Husband Sells His Wife’s Antique Tea Set For $300, Justifying He Needed The Money For His Nephew, She Sells His Xbox To Buy It Back
Trust is an essential ingredient in building and maintaining a healthy marriage. Without it, the quality of a relationship deteriorates and problems start compounding fast.
So when Redditor u/__HeavenlyPeace399 learned that her husband went behind her back and secretly sold her family’s antique tea set, she was very disappointed.
In the man’s eyes, he did it for a noble cause — to reward his nephew for beating cancer with something the boy wanted for a long time. A gaming chair. But his wife didn’t see it that way.
She felt like she’d lost her priceless heirloom over a promise she didn’t even make. So the woman decided to buy it back with her husband’s Xbox. But when everything was said and done, she started having doubts about whether or not that was appropriate.
Eventually, she turned to Reddit to tell her story and ask what other users think about it. Here’s what she wrote.
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Experts say that trust in an intimate relationship is rooted in feeling safe with another person. Infidelity, lies, and broken promises can severely damage the way partners see each other. That, however, does not necessarily mean that situations like this one can’t be solved and a marriage can’t be salvaged.
Although rebuilding trust can be challenging when there is a significant breach, it is, in fact, possible if both partners commit to the process.
Of course, it takes much time and effort to re-establish the sense of safety a person needs for a marriage to thrive and continue to grow. Recovery from the trauma caused by a break in trust is where many couples get stuck.
According to research, couples must address the following five points in order to effectively move forward:
- Knowing the details;
- Releasing the anger;
- Showing commitment;
- Rebuilding trust;
- Rebuilding the relationship.
Whether you were the offending partner or the betrayed, to rebuild the trust in your marriage, both of you must renew your commitment to your marriage and to one another. Visit Verywell Mind to read more on each of these steps.
People think this conflict could be a sign of a bigger marital problem
Wow, I couldn't believe there were ESH on that one. Dude stole from her, period. He's the asshole. She got her property back and he lost some of his BECAUSE he stole from her. They can work through this maybe, but this relationship has issues.
Agreed. I think if the genders were reversed, and she had, without his knowledge or permission, sold an expensive lighter or pocketknife that was gifted to the husband by a dead grandfather to get her niece a makeup set or something, those ESH's would be STRONG YTA's!!
You nailed it Aria, my Wife and I had a conversation after reading this. If I took her jewelry that isn’t worth much but priceless to her she would kill me in my sleep. If she sold the rifle my Father and I grew shooting I would go crazy.
what does ESH stand for?
Everyone Sucks Here. Basically everyone involved has some share of the a-hole.
Me either. She didn't sell the XBox for revenge; she sold it to buy back something priceless that couldn't be replaced. And if I had been the buyer, I wouldn't have charged her a premium.
Thank you for saying this so I didn't have to, because I'm low-key ashamed at how triggered I was by people blaming her. Like wtf??
Totally agree with you, why does she suck? He should have sold his Xbox not her stuff. If they divorce ( which they will), why should she be without her family heirloom for his nephews computer chair
Agreed, sometimes the only way to get through to someone that they are being an idiot is to turn their actions back on them. I had to do this with my father a few times growing up. The one I remember the most is I'd empty the egg carton when making eggs, cook my eggs and sit down to eat, leaving the egg carton on the counter to take out after I finished eating. While I was eating my father would come into the kitchen see the carton then get mad because I didn't let my eggs get cold while I ran it out to the green bin. It wasn't until I caught him with the carton the counter while he was eating and asked why he didn't run it out to the bin, that he realized how much of an AH he was being.
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I think ESH, because while the husband is an asshole, her reaction is just as shitty.
no way. she was just getting back what was hers.
Her property and her pride. She wasn’t getting back. That’s a true entitlement
Her husband stole from her. She had every right to do what she did.
also an xbox can b replaced the tea set cannot
Yup. And that's the crux of the matter.
the husband stole something that was more valuable then money and he acted like she stole his soul. not only that he basically said to her face she doesnt bring him joy. he literally said she took away the ONE thing that brought him happiness. so wat does that make his wife? chopped liver? he literally loved the xbox more then her. not only that he didnt need an xbox he needed a 2nd job. that tea set was her grandmothers not something she bought. the tea set was priceless the xbox was not. honestly if they r short on money i dont think having an xbox is a good idea bc that just means the husband will spend money on games instead of things they need considering how attatched he was to it. she got rid of a problem honestly
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No matter how many downvotes it’s still a first world problem. I’m sure a lot of people have had to sell everything precious to them before they we’re living on the street. I wasn’t degrading her situation.
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First world problems. My tea set My video games She’s mean He’s mean.
So you're telling me your husband could have sold his x box and bought the chair himself, but instead decided you should sacrifice your stuff for it? Your husband is selfish and definitely the asshole here. Also when if you let it slide I doubt and I mean highly doubt you'd ever see that modern tea set he "promised"
That's what I was thinking. Maybe he thought she'd eventually forget about getting a new tea set. Or it would never really be possible because they can never really save up for anything. Hence why he also chose something of hers that he prob felt wouldn't really be missed. Maybe.
I have to wonder what property of hers he would sell in order to keep his promise to get her a new tea set.
Nope sorry, your hubby is the asshole. He showed a complete lack of disrespect to you by selling it, especially without asking you. Then him not respecting how much it means to you and that a new tea set is not the same and gets pissy with you for selling his xbox to get it back. If he didn't sell it in the first place then he would still have his xbox. It's his own fault.
100% asshole
And overall not the best relationship, when they don't talk to each other and figure out solutions together.
Wow, I couldn't believe there were ESH on that one. Dude stole from her, period. He's the asshole. She got her property back and he lost some of his BECAUSE he stole from her. They can work through this maybe, but this relationship has issues.
Agreed. I think if the genders were reversed, and she had, without his knowledge or permission, sold an expensive lighter or pocketknife that was gifted to the husband by a dead grandfather to get her niece a makeup set or something, those ESH's would be STRONG YTA's!!
You nailed it Aria, my Wife and I had a conversation after reading this. If I took her jewelry that isn’t worth much but priceless to her she would kill me in my sleep. If she sold the rifle my Father and I grew shooting I would go crazy.
what does ESH stand for?
Everyone Sucks Here. Basically everyone involved has some share of the a-hole.
Me either. She didn't sell the XBox for revenge; she sold it to buy back something priceless that couldn't be replaced. And if I had been the buyer, I wouldn't have charged her a premium.
Thank you for saying this so I didn't have to, because I'm low-key ashamed at how triggered I was by people blaming her. Like wtf??
Totally agree with you, why does she suck? He should have sold his Xbox not her stuff. If they divorce ( which they will), why should she be without her family heirloom for his nephews computer chair
Agreed, sometimes the only way to get through to someone that they are being an idiot is to turn their actions back on them. I had to do this with my father a few times growing up. The one I remember the most is I'd empty the egg carton when making eggs, cook my eggs and sit down to eat, leaving the egg carton on the counter to take out after I finished eating. While I was eating my father would come into the kitchen see the carton then get mad because I didn't let my eggs get cold while I ran it out to the green bin. It wasn't until I caught him with the carton the counter while he was eating and asked why he didn't run it out to the bin, that he realized how much of an AH he was being.
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I think ESH, because while the husband is an asshole, her reaction is just as shitty.
no way. she was just getting back what was hers.
Her property and her pride. She wasn’t getting back. That’s a true entitlement
Her husband stole from her. She had every right to do what she did.
also an xbox can b replaced the tea set cannot
Yup. And that's the crux of the matter.
the husband stole something that was more valuable then money and he acted like she stole his soul. not only that he basically said to her face she doesnt bring him joy. he literally said she took away the ONE thing that brought him happiness. so wat does that make his wife? chopped liver? he literally loved the xbox more then her. not only that he didnt need an xbox he needed a 2nd job. that tea set was her grandmothers not something she bought. the tea set was priceless the xbox was not. honestly if they r short on money i dont think having an xbox is a good idea bc that just means the husband will spend money on games instead of things they need considering how attatched he was to it. she got rid of a problem honestly
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No matter how many downvotes it’s still a first world problem. I’m sure a lot of people have had to sell everything precious to them before they we’re living on the street. I wasn’t degrading her situation.
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First world problems. My tea set My video games She’s mean He’s mean.
So you're telling me your husband could have sold his x box and bought the chair himself, but instead decided you should sacrifice your stuff for it? Your husband is selfish and definitely the asshole here. Also when if you let it slide I doubt and I mean highly doubt you'd ever see that modern tea set he "promised"
That's what I was thinking. Maybe he thought she'd eventually forget about getting a new tea set. Or it would never really be possible because they can never really save up for anything. Hence why he also chose something of hers that he prob felt wouldn't really be missed. Maybe.
I have to wonder what property of hers he would sell in order to keep his promise to get her a new tea set.
Nope sorry, your hubby is the asshole. He showed a complete lack of disrespect to you by selling it, especially without asking you. Then him not respecting how much it means to you and that a new tea set is not the same and gets pissy with you for selling his xbox to get it back. If he didn't sell it in the first place then he would still have his xbox. It's his own fault.
100% asshole
And overall not the best relationship, when they don't talk to each other and figure out solutions together.