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“She Thinks I Chose Business Class Over Her”: Wife Is Upset After Husband Upgrades Only His Ticket For Their 12-Hour Flight
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“She Thinks I Chose Business Class Over Her”: Wife Is Upset After Husband Upgrades Only His Ticket For Their 12-Hour Flight

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Upgrading your ticket to a better seat can make your flight far more comfortable. So it makes sense that many people would take a free bump up to business class every chance they get. Yet, some grab this opportunity so fast, they don’t even think how their fellow travelers might feel about it.

A while ago, a man turned to the moral philosophers of Reddit, otherwise known as the AITA community, to ask whether he was in the wrong about his recent travel decision. The author shared that while booking a flight to the US for him and his wife, he had an option to get a better seat using miles. However, that didn’t include his wife.

While the woman wanted to be with her husband during the long trip, he didn’t see what the big deal was. “She thinks I chose business class over her and that’s rude apparently,” the user wrote. Make sure to read the whole story below and tell us what you think about it in the comments.

A husband decided to upgrade his ticket to business class and leave his wife sitting in economy for their 12-hour flight

Image credits: Unsplash (not the actual photo)

He shared his story on AITA, asking whether he was in the wrong in this situation

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Later on, the author added some more updates

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To find out what an expert had to say about this situation, we reached out to Sundy Gilchrist, a relationship coach based in the UK. “I wonder if, in hindsight, this husband regrets his lack of thought and consideration towards his wife?” Well, the husband already labeled himself as a jerk in the update, “so in some ways, I do believe he’s learning some valuable lessons from his unconsidered choice here. Let’s hope so, anyway,” she told Bored Panda.

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“His lack of communication on his intentions … indicate that he may just not have thought this through and that his wife might have an issue with this. Then, he compounded the problem by treating her more like a colleague, rather than the one he’s chosen to invest his love, care, time, and affection in.”

The relationship coach believes that thoughtlessness, rather than intention, caused the wife to feel upset. “He didn’t check it out with her, didn’t think of her wants and preferences, or ask what they were,” she explained.

While incidents like these can leave immense gaps in the relationship, “cleaning up a mistake and making amends can go a long way. So long as his wife doesn’t hold a grudge and can fully move on, and he recognizes his unconsidered choices and actions.” Then, after apologizing, he should forgive himself for not knowing any better and make sure to avoid the same mistakes in the future, Gilchrist said.

Of course, the wife could have chosen not to be affected by this situation, but “the fact that she did indicates the level of importance of the relationship. A lot of it is about perception; hers in this case.” When a person is upset, it shows that they are missing something. “Saying what doesn’t work and what you want instead is a healthy way of negotiation and a resolution of differences and upsets.”

“His wife, I’m trusting that she can let it go, and when things go wrong, she speaks up and asks for what she wants instead, and does not assume that he knows what she does and doesn’t want.”

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Gilchrist senses that the husband’s awareness about himself “ramped up a notch or two, and that has to be a great thing. Thinking of the other’s feelings, speaking of his intentions, and asking if that works for her too would be great things for him to practice working on.”

If you find yourself in a similar situation, Gilchrist wants you to remember that we all make mistakes — that’s how we learn. “In young or new relationships, it’s great to have the skills to be able to speak of what’s not working and what you want instead.” However, one troubling thing could be “the upsetting feelings that can (and do) get in the way.”

“Learning to manage these feelings, speaking of boundaries and limits when needed, and asking for what you want instead will assist relationships to grow in a healthy way. Resentment indicates you’re not doing that, and passive-aggressive behaviors can then leak out,” she concluded.

Redditors quickly determined that the OP was acting like a jerk, here’s what they had to say

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Night Owl
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad for him that he decided to buy her an upgrade to sit next to him, otherwise the 12 hours would offer her a lot time to think about divorce

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Marcellus II
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also thought "He misspelled his first post, he's clearly asking whether to upgrade his EX-wife or not".

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Joe Reaves
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how he's like - it literally does not matter. And then when she asks him to change back to economy he's all hell no business class is way better.

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Maggie Hood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't matter unless he's the one in the comfortable chair. He sounds like a jerk

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Jacqueline Pie Francis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“But she really wanted to sit next to me, I guess” does NOT show self-awareness, what psychologist was BP talking to. This guy is a tool

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Michelle C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one was hilarious...I think that some people just ask these obviously stupid questions in hopes that the internet would be on their side to justify their bad behavior.

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Imogene Cargeaux
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's literally what AITA is..... but this dude didn't get butthurt when he was found to be the AH... so props to him for that. Most ppl do.

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Iifa A.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Regardless how your holidays goes, please show your WIFE (wow, what an unfortunate fate she had meeting you!) The comments. To the wife: AH do not change, they make empty promises and rethink why are you married to this selfish pig. I showed my partner this, and just speechless both of us. You're going on holiday together but you don't see it as a problem that you don't want to be together. I hope she stays in economy, and meets a proper caring funny guy that in 12 hours of overnight flight ends your marriage. You don't deserve her! It's not a mistake, it's not rude. You're narcissistic selfish pig.

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DrNefariousMcFarious
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to add to the question and ask how many are completely made up and looking for controversy

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He did the right thing, according to the updates. If he'd let her spend the 12 hour flight in a damn uncomfortable economy seat while he slept, she'd spend the whole trip hating him! As it is, they're both comfortable, they're together like she wanted, he's learned a lesson, the marriage is saved, and if that wasn't worth a few bucks I don't know what is.

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J Hunter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said that it didn't make a difference since they'd both be asleep and then said "heck no" when she asked him to switch back. He had more leg room, better service, better food/drink options and possibly a lay flat seat/bed. It would probably be even worse if he left her in a middle seat for that flight. I'm surprised she didn't let him board with his class and then go back home.

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Cindy Caruso
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy needs a lobotomy my goodness. Who the hell thinks like this? Oh yeah a neanderthal.

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Kristina Cowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just imagined a caveman in business class, also he was oogling flight attendants... 🤣

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Tuğçe Aydın
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is he really asking? A grown ass man is really asking this? I pity his wife..

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Ty Robertson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am new to Bored Panda. I read the post re: the husband who upgraded his flight seating from Japan to the U.S. Women need to realize that just because there is supposed to be gender equality does not mean there is. Mothers need to teach their sons to consider female needs and wants as seriously as they consider their own. In this particular situation with the airline seating perhaps the husband in question is Japanese? There are cultural influences there BUT I have know men who were born and raised in the United States and do not want to recognize their narcissistic tendencies either.

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Fight Hypocrites
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll split the difference between you and Gus Gus. It's not just the mother's job to teach her sons to respect women. It's her job AND his father's. But his influence isn't more important than hers, it's just different. The best example for him is to see his father taking his mother's sensibilities into consideration and then to see his mother appreciate and respect that. And then vice versa. The importance of the influence of 2 parents on boys AND girls can't be stressed enough. That's why nature requires a male and female to reproduce. Does that mean that a "bad dad" (or mom) is better than none? Of course not. But just because the phrase "positive role models " sounds trite and overused doesn't mean it's not true.

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Ezra Houssian
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're going to upgrade your ticket on a 12-hour flight at least upgrade both of your tickets or just don't frankly. Stay in economy and get jet lag. I've not been on a 12 hour flight but I have been on a 10 hour flight and I know well enough it can be very tiring.

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Huzzir Zakaria
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In summary his wife is marrying a jerk, an a55h0le! Its either both, or none you dipshit. She has the right to be upset, not only her but me also (and most of us I believes) who r read this! And as an icing on top of the cake (or an a55h0le for this case), you (yes you, the one who dare to called yourself her husband) even hv the audacity to upload this, bringing it to the masses! Gosh, I could n would goes on n on over this - yes, I m that angry, an outsider, imagine how his wife felt by that!

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Babi Lacerda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How he cannot see how AWFUL he is. This girl married a douche

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Ces Co
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this shows you're too young to be married as clearly don't have your priorities straight.

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isa alves
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he is definitely wrong but I think the people saying they should divorce and calling him all sorts of names is kinda exaggerated, it was an awful mistake, but people don't marry and divorce as if it was just a day by day decision, they should have a very serious talk about respect but I don't think this is a reason to get divorced

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Roju drws
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, they should definitely divorce. He revealed that he only cares about himself.

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Sandy D
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Year, if you can afford a month long trip to the US from Japan, you can afford to pay to upgrade her seat. Taking the upgrade and leaving her in crappy economy was a major dikk move, and he was definitely "TA" in this.

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Katinka Min
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am just going to go and light another candle in thanx for being single.

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James Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He proposed to abandon escort of his wife on an international flight. This guy doesn't even have cognitive empathy.

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Ivana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, so he really didn't know? I wouldn't want to sit next to him. I would send him to Japan and tell him to never come back. Like, how did he not know? Sounds like it never once crossed his mind to give a damn about his wife.

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Kelly Covey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a flight attendant, anyone who is in front on an international flight with their spouse (or kids!) In the back is scum. I especially love parents in the front, nanny and kids in the back.

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me he is a narcissistic a*****e. He doesnt care about his wife in general. You can tell by his choice of words and mannerism. It's horrible to be married to someone that conceded. I feel bad for his wife. So he is a d**k plain and simple. She had a right to be upset.

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Little Gunner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't understand why are you even married when you treated her like some girlfriend who you can left away for couple of hours. That's just ignorant, you're her HUSBAND, if you keep treating her like that then I wouldn't be surprised if one day she had an affair with a better dude that cares for women more than you

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you also think this stupid man did the right thing for it's not bug deal etc. You have the same mindset as him and need help just like him. He has no empathy for his own wife. Into himself loves himself more. So I hope she left his ass and he can just go screw himself as well.

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Joan McCreless
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rat..I would divorce you...a real pussy...if anyone gets a delicacy it should be the woman...you are cut off for life! never carry his child

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Monkey Spunk
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once had the opportunity to upgrade to business flying KL to LHR, there was only one seat though, we discussed and decided we could swap halfway through. By the time we'd decided the seat had gone.

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CatWoman312
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sleeping in economy?! Is that even possible? You’re basically packed in like a sardine and you have to annoy the person next to you if you need to get up. He either needs to let her get the upgrade like a gentleman or wait until he has enough points to upgrade both. He’s being really selfish and I can’t believe he’s so clueless about it

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Edgar Ezife
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, I read the comments first before reading the story and the way the comments made it look, I thought the hustand did something terrible like cheat on her or physically abuse her or something god awful, but all he did was not sit next to her..? How is that even bad..? Man, what happened to humanity

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Dark Fafnir
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake...no self respecting Japanese man would not sit by his wife, culturally wouldnt happen...literally you guys pick the weakest stories you can find

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Nashera James
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If there was a layover flight, I hope she used that opportunity to return home and start filing for a divorce. You're arrogant and selfish, I imagine you being even more insensitive in your daily lives. I would leave you, the way you left me in economy but with divorce papers. I hope she leaves you just on principle alone.

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Carl Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't order steak for yourself and macaroni and cheese for your wife. You just don't do that, even if you don't love her. The sitting apart is different. He could have and should have waited until he had enough credits to buy both of them a luxury seat.

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private8888888888888
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it also didn't mention the nationality of the wife ? I only ask that because I seen that exact thing many times with a former GM or General Manager ? Where his wife an kids fly coach an he flew 1st class by himself ? In this case it was race an class issues , he was Swiss German an she was a former miss Hawaii Hawaiian chinese dissent ! Well she was like an au pair slash help servant take care of the kids , well he's in 1st class with no care an bother from the kids ? Like are we there yet are we there yet , like any kid's can be asking questions an questions an deal with it like father supposed to do ? But in this case he's VIP 1st class passenger an the wife an kids are the help an entourage or 2nd class passengers ? Nice Right No Not Really but in some culture that is how some People's mentality are conceived it's always about them if they were a true equal couple he would of at least asked before just doing it an then saying what it's only 12 hrs an we be sleeping mostly if

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Stephanie Lopez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

TLDR: COVID, kids & creepers He is SOOOO TA Not one of the replies mentioned that a woman flying in economy seating for 10 hrs means she WILL be sitting next to strangers. Those people have the potential to be : 1-asymptomatic & have COVID 2- annoying AF 3-kids Or 4- a creeper / predator / rapey

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Sabrina Iglesia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so over this crap. Now n days every is so selfish it is always about me no one thinks about the people they so call love. Business upgrade is just for that business when you travel alone that is why you have it only available for you. Not for a family vacation. You are suppose to stick by your wife. He said it himself it is an overnight flight she would be sleeping what female in their right mind would want to sleep alone around strangers while her husband is in Business. Think about safety and comfort. Moron....you lucky she isn't divorcing you right now.

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Carol Sterner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wouldn’t he be surprised when he got off the plane for his month long vacation to find that his wife ditched him at the departing airport and went home? In a month’s time, she would have “upgraded” her whole life to single, no baggage.

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Clare C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would happily upgrade to get away from my partner. I would upgrade him and sit the cargo hold if it meant I was not near him.

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B Parker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it was selfish and that his wife was understandably perturbed. He could have kept building flyer mile points and used them at a later date for him and his wife on another over seas flight.

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Carol Schumacher
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is obviously a narcissist. He can't recognize his selfishness or have any feelings for his wife or anyone else. She should run!

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Jennette Natasha
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have let him continued with his plans and he would have been a single man with husband duties once we got off that plain.

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Chas UGC
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the main question is whether he is down with his wife, both literally and figuratively. If he could have steak and his wife could only have water, should he choose steak or water? He chose steak. If his wife is going to suffer, he needs to suffer with her. That is what marriage means. "Together, for better or worse...". He forgot the very first word of what marriage means, she didn't.

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Darlene Fierro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's not an a*****e, he's just a inconsiderate jerk. He's 25 and got offered an upgrade. He thought it was his lucky day....until he told his wife.😂 I'm on the fence bc if I were her I'd want to sit next to my spouse BUT they were coming from Japan to spend a month in the U.S. I'd have saved that little payback in my pocket ready to pull out at the right moment. Bc with this hubby I'm sure there will be more head shakers.

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Sarah Holt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im pretty sure if I were her I would be happy to upgrade to a better husband.

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Chelsie Godreau
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe he is a sociopath and only imitates "feelings" but really doesn't understand them. Something to speculate.

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Roju drws
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this guy serious? How does he not see how horrible he is to his wife? She didnt care what seat she was in as long as she was with him and he completely disrespected her

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Cheyenne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your wife should have divorced you on the spot, you inconsiderate b@stard.

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Ronnie Wolfe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey look young man. She's gonna leave you someday. You think you own her. You don't. You should have stayed with her. You gonna learn someday.

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Syringa Wessels
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“it’s an overnight anyway” so just get 2 economy seats of your just gonna be sleeping, save the miles and use them when you have enough for both of you

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Maggie Hood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn he was being so mean for no reason. His wife just wanted to sit next to him and he ditched her and then when she got upset (understandably) he went to the internet to ask if he was in the wrong instead of discussing it with her? Tf is wrong with this guy

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Jeanine Kitrell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why not split the time in business and economy in half for the two of you since you both will be sleeping anyway. You get six hours in business class and your wife gets to enjoy six hours in business class. Each of you get six hours each in economy. Nothing wrong with sharing if indeed you are sleeping.

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Seb Benson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the "Oops I really should have done that differently" Award goes to...... OP!!!

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Jennifer Weeks
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to divorce him now. He will not change. He will only get worse. The problem is he doesn't see what is wrong with his decision. Get rid of him now.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jennifer Weeks, I read to the end. He admitted he was an a*****e and he bought her an upgrade to business class so that she could sit next to him. It's your prerogative to get divorced for any reason you want, but divorce is very hard on a lot of people. Atonement is easier.

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I just work here
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, you are a total AH! If I were the wife, I wouldn't even go with you.

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Lindy Mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is worse than an ahole..... unbelievably selfish. I don't see this marriage lasting as he doesn't value his wife's comfort... 12 hours is a long time for him to be enjoying better meals, better bathroom, wider seat... while she is stuck in coach? Creep!!!

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P.A.B.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said he didn’t think it mattered, but he KNEW it mattered, or he would have told her ahead of time. A** wipe.

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LSR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see the amount of f u c k o s who need to grow a pair of balls is rising in this world.

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Kim Lorton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is the worst. Discounts not only her as a person, but as his life partner. I would not be going in economy. I would cancel that ticket and get a first class one by myself. Explain to the ticket lady what’s happened, and ask her for any decrease in price they coOld give me.

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Andy Hinds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope she finds someone else who values her whilst he's in comfort on the "only 12 hour flight". What a k******d.

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Beli Bel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The wife needs to get over it, You see him everyday and you going on vacation for a month that he probably paid for... Don't be so selfish and give him the time he needs, Is not like his cheating on you... Get over it

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M
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a lot nicer than I would have been. You either upgrade me as well or you can trade seats and see just how much it matters. The fact she was willing to still sit with him should tell him what a gem he has and ship up before she ships out.

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Gus Fring
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can anyone here honestly say they’d have the same response to this if the genders were reversed. I doubt it. Women get away with similar behavior all the time, and it would be considered “putting herself first” at worst. For at the talk of equality and assertiveness, it’s really pretty clear that that only applies when the situation benefits one gender over the other.

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xvslnx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“In a teasing joking way”….ohhhhh how I hate it when someone talks like that to me… By the time he finished his sentence, he would have already lost some teeth. Piece of $h!t!!!

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Savannah Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine encouraging childish whining. She would have been just fine on her own she is a grown ass woman.

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Savannah Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not even that serious. She could have sat in economy. What an entitled b***h.

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Ronald Breedlove
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel that it was childish he thought of himself, and not his wife . Very inconsiderate.

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Kimber Pepper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having made that Japan-US-Japan flight on numerous occasions and in economy class, I can tell you it's very uncomfortable and difficult to get any rest. Traveling tandem is helpful in small ways as you look out for each other. Lucky him to have the option of a bump up, but unless the miles were about to expire, he should have saved them for another flight. Also, perks aren't usually transferable. Wouldn't be surprised if they both will be ready to end their month long vacation early. His natural impulse was neither gallant nor gentlemanly.

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Beverly Montezuma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HE'D BE ONE SORRY HUSBAND, IF HE PULLED THAT STUNT WITH ME! FIRST OF ALL, WHAT HE DID WAS RUDE!

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Dennys Tran
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see all these comments and I wonder if it will flow the same way if the positions were switched.

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Amanda Castillanes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was documented at "young peoples brains aren't fully developed till they are 25." His still has till he hits 26.

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Rody Speake
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is a d**k... No more needs to be said or debated or look for a reason why...plain & simple he's an absolute d**k

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Kala L Gibson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he's that selfish now and only thinking of himself at this age it will only get worse later. I hope his consideration for others will come naturally in the future, specifically for his WIFE!

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Ahmad Shazli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Such opportunities have arisen several times. I would never allow myself to be upgraded without her. I would rather upgrade her then myself, which I have done before.

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private8888888888888
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also if you see the picture of what's business class ? I don't think she wanted that upgrade anyway ? Your social distance away you can't hold hands even if you wanted to ? I don't think that's what wanted anyway you're not near by , you are in a cubicle by yourself ? Unless that's what you had in mind ? Maybe you don't like public show of affections is she too clingy for you ? Than that may make some sense ?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An I think she just wanted to be near each other an possibility hold hands I would take some comfort just spending time near by each other as well ? If you really care about her rather than your own personal comfort , take comfort in each other's warmth an wellbeing ?

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Zeshan Bashir
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If It was I and my Wife, I would have upgraded and let my wife sit in business class. I bet you my wife would have not even wanted an upgrade if I was not able to sit with her. I really think the husband should have either upgraded the seat for both or would have just sat with his wife. Tells alot how much he loves his wife lolz.

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George Andrews
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don’t know if the offender was Japanese or American. It makes a huge difference as Japan has very different traditions in dealing with women and females. In any case, he is a selfish,narcistic,self absorbed jerk. The hole post is vomit inducing. Run lady run!!

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Chris P
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you haven't figured out by the time you're married that you should consider the thoughts feelings and needs of your partner in most everything you do, then you should not be married.

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Chris P
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly if you don't know by the time you're married that you should be considering the feelings thoughts and needs of your partner in most anything you do then you shouldn't be getting married. It's common sense.

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Mark Correia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dont believe any of the AITA posts. They're just too convenient.

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Edward Myers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a word for people like YTA, divorced! What an asswipe.

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Ghost Casper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see where she would be upset she's your wife not a girlfriend however she vowed to stay with you through better or worse well your getting the better and she's getting the worse this time at least. Next flight surprise her with first class and you sit in coach let her know you are willing to go through the same situation as she did but try not to put yourself ahead of her because women don't think the same way as men something so small to a man is so big to a woman it's not worth hurting her and will save you years of having to hear about it cause I guarantee you in 20 years and every year till then this is going to be brought up at least until she feels you made things right. Wish the both of you the best.

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john kavanagh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some men have irritating wives and some wives have irritating husbands. It isn't for us to judge or understand. I certainly would not write about it on the internet.

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Stephanie Day
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think if I were in her husband's shoes, I wouldve saved those miles and used the upgrade to business first class on an actual business trip where I needed to impress either clients or colleagues that might also have that upgrade and expect me to have it as well. To waste the miles & the upgrade on a vacation doesnt sound very business savy....

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Diablo Rises
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously tho, what is the big deal? It is a plane ride ffs. It isn't like they are on separate planes.

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Latrina Harrington-Hall
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope the husband is reading all these comments. If he don't feel as anything was wrong with what he said or did then he will never respect and view marriage the way he should nor will he ever change him.

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Francesca Miller
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow...you're really not too bright dude to see the problem with this....what if your wife met a gorgeous hunk and even though this was an overnight flight stayed up all night chatting it up with this gorgeous hunk in economy class?? I bet you'd want her sitting next to you then. 😏 🤣🤣

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Iris Ma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean I wouldn't turn down a free business class seat I just think the main problem was the lack of communication and getting the wife's opinion first and then deciding not to switch would have solved it.

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Anita Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People these days have a bad habit of not putting themselves in their spouse’s position before they do something like this or worse! We all make mistakes. If this is just a one off, and not just one of many self serving decisions he’s made, then hopefully time will heal this situation, but if it’s a regular thing that he acts with no regard to her feelings then I’d say they are gonna have some major problems by the time it’s all said and done!

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Mike Cape
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow Japan really has 1st world problems in the 21st century a far cry from the land behind the rising sun...heres my advise when you land in LA book an excursion to Las Vages. There you can get a a quickie divorce, find a new wife and get remarried to a woman happy to travel in the luggage compartment all within a span of 12 hours.

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Pascal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a comment to people here saying this story is not believable... we're talking about a Japanese couple. Unfortunately I stayed in Japan long enough to see this kind of story happening all the time. The culture there, is very different and marriage is not the same concept as in western countries. At least for the majority of people in Japan, sad for us but true for them.

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alyssa cortese
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do I get stupid s**t like this posted with a ton of views.... hahah. I'm sorry but this is ridiculous.. like really? WHO REALLY CARES?!

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Tamara Montanya
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol. This would not bother me at all. My husband is twice my size and we are both introverts that like to do our own things. Why should both be uncomfortable when one can have and needs more room especially if most of the flight both are sleeping? I think the wife is being whiny, selfish , and needy. Geeze if you can't spend 12 hours without your spouse. Also they could have traded half way through the flight. What's the big deal?

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Alex Sol
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what his reaction would have been if his wife had decided to cash in miles for a limited time weekend getaway offer to go to Vegas and watch a Chippendales show while he was recovering in the hospital after penis reattachment surgery due to his upgrading just himself to business class. After all, he would mostly be sleeping as part of his recovery. What would be the big deal?

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Michael ONeale
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you're sayin he should be physically assaulted for the simple crime of being a self-absorbed douche?

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J. Ezra Marshall
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do you think her reaction would be if you had upgraded hers and not yours?

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Dustberry
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in a completely wonderful relationship right now with my boyfriend. If we were flying somewhere for that long, and he did that, I would be a bit bummed but not upset.~ Especially if he was joking about it.~ I know my boyfriend loves me and unless she thought he was gonna do something by himself that she didn't like, I don't see why she's upset?~ Lol, it's just plane flight, it's not like any significant is happening, and like OP said they're gonna be sleep the entire ride!~ I would just use this situation to say if does that then I have to have extra kisses and cuddles the next day.~ You guys are uptight.~

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because you're and idiot basically. What's shitty relationship I'd you dont have a problem like that ...get help ...not a good way to be much husband wouldnt never do that because its f*****g wrong.

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Brenda Swan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce is probably headed their way. Insensitive jerk of a husband. Who needs one of those?

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Sonia Holloway
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm lol over here...so u up graded yo seat without me? OK We arrive where we going.. And here how it goes... Hey luv you want a drink? Him ..yeah can u pay for it? Her sure...she get top shelf ...he get watered down cheap drink. They go out to eat ..what would you like. Her Steak and lobster Him....um..?!? Get to the hotel We over booked we can give you an up grade but it's only for one...Her cool I ll take it He can have the single room. Car to ride in Um can I get a 2 seater drop top he's gonna get that focus lol See how that goes? Or.. She could just shut it down by having a vacation by herself Leave him to fend for himself. She got the cards and money in Her purse 😆...then again. I'm petty like that 🤷🏾‍♀️

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Kristina Cowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he should have 12 hours in the very back and move his wife to the front after something like that, the way he was talking...

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Izabela Wilson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, Pandas... Stop this Reddit fanfics. You're all better than this.

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Dorothy Parker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Husband edited to show he couldn't upgrade her seat. Were I him, I'd have paid to upgrade her seat or share the upgrade, six hours for him then six hours for her, if she's okay with that. But yes, initially total garbage UNLESS he is much taller and bulkier and she is very petite.

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Julie Perkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people comment and don't retain (if they even really read it) what is being said. LOL

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did we REALLY need to scroll past the title to decide yep YTA and also I need the awesome little Negative Nando here cos WE ALL GOTTA CLAP FOR THIS ONE. Jesus.

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Eb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever this kind of story appears I find myself wondering if people discuss what marriage means or think about their wedding vows before they make them.

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that.bitch.mae
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's cool he teased her but idk I don't think he's an a*****e for using *his* points on an upgrade for *him*. Were it me, I'd probably be a little bummed I didn't get to sit with my partner but if we'd be sleeping most or all of the flight, I wouldn't mind as much (but I could be biased cause I have a horrid sleep schedule and 12 hours of sleep sounds like a dream 😍). We'd have the whole trip to be together anyway. But it does definitely depend on the person. If his wife was going to make a big deal about it, I'd definitely think they should've come up with a compromise but I just don't think it's something she should have been upset about in the first place ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but again, depends on the person.

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Yoly M.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t see the big deal here. The wife can’t be alone for a couple of hours? Give me a break! They are his points to use as he pleases and I see nothing wrong with this. She wasn’t born attached to her husband and if anyone’s being selfish, it’s her! People often act like they can’t be separated from their spouses. You don’t have to be attached 24/7.

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Astrol Black
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like if these roles were reversed they'd call him a jealous whiner. It's his points to use as he wants on a TWELVE HOUR trip. Those airline seats are uncomfy, if my girlfriend got the option to sit in a better space with a comfier seat, id suggest she take it and I'm sure she'd feel the same. Yes, it's a twelve hour trip, but like he said, most of it would be sleeping and they would have the WHOLE trip to sit next to eachother if that's what was really important. I feel like she either wanted to be upgraded cuz she was jealous or make him suffer with her, both of which are unfair. 🤦 So petty, this lady and all you guys for agreeing. You're all the real AH's here.

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Dustberry
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my gosh, why are you all so uptight??~ It's a literal 12 hour flight.~ Most of which they'll be sleeping, like OP said!~ I understand that she wants to be with him, I wanna be with my boyfriend all the time, but if it's HIS miles, then he should be able to use them??~ No, I'm not a woman hater, I just think that making mountains outta mole hills wears down on the relationship.~ The money they used to upgrade her seat with his could've been use for something for the both of them to do together!~ It's about compromise, dudes!~ "Okay, so I wanna be with you, but I can't use the miles, and that would cost more money just for us to sleep next to each other like we do EVERY NIGHT, so how about after the plane, we can go to a dinner? Or make up for the lost time with more cuddles, kisses, something?" Everything doesn't have to be a fight, this is why some of you are single, imo.~

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KT
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You realize that the entire conversation you just made up here never happened, right? Dude just straight up decided that he was leaving his wife by herself at the start of their vacation and told her too bad when she was upset about it. I've been married 10 years and that would never fly (pun intended)

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Asswipe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think no one as selfish as this guy would be even married or his wife would be seriously stupid to marry his wallet. More likely: never happened

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Marco Conti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Assuming this is not a fable, no one thought they could switch seats in shifts?

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Random Anon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah he the AH and if the dipshit keeps this up, a divorced AH.

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Sunny Day
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've sorta done similar, traveling with my mom a lotta years ago. We were going to Hawaii. She bought her ticket. I had enough points for a free one. I called to get my ticket but "they only allowed so many free coach tickets per flight, and they were already claimed. But for points + $150 I could get a seat in business class." Oh, heck yeah! Sign me up. It was a straight through flight from St Louis to Honolulu, on a 747. I found my seat in business, while mom went back to coach. A lady sat in the seat next to me, and we were both giggling at the extra room and features. Then just before the doors shut for takeoff, a flight attendant came over to us and said "we overbooked business class" (my stomach sank) "you two - up front" and pointed to first class. cha-CHING! I got to fly first class for 9 hours on a 747, while mom was squashed in coach. And I enjoyed every minute.

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MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Think how uncomfortable your mom must have been being pregnant with you and what a waste it turned out to be.

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Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, the only way you're getting out of this is "I'm too tall to fit in economy, and they only had one business class seat remaining" and even that is a bit iffy

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Angel Brede
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he likes his wife's pretty legs he won't risk varicose veins and possibly a deep vein thrombosis from twelve hours of her not being able to move in economy class. This is where that part in the marriage vows about cherishing one another comes in.

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Nandina
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think you are ever going to recover from this major SNAFU. It's a deal breaker for me. Since you are so selfish, you need to be single.

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Jake Wheeler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not the a_____e. Equality demands you take the upgrade. Giving her the upgrade you delivered would be be pedestal. Wives work these days. Prizes come their way. Should your wife turn over her awards to you? Of course not. Equal means wives are no better than husbands. It doesn't mean she gets to cherry pick when she is and when she isn't better than you. You do half the cleaning right? Half the cooking? Sometimes equality is something you surrender to, sometimes equality is something that must be imposed. No pedestal.

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Kenny De Metter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what I'm thinking : the airline knew he was traveling with his wife. They upgraded his ticket for free, hoping that he would then pay for the upgrade for his wife. It's a sleazy business tactic abusing the relationship between the couple for financial gain. So no, he's not an a*****e, just someone caught in a no-win situation

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Brandon Adams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone even want to be married it just sounds like a trap for men so that the women can b***h in our ear with twice the gusto

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John Arclite
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry i cant side with the wife. she did not cough up the money for business class and after all of this, she did not want to go back to economy class. this is sad. happy trails into ur future, cause this is just the tip of the iceberg.

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Sam Kunz
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Oh please....if it was reversed you'd all be saying "She deserves it" or "Why can't she have some her time" or "He sounds whiny and needy". Just a bunch of man haters. If the wife had done it, it would be ok. Such a double standard

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Night Owl
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm glad for him that he decided to buy her an upgrade to sit next to him, otherwise the 12 hours would offer her a lot time to think about divorce

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Marcellus II
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I also thought "He misspelled his first post, he's clearly asking whether to upgrade his EX-wife or not".

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Joe Reaves
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love how he's like - it literally does not matter. And then when she asks him to change back to economy he's all hell no business class is way better.

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Maggie Hood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It doesn't matter unless he's the one in the comfortable chair. He sounds like a jerk

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Jacqueline Pie Francis
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“But she really wanted to sit next to me, I guess” does NOT show self-awareness, what psychologist was BP talking to. This guy is a tool

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Michelle C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one was hilarious...I think that some people just ask these obviously stupid questions in hopes that the internet would be on their side to justify their bad behavior.

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Imogene Cargeaux
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's literally what AITA is..... but this dude didn't get butthurt when he was found to be the AH... so props to him for that. Most ppl do.

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Iifa A.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Regardless how your holidays goes, please show your WIFE (wow, what an unfortunate fate she had meeting you!) The comments. To the wife: AH do not change, they make empty promises and rethink why are you married to this selfish pig. I showed my partner this, and just speechless both of us. You're going on holiday together but you don't see it as a problem that you don't want to be together. I hope she stays in economy, and meets a proper caring funny guy that in 12 hours of overnight flight ends your marriage. You don't deserve her! It's not a mistake, it's not rude. You're narcissistic selfish pig.

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DrNefariousMcFarious
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would like to add to the question and ask how many are completely made up and looking for controversy

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Otter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He did the right thing, according to the updates. If he'd let her spend the 12 hour flight in a damn uncomfortable economy seat while he slept, she'd spend the whole trip hating him! As it is, they're both comfortable, they're together like she wanted, he's learned a lesson, the marriage is saved, and if that wasn't worth a few bucks I don't know what is.

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J Hunter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said that it didn't make a difference since they'd both be asleep and then said "heck no" when she asked him to switch back. He had more leg room, better service, better food/drink options and possibly a lay flat seat/bed. It would probably be even worse if he left her in a middle seat for that flight. I'm surprised she didn't let him board with his class and then go back home.

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Cindy Caruso
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy needs a lobotomy my goodness. Who the hell thinks like this? Oh yeah a neanderthal.

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Kristina Cowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just imagined a caveman in business class, also he was oogling flight attendants... 🤣

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Tuğçe Aydın
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is he really asking? A grown ass man is really asking this? I pity his wife..

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Ty Robertson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am new to Bored Panda. I read the post re: the husband who upgraded his flight seating from Japan to the U.S. Women need to realize that just because there is supposed to be gender equality does not mean there is. Mothers need to teach their sons to consider female needs and wants as seriously as they consider their own. In this particular situation with the airline seating perhaps the husband in question is Japanese? There are cultural influences there BUT I have know men who were born and raised in the United States and do not want to recognize their narcissistic tendencies either.

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Fight Hypocrites
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll split the difference between you and Gus Gus. It's not just the mother's job to teach her sons to respect women. It's her job AND his father's. But his influence isn't more important than hers, it's just different. The best example for him is to see his father taking his mother's sensibilities into consideration and then to see his mother appreciate and respect that. And then vice versa. The importance of the influence of 2 parents on boys AND girls can't be stressed enough. That's why nature requires a male and female to reproduce. Does that mean that a "bad dad" (or mom) is better than none? Of course not. But just because the phrase "positive role models " sounds trite and overused doesn't mean it's not true.

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Ezra Houssian
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're going to upgrade your ticket on a 12-hour flight at least upgrade both of your tickets or just don't frankly. Stay in economy and get jet lag. I've not been on a 12 hour flight but I have been on a 10 hour flight and I know well enough it can be very tiring.

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Huzzir Zakaria
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In summary his wife is marrying a jerk, an a55h0le! Its either both, or none you dipshit. She has the right to be upset, not only her but me also (and most of us I believes) who r read this! And as an icing on top of the cake (or an a55h0le for this case), you (yes you, the one who dare to called yourself her husband) even hv the audacity to upload this, bringing it to the masses! Gosh, I could n would goes on n on over this - yes, I m that angry, an outsider, imagine how his wife felt by that!

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Babi Lacerda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How he cannot see how AWFUL he is. This girl married a douche

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Ces Co
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this shows you're too young to be married as clearly don't have your priorities straight.

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isa alves
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

he is definitely wrong but I think the people saying they should divorce and calling him all sorts of names is kinda exaggerated, it was an awful mistake, but people don't marry and divorce as if it was just a day by day decision, they should have a very serious talk about respect but I don't think this is a reason to get divorced

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Roju drws
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, they should definitely divorce. He revealed that he only cares about himself.

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Sandy D
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Year, if you can afford a month long trip to the US from Japan, you can afford to pay to upgrade her seat. Taking the upgrade and leaving her in crappy economy was a major dikk move, and he was definitely "TA" in this.

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Katinka Min
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am just going to go and light another candle in thanx for being single.

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James Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He proposed to abandon escort of his wife on an international flight. This guy doesn't even have cognitive empathy.

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Ivana
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, so he really didn't know? I wouldn't want to sit next to him. I would send him to Japan and tell him to never come back. Like, how did he not know? Sounds like it never once crossed his mind to give a damn about his wife.

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Kelly Covey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As a flight attendant, anyone who is in front on an international flight with their spouse (or kids!) In the back is scum. I especially love parents in the front, nanny and kids in the back.

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds to me he is a narcissistic a*****e. He doesnt care about his wife in general. You can tell by his choice of words and mannerism. It's horrible to be married to someone that conceded. I feel bad for his wife. So he is a d**k plain and simple. She had a right to be upset.

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Little Gunner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can't understand why are you even married when you treated her like some girlfriend who you can left away for couple of hours. That's just ignorant, you're her HUSBAND, if you keep treating her like that then I wouldn't be surprised if one day she had an affair with a better dude that cares for women more than you

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you also think this stupid man did the right thing for it's not bug deal etc. You have the same mindset as him and need help just like him. He has no empathy for his own wife. Into himself loves himself more. So I hope she left his ass and he can just go screw himself as well.

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Joan McCreless
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Rat..I would divorce you...a real pussy...if anyone gets a delicacy it should be the woman...you are cut off for life! never carry his child

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Monkey Spunk
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once had the opportunity to upgrade to business flying KL to LHR, there was only one seat though, we discussed and decided we could swap halfway through. By the time we'd decided the seat had gone.

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CatWoman312
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sleeping in economy?! Is that even possible? You’re basically packed in like a sardine and you have to annoy the person next to you if you need to get up. He either needs to let her get the upgrade like a gentleman or wait until he has enough points to upgrade both. He’s being really selfish and I can’t believe he’s so clueless about it

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Edgar Ezife
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow, I read the comments first before reading the story and the way the comments made it look, I thought the hustand did something terrible like cheat on her or physically abuse her or something god awful, but all he did was not sit next to her..? How is that even bad..? Man, what happened to humanity

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Dark Fafnir
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fake...no self respecting Japanese man would not sit by his wife, culturally wouldnt happen...literally you guys pick the weakest stories you can find

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Nashera James
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If there was a layover flight, I hope she used that opportunity to return home and start filing for a divorce. You're arrogant and selfish, I imagine you being even more insensitive in your daily lives. I would leave you, the way you left me in economy but with divorce papers. I hope she leaves you just on principle alone.

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Carl Bailey
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't order steak for yourself and macaroni and cheese for your wife. You just don't do that, even if you don't love her. The sitting apart is different. He could have and should have waited until he had enough credits to buy both of them a luxury seat.

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private8888888888888
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well it also didn't mention the nationality of the wife ? I only ask that because I seen that exact thing many times with a former GM or General Manager ? Where his wife an kids fly coach an he flew 1st class by himself ? In this case it was race an class issues , he was Swiss German an she was a former miss Hawaii Hawaiian chinese dissent ! Well she was like an au pair slash help servant take care of the kids , well he's in 1st class with no care an bother from the kids ? Like are we there yet are we there yet , like any kid's can be asking questions an questions an deal with it like father supposed to do ? But in this case he's VIP 1st class passenger an the wife an kids are the help an entourage or 2nd class passengers ? Nice Right No Not Really but in some culture that is how some People's mentality are conceived it's always about them if they were a true equal couple he would of at least asked before just doing it an then saying what it's only 12 hrs an we be sleeping mostly if

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Stephanie Lopez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

TLDR: COVID, kids & creepers He is SOOOO TA Not one of the replies mentioned that a woman flying in economy seating for 10 hrs means she WILL be sitting next to strangers. Those people have the potential to be : 1-asymptomatic & have COVID 2- annoying AF 3-kids Or 4- a creeper / predator / rapey

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Sabrina Iglesia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so over this crap. Now n days every is so selfish it is always about me no one thinks about the people they so call love. Business upgrade is just for that business when you travel alone that is why you have it only available for you. Not for a family vacation. You are suppose to stick by your wife. He said it himself it is an overnight flight she would be sleeping what female in their right mind would want to sleep alone around strangers while her husband is in Business. Think about safety and comfort. Moron....you lucky she isn't divorcing you right now.

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Carol Sterner
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wouldn’t he be surprised when he got off the plane for his month long vacation to find that his wife ditched him at the departing airport and went home? In a month’s time, she would have “upgraded” her whole life to single, no baggage.

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Clare C
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would happily upgrade to get away from my partner. I would upgrade him and sit the cargo hold if it meant I was not near him.

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B Parker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it was selfish and that his wife was understandably perturbed. He could have kept building flyer mile points and used them at a later date for him and his wife on another over seas flight.

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Carol Schumacher
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is obviously a narcissist. He can't recognize his selfishness or have any feelings for his wife or anyone else. She should run!

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Jennette Natasha
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have let him continued with his plans and he would have been a single man with husband duties once we got off that plain.

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Chas UGC
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the main question is whether he is down with his wife, both literally and figuratively. If he could have steak and his wife could only have water, should he choose steak or water? He chose steak. If his wife is going to suffer, he needs to suffer with her. That is what marriage means. "Together, for better or worse...". He forgot the very first word of what marriage means, she didn't.

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Darlene Fierro
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He's not an a*****e, he's just a inconsiderate jerk. He's 25 and got offered an upgrade. He thought it was his lucky day....until he told his wife.😂 I'm on the fence bc if I were her I'd want to sit next to my spouse BUT they were coming from Japan to spend a month in the U.S. I'd have saved that little payback in my pocket ready to pull out at the right moment. Bc with this hubby I'm sure there will be more head shakers.

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Sarah Holt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im pretty sure if I were her I would be happy to upgrade to a better husband.

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Chelsie Godreau
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe he is a sociopath and only imitates "feelings" but really doesn't understand them. Something to speculate.

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Roju drws
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this guy serious? How does he not see how horrible he is to his wife? She didnt care what seat she was in as long as she was with him and he completely disrespected her

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Cheyenne
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your wife should have divorced you on the spot, you inconsiderate b@stard.

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Ronnie Wolfe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey look young man. She's gonna leave you someday. You think you own her. You don't. You should have stayed with her. You gonna learn someday.

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Syringa Wessels
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“it’s an overnight anyway” so just get 2 economy seats of your just gonna be sleeping, save the miles and use them when you have enough for both of you

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Maggie Hood
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn he was being so mean for no reason. His wife just wanted to sit next to him and he ditched her and then when she got upset (understandably) he went to the internet to ask if he was in the wrong instead of discussing it with her? Tf is wrong with this guy

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Jeanine Kitrell
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why not split the time in business and economy in half for the two of you since you both will be sleeping anyway. You get six hours in business class and your wife gets to enjoy six hours in business class. Each of you get six hours each in economy. Nothing wrong with sharing if indeed you are sleeping.

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Seb Benson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the "Oops I really should have done that differently" Award goes to...... OP!!!

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Jennifer Weeks
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She needs to divorce him now. He will not change. He will only get worse. The problem is he doesn't see what is wrong with his decision. Get rid of him now.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jennifer Weeks, I read to the end. He admitted he was an a*****e and he bought her an upgrade to business class so that she could sit next to him. It's your prerogative to get divorced for any reason you want, but divorce is very hard on a lot of people. Atonement is easier.

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I just work here
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, you are a total AH! If I were the wife, I wouldn't even go with you.

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Lindy Mac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is worse than an ahole..... unbelievably selfish. I don't see this marriage lasting as he doesn't value his wife's comfort... 12 hours is a long time for him to be enjoying better meals, better bathroom, wider seat... while she is stuck in coach? Creep!!!

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P.A.B.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said he didn’t think it mattered, but he KNEW it mattered, or he would have told her ahead of time. A** wipe.

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LSR
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see the amount of f u c k o s who need to grow a pair of balls is rising in this world.

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Kim Lorton
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He is the worst. Discounts not only her as a person, but as his life partner. I would not be going in economy. I would cancel that ticket and get a first class one by myself. Explain to the ticket lady what’s happened, and ask her for any decrease in price they coOld give me.

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Andy Hinds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope she finds someone else who values her whilst he's in comfort on the "only 12 hour flight". What a k******d.

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Beli Bel
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The wife needs to get over it, You see him everyday and you going on vacation for a month that he probably paid for... Don't be so selfish and give him the time he needs, Is not like his cheating on you... Get over it

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She is a lot nicer than I would have been. You either upgrade me as well or you can trade seats and see just how much it matters. The fact she was willing to still sit with him should tell him what a gem he has and ship up before she ships out.

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Gus Fring
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can anyone here honestly say they’d have the same response to this if the genders were reversed. I doubt it. Women get away with similar behavior all the time, and it would be considered “putting herself first” at worst. For at the talk of equality and assertiveness, it’s really pretty clear that that only applies when the situation benefits one gender over the other.

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xvslnx
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“In a teasing joking way”….ohhhhh how I hate it when someone talks like that to me… By the time he finished his sentence, he would have already lost some teeth. Piece of $h!t!!!

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Savannah Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imagine encouraging childish whining. She would have been just fine on her own she is a grown ass woman.

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Savannah Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its not even that serious. She could have sat in economy. What an entitled b***h.

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Ronald Breedlove
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel that it was childish he thought of himself, and not his wife . Very inconsiderate.

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Kimber Pepper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Having made that Japan-US-Japan flight on numerous occasions and in economy class, I can tell you it's very uncomfortable and difficult to get any rest. Traveling tandem is helpful in small ways as you look out for each other. Lucky him to have the option of a bump up, but unless the miles were about to expire, he should have saved them for another flight. Also, perks aren't usually transferable. Wouldn't be surprised if they both will be ready to end their month long vacation early. His natural impulse was neither gallant nor gentlemanly.

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Beverly Montezuma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HE'D BE ONE SORRY HUSBAND, IF HE PULLED THAT STUNT WITH ME! FIRST OF ALL, WHAT HE DID WAS RUDE!

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Dennys Tran
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I see all these comments and I wonder if it will flow the same way if the positions were switched.

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Amanda Castillanes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It was documented at "young peoples brains aren't fully developed till they are 25." His still has till he hits 26.

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Rody Speake
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This guy is a d**k... No more needs to be said or debated or look for a reason why...plain & simple he's an absolute d**k

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Kala L Gibson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he's that selfish now and only thinking of himself at this age it will only get worse later. I hope his consideration for others will come naturally in the future, specifically for his WIFE!

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Ahmad Shazli
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Such opportunities have arisen several times. I would never allow myself to be upgraded without her. I would rather upgrade her then myself, which I have done before.

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private8888888888888
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also if you see the picture of what's business class ? I don't think she wanted that upgrade anyway ? Your social distance away you can't hold hands even if you wanted to ? I don't think that's what wanted anyway you're not near by , you are in a cubicle by yourself ? Unless that's what you had in mind ? Maybe you don't like public show of affections is she too clingy for you ? Than that may make some sense ?

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private8888888888888
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

An I think she just wanted to be near each other an possibility hold hands I would take some comfort just spending time near by each other as well ? If you really care about her rather than your own personal comfort , take comfort in each other's warmth an wellbeing ?

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Zeshan Bashir
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If It was I and my Wife, I would have upgraded and let my wife sit in business class. I bet you my wife would have not even wanted an upgrade if I was not able to sit with her. I really think the husband should have either upgraded the seat for both or would have just sat with his wife. Tells alot how much he loves his wife lolz.

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George Andrews
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don’t know if the offender was Japanese or American. It makes a huge difference as Japan has very different traditions in dealing with women and females. In any case, he is a selfish,narcistic,self absorbed jerk. The hole post is vomit inducing. Run lady run!!

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Chris P
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you haven't figured out by the time you're married that you should consider the thoughts feelings and needs of your partner in most everything you do, then you should not be married.

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Chris P
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Honestly if you don't know by the time you're married that you should be considering the feelings thoughts and needs of your partner in most anything you do then you shouldn't be getting married. It's common sense.

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Mark Correia
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dont believe any of the AITA posts. They're just too convenient.

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Edward Myers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have a word for people like YTA, divorced! What an asswipe.

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Ghost Casper
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can see where she would be upset she's your wife not a girlfriend however she vowed to stay with you through better or worse well your getting the better and she's getting the worse this time at least. Next flight surprise her with first class and you sit in coach let her know you are willing to go through the same situation as she did but try not to put yourself ahead of her because women don't think the same way as men something so small to a man is so big to a woman it's not worth hurting her and will save you years of having to hear about it cause I guarantee you in 20 years and every year till then this is going to be brought up at least until she feels you made things right. Wish the both of you the best.

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john kavanagh
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some men have irritating wives and some wives have irritating husbands. It isn't for us to judge or understand. I certainly would not write about it on the internet.

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Stephanie Day
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think if I were in her husband's shoes, I wouldve saved those miles and used the upgrade to business first class on an actual business trip where I needed to impress either clients or colleagues that might also have that upgrade and expect me to have it as well. To waste the miles & the upgrade on a vacation doesnt sound very business savy....

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Diablo Rises
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Seriously tho, what is the big deal? It is a plane ride ffs. It isn't like they are on separate planes.

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Latrina Harrington-Hall
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope the husband is reading all these comments. If he don't feel as anything was wrong with what he said or did then he will never respect and view marriage the way he should nor will he ever change him.

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Francesca Miller
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow...you're really not too bright dude to see the problem with this....what if your wife met a gorgeous hunk and even though this was an overnight flight stayed up all night chatting it up with this gorgeous hunk in economy class?? I bet you'd want her sitting next to you then. 😏 🤣🤣

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Iris Ma
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean I wouldn't turn down a free business class seat I just think the main problem was the lack of communication and getting the wife's opinion first and then deciding not to switch would have solved it.

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Anita Smith
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People these days have a bad habit of not putting themselves in their spouse’s position before they do something like this or worse! We all make mistakes. If this is just a one off, and not just one of many self serving decisions he’s made, then hopefully time will heal this situation, but if it’s a regular thing that he acts with no regard to her feelings then I’d say they are gonna have some major problems by the time it’s all said and done!

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Mike Cape
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow Japan really has 1st world problems in the 21st century a far cry from the land behind the rising sun...heres my advise when you land in LA book an excursion to Las Vages. There you can get a a quickie divorce, find a new wife and get remarried to a woman happy to travel in the luggage compartment all within a span of 12 hours.

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Pascal
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just a comment to people here saying this story is not believable... we're talking about a Japanese couple. Unfortunately I stayed in Japan long enough to see this kind of story happening all the time. The culture there, is very different and marriage is not the same concept as in western countries. At least for the majority of people in Japan, sad for us but true for them.

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alyssa cortese
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How do I get stupid s**t like this posted with a ton of views.... hahah. I'm sorry but this is ridiculous.. like really? WHO REALLY CARES?!

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Tamara Montanya
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol. This would not bother me at all. My husband is twice my size and we are both introverts that like to do our own things. Why should both be uncomfortable when one can have and needs more room especially if most of the flight both are sleeping? I think the wife is being whiny, selfish , and needy. Geeze if you can't spend 12 hours without your spouse. Also they could have traded half way through the flight. What's the big deal?

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Alex Sol
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what his reaction would have been if his wife had decided to cash in miles for a limited time weekend getaway offer to go to Vegas and watch a Chippendales show while he was recovering in the hospital after penis reattachment surgery due to his upgrading just himself to business class. After all, he would mostly be sleeping as part of his recovery. What would be the big deal?

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Michael ONeale
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you're sayin he should be physically assaulted for the simple crime of being a self-absorbed douche?

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J. Ezra Marshall
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What do you think her reaction would be if you had upgraded hers and not yours?

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Dustberry
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm in a completely wonderful relationship right now with my boyfriend. If we were flying somewhere for that long, and he did that, I would be a bit bummed but not upset.~ Especially if he was joking about it.~ I know my boyfriend loves me and unless she thought he was gonna do something by himself that she didn't like, I don't see why she's upset?~ Lol, it's just plane flight, it's not like any significant is happening, and like OP said they're gonna be sleep the entire ride!~ I would just use this situation to say if does that then I have to have extra kisses and cuddles the next day.~ You guys are uptight.~

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Miss Grim
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because you're and idiot basically. What's shitty relationship I'd you dont have a problem like that ...get help ...not a good way to be much husband wouldnt never do that because its f*****g wrong.

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Brenda Swan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Divorce is probably headed their way. Insensitive jerk of a husband. Who needs one of those?

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Sonia Holloway
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm lol over here...so u up graded yo seat without me? OK We arrive where we going.. And here how it goes... Hey luv you want a drink? Him ..yeah can u pay for it? Her sure...she get top shelf ...he get watered down cheap drink. They go out to eat ..what would you like. Her Steak and lobster Him....um..?!? Get to the hotel We over booked we can give you an up grade but it's only for one...Her cool I ll take it He can have the single room. Car to ride in Um can I get a 2 seater drop top he's gonna get that focus lol See how that goes? Or.. She could just shut it down by having a vacation by herself Leave him to fend for himself. She got the cards and money in Her purse 😆...then again. I'm petty like that 🤷🏾‍♀️

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Kristina Cowan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he should have 12 hours in the very back and move his wife to the front after something like that, the way he was talking...

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Izabela Wilson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Please, Pandas... Stop this Reddit fanfics. You're all better than this.

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Dorothy Parker
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Husband edited to show he couldn't upgrade her seat. Were I him, I'd have paid to upgrade her seat or share the upgrade, six hours for him then six hours for her, if she's okay with that. But yes, initially total garbage UNLESS he is much taller and bulkier and she is very petite.

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Julie Perkins
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people comment and don't retain (if they even really read it) what is being said. LOL

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Did we REALLY need to scroll past the title to decide yep YTA and also I need the awesome little Negative Nando here cos WE ALL GOTTA CLAP FOR THIS ONE. Jesus.

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Eb
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever this kind of story appears I find myself wondering if people discuss what marriage means or think about their wedding vows before they make them.

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that.bitch.mae
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think it's cool he teased her but idk I don't think he's an a*****e for using *his* points on an upgrade for *him*. Were it me, I'd probably be a little bummed I didn't get to sit with my partner but if we'd be sleeping most or all of the flight, I wouldn't mind as much (but I could be biased cause I have a horrid sleep schedule and 12 hours of sleep sounds like a dream 😍). We'd have the whole trip to be together anyway. But it does definitely depend on the person. If his wife was going to make a big deal about it, I'd definitely think they should've come up with a compromise but I just don't think it's something she should have been upset about in the first place ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but again, depends on the person.

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Yoly M.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t see the big deal here. The wife can’t be alone for a couple of hours? Give me a break! They are his points to use as he pleases and I see nothing wrong with this. She wasn’t born attached to her husband and if anyone’s being selfish, it’s her! People often act like they can’t be separated from their spouses. You don’t have to be attached 24/7.

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Astrol Black
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like if these roles were reversed they'd call him a jealous whiner. It's his points to use as he wants on a TWELVE HOUR trip. Those airline seats are uncomfy, if my girlfriend got the option to sit in a better space with a comfier seat, id suggest she take it and I'm sure she'd feel the same. Yes, it's a twelve hour trip, but like he said, most of it would be sleeping and they would have the WHOLE trip to sit next to eachother if that's what was really important. I feel like she either wanted to be upgraded cuz she was jealous or make him suffer with her, both of which are unfair. 🤦 So petty, this lady and all you guys for agreeing. You're all the real AH's here.

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Dustberry
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my gosh, why are you all so uptight??~ It's a literal 12 hour flight.~ Most of which they'll be sleeping, like OP said!~ I understand that she wants to be with him, I wanna be with my boyfriend all the time, but if it's HIS miles, then he should be able to use them??~ No, I'm not a woman hater, I just think that making mountains outta mole hills wears down on the relationship.~ The money they used to upgrade her seat with his could've been use for something for the both of them to do together!~ It's about compromise, dudes!~ "Okay, so I wanna be with you, but I can't use the miles, and that would cost more money just for us to sleep next to each other like we do EVERY NIGHT, so how about after the plane, we can go to a dinner? Or make up for the lost time with more cuddles, kisses, something?" Everything doesn't have to be a fight, this is why some of you are single, imo.~

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KT
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You realize that the entire conversation you just made up here never happened, right? Dude just straight up decided that he was leaving his wife by herself at the start of their vacation and told her too bad when she was upset about it. I've been married 10 years and that would never fly (pun intended)

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Asswipe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think no one as selfish as this guy would be even married or his wife would be seriously stupid to marry his wallet. More likely: never happened

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Marco Conti
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Assuming this is not a fable, no one thought they could switch seats in shifts?

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Random Anon
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah he the AH and if the dipshit keeps this up, a divorced AH.

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Sunny Day
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've sorta done similar, traveling with my mom a lotta years ago. We were going to Hawaii. She bought her ticket. I had enough points for a free one. I called to get my ticket but "they only allowed so many free coach tickets per flight, and they were already claimed. But for points + $150 I could get a seat in business class." Oh, heck yeah! Sign me up. It was a straight through flight from St Louis to Honolulu, on a 747. I found my seat in business, while mom went back to coach. A lady sat in the seat next to me, and we were both giggling at the extra room and features. Then just before the doors shut for takeoff, a flight attendant came over to us and said "we overbooked business class" (my stomach sank) "you two - up front" and pointed to first class. cha-CHING! I got to fly first class for 9 hours on a 747, while mom was squashed in coach. And I enjoyed every minute.

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MagNat
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Think how uncomfortable your mom must have been being pregnant with you and what a waste it turned out to be.

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Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, the only way you're getting out of this is "I'm too tall to fit in economy, and they only had one business class seat remaining" and even that is a bit iffy

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Angel Brede
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he likes his wife's pretty legs he won't risk varicose veins and possibly a deep vein thrombosis from twelve hours of her not being able to move in economy class. This is where that part in the marriage vows about cherishing one another comes in.

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Nandina
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think you are ever going to recover from this major SNAFU. It's a deal breaker for me. Since you are so selfish, you need to be single.

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Jake Wheeler
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are not the a_____e. Equality demands you take the upgrade. Giving her the upgrade you delivered would be be pedestal. Wives work these days. Prizes come their way. Should your wife turn over her awards to you? Of course not. Equal means wives are no better than husbands. It doesn't mean she gets to cherry pick when she is and when she isn't better than you. You do half the cleaning right? Half the cooking? Sometimes equality is something you surrender to, sometimes equality is something that must be imposed. No pedestal.

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Kenny De Metter
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Here's what I'm thinking : the airline knew he was traveling with his wife. They upgraded his ticket for free, hoping that he would then pay for the upgrade for his wife. It's a sleazy business tactic abusing the relationship between the couple for financial gain. So no, he's not an a*****e, just someone caught in a no-win situation

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Brandon Adams
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would anyone even want to be married it just sounds like a trap for men so that the women can b***h in our ear with twice the gusto

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John Arclite
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

sorry i cant side with the wife. she did not cough up the money for business class and after all of this, she did not want to go back to economy class. this is sad. happy trails into ur future, cause this is just the tip of the iceberg.

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Sam Kunz
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2 years ago

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Oh please....if it was reversed you'd all be saying "She deserves it" or "Why can't she have some her time" or "He sounds whiny and needy". Just a bunch of man haters. If the wife had done it, it would be ok. Such a double standard

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