will. And I hope she block him, his family and go see a therapist ASAP.
NTA. I rarely root for divorce in these cases because I want a magical rainbow unicorn world where all the couples can work out their differences and keep their beautiful vows. Not this time. Divorce him!
Gosh, I don't understand people who hide and don't talk about money with their partner ... Even when I was an intern and was just dating my husband back then, I used to know his monthly income and he used to know mine ... he used to pay all in his credit card and then used to split the expenses we did together... then ... when we got married it stopped... it is all in one ... we plan together, spend together and most import , we save money together ... the gifts he buys me , I pay for it at the very end ... and the vice verse ...
She can still divorce him, it just takes longer. What will likely happen is she’ll end up throwing him a few grand for his signature. Cheaper in the long run. Good for her for taking out the trash.
One of the most bizarre stories I have ever read. Seriously. It would appear they share a house and nothing else. How do you get 6 years into a marriage and not have a clue on really quite important subjects about the other spouse? Christ wept, he sold a house and they don't even know the approximate of what the other earns! How do you plan for anything in life as a married couple with this level of unawareness . Should have had the "what do you want out of life" chat when they started to get serious. It's lucky they don't have children, get the divorce asap and be happy again.
Maybe the sex was really good? Lucky they weren't more fertile if so...
Load More Replies... Jealousy is such a destructive emotion. He sounds like a real d!ck, I hope OP does divorce him and finds someone that just loves her. She's definitely NTA.
Yeah, all this doesn't really sound like they'll be together much longer...
Another weird couple who apparently went ok until this point which usually is known or non important when reached that event.
Wait wait wait, so you are married for 6 years, dont share finances and dont talk about work at all or your personal life it seems. WTF!! What is this dumbassery!? You from Murica or something... I just cant figure it out how 2 people get married and then just dont discuss those things...
When one of them is so desperate to be married, they won't discuss a lot of things
Load More Replies... This isn't the 1920s, and you can get a divorce without his consent or agreement.
Make a career as a professional gambler after losing money bigtime as an amateur. That sounds about as sensible as becoming a chef when all your kitchen experience consists of producing hockey puck pancakes, crunchy scrambled eggs and soaked cereals.
I mean, he can refuse to sign the divorce papers all he wants but he isn't getting any of her money. However, his gambling debt concerns me. Since they're married, could that affect her? Or would it not since their prenup states their finances are separate? Funny how he wanted to "protect his finances" but clearly doesn't know how to manage them.
Ask your good lawyer how to protect your identity as well. His next step is to forge your signature to try to get credit or money to cover his debts. Be careful.
Apparently, she's already moved out and is consulting with a DivAttorney. Good.
And then everyone clapped. Seriously peo0le, like most AITA threads this never happened or at least not in the way it’s been presented.
He doesn’t have to sign or agree to be divorced it doesn’t work like that. My ex didn’t want to cooperate either. You made the right call!!! Believe in yourself and don’t let him or his family talk you out of it or guilt you in various ways. Divorce is hard but it’s so worth it!
He thought he was protecting himself, but it rebounded on him, soooo funny. I'm glad she came out the winner!
I do not believe that...stories stories and more stories but this one esspecially is BS!
I’d like some more complex AITA stories on here. All we get is where one party is completely unreasonable every step of the way and the other person asks if they are the one being the a**e.
This is not a marriage, it's a roomate situation where s*x was involved. I am baffled that this relashionship lastaed that long. I bet if she dug deeper, she would find proof of infidelity as well. He could't support her when she was borke and now he expects her to do it for him? Do not back down, divorce his A$$. If he doesn't sign it, fine, the judge eventually will and the prenup will protect your assets. And do yourself 2 favors: 1) block him and his relatives. 2) Go to therapy ASAP.
How the hell do people not know or ask how much their partner earns? Obviously with everyone else it's none of their business and it's a touchy subject for some, but in a serious relationship and not knowing I just find odd.
A wise man once told me you regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do. I would never go into a relationship holding back. To me, having separate finances is keeping one foot out the door, and a recipe for failure. When you marry someone, you are literally trusting them with your life. Why would you value money more than your life? So, if you are going to commit to someone, do it all the way. No holding back. Can you get burned? Yes. But you will also never regret what might have been if you hadn't held back. Peace of mind knowing you tried your best is more valuable than money.
This sounds like a marriage of convenience from the start for both parties.
Tell him that sure they can void the prenup.. by voiding the entire sham of a marriage.
WTF? No, this was not an overreaction. He showed you who you have actually married and now it's time to get him out of your life. He's a gambling addict and you make way more money, what do think he's gonna do when his gambling debts start piling up?
Not hasty, I think your husband showed his true face and you deserve better. Get out while you can at least you don’t have kids to complicate things.
So she unwittingly married a male chauvinist child? Thank the stars fir that prenup, it’ll get her out in one piece with exactly what she’s earned and is fully entitled to. That prenup appears to be his only positive contribution. PS supporting a ‘professional’ gambler isn’t a thing, you become a pro by being a successful amateur, no one supports you, if you are good enough then you turn pro with the money you’ve won, if you’ve not won enough then you deserve nothing, you are just good at losing money.
I fully understand getting a prenup to protect existing assets, but getting one that separates finances/assets gained after marriage kinda makes marriage pointless, its supposed to be a partnership....just live together and don't bother getting married
NTA, but I don't see why she stayed with him as long as she did -- it sounds more like they were in a business partnership than a relationship.
Nah, a business partnership should be a mutually beneficial relationship. They sound like roommates.
Load More Replies... EVEN if he won't sign divorce papers make sure you notify the courts, and financial institutions YOU ARE SEPARATED. Make an announcement in the local paper YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS DEBTS. I am sure the divorce attorney you have has told you thing IN the meantime, sever all ties as fast as possible or you may actually be held liable for any debts he accrued.
NTA. First off KNOW THIS! He doesn't need to sign the divorce papers. The court can still order the dissolution of the marriage. My only concern is what's in the prenup you both signed and if it covers the distribution of assets and debts in a divorce as well any stipulations regarding spousal support. If those are not addressed he may very well be able to come after you for spousal support. You better get a really good lawyer and fast. I would check your credit reports for any unauthorized accounts and consider putting a freeze on your accounts with all 3 agencies, just in case. It sounds like you had a closet narcissist on your hands that just recently came out to the world. Imagine if you didn't buy the Audi! How long would he have kept you in dark about his financial situation and how long before it started impacting you? Bill collectors calling and knocking, unauthorized joint credit cards, etc.
Why is no one questioning the authenticity of this post to begin with? For a CRNA, this person sounds terribly uneducated---look at the writing style, the terrible spelling, constant misuse of syntax and punctuation, and the ridiculously teenager-type use of certain terms and phrases. I don't think this person is what they purport to be---anyone can make themselves to be anything on the Internet, after all---and it sounds as if someone is having fun at all your expenses.
Good to be getting rid of a greedy, cheap, total idiot! At least in Florida, with a prenup, there will be no "papers" for him to sign. Also sounds like he's broke, so he probably can't afford an attorney. That will make it especially easy.
I think your husband's greed and secrecy have worked in your favor. I assume he expected to be the next big thing in the gambling world and he didn't want you to benefit from it. It sounds more like you were sharing a house more than being married. I hope his family and friends are willing to support him now. After all, they stood up for him before. Go, be free, enjoy the money you worked so hard for.
Wow. Everything was fine until he discovered you had more money than he did. Judging by his reaction you are better off without him! Thank goodness the prenup saved you from his gambling debt!
Dump the loser. If he won't sign divorce papers there's always a unilateral separation, annulment because of deception, etc.
If seeing his wife earning more can bend him out of sorts like that, then it's best to leave before she enhance her life with what she's earned. I'm pretty sure, if she waited and "carry" him it isn't going to go well especially with that ego and entitlement. Bottomline, I would dump his sorry a**e.
These people have no idea what their spouse makes. None. Do they even look at the taxes before they sign? How does a marriage work when you don't even know the basics. What happens if one is in an accident and the other needs to handle everything? They are screwed.
Good thing a divorce doesn't need a spouse's signature- in most states. If your state is no fault, file for dissolution. They have a set number of days to respond, usually less than 30. If they don't respond, congrats, done. If they do, then you either mediate or go to trial. You have a prenup, so he will sure look like a gold digger to the court if he comes in crying to get your money now!
Hahaha he won't sign because he knows he's finished. No house, no car, no money no nothing but a whole lotta debt. Funny thing is you'll get it by default and since he made you sign a prenup....well you're good. Enjoy your life. Marry someone that deserves you and maybe even makes what you do and you two can have his and her Audis and live happily ever after.... also I am fully aware money doesn't make a marriage just making a point.
Honey, you didn't overreact; the main thing is to get out of that marriage ASAP. Save every little bit of evidence you have of your financial (and his gambling, if possible) situations; it will come in handy.
NTA, but may be it would be a good time for OP to think about getting post-nuptial agreement to protect yourself and your earnings. Husband sounded like an idiot nor that he's a good provider, in my opinion.
Like most BP content, it is made up. You just need a stock photo and some bs narrative to paint men as bad.
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If you are in a no fault divorce state he can't stop it. I know because I did not want to be divorced in Indiana but I could not stop it.
Get out as fast as you can. I understand a prenup for everything before you get married, but one that keeps your finances separated even after you get married, that is just BS. Any marriage based on the paradigm "be both chip in 50%" is lost from the get-go.
Something tells me you don't have much experience with the other gender.
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